Eva Mendes: ‘I feel more ambitious in the home right now than I do in the workplace’


I remember how Eva Mendes used to be before she fell for Ryan Gosling. She was a pap-stroller and hustler who worked often and did a lot to promote herself. That changed with Ryan, and it changed even more profoundly when she became a mom almost five years ago. Motherhood changed her – she barely works in Hollywood anymore, and the only time she gives interviews is when she’s promoting her line with New York & Company. She doesn’t even walk the red carpet with Ryan Gosling anymore – she’s just a full-time mom, not a Hollywood power-wife. Eva covers the latest issue of Women’s Health to talk about her clothing line and motherhood. You can read the full piece here. Some highlights:

She never pictured herself as a mom: “It was the furthest thing from my mind,” she admits. I ask how the shift happened—how she ended up with 4- and 2-year-olds and a schedule full of music classes and playdates. Eva beams. “Ryan Gosling happened.” Then she giggles and adds, “I mean, falling in love with him. Then it made sense for me to have…not kids, but his kids. It was very specific to him.”

Getting out of mom mode: “We’re just starting to get out of survival mode. I’m starting to feel like a person again.”

She works out three times a week: “I’m envious of women who enjoy working out, because I have the worst attitude about it. My vanity gets me to the gym—and obviously health reasons—but I’m kicking and screaming the whole way through.”

She does diet: “I have blood work done at least twice a year because I have high blood sugar, and high cholesterol runs in my family,” says the actress, who eats a lot of salmon and quinoa and has found that fish oil and CoQ10 supplements help her feel balanced. She has scrambled eggs and coffee with coconut oil or coconut sugar every morning, and she cops to sipping a soda or two a week. “I’m not squeaky-clean healthy. I have a sweet tooth, so I can’t keep anything in the house.”

Having two girls less than two years apart: “Family… We have an amazing support group: Ryan’s mom, my mom, Ryan’s and my sisters. It’s a village that helped us. My heart goes out to women who do this alone. I basically come from a single-parent household; although I love my dad, my mom mostly raised four of us on her own.”

Raising kids in LA: “It’s definitely a concern. Not only are we in the industry, but the whole fame component is super scary when you try to raise your kids… What I try to emphasize is that I don’t let them see me put attention to how I dress. They’ve never seen me get ready for something; they’ve never seen me at work. Which is fine, for whoever wants to do it that way, but the way I keep it normal is by not letting them see me in these situations. I’m just Mom. And I’m more than happy to just be Mom.”

The lack of ambition:
“I felt a lack of ambition, if I can be honest. I feel more ambitious in the home right now than I do in the workplace.”

[From Women’s Health]

I dislike the conversation about ambition, but I like the way Eva states her position – yeah, she doesn’t have “ambition” when it comes to Hollywood right now, but she’s still ambitious about motherhood. These are decisions which many women make – for some women, it’s either/or, and for some women it’s both, career AND motherhood. I feel like Eva is doing a good job of saying these are her choices and every woman can make her own choices. I mostly think Eva surprised herself with how little she cares about her career at this point – she had her babies and suddenly five years passed and she was like “oh yeah I forgot that I could have been reading scripts.”


Photos courtesy of Molly Creeden for Women’s Health, sent from promotional email.

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  1. Tiffany says:

    From a selfish standpoint, I miss seeing her act. I think she is a great comedic actress.

  2. Mia4s says:

    Women who aren’t “ambitious” aren’t appearing on national magazine covers to talk about their personal lives to promote their products. Not ambitious? Tell me another one Eva. 🙄

    • lucy2 says:

      It is a little odd that she is doing press with no projects to promote other than clothing.
      Maybe she’s testing the waters to get back into acting? Or maybe just wants to keep her name out there occasionally. I don’t know. They generally are pretty private though.

      • Valiantly Varnished says:

        A clothing line IS a project. She’s done PR for every collection dating back to her first. It’s why brands sign high profile names to contracts. Publicity

  3. minx says:

    I feel like I’ve seen that exact same cover pose of her many times…the messy hair swept to one side, hand in the hair, her body leaning forward. It’s like it’s her go-to magazine cover pose.
    And in the interview, talking about a village and both families helping out, sounds exactly like something I’ve read from her before.
    Anyway she’s gorgeous, I’m of the opinion that HE’S very lucky to have HER.

  4. Millenial says:

    Can we talk about what she did to her face? Because I’ve been trying to figure it out and I can’t put my finger on it, other than like, bad fillers.

  5. Renee2 says:


    She has no wrinkles. Even for a Latina at her age it’s odd, lol.

  6. ccsays says:

    I like what she says about just getting out of survival mode. My kids are 5 and 2 and this is how I feel at the moment and also why I’m done at two. Those first couple of years (and the newborn days especially) you’re flying by the seat of your pants. I love being a Mum but good God those early days with a toddler and a newborn were rough.

  7. sequinedheart says:

    I love her and I miss seeing her in movies. She’s a hoot and comes across as a strong individual. I applaud her for being honest about moving into motherhood and making that her focus but not shaming any other versions presented in Hollywood families.
    And I think because she and Ryan Gosling are beloved yet extremely private, people are intrigued to hear from her, project or not.

  8. Tweetime says:

    I kind of like this conversation.
    I’m pregnant with my first and have been taken aback by how much I don’t care about work right now – I do it, but normally I really care about my career and lately just being in my workplace feels like it’s depressing me. Meanwhile, I really feel like leaning in on the home front.
    My guess is a lot of this is hormones on my part, and my brain kind of restructuring for the role I’m about the play, but it’s been hard for me, partially because I don’t know if it will change back to the way I’ve always been. So for now I’m trying to focus on tilting into this area of my life and seeing where things go. It’s kind of refreshing to have someone talking about not wanting to have it all without taking a “this is what’s best for everyone” or 50s-gender-politics approach.

  9. tuille says:

    I think she is gorgeous.

  10. SM says:

    I’m envious of women who enjoy working out, because I have the worst attitude about it. My vanity gets me to the gym—and obviously health reasons—but I’m kicking and screaming the whole way through. – yep, that’s me. Also I envy her situation, that she has such wide support system. For me it is just me and my husband. Occasionally now that my kid is a bit bigger my brother will help but he also has his hands full. And it is not only about the help and support you get, it is the kind of different close relationship your kid(s) have with not just parents but wider circle of people. I think that very small portion of parents can now say that they have a village. Those are the realities of global world.