Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard on Why They Haven’t Had to Spice Up Their Sex Life After 12 Years https://t.co/up532sGoa4
— People (@people) March 21, 2019
People magazine metes out the quotes from their cover interviews so it’s not surprising that a) Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard got another story to go with theirs and b) that they’re talking about their sex life. They don’t get into specifics, but they do say that things are great in that department and that they’re not going all Lena Dunham to try to spice things up. (My words. We’re not covering that Lena Dunham story here but we’ll talk on the podcast next week about how ridiculous it is.) Kristen and Dax are sort-of candid, but it’s People so it has to be family friendly. They don’t retell the story about their daughters walking in on them, at least not in the excerpt People posted online. Maybe they’re saving that.
“I wouldn’t say we need spicing up. We haven’t had to turn to leather accoutrements or anything,” Shepard, 44, tells PEOPLE exclusively in this week’s cover story, on stands Friday. “It’s still functioning quite well.”
“I didn’t marry you for your pecs,” says Bell, 38. “I married you for your mouth. I’ve second-guessed it quite a few times!
“No, we stimulate each other a lot with debates, and the great thing is we disagree on 99.9 percent of topics on the planet,” she adds. “There’s always spice to be had.”
Though they love exchanging witty banter and arguing over the most boring of topics (“You’d be embarrassed for us how strongly we’re fighting over whether something’s gun-metal gray or teal,” quips Shepard), the couple says they truly are still very physically attracted to each other. Adds Bell: “He’s very attractive, that’s the thing!”
And at the end of the day, Bell loves her husband no matter how many extra muscles he may be sporting at the moment.
“What’s funny is Kristen will see CHiPs and go, ‘Oh, you really got in good shape for that movie!’ I was like, ‘Yeah, I was in your bed in that shape. It’ll just hit her when she sees it. She doesn’t notice if I gain or lose 20 pounds.”
Ok that’s cute that she doesn’t notice in person if he’s gaining or losing weight. I’m like that. I really hope my boyfriend is like that too, although he once told me I looked great after I lost weight for being sick and I was like “damn.” He doesn’t seem to notice if I gain a few though.
As for them disagreeing on 99.9 percent of things, I don’t think that’s true. They’re both liberal, right? That’s a deal breaker for me. If someone is a Republican or a Libertarian (ugh) I will not date them. It doesn’t seem healthy to not agree on anything, especially when they’re raising kids. They definitely agree on their press strategy though and that seems to be half the battle for them. That can’t be just .01% in their lives, especially given how much we see them.
These contacts are so creepy!
I can’t with this over-sharing duo – is anything private anymore?
You know what I miss? Mystery. Discretion. I miss wondering about other people. I miss people being secret, and having secrets. I miss it like a lover. I would not miss these two for any reason because I know them too much.
I love them so much. But from listening to his podcast I do think he is more of a moderate than a full on liberal. He actually refuses to talk about it unlike her. He is heavily invested in motor cross sports and has admitted that many of his friends are conservatives. He’s mentioned that he doesn’t like when she gets all fired up about politics because it can be hard for his friends. But I do think over all he leans more to the left than the right. I am like you. I could never be married a Trump loving man. It would infuriate me too much.
From listening to it, I get the impression he thinks he’s more liberal than he is, and is about something things, but in a typical straight white male way, and someone who often argues “good people on both sides”, which I can’t get on board with in this political climate.
I really like her, but this oversharing and self promotion is too much.
I just read Lena Dunhams piece…i’m thinking maybe she is starting to have serieus mental issues.
Her writing is just awful. If she wasn’t ‘Lena dunham’ That piece would never have been published. Where, oh where, was the editor?!
Oh my gosh, gooooo awaaaaaaaayyyyy!!!
I agree. Go away. Because I may have a seizure from eye rolling these two
Disagreeing on 99% of topics can’t be true. I think they like to play up the fact that their personalities are quite different, because it adds to the whole “we fight all the time and go to therapy, we’re such a healthy couple!” thing they have going on. But relationships — friendships, romantic relationships, etc. — are based on compatibility when it comes to your outlook on certain topics. Opposites attract, sure, but you can’t disagree with your partner on nearly EVERYTHING and be happy, right?
I used to be an eye-roller when these two came up,but I have become a fan from his podcast. They really are very different people, but have tremendous communication skills and curiosity about one another and the world. It was amazing to me how genuine they both are in their own ways and how they simply have agreed to let the world see them as they are.
Dax definitely calls himself progressive but he also is always curious to learn about why others think differently. He is also one of the most well read celebs out there, in my observation. He really shines as a long-form interviewer.
I have realized that the thing that annoys some people about their over sharing, somewhat navel-gazey tone is that they’re at the top of maslow’s hierarchy of needs. They seem detached because they’re not dealing with concerns about anything besides self-actualization, and for people who aren’t free to have that luxury (all of us, let’s be real) that can have a flavor of performative art which is, frankly, a bit of an acquired taste. Like coffee was before I turned 16. Goddamn I’m longwinded.
@ello I love everything about this comment! And after listening to his podcast, I agree with you 100%
I couldn’t make out through that Lena Dunham article. Her working is all over the place
It is terribly disorganized, and the occasional, really obnoxious word choice is not helping.
This is their ‘brand’: over-sharing on the mundane-yet-relatable stuff. Their bank comes from the “OH-EM-GEE, me too” crowd. (Not to be confused with the #metoo movement whatsoever)
I didn’t think, in this particular case, that their responses were too over-the-top. Seems like they were asked about how they keep things spicy and this was their answer. With Frozen 2 coming out soon, things aren’t going to go much further than this.
If they have to debate whether something is gun-metal gray or teal, they’re both colorblind.
Colour blind in more ways than one.
I’m old (66) and have been around the block a lot and here’s my take on relationships:
1. Don’t sweat the petty stuff.
2. Always be respectful, even when you disagree.
3. Treat your partner like your best friend.
4. Tell your partner you love them at least once a day.
5. Never talk publicly about your sex life.
Also, I don’t really have much faith in the “opposites attracting” type of relationship. I’ve been to that well and eventually the wheels will fall off the cart. The more you have in common, the easier it is and you don’t have to resort to third party counselling and therapy to make things work.
I like them, I don’t find them tedious like the reality folks. I appreciate how frank she is about mental health, she doesn’t owe that to anyone & does so in a good way. Conversely Lena Dunham is tedious & I will never know what that article says unless someone releases a cliff note version.