I’ve been a Demi fan since No Small Affair, but I truly fell for her in St. Elmo’s Fire. It was hard to watch her not taking care of herself a few years ago, but she seems well on her way to coming back, better than ever. At one point in her career, Demi was known for her incredible physique almost as much as being the world’s highest paid actress. When she was doing GI Jane, her intense workouts went viral, much like Brie Larson’s pulling a car to get in shape for Captain Marvel. Demi has recently opened up about not taking care of herself but says she’s been working on her mental state as well as her health. And now she’s returning to her physical health as well, admitting that after a four-year hiatus, she’s going to start working out again. To get her going, she bought a workout mirror, one of those mirrors that has a tiny little tyrant telling you to get moving every time you try to brush your teeth:
Following that post, Demi posted a sped-up second video of her doing the workout routine and claiming the time “flew by!” She doesn’t specify that this is sponcon, but I suspect it’s some sort of partnership deal. I’m not that familiar with these mirrors and have never seen one live. You can turn them off and use them as just a regular ol’ mirror and, I assume, a coat rack, which is how I generally use my standing mirror. I need to shake up my workout routine because I’ve definitely plateaued. I like going to exercise classes but it’s hard to fit one into my current schedule, so this might be a good option. But as CB pointed out to me, you can get the same thing on YouTube for free. Maybe not totally the same but same idea, at least. Also, with my luck, I’d forget to turn the exercise option off and drop from a heart attack when my mirror started barking about lunges in the middle of the night.
But this isn’t about me, of course. It’s about Demi who has plenty of money for task-master mirrors, not to mention the space to do the actual exercise. If you look at Demi’s hashtags, you’ll see references to Inside Out. That’s the title of her memoir that comes out in September. The description says it’s a, “deeply candid and reflective memoir.” Apparently, she goes into detail about childhood troubles, her addictions and other issues in her adulthood. She also writes about her marriages to Freddy Moore, Bruce Willis and Ashton Kutcher. You can pre-order her book now.
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I swear Moore and Courtney Cox have now morphed into one and the same human for me. Even down to the same slightly desperate air of ‘please tell me Im still hot” thing they both have going on.
I have no soft spot for her. Maybe because I’m one of three daughters who were tortured and harmed by our mother’s issues and selfish bullsh**. I just can’t believe what she put her daughter’s through, and then she’s all “oh but now I’m healthy!” OK but you spent your daughter’s formative years as a complete mess.
It’s hard to explain the stress of having a mother like this, a mother that YOU have to be a mother to, a mother who then wants a pat on the back for managing to act like a normal human being for a few years once it’s all over. No. She’s a jerk.
I dont know where you got your info from but her daughters were ADULTS when her drug issues resurfaced. NOT children. If they can forgive her and move on than everyone else should move on as well.
not all of them were adults. Demi was partying with Rumer, who was an adult, but the youngest girl was only 17 at the time of Demi’s seizure/hospitalization, and who knows how long she’d been using before the seizure. the youngest girl (tallulah?) even went to live with Bruce during that time because she was still a minor.
@olive 17 isnt a baby or a small child. Having said that- again – if they have found a way to forgive and make peace as a family then others should leave their judgements aside. Period. I’m not a Demi fan and I remember that time quite clearly. I felt sorry for her kids. But it’s not my place to judge their relationship with their mother now. Addiction is a disease. If Demi has gotten help and improved her life and mended her relationship with her kids – who btw are all still close to their mother – then we should be applauding that. And stop with this incessant need to clobber people over their heads with their past. They have all moved on and if they who were actually INVOLVED can do it then so can random people on the internet
I have a friend who worked for Bruce and Demi in Idaho in the 90s, and believe me—drugs or no drugs—Demi was a God-awful mess. Paranoid, erratic and super OCD about her body and appearance, and her kids’ bodies and appearances. The friend won’t say much about it, but every so often when she’s drunk enough we get tidbits.
Addiction and drug abuse affect children of any age. The fact that they were still in formative years (17 for the youngest) is terrifying and can have life-long affects. I work in addiction & recovery treatment; family members are as sick as those that are using.
