Ariana Grande & Pete Davidson are engaged after about one month of dating

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We first learned that SNL’s Pete Davidson was dating pop princess Ariana Grande around May 22. At that time, they had only been dating for a few weeks, and yet they were already Instagram-official and talking openly about their love, even though both were very much on the rebound following longer relationships (Ariana had *just* broken up with Mac Miller, actually). Two weekends ago, Pete celebrated his new love by getting two new tattoos for Ariana. Everything already seemed like it was moving way too fast. And now this: Ariana and Pete are apparently engaged, after dating for AT MOST about a month.

She’s so into him! Ariana Grande and Pete Davidson are engaged after a few weeks of dating, multiple sources confirm to Us Weekly exclusively.

“They are a perfect fit. They are not rushing to get married,” one insider says. “Their friends are really excited and supportive.” A second source tells Us that the couple “were telling people that they’re engaged” at Robert Pattinson’s birthday party in Los Angeles on Saturday, June 9.

“They are both constantly making each other laugh,” the first source says. “Their moms have met. They’ve been very public with their relationship on social media, and they are very in love.”

A third source adds, “They are looking forward to a very long engagement together.”

[From Us Weekly]

In case you’re like “nah, this was first reported by Us Weekly, it’s not true,” People Magazine confirmed it, so it’s really happening. They’re engaged and Ariana is apparently already wearing a “large diamond engagement ring” in her Instagram Stories. A source told People: “All I know about the ring is that it’s big.” Considering the emphasis being put on a “long” engagement by Us Weekly’s sources, my guess is that these two kids decided to go full-throttle into this engagement, but they know it’s way too soon and both of them are secretly thinking, “Well, we won’t get married for a while, engagements are pretty easy to break.” They’re both 24 years old, by the way. So… not really “kids,” even though both of them seem a lot younger.

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  1. Crowhood says:

    I dont Know why, but this doesn’t really
    Bug me! And I’m a relatively grumpy person as my baseline so nobody is more surprised than me by my reaction 😂

    • Penny says:

      I normally wouldn’t care but he was with his girlfriend of two years, Larry David’s daughter Cazzie, in early May…she still has the picture up on her Instagram. They’re both being a bit disrespectful of their long term exes but I feel really bad for Cazzie…I imagine they both cheated on their partners, Mac Miller might’ve been cheating too so as far as I can tell there’s one main victim in this mess so no congrats from me…sorry

      • Crowhood says:

        That’s fair. I always Say I would Like to be wealthy but never famous. These types of situations, like watching your ex move on, are too much to be played out for the public eye.

    • ELX says:

      Whatevs— now that they’ve performed the ‘look I’m totally over you, I’m engaged to someone else’ dance, they’ll have fun being engaged and then break up in the fullness of time.

  2. JAC says:

    Yeah, they’re probably not “engaged to be married” engaged. But still, they are going super super fast.

    • Millennial says:

      Everyone can yell at me, but I really don’t see the point in getting “engaged” unless you are planning the wedding imminently.

      I know so many people who are planning on 3-5 year long engagements and I’m just like, what is the point, then? To me it’s a big sign that you will likely not end up actually getting married.

      • JAC says:

        In my country we don’t have these types of things. You get engaged today – you set the date tomorrow. It lasts a year, two years tops. But I figured it’s different in America.

      • Babs says:

        ITA. I can’t figure out the point of having long engagements, and even official engagements without a wedding date in sight. Why would you tell everyone you are engaged without being able to tell when the wedding will take place, this is utterly ridiculous. Attention seeking at its finest.

      • Snowflake says:

        Yeah a long engagement is silly to me. That signals you’re not ready or he’s just proposed just to shut you up about getting married. If either of you is not ready, don’t get engaged.

      • Valois says:

        Yeah I don’t get the point either. I mean yeah, you do you and I can see how they would think getting engaged makes a relationship more serious without it actually becoming more serious (legally). But still… I don’t get.

