Kim Kardashian: ‘I just don’t have a victim mentality, I’ve always been, like, the victor’

Kim Kardashian in NYC

Kim Kardashian covers the latest issue of Richardson Magazine, a magazine I’ve never heard of before now. The cover is NSFW, so I’m not going to embed the image – you can see Richardson’s Instagram here, which includes Kim’s editorial. The point is the actual interview, in which Kim talks about her pregnancies, and how she’s not actually a very wild, sexual person. No joke – for all of her posing and sex taping, Kim has always given off a pretty asexual vibe. At least she knows that about herself, I guess. Some quotes from the interview:

On her pregnancies: “I was somebody who gained 60 or 70 pounds in my pregnancies and felt so unlike myself and so unsexy… Literally, at the end, when you can’t even have sex, I thought, ‘I’m never going to have sex again in my life!’ I just felt so bad about myself in my soul.”

Postpartum body: “I didn’t lose weight that quickly. But I’d say eight months later, I had probably my best body ever. I felt like, ‘I did this. I lost all this weight on my own. I feel better than ever!’ I just put my body through that, and it was so empowering when I did a nude shoot.”

Her public persona versus who she is in real life: “At home I’m much more conservative than my public persona is. My public persona is wild, sexual. But I’m actually uncomfortable when I talk about sex, and I’m more conservative when it comes to that. But I’m vain like that. I can go on a set and be fully naked in front of 50 people doing a shoot, but if I’m one-on-one, intimate in bed, I’m, like, shy and insecure. I definitely have two different personalities like that. But I think motherhood has actually made me more confident about being publicly sexy.”

On Kanye’s MAGA love: “I am aware that Kanye speaking out in favor of Trump got me through the door — got him to pick up my call. I’ve always had different opinions than Kanye. But when I went there, and when I saw what could be done, I realized that I could get more done if I just stayed focused on the issue I was passionate about instead of complaining.”

On dealing with adversity: “Everyone deals with things differently, and I seem to deal with things — whether the sex tape, the [2016 Paris] robbery, even the death of my dad [Robert Kardashian], who was the most important person in my life — I push to just overcome it. I just don’t have a victim mentality. That’s never been my personality. I’ve always been, like, the victor — ‘I can get past this, and this will not define me.’”

[From Billboard & Us Weekly]

“I just don’t have a victim mentality. That’s never been my personality. I’ve always been, like, the victor.” I get that she’s trying to brag about how strong she is and how she’s overcome so much, but good God, enough with the “victim mentality” crap. Some people go through horrendous things and they’re actually profoundly victimized and there’s nothing wrong with different people having different reactions to different things. Saying that you don’t have a “victim mentality” is actually victim-blaming, like a victim’s mentality is the reason why they were victimized. You’re shaming people for needing time to heal or being affected by being abused, degraded or assaulted.

Kim Kardashian looks stunning while out in New York

Photos courtesy of WENN, Backgrid.

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  1. LORENA says:

    Kim, JUST STOP

  2. Ebi pickles says:

    What are those rubber pants in the last picture?! I’m glad you’re proud of your body, but do the rest of us need the intimate details ?

    • Remy Red says:

      I can’t be the only one who zoomed in on the gusset?

    • Amanduh says:

      The dudes in the background!!! Their faces!! 🤣

    • ByTheSea says:

      She just looks deformed to me at this point.

      • Sojaschnitzel says:

        Exactly this. It looks painful, somehow. Not a good look. Not. A. Good. Look.

      • Justjj says:

        It really does look like some alien facehugger is incubating in each buttcheek now or something. Those pants (Is it a rubber bodysuit? What the actual f?) are a solid nope. I think Nicki Minaj has this problem too lately: only so many gravity and nature defying augmentations can exist on one human form before things start to get super weird and just go downhill quickly. Just stop adding stuff to your butt/face/mouth/chest/etc. Like, go live on a farm or something for a decade and then reassess… I want to tell some of my friends this too that are developing catface in the early 30s.

  3. BANANIE says:

    How is it that a grown woman still uses “like” that often when she speaks? I know all of her family is like that, but damn. It’s embarrassing. It makes her sound ridiculous, which is fair, because she is.

    And how dare she put others down for having a different experience than she had? That’s so ignorant and self-absorbed.

  4. Nancy says:

    It’s not just Kim, it’s anybody. Some people have better shock absorbers than others. Kim was very stoic about their father’s death, while Khloe couldn’t deal with it or accept it till years later. I can’t articulate my feelings at the moment, on the run again, but I get what she’s saying.

    • Ann says:

      I feel like I get what she’s saying too. I would dare say it’s an almost healthy perspective but I think it comes easier to her because she is so self-absorbed that she can keep her attention off the traumas with sexy pictures. Apparently vanity proves to be a virtue for Kim.

