Michelle Obama offered Melania Trump any FLOTUS help, Melania turned her down

President Trump and First Lady Melania

I’m still haunted by these photos of the Trumps and the Obamas on Inauguration Day, less than two years ago. Michelle Obama’s face is the one I’m drawn too, because it almost like she was trying to channel – to the country, or to the world – that none of this was right. As Michelle promotes her memoir, Becoming, she’s answering questions about what she was feeling on that dark day in January 2017. She wrote in her memoir: “Someone from Barack’s administration might have said that the optics there were bad, that what the public saw didn’t reflect the President’s reality or ideals, but in this case, maybe it did. Realizing it, I made my own optic adjustment. I stopped even trying to smile.”

While Michelle didn’t seem to have a particular problem with Melania Trump on the day of the inauguration, apparently Melania took issue with Michelle. While Michelle notes in her book that Laura Bush encouraged Michelle to call with any FLOTUS questions, and Laura really opened up a friendship, Michelle says she tried to do the same with Melania, to no avail:

When asked about Michelle’s statement, Melania’s unhinged spokesperson issued this statement:

“Mrs. Trump is a strong and independent woman…” If you have to say that about your boss every week, guess what? She’s not a strong and independent woman. She’s a lazy doormat who stays with a serial adulterer, fascist and white supremacist. Because she agrees with him. And because she doesn’t want advice from a black woman.

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Inaguration of President Donald Trump

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  1. BlueSky says:

    And she’s doing such a bang up job all by herself 🙄. Be best…..

    • Tiny Martian says:

      Lol, right?

      A “strong independent woman”? Nope. Insert “lazy, self-centered trophy wife” instead.

      If she is currently being her “best”, then that’s just pitiful.

    • BearcatLawyer says:

      The team that let her wear the infamous Zara jacket in public. Real winners there! /s

      • Nic919 says:

        She’s historic in that no other First Lady in recent history has ever caused controversy for such a dumb ass move. The other women had class, even if some were dealing with their own personal issues like Betty Ford or Pat Nixon.

      • MyBlackCat says:

        She truly sets women back a few decades- the 1st spineless gangster moll of a FLOTUS.

      • norah says:

        she wore that jacket herself

    • notthisagain says:

      Why would Melania accept help for a job she has no intention of doing , and why ask when you can just plagiarise Instead? we can look forward to Melania new book “Be Becoming ” LOL

      • Pandy says:

        LOL I’m laughing but IF she was able to string together enough coherent sentences to write a book … you’re right. She’d plagiarize it.

      • Bettyrose says:

        Personally, I’m looking foward to reading Melania’s accounts of growing up in south side Chicago before going to Princeton.

      • KC says:

        NOTTHISAGAIN, your comment just made me realize that SHE’LL be coming out with a book because that’s what former FLOTUSes do, right? I’m having a hard time imagining what that book would contain.🤔

      • Lilly says:

        @Bettyrose I’m glad I wasn’t drinking anything when I read your comment. Bwahaha. I thought it was a joke that I kind of browsed through previously, but Melania seriously received a “genius visa.” It sort of astounded me, but then I realized that I’m just being naive. This pictures still hit me in the gut – terrible day.

    • Flan says:

      From one of the best First Ladies, to the absolute worst.

  2. STRIPE says:

    I wonder if it has anything to do with Michelle at all.. or is it she just doesn’t care, period, about being First Lady. Why would she ask for help when she does nothing? My suspicion is she doesn’t ask Mrs Bush for help either.

    • Louise177 says:

      Considering Melania hasn’t done anything as First Lady I doubt not asking for advice has anything to do with Michelle. There’s nothing to ask.

      • Ama says:

        It needs a certain amount of braincells and interest in her job, to form questions-nothing this stereotypical trophy wife can offer.

    • Elkie says:

      She doesn’t care. Which would be fine if US taxpayers weren’t having to foot the bill for The Queen of All Welfare Queen’s lifestyle.

      I hope Cadet-the-Raindrops-are-making-my-Bone-Spurs-flare-up lives forever.

      • Jan90067 says:

        Only if that life is in prison, where he and his complicit crew, including Daughter-Wife, Trophy-Wife, and Neutered Ken Doll SOL belong!

    • Esmom says:

      It could be both. I think she doesn’t really care about the FLOTUS role and I would guess even if she did have questions she would never reach out to Michelle, mostly because if that got back to Trump he’d probably flip.

