Gwyneth Paltrow ‘has worked hard to integrate’ Dakota Johnson into her family

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I would never want to date Chris Martin in general, for many reasons, but a huge reason why I would never want to date Chris is his ex-wife. Chris and Gwyneth Paltrow truly spend more time together now that they’re divorced than they ever did during their marriage. Gwyneth still exerts a crazy amount of control over Chris’s life and his time, all in the name of co-parenting their two children. Remember how Chris dated Jennifer Lawrence and J-Law never had a good word to say about him after they split? One of the reasons why that was the case was because of Gwyneth, I believe that it my soul. Just as I believe in my soul that Gwyneth is going to make damn sure that Chris doesn’t end up with anyone more famous than her or more accomplished. Gwyneth was fine when Chris dated Annabelle Wallis because… well, Wallis isn’t a big celebrity. Gwyneth also seems to be fine with Chris dating Dakota Johnson. In fact, Gwyneth wants us to know that she’s put a lot of time and effort into “integrating” Dakota into her life with Chris:

Gwyneth Paltrow is all about her family — and that now includes Dakota Johnson. The Goop founder, 46, isn’t facing any awkwardness when it comes to spending time with Johnson, 29, who is dating Paltrow’s ex-husband, Coldplay frontman Chris Martin.

In fact, the Avengers: Endgame actress “has worked hard to integrate Dakota into family life — even suggesting that she join family vacations,” a source tells PEOPLE.

“It’s very important to her to be on good terms with Chris’s girlfriends,” says the source. “She’s not at all threatened by Dakota and loves that Chris is happy — she’s very secure about sex and relationships and is not competitive in that way.”

Paltrow is also basking in her own happiness. She married TV producer Brad Falchuk in a private wedding ceremony in the Hamptons in September.

“She’s very much in love with her husband and loves sharing time with everyone she considers part of her family,” the insider adds. “At this point that very much includes Dakota.”

[From People]

I mean, if you have to run to People Magazine and tell them that you’re “very secure about sex and relationships and…not competitive in that way,” then the opposite is true. Gwyneth is SO competitive, not to mention passive-aggressive and manipulative. Gwyneth’s brought Dakota in closer so that if Gwyn ever wants to shut down Dakota and Chris’s relationship, she can do it from the inside. She’s probably already started. To be clear, I don’t have an issue with two exes getting along for the sake of their kids. But a divorce should create natural boundaries too – beyond the obvious “Gwyneth cares about who Chris is dating because that person will be around their kids,” what f–king business is it of Gwyneth’s? Why is she running to People with this shady story?? And to be clear about one other thing: this is on Chris. He should have insisted on more boundaries when he and Gwyneth divorced. He did not. Now every girlfriend has to deal with Gwyneth all up in her business.

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  1. AnnaKist says:

    Oh, yes. Of course she has. Saint Goop…

  2. tealily says:

    The thing is, I think Dakota is *actually* very secure about sex and relationships, so maybe this will work out.

  3. Mabs A'Mabbin says:

    So Gwen equals Scientology.

  4. Bettyrose says:

    So the implication is that Dakota Johnson isn’t as successful as Goop? I guess. They’re both Hollywood princesses. I know Goop had a good run in her 20s but was a nepotism oscar really a bigger deal than Dakota’s role in a franchise an entire generation attributes with their early adolescent awakenings? (I felt icky typing that but I didn’t sign off on that crap being made).

  5. lucy2 says:

    I wouldn’t want anything to do with Gwenyth, she seems like a very insecure mean girl type.

    However, I do hope they all really get along (not just for People write ups), because that’s so much easier for the kids.

  6. Senator Fan says:

    Ugh! Can’t stand this pretentious tool, never could. She’s too tryhard and extra about everything. And why is she sitting between them? Says alot IMO.

    • Eyeroll says:

      That’s not Chris Martin in the Instagram post. It’s Derek Blasberg, a mutual friend.

    • 2cents2day says:

      Can’t stand the x wives who plan “blended family vacations” as an excuse to seem “enlightenedY n stuff”. Yuck. X’s Are X for a reason- don’t interfere w fake planning.joke posts and or baiting attacks- just DON’t interfere ATALL. Move. On.

  7. Ali says:

    you’re “very secure about sex and relationships and…not competitive in that way,” then the opposite is true.


  8. Tris says:

    Deliciously bitchy quotes: ““It’s very important to her to be on good terms with Chris’s girlfriends [PLURAL]” and ” loves sharing time with everyone she considers part of her family… AT THIS POINT that very much includes Dakota.”
    ha ha ha what a cow!

  9. MrsCova says:

    Where are Dakota’s people throughout this? I mean girl run, this has bad idea written all over it.

  10. Nibbi says:

    Someone feels the need to point out to People magazine that “she’s not at all threatened by Dakota” and that she’s “very much in love with her husband”?

    Just weird. Seems that if it were true on her part, there’d be… no story here.

  11. Cee says:

    Yeah, there should be natural boundaries after a divorce but this doesn’t always happen. I just broke up with my bf because he was deeply involved with his ex financially and even sleeps at her house during the weekends “because of our son”. No. You don’t pay her rent when you pay for everything involving the kid plus spousal and child support. You don’t sleep at her house just because you had a kid with her, even if your kid lives 2 hours away and there are rooms let for the weekend.

