Kenya Moore of Real Housewives of Atlanta, 48, welcomed her first baby, Brooklyn Doris Daly, in November. Her baby was healthy after Kenya had a medical scare and developed preeclampsia later in her pregnancy and had to get an emergency c-section. Kenya now has a sponcon deal with an app for new moms. She posted the photo above with Brooklyn, who is adorable and making the cutest face, along with a weird throwaway comment about how she changed Brooklyn’s diaper in a restaurant and got kicked out. So she could have used this app to talk to other moms about it or something. It’s confusing, but this is what she posted. I’m cutting some of the ad text for the app.
Last week when I was traveling with Brooklyn, I got kicked out of a restaurant for changing her diaper! OMG, I was so embarrassed. I had no idea about these rules!
As a new mama, I’m learning new things every day. The @peanut app has been an amazing support for me to connect with other new moms that can give me a heads up, advice and a sense of community.
The app introduces you to women in your neighborhood…
So is Kenya using this virtually detail-free anecdote to get more attention for a sponcon or is it a true story? If it’s true, how does she not know that you’re supposed to go in the bathroom to change your baby’s diaper? That’s a no-brainer. You don’t change your baby out in the open where people are eating as it’s a health hazard. Sorry to be gross, but newborns can have projectile poo. I remember some rough situations during diaper duty. I don’t think this is true though, or wouldn’t she milk it a little more or post an IG story or something? If this is made up for this sponcon it worked because we’re talking about it.
Then again maybe she did do this. I’ve seen people in restaurants change a baby’s diaper at least two different times. I think they know better and just don’t care at all.
Let’s just look at more pictures of this baby.
My ovaries hurt.
if she’s trying to say that she changed the diaper out the actual table, which is what I think she’s trying to say but leaving out enough details so that she can claim otherwise, then yeah that’s super gross.
I think it really depends on how this went down. I’ve never seen a mother change her baby on a restaurant table but I’ve seen my friends change them in their prams right next to the table, if it’s just pee. To be honest it’s never bothered me but I think you become a lot less bothered by things like that when you have kids and I understand how some people might not like it.
My mother in law however totally grossed me out by changing my baby son on the dining table at her house while the rest of the family were eating right next to him. They seemed to think this was perfectly normal.
No.
That’s what bathrooms are for. Even when it’s just baby pee. (I have kids).
Still not okay! Honestly, people who do that are selfish in my eyes, only caring about themselves and their own desire not to go to the dang bathroom or changing room.
Signed,
Someone who has changed many a diaper, and never in a restaurant dining room
I disagree, changing your baby in a pram is not acceptable, and I have a daughter. There are changing stations in the bathrooms, next to the soap and water you will need to wash your hands after. It is disrespectful and unsanitary.
We can discuss that the number of changing stations is low, how they hould be in the men bathrooms as well, but not changing a diaper in a restaurant.
It’s amazing how people take aim at me even though I never said I do this. I just said I’ve SEEN people do it and it doesn’t bother me personally but I can understand how some people could be bothered by it. People have so much anger on here.
Roux, your first comment very much seemed to endorse the behavior. You even said they’d do it if it’s “just pee” and you’re unbothered by it. You’re not getting anger (from me, at least), you’re getting the opinion of others who find the behavior rude and unsanitary. And I’m sorry, but anyone who thinks it’s just fine to change a diaper in a shared dining space isn’t doing their part to keep that shared dining space hygienic and safe for their fellow diners.
Jesus take the wheel & calm yourselves down posters! Roux- thanks for the honest post about what being a mom is like & what hanging out WITH OTHER PEOPLE who make free will choices is like. People used to be THIS UPSET over breastfeeding too fgs. If your little, tiny newborn has a pee & you change it in the pram & no one is bothered physically, then screw all these people who look, get offended and care about “what may happen?!” This is a weird post & weird comments. Super disappointed in the peeps today & all this weird pearl clutching. Gross mom shaming all over here & it’s not cool.