      And I can’t imagine she talks to Laura Bush, either. The Bushes are not fans of the Trumps if I’m not mistaken.

    • Montréalaise says:

      It’s been obvious from the beginning that Melania never wanted to be First Lady, didn’t want her husband to run for President (not that he ever consulted her) and has just fulfilled the minimum requirements of the role. She’s just not interested and that’s why she has never reached out to Michelle Obama, so why does Kaiser automatically leap to the conclusion that it’s because she wouldn’t want to take advice from a black woman? Not everything is due to racism.

      • Juls says:

        @ Motrealaise, when it comes to Melania Trump, it IS about racism. She is racist. See: the birther movement that she participated in with gusto. When you are a racist, every interaction you have with a POC is influenced by your hatred of that person based solely upon the color or their skin. So, yes, equating her actions to racism in ANY instance relating to Michelle Obama is justified.

      • Onemoretime says:

        I guess everyone has for gotten she was front and center when her lunatic husband was spouting off that President Obama birth certificate was a fake and he was not a citizen and should not be president. Yes that Melania! I wish people would stop trying to make her out to be this poor whoa is me damsel in distress. She a evil piece of work like her husband. I have no doubt she shares all his views.

      • Stephanie says:

        Are you serious? Trump and Melania have been racist against the Obama’s for a long time. So yes it is a strong possibilty that it is about racism.

    • elimaeby says:

      I know someone who works for the government in DC, and they have it on good authority that Melania has never lived in the White House. It’s doubtful she has ever even spent the night there. She flies in for an occasional photo op an leaves. She does not care about being FLOTUS at all.

      • Nic919 says:

        I am not sure if you have posted before or if it’s someone else, but there have been comments made that Melania lives with her parents and Barron in a house in DC.

      • Dara says:

        That sounds expensive. Glad my tax dollars are being used wisely for something so beneficial to my country and its citizens.

      • Karen says:

        Also heard she resides in home in Maryland near Baron’s school.

        She must be getting a large payday to keep up this facade of a marriage. And she is still awful.

  3. Flying fish says:


  4. Betsy says:

    I love that Mrs. Obama is an adult, and as such, she usually has her game face on, but she could not stop her face from showing how she really felt on Inauguration Day. (Of course we all felt violated seeing the Obamas have to make polite physical contact with the Drumpfs).

    Of course Melania didn’t ask for help. She was there to make money off the office, not serve the country.

  5. Lindy79 says:

    Even strong independent women can take advice from someone with more experience, they can learn from, it’s called humility and growth. Expect no less from this first lady however.
    She’s as bad as her husband.

  6. agnes says:

    Also: she was spreading the same, hateful birther-nonsense as that festering pile of bad spray-tan she’s married to.

    #BeBest my ass.

  7. RBC says:

    Of course Melania turned downed Michelle Obama’s offer of any FLOTUS help. Everyone knows the real FLOTUS is Princess Nagini. Melania is way too busy with her “Be Best” anti bullying campaign

    • Lightpurple says:

      Nagini doesn’t do FLOTUS work. She is working directly on issues of agency policies that Cabinet members should be handling.

      • RBC says:

        I assumed that she had taken over most of the FLOTUS role behind the scene. Also I forgot to give you credit for the “Princess Nagini” nickname. Your posts are very informative and when you use her full name it makes me laugh out loud.

      • Indiana Joanna says:

        LP, What is your take on Grifter getting her own tax payer funded tour of Africa? Mel can’t like that. It seems like Vank is eager to use our tax dollars to make every business connection she can before thrown out or imprisoned. And Newsweek has an article about Grifters’ charm offensive. Bahhhhhhh.

        Frankly, I don’t know how much I can take of this hideous, non-tax paying, bribe-other-countries-for +900 million, and collude in Khashoggi murder. As well as sell the entire country to Putin. The Dem’s House investigations can’t come fast enough. And what happened to the RICO indictments?

      • Lightpurple says:

        @RBC, there have been cases when daughters, sisters, even nieces have taken the First Lady role, usually when the president’s wife is dead or sick or he never married but when they did so, they worked out of the East Wing and focused on events like the Easter Egg Roll and the congressional picnic, charitable initiatives, meeting with military families and visiting schools and hospitals. They have stayed away from the West Wing and policy matters. Rare exceptions have been Hillary Clinton’s healthcare work and Ellen Wilson, who is suspected of having run our government secretly for the last year of his term after he suffered a massive stroke. Her Most Corrupt Princess Nagini of the Most Sacred Horcruxed Vagina has plunked herself into a West Wing office, hired a large staff at our expense and is dabbling in foreign policy, education, and labor as if she were a Cabinet member illegally.

