Sarah Jessica Parker wants to make sure Hollywood women don’t ‘disregard men’

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Sarah Jessica Parker has always annoyed me. In the past, I’ve had some moments where I’ll give her a chance, but honestly, everything that went down with Kim Cattrall left a really bad taste in my mouth with all things SJP. I’m not, like, declaring her “cancelled” or anything – I know some of you still like her, and that’s your prerogative. But I’m out of sympathy for her, and I’m just done with giving her the benefit of the doubt about anything. So with that in mind, imagine my thoughts on SJP making the f–king argument that women shouldn’t get too wrapped up with telling their stories in Hollywood and forget about all of those poor men. Sarah Jessica… this is not the conversation.

Sarah Jessica Parker warns not to lose sight of other important stories in the midst of a push to support female storytellers. The actress and producer spoke to PEOPLE at Chanel’s annual Women’s Filmmaker Luncheon during the Tribeca Film Festival on Friday about including men in the stories being told by filmmaker. Parker says that her goal is to tell all important stories via her production banner Pretty Matches Productions — the company behind her HBO show Divorce, which just concluded its second season.

“I don’t want to disregard men — there are really critical, important men in our industry as there are across all industries,” Parker, 53, said. “We’ve always functioned as a majority female production company. We’re excited about female stories and storytellers, directors, producers, writers, sound mixers, production designers, editors.”

She continued, “But I think the place we want to get is to where all stories are important and being told, and men are included in those stories. Men play a role in our lives so if we isolate too much, we’re gonna be missing out on interesting and complex stories. I think it’s just finding ways of moving a pipeline towards job opportunities for women of all backgrounds and colors.”

The actress was recently vocal about the need for men to be involved in the women’s movement when she recalled a bad experience on set when she was young. Parker said her agent supported her in a time where women were often at the mercy of the often male directors and executives.

“My agent [CAA’s Kevin Huvane] sent a car and a plane ticket [to the film set] and he said, ‘If anybody makes you do anything that you’re not comfortable doing, you don’t.’ Given what’s happening now and the stories told from that particular period, I know how lucky I am that there was someone — in this case, a man — who stepped in,” she recalled to PEOPLE for her February cover story.

[From People]

Before I get to Pollyanna Parker’s thoughts on the need to NOT FORGET MEN, let me take a moment to wonder why she’s making such a point to carry water for CAA and Kevin Huvane. Huvane is one of the most powerful agents in Hollywood and he’s the managing partner of CAA. He specializes in A-list white actresses like SJP, Anne Hathaway, Julia Roberts and Meryl Streep. Huvane has also been singled out time and time again in the conversations about CAA acting as middlemen pimps, providing young actresses to Harvey Weinstein by setting up meetings in Weinstein’s hotel rooms around the world. I’m sure Huvane did send a plane ticket to SJP. But how many young actresses did he NOT protect?

As for what she says about needing to protect the oh-so-vital stories for men… literally no one has argued that we need to do away with stories about men. No one has argued that because we know it’s impossible. There will always be stories about Men Doing Things. There will always be lead roles for white dudes of varying talents. The arguments being made are “we need more female storytellers, we need to tell more stories about women at every level.” What is wrong with Sarah Jessica?

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  1. Catwoman says:

    Never got her appeal. Ugly AF inside and out.

  2. Mabs A'Mabbin says:

    I’m going to puke.

    Wait…Not forget men??? Not forget MEN??? How in the frakking world is anyone anywhere capable of forgetting about men? And she’s saying this at a luncheon celebrating women? Okay, I did kinda like her, but she’s a tool.

  3. Lela says:

    Well she’s cancelled for me! Women have been disregarded since the beginning of time, it is OUR F-CKING TIME TO BE HEARD and men can take a huge ass step to the back and LISTEN. I just can’t, and to think she’s raising 2 daughters of her own.

  4. minx says:

    Yes, please think of the poor men! 🙄

  5. Digital Unicorn says:

    Never understood why people like her, she’s never been a nice person and has always had a hard/mean vibe about her. She really Is just like Carrie, totally clueless.

    • Milla says:

      Unlike Carrie, sjp is real person and that crap she just pulled will make dailyfail readers very happy.