Nah, MC2, it’s not pearl clutching to say it’s inappropriate to change a diaper in a dining area. And equating it to breast feeding is doing the opposite of what you think you’re doing – like it or not, changing a diaper is a sanitary issue.
Shan- Uhhh….People say/said breastfeeding is/was a sanitary issue. That is THE main reason given when people try to ban it (it’s actually their own uncomfortably with the human body though). Changing your newborn’s pee diaper in a pram is not your sanitary issue & is not a public health concern. It won’t become your issue & doesn’t affect you, unless you make it so for judgement & shaming- I call that pearl clutching. Maybe you have a different definition, whatevs.
And what I am trying to “do”, I did, which was give my opinion, experience & perspective, like all of you, and tell Roux that she does not need to internalize the unkind judgement here.
Any parent reading this who has successfully, quickly and cleanly changed their baby’s diaper in a pram at a crowded spot (lots of great parents) so your newborn baby was comfortable, didn’t get a rash and didn’t start crying loudly- have a great day and keep kicking butt!
MC2, if a parent of a severely disabled adult changed their diaper in the dining room is that acceptable? BTW, urine is not sterile as is widely reported so it is very much a sanitary and public health concern. Breast milk is a food source, not a waste product so you’re comparing apples to turds.
No. Science trumps your feelings. Breast milk is non toxic and is not inherently a “waste” product. Fecal matter very much is, and can cause infections.
Changing a diaper IS a sanitary issue, and I’m genuinely boggled that you don’t get that.
@milo Exactly. “comparing apples to turds” This is a sanitation issue and she knows better, she’s just too privileged in her little reality tv world and won’t admit it. How can people not know that changing a diaper in a public dining space is not hygenic? Seriously? I mean, I can’t stand folks who file and clip their nails in restaurants or even in public seating areas like the tight quarters of public transport. I don’t want that dirty nail dust or a clipped nail flying onto me or into my food. Poo is a whole other matter and there’s a reason it’s called “waste.” Maybe parents don’t notice the stank because they’re wired to think their babies shit don’t stank (literally?) but no. This is beyond smell. It’s basic hygiene. There’s a reason cholera spreads when people don’t have access to clean water and serious health problems arise from washing and waste in the same area without adequate infrastructure. Seriously. She knows better just using this for publicity and why am I even here commenting except that there’s so much other shit going on that I can’t speak on so the post on shit gets my comments…
I don’t know. I agree it’s definitely preferable to do this in the restroom. But I have seen people, including people I know, just do it right at the table and it doesn’t bother me that much. I think it depends on, is there a restroom with appropriate kid setup nearby, what is the exact situation, etc. etc. And obviously if it’s poop, no brainer. But I will say, a tiny newborn diaper with pee is not a massive sanitary issue to me. Usually parents will use wipes, hand sanitizer, etc. when changing, and have a disposal bag for the diaper. It’s not like they are taking the peed on diaper and wiping it on plates. So it wouldn’t bother me much, but I get why it would bother others.
Ok but then you take the blanket out of the changing table/pram and set it on the table, they drop their binkie in the changing table/ pram, they are laying and sleeping in their new changing table… It’s just not sanitary or cool. Give the kids and other diners a break and change them in the bathroom.
My daughter is 3 now and we live in Slovakia. I have to say i have changed ger in a pram or on the seat next to me few times as none of the restaurants have any baby changing facilities AT ALL. Like no space in the bathroom to even take the pram. I always felt bad when imagining that what are u supposed to do if you are disabled and there s no toilet? Just stay at home? Shopping centres have changing rooms and facilities for ppl in wheelchairs. But even in countries where i travelled with the baby like Italy, Croatia, Hungary, Czech… it is still a big problem to find a restaurant or a gas station where you actually have designated space for diaper changing. And dont let me start about how difficult it is to get around here with a pram 🤦🏻♀️ A nightmare. Would i change a poopy diaper in a full restaurant? If possible id try to go somewhere else but sometimes you are in a situation where you just need to act right then right there.