        @Indiana Joanna I think it is absolutely outrageous and infuriating and have let my Senators know that I think Lindsey Graham should face formal reprimand on the Senate floor for his part in legitimizing this flagrant and unethical misuse of taxpayer monies.

      • Nic919 says:

        Another more specific nepotism rule is going to have to be created once these leeches are out. Ivanka and Jared have run of the White House like they are co presidents. And of course Dump doesn’t control them.

    • Himmiefan says:

      The White House stenographer said that various people in the Obama administration reached out to help the Trump people with advice on how to do everyday things like how the WH runs, etc., and no one took them up on the offer.

  8. SamC says:

    I don’t have a great opinion of Melania and she has made her choices; even if she wanted to she wouldn’t as she knows her husband would have blown a gasket if she had reached out to Michelle O.

    • Deedee says:

      So true. Don’t even know why this is a story. Obama was asked if trump reached out to her for advice, and Obama said no. End of story. I’m sure Donny didn’t ask the former prez for any advice as well.

      • Esmom says:

        I think it’s a story, as unsurprising as it is, because it shows how yet again the Trumps have disregarded norms and have zero ability to be diplomatic or civil. The kinship between the Presidents has a rich history and the Trumps don’t even care. Honestly it’s best this way, anyway. They don’t belong.

      • Ama says:

        Fine. But then, a strong independent woman wouldn’t have a press spokesperson react and would have just ingnored it.

    • This sounds like yet more commentary on the line of thinking that Melania is some kind of victim in this scenario. She has never described herself as a victim and was out there full force pushing the “birther” racist lie, just like her husband.

      Melania has money, a very public image, and secret service for the rest of her life to protect herself and her son. She’s isn’t afraid to refuse to hold Twitler’s in public, on camera, and everyone laughs. She’s exactly where she wants to be, whatever her reasons are.

      It’s a story because she doesn’t care about her duty as First Lady and this is just another story that underscores that fact.

  9. Flying fish says:

    Strong and independent are not words that I would choose to describe Melania Trump.

  10. Eleonor says:

    Melania has signed to be the trophy wife and obviously she doesn’t give a crap about anything, except herself.

  11. Lightpurple says:

    Hey, Steph Grisham? Her professional team? In what fields are they professionals? Certainly not protocol.

  12. SM says:

    Well, since Melania really is just a puppy on a leash you try to pull in the direction you want, it makes perfect sence, she could seek advice if she was intended om usuing her possitiom as a First Lady, since she has zero interest im actually being the First Lady she has no reason to ask for any advice. Now, if Michelle was a specialist in how to turn Melania’s face into more cat-like, I am sure Melania would put her on spped dial. Also I expect her trash of a husband to insernt some of his racist, sexist shit lies into this story in 3, 2, 1…

  13. skipper says:

    For any woman to offer help to the new woman filling her position is quite amazing to me. I have taken positions and was thrown to the wolves when I really, really needed help. No training. No advice. I was terrified as I’m sure Melania was. I wish Melania would have seen the value in Michelle’s offer. That doesn’t happen very often and it is something to value and treasure.

  14. grabbyhands says:

    Melania never reached out because she has zero interest in the job. It’s something she is occasionally required to appear for and that is about as much effort as she puts into it.

    Michelle Obama withstood 8 years of unending hatred and dehumanization for pretty much everything she said and did. I mean, she was viciously maligned for having the gall to try and get kids to eat better and be more active, and for trying to provide the kind of help that would allow them and their communities to be so. And two years after the election, people are still trying it.
    (I swear, only in America do people consider it some kind of patriotic badge of honor to keep themselves and their kids as unhealthy as possible).

    I’m glad she’s finally speaking her truth. She’s shown a lot more restraint and class than I would have in the same situation.

    Those pictures bring back bad memories. I remember going into work and the lobby TV was showing Obama and 45 sitting in the Oval Office and I was trying very hard not to cry.

    • Esmom says:

      Inauguration day was dark indeed. I was in bed with the flu, just so sick, and listened to his speech on the radio. I remember getting more horrified by the minute, as any hope I had that Trump might try to be presidential just died.

