Jennifer Lopez ‘heard the cheating rumors in the past & has never let it bother her’

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True story, when I wrote about Jose Canseco’s accusations yesterday, I totally forgot that Jose Canseco is a terrible person. Canseco tweeted out several shady things on Sunday, claiming that Alex Rodriguez has been cheating on Jennifer Lopez with Jessica Canseco, who is Jose’s ex-wife (and A-Rod’s ex-girlfriend). On one side, we should definitely not be in the habit of considering Canseco to be a good source of interesting and truthful gossip. On the other side, A-Rod IS a cheater. He’s serially unfaithful to every wife and girlfriend he’s ever had. It is known. So would it really be shocking to think that a compulsive, serial cheater would also be cheating on his latest soulmate? Well, in any case, Jennifer Lopez doesn’t care. She’s unbothered.

Jennifer Lopez is turning the other cheek after Jose Canseco accused her new fiancé, Alex Rodriguez, of being unfaithful.

“She’s heard the cheating rumors in the past and has never let it bother her,” a source tells Us Weekly exclusively. “She trusts him and his love. They are inseparable and together almost all of the time. Jose Canseco has an ax to grind, but she doesn’t hear the noise.”

[From Us Weekly]

You know what I’ve been thinking about a lot lately? Bennifer 1.0 and what an amazing disaster that was. All of the red flags were there too – Ben Affleck was in and out of treatment facilities, he went from hobo to plucked and tucked and orange Oscar date. He looked like he wanted to die, but Jennifer kept sticking by him, even at the poker table, everything. I think that’s just who she is – she believes that “being in love” means ignoring every single problem, every single red flag. Anyway, I don’t think this will turn out like Bennifer 1.0. I think this will turn out more like Jennifer’s marriage to Marc Anthony – A-Rod will be controlling and narcissistic and everything will be about HIM and she’ll just go along. And yes, he’ll cheat on her constantly. He already is, I’m pretty sure.

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  1. Darla says:

    Okay I guess i just have one question; don’t any of these people worry about getting something like herpes?

    • Kebbie says:

      I’m guessing that’s no longer a concern for either of them…

    • Lara says:

      Haha, I know right? Hollywood is like one big STD

    • Nikki says:

      Thank you!!! Working in healthcare, I’ve heard and seen so many horror stories…but then, I shake my head, and think…these people lead veryyyy different lives than me and you

      • Raina says:

        Wait. What do you mean they live “veryyyyyyy different lives” ?? Lol
        In what life do you not have sex.
        Are you a monk or nun?
        Because anyone can get it without being veryyyyyyy different.
        I have zero respect for sanctimonious people and I doubt you should work in the health care profession with that attitude.
        You probably do intake insurance at best. At least I hope you don’t work with patients too personally.

    • Mama says:

      1 – it isn’t the end of the world.
      2 – You can get them from 1 partner. You don’t have to sleep around to get them.

      As someone who has lived with it for 20 years and hasn’t spread it to anyone else, the stigma is dumb and juvenile. Got it from my very first partner (husband) and I was a virgin when I got married. You could have it and not even know…. Hollywood isn’t any different than anywhere else in regards to STDs (especially retirement homes).

      • Skwinkee says:

        Exactly @Mama ! It is really not a big deal at all. People who think it is need to revisit the shame they feel around sex.

      • otaku fairy... says:


      • Arpeggi says:

        Thank you! I was going to write something similar this morning I got tired just thinking about it. Herpes really isn’t the end of the world and the stigma should end. It gives you some blisters for a few days if you’re unlucky (you’ll likely won’t notice it). Unlike any other STI, there’s no chance it’ll make you sterile, lead to cancer or insanity: it just gives you some blisters. Oral herpes is actually linked to more risks than the genital one because of the nerves it can target, yet no one cares.

        It’s something that you can get even if you have protected sex, it’s something your partner might not even know they have because most don’t have symptoms (which is why it’s not routinely tested: the stigmas are harder to live with than the actual “disease”), getting herpes and having symptoms is really just a case of not being lucky. People have sex routinely, there’s nothing wrong or shameful about it

      • Original Jens says:

        Thank you for this. It’s very tiring to those who have it to feel like a dirty shameful joke to these holier than thous.