      • minx says:

        Agree. When I was 22 I got engaged for the wrong reasons, we were just sort of taking the next step in our relationship without really thinking about it. Staking out our claim with each other. Then it was like, oh yeah, people expect us to actually get married! The engagement lasted about 6 months, I dodged a bullet.

      • Lua says:

        We waited 4 years to get married. We got engaged to show commitment, but I didn’t feel like planning a wedding. One day I woke up and decided to start planning. Any sooner and it wouldn’t have felt right.

      • Marianne says:

        I mean sometimes it might have to do with saving up for the wedding or if you have a specific place in mind for ther reception, they can be booked up and that might make the engagment last longer. But otherwise I agree. If you get engaged but “arent in a rush to get married” then it feels kind of meaningless.

      • Ange says:

        I had friends that did it that way, they got engaged after only dating a few months but had a two year long engagement. I thought it was smart, they leaned into the puppy love but had enough common sense to ride out the honeymoon period and see if the relationship had legs.

    • still_sarah says:

      I am in my ’50’s. It seems to me that some young couples (20-ish) get engaged now to show their friends and family that they are SERIOUS about their relationship and IN LOVE. They think it makes their relationship more respectable. It think this is what is happening here. Maybe they want to show their exes that they are “so over” them and have “so moved on” to a “real” partner. Whatever. I wish them the best but I see a break up in under six months.

    • Erinn says:

      I don’t know. This sort of thing really doesn’t bug me. I know people who don’t want to get married. They both had a previous marriage and kids under their belt and were happy just kind of being long term partners. Then the guy proposed on a trip they took together. I honestly don’t know if they plan on getting married – from what I can tell they don’t. But I think he just wanted to surprise her and do something romantic – but they’re both content with the way things are. These are people in their 40s and 50s.

      I was engaged in November 2012. We set the date a few months later – but planned it for summer 2014. I wanted time to get things together, be able to secure the things we needed to book – and more importantly make sure both sets of our family members were going to be able to make it. I don’t think longer engagements mean anything – and honestly, short ones give me red flags. But that’s mainly because I’m someone who likes to plan well in advanced – I don’t understand how someone can get a wedding together in a short amount of time unless they can afford planners to do everything or are going for something really low key/ not dependent on booking services.

      • Lua says:

        This exactly!!! It takes SOOOOOO much planning and I didn’t feel like I had time to just throw a wedding together. I like to plan ahead. I’m known for amazing parties, and I wanted this to be perfect. A long engagement lead to plenty of time to make everything perfect and create what most of our guests still to this day call the most fun wedding and reception they’ve ever been to. In fact, I had three friends who used our venue after short engagements (one of which is already divorced) and none of them could touch what we did with our venue because they didn’t take the time to plan out all of the small details. They thought they could just capture what I did in six months.

      • Lolololol says:

        +1. Also, being engaged can be really romantic, as long as no one turns into a ~zilla (Bridezilla, Groomzilla, Momzilla, MILzilla… etc)

        I got married at a campout. My dad said as long as he didn’t have to wear a suit or make a public toast that he’d help pay for it. It was awesome!

        And, yes, wedding planning is a huge chore, even for a simple wedding.

        I wish them both the best and many years of happiness and connection.

  3. minx says:

    Well okay!

    • Goats on the Roof says:

      LOL, this should end well.

      • whatWHAT? says:

        MTE. they’ll break up before they get married. probably within months.

        and I CANNOT get over how young she looks in pics. I know she’s 24, but she looks like she’s about 15. it looks creepy.

    • heh says:

      i legit let out an exhaustible “HUH” that 3 of my co-workers looked at me.

    • BorderMollie says:

      Haha yeah, my first response was ‘um, good luck girl’. Still love Ariana though.

  4. Babs says:

    I can’t with the stupidness of it all. They look immature and borderline unstable.

    • NameChange says:

      And he looks perpetually high. Not sure how he says he’s sober but then talk about constantly smoking weed and being high AF in his comedy act. What am I missing here?

      • Brrrap says:

        He was with Larry David’s daughter, who he credited with helping him get sober.
        That’s gone now.