Well, just be happy that you are totally perfect in every way! Peace!
yo, @charliepenn, I also had a really screwed up mother, it sounds really similar to what you’re describing. She had 4 kids, and we spent our adolescence mothering her, and she never got it together and died when we were in our late teens/early twenties, and of course that was traumatic too. I feel your pain and anger, people really can’t understand the specific kind of damage that does unless they’ve been there.
HOWEVER— at the end of the day, I know my mom was mentally ill and an addict, and I am
mostly sad for her. I also adored her, despite all the damage she did, and when she was stable for a few months, it was awesome and we all celebrated it for what it was. So I suspect that is the path the Willis girls have taken, and that is their choice. Other people in my life situation are mostly angry with my mom, and that is valid, but not being mad is also valid in my opinion.
Wowza here’s an Internet hug…. I’m so sorry
I had a good mother and good grandmothers but CharliePenn… you’re not wrong for feeling the way that you do and I hope no one makes you feel that way. You dont have to celebrate your mother temporarily getting her shiz together. Nor do you have to accept it now that its wayyyyy too late. You also dont have to feel sad or sorry for any possible mental illnesses that she has. Don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise. It doesn’t make you bitter, cruel or selfish. It makes you an adult who went through too much as a child because of that woman and you have every right to feel whatever way is best for yourself. Stay strong.
Wowza and Styla thanks for this. I know it can be hard to understand. The things you go through if you have a toxic mother… people with normal mothers can be really taken aback at how it makes you feel.
I do feel that demi probably had issues always, and there was a time when it became really apparent. And I doubt she cares if I don’t support her or her career.
Valiantly I know addiction is a disease. So is having an addict for a parent, in a way. My mom has borderline so in a way I have a secondary disease: child of a borderline addict. I feel how I feel about parents who need to be parented, and that’s it.
I do have a relationship with my mother and I do love her, like Wowza. It’s a trial and it’s hard and I even get therapeutic help at times just to deal with that particular relationship. I don’t know if I’ll be able to do it forever. It requires a ton of effort and forgiveness on my end, while she does nothing and will be the first one to tell me I’m not doing nearly enough for her.
So this with Demi really resonated with me, when it all happened. I think it takes one to know one in a way, I think if you have a borderline mother you can spot one more easily. Of course I can’t diagnose her but I can aboslutley feel for what her daughters went through, and probably still go through as adults.
In some ways it becomes even harder when you’re an adult, because your parent’s behavior becomes even more obviously wrong. And once you have your own kids, your heart breaks over and over realizing how truly fucked up you were treated, and how you would never make your own child take care of you all the while blaming them for never doing it good enough, you would never make every aspect of your child’s life stressful and scary because you are a damn mess.
It helps SO MUCH to read on the sites like this that others know what it’s like. It can be shocking and seem really harsh I’m sure.
@CharliePenn – It is really nice to talk to someone with this shared experience. I identified with so much of what you said. Especially getting older and contextualizing just how much my mom failed, you’re right, it really, really hurts.
The hardest thing for me has been realizing how much I dissociated from my own life and experiences, just to get by. I could be at a party and recite the sad details to a stranger with a completely blank face, for shock value or to be like “don’t fuck with me”, but I wasn’t really allowing myself to feel it. My therapist helped me see that. I had to practice really feeling things, lol. When it started to work — ouch. So intense. But good, obviously. And then once that became my normal, I went through a mourning period for the years I was in a daze, not even bc of drugs or alcohol, just checked out. Life is such an insane journey.
Anyway, here’s a warm e-hug @CharliePenn
First of all, I’m really sorry that happened to you. It sounds painful and awful and no kid should have to experience that. Keep being the tough woman you are.
However what should she do instead? If moving on, bettering herself and getting healthy is unacceptable, is living in a cave, self flagellating and saying affirmations of how she’s a POS every hour much better? How is that helping anyone? I feel like that would make someone go back to using, abusing, and hurting others more in the process. Why continue to be a POS when you can be BETTER? I don’t understand that logic.
