For several years, it felt like Jennifer Lawrence kept getting Oscar nominations for merely breathing on camera, or being wildly miscast in some David O. Russell film. But that eventually stopped. And now it’s happening to Emma Stone. Emma is the new J. Law – nominated for awards every time she turns up. And yes, I’m still pissed off about La La Land and her Best Actress win. But today is a new day, and The Favourite is an Oscar favorite. Emma Stone, Olivia Colman and Rachel Weisz will likely all be Oscar nominated for it. Hell, Emma might even WIN. And so she’s still promoting the thing, and she covers the February issue of British Vogue. Some highlights:
On turning 30 in November: “I got gloomy for about a week. But realised the most interesting part about becoming an adult is most things become bittersweet. I’m still finding my voice.”
Life lessons: “It’s OK if not everybody likes you. So that was a major lesson, not falling over myself to win over the unwinnable.” What else? “Nobody knows what they’re doing! We’re all just a bunch of people trying to figure out how to get through the day.”
Taking a year off: “I haven’t worked since last December – by the time I work again, it will have been 14 months.” What has she been doing? “F**k, I do not know. I didn’t learn a language, I didn’t learn to cook, I’ve been a little… drifty.”
I space out like that sometimes, and someone is like “what did you do this weekend?” and I’m like “ugh… I, um, didn’t do anything.” And to do nothing much for 14 months? Bless. I wish I could just recharge like that. Turning 30 is a bitch, but I appreciate how hopeful and “over it” she sounds – I feel like that’s a Millennial thing, where your 20s are absolute garbage and then you feel super-comfortable and wise in your 30s.
Photos and cover courtesy of British Vogue.
I’m turning 27 this year, single, along with 2 of my friends who are freaking out about it, however I’m just zen about it all. Should I be worried too 😱 Lol
27 is soooo young. What are you worried about?
I’m trying not to sound dismissive because I understand that turning 30 is a milestone and can feel scary, but as someone who is creeping towards 50, I assure you that leaving your 20s isn’t nearly as bad as you think! You couldn’t pay me to go back to my 20s – and I had a reasonably good experience in my 20s, too!
One of my favorite quotes is something along the lines of, “in your 20s, you care what people think about you. In your 40s, you stop caring what people think. In your 60s, you realize they weren’t thinking about you at all.”
Nah. I’m turning 29 in May. I’ve been going through a slight yearly panic every year since turning about 24 haha. I’m married… but we don’t have kids. And my husbands younger sibling has two, so there’s a lot of questions like “oh when are you guys going to have some?” “you’re going to be old when it’s the ‘right’ time”. And I have chronic pain issues, so I feel kind of like I’m floundering. But for me…. there’s no real rush. If we truly want to be parents, and my health doesn’t allow for it, there’s always adoption, fostering, and so many other things that can be done.
But despite the logical side of me saying “your job is fine, your marriage is fine, you don’t need to rush to have kids” etc etc I still have the full on panic from time to time. I think it’s normal. But I also think there’s no ‘right’ timeline for everyone, and people need to stfu when they bug about certain things.
27 was the hardest age for me to turn. I was unhappy with my current career situation, my long-term boyfriend and I were not heading in the same direction and I was living overseas. It wasn’t about the age, it was about where my life was at that age.
I wrote a journal entry for what I wanted my life to be and by the time I was 28, I moved back to my home country, had a fabulous new job, and was newly dating the man who is now my husband.
I am about to turn 42, and while I carefully botox the lines on my forehead, I don’t mind the age – because I am happy with how my life is.
I turned 30 last year with no significant milestones under my belt. No marriage, no kids, no house, a career that is basically a collection of contracts and feels like it barely moves. Sometimes I work second jobs to pay rent. Being a millenial fucking blows.
But there is a lot of relief in knowing that day by day, I’m OK. Maybe this is what my life is supposed to be. Maybe it’s all leading to something. Meanwhile, I’ve become the kind of person who learns and adapts quickly. I have so many skills. I have more friends then I can name. Life can surprise you.
Turn 30 this July.
Single, no house, no kids
BUT so many other things 🙂
Travelled heaps (46 countries), lots of close meaningful relationships (friends & family), finally in a job I love that also has a future, and just generally comfortable in my own skin.
Now just need to pay my pesky credit cards off…..
I actually feel like 30 doesn’t feel like a huge deal. I still feel/look/act pretty young, but also less drifty (to use Emma’s words) than I did at 25.
30 is only 1/3 ish of my life – plenty more to come!
I remember 27 was like the most horrible year. I had to take a former employer to court, was gagged with a NDA and non compete from working with rival companies, in a sh*tastic relationship with a manbaby, and without a job and running low on savings….. 28 was transitional, bought house, ended that loser relationship, devastatingly crashed my fav car. Fast forward 29 managed to navigate out of a “we’re separated—in truth not really” situationship then met my fiance and at 31 were getting married.
