Selena Gomez ‘doesn’t really care’ about Bieber’s engagement: she’s ‘totally over him’

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I am too old to have kept up with all of Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez’s comings and goings. I know they broke up and got back together dozens of times. I know that they were damaged and that their love always seemed so fragile. I know that they messed with each other’s heads, mostly Justin messing with Selena’s head. I know that even as recent as this year, Justin and Selena were dealing with each other. I know that she probably even dumped The Weeknd to get back with Justin (I know because The Weeknd’s last album had several songs about it). So how does Selena really feel about Justin’s sudden engagement to Hailey Baldwin?

Selena Gomez isn’t going back to Justin Bieber. The “Sorry” singer, 24, may be newly engaged to Hailey Baldwin, 21, just four months after calling it quits again with his ex, 25, but Gomez isn’t letting the news faze her.

“They haven’t spoken in months. She hasn’t been talking about him since they ended things again earlier this year,” a source tells PEOPLE exclusively about the “Back to You” singer. After splitting from The Weeknd last October, Gomez and Bieber began spending time together again. The exes were spotted riding bikes, kissing at his hockey games and even attended his dad Jeremy’s wedding in Jamaica together. However, after marking Bieber’s 24th birthday on her Instagram account, the couple’s newly rekindled romance ended abruptly.

“It was never a healthy situation for Selena and Justin,” says the source. Adds a Bieber pal: “Their relationship was always very complex and complicated. It was just too much baggage.”

[From People]

Sure, I understand the argument that Justin and Selena broke off their whatever-relationship earlier this year because there was just too much history and too much residual drama. I get that, and I believe that. But what I don’t believe is that Selena is currently shrugging about the engagement. Thankfully, *someone* went to E! News to spill a bit more about the behind-the-scenes drama with Selena. Sources tells E!:

“Selena was surprised an engagement happened this quickly but not surprised Justin would do something like this knowing who he is. At the end of the day though she doesn’t really care. Selena is totally over him. She had tried again to make it work that last time and it didn’t work out. Selena is definitely on a different path right now and in a much better place since Justin is out of the picture. Mentally, she is done with him. She isn’t focused on dating as much as she’s just really focusing on herself. She’s happy right now just spending time with her girlfriends and going to church.”

Another source also adds that Gomez is putting her relationship with Bieber “in the past.” And while she was “very shocked” to hear about the engagement, she ultimately “doesn’t care.”

“Selena knows that Justin makes rash decisions, but wishes them both the best,” the second source tells E! News. “She is truly focused on herself and Justin is no longer a topic of conversation in her life.”

A third source tells E! News that Gomez “had heard he was getting very serious with Hailey, but an engagement was definitely a surprise. At the same time, she knows Justin very well and knows he is impulsive and makes emotional decisions. At this point, she’s just trying to focus on her own life and her own happiness. She wishes him the best. She’s not going to get caught up in what he’s doing. She’s found her happy place and is focused on what’s working for her.”

[From E! News]

“She knows Justin very well and knows he is impulsive and makes emotional decisions…” Pot, kettle, black. I think it’s pretty simple: Selena is trying to put on a brave face and she’s trying to not have any feelings about Justin’s engagement. She knows Justin well enough to know that this is not the end of the story too. Now, does that mean that she wants to get back with Justin? Of course not. But of course she still has feelings *about* him and of course she has feelings about his engagement.

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  1. Thatsallfolks says:

    Someone do a welfare check on Selena.

  2. Tiffany says:

    Sure Jan.

    • minx says:

      Just what I was going to say.

      • Tiffany says:

        And you know what 1st thought was when the engagement was announced, he loves getting under Selina’s skin more than he loves Hailey.

        Yes, I think Dirtlip is that petty and horrible.

  3. Nancy says:

    Liar liar pants on fire. History has shown us she always takes this boy back. Hopefully and fortunately for her, he’s over it. She can and will do better.

  4. Red says:

    I think that statement is pretty fair. I read she has moved back to Texas months ago to regroup. I think she knows that her relationship with him was toxic and she’s trying not to think too much about what he’s doing. She also probably knows that his engagement or marriage won’t last so she’s probably not too stressed about it.

  5. Beth says:

    BS. If she was ‘totally over him,’ they wouldn’t have gotten back together with him so many times. First loves are tough to lose feelings for

    • Nancy says:

      Yep. I don’t know about him, he seems to be the one that ends their relationships. She is very sensitive and hasn’t always been in the best health. To see your first love engaged to another famous person, I’m sure she has the sads. She will get over it.

      • Marley31 says:

        I was Selena. I know what she may be going through. The only thing I can say is keep your head up stay positive believe that u deserve better surround yourself with people who love u and have your back. And just do you. In the back of your mind your probably wondering why wasn’t it me? Be happy it wasn’t. If Bieber can be engaged to his bf chick after breaking up only a few months then he did not love her.or maybe he does in his own twisted way and is calling Selena bluff playing games trying to make her jealous. Either way its not love. Selena is better off

  6. Miles says:

    I really don’t think her statement is BS. There’s no one who knows how Justin works more than Selena. She probably doesn’t care because she knows that if she wanted him back, he’d comeback to her.

    What I don’t buy though is that she’s over him.

  7. Mia4s says:

    Sigh….If this silly engagement lasts longer than a week, this is going to become a Brangelina/Aniston media thing isn’t it? 50 billion stories about she’s over it, then not, over it, then not. Then when the breakup happens it will be “Justin runs to Selena! Their amazing reunion!”. Sigh…I’m already bored.

  8. Anne says:

    LOL. Oh dear. Teenagers.

    • Raina says:

      Yep. In my mind the only way I can excuse Bieber fans are because of age.
      I wanted to marry the baby faced one from New Kids on the Block when I was 13 so.
      I’d listen to that one song Please Don’t go Girl and I was like, “No, I’ll be never go! I’ll love you forever baby faced one!”
      Sufficit to say, I left.