    • Harryg says:

      Feeling things “more” does not make one weaker or a victim though. A lot of people are mildly psychopathic and do not really care.
      I’d rather feel more than less, even pain – I believe my highs are higher too. Being a cold personality would be awful (and I’m not talking about people who just put on an act and then secretly cry).

  5. Babadook says:

    Yes, Kaiser. That last paragraph sums it all up!

  6. Mabs A'Mabbin says:

    The only thing I can say is there are personalities who ‘play’ the victim in every aspect of their lives. They’re the annoying types who successfully manage to suck the life out of conversations. So while I agree on one side of the coin, attesting to not being a victim is actually blaming the victim, the other side addresses the tiresome traits of those who set up tents in the victim zone.

  7. Anna says:

    Thank you for what you wrote re: “victim” I’m so sick of this pseudo-The Secret nonsense that holds people accountable for the horrors that happen to them. Seriously, I’m so done. There are people who have been victimized and yes, they are victims. Allow them that instead of blaming them for what happened to them. I’m always amazed at the people who start spouting this stuff and it’s seriously so harmful.

    • Catarina says:

      Also, Kim has been fortunate in having led a life of great fortune–not just money, but luck–and very, very little trauma and tragedy. It’s very easy to say you “don’t have a victim’s mentality” (blaming/insulting actual victims, btw) when you’ve never actually BEEN victimized. (Her tape? Come on, she PLANNED its release: how did that upset, much less traumatize her? The theft in Paris is the only actual trauma this middle aged woman has ever experienced—and considering that she recently returned to Paris, dripping in expensive diamonds, tells me it did not exactly leave a psychic scar.) How arrogant for a non victim to state that she is not the “victim type”—when she has never even had her emotional strength tested or beaten down by such truly devastating things as childhood and/or adult sexual and physical abuse, rape, extreme poverty, chronic physical pain or life threatening illness, such as cancer, mental illness, racism, physical deformities—and any of the many things that actually are an ongoing and painful struggle to survive with. How dare she smugly, condescendingly speak of how she is a “victor”–not a victim– when she’s been handed virtually every stroke of good fortune in her life, and has never had to live with the doubt, severe depression, self hatred, PTSD, perpetual fear, guilt, and low self esteem that most survivors of extended misfortune and trauma must confront on a daily basis. Kim, you’re a non victim of LIFE–so far–so of course you don’t have a “victim mentality.”(Or what can also be called: a “survivor’s mentality.”) What a shockingly insipid, juvenile, entitled, offensive person she is.

  8. Loopy says:

    It’s not a ‘victor mentality’ it’s a judgemental ass wipe.

  9. TheHeat says:

    (Please be prepared for the coming of the apocalypse, because…)
    I see what she’s trying to say, here…albeit poorly, and with the impression of victim-shaming.
    You can have two people who have gone through the exact same experience/trauma, and they can both come out the other end of it in different ways.
    One person can use the trauma and turn it into something they learn from, even as a launchpad into something better.
    The other person may not have the ability to do that. That person may not be able to see the way out of the situation, and find that victim-hood becomes their comfort zone.

    • Carrie says:

      There is so much beyond her perspective which she is either ignorant about or is simply callous and cruel. There’s a sadistic bent to her life approach and viewpoints.

      Her comments about victims are painful to read. Kathy Griffin suggested Trump was aggressively stupid, and I agree. I view Kim and her family – all except Kourtney perhaps – as similar or the same as Trump and company.

    • Josephine says:

      Or possibly the one person doesn’t feel deeply or think deeply about anything, so it’s easier to move on. Or that same person has every resource in the world to allow them to “escape” the victim-mentality because in almost every way in life, she is not a victim.

      I get what people are saying about adopting a positive attitude, but truly no one really knows or understands another person’s entire history, so there is really ZERO reason to compare people’s ability to deal with a given circumstance.

  10. me says:

    Those pics ! Why does she always use nudity to get attention. Will she ever stop? I don’t think anyone cares anymore Kim !

  11. Amelie says:

    Yeah I don’t see what she is saying here as blaming and criticizing people who see themselves as victims per se… but at the same time I can totally see her thinking about her brother Rob as she says this. I know she has very little patience with Rob who she sees as attention-seeking due to his depression. Didn’t Rob leave her wedding early because she yelled at him about his depression or something? She’s just saying she herself has always overcome adversity and won’t let a difficult situation hold her back. She is definitely very stoic. But I don’t think she has much patience for people like Rob who need genuine professional help to get out of their sad place.

    Which I find ironic given that Kanye has a host of mental health problems and an ego complex, often casting himself as the “I am a misunderstood genius, a victim of a society that is not smart enough to understand my greatness.”