    • Taxi says:

      They’re old enough to get married when they put away their tongues. Gross!

  5. Scal says:

    I have a friend that moved in with his now wife after 2 weeks and got engaged after 3 months. They’ve been together over a decade now. And a few friends that have been together for years that got divorced within a year of getting married. So you never know. I try not to judge couples that get together quickly.

    It’s really hard not to judge this though. Sure they are young but it seems more like a social media engagement than anything else.

    • Babs says:

      Of course you never know but still I know damn well these two are never going to be together for a decade and are never going to marry. Engagement is serious, I could see their point if they were 18 but at 24 a social media fake engagement is not a good look.

  6. Sara says:

    Oh well it’s young love. I feel the same as when I see young couples making out in Paris. Enjoy life no harm done.

    • Spring says:

      Agreed–have a blast, young lovers, & don’t ever forget the birth control!

    • Reef says:

      Right. I got engaged after 1 month at 22. It wasn’t love though. It was the sex. Whoo boy. I can barely remember that dude’s name now. I hope the “love” fog lifts for them in a timely fashion before actual marriage and children.

  7. Loopy says:

    He looks 16 and she looks about 12 years old.

  8. QueenB says:

    In before “My grandparents were twelve when they got engaged after half a date and they are still together!!!”

    This has train wreck written all over it.

  9. Jess says:

    I hate to speculate on pregnancy but maybe she’s due in about 8 months? Lol, or maybe they just know and wanted to make it official. I knew my husband was someone special to me the first time we met, and I would’ve married him after our first official date a month later, so I believe it does happen quickly sometimes❤️

  10. perplexed says:

    Maybe she figured life is short after the Manchester trauma….and so that’s why she’s moving fast. I have no proof for any of this. I’m just speculating.
    Nonetheless, I’m always surprised when celebrities this young want to get married. It works out for some (i.e Shenae Grimes-Beech from 90210 — I think she married at 23 and is still married at 28 with a baby on the baby), and, er, for other celebrities (i.e Britney Spears), not so much.

    • Honey Bear says:

      Lol seriously? Yes, still married at 28. Yep. That’s an example of a marriage. I can’t roll my eyes any harder.

      • perplexed says:

        Yeah, I knew it sounded dumb when I wrote it. I’m not going to pretend it doesn’t sound dumb given the small 5 year time frame. But it’s the only example I could think of in the current times where someone semi-famous got married THAT young and it’s worked out….so far. Even if you look to the past, someone like Paul Newman had a starter marriage that ended with an affair, and it’s the second marriage to the woman he was having an affair with that took off and lasted. Not sure if the fact the second marriage happened when he was slightly older that made the difference. Ditto for Tom Hanks, I think?

        It’s really had to think of famous people who got married at 24 and had a marriage that lasted decades. Even someone like Reese Witherspoon who seems determined to make things last went the divorce route after a young marriage at 23 or 24. Seriously, I’m blanking on names. They either get married young like Britney and implode or just stay unmarried like Winona but have relationships (the latter route seems to bring on less embarrassment for the famous person).

    • otaku fairy says:

      That’s what I thought too- she’s taking the ‘life’s too short. We might as well’ approach. I’m not feeling too optimistic about this, but hope it turns out fine for both of them even though it won’t last. Pop star marriages tend not to last long anyway, but the fact that they’ve only dated a month doesn’t make this look promising.

  11. RBC says:

    Guess getting engaged is easier than matching tattoos that say “ PAY ATTENTION TO US!
    Removing a tattoo can be difficult, whereas selling a ring on eBay is not difficult when the relationship ends

    • Alissa says:

      they already have matching cloud tattoos, and Pete got two other tattoos for her as well haha. Pretty ridiculous, but what are you going to do.

  12. Birdie says:

    Honestly, I used to be super judgy about things like that. But look around, couples who were together for years and years are divorcing, so man couples break up all the time with much more foundation than these two. There is no formula for long lasting relationships. Do they seem stupid and like teens? Of course! But it‘s not like we thought Faris/Pratt, Jolie/Pitt and so on would separate and they did. There is no guarantee.