      • Raina says:

        Mama, don’t listen to these fake bitches

    • Deedee says:

      I doubt that’s all he’s got.

    • angie0717 says:

      BIg sigh. She never seems to let the cheating rumours bother her. Diddy, Ben, Marc Anthony, the little back up dancer… et al

  2. Kebbie says:

    This is what I was saying yesterday. I don’t think she’s okay with him having girls on the side, I think she just literally refuses to believe he has girls on the side.

    • Sash says:

      Then she’ll deserve the future heartbreak. She can be with a man who wholly respects her and she chose….this for the attention and status of being a ~power couple.

    • Jegede says:

      I think the article phrasing with, “she doesn’t here the noise”; says it all.

  3. mycomment says:

    I think they’re more interested in the attention they get as a couple than any actual romance. and the diamond.

    • kim says:

      That’s the way Jenifer always has been. She definitely knows how to sweet talk and was desperate for a celebrity match for a long time. He loves attention as well They make good business.

      I don’t believe she has a bad picker, she just picks men for what they can do for her career. Her past tells us so. Shoot, she did a song with Dr. Luke during the Kesha trials? She’s ambitious in a needy way.

    • Jegede says:

      ARod certainly is.

      His career is in second wind and the exposure with Oscar red carpet, MET Gala invites, are a huge boon to his visibility as a broadcaster & budding entrepreneur.

      He tried to get his millionaire ex to invest in some of his ventures and she told him to kick rocks.🙄🙄

  4. Junebug says:

    I just don’t understand this attitude. Am I crazy or is she?

  5. JadedBrit says:

    If she doesn’t ‘care’ that he has/will cheat/ed – does she intend to have an open relationship, or is her self-esteem low to non-existent? I think many of us on here have had toxic relationships – and many with Narcissists: the man presents himself as the ideal, the red flags are wilfully/wistfully ignored (‘he wouldn’t do that to ME’; ‘that was the past, and our relationship is entirely different) and months or years later, it all comes crashing down in a world of hurt, rebound relationships and the repeating of negative behavioural patterns. If she *does* have such issues – and, obviously knowing nothing of her private world, psyche etc, I am in no position to play psychologist – wouldn’t it be infinitely better to deal with them rather than settle for an emerald cut diamond and an inevitable divorce?

    • Kebbie says:

      I read it as she doesn’t care that people are saying he cheated because she doesn’t believe it. She trusts him and his love, they’re together almost always, and Jose has an ax to grind…she’s come up with three reasons she doesn’t believe that he has cheated/will cheat on her.

      • Swack says:

        Unless he is with her 24/7 then there is always the possibility of him or her cheating.

  6. Sash says:

    On a random note, oh lord the picture chosen! I cannot stand that ridiculous open-mouthed expression she always does that she clearly thinks is sexy. Quite the opposite.

    • Diana says:

      Yes! I agree! It’s beyond ridiculous and looks so stupid… not sexy. She’s so beautiful… why make such a dumb face?

    • AnnaKist says:

      Yesyesyes! The open mouth and the quasi sultry eyes…ick. I remember seeing a photo of her with a wide, natural smile, and saying to my sister how beautiful she was. She’s become a caricature of herself. This fakesexy is unnecessary. Or, wait,…”natural”.. Ok. Got it.

  7. Lara says:

    Girl, wake up

    • Jegede says:

      Wake up?😉

      Affleck was dallying with lapdancers on their wedding eve and JLo still refused to end it.
      Despite the red flags, Ben ended up dumping her!

  8. Mel M says:

    I love J.Lo, I really do but this is so boring. What’s the point of getting married so many times? Just throw a big party instead of all the exhausting legal stuff that this wedding is sure to have. I mean at this point everyone has to giggle when they say “till death” right?? The ring is borning too, just a big old emerald cut that says “I’m rich”. We know.