      That’s the problem with Hollywood people. They get too much attention and they become relevant. Based on a role, not because they are actually promoting anything but themselves. Not many use popularity for good

  6. Jess says:

    Yea, I used to love her (from Square Pegs through SATC) but she’s really annoying me lately. I’m Team Kim and then this kind of concern for men – when there’s absolutely zero risk that men’s stories won’t be told – is BS. And it’s red meat for the people who love to tell me that the ones they feel bad for these days are white men. That drives me nuts and as soon as I reply with a few points they drop it, but I still hear it, almost always from old white women. Many of us (including me at 44) are so conditioned to prioritize men’s needs and wants above our own and I really hope my daughter doesn’t get that conditioning (I’m fighting my tendencies that way so hopefully she doesn’t learn it at home).

  7. Betsy says:

    I did used to like her, I did. I thought Carrie Bradshaw was a problematic and annoying character, but I assumed the character was separate from the actress. But this is just beyond the pale. No one’s going to forget the men. No one’s going to leave the men behind. No one doesn’t appreciate the men who are aware.

    Shout out to my husband’s boss, “Steve.”: my husband’s colleague was doing a major expansion of his team and Steve asked colleague how many women had applied. Colleague said none. Steve asked him why and colleague said he didn’t know. Steve told him to rewrite the job listing and not interview until he had 50% representation of women in the candidate pool, that he’s serious about having women on the team. I love the bro smackdown story SO MUCH and wish the SJP could look past her nose once or twice.

  8. Mimi says:

    Kevin Huvane is shady as hell. So he & SJP are a good match.

  9. Toc says:

    Never got why she is such a sucess. Sex and City was boring and the only interesting character was the one played by Kim Catrall.

  10. ValiantlyVarnished says:

    You know, I was a fan of SJP’s back in the SAtC days. My Mom has always hated her. She used to say that something about her was “off”. And one thing I have learned over many years is that my Mom is usually right about these things. SJP sounds like one of those 53% of white women who voted for Trump and are so worried about the state of white men in America. White men will be FINE. White men stay winning. The more SJP talks the more I see exactly what Kim cattrall probably saw when they worked together. But honestly does this surprise me? No. Because if you look back at old interviews and the way SJP talks about her husband, girlfriend has a LOT of internalized misogyny she’s walking around with.

  11. Ann says:

    Why do some women have to be such overeager doormats for men??

  12. hmmm says:

    Yeah, like that’s a worry.

  13. lucy2 says:

    If my agent sent me to a film set with an escape plan, I’d wonder what they hell they signed me up for.

    I’ve yet to see anyone, anywhere, say all stories going forward should be about women, no more men. All anyone is asking for is equality – for half the population to be represented fairly.
    I don’t know where she, or others like her, get this “don’t forget the men!” mentality, but it’s a tactic I see used by people I don’t really care for – pushing things to the extreme, well beyond what a movement wants, to try to defend an antiquated or biased opinion.

  14. Adele Dazeem says:

    Great, just what we need. Another anti-women woman. I swear there are a TON of those in her age range—competitive and mean with other women and when in doubt, blame the woman in the situation. Sooooo loyal to the men. I see a LOT of women just like her out in the suburbs. Educated, appear to be otherwise enlightened…but not really. We all know who a big chunk of those white middle aged women in the suburbs voted for….
    Just saying.

    • Alisha says:

      @Adele Dazeem – I believe a lot of those women are that way because of the “fighting for my slice of pie” mentality. I am having a hard time articulating my thoughts in English but what I am trying to say is that I think because women have had to fight for fewer positions available to them for so long, there is an ingrained competitiveness in many of us. There is the belief of the need to uphold the status quo and throw other women under the bus so they can get ahead. I have witnessed this is my own workplace for example. I hope that makes sense. I think things are changing but more slowly than it should.

    • Kitten says:

      I went to high school with some of the women you are describing here. I would say half of them went to college then moved back to my hometown and got married, had kids. The other half skipped college and went into a trade, and set up shop in my hometown. Most are very ignorant about politics.

      I know people are talking about it on another thread today but I didn’t want to intervene because the exchange was so interesting. But yes, racial animus and xenophobia are the primary reasons why Trump won. The economic anxiety narrative that was so widely embraced by journalists and Berniecrats alike was total BS, which is why the majority of poor folks voted for Clinton.