  9. Laura says:

    Selena should go and date Shawn Mendes now. Or Shawn should date Bella Hadid. These people seem to keep it in a tight little group.

    Also, Selena should take solace in the fact that she had Bieber when he was (arguably) better looking – before the dirtlip, and the ab tattoo, etc.

    • Nadia says:

      Wasn’t Shawn dating Hailey for like months? These kids, I can’t keep up!!! There’s also tons of rumors that Shawn Mendes is gay and has a thing with transitioning Teddy Geiger.

      • me says:

        1. Shawn has stated many times that he and Hailey are nothing more than friends.

        2. Shawn addressed the gay rumors with a video stating he’s not gay but sees nothing wrong with anyone who is. In fact he was upset that people on the internet were using the word “gay” as an insult.

      • Nadia says:

        This is a gossip sight so I’m allowed to speculate just like everyone else. I’m not using gay as an insult at all. He can be whatever he wants and see whoever he wants, more power to him. Just what seems obvious to anyone who follows him – his relationship with Teddy (I’m not sure if he goes by a different name now) seems way more than just friends. Also, just because someone says they’re just friends doesn’t mean it’s true…at all.

      • me says:


        Oh I wasn’t insinuating you were using the word “gay” as an insult. Just in Shawn’s video he was upset that other people on the internet were.

        None of us know for sure about the lives of celebs…we all speculate…but with Shawn I really believe him…but that’s just me.

    • Janice Gerow says:

      What is it about these Canadian men popstars these days? Must be something in the Ontario water

  10. lucy2 says:

    Run, girl.
    It probably stings, but she needs to grow up, move on, and redirect her life in a more positive way. He is never going to be the answer for that.

    • kosmos says:

      Agreed. Of course it will hurt, but they just couldn’t make it together happily. It’s really time Selena & Justin moved on for good…..she should focus on being open to someone else, but someone stable. Bieber is just her first young love. He seems to do what he wants to do in the moment, but he’s still young and still very impulsive. Saying you’re engaged might not mean that much. It’s what you do in the long term that counts. I cannot fathom that this guy is really ready for marriage, nor is Hailey.

  11. Raina says:

    Sometimes I think the only way you can get over the last one is after you break up with the next one

  12. z says:

    When I found out that a boy I had a crush on in third grade got married I felt weird about it. I haven’t even thought about him in 25 years I certainly wasn’t in love with him at the age of 9 but it still made me feel weird to see somebody that I used to know as a child move on and living his life. It made me question my own life. There is nothing wrong with feeling weird about an ex’s engagement, it doesn’t mean you want him back.

    • me says:

      LOL yes I know how you feel. Having a crush on a guy when you were younger and then find out he’s now married makes you feel “some type of way”. It’s only natural. I am sure Selena is feeling “something” because she spent close to 9 years on and off with Justin. That’s a BIG deal. I think privately she is emotional about it but publicly is putting on a smile. Unless she’s a robot and has no feelings. I mean she’ll get over it and move on soon enough but right now this has to sting (even if she doesn’t want him back).

  13. Bubble bee says:

    I don’t really get the narrative the Justin is so horrible to Selena and she can do better. I think he’s possibly cheated in the past but it doesn’t seem to be a recent thing or their core issue. I also believe that when or if this engagement ends it will be because of Selena.

  14. Aysla says:

    I believe this. They weren’t over each other before, but I think she finally got him out of her system with the last go-round. It confirmed and reaffirmed things. It kind of reminds me of Rihanna and Chris Brown, and how she got back together with him even years after the assault (so time and space didn’t really… do much).

    • SK says:

      Yeah I think it’s possible. I went back to the same guy who treated me like crap over and over again over an 8 year period when I was young. I went back to him to date, I went back to him for casual hook-ups, I believed him when he had another girlfriend and told me he would always love me (🙄), etc. etc. Sooooo many times. I just couldn’t get him out of my system – he was my first love, I’d been date-raped about 8 months before I met him and he was the first guy I kissed who didn’t immediately push me for sex after that and I developed a very unhealthy attachment to him as a result. The last time I had sex with him (I’d had a long desert-like period of no sex and he was a back-up plan) I realised I had no real feelings for him any more, no attachment, just a vague sense of affection and shared history. I was finally completely over him. It felt great! It’s entirely possible Selena had the same moment. For her sake I hope so.

  15. Mo’ Comments Mo’ Problems says:

    Whew, child……the kindergarten playground…

  16. gf says:

    Her face looks puffy these days. Like hard drugs or alcohol puffy. As someone who is formerly an addict, this is painfully familiar. I hope she’s okay.

    • me says:

      She had a kidney transplant and has Lupus…her meds probably cause that.

      • Maraidh says:

        My late husband had a heart transplant, and the anti-rejection meds plus the steroids made him very puffy.

  17. Jane says:

    It takes time to learn that when a guy treats you badly, you need to break up and have no contact. She should have done that years ago. I believe everyone should read “He’s Just Not that Into You,” to avoid guys like Bieber of if you are involved, end it right away so you don’t have the heartache of seeing them get engaged/married to someone else. I do feel very sorry for her.

  18. liriel says:

    Of course she probably has some feelings about it and is just putting on a brave face. Like in her new song, she always chooses to be with him. They were always getting back together. Breaking up making up. He was her drug. I believe there will be some drama but she’s better off without him. It’s interesting to see if she’ll be able to sustain media interest 10 years from now if she chooses to still be in the limelight without Bieber in the picture.

  19. Yes Doubtful says:

    RIIIGHT. And queue the next relationship for Selena followed by a quick engagement with a bigger ring and a more famous leading man.