Like 30’s is kinda whatever you make it….its like to be lit or not to be LIT LOL
if that makes sense.
@ Mika
I’m about a decade older than you. I remember in my 20’s thinking I’d be married by 26 or 27 and have kids soon after. That didn’t happen. Then I thought ok I still have my 30’s…it’ll happen. Nope didn’t happen. The best thing to do is just enjoy each day and don’t have any expectations in life. You’ll only be disappointed if things don’t happen when/how you want them to. Also remember we are all on our own paths. We don’t all have to live the same life. There is more to life than getting married and having kids. People tell me I’m the lucky one. You’d be surprised at how many people regret getting married and having kids (though it’s taboo to admit it). I wish I had enjoyed my 20’s and 30’s more but I spent that time worrying. I still worry (it’s human to) but now I no longer have any expectations.
Omg 27 is EMPIRICALLY young! Please don’t make yourself feel old before you are. That will happen whether you want it to or not when you turn 40. Please enjoy how young you are while you are young! And don’t let anxiety about your age and being single lead you to make poor decisions!
Glad I’m not the only one who thinks she didn’t deserve that Oscar for LaLaLand.
You aren’t in the minority. I got the vibe Emma didn’t think she deserved it either.
her acceptance speech seemed to admit as much. it’s not that she doesn’t have it in her to deserve it, I just don’t think that performance was it.
“It’s OK if not everybody likes you. ”
I think that’s a hard lesson to learn, and I’m doing my best to get it, ahha. But it’s easier said than done, and I think a lot of women especially struggle with that. We’re so conditioned to be sweet and lovely and inoffensive, that a lot of the times it gets translated into being a doormat to protect other peoples’ feelings. Beyond that, it’s just hard to know someone won’t like you no matter what you do. I’m a weird mixture of really disliking social situations/being SUPER social/busy (I really need to retreat to recharge) BUT also wanting to be adored. I’m basically a human cat.
Beyond that, I’m kind of glad she just GENUINELY took a year to do nothing. I feel like there’s so much pressure to do something ‘important’ with all of your time off that you don’t necessarily do what’s best for your own mental/physical health. I personally get bored and have a pretty short attention span for a lot of things, so I understand the struggle of wanting to get something done, but also really really just wanting to do nothing.
For me my late teens and early 20s were garbage in terms of a lack of assertiveness, knowledge of feminism and what my rights/healthy boundaries are-those things contributed to being in crappy relationships where I was taken for granted, neglected, and walked all over. Lots of young women at that age seem to feel this way too: wanting to be validated and not feeling like anything besides a guy would do that for you. How many examples do many of us have of a female friend we think so highly of dating a loser and her personality just fades away and she turns into this girl clinging to her phone available to him on a whim and constantly putting her female friends last as a consolation prize only seeing you if her boyfriend isn’t available? Friends she had much, much longer than she’s known this boyfriend. One told us her boyfriend didn’t like us so all of us hanging out together wasn’t an option when we suggested it. We hadn’t met her boyfriend yet let alone spoke to him, but he didn’t like us? Isolating someone makes it much easier to control them- that’s what he was doing. I’m grateful my female friends grew out of that and found good men to marry. I myself had such low self esteem I found it implausible that a guy would be interested in me so friends told me I pushed any guy who away who seemed to show any attention because I assumed he wasn’t really showing me attention
For the FIRST time in 43 years…I’m going to boycott the Oscars…after their deaf-tone, ham-fisted handling regarding the headline presenter…and KNOWING that they are going to nominate “Green Book”…for a BUNCH of awards…a bastardized screenplay with a racist Trumpest and sexual perv serving it up on a putrid platter…
I’m over it…
Utterly….
Emma’s makeup and outfit in the header picture…IS GLORIOUS…and I’ve always enjoyed her as a performer…yet, I STILL can’t bring myself to watch “La-La-Land”….
I wonder why?!?!
I fretted about turning 30, & looking back I can tell you it was a waste of time!
Really the only reason I was freaked out is because my hubby & I hadn’t had children yet. We wanted to, but we just weren’t ready financially, academically, etc.
I’d had so many relatives scare me into thinking I’d be infertile that I was a mess about it starting at age 27. Ugh.
Waiting was the absolute right choice for us though, no regrets! I had my son at age 32 & then my daughter 3 years later.
Now that my 40th birthday is on the horizon I’m totally cool with it, I really DGAF! 😏
I mean, I enjoy doing nothing of my weekend and sometimes a week of holidays doing nothing at my parents’ house is great (I’m 22), but 14 months? That would drive me insane.
But with the money she has she was probably traveling and enjoying herself, with the money I have I would barely last 3 months just doing nothing at home.
