Nate Berkus on his family being attacked: ‘my hope is we can start to break down barriers’

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This makes me cranky. A former cast member on a TLC show, Derick Dillard (who I refuse to call a “reality star”) took to social media to attack the happy, adorable family of a fellow TLC personality, interior designer Nate Berkus. And, to his credit, Nate replied like the class act he is.

Nate and his husband, Jeremiah Brent, star on the TLC series Nate & Jeremiah by Design, where they not only work their interior design magic, but invite viewers to take a peek at their home life. Nate and Jeremiah were married in 2014 and have two kids in their happy “tribe,” three-year-old daughter Poppy and newborn son Oskar, who was born in March to a surrogate.

After TLC promoted the second season of the show via Twitter, Derick took the opportunity to make his displeasure about Nate’s family known. He tweeted, “What a travesty of family. It’s sad how blatant the liberal agenda is, such that it both highlights and celebrates a lifestyle so degrading to children on public television as if it should be normal.” Ugh.

Thankfully, lots of people took him to task for his comments, which led to some backpedaling and contradictions on Derick’s part. In response to one critic, he asserted that, “I’m not bashing the people, I’m just calling out the public agenda at play and how a network chooses what they highlight.” And, when asked what he would do “when one of your children grows up to be a member of the LGBTQ community??” He said, “We’d love them just the same.” If Derick wants to write a book, I think “Backpedaling and Contradictions” would be a great title. What a douche.

Nate addressed Derick’s comments indirectly, sharing a family photo and adding that he hopes “we can start to break down barriers & normalize the way our family looks & the way our family loves.”

Way to go, Nate. His family is beyond cute and I’m glad he’s helping promote the visibility of “non-traditional” families. I really hope I won’t have to write “non-traditional” soon.

As for Derick, this isn’t the first time Mr. Jill Duggar has spread his hate on social media. Last year he took to Twitter to bash Jazz Jennings, the star of TLC’s I Am Jazz. His statements later got him fired from his TLC show, Counting On. I hope this creep disappears and that we get to see lots more of Nate and his family.

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  1. RBC says:

    Derrick, when you are finished bashing Nate and his family plus Jazz Jennings, do you think you could also look at your brother in-law Josh? Or is he a upstanding family man,just projects “Christian values” and above criticism? Of course everyone knows he hasn’t done anything wrong…

  2. DesertReal says:

    I can’t even.
    People like Dillard make Christians look so so so bad. JC was all about love and respect.
    This sort of hate speech spewing, vitrol muttering, self-loathing POS (have you ever noticed how he only attacks trans and homosexual members of the LGBTQ community, and never the sexual abuse fostered and perpetuated by his wives family/community) is a far right hate speech loving a$$hole.

    • Sabrine says:

      I think Derrick Dillard is very sour grapes. There’s going to be very little money coming in now now that he’s been fired and his wife is off the show too. He’s angry and frustrated because of that and spewing his hate is about the only platform he has now.

      • HelloSunshine says:

        I didn’t realize she’s off the show too. Was it because of his grossness??

        I feel bad for their kids. They’re already being raised in a cult and they’re also dealing with a Dad who is a special kind of hateful and comes off to me as the kind of person that wouldn’t hesitate to physically punish a small child 🙁

    • Cee says:

      Dillard is no Christian.

  3. Elkie says:

    Oh come on, stop hating on Dezza. Everyone knows that REAL families are the ones that spew grotesque bigotry and hate whilst discriminating against their daughters, physically abusing babies through “blanket therapy” and turning a blind eye to animal cruelty, post-partum depression and the sexual abuse of five little girls.

  4. Nicole says:

    I wish the duggars would fade away. They are exactly the reason I don’t watch TLC anymore. Vile excuses for Christians.

  5. Swack says:

    Consider the source. And NO, Derick, you would not accept an LGBTQ child into your family. You’ll be doing conversion therapy with that child.

    • Esmom says:

      Exactly. And it boggles my mind that he/they somehow think their brand of fundamentalism and constant procreation is “better” than Nate and Jeremiah’s family.

  6. aims says:

    First of all, Nate and Jeremiah are two people who are filled with love. So when they go out into the world, it positive and warm. From everything I have seen, their marriage and family is normal, loving and respectful. They are devoted parents and a loving couple. Isn’t that what we should be endorsing?

    I pity Derrick and everyone in that cult. Love isn’t about control or judgement. To carry all that anger, bigotry is a burden that they choose to be apart of.

  7. Yeahright says:

    Good for them taking the high road.
    I wouldn’t have but I’m a petty bitch.

  8. LittleWing says:

    I was going to bash Derrick but then I realized I’ve said similar things about TLC’s agenda – namely of mainstreaming supremacist cult like quiverfull ( the duggars)

  9. Chef Grace says:

    Sounds like a bitter old attention whore.
    Deny him thrice and maybe he will ooze back into his swamp.

  10. terra says:

    Um, a show that ‘both highlights and celebrates a lifestyle so degrading to children on public television as if it should be normal’, you say?