      The thing is, if you asked any of these people if they are racist they would get crazy-offended and insist that they’re not. They don’t think they’re racist because they don’t consciously want to harm people of color. But these are the same white women who would call the cops if they saw a PoC on their street. They don’t think that’s racist though–just “playing it safe”.

      Sorry for rambling off-topic but this is something that’s really been weighing on me lately: how do we get racist whites to change if they don’t even think they’re racist? I think they need to start by understanding that holding/perpetuating racial biases, making assumptions based on race, or supporting/celebrating racist institutions (like law enforcement) means that you are a racist, or at the very least that you are prone to racism.

      • Mabs A'Mabbin says:

        Children. Not to sound like a Whitney song, but yeah, they’re our future. That’s how we get past people who don’t think they’re racist. It’s still going to be slow because those oblivious racists have kids too, but schools are getting better. When my oldest and middle children get with their groups to go out or hang or whatever, it’s hard to determine predominance of any race. Mine are usually the minority, but it’s a cornicopia of gene pools, and I love it. They all rib each other but are so close and literally come from all over the planet. They are what I look forward to. All colors. All races. Love and respect. Seems so simple.

      • minx says:

        Mabs, I agree. I see it with my kids and their friends and the way race and sexual orientation is just no big deal to them.

      • Esmom says:

        Kitten, I’ve been thinking about this a lot, too. Both in the context of the 2016 election and beyond. Unfortunately I feel like the right wing propaganda machine has conditioned these folks into believing they’re not racist — people saying “I don’t see color” but then screaming “all lives matter” — along with believing they’re victims of “reverse racism.” I honestly don’t know how to combat such powerful media forces.

        Mabs and minx, I’m a little less optimistic about the kids right now, although that’s not to say their hearts aren’t in the right place. While race and sexual orientation is no big deal to them, many don’t truly understand the complexity of these dynamics in society. It’s like Kanye saying racism doesn’t exist because it hasn’t affected him personally. My son’s high school is majority white and he insists that the minority kids are treated equally. That may be true in the little bubble they exist in right now, but I know he doesn’t really understand that his black and brown and LGBTQ friends are simply not going to have as an easy of a time in life as he likely will as a white male.

      • Mabs A'Mabbin says:

        Esmom, actually mine do. My oldest is 27 as is his crew. They’ve all remained close and continue to share life experiences. Their jobs are diverse as is their education levels ranging from high school only to doctorate. From teachers to architects to IT to doctors to small business owners. Same thing with my middle son who is 21. From Air Force to a ridiculously high-priced fitness center in San Diego, and countless careers between, they’re all in touch, travel together and share life…life’s great positives, and as we all know, life’s horrors. Skepticism and cynicism are my middle names, but if their small corner of the world is inclusive, tolerant, loving, kind, generous and respectful, I will be thankful, at the very least, for that.

      • minx says:

        Mabs, agree. It’s not going to change overnight, it never does, but I feel a bit of optimism.

      • Kitten says:

        @ Minx & Mabs-You guys made me feel a bit better. Slow progress is still progress and I do think that movements like BLM and activists like DeRay, Simone Sanders, DiDi Delgado, Shaun King etc speak to the younger generations more effectively than they do to many on my generation and older.
        Thanks for sharing your stories–brought a much-needed smile to my face.

        @Esmom – ITA that the right wing propaganda machine is so dangerous. It makes it hard to feel hopeful, knowing that people on the Right are sowing and weaponizing racial anxiety and xenophobia as a way to rile up the base and create division.

        Today I fell down the Twitter rabbithole and my God, it is just frightening to see what some of these people believe.
        I’m glad if the younger generations are more aware of the manipulation that’s happening with outlets like Fox News. Hopefully they see it for the propaganda outlet it is. In the meantime, with the advent of smart phones, young white kids who may not have a ton of exposure to different races/ethnicities/cultures are seeing in real time what people of color deal with on a daily basis. Makes it harder to deny the impact of racism in the country…

      • Mabs A'Mabbin says:

        Thank you Kitten. And you’re so right minx, it’s such a long process. As I was typing the above, I also remembered stories about these guys getting very verbal, and one particular time unfortunately physical, defending offensive behavior towards women. I mean, angry. You’re very correct Kitten about celebrities and/or public personas having an impact. I think it’s enabled action for many and not simply a nod. Younger generations are less afraid to speak up and stand out. These guys aren’t going to be shoved out of the way if something wrong is unfolding.

