Pete Davidson was on The Tonight Show last week, the last time he was on that show was when he was engaged to Ariana Grande. That wasn’t that long ago in the scheme of things. I got the impression that he’s broken up with Kate Beckinsale, or that it was never more than a hookup in the first place, because he made a reference to being lonely. He also said that he lives in the basement of a house he bought with his mom. That was the second story he told after the one about how he accidentally treated Kanye West and Kim Kardashian to a VIP dinner at Nobu. He was there to promote Mortal Kombat 11 and he did a decent job at talking up that game.
On his expensive dinner with Kimye, Timothee Chalamet and Kid Cudi
It was Cudi’s birthday he was like ‘Hey let’s go to Nobu.’ I got there early so I could give them my card [so I could treat]. I thought it was just us three. Everyone was skinny. Then Timothee Chalamet shows up. Also skinny. No problem. Then Cudi goes ‘Hey, Kim and Kanye might drop by.’ They come by, we’re outside. Then Kanye goes ‘Let’s get the special room, in the back.’ I text my touring agent ‘Yo, you’ve got to book more shows.’Kanye goes ‘I want that stuff that’s not even on the menu. That crazy stuff.’ It was fine. It actually wasn’t as bad as you would think. It’s not like it’s Applebees. It’s Nobu which is like 77 Applebeeses.
“I heard you’re building an arcade at your house”
So I live with my mom. We bought a house together but nobody believes that. So I live with my mom kinda. I have like a basement that’s mine. But that’s like an apartment so I live underneath her. So I’m getting a little arcade set up down there. Trying to make it mine.
[From The Tonight Show]
Ok Pete was funny, I cracked up a few times, and I see how he scores women. I also see how it only lasts a few months too. I mean he does live with his mom. There’s no shame in that! I’ve lived with my parents as an adult too and it was wonderful. It was relaxing not having to take care of everything myself. I miss them a lot as they moved out of my town to a retirement community. (I didn’t live with them for more than a few months!) I don’t know if I’d talk about it on national TV but I’m writing about it so maybe I would. Plus Pete has celebrity connections and he knows it so maybe that coupled with how funny he is balances it out for some women.
Ooh here he is at the premiere of The Dirt on Netflix. It’s the story of Motley Crue and Pete plays a record executive. That movie is crazy good. I’m sure they embellish so much of it, but they actually admit during the movie when they play too fast and loose with the truth. It’s also a little hard to take in parts, but I would recommend it.
Here’s the interview:
photos credit: Avalon.red and WENN
i get the impression he is lonely period. he’s lonely when he’s with 10 people. he’s lonely in a relationship. perpetual loneliness. i know the type.
^^THIS!!
I do not get this guy’s appeal. He seems soooooooooo immature.
Living with the parents shaming feels very Western to me. I know it’s probrably frowned upon everywhere but the nuclear family as best model is decidedly first world imo.
I feel the same way. I’ve lived with my mom since she got sick back in 2012. I take her to all her out of town/state doc appointments because she can’t really drive anymore. I know people look down on me, but I don’t know what else to do. My city has become too expensive for me to live alone and I’m all she has.
BengalCat, taking care of your mother is very admirable, and having you near is a great comfort to her. Please don’t let the harsh and ignorant judgment of others make you feel bad about the wonderful thing you are doing.
BengalCat, you’re doing great. Being a caretaker is a tough job. Don’t let others tell you (or judge you) otherwise.
Yeah, my mother in law has lived with my husband and now us the entire time I’ve known him. Nothing wrong with that. I can’t imagine her living alone. Just financially alone she would have to work until she dies just to be poor.
It was a stressful thing for him to bring up. It had caused a lot of issues for him dating before. Its definitely viewed with shame.
BengalCat
You and your mom are quite lucky to have one another. Focus on your combined well-being, treasure your time together and keep your energy clean and uncluttered. So much of what stresses us out is just noise. What people think about your lifestyle choices is based on societal metrics that have nothing to do with your autonomy. Give yourself full permission not to gaf. Hugs.
Thanks for the love guys, I appreciate it more than you know ❤
ITA!
I’m almost 28 and still living with my mom (I live in NYC, in a 4 bedroom with 2 other female roomies, plus my mom). My sister lives 2 blocks away in another apartment my family owns.