    There will come a time when Dakota will need to know she’s #1, not Gwyneth, in Chris’ life. Gwyneth should keep herself out of his life concerning everything but their children.

    • The Dot says:

      Sounds like you did the right thing. That’s far too involved in an ex’s life.

  12. Dee Kay says:

    I am a fan of Daktoa Johnson and hope she runs far, far away from the Martin-Paltrow family. I know that she was raised in a fairly friendly multiple-parent situation with lots of half- and step-siblings etc., and so I guess the idea of co-parenting with an older dude and his mean girl ex-wife isn’t a total dealbreaker for her, but given the ex’s personality it should be a dealbreaker for anyone.

  13. Vanessa says:

    I literally cawed outloud at ““very secure about sex and relationships and…not competitive in that way,” I mean, come on. That’s just so obvious and embarrassing for GP.

    • K-Peace says:

      Yeah, this whole article makes Goop look laughably pathetic. (And it’s very obviously from Goop/her “team”.) Why on earth would she have this article written??
      And i can just imagine the passive-aggressive bullshit she dishes out regularly.

  14. Lizzie says:

    i’ve been through this. it was horrible. in college i was hooking up with a guy who was “best friends” with his ex. he was dim, she was manipulative and any time he tried to date someone she would make her presence known. hanging at the pool? she’d roll up in her string bikini. at a club? she’s be jumping off a banquet onto his back. at a park? bitch would pop out of a damn bush.

    she was totally obnoxious and would hang all over him. texted and called him constantly. she was “friendly” in that super condescending way. when i finally brought it up – she painted me as some insecure psycho and he stopped seeing me. he is married and has kids now and i heard she is still all up in their business. it is pathetic.

  15. Morrissey says:

    This might be harder for Dakota to realise, since this blended family, in each other’s business shtick has been her normal her entire life. Her mama is very active in the lives of her exes and their kids together AND the kids from her exes with others. Even the kids the exes have had since then. Stella considers Dakota’s siblings her own as well, even though they’re DJ’s kids. I actually think it’s really lovely.
    But the caveat there’s would be I think Melanie Griffith is a genuinely lovely and loving person and not operating from the same agenda as Goopy.

  16. iconoclast59 says:

    IIRC, Dakota’s mom has stayed on friendly terms with her exes Don Johnson and Antonio Banderas, and I think they’ve all hung out together for the sake of the kids. So, this isn’t really an unusual situation for Dakota. Being chummy with exes isn’t my cup of tea, but if it works for Gwyneth, Chris, Dakota, and Brad, who am I to criticize?

  17. Tuntmore says:

    I actually like Gwyneth Paltrow. I dunno, to me she’s always seemed sort of like she secretly understands the absurdity of it all and is just f-ing with us. I definitely think she’s more grounded than people give her credit for — which isn’t to say she doesn’t say flaky sh-t, or endorse very bad ideas (uh, the jade eggs, wtf). Some of that I write off to the Hollywood feedback loop of insanity that she grew up in and in which she continues to exist.

    I didn’t necessarily *want* to like her (except for appreciating that she’s a superb actor). I know most people don’t. It just happened over many years. I feel like she has a sense of humor about herself and about life, and she’s a strong, intelligent, thoughtful woman. I get that she can be pretentious, and seem out of touch with 99% of the world. I totally understand the dislike of her. But I can’t help it — I like Gwyneth Paltrow. lol

    That being said, I don’t quite get the Paltrow-Martin family dynamic. This is all of course just my opinion. I feel like Chris Martin is probably a man-child (which would explain Gwyneth being/seeming “controlling”), in which case this enmeshment seems like a bad idea. One big happy family is great when the partners are all equal, as far as power dynamics. In the Chris/Gwyneth/Dakota family, Gwyneth and Dakota are equal (and both implicitly acknowledge it), while Chris is just not on that same level. I think it would serve them best if Gwyneth and Chris had some actual space, and if Chris didn’t date anyone for a while. (And yes, Gwyneth could do with some self-work, too.)

    The laws of healthy relationships are pretty universal, and celebrities are neither above them nor immune to them. Emotionally healthy people can have healthy relationships of all shapes and sizes. But each person has to get there him-/herself first. And no one in the relationship gets to dictate anyone else’s comfort level, satisfaction, health, etc.

  18. Misty says:

    I think Dakota knows how to deal with someone like Goop. She’s grown up in Hollywood and deals with people like her all the time. They might get along, but I’m sure she also knows how to play the game.

  19. GMonkey says:

    Lots of psychologists say that people who are overly chummy with their exes are actually control freaks/narcissists. Yes, be polite and cordial, particularly if you have kids together, but often it’s a move to stay connected and present in your ex’s life.

    My in-laws literally legally adopted his ex girlfriend from 20+ years ago. They dated less than a year and didn’t have children together. It’s so over the top and disrespectful to my husband and to me.

  20. thatgirlmn says:

    I don’t understand all the GP hate, not just here but all over the internet. She’s a talented actress, a successful businesswoman, and a pretty decent singer. I am always suspect of too much hate thrown at a successful woman but I guess it’s par for the course. I agree with the above poster that she seems to have a good sense of humor about herself.
    Anyway, I’m sure Dakota will be just fine and both she and Chris are grownups and can handle themselves.