    • sassbr says:

      As someone who has been ” on the wagon: so to speak for clinical depression and bipolar disorder, I can see where Kim is coming from with this. My therapist equates clinical depression and other mental disorder treatments to addiction treatment-you will not get better if you do not take your health seriously. At a certain point, you have to do parts of recovery on your own-make yourself get the help. As a person who is on her medication and in her therapy routine, it can be very easy to become sort of holier-than-thou with other people who are not at that point in their recovery. I understand now how my family felt when they were watching me go through it. I think what’s harder here for Kim to understand is that he has endless amounts of money to get help and many people do not have that-I think she even said that on the show. He was self-medicating with sizzurp, fighting a food addiction, getting into toxic relationships with women like Black Chyna-that was probably very hard to watch.

  12. Meg says:

    glad that was the response to this BS from kim, this is exactly the message abusers send their victims, ‘stop being so sensitive’ ‘you’re just playing the role of a victim.’ coming from a bully like kim I find this very telling. she has the anger of Kanye and gets so mad whenever she’s called out on social media-her response is always, ‘oh yeah, well…i’m more famous than you!’ that’s literally all she cares about.

  13. elimaeby says:

    Those last two sentences are something I have needed to hear my entire life. Thank you, Kaiser. My (abusive) mother used to tell me all the time that I have a “victim mentality”. Any time I was bullied in school, harassed or assaulted by men, even abused by her, it was my fault because I was weak. F@#k that. I’m a strong person because I am still kind, loving and don’t take my past hurts out on others. I strive to be better to people than they were.

    I’m putting my soapbox away now. But this was the pick-me-up I needed today.

    • ChillyWilly says:

      @ elimaeby
      So well said! Only mean assholes like Kim victim blame. I’m proud of you for breaking the abuse cycle. Love to you! 💞

    • Snowflake says:

      It’s not your fault that others chose to abuse you. They are the bad people, not you. What others choose to do is not your fault.

  14. Lala11_7 says:

    I used to not give two iotas about Kim Kardashian…I thought she was vapid, money grubbing and exploitative….but HEY…I didn’t knock her or her families’ hustle…

    Now…several years down the road…as I’ve seen the horrific blowback that the Kardashian Effect has had on society…I gotta say…

    I’m REALLY starting to despise them…

    Each and everyone (except…of course…the babies…I PITY THOSE CHILDREN…ALL OF THEM!)

  15. indefatigable says:

    We all get carried out in a box in the end, Kim.

  16. Gaby says:

    She’s like Peak Plastic in that pic with the leggings.

  17. Justmyopinion says:

    What’s she been the victim of? Not that fake Paris robbery, that’s for sure.
    Victim, ha. Born into wealth and privilege, but she’s overcome so much, guys! What, getting laughed at for her bullshit?

  18. ChillyWilly says:

    A) I am.shocked Kim knows the word “victor” AND used it correctly in a sentence.
    2) I wish I had just one iota of her self confidence and DGAF attitude. Just a little…not full on Kardashian vapid narcissism but maybe worry less about what others think of me.
    C) Chicago West is beautiful and that silver catsuit makes me uncomfortable.

    • Catfoodjunkie says:

      You can’t possibly believe that Kim doesn’t care what people think of her. She craves affirmation- and when she doesn’t get it, she’s vicious.

    • NPK says:

      Are you kidding me!!!?? Of courses this worthless POS cares what people think about her. It’s so obvious.

  19. Naddie says:

    Now, a self help book on the way.

  20. Xtrology says:

    Kim, you don’t have a victim mentality because you are in a period in astrology called Jupiter. Only a handful of people get this. It’s beyond winning the lottery. It gives you a pass on everything. But it will be over and I totally wonder how you will handle that. How will you handle a life that filled with the adversities that normal people deal with everyday? I think, based on what I know about you, you’ll totally fall apart, because you don’t have the skill level leading up to it. You don’t live in reality at all. You live in unreality.

  21. Abby says:

    I think she’s referring to resiliency, but instead she’s North-ing and Saint-ing up her response. Meaning the narc inside of her has to take it next level in naming it. She’s a VICTOR, not a victim. I also think she doesn’t have tons of self-reflection but that makes it easier to stay in the present moment and projecting into the future with her next step, whether it’s her next outfit or next million making venture. People who experience trauma (I have PTSD myself) are often trapped in reliving traumatic events when they get triggered. One of the treatments for PTSD is learning distraction and staying present in the moment. I’d say Kim’s life in general lends to a lot of distractions to keep her from really feeling deeply nuanced emotions like grief. She also has the financial ability to afford herself tremendous physical security, and she has an amazing support system built in with her enmeshed family. So in terms of being pretty resilient, I’m just not that surprised. Good for her. But put her in a situation where she’s had to cut ties with her toxic family, she’s a stay at home mom, no means of supporting herself, nobody cares about her ass or sex appeal except those who have victimized her – not sure she’d be quite as resilient. Think about her ragey perfectionism when something doesn’t go right or looks wrong – she lashes out. So her real coping skills underneath all the wealth and fame and extensive family and fan worship may not be so fantastic.