I pay rent (a lot less than what most people pay), I buy my own groceries/make my own meals (and I cook for my mom), I have my own bathroom (which I clean). I work full time and I’m in school part time for graphic design.
I’m on the lease so I’m considered equally responsible for the apartment. The only thing my mom does for me is my laundry, and that’s because we have a washer dryer combo in the apt and she’s super conscious about saving water/electricity and using non-scented detergents in the machine.
Me paying rent helps support my mom and helps her pay the mortgage on the apartment she owns 2 blocks away and also helps her with her retirement savings. We’re Latinx so there is an emphasis on supporting your family when you can. This is very typical in Latin American countries, and a lot of people do not move out simply to make a statement, it usually happens you are in a serious relationship or going to get married. When I was in my early 20’s I almost got married and that was the only time I considered moving out.
A lot of my friends who also grew up in NYC still live with their parents. My friends who move out of their parents places only tend to do so because they have not so great relationships with their parents. Rent is super high here. The cost of living in general is so high here. And sometimes if you tell someone you’re dating your parents live with you (that’s how I now try to frame it) they can get weird about it.
That being said, my mother is moving away in September, but I’ve lived with her since I transferred to a university in the city after my sophomore year of college, and there’s not much I would change (plus I love my apartment. It’s rent controlled, in a great neighborhood, and it’s part of my childhood).
I was in my early thirties, going through a divorce and my Mom said, “why not move in with me? You can go back to school and help me pay my mortgage.” Cheapest rent I’ve ever paid! I ended up living with her for 10 years as an adult. It was great!!
That’s what I’m doing. It rocks!
Same. A relationship ended and my parents have a basement apartment they let me rent, so I live here with my son and my parents. It’s allowed me to start law school and save money. At first, I felt pretty embarrassed but now idgaf what people think. They’re my parents, they won’t be around forever, and it was nice having a support system while my broken little heart was mending lol
This guy has celebrity money, not “I’m still in college working a part-time job money.”
He and his Mom live in a home they built together, I bet it’s over $1Million. It’s a good investment, he’s a young, single dude.
Why not live in THE basement? He is pretty funny when he talks about it.
His relationships seem to be dramatic and short lived, maybe this gives him some security.
And, yes I think he is a lonely guy at heart, even in a room full of friends. Some folks just are.
Yes. He’s definitely not the stereotypical slacker living in his mom’s basement. This seems sweet. And honestly, I worry so much about my college kids and how they will make it on their own with the high cost of living and generally low wages compared to when I was their age.
We used to have a building in Chicago called a two flat, which is two apartments, one up and one down. I’m kicking myself that we ever sold it. We could never afford to buy one in that neighborhood now, sigh, and it seems like it would be a great way to live. Many of our neighbors lived that way, two families or two parts of families in each apartment. Although I had two old brothers next door to me, one in each apartment, and they hadn’t spoken to each other in 30 years when we moved out of there 10 years ago. Crazy.
I find him pretty funny, and honestly, that’s one of the most important things for me guy wise. I could see myself in a dysfunctional relationship with him because I genuinely don’t think my own neurotic tendencies would vibe all that well with his.
But I completely get why other women end up with him – but I can also see why he’s really not some peoples’ type. I don’t find men like Henry Cavill or Chris Evans attractive at all, while plenty of people swoon over them.
I agree, he’s definitely someone I would end up being into, but it deeeffffinitely wouldn’t last. I think he’s probably sweet and funny and smart, but just a whole host of issues that would make it hard to last full time. He’s not the most physically attractive but I certainly don’t find him ugly, and I bet the personality stuff makes him way more attractive. Plus the Mulaneys love him, which gives him extra points in my book haha.
I think him and Kate were just having a good time, it seems to have pulled him out of the funk that he was in after Ariana dumped him at least.
I think that’s what it was, too. They had a good time, dated casually, and when it was over it wasn’t a big deal because it wasn’t a serious thing. He clearly has been doing a lot better since that, so that’s great for both of them, I think.
Being close with the Mulaney’s definitely made me a little more into him, haha. They seem like great people.