We were at a chain restaurant years ago in NJ called Chili’s. It was the middle of the day and the women across from us, who had a baby with them, were ordering pretty strong drinks and passing the baby back and forth by sliding her along the table. That seemed gross enough and then before they left one woman laid the baby on the table and changed him/her. I couldn’t belief it. Talk about trashy.
Gross. And while I get emergencies situations, this is not fair for those around you.
Omg, right?! And all those moms breastfeeding & all those people around her who have to know & deal with it while they just try to eat. I heard, and saw once, milk spray out of a boob while breastfeeding so I know that could happen & hit someone’s food which is such a health hazard!!! Mom’s should know to do all biz in the bathroom or just stay home. I mean, unless the breastfeeding is a total emergency (determined by me)….
Those moms & newborns are such a travesty for public fairness & people just trying to live.
/S/
Breast milk is food, which is fine in a food-based environment. Urine and faeces are not food, and belong in the designated area.
Never changed my kids’ diapers anywhere food was being prepared or served. I certainly had to do emergency changes in the back of a car, on the floor of a living room, etc.
MC2 You had me going!
I can’t even imagine changing a baby in public at a restaurant. This is just common sense, not a new mother issue. Like others, I’ve done emergency changes, but never in the view of others for a myriad of reasons. Her baby is adorable though.
Breastmilk is food, and only imbeciles dispute that at this point. Urine and feces are waste that can spread or cause illness. They are not equivalent, and this isn’t about being unsupportive of parents, it’s about keeping waste separate from food and practicing what amounts to basic hygiene. Anybody who needs to change their kid, I’m happy to support them all the way to the bathroom, up to and including toting the diaper bag and pumping the soap into their hands afterwards.
Totally. Cute baby and all but have some f*cking common sense. People are eating, they don’t want to smell nor see your baby’s gross diaper. You don’t need a rule to know not to do this. Damnit people are f*cking stupid!
YEah, this story doesn’t smell right. Pun intended.
And yes, breast milk is food. But it is also a body fluid, and shouldn’t be in an area where food is being prepared or served. It can contain Hepatitis, HIV…you know, stuff. SO yes, food. And also body fluid.
So she changed the baby’s diaper in the dining area of a restaurant? How dense do you have to be to think that’s fine?
I hope she got a substantial payout from her whatever sponsor for admitting she’s a disgusting human being with no brain cells.
I had a waitress job back in high school, and had to tell a customer she could not change her baby on the table. She was shocked and started to argue, and I told her it was a health code violation. I was a dumbass high school kid, and I knew better. What is wrong with some people??
I feel the same when people prop their baby’s butt on the counter of a fast food restaurant.
I once saw a woman slide her plate over, put her baby on the table she was eating on, change baby’s diaper, then go back to eating. It was absolutely disgusting. I always thought not bringing feces around your food was basic hygiene and manners but I guess some people DO need to be told.
you want norovirus? because that’s how you get norovirus.
Or hepatitis A.
I wouldn’t return to a restaurant where I saw a baby diaper getting changed at the table. I’ve had e.coli, it’s no joke.
I HATE it when I have family members visit with their little babies and change their diaper whenever and wherever in my home…on the rug, on my hardwood floor, wherever. They don’t even using some sort of “diaper changing pad”. The worst part is they don’t wash their hands afterwards ! So damn gross !
“I had no idea about these rules!”
I mean… just on a logical standpoint – if you’d be concerned about pantsless adults in the dining area – let alone ones with excrement on them – maybe don’t change your kid there.
HOW can she not know this is an issue? I know you can’t teach common sense, but she’s somehow made it this far in life – how has she gotten through to this point!?
That statement didn’t make sense to me, either. It’s not about “knowing the rules” it’s about common friggin’ sense (and decency). I’m assuming she’s used public restrooms before, did she never notice the diaper changing stations or fold-down tables before? Did she not realize what they were for? Seems to me she’s playing dumb to bring attention to her sponcon. At least I hope so.
Seriously, every women has seen the changing tables in public bathrooms our entire lives. She must have known they exist and what they’re for.
