Jennifer Lopez is suddenly the kind of woman who doesn’t want a big wedding?!

Jennifer Lopez arrives at the 2019 Met Gala in New York

Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez got engaged in March, shortly after Jennifer looked really pissed off at A-Rod at the Oscars. Shortly after the engagement happened, various people rained on her parade and called Alex out for being a compulsive cheater. Which I believe, even if I question some of the specifics of when he cheated and with whom. Alex has always been a compulsive cheater, and I guess Jennifer just accepted it. But in the past few months, it has felt weird, right? They took forever in J.Lo-Time to get engaged, and now there’s zero rush to actually have the wedding. Some people think that they’ll never get married. All I know is that there’s a constant refrain that Jennifer is the one who seems a bit reticent. Not only that, but Jennifer reportedly does not want a big wedding. WHO ARE YOU?

When Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez walk down the aisle, expect it to be an intimate affair. In the new issue of PEOPLE, a source says the couple likely “are not doing a huge wedding” and may instead opt for “a small family celebration that will, of course, include all four kids.”

Indeed, their children (Lopez’s 11-year-old twins Max and Emme and Rodriguez’s daughters Natasha, 14, and Ella, 11) will play a part in their big day — when that day comes. The source notes that the pair have yet to set a date.

“They are talking about the wedding, but nothing is finalized,” the source says of the couple, who got engaged in March after more than two years together. “Her schedule is extremely intense, but she is super excited. Alex is very supportive and will be at most of her shows over the summer. They will travel as a family all around the U.S.”

[From People]

A small wedding? Are you joking? I mean, I’m sure Miss Manners has some rules about one’s fourth wedding, but J.Lo usually does whatever she wants and she likes to celebrate and be the bride. Why is she denying herself the opportunity to really blow it out and throw a big wedding? My guess is that she knows that sh-t will come back to bite her on the ass when the marriage falls apart.

Additionally, Jennifer was asked about the wedding planning by Entertainment Tonight and she said they’re taking it slow and “There’s no rush. We really see this as something that’s gonna be forever, and we’re gonna just take our time and do it right. And do it not rushed.” Where is our “in love with love” J.Lo? Who is this mature woman who wants to take her time and not rush anything?

Jennifer Lopez is a badass boss babe in high heels, robe, and a cigarette

Jennifer Lopez dines at Avra for Memorial Day

Photos courtesy of Backgrid.

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  1. Louise says:

    Gosh I like J’Lo’s jeans.

  2. Julie says:

    She never had huge weddings.

    Her first was obviously pretty normal and low key since it was before she got really famous. The second to Chris Judd was a bit of a spectacle because of the press interest and intrusions (and she did sell a couple of pictures), but it was still a backyard wedding with a relatively small guest list. Her wedding to Marc was the same except that time she locked down security better and didn’t sell the pictures.

    She’s never done the ‘multi day celebration with hundreds of guests at some amazing location’ wedding, nor the ‘20 page spread in a magazine’ press. She always gets herself an expensive couture dress and some big, expensive flower arrangements, but the rest is pretty low-key. Her planned wedding to Affleck was going to be more of a blowout affair, but the way that went probably put her off that idea for good.

    • Jegede says:

      Her weddings ended up being lowkey due to circumstances, rather than choice IMO.
      Especially considering the excessive grandeur and staging of proposals & engagements with Ben and ARod.

      Her wedding to Chris Judd came after blow back of the Diddy nightclub fracas.

      The clean living JLo was dealing with the humiliation of having a mugshot and Diddy’s baggage.
      The Judd wedding was a palate cleanser.
      It was held in her managers home and officiated by her lawyer. Pics and details were leaked to every press outlet. 😶😶

      Her planned Affleck wedding was going to be big blowout. From the engagement ring roll out to the press interviews.
      However, the humiliation of how Bennifer ended and the fact that Marc Anthony’s divorce was barely ink dry when they wed, might have more to do with why it ended up being low key.

      What I’m saying is that it seems circumstances seemed to necessitated the relatively ‘small weddings’ she’s had and not neccesarily choice.
      I suspect this A-Rod one, – ( like the Affleck one)- was supposed to be the peak of marital commercialisation and hustle.

      • Julie says:

        Her marriage to Chris Judd was almost 2 years after the scandal with Puff, and honestly that never really hurt her. If anything it gave her a hint of credibility when she tried to transition her music to be more hip hop adjacent, but most people forgot it within a few months.

        In 2001 before she married Judd she’d had the no. 1 movie and album at the same time, and she was seen as the new rom-com queen. She was on top of the world and almost at her peak then. If there was ever a time for a huge wedding that would have been it.