  22. Nymue says:

    I actually see the part about “victim mentality” a bit different:
    There are victims of all kinds of crimes, including abuse, harassment. It’s not their fault, not even a bit. No discussion!
    Not having a victim mentality means something different to me: Being self confident, standing up for oneself and showing this to the world. Being prepared to fight for your own survival.
    I’ve never been the victim of a crime, but maybe “not having a victim mentality” is equivalent to “being a survivor” instead “being a victim”. A mental state of mind.

  23. Yes Doubtful says:

    Kim, Kanye and Caitlyn all need to go away with the dumb crap that they spew. Is she implying that people with PTSD have a “victim mentality”. One reason that she is able to move forward is she’s an empty vessel. All she cares about is herself, her looks, her money, her brand.

  24. MrsPanda says:

    She’s been cushioned all her life and never really had to struggle. Losing her dad is the only difficulty she’s faced. Born into wealth, privilege, the golden child and ”beautiful one” in the family. She’s had a blessed life and she should be grateful and humble for that, rather than smug and judgemental. She does seem to be someone who tries to take control of her life, as do many victims of child abuse or trauma. They just have far greater challenges to deal with than the trauma of a butt-fat-transfer being slightly larger on one cheek :)

  25. Jessica says:

    This is a milder more convoluted variation of kanye attacking poc and using racist stereotype about welfare and absent dads. They are cut from the same clout. Both of them are from upper class or middle class homes and have had a privileged upbringing and has no idea about the struggles working class people go through and obviously neither has any emotional intelligence or intellectual capacity to dig deeper. No wonder they both are trump supporters/ apologists.

  26. Sara says:

    I think everyone is confusing the victim mentality with actually BEING a victim of a crime or something. Victim mentality doesn’t have anything to do with people who are victims of crimes, it has to do with the way people do or don’t take responsibility for their actions.

    ‘Victim mentality’ or ‘self victimization’ is the psychological characteristic of projecting responsibility for one’s circumstances on outside forces and denying any personal agency or responsibility for the outcomes.

    Agency is the power to determine one’s reactions and outcomes to situations, even those situations in which you have only limited control. So I might not have been able to prevent my sexual assault, but I do get to decide who I am afterwards, instead of projecting responsibility for my actions afterwards on that single event.

    So I can be a victim of sex crime, (true) but I can reject the victim mentality and chose a positive way of dealing with my PTSD, depression and anxiety. I don’t have to let my sexual assault define the rest of my life because I get to chose how I react to things and what kind of person I become. I get that after years of therapy, no one can pull me out of the black hole but myself.

    So yeah, I totally get what Kim is saying. Once you take responsibility for yourself, take responsibility for the way you chose to deal with your trauma, some people probably do feel like victors instead of victims. And just because a person is wealthy or famous doesn’t mean they don’t suffer. Just look at how many wealthy famous people overdose. Clearly fame isn’t all it’s cut out to be. I’d say being robbed, tied up and put in a bathtub was probably pretty traumatic for anyone, even Kim.

    • Naddie says:

      It could be but the “victor” part kinda killed it. She sounds like those motivational speeches.

    • RubberDucky says:

      Yes, it’s vital to take responsibility for yourself but sometimes this “anti victim mentality” thing means bad behaviour doesn’t get called out. For example, you don’t make a complaint because you don’t want the “victim mentality,” when if you make the complaint the same bad behaviour won’t get a chance to be repeated. Life is uncertainy and we’re all vulnerable to some extent. We don’t have full control over anything. Admitting that and admitting bad behaviour should get called out and so calling it out doesn’t always mean you’re playing victim.

    • NPK says:

      This chick is so vapid, I cannot believe some people are actually defending her stupidity, and her stupid comments.

  27. Boo says:

    Sorry but I hate this bish and her empty life. I could give a shit what she thinks about anything. I just wish her and her grifting family would just go away.

    • NPK says:

      i agree. I cannot understand why so many people actually care about what she says and thinks. It says a lot about our society.

  28. RubberDucky says:

    How much makeup do the Kard-Jenners and people like Huda Kattan encourage people to use?!!! You absorb literally around 5 pounds of stuff you put on your face and skin, on average, per year! How much extra work do your liver and lymphatic system have to do to excrete that stuff?!

    One great thing you can do for your health is to use natural products as much as you can and wear makeup and foundation only when you really need it. Kim is very boring. Only just mad it through the quotes.

  29. Anare says:

    I didn’t read this article but because I don’t give a rat’s ass about anything she says. Just looked at the photo and want to know why she is not being called out for photo shopping her pics to make her look like she is African American. Is this not cultural appropriation? Why doesn’t anyone address this?