Same here. I’d love some time to do nothing, but I’d go stir crazy if it was more than a week or two. 14 months???
Emma is a much better actress then JL. She (the whole cast) was amazing in The Favorite. She has more range .
Emma and JL are quite different actors. It would be difficult to see Emma in the Hunger Games, for example, or Winter’s Bone – and Lawrence in La-la Land or the Favourite.
Very true. Emma doesn’t have the physicality/strength to her Jlaw does (even if this is just perceived). Emma is a more anxious/delicate/self aware type and Jlaw more goofy/confident/oblivious (this sounds bad but I dont mean it in a rude way at all)
I’d love to see them both switch places and challenge themselves. Jlaw in a very reserved and delicate role and Emma bold and strong (maybe an action film!)
THE FAVOURITE was all Olivia Coleman. Full stop.
Everyone else was chewing scenery. She delivered a complex, brilliant, mesmerizing, utterly real performance.
Agree with this!
Each time you hit an age milestone, you shake your head at your former self for being upset, or worrying or whatever. Each. Time. Meaning if you don’t throw a wrench in that particular kind of sabatoge, it will happen again and again and again. That’s the whole trick of life and living all of it. There’s no monumental moment of superior clarity igniting from a bolt of lightening emanated from a mysterious zone of solar flares nobody saw coming. It’s living day in and day out, getting through the downs, appreciating the ups and hugging family, friends, aquaintences and strangers as many times as you can for as long as you can.
Beautiful!
Her makeup in both pictures is incredible.
I remember being blue when I turned 30 but I spoke to two friends who were in their early 30s and they said they loved their 30s, it meant they weren’t figuring out who they were anymore, they knew themselves, what they wanted, how they wanted it, etc. I’m not saying that’s how it is for everyone but it made me feel better. 40 suuuuuuuuuuucked. I have no positive words. I’ll be 47 in two months and I’m super bummed.
My 30s were pretty good, I think it’s around then you stop worrying about all the stuff that doesn’t matter so much, and care less what people think.
My 40s coincided with the 2016 election, some health issues, and the stress that has come from both.
Nearly everyone who’s seen that movie has said its a one see only piece of work. Keeping my fingers crossed for Regina.
Drifting with Justin Theroux lollll. Drifting as a celeb probably means a lot of yacht vacations.
I didn’t really care much about turning 30. I’m 34 now and I tell my younger friends that your 30’s are the best. I am more confident, I’m doing great professionally, I feel more stable and less confused about what I want out of life, and since I make more money I can actually afford stuff I want instead of working 2 jobs and donating plasma just to get by. I feel like my personality has fully formed now (vs. when I was younger and felt like I had to act a certain way to fit in) and I care less about what people think of me. The only thing is that yes I am starting to look older – bags/circles starting under my eyes even if I get a great night’s sleep, a few wrinkles starting, and my metabolism has slowed down but that’s just how it goes. I eat healthy, drink a lot of water, try to get good sleep every night, and take great care of my skin so that’s what matters.
30 was fine with me…40 was depressing af.
I could have cared less about turning 30.
If anything, I was hoping people would start to take me more seriously simply for hitting 30. Lol.
Turning 34 soon and thats a tough one to swallow-
At 30 I felt adrift. I had a good career and had traveled and done university and grad school but for me something was missing. I was about 100lbs overweight and letting it hold me back from doing things I wanted in life. I know it doesn’t for everyone but that was just my experience – I was unhappy in my skin and it made me self conscious. Just before my 30th birthday I took up running. It was super scary and I sucked but it boosted my confidence. At 31 I bought a house for myself and I joined WW and started to lose some weight and just felt more confident in my skin and more assertive overall. Running had helped too. I started meeting more people and trying new things. At 33 I dated for about a year and a half a guy with some serious issues. He was toxic, manipulative and psychologically abusive. I put up with it for awhile but knew I deserved better. So I dumped him. I was scared to “start all over again at 34.” I wanted a kid and felt time was running out (even if in reality I did have time). That winter I did some things just for me – signed up for more long distance runs and their training clinics, tried my hand at improv comedy (something I NEVER would have done in my 20s). On the eve of my 35th birthday i met my now husband. I am now nearly 37 and 8 months pregnant with our child. Life is about to turn upside down all over again but I couldn’t be happier. I am absolutely smitten with my husband. It took me a long time to get here (longer for him as he is 39) but we are glad for all the mistakes and decisions we both made that brought us together.
For me the turning point in my life that made me feel less adrift was when I finally started to prioritize my health (mental, physical and emotional) and happiness. That was what was missing all along in my 20s. So far the 30s, even with the bad relationship (bc I did learn a lot there) have been the best yet.
I’m glad she doesn’t consider making tons of $$ to wear LV and attend events to be “work” – because neither do I!