    • Apalapa says:

      Sure, but I hope she gets a very good prenup.
      Also. I struggle with a mental illness and would want my partner to be aware of what that entails.

      So I wonder if it sounds weird to say, I hope she fully understands his BPD and what that entails.

      My friend’s dad has BPD and he refuses any kind of therapeutic help and it has been really scary for her.

    • Ankhel says:

      Well, I can only speak for myself, but I was only mildly surprised when Jolie/Pitt ended, and had actually expected a Faris/Pratt divorce for a year or two. Pratt never seemed like the kind of guy who would want a wife older than 40, you know? Maybe before he became fit, rich and famous, but only for lack of options.

      Anyhoo, almost all stars divorce, so Ariana might as well get it out of her system.

  13. Slushee says:

    After six weeks my boyfriend said to me “you know we’re going to get married, don’t you?”. I nodded and continued reading my magazine. 11 years later here we are.

  14. grabbyhands says:

    Well, the fallout from this breakup ought to be epic.

  15. detritus says:

    Managing BPD is not easy, and a new diagnosis often brings bumps along the way. I also would suspect Grande is still having echoes of Manchester, which would be no easy thing to leave behind. Enjoying something simple and fun might be what they both need.

    I don’t think either of them knows what hard work is in store, but I can’t help but wish them well. I feel like this is right people, wrong time, but I’d like to be wrong.

  16. hindulovegod says:

    He recently ended his yearlong sobriety by saying “the party’s back on.” His reasoning is that he’s been diagnosed with mental illness. That is his problem, not addiction as he’d thought, so he’s fine to drink and party again. He sounds very troubled.

    • NameChange says:

      Ah, you answered the question I had above. He doesn’t sound like he’s in a healthy place and a lot of people with mental illness self-medicate with drugs and alcohol. Ariana needs to reconsider this, especially since she said she left Mac Miller because of his drug and alcohol abuse and self-destructive behavior. She certainly has a type.

      • hindulovegod says:

        Agreed. She seems to have that “fixer” mentality. But of course it’s not her responsibility to handle his demons. I hope she comes out of this okay.

    • Ib says:

      Dang, that’s… 😬

    • Anilehcim says:

      I’d like to know what HER deal is, too… since this is the second guy in a row she’s dated that’s been kinda unstable. Maybe her picker is broken.

      • Una says:

        Maybe she likes drama. I watch my girlfriends dating same type of guys they swear off after every relationship and this is the only explanation I can come up with. When you are young stable relationships can get boring🤷‍♀️.

      • Amelie says:

        I was going to say the same. I don’t know if Ariana has mental issues herself (I think she recently revealed she struggles with anxiety?) but I looked up her dating history because I didn’t know much about it apart from the fact she dated some guy named Big Sean awhile back. I didn’t even know she was dating someone until she announced their break up. She seems to be a serial monogamist and never stays single for long and she seems attracted to guys with issues. I doubt this relationship will last long but I hope it’s fun for them while it lasts.

      • otaku fairy says:

        She mentioned PTSD and anxiety, but said that the anxiety is something she’s always struggled with.

      • BorderMollie says:

        On top of all that, the bubble that is the entertainment world probably contributes to poor decision making, especially in personal lives.

      • Yes Doubtful says:

        Either she likes the bad boys or she thinks she can change them. Or she’s just dumb.

  17. Beth says:

    They need to slow down. If this is a rebound relationship for both of them, it may not be real emotions they’re having, they’re just trying to get over their exes. After only one month, you don’t know someone well enough to be able to make the serious decision of marriage. This probably won’t last, and they’ll break up before the wedding

  18. Rescue Cat says:

    So this is what being one of the biggest pop stars in the world gets you?

    • Pia says:

      She was dating Mac Miller who is incredibly unattractive imo and clearly no price personality wise seeing that he blamed his recent DUI on her. At least Pete is charming and funny and seems like an actual nice person although a bit messy. I find him cute in a puppyish way.

  19. Brunswickstoval says:

    Why are they always poking their tongues out? What’s with that?