But exactly – it’s never just about looks for me – as long as other boxes are checked, I’m happy haha. And I like his humor for the most part, though I’d be mortified at certain details being shared for a joke. It’d definitely be something I’d need run by me.
Thank you for your butique posts. 🙂
Whenever I see him i have the feeling he’s a punch bag of life. Crohn disease seems like a real pain, add this to mental issues and there you have a young man who always looks sick.
I know, right? I work with disabled kids, teens and adults and it kills me every day how some people have it so much rougher in life than most others. And when you have “invisible differences” like Pete’s mental illness or my son’s autism spectrum disorder, for example, it can be harder in some ways because people expect you to manage as easily as everyone else just because it *looks* like you should be able to.
I hear that, every time my daughter gets a new diagnosis I’m like, Really? Doesn’t the poor kid have enough to deal with already?!
I don’t remember if he had bpd or bd but honestly having a loved one living with him to help manage his mental health is probably easier for everyone. Also I’m glad he’s living in the basement and not his mom!
Pete and his mom are probably super close after losing his father. It’s neat they can share in the success. Wish them all the best.
I lived with my Mama until I was 25…stayed to help her pay off the mortgage…and I was single…so why pay rent to someone else…
I’ve always been an advocate of families living together…even after you’re grown….
If you can….
I totally agree
If my dad lived in my city and not in the middle of miserable, godforsaken nowhere, I would totally live with him! I don’t see an issue with this; I think it’s nice that he can afford a house that he and his mama can enjoy together.
No qualms about him living with his mother. I agree with the posters who have mentioned that living on your own is a first world thing and I 100% agree. Plus, with all of his mental health struggles, I think it’s important for him to not live on his own, and to have a built in/live in support system.
That said…I really do not get good vibes from him. I know he is mentally ill – I too struggle with my own mental illness(es) (anxiety, depression, PTSD, eating disorder off and on etc.), so I do have a level of sympathy and empathy for him. However, I can smell a narcissist from a mile away and I’m fairly certain that he is one. Keep in mind, narcissists are often very charming, and very good at manipulating others to view them in a positive light.
He got pretty “blame-y” toward Ariana about his mental health situation after their relationship ended, and acted like the world owed him something just because he struggles with mental illness. It seems he is more interested in thinking the rest of the world should change to accommodate his needs, than to actually work on himself. I have a feeling he uses his mental illness as a way to try to manipulate his relationships (“if you leave me, I’ll kill myself!” kind of behavior). As a hyper-vigilant woman who has been in more than one abusive relationship, and since learned to identify (through extensive therapy) both my unhealthy behaviors as well as others, he sets off a lot of alarm bells for me. He seems like the type to love-bomb in the beginning and then pick apart his partner later on in the relationship.
Anyway, just my two cents.
I agree with you! Also a survivor from an abusive relationship with someone with NPD/BPD characteristics. He has said many problematic and manipulative things, he sets off warning bells for me.
Glad you got out! It’s validating that you see it too. As survivors of these kinds of things, we often question our own instincts due to being gas-lighted for so long!
I suppose I could see that. I don’t think he was doing a “if you leave me, I’ll kill myself” thing though – I think he was just really struggling, people on social were telling him to kill himself and how he didn’t deserve Ariana, she’d dumped him, and he was honest that he felt like killing himself. When she showed up at SNL, he turned her away – so I don’t think he was saying it to try to get her back.
The “If you leave me, I’ll kill myself” would have come long before the actual break-up. In fact, I could see that as the catalyst that led to them becoming engaged in the first place. It may have come after her instigating a break-up, him losing it, and her agreeing to stay, then him proposing to gain more “security” in their relationship (I’m nothing without you, I can’t lose you, etc.).
The way that he completely refused to see her when she was trying to be supportive is another indication of his narcissist behavior to be honest. It was like he was punishing her and trying to publicly humiliate her when she was just trying to be supportive. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a person’s choice who they want to see or don’t want to see, and he had every right to refuse to see her, but in his case, I believe it was a punishment. So yes, at that point, I don’t think he was trying to get her back. She left him, which he saw as the ultimate betrayal.
I read somewhere it’s a 4.5 million dollar mansion and I saw listing pics of the inside. It’s beautiful. I think it’s sweet he lives with his mom. He’s trying to take care of her. It’s not like he lives in a dingy, short ceiling with exposed pipes smelly basement. Ha!