There are definitely issues with those changing tables (not enough of them; many don’t look like they don’t get cleaned, ever) but it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know you don’t change a dirty diaper in the middle of a restaurant.
For the record, public bathroom change tables are only about 25 years old.
All of that plus her husband owns a restaurant. He’d have stories to tell.
I worked at a local brewery/eatery and had a dad change his baby on an open dining table. My co-servers/manager and I were appalled. This was after another new father in the group had just called me over to say how happy he was to use the changing station in the men’s room. The show my co-workers and I put on to clean that table was pageant level just so the other customers knew we took that literal shit seriously. My manager waited until the majority of the group had left and took the couple aside in a private manner and diplomatically explained why you can’t do that in a restaurant. Of course the mom came back to yell at us on facebook the next day about how it was oh so embarrassing etc and how we’d probably shame a breastfeeding mom too. Thing is, she sent the message privately because she knew she’d get absolutely dragged on a public forum.
OH! and when the dad finished changing the baby, he threw the dirty diaper in the servers trash next to the table which was in the middle of the dining room. So. Gross.
More importantly how does she know you’re not meant to keep a bunch of stuff in a crib but DIDN’T somehow know that changing a baby in the middle of a restaurant was a no no?
What a beautiful baby!
Agreed! There are cute babies and then there are CUTE babies. She is definitely the latter.
Yep, I came here to say Brooklyn is as cute as a button.
Should be common sense, but I feel like common sense is dead.
I will say not all public bathrooms (most for me) have space to change. You kind of have to improvise on the sink counter after you wipe it down. Or wait.
I still shudder to remember in a small Greek town, it was only a pedestal sink and toilet. The floor was dirty. There was no car. I asked if i could change in empty side dining room but refused their offer of table and put like 2 blankets on a chair. I felt like the tacky American… lol. But babys poo.
I’m in the States and I’ve never had a problem finding a changing table or family restroom, although some places don’t have both. The only times I can think of are an outdoor art festival (understandable and I just went into a local business and asked to use their restroom) and an upscale restaurant that didn’t cater to families or small children (again, understandable and I didn’t bring children along). I can’t really speak much to standard practice in other countries, but it’s really unfortunate if either a changing table or family restroom isn’t provided.
yea… I moved to France… and sometimes there really aren’t changing tables. I changed him once in the booth but it was pee. I went to the bathroom afterwards to wash my hands and dispose of the diaper, but I don’t really know what I would have done if it was poo. There was one other couple there for lunch and the restaurant owners didn’t seem bothered. Changing rooms themselves are sometimes gross to the point where I just prefer to put a changing mat down in the car and do it there. It’s almost always pee. He does a big poo like every other day. So I dunno, I didn’t think about it. You just respond as a mother when your baby cries and he’s either hungry or it’s a dirty diaper.
Not only gross, but rude af. Thoughtless moron could get the restaurant in serious trouble if a health inspector is around for someone narcs to the health board.
You’d have to have been raised in a barn not to know that human faeces don’t belong in a public eating area.
And good god that’s a lot of filters.
I saw a woman change her baby in the floor in a grocery store. Super gross
JFC what is wrong with people.
Ugh. Don’t get me wrong but how stupid are you supposed to be to do that in the restaurant? Would you change it in your own dinning room while the people are eating? Talk about people who think they’re alone in the world. Gross. And what @Rapunzel says. Poor restaurant staff. Let’s please not make this the same as breatsfeeding ’cause it ain’t.
Apparently some people would. Scroll above.
That baby is super cute.
I think the lack of details means that she probably did just change her on the seat next to her or something. Which…..you’ve never noticed that there aren’t babies being changed all over restaurants?
My ovaries as well. That cutie. Those eyes, those cheeks.
She was probably hoping for sympathy and outrage on this one, but instead she’s getting a whole bunch of people thinking she’s an utter moron. Who in the world thinks it’s ok to change a diaper in a public eating establishment?
she lyin. she has a brand deal & this is a way to fulfill her contractual obligation. PERIODT.