  20. Cdoggy says:

    I have no idea what she is trying to say in that Instagram comment. It’s very Shakespearean – “I am but a Pete Davidson comment”. And what is a “sumtimes”? I am but a perplexed old lady.

    • Ninks says:

      Fans of celebrities often run ‘update’ accounts, whereby they stalk social media for mentions of the celebrity, such as people spotting them on a flight or out to dinner and then they will post the information and if they exist, photographs. They will also post information on official appearances. Sometimes, the celebrities themselves are known to interact with fan accounts, by following or commenting. That’s the gold seal of fan accounts and if they have had real interaction from the celebrity, they’ll mention that in their bio because it will get them more followers and credibility than the accounts the celebrity hasn’t interacted with.

      So she’s basically saying she’s obsessed with Pete Davidson and probably posts a lot of pictures of him.

      • Cdoggy says:

        Thank you! I’m not sure I really get it, but I’m glad to know there is some kind of point to it. Lol

  21. MCV says:

    Deat at all the comments on here saying this might work because “my friends” “my x relative” dated for like a week before getting engaged and they’re still together 45 years later.
    Engaged after dating for like a month with someone who has borderline personality disorder and she probably is still affected with PTSD, okay.

    • Pilar says:

      Well you could say the same about all the comments saying this will end horribly because my this that or other had BPD and was a total asshole or whatever.Treating people with mental disorders as if they are exactly the same. Just like when people discussed Kanye and they blamed his general douchery on being bipolar.

      • idontknowyouyoudontknowme says:

        The specific mental illness can manifest itself in separate ways ( people who are bipolar or borderline have personality traits like anyone else), however the symptoms likely seem “asshole-ish” to an outsider, since that’s the core symptom of said illness..for example sticking with borderline, poor impulse control and idealization/devaluation and black and white thinking. Being considered the best thing since sliced bread one day,and the most evil person ever the next for seemingly a non-issue might seem assholish to someone who doesn’t understand what the disorder entails.

    • Bea(trice) says:

      There are only a few comments saying that it looks like. I think it’s circumstantial and in this circumstance, it’s bad news. I don’t think this will last.

  22. MCV says:

    This relationship is what Hiddleswift should’ve been. We deserved the messiness.

  23. Honey Bear says:

    They both look like they’ve been flying high on Molly this entire time. This entire situation screams drugs.

    • HeyThere! says:

      I hate being that person but my first thought was ‘when one of them sobers up, this migh end quickly’.

      • Ankhel says:

        What, that same person who would NOT go downstairs to investigate the strange sounds coming from the basement, after all your sorority friends disappeared mysteriously?

  24. Neelyo says:

    This won’t last but will be hugely entertaining as long as she doesn’t get pregnant, then it will just be sad and messy.

  25. Cupcake says:

    I hope this is a joke.

  26. wheneight says:

    Am I the only one who thought he was in his 30s? I was shocked to learn he was 24.

    • Shannon says:

      Really? He’s one year older than my son but looks younger to me. Something about him always reminds me of a kid.

  27. Chisey says:

    Wow in that Harry Potter costume pic she looks so young. Like, I’d believe it if someone said she was in middle school. I hope things work out well for them but it all seems a little 😬. I thought it was weird that People reported it but said their reps have no comment. I wonder if their agents are currently sitting them down like ‘what are you THINKING!? It’s not too late to walk this back…’

  28. Winnie Cooper's Mom says:

    Ugh. Katy Perry/Russell Brand 2.0… not going to be a pretty sight for Pete Davidson when this all crashes and burns. Hope he has someone stable in his life looking out for him.

  29. HK9 says:

    And this relationship will implode on Instagram in 5…4…3…2…

  30. Sarah says:

    I remember when Pam Anderson and Tommy Lee got married after about two weeks of dating…she later admitted they had been on an Ecstacy binge during that time, and neither were in their right mind.

    These pics give me those kind of vibes. He looks like a drugged-out dude who lives in his grandma’s basement and dates a high school girl because she’s dumb enough to think he’s cool.