      • Esmom says:

        Mabs, thanks for your response, it warmed my heart to hear about your kids and their friends. I guess I was speaking about my own teen and his friends claiming to get it and knowing that they’re not really getting it. They haven’t lived and experienced as much as yours have since they are younger and I can only hope their social circles will diversify once they get out of our homogenous little community and into the world.

        minx, yes, I agree that slow progress is better than none. It’s unfortunate that our current administration and its supporters are determined to stop that progress and that’s probably where some of my pessimism is coming from.

        Kitten, you are absolutely right that the younger generation is savvy enough to see through Fox and other propaganda outlets. And I’m grateful for that — I do feel like they wouldn’t be fooled by “fake news” on FB like so many voters were in 2016. They’re not even on FB, lol.

      • Mabs A'Mabbin says:

        Esmom, everything you’re teaching and saying to them is being heard I promise! Teens like to be so contrary and focused on the very things that most likely irritate you. And they really are so stinkin’ immature about exhibiting ideals or any kind of visible substance lol. Once they’re out of that phase, I’d put money on you being pleasantly surprised. Not only do they remember, they thank you! :O. And apologize for whatever grievances they caused. It really is crazy to look at my oldest and know he used to hide plates of food so I’d think he ate or my keys so we couldn’t run that errand or hide behind racks of clothing in very large stores so I couldn’t find him. He certainly had a thing for hiding!

  15. Deanne says:

    Oh, how awful for men to be disregarded. This woman is absolutely clueless as to the realities of other women in her industry and in real life. Her talent agency pimped out their female clients for years and I don’t give a rat’s ass if Kevin Huvane protected her. It just shows her privilege. I’m shocked she didn’t find a way to drag the much anticipated (according to her) Sex and the City 3 movie into her BS.

  16. SlightlyAnonny says:

    She has built her career masquerading as a “girls’ girl” but SJP is a “guy’s girl” to her core and its just now coming to light.

    • courtney says:

      NAILED it. i am so sick of her. she is as delusional as she is obnoxious. wish she would go away. her entire thought process is so deeply flawed, illogical, and internally misogynistic for a woman who made her name and money off other women. what a joke she is

    • MissMarierose says:

      She probably doesn’t realize it yet, but she’s showing her true colors now.

      • Justwastingtime says:

        Ug. As if men are not always the dominant voice in the room. I work in finance and all of my team (except two women I hired in relatively junior roles ) are men.

        Here is a telling commentery on the power of mens voices. When I was a new dj on my college radio station, the guy – peer who trained me explained to me very seriously that you never play two females recording artists in a row on the radio. That’s the rule.

        I have listened to radio for over 20 years since then… and never have heard a single station play two songs by a woman back to back…

        We still have a very long way to go..

    • Carrie1 says:

      Ohhhh that’s insightful. Good call. Hmmm
      Anyway, she’s like Kanye for me at this point, no interest, just indifference.

  17. Jenns says:

    Women: I just want equal rights and pay and not be to subject to sexual harassment and assault.


    Looks like someone wants to be seen as the “cool girl”.

  18. Korra says:

    Does she really want to be the champion of the male perspective here? Besides the obvious – they don’t need defending – has she forgotten that her most vocal detractors have also been men who mock her looks and ridicule her success? I know she was probably speaking in relation to the men around her in the industry and not necessarily the everyday man, but this overemphasis on male perspective is the reason women who don’t fit into boxes have it harder in an already tough industry. I am not sure what she is trying to accomplish, but she is not going to suddenly win more respect from men for saying this.

  19. Mee says:

    This is not surprising. Go back and google her thoughts on feminism a few years ago. She couldn’t label herself a feminist because she didn’t want to disregard men or some nonsense

  20. Merritt says:

    She is completely tone deaf.