    • Kebbie says:

      She should do what Jennifer Aniston did and have a wedding ceremony without making it legal. She’d get to exchange vows, celebrate with family and friends, and post all the perfect pictures on Instagram or sell them to Vogue or People. Then when it inevitably falls apart, she just has to hire some movers.

      That being said, I don’t think she’s capable of not going ALL IN to prove how real their love is.

      • lucy2 says:

        That’s what I would do too. She’s already been divorced THREE TIMES. Stop! Have a life together, have a big party if you want, but stop legally tying yourself to these men who won’t last.

  9. Other Renee says:

    She’ll go through with the marriage because she would feel humiliated by having to admit that once again she picked the wrong guy. And she seems like the type who would blame herself for his cheating rather than blame the cheater. Sad really.

  10. Appalachian says:

    This is why almost everyone in Hollywood has a herpes rumor. All that money and they are still dirty. I always see stuff about the professional athletes and they stuff they pass around.

    • Sassy says:

      Dirty is a bit strong, I’d say. You don’t necessarily have to be “disgusting” to contract an std .

    • Original Jens says:

      A person who has an STI is not dirty. Im sure someone like you is perfect inside and out but please keep the judgment to yourself on us lesser mortals.

  11. Kate says:

    I haven’t been in this particular situation so this isn’t a personal question – but if you go into a relationship with someone and you have worked on yourself in therapy and he has worked on himself, and you are able to have open communication and healthy disagreements. You are honest with each other about your pasts and your needs/wants (I’m pretty sure I’ve read at least one interview where JLo has said this is the case for them) and you feel loved and seen and respected. Should you trust your partner and your own intuition or should you believe people who don’t know you or your partner who may have ulterior motives? That’s so tough, no? How do you know if people are being “haters” or are seeing something you are love-blind to?

    ETA: I was hoping they wouldn’t get engaged but I do hope they make it, as naive as that may be! I want to believe people actually can change if they want to and go on to successful relationships after learning from past mistakes

    • Kebbie says:

      I think the answer to that question depends entirely on the people involved. In this case, I think Jennifer “working through her issues” in therapy is probably similar to Justin Bieber saying that his mom keeps him grounded and humble.

      They’re in another world, surrounded by yes people, so no amount of “work” they do on themselves is likely to actually fix their issues. They don’t truly have to ever face the music, so they go through superficial stages of growth and tell themselves it’s real.

      Jennifer and Casper broke up for good August 2016. She and Alex said on Instagram that February 4th was their second anniversary. There is no way she worked through her relationship issues in five or six months of therapy. She wouldn’t be able to even scratch the surface of why she chooses the men she chooses in that time, much less change her habits and patterns while in those relationships.

  12. Beach Dreams says:

    I think almost every man she’s been with has cheated on her, so no it probably doesn’t bother her much.

  13. Reeta Skeeter says:

    I think JLO is a hopeless romantic. She’s also a Leo (I’m big on astrology) and Leo’s love HARD. They also demand loyalty and hard-core admiration as well as grandiose displays of affection. I think JLO is just constantly looking for that BIG LOVE.

    • Lena says:

      She may demand loyalty but she’s never gotten it. Except from cris Judd maybe and she tossed him away after 8 months. Why is that I wonder?

      • tora says:

        YES!!!! I think Chris Judd was the only man that was and would have been truly faithful to JLO forever. He seemed like he was ‘the one’ that loved her deeply and she threw him away for a cheater.

        JLO reminds me of the character Carrie on SaTC. Ditching good guy Aiden for a cheater because he is more exciting than a typical ‘down-home man.

  14. sommolierlady says:

    You get what you pay for.

  15. Nina Simone says:

    I’m surprised about her reaction tbh. She stated in the past that when she was with Diddy and he would cheat, she would go knocking on the hotel rooms and force him to stop seeing the girls etc. I mean she eventually left him. But I remember reading that interview years ago and feeling like damn she’s so strong willed

  16. dumbledork says:

    He’s horrible as an announcer. Anytime he’s covering the Cubs game, it’s on mute. He’s painful. Plus he’s a cheater. Of all the retired players, why they chose him I’ll never know. Douche bag.