Wilady – you’re completely right. Intellectually i agree with you. Emotionally… it’s not as easy. Like I wouldn’t recommend the feelings I have to anyone. And I continue to work towards real forgiveness and honestly that’s what I would want for Demi’s girls too.
OK I’ll pipe down lol, I have stuff to get done in the real world! Thanks for the discourse, celebitches.
I get it. ♥️ Hugs to you.
@charliepenn I think Demi’s mom was also a mess. From what I remember, Demi spoke about her mom being a partier (alcoholic maybe?) when Demi was young, and was never the mother Demi needed her to be. I think Demi’s mom also competed with Demi to get men’s attention which is pretty gross. Apparently they had a falling out but reconciled before Demi’s mom’s death. I guess this can explain a little why Demi herself is a mess. Demi has said in the past that because of her crazy upbringing, she wanted to giver her own children some stability. It seems she kind of held it together for a little bit before falling apart and being a mess like her mom.
Fun fact: her brother owns a pool company in Florida. I worked briefly for his company as a receptionist years and years ago. The woman who trained me said Courtney calls in to talk to him but she’ll say it’s Coco. And she did! I answered the phone, my one and only close encounter with a celebrity. And that’s not even close but I’ve never had any other encounter with a celebrity. I always get so jealous when you guys talk about celebrity encounters. Oh wait, one other. Went to the Pawn Stars pawnshop in Vegas. Didn’t see any of the stars until we were getting ready to leave and the old man walked in. Didn’t talk to him though.
Wait…you do realise this is about Demi Moore right? Cos I swear her and Cox have become the same human! (see above post) 😉
I’m in a mood today but re we so stupid that we have to litter the planet with this? A talking mirror? Is there any part of our furniture that will not talk to us?
LOL at dying of a heart attach in the middle of the night though!! Same here Hecate, I’d totally forget to turn this thing off.
I must be in a mood too because “litter the planet” is pretty much what these things are destined for. I am really tired about how everything is disposable these days, it’s oppressive af to imagine how much we’ve overcrowded the planet with junk.
I’d casually mentioned to someone how I felt like having extra sets of dishes from family members was a pain to store but that I was saving them for my kids to have one day (as my mom did for me). She said “just dump them, they can get brand new dishes at Target when they’re ready to move out.” It made me feel queasy.
In any case, it’s hard to knock Demi for wanting to be healthier.
I am all about keeping things out of the waste stream.
There is a whole thing of actually using Grandma’s dishes now, instead of storing them forever. I hope your kids love them! Target dishes (at least she didn’t say walmart?) will never, ever be as cool or unique as real vintage – especially with a family connection.
I’ve seen “influencers” (and god, what an obnoxious term that is) sharing those mirrors on insta the last few weeks. They are vaguely intriguing but not anything I’d spend money on. Mainly because I hate to work out. I’d rather just walk a bunch and do some weights than have my mirror shaming me into exercise.
I really hate any kind of cheerleading when I work out. Or affirmations, or any kind of genmtle self-help talk. Those Peloton ads drive me crazy, someone on the bike screen making that “come on come on”-finger-tickle-gesture, it’s almost perverted looking. Is it a bike class or a night club?
Sad & hilarious: Read the headline and thought that she bought a mirror that tells her she’s in great shape and looks beautiful. #SnowWhiteMoment
Oh, I want one of those! I wonder if these things can be hacked…
This seems… Unnecessary? Why wouldn’t she just hire a trainer and go to the gym?
Also, I kind of doubt it’s been four years since she worked out.
I believe it – she looks thin, not toned.
Doesn’t a Fitbit do the same thing? Beep every hour to remind you to get going or something?
I just think she’s adorable. That’s all I came to say.
Hecate – if you are looking for something new check to see if there is an F45 in your area. It’s incredible!
I’m a sci-fi nut, so anything that kicks our environment into something that mimics all those futuristic shows gets me giddy. Talking mirrors. Why not. I’m looking forward to everything coming alive when I walk by. Might even perk this old cynic up lol!
I look forward to reading her book. I hope she really is okay, though. She’s been a mess for so long that I’m skeptical.
Nothing says “Im serious about fitness” like a bullshiz mirror.