    • lucy2 says:

      I did my best to avoid the news that day. I still won’t watch or listen to anything with him speaking.
      I really miss the Obamas, and so appreciate all they did.

  15. ItReallyIsYou,NotMe says:

    Wasn’t there an article on Melania right after the election that interviewed her roommate from her early days modeling in New York? As I recall, the roommate said that Melania didn’t socialize much; she worked out and went on dates with wealthy men. Maybe Melania is one of those women who don’t form close female friendships. If so, then it would fit her pattern to not accept help from Michelle or any other FLOTUS. On another note, how great is it that Michelle Obama and Laura Bush have supported each other despite the rancor in that election.

  16. Rapunzel says:

    Mel would’ve stayed in NYC if she could’ve. She was never planning to do any FLOTUS work, and still does less than the minimum.

  17. minx says:

    Michelle is the only real FLOTUS.

  18. Nev says:

    You’d have to be doing something in order to ask for any kind of help.

  19. Who ARE These People? says:

    So appreciative that Michelle Obama chose to show her real feelings. Women are too often expected to be “gracious” in the face of insult and offense. Especially as Michelle has such naturally fine manners, it means a lot when she says and shows that some people are just not good, not for her, not for her family, and not for the country. The Trumps went over the line and still go over the line. No need to put on a happy face.

  20. Darla says:

    I remember thinking to myself that Michelle was struggling with the inauguration even more than her husband. Perhaps as much as Hillary, in a different way. It would have hurt me to greet these two, and I understood that it hurt her too. And I was so ashamed that we inflicted that on her.

  21. anp says:

    She sure could use Michelle help.

  22. Adorable says:

    You should’ve included the pic where Michelle Is “unintentionally”giving the WTF when Face When Melania Gave her that gift box,OMG that literally made my day that horrid day!

    • Kristen820 says:

      IDK that it was traditional, but I actually thought the gift was a kind gesture. Like when visitors bring the hostess a bottle of wine or something of the like.

      ‘Course, that’s not meant to convey that the guests are moving in…

      • Adorable says:

        I Suppose it was,But I just found Michelle’s Facial expression delicious.

      • outoftheshadows says:

        Apparently Michelle implied later that the WTF face was because Dump leaped out of the car without regard for his wife, and kind of left her in the dust while he was glad-handing Barack Obama. Melania looked a bit like the maid who was left to walk ten steps behind her employer. THAT was what Michelle was WTFing about.

  23. Snowflake says:

    Man, it just shows you how classy the Obamas are by how they dealt with the Trumps. I wouldn’t have been able to keep my mouth shut after all the lies that Trump spread. I damn sure wouldn’t have offered Melania any help!

  24. Rhys says:

    Did Michelle take up Laura Bush on her offer? It’s polite and gracious to offer help. It’s not expected for the other side to follow up.

    • Betsy says:

      It’s a small sorority (still just a sorority after all these years, but someday there might be a First Gentleman), but I understand that they do try to extend friendship to one another as it’s such an exclusive club. How many living former First Ladies do we have? Four?

  25. Gigi La Moore says:

    Nice of Michelle to offer but it’s good Maalox said no. I do not want my Obamas tainted by those people.

  26. Mela says:

    To be fair, if I were Melania and needed advice on how to be the most useless and ignorant Flotus, Michelle Obama would probably be the last person I would call too.

  27. Molly says:

    I think of this often, but I hope Melania is MISERABLE every single second of her life as FLOTUS.

  28. Oliviajoy1995 says:

    Maybe she’s embarrassed to reach out to Michelle given all the crap Trump still talks about Obama. But my guess is Melania is just biding her time until Trump is no longer in office and doesn’t care for any advice.

  29. HeyThere! says:

    Of course Michelle did because she is a class act! Love her so much!

  30. Amelie says:

    I saw the interview and what Michelle actually said is that she offered to be there if Melania wanted any help just like Laura Bush had extended the same guiding hand to her. Robin Roberts followed up with “Has she reached out to you?” or something like that and Michelle said she had not. So Melania never turned her down and said “I don’t want your help” but she hasn’t sought her out which isn’t exactly surprising. Melania is barely interested in being First Lady so why would she reach out to Michelle for help? She’s fine doing the bare minimum.