Also, you can feel lonely in a room full of people! If a connection isn’t made, or you aren’t being engaged..it can be lonely. To always have surface deep convos would be very lonely and get old.
Maybe he moved in with his mom so she could keep a better eye on him after what he went through this past year. maybe she grounds him
i got evicted…trying to stunt to hard when i got my first big girl job post recession years ago….and what I learned was I so could have saved money and headache and heartache had I lived with my overbearing alpha woman mom…. LOVE YOU MOM! <3 lol
but honestly the path has lead me to be smarter and grittitier about money and owning a house at 28 and meeting and having my fiance move in sometime after —-sooo idk hard path but everyone should just do what works for them you know..
Wow you own a house at 28?! Great job
@snowflake yea…but not without getting my financial azz kicked trying to be too cool for moms basement! LOLOL
I got into an apt that i couldnt afford bec all the yuppies at my job were doing it and then couldnt afford my high (euro car that was never needed lol) insurance bill, then stupidly never believed in saving and that any extra money was for trips and weekly blowouts and monthly weaves, then the gov shutdown of 2013…..when i tell you i lived to personally stunt…i really dont know how i accomplished the home thing except to say i totally humbled myself and started living like a broke college kid (scrimping every last dime) at my (bf at the time, now ex’s) rent controlled apt.
TMI i guess but people need to know its ok to live with parents if you need to reevaluate your financial, mental, emotional livehood or if you need to assist with fam…its NEVER shameful
I tried living with my mother for a bit after college and I honestly believe we both tried our best, but it all of a sudden felt like I was back in high school! We’ve had a fraught relationship and our dynamic was finally better since I’d grown up/moved away, but as soon as I got back it felt like I was a severe setback in our relationship.
I moved in with my now-husband and I realize I was lucky to do that, because while I paid my portion of the rent it was proportional and with his help I could afford to live in a much nicer place than if I were supporting myself entirely.
While I know there are valid reasons for someone in their 20s to 30s still living with their parents, I can’t help but initially side-eye adults who still lives at home; mostly because the adults I’ve known who do are basically over-grown children. I had a friend from childhood (we no longer speak) who was still living with his parents when we last spoke ( we were in our late 20s). He had graduated with a bachelor’s degree in Marketing but never tried to get a job in that field. He only pursued the degree because he thought it would be cool, not because it sounded like a good path. On the occasions I’d ask about job hunting, he’d roll his eyes and bitch about the poor economy (it was Obama’s fault according to him). He spent all of his money on paintball and clubbing on the weekends. When we last spoke he still needed his parents’ assistance with everything.
My former brother in law divorced my sister because she got a better paying job than he did. He was always aimless and never could be bothered to embark on a better path. He spent a lot of money on alcohol and vaping supplies. When my sister attempted to encourage him about learning a trade or returning to school, he’d become defensive. Since they divorced, he’s moved back in with his mom and has no prospects for a better quality of life while my sister earns a good living and has her own apartment.
I also dated a woman who was three years older than me who still lived with her parents. She’d left a high-paying job because she found it too difficult and took a low-paying job as an office manager because she quit without a back-up plan. When asked why she still lives with her mom and dad, she’d give an excuse about the economy then quickly change the answer to her parents needing help if she saw you weren’t buying it. She spent most of her money going to Comic Cons, expensive weekends in the city and trips to Disney World.
Yes, there are valid reasons why an adult would still live or move back in with their parents. In Pete’s case maybe it’s best he live with his mom considering his mental illness. There are also instances where people move back to assist an ailing parent. However, I just can’t find it in myself to automatically give a pass when I hear someone over 25 proclaim they still live at home.
The Motley Crue movie wasn’t really embellishing…if anything it made them seem boring compared to the things they actually did in real life…👀
..more to the point though, the acting was shockingly bad, all except MGK..which ehh, was more confusing than anything else.
Really? You thought “The Dirt” was crazy good? There were only 3 good things about that Movie: Pete Davidson, Machine Gun Kelly and Iwan Rheon. The writing was horrible. I don’t know whether to blame that on the script or the book since I never finished reading “The Dirt.”
The Dirt is like a Lifetime movie with boobs and cocaine