  31. Anilehcim says:

    I’m sorry, but she REALLY looks like she’s 12 years old. It’s all I see when I look at her. That pic of them in Hogwarts robes looks like a big bro and little sis.

    • Jane says:

      LOL- you’re right. However, I’ve been working with children for 32 years and there are 12 year old’s at my school who look older than her! I think what seriously does it for her is that pony tail which she refuses to take out, and her “baby doll” and “sex-kitten” persona. She doesn’t come off mature in any way shape or form.

  32. Melania says:

    I don’t know why but this couple looks weird to me

  33. Kateeeeee says:

    Had the good fortune to see Dave Chappelle in Boston last night. They ended the show as a panel just shooting the breeze (him, Stewart, Michael Che, and another comedian named Wil whose last name I sadly missed) and decided to read some news. When they reached the engagement, Chappelle told the audience that he’d hung out backstage with Davidson and Grande and was just in awe of how in love they were and how beautiful it was to see them together. Went on for five minutes about it. It didn’t make me think this was any less of a bad idea, but it did get me past “just a stunt engagement.”

    • Lyla says:

      Did Che say anything about it?

      Wonder how Cassie David feels.

      • Kateeeeee says:

        Che backed the sentiment. (He was the least talkative of the panel but threw out some excellent comments every so often.) And they both seemed to already know about the engagement and seemed happy for Pete without putting too much business out there. I was sitting there like oh this is kind of juicy, I wonder how many of these other 40 year olds besides me care about this?? 😂 Chappelle did have some other controversial things to say about Me Too, and what women “should” be focusing on, but none of it was said as part of some routine or said casually. It was part of their weird magical Socratic hour.

      • Valois says:

        what should women be focusing on according to him?

      • otaku fairy says:

        “Chappelle did have some other controversial things to say about Me Too, and what women “should” be focusing on, but none of it was said as part of some routine or said casually.” Ugh. No surprise there.

      • Anon says:

        I hope cazzie is ok. She’s due to start doing her show for amazon soon I think. I hope it blows up and makes her a big star.
        He’s moving way too fast after getting out of a relationship he deemed serious. That’s why I’m not taking this seriously. Hope it’s not too bad when they break up.

    • Cupcake says:

      It’s that new relationship, puppy love glow, which may or not be substance fueled. The drama that will ensue will be rich.

  34. me says:

    In a world full of depressed people full of anxiety over how garbage the world currently is…I like to see people happy. These two are happy…for now. That’s all that matters. Let them enjoy their time. If it doesn’t last, then it doesn’t last. But for now, they look incredibly happy !

  35. hmm says:

    For someone who professes to care about fighting the stigma against BPD this certainly won’t help. At least from what has been released, this whole thing has been stereotypical BPD relationship trajectory, it worries me.

    • angel says:

      yup. and wasn’t there a photo of him somewhere that showed he had lost his sobriety? Rebound disaster with mental illness thrown in.

  36. Shannon says:

    Eh, I can’t be mad about this. I mean, I don’t think it will work in the long run (but I could be wrong) but who are they hurting? They’re young, having fun and living in the moment. My son’s 23 and a romantic at heart, I could see him doing something like this. As long as they don’t make any babies right away, let them have their fun. My pearls remain unclutched. I think it’s cute and sweet.

  37. girl_ninja says:

    These two are in a haze of lust and weed. They probably won’t marry any time soon.

  38. Franny Days says:

    Y’all I got engaged at 24 married at 25 and just had a baby at 26 but these two seem so much younger than me. Like I can’t process they are only two years younger than me.

  39. Happy 21 says:

    I’m gonna go out on a limb here and say they are in a drugged up bubble. I don’t know what drugs but I can’t think that two sober people – even 24 year olds – would think this was a good idea. And I can’t help but feel like she really doesn’t get his mental illness, like she is playing off it and probably doesn’t even notice.

  40. Ginger says:

    This should end well.