  21. mellie says:

    I LOVED SATC and I mean I LOVED that show…I loved all the characters, especially Miranda and I loved SJP’s fashion sense, still do, I think her shoe line is very pretty. However, with that being said, she needs to just be quiet. There is not one damn thing wrong with now being our time. It is OUR MOTHER BLEEPING TIME!!! And I’m happily married, and I love my man, but I’ve been harassed by men and it f#$king sucks. No, we don’t have to listen to $hit right now. I’m leaning in and the men right now, can lean back!

  22. Tess says:

    Wow that whole statistic of “when women speak only 30% of time they are seen as monopolizing the whole conversation” is true with this one. Until women actively make up 51% or more of each and every single entire production – from directing, writing, acting, producing, starring, etc. – THEN you can worry if you are “leaving men behind”.

  23. Renee says:

    I think it is official. SJP does NOT get it.

  24. Frizzy and frazzled says:

    What is she trying to say, here? I think she’s saying that the “good” men can feel alienated so let’s not disregard? #Notallmen?

    I think inclusiveness with men in #metoo just means helping them acquire awareness, if you want to or if you can. I don’t think it means we need to include men in every story or necessarily have them in our lives. Some women have been so traumatized that they don’t need or want men, and that’s OK. They’re not hurting anyone. Are their stories not worthy of being told if they don’t include men?

    I don’t think the kind of men who are trying to empathize, learn, and become more aware of the #metoo movement would feel threatened by women’s stories. And, I’m Ok as a woman with stories that consist entirely of men because sometimes they are necessary – men in prison, men in military units. What is not acceptable is film after film, show after show, where the protagonist is a young to middle aged white man.

  25. Anna says:

    If you see her being interviewed at all like when she’s on Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee with Seinfeld, she is a major throwback. She chose an old 70s station wagon. She is a technophobe and likes how life WAS. When I watch SATC reruns late at night, I get more and more angry with SJP. You can see that she was a mean girl and a sh^t boss. She is a glory hog and she treated Catrall, the greatest asset on that show, like garbage because she didn’t like being out shined.

    • minx says:

      As SJP took more control of the show Carrie got more and more insufferable, becoming narcissistic, superficial and selfish. The other women grew and changed, Carrie didn’t. I think she became an accurate, unflattering reflection of SJP.

      • SlightlyAnonny says:

        This. This. This. I’ve probably said this on 27 million SATC posts but my turning point with Carrie was the lunch with Natasha, where Natasha was glorious and powerful AND RIGHT and ALL Carrie got out of it was that she did a bad thing because Natasha was now back on the dating market and once again competition to Carrie. Then we are treated to a glossy, curls flowing SJP walkaway. I remember being in college thinking, “wait, THAT was your takeaway?” That is when Carrie became SJP to me.

      • minx says:

        SlightlyAnonny—Yes, there are so many. Carrie sending Aiden when Miranda’s back went out. Carrie guilt tripping Charlotte into giving up her engagement ring so that Carrie could buy her apartment. Carrie thinking she could get a mortgage by appealing to a “single gal” bank employee. Carrie diverting attention from Charlotte’s second engagement with the post it note story. And one of my favorites—Carrie crying to Miranda long distance from Paris, whining that she had “already been to all the museums, twice” when she had been there about three days 😂😂😂

      • SlightlyAnonny says:

        @minx. Yes!! Three days and you’ve seen ALL of Paris? Girl, please. Don’t even get me started on the Russian. Guy clearly states need and boundary: I don’t want to be disturbed while I work. Girl pretends to listen and accept then totally violates boundary to show him off to her friends. Guy is vexed but still courteous and clear, thank you for coming but I have to work. Guy is somehow villain. Seriously? Seriously? Carrie Rage Brewing.

      • minx says:

        And Anna is right about SJP being a technophobe. Carrie didn’t have a cell phone, she thought people could see her through her computer screen, she shrugged off backing up her work: “I don’t do that.” Always the little girl, getting some guy to fix her problems. ARGH!

    • Vegramen says:

      I agree with you, Anna. Very telling was what she said about the younger Carrie reboot series. She said it was a test of her generosity and it felt odd (literally her words) to have someone else play Carrie. The original writer/creator had to come out and slap her down by saying that’s real life in showbiz. I think that test-of-generosity comment reveals her inner meanness about things, as well as how attached and possessive she was to her Carrie character and the series. It sort of confirms Kim’s account of things: this woman would stop at nothing to get everyone on the ship to play it her way.