  31. TW says:

    Can we just talk about how beautiful Michelle looks in these photos? Sad but so beautiful.

    • Kitten says:

      She looks great in the video clip, too. Love that tan suit with the nude lip…glossy, full hair.
      Mrs. Obama is truly beautiful inside and out.

  32. Beach Dreams says:

    Of course she wasn’t receptive to Michelle’s offers of advice. She never wanted this position in the first place but now she has to pretend to care. Don’t believe a word of her idiot husband’s claims that she encouraged him to run.

  33. Betty Whoo says:

    Als I am a robot, im being controled, and the one in control, doesnt except other(s their valuable) ‘input’

  34. Bellaboo says:

    This will be my last visit to Celebitchy. This used to be my favorite site for gossip. The writing and commentary was so funny and entertaining. It seems these days the only things you post are focused on political crap or the royal family. Who gives a crap about that on a celebrity gossip site? See ya.

    • Juls says:

      You…….you must know, that Kaiser actually asked us readers, a while back, if we wanted her to continue these posts, and the answer was a resounding YES. There are still plenty of celebrity gossip posts, every single day. Click on those instead of these. It’s not complicated. Its not all about you, ya know. Don’t let the door hit you on the way out.

  35. Joh says:

    If Melania was a strong and independent woman would she have married Trump?
    Or did she just take the first shortcut she was offered.

  36. Mel says:

    Why would you take help for a job you know you’re barely going to do? Just be glad she didn’t waste your time and you didn’t have to suffer her presence or that of her odious husband and step-children.

    • Amelie says:

      Agreed, no need to waste someone’s time when you know you’re going to sit on your ass all day doing nothing. She has no intention of working or doing anything as a FLOTUS. She will just collect her money and be the trophy wife that she is.

  37. Karly says:

    Melania lied about the coat, lied about her education. She was promoting her jewelry line years ago and commented how her education in design has been instrumental in designing ideas. In her Africa interview, she claims the coat was intended for the media whereas prior to that, she claims it had no meaning. She is an uneducated trophy wife whose claim to fame was nude modeling. Why would she want to take Michele Obama’s lead.!!! Michele is a powerhouse who worked hard as first lady. There is no interest whatsoever on Melania’s part to take initiative or work towards making the world a better place. She is simply a prop for photos where she can showcase her pricey designer clothing and latest plastic surgery. I can’t wait to celebrate when the house of cards starts tumbling down.

  38. Veronica S. says:

    Annnnnnnnd…Melania just called for Mira Ricardel to be fired. CNN is calling it a “historic move” by a first lady, which I feel is the polite way of saying, “These people just consistently lower the bar for white (house) trash.”

  39. Fabulous says:

    “When she needs advice on any issue, she seeks it from her professional team within the White House.”

    Yeah because how many ex-FLOTUSs are there in the White House? Thought it was lovely of Michelle to offer, even if she was just extending the same courtesy that had been extended to her. Do you think Melania will offer the next one?

    • It’s tradition for exiting First Ladies to give a tour of the White House to the incoming First Lady, so no, Melania will not extend any courtesies to the next First Lady. She doesn’t care, she doesn’t care to the point where she has it stenciled on her jackets.

  40. Chef Grace says:

    I honestly have nothing to say. Fembot Melania 💅 leaves me speechless sometimes.
    Mrs. Obama is a class act.

  41. SpillDatT says:

    Malaria Trump is always attempting to be #BeBest.

    She makes me sick & I have zero sympathy for her. She is nothing but a birther. I have nothing against gold diggers, but she has no redeeming qualities. Mentioning Michele in the same sentence or article as her is an insult to Mrs. Obama.

    Malaria, Thank you, next.

  42. virginfangirl says:

    Melanie is independent? Is this opposite day?

  43. A says:

    She didn’t ask for help because she didn’t want the help. She didn’t want the help because she is not interested in doing much of a job at all, let alone a good one. If she cared about her position or what she could accomplish as First Lady, she’d use the available resources, but in this case, she just doesn’t gaf.

  44. Amelie says:

    Wtf does being a “strong and independent woman have to do with asking for help?? Even strong women and strong men seek help.

  45. Enormous Coat says:

    People don’t ask for advice when they don’t care. Melania did not get a genius visa through virtue of any work she did or abilities she had. She’s a gross, grifting conwoman and her “professional team” consists of a bunch of bottom-feeders because like attracts like. Vile. Just vile.