    I didn’t know they were still showing repeats of 19 and Counting.

    • Esmom says:

      Haha. I made a similar point above but you made it much better!

    • Juls says:

      “Degrading to children” has me enraged right now. This little girl looks happy and full of love and joy. How is she being degraded?! I would bet money she has a much more stable and nurturing home than Derick’s kids. This just burns me up on a personal level. My son’s best friend was born to LGBTQ parents, and he is one of the most awesome and well-adjusted kids I have ever met. His parents are great people and excellent parents.

      • whatWHAT? says:

        study after study has shown that it’s not the sex or gender or sexual orientation (is that still the proper term?) that affects a child’s development and happiness.

        it’s love and support from parents, and living in a loving and respectful household.

        I’m with you…I would bet dollars to donuts that the Berkus kids are happier and more stable than any Dugger child.

    • Tiffany :) says:

      It is so disgusting, knowing what the Duggar family has done to harm children, that they would accuses anyone else of such a thing.

      The hypocrisy is so overwhelming.

  11. OriginalLala says:

    Derrick is a disgusting deplorable, and the Duggars (and their ilk) are vile people. TLC really needs to axe their stupid show that literally has an absolutely unacceptable “agenda” to remove women’s rights and the rights of the LGBTQTT community.

  12. Darla says:

    I’m sure everyone here knows that several states have passed, or are currently trying to pass, anti-gay adoption bills. This is one of those things that make me crazy, I get so mad. I am straight. It pains me to hear of a child suffering. And there is so much of that. So many children are horrifically abused, neglected, unloved. Children need to be loved. When there is a loving home waiting, what is wrong with anyone who would seek to prevent that? Seek to prevent a child from being loved?

    This is diseased thinking from diseased minds.

  13. deets says:

    Dullard reminds me a bit of the preacher in There Will Be Blood.

  14. Pineapple says:

    And …. now I am following Nate Berkus on Twitter. XO

  15. Deanne says:

    Derrick Dillard and his mouth breathing wife’s entire family, are the real travesty. They blanket train. protect child molesters, called their two year old son manipulative when he asked for more food, post about what a sinner the toddler is, are going to deny their children a proper education and would most certainly not “love them just the same” if one of their children came out as a member of the LGBTQ community. The child would be rushed to conversion therapy immediately and bombarded with hateful bible quotes and sermons. Nate and Jeremiah are a wonderful couple, who will no doubt raise their children in a home that is both filled with love and nurturing of their personalities and interests. Unlike all of the Duggar freaks and their sugar coated hate, falsely presented as Godliness and Christianity. TLC needs to get rid of them for good.

    • Swack says:

      Had no idea what blanket training was! I’m appalled. I said the same thing about about conversion therapy if one came out in the LBGTQ community.

      • Deanne says:

        Blanket training is horrific child abuse. The Duggar website used to promote Michael and Debi Pearl as great parenting resources and they teach to beat a child until their spirit is broken and if they cry, to beat them harder. Oh, and to use plumbing tubing or a switch to do it. What’s so unbelievable to me is that this dunce has a problem with the LGBTQ community, to the point of being obsessed with criticizing them, but has no problem with child molesters like his brother in law and Roy Moore. He endorsed Moore as a candidate repeatedly on his social media. How f’ed in the head are these fake Christians that someone who repeatedly molested their siblings and a man who trolled shopping malls for young girls and used his position in the legal system to abuse them, are morally superior and more acceptable that a loving gay couple, with great careers and two beautiful children, who are clearly adored and well taken care of.

  16. Cee says:

    I hate how much racists, bigots, mysoginists, republicans, etc justify their pedantic views with “THE LIBERAL AGENDA, OMG”.

    TLC showcased your wife’s family and her pedo brother for like a decade, so shut up Dillard. You married into a hateful and complicit family.

  17. Esmom says:

    Funny, I just started watching their show this weekend because I recently discovered home renovation shows are relaxing, lol. They are good, kind, compassionate, intelligent guys and have a loving, adorable family. I’m glad Nate is clapping back against this vile bigot.

    • Swack says:

      I no longer have cable but when I did I loved home renovation shows. I like the fact that I can learn things from them.

      • Esmom says:

        I’m watching it online! Full episodes on TLC’s website. And I do find myself wanting to do some projects around the house now, lol.

  18. H says:

    After what Nate went through with his former partner during the tsunami, I highly doubt he cares what stupid Derrick thinks. So happy Nate found joy and a family with his husband. I always loved him when he was on Oprah.

    • Sophia's side eye says:

      I loved him on Oprah! It was so heartbreaking when he lost his boyfriend, so sad. I’ll never forget him talking about it. I’m glad he found a good guy and was able to go on with his life after such a terrible loss.

  19. BearcatLawyer says:

    History has shown that men who rant about things like “the immorality of the homosexual lifestyle” and its “negative effects on children” often have something in their sexual closets they wish to hide. I wonder if that is true for Derick the bigot too?