  26. Cher says:

    Sarah Jessica Parker’s opinions are no longer relevant.

  27. Coraline says:

    Women: Finally have the courage to speak up about being raped in the past by men who have abused their power.
    SJP: “DON’T DISREGARD MEN! There are really critical, important men in our industry as there are across all industries.”
    Yeah, men like Weinstein, Spacey and Hoffman? If they weren’t found out, they would still be those important men SJP is referring to, respected for their work while they lead a completely different life behind the scene.

    Seriously how pathetic is this?! SJP, are you blind and deaf? Where have you been these past 7 months?!?

  28. BILLYPILGRIM says:

    Please get rid of the eyeliner!!!!
    That’s all I got.

  29. Frosty says:

    I’ve always found her twee, hothouse flower act tiresome. Over her.

  30. Lorelei says:


    That’s all.

  31. naomipaige says:

    I’m beginning to question how she got as far as she has in her career. I’m starting to think really weird things about her. She doesn’t seem like the type to say no, is all I’m gonna say! :)

  32. Lilith says:

    And white feminism rears it’s ugly head, yet again. Thanks Sarah.

  33. Valerie says:

    Oh, yes, I too am worried about men struggling to be represented. Lmao.

  34. paddingtonjr says:

    SJP, repeat after me, “INCLUSION of women does not mean EXCLUSION of men,” They’ll be fine, you don’t need to champion them, especially at an event celebrating FEMALE filmmakers.

  35. Margo S. says:

    She’s just deluded. Absolutely incapable of thinking about anything from any other perspective but her own.

  36. IsaidwhatIsaid says:

    I took this more like, there are still good men out there and they deserve to be recognized too. Let’s not forget about the good ones. All men are not bad. I get it.

  37. Dr. Mrs. The Monarch says:

    Sorry, did I hear that correctly? You were hired for a job where your agent EXPECTED you to get harassed and mistreated…and he is still your agent…and him offering to pay your way home AFTER you have been abused makes him some kind of hero? And that is what a good man does, in your opinion? So let’s not forget about all the “good-men-who-set-us-up-to-be-abused-but-give-us-a-lift-home-afterwards”!

  38. Moneypenny424 says:

    This is basically some “All Lives Matter” BS. No one has forgotten men, SJP. They always get every moment. Give women this moment.

  39. tw says:

    Me thinks she misses the level of fame she had before and is desperate to stay relevant. Reality show in 3…2…1.

  40. j says:

    i must have missed the episode where #metoo tried to disregard good men.

  41. trh says:

    I loved her part (or part of her, anyway) in Mars Attacks!

  42. Philo says:

    I used to like her so much. If I had to throw a guess out there- she’s in a bad marriage, which she has twisted and turned herself around in in order to maintain the illusion that it works. It’s amazing how such a thing then transfers into how you view everything else in the world as well. One of her besties is Andy Cohen. Do you really need to know much more than that?

  43. LT says:

    ugh – and what irritates me about her comment is that she could have said “yes, we are telling stories about women and many of those stories are going to include men – after all, men are the fathers and the brothers and the husbands and the sons and the lovers and the friends and the antagonists of the women at the center of our stories, so OF COURSE they will be included – but our goal is to give a Forum for the stories for the women.” And she could have said, “men have to be part of the #metoo conversation because you can’t fix what’s wrong without support from 1/2 of the population” (it’s the same in the corporate world – for women to get ahead in the way they deserve, male bosses have to “get it” too). But no. She implied that men will get forgotten or neglected and that’s just silly.

  44. shewould says:

    HBO made Sarah the exec producer only in name to prevent the other actresses from negotiating higher salaries together. Sarah fuck them over, basically.

    Also, her argument is OFFENSIVE. Just because you were not raped and threatened for reporting the rape by CAA, does not mean that other actresses and employees were rape and harassed.

    Sarah has a very bad reputation on how she treats other actresses on set, even leading one like KC.

  45. Jeanine says:

    I’m so tired of this. How does a grown, seemingly intelligent woman make a movement about the “disregard of men”

  46. Vegramen says:

    She looked absolutely horrific at the Met Gala. Ridiculous and over the top.