Such a cute baby! 😘😘
what a self-absorbed, ignorant woman. what the hell does she think those changing tables are for in the restrooms. hell, they even have them in some men’s rooms. I don’t have kids, and even I know what they’re for.
truly disgusting.
Everybody here is cooing over that very cute baby but all I can think about is how happy I am that I don’t have to change anyone’s diaper lol.
My ovaries have actually run away–screaming–after reading the above comments.
They’re so gross. I live with friends who have young children, and while I don’t mind helping out, I am very glad not to have any of my own coming down the road. You don’t know real horror until you have a change diapers on a baby with a GI virus.
OMG.
*shivers*
Totally agree. So happy to be child free!
It’s no fun lol. The day kids become diaper free is a great day.
I’m glad my parents chose to have a child, but have never regretted my own decision (partly driven by timing and other circumstances) not to have any.
I tried my best to be a good investment of their time, sorry and resources. 😃. Time keeps showing me how much is required of a good parent.
Eww. I worked in restaurants for years and had this happen once. The family even left the dirty diaper in the booth. It’s effing nasty and you should be kicked out. I even ask people if it’s ok if I change my baby in front of them at their homes since people can be so sensitive about this stuff.
Hell no. That’s what bathrooms and secluded corners in a pinch are for. There is no need to do that in public where people are eating. People with babies get many special allowances (and shafted in other ways too that are far too systemic to detail properly here with any justice) but THIS IS NOT ONE OF THEM. I’ve had a friend or two change their babies’ diapers on the floor of the restaurant where we were literally eating and been appalled and disgusted. We hang out privately now, not in public anymore and certainly not in restaurants.
The only situation I find this acceptable in is if the business doesn’t have a changing table in the bathrooms – and I mean, BOTH bathroom facilities, not just in the female one – because that’s their own fault for failing to provide basic utilities.* Otherwise…c’mon. It’s a restaurant, people are eating. You have to have SOME respect for context.
*I did once have to change a friend’s son on the floor of a business because he was deathly terrified of heights (vestibular/sensory autistic issues) and had a total meltdown when I tried to put him on the changing table and then continued freaking out until we left the bathroom. I wound up changing him right outside the bathroom in the corner, making sure I was as far away from people as possible and discreet. But that’s clearly a very unique situation.
Argh. yeah. I was at my cousin’s wedding shower and I had to change my daughter on a bench at a restaurant. Not only did they not have a changing table in the bathrooms, but the sinks were pedestals and there was literally no place to set her down, except for the floor, And I was NOT putting my 4-week-old on a bathroom floor. And I couldn’t go to the car, because it was 20 degrees out.
I was cringing that I did it…but I didn’t see any other option. It’s the only time in my 3.5 years of motherhood that I’ve done that.
The first time I changed a diaper in the dining area of a restaurant I was in Brooklyn. My daughter was 3 weeks old. The restroom did not have a changing table & it was filthy. I changed her in my lap, disposed of the diaper in the restroom & washed my hands before returning to my table. There were a few more times during our trip that I changed her at a table in a restaurant b/c there were not changing tables in the restrooms. That said, I’ve also had to pump breastmilk in the bathroom of a restaurant I worked at b/c there was not another area available for me to use. If an establishment provides an area for the purpose of changing a diaper I make use of it. If not, I do what I need to do.
Babies were still changed in private well before changing tables were a thing.
This is a middle-aged woman…who knows damn well, that you don’t change a diaper where people are eating….
I was on a plane once and a lady decided to change her baby’s verrrrry pungent dirty diaper on the seat in the middle of the cabin. The rest of us passengers had to spend the remainder of the flight breathing in re-circulated poop air. Luckily I don’t get airsick, but I was never so close to throwing up on a plane.
I have had this happen too on a flight but TBH those airplane lavs are always so nasty and dirty, and there’s barely enough room to turn around in them so I can see why a mom would not want to bring her little baby in that filth and attempt to somehow change a diaper in this 2 by 2 space.