  20. minx says:

    Nate and Jeremiah—adorable.
    Dillard is a lazy ugly mooch.

  21. Rumi says:

    Oh so many shitty people like Derick degrade the world.

    Nate and Jeremiah have a beautiful family. Wish them all the good things in the world.

  22. Mabs A'Mabbin says:

    Apparently some angry dick, I mean DerICK the dildo, is confused about what matters. Maybe he should go back to being “Pistol Pete,” he’s obviously got a thing for thangs.

  23. grabbyhands says:

    “I’m not bashing the people, I’m just calling out the public agenda at play and how a network chooses what they highlight.”

    This is the best/worst part. Like, TLC continued to promote shows off this religious cult family and their matriarch’s clown car vagina even after they knew about Josh molesting his sisters and the family covering it up. He has directly benefited off what the network chooses to highlight.

    What a frigging hypocrite. Like all religious zealots.

  24. Gaby says:

    Nate and Jeremiah and thei kids: SO cute all of them, beautiful family, all the best for them.

  25. BJ says:

    First of all Nate and Jeremiah have a loving and beautiful family.There is nothing wrong with their relationship or family.

    I want to know if that guy tweets about shows like my Teen is Pregnant,Trying to find a Sister Wife(they may not be the correct name) or shows on TLC showing unmarried people living together? Why is it, for some people, horrible if a married same sex couple have kids but perfectly fine for an unmarried opposite sex couple to have kids?

  26. Ladykeller says:

    My spider senses tell me Derek may be jealous to see the gays living so happy out in the open. I think this is a case of “the squeaky wheel wants to be greased”

    • Turtle says:

      Agreed (totally stealing that “squeaky wheel WANTS to be greased” line). He seemed to become more haggard and wiped as the seasons passed. (Although this latest nonsense could have simply been a publicity move to draw attention to some scam they’re trying to pull off.) Still, if you’re repressed and/or closeted, It can be enraging to see people being celebrated for something you’ve been taught is terrible and sinful and shameful. Instead of seeing hope and inspiration, your feelings and emotions curdle into hate.

      Cue the inevitable martyr-tweets about how we’re intolerant for not tolerating his intolerance.

    • Betsy says:

      Ha ha great line

  27. Who ARE These People? says:

    “I’d love them just the same” is such a revealing statement, implying there’s a reason to NOT love someone just the same for being “different.”

    And the truth is, he wouldn’t love them, period.

  28. homeslice says:

    My one and only celebrity sighting is Nate!! When I moved to CA 8 years ago I saw him in a Babies r Us, of all places!!!

    I like him so much. He is such a talented designer as well. My mom and I discussed it and he is the only one we would allow to completely re-do our homes with no input. Wish him, Jeremiah and the kids all the best!!

  29. amilu says:

    I’ve never watched N&J’s show, and I’d never seen Jeremiah at all before this weekend when I caught them as guest designers on Trading Spaces.

    Holy cow! They were so cute and affable. Jeremiah especially. Not to mention that he did an amazing job on his room design that inspired me for my own room. I’ve got to start watching their show now.

    • Esmom says:

      I know, the latest Trading Spaces was my first glimpse of them, too! I loved that room Jeremiah did and want to paint all my trim blue-gray now, lol. I liked them so much I checked out their show. They are adorable and Jeremiah really has a winning combo of style and sass and charm.

      • amilu says:

        YES! That was the part that inspired me, too! We’re about to paint our master bedroom, and you better believe I’m gonna slap some navy-gray on the trim! Thanks, Jeremiah. 😉

    • Jayna says:

      I first saw Jeremiah years ago when he was on Rachel Zoe’s show. This was before he met Nate.

  30. Kloops says:

    Other than being two men they are pretty much the definition of the traditional family. Not that there’s anything wrong with that. Traditional families are cool too. It’s just so frustrating when you take one look at them with their apparent health and desirable socioeconomic success and how is this not the traditional American ideal?

  31. Betsy says:

    First off: those children are edible and I would eat her squishy cheeks
    Second: anyone associated with the Duggars has no right to which they can claim damage to children. Holy crap, Nate and Jeremiah look like loving parents. The Duggars? Not even a little.

  32. Va Va Kaboom says:

    If TLC is demonstrating their “liberal agenda” by showing gay couples and their families, then what are they demonstrating with shows like the Duggars or any other traditional heterosexual couple? The majority of families on TLC have displayed “traditional” values, what’s their agenda there?

  33. jferber says:

    Love to Nate Berkus and his beautiful family. To hell with the other guy. Haters gonna hate.

  34. Littlestar says:

    Took me until the end to realize this Derrick was of Duggar fame. I guess women being raised to be less-than and pushing out babies every 1.5 years until their bodies can’t do it anymore is more of Derrick’s cup of tea. I’d rather be raised by Nate Berkus than a Duggar.

  35. AnneC says:

    Ugh, didn’t know that the Duggars were still a thing. The son in law idiot that was quoted was probably just trying to get some publicity since everyone has forgotten (and tried to repress) that horrible creepy family.