  41. Anon says:

    This news doesn’t surprise me because Pete has always been extra. I see this as a rebound relationship. Especially with Pete since he knew he was going to marry cazzie in the long run and said so many times. That’s why I’m rolling my eyes at this. Let’s see what happens once he’s back working on snl and she’s touring. And this honeymoon phase is over.

  42. Mia4s says:

    After a month huh? Sigh….fine. Just get a good lawyer to do the prenup, it will make the divorce much easier.

    Here’s the attention you two ordered. Here you go. There, there now.

  43. Nikki says:

    I think I have a carton of juice in my fridge that has been there throughout this relationship…and yes, also a good reminder of me to change my Brita filter

    • me says:

      TMZ is reporting Pete bought the ring last month ! So basically they met one day and got engaged the next lol. It’s also being reported they celebrated their engagement by going to Disneyland…how fitting.

  44. Scotchy says:

    My first husband had BPD he was getting treatment, we got engaged and married within 6 months, there was a lot of booze and drugs( on his part) throughout as he thought that his disorder wasn’t addiction and was a wet alcoholic at the time so it was a nut show. Needless to say that marriage ended within a month of it taking place. It was messy messy messy and violent( again his part) ugh.
    All I can say is Grande, “you in danger girl”…

    Eek

  45. Elizabeth Batchelder says:

    As someone whose brother has BPD (as Davidson does), this is concerning. The primary feature of the disorder is black-and-white thinking and putting people on pedestals only to utterly degrade them once they (invariably) let the sufferer down in some way. My brother can be the sweetest, kindest person – and he means every bit of it – but let him feel the slightest whiff of being neglected or abandoned and he will UNLOAD on you with the nastiest, most personal insults. It’s downright scary. I hope that Davidson is actively working some CBT therapy, and I can’t imagine that drugs or alcohol are sanctioned by any such program. So many people with BPD use to cope with the constant feelings of fear and emptiness that assail them. I have a tremendous amount of empathy for them but having been on the receiving end of the “border-lion,” I hope Ariana never finds herself in that position.

    • Asiyah says:

      This is my concern too. My BPD ex showed up at my apartment after only weeks of hanging out (we weren’t even officially dating and had only had s*x once and it was horrible) with his suitcase and said “I want to live with you.” I was so scared that I let him do it. SMH how stupid of me. That started YEARS of drama I still haven’t fully recovered from because I went from a pedestal to complete dirt instantly.

      • Elizabeth Batchelder says:

        I’m so sorry that happened to you, Asiyah. Have you read the book Walking on Eggshells, about BPD? I found it really helpful 🙂

      • Scotchy says:

        I feel you!! The break up and ensuing drama with my ex took years to unravel and it sucked!! Sending you inter web hugs!

  46. megan says:

    When I see that picture of them with their tongues hanging out, all I can think of is how she licked the doughnuts in that doughnut shop. Yuck.

  47. Moonie says:

    He is a textbook social climber. He has seen the impact of associating with Larry David and now he is taking the next step in his golddigging career. Good for you Pete!

  48. Amanda says:

    I know this is probably a stunt engagement, and they aren’t likely to ever get married, but I still feel that this is too much too fast.

  49. Cara says:

    I wish them well, I really do. Sometimes people just find their match and that is it. I think that is beyond a long shot in this case, but who knows.

  50. Parigo says:

    They’re age appropriate and *maybe* in love. That’s a start. Plus young and rich. It won’t last forever but whatevs.

    • Parigo says:

      Sorry just started reading about this messy juicy young relationship. I still ship it. 😆

  51. CairinaCat says:

    I see a fiery crash and burn in their future

  52. lamaga_hyun says:

    I moved in with my partner within two months of getting out of a long term relationship, met his entire family within four months (in another country so it was a big deal), got engaged on the plane ride en route home, and got married before our one year anniversary. And we’re plebes who are not wealthy. Definitely possible and I’ve never had regrets. Also in the current climate I’m not mad that they’re young and in love.

  53. Yes Doubtful says:

    Young and incredibly stupid. I give this whirlwind romance another month. I’m worried most for Pete though. He will be destroyed when she dumps him.