🙁 that sucks…but have you seen the changing tables in the airplane bathrooms? I was only able to change my daughter by leaving the door open, otherwise I did not fit. (The table came down over the toilet.) So maybe it was her only option?
I say this as a mother of 3 who has flown with all babies and kids a lot. The bathrooms are small and uncomfortable. Sometimes you might have to leave the door open, especially when you have a baby and a toddler with you. I used to travel with our own anti-bacterial wipes and changing pads to put down on the changing table because it is dirty.
None of this, however, excuses anyone to change their baby in their seat or in the aisles (or in the dining room of a restaurant). It’s unsanitary, smelly, and rude to the other passengers.
And breastmilk is not equal to poop.
Nasty as hell and a total lack of common decency
Some of my friends change their babies on picnic tables at playgrounds. Hell no! When you’re done, another family will come along and set their kids up to eat here. Have some consideration.
I had a casual friend change a dirty diaper in a restaurant booth I was silently appalled and I never went out with her again.
Another friend came to my home, changed a poopy diaper on my living room floor (she used a little blanket, I was fine with that) and then she DID NOT WASH HER HANDS. I told her where the sink and soap were and she was like “thanks, I’m fine!”.
No. You’re not. You are now in my home with fecal matter on your hands, touching shit until you leave. I never invited her over again.
Sorry but this kind of hygiene says a lot about a person and their consideration for others and just their common sense and safety awareness. I’m not here for any of this. I have two little kids, just one in diapers at this point, and my hands are often raw from washing but that’s how it is! I’ve never ever changed a baby somewhere inappropriate like this.
Yikes! Maybe express your concerns rather than just cutting people off. You sound like a treat! At least your hands are clean, though.
It was more like I didn’t pursue deeper relationships with these women when I saw that basic hygeine and basic sanitary practices are not part of their lives. And I’m not here to voice my concerns and school 30+ year old women on how it’s not cool to be unclean with their baby’s fecal matter.
@Mle428: it’s common sense to wash your hands after touching a diaper with feces/urine. And a grown-ass woman who gave birth to a child should well be aware of it. Le sigh.
Take your sanctimonious attitude elsewhere.
@ CharliePenn
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen someone change a dirty diaper and NOT wash their hands. It’s so damn gross !
I’ve seen people change their baby on the booth seat at a restaurant. It’s so gross! Go to the restroom, where almost all of them have a changing station, and where there’s a sink where you can WASH YOUR HANDS.
Everyone should know this, and I find her “omg I didn’t know, oopsie!” pretty annoying, especially because she’s doing it to sell whatever she’s shilling.
The baby is adorable.
+1.
Manufacturing outrage against these *shocking* restaurant rules (aka common blo0dy courtesy), and failing. . Ha!
I did that once when I was a new mom. However, in my defense, they didn’t have a table or change table or anything in the bathrooms. I thought I had no choice! Now I’m older and wiser and make sure to always ask beforehand if there are change tables 🙂
Nothing on social media is true. I bet she made it up because of that sponsor.
There seems to be a lot of ‘outrage’, as per our postmodernist nightmare of a world, but very few scientific facts. Faecal matter not only contains a large number of pathogens, including e. Coli, each strain of which is pretty unique to the individual (the lower part of any human’s body is typically a mass of e. Coli). Released into the atmosphere, it can contaminate numerous surfaces. Male urine is more sterile at birth given that it passes straight along the urethra (though not 100%), unlike female urine, due to female’s physiological construction. The combination of a number of said pathogens provides an enormous risk to diners and those in public places, should an individual be unaware that their child’s faecal matter – like their own – is a contaminant. Cholera was eventually discovered in the UK by Dr Snow who isolated the cause of the outbreak to a woman who had washed her child’s nappy in a public stream, the water of which carried the contaminant throughout London. To ignore the risk to others – not to mention the aesthetic displeasure: we are evolutionarily predispositioned to find bodily waste offensive and off-putting, due probably to said pathogenic qualities – is therefore the height of selfishness. Perhaps a few PSAs wouldn’t go amiss.