  17. Goldengirlslover34 says:

    My husband is a huge baseball fan and music fan so I discussed this bit of gossip with him yesterday bc it’s rare I can get him to partake. His takeaways were:

    1. Jose Conseco has always been a messy a-hole and is generally unlikeable but he also at times speaks the truth. However, it’s all for completely selfish and self-serving reasons so you hate him even more.

    2. He would not be surprised if A-Rod is cheating because he always cheats. He doesn’t see A-Rod not cheating until it stops working. Even then…. maybe

    3. He said it’s been discussed in the past by music producers that J-Lo can’t be alone for long. We both wonder why? But then, I know people who are the same way and they are much older. Their actions get even crazier now that they are in their 60s. The stuff they put up with. One family member said she doesn’t want to die alone so she has to do these things. Maybe that’s the fear? Who knows.

  18. Steff says:

    Jlo’s open mouth pose does not work for her.

  19. Deedee says:

    You in danger, gurl.

  20. Littlefishmom says:

    She is so strong in every area of her life except relationships. Deny, deny, deny. She needs to be single and in therapy. What will her daughter think?

    • mtam says:

      and her son. She has two kids, who can be equally or at least similarly be affected by toxic parental relationships and the behaviours and patterns they set.

  21. Lucy says:

    My husband had a “colorful” past that he swore was his in his past, youthful indiscretions, etc.

    I believed him, ignored my gut, and here we are fifteen years, two kids later and I’ve discovered he’s a serial cheater that I’m about to divorce.

    Not at all what I wanted for my life and I can’t imagine doing it again OR putting my kids through it again with someone not even their father. Just no.

    • Kebbie says:

      I’m so sorry, nobody deserves that. I’m sure there are people who have cheated once and never have again, but for a lot of cheaters it really just comes down to a lack of empathy and respect for their supposed loved ones.

      There is something just fundamentally broken about those people. They lack a sensitivity that you can’t teach or learn. You have it or you don’t, you get it or you don’t.

  22. mtam says:

    So…. Jlo just released pics of the proposal on her instagram… To me it seems a little sus because the lighting in those pics is so different from what they originally released that now i’m thinking these proposal pics are staged amidst these cheating rumours.

    Maybe it’s her way of showing she doesn’t care and is totally in love and gonna marry him anyways.

    • mtam says:

      Also other reasons they seem staged, due to the rumours, to me…

      1) if you look at the other vacay pics on their IG leading up to it, she was always sporting a messy top bun and no make-up. Then, in the proposal pics, she has a profesionally done looking hairstyle and a full face of make up. And also before she was wearing track suits and more casual things and in these proposal pics she’s styled way better/differently.

      2) I thought it was odd they only released a pic of the ring (and no more until today) and it made think, JLo being the perfectionist she seems, was prob not ”looking ready” (again, messy bun+no makeup+not styled) for a proposal. And this was later kinda confirmed when an article mentioned A-Rod had done it his way and surprised her.

      3) The pictures seem horribly photoshoped. Too much smoothing and blur and a weird white glow around their silhouettes, which to me either means they weren’t really there when they staged it and were (badly) supper- imposed into that scene, OR they were staged and rushed the editing to release them to try and overshadow the cheating rumours or show they are gonna keep ignoring them.

      Anyways, thanks for joining me down this conspiracy path! Hope you enjoy speculating about this as much as I do! haha

      • Lena says:

        When I saw those proposal pictures on DM I just cringed. How completely tacky, over the top and so Jlo! I’m sorry I just can’t with her sometimes

      • mtam says:

        Haha yeah, super tacky. You would think since they have a cam crew with them and professional photographers all the time they’d be able to hire someone better for those photos. I love JLo, but I also can’t with her sometimes.