A public stream? The people of London drank the water from a public stream? A stream that had garbage thrown in it every day, birds droppings in it, dogs swimming in it, moldy vegetation along the banks and who knows what else in the water, and it wasn’t decontaminated and sterilized before the people drank it? How is this possible? Cholera can’t be killed using current sterilization methods?
This was 1854, it’s not like there were many other options at the time. People all over the world were doing the same.
Babies are not my jam, so, Sweet Ovaries, I’m sorry for the shock! But that is one cute kid!!
Aw, her kid is so cute.
This didn’t happen. She’s promoting an app.
I actually see this all the time in restaurants. It’s disgusting and I wish the establishments here would kick those people out.
In her defense, I’m thinking maybe it was just urine and she used a pad, etc., and didn’t think much further than that. But that baby is ADORABLE!!!! I miss Kenya on RHOA this year. It’s the year of NeNe and she’s boring AF.
That baby is cute as all get out, but that does not justify changing a diaper (either poo OR pee) in a dining area. I’ve seen it before and it is just so rude to those around you. I had three kids, we dined out frequently and I never did this…blech.
One of the hosts on the morning radio show I listen to while I get ready for work had a similar story. She was at some Caribbean resort and stopped into a restaurant on the beach to change her baby’s diaper. She was told that they were for customers only (apparently they’d had issues of homeless people trying to use them). Definitely an understandable frustration but then…
The host, offended, proceeded to change her baby’s diaper on a freaking table, around other diners, just to stick it to the restaurant. And worst of all, she sounded PROUD of this, like she’d won a victory for moms everywhere, instead of seeing just how entitled and rude her behavior was. As if, because she had a baby that needed to be changed, she thought she could ruin everyone else’s dinner in the process.
Having a baby doesn’t give you a free pass to act like a selfish, inconsiderate asshole. It boggles my mind how many parents I see think they’re somehow special and exempt because they’ve done something literally billions of people have done.
I totally agree with you. There are many parents that think rules and common decency don’t apply to them. You have a kid…or five…big f*cking deal? You are not special.
I agree with you too! I’ve had a few friends with children that argue that they are just showing the restaurant how they need to maintain their bathrooms better, but in all honesty all they are doing is ruining the meals for paying customers around them, taking a chance of spreading disease to others and making some waiters life a living hell for what little pay they get in having to deal with them and cleaning up the mess (if they even bother).
You’d be surprised at how many people use the food tray on airplanes to change diapers. Those food trays NEVER get cleaned. Think about that. I wipe mine down with an anti-bacterial wipe every single time. People are disgusting.
Omg I just puked in my mouth a little bit. NEVER thought about that. GAG!
Is that even allowed? To change a baby’s diapers in an airplane and not in the bathroom? Quite frankly I don’t want to see other baby’s privates nor smell them. Same for adult stranger’s privates and intimate smells.
We are fortunate enough to live in a society where we now have many people living relatively normal lives with cancer,auto immune disease, immunodeficiency diseases etc. Many of these people are children. Any time we share space with others we should assume that some of them could have impaired immune systems. Just because something wouldn’t make a healthy person sick doesn’t mean that it won’t kill someone with an impaired immune system. A care giver can also become contaminated by a un clean public space and infect their loved one.
Just the idea of it makes me nauseous
This is so, so nasty. I’m always SHOCKED at the number of adults who don’t wash their hands after using the bathroom or changing diapers.
I have also been to loads of restaurants that don’t have baby changing stations in the women’s or men’s rooms!!! I ALWAYS talk to the manager after and get weird looks from the workers for complaining about it! Wtf am I suppose to do? So here is what I did do: sat my ass on the nasty public bathroom floor with my legs straight out and together, placed my infant on my legs and changed the diaper. No way am I laying my infant on a public restroom floor! I’m also married to a very hands on dad who changes diapers and I can’t even tell you how many times we have been out at nice restaurants and he had to come back out and say, ‘sorry babe, no changing station in the men’s rooms.’ So then I have to go and hope there is one in the women’s. I now have a big suv and I can change diapers in th back area with the hatch closed even(winter time).
I hate it when there is no changing table! I have changed my babies while holding them, ( I won’t lay them on the public bathroom floor either) but the worst was at a Goodwill I went to and my toddler had just pooped as we walked in, and being hugely pregnant I of course also had to pee – and they had no bathroom period. The only other close business was a cannabis shop so I had to change my toddler halfway literally in the cold rain (in my small car so I had to leave the door open to do it).
I agree wholeheartedly with Muffy! Just no.
I don’t shade her on this, I had my first at forty and even though I should know better at my age honestly I’ve been so tempted to change my babies on like McDonalds benches before. Yes Ive worked in the service industry.
Sometimes the bathroom is filthy, or I didn’t bring anything to Change baby on, (rarely do changing stations have those covers) sometimes there is no changing table, sometimes it’s just – idk, it’s hard being a proper mom sometimes and yes I do think it’s proper and considerate to NOT change diapers in eating areas but I just can’t feel too mad at a mom over this.
Ps a lot of moms use baby wipes to wash hands after changing diapers and supposedly it’s pretty effective ( I know because I’ve looked it up As I used to be a germaphobe).
It might be hard but it’s also a choice. Others don’t deserve to inhale waste smells and be exposed to contaminants just because someone else couldn’t get their act together. Women had babies and changed them well before the advent of changing tables and managed, there’s no excuse for it now.
Why not bring something on which to change the baby? Your baby is your responsibility. And nope, I wouldn’t feel comfortable to change my baby’s diapers directly on those covers and tables provided for that. I just don’t want to put her down somewhere where somebody else’s diapers were changed already. Maybe something runny went on that cover?
Feces next to food. Yep, that is disgusting and unhygienic even while the baby is so cute.
I haven’t watched The Real Housewives of Atlanta in a long time but Kenya was always a flake. I’m sorry, but no. This is not OK. Not even if there are no changing stations in the bathrooms. And this is going to sound super shitty and get alot of the moms here angry but maybe you shouldn’t bring your baby to a restaurant if you aren’t prepared to handle emergencies.
You made the decision to have a kid. Not me. The rest of us have to accommodate families all the time and to some degree I’m OK with it. But make a damn effort.
Oh the baby is adorable though.
What a stupid post and a bunch of stupid comments. As the mom to two little girls, duh, most of us will change our kids on a change table IF THEY EXIST. News flash: sometimes they don’t. You are all making out with your classic mom shaming shit like we moms all have some sense of pride in changing our kids and waving their shitty diaps in your faces like Charleston Heston with an A-K.
I will never forget my first experience with a coffee shop that had absolutely no where to change my 6 week old, I changed her new little body on a cold dirty floor as a nervous first time mom who didn’t know better. I’ve since changed my kid in her stroller *gasp* and while holding her in one arm and changing her in the other, while
Upright. Take your mom judgement elsewhere. If the establishment doesn’t have the facilities (which happens all the time) they can deal with me changing my child whereever SHE won’t get norovirus or hep A.
I hate the comment section.
This is an unnecessary comment. In this case, you’re the problematic one.
No one is mom-shaming here. Just pointing out obvious sanitation standards that all people should abide by. Take your self-righteous outrage elsewhere.
I showed this comment to my mother, a parent of three children that she had well before changing tables were a thing and she laughed her head off at your self righteous, spoiled rage. Her exact words ‘she doesn’t know how easy she has it!’
There is a french Blogger/cookbook author ( Mimi Thorison ) who even postet a picture of her husband changing one of their children right on the table. It was so gross. They said in france there are no Baby changing rooms in fancy restaurants and its true but I have three kids and would never do this. And if you can afford these expensive restaurants I think you can also afford a nanny instead of annoying all the other guests with your stinky whining children. This has no class or culture whatsoever!!!
If that restaurant had no restroom changing station, then it’s on them. Sorry will not fault a mom for not wanting to place their baby on the floor.
If however they did, then its unacceptable of her.