  23. Jaded says:

    There’s this thing called Histrionic Personality Disorder characterized by a pattern of excessive attention-seeking behaviour, usually beginning in early adulthood, including openly seductive behavior and an excessive need for approval. Histrionic people are lively, dramatic, vivacious, enthusiastic, and flirtatious. They have a high need for attention, exaggerate their behaviors and emotions, and crave stimulation. They may exhibit sexually provocative behavior, express strong emotions and can be easily influenced by others. Associated features include egocentrism, self-indulgence, continuous longing for appreciation, and persistent manipulative behavior to achieve their own needs. You often find entertainers have it as it is a perfect milieu in which to express their need to be the centre of attention. At the core of it is a fear of abandonment, that no one will love them if they don’t live up to their “persona”. Mr. Jaded’s ex has it and was a professional back-up singer in the S. California music scene big leagues during the seventies (think Eagles, Jackson Browne, etc.). To this day she still acts the divia/drama queen and has to be the centre of attention. Sounds like Ms. Lopez might have a touch of this….thoughts?

    • KLO says:

      I would not “diagnose” Jennifer with any disorder. She is a normal human being. At the same time, I can never forget a documentary about her life where her mother basically threw her out of the house when she decided she wanted to pursue showbusiness and she ended up living with her dance teacher bcuz she had nowhere else to go. Obviously it all worked out for her but that kind of abandonment will stick with you through life. She seems to be the one to always seek out love and always try to make everything perfect to see it come crashing down on her.
      J-Los story reminds me a lot of Halle Berry. Halles mom also financially abandoned her when she was starting out in show business to the point that she had to go to look for food at the homeless soup kitchen. And all the stress from her situation led to her being diagnosed with diabetes in her twenties (diabetes is a stress illness)
      I would say that the mothers of both of those gorgeous, talented women have been cold, abusive and histrionic which has led to their daughters abandonment issues and anxiety. Halle, just like Jen, attaches herself to men who are a bad for her, over and over again.

      i can`t help but feel sympathy for both Jen and Halle. I know they make dumb decisions often but hey, people do worse things than getting married to the wrong person 3 times.

    • A says:

      You can’t have a “touch” of a personality disorder, that’s not how that works. People need to stop armchair diagnosing people they’ve never met just because they read a Wikipedia page about some disorder. Not only is it ultimately fruitless, it does more harm than good for mental health causes, and most of the time, I’ve really only see people peddling some terrible stereotypes about mental illness. Which only obfuscates the actual problems someone might be having.

    • april says:

      You can have character flaws which are not mental disorders. You can be vain but not be a narcissist. None of us are perfect.

  24. mar says:

    Im not feeling this relationship ( yes I know my feelings matter)
    I dont think Jen is his type in all honesty, and this is why he will continue to cheat with muscular blondes with strong jaw lines.

    • mtam says:

      JLo is muscular and has a strong jaw line. Though she’s more like a “Bronde” haha

  25. Snazzy says:

    I think this pairing will actually work because it’s about the brand, versus just the individuals. They will branch out, bring in the money and will be intertwined no matter what, because it will take them to the next level of fame and wealth.

  26. Bella Bella says:

    Once again: He looks like a big ol’ meathead to me. What does anyone see in him?

  27. A says:

    I think she picked ARod because she knows they look perfect and like they were meant to be. I’m not saying that she’s not in love with him right now, but I also think that Jennifer is drawn to the aesthetics of a relationship and how it looks to the world at large. Her and ARod are perfect on paper. In real life, probably not so much.

  28. Sarah says:

    Yeah, this will make six marriages between them…this is SURE to be the one!! 😬

  29. Luci Lu says:

    All she cares about is being in the spotlight. It doesn’t matter if the publicity is good or bad. Much like the full of plastic mannequin Kardashian/Jenners, this is how a lot of show business celebrities conduct their lives and make money. They were so desperate for attention, and to keep their reality show (that was scheduled to be canceled), alive, they actually planned to get pregnant just to keep their reality show on the air for one more year, and it worked! These kind of people, wake up in the morning, striking poses, when there’s nobody there to see, except the make-up artist, waiting in the guest bedroom. C’mon people, this is Jennifer’s fourth marriage, and she knows better than anybody, that she’s marrying a first-class male-whore. But, she’s got a big ring, she’ll be a beautiful bride, get paid a lot of money for the pictures, and for going through the motions….one more time.