        I think the big wedding might have been more Affleck than her tbh. While he was in it I think he really bought into all the golden couple/power couple stuff, and liked playing the part with all the trappings. He milked their engagement story and the expensive ring for all it was worth at the time. She honestly seemed much lower key about it. Despite her broken engagements and divorces I think she does actually take the idea of marriage really seriously and isn’t the type to want it to be a whole spectacle.

      • Purplehazeforever says:

        I suspect the only one she was truly in love with was Ben Affleck and her quick rebound with Marc Anthony was to erase that humiliation. I’m not sure she’s been in love with anyone else but loves the idea of being married. If she married Alex Rodriguez, it will be low key.

      • Jegede says:


        The Judd wedding was not 2 years after Puffy.
        Credibility she already got by being with Puffy and his help on her RnB album.

        She didn’t subsequently need the police on her rear end and a mug shot, to gain more kudos.

        And the Bennifer carnival was absolutely not all Ben’s doing, as subsequent engagements have indicated.

        She broke up with Puffy in 2001, then married the ‘clean’ Judd some months later.🤨

        She would have had the great big wedding, complete with People mag covers with Affleck, only that ended badly.

        The wedding with Marc Anthony had to be low key under the circumstances,
        Her Bennifer humiliation and Marc Anthony just barely divorced from Dayannarra; meant there was no way that was gonna be big.

        Many celebs have gotten married with nary a peep.
        They’re are A list brides, where we’ve never seen their wedding dresses.
        It can be done, if you want it.

        JL and ARod have stage manged this relationship top the hills, commercialised their union and conveniently had her manager on hand to record the moment of proposal.

        There’s nothing here that suggested to me that this was originally going to be a low key wedding.

      • cupcake says:

        YOU speak the truth, the timeline is correct and the intentions of her PR machine are spot on.

        I followed all of this crap for yrs, you would be VERY correct in your post.

  3. Diana says:

    Is she a smoker??? Miss goody-2-shoes I don’t drink alcohol, I don’t drink coffee smokes? Yes I am a hater- super jealous of how gorgeous she is (when not doing the mouth open catching flies on the red carpet pose)

    • Desolee says:

      Really doubt it, that and the blonde wig is most likely for her role of madam or exotic dancer in the movie she’s producing

    • Who ARE These People? says:

      That looks like a movie still, she would never go out in a bathrobe.

  4. AnnaKist says:

    Nah. I reckon there’s another J-Lo who is, coincidentally, also engaged to a fella named Alex Rodriguez. Spooky, hey?

  5. Scal says:

    Has she ever had a big wedding?

  6. Isa says:

    If I were a rich woman married eleventy times I would have a huge wedding with a different style each time. And the food would be to die for.

    • Snowflake says:


    • Yup, Me says:

      I love throwing parties and I’d do way more of them if I had the resources to hire professional planners every time. You might just show up to a party on a random summer Thursday and find out I felt like getting married again.

    • CityGirl says:


  7. Tiffany says:

    This is the first truly monied dude she is going to marry. Yep, Alex is worth more than Marc and Ben.

    I can see this happening.

    • Khy says:

      Marc Anthony isn’t exactly poor, doesn’t he own part.of the Miami dolphins.

      • detritus says:

        Marc Anthony is worth 80mil Arod 300mil according to google. Neither is one to scoff at, but JLo herself is worth more than both combined at 400mil

  8. Zazu says:

    Maybe I’m naive, but after taking it slow for a couple of years, I think she feels confident ARod won’t cheat, or at least hasn’t cheated. Isn’t there a tiny possibility that they are both applying lessons learnt to this relationship? I doubt it will last forever or anything but maybe he really is supportive of her doing it all, not emasculated, and she is trying to stay grounded in what they have, and not get carried away by being in love with love.

    They both are commercializing the relationship to the max already, so maybe the wedding doesn’t seem all that necessary. I doubt she wants to draw attention to the fourth time part of things either.

  9. Andrea says:

    I think she is headed for Elizabeth Taylor numbers.

    • cupcake says:


      me too, I agree. Arod cheats there are too many rumors…everyone is not lying.

    • Adrianna says:

      It isn’t going to last but she seems to need the legality of marriage to make her feel secure. There’s no reason she has to marry him. You know he’s going to cheat sooner or later…if he hasn’t already.

  10. Snowflake says:

    I feel like wedding shame is similar to slut shaming. It’s almost as if we’re saying you’ve been around the block before you should keep it quiet now. You’re no first time bride. Just cause you had the misfortune to not pick the right guy the first time doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be able to celebrate your love in any way you choose.

    • Spicecake38 says:

      Yep,she should do any wedding however she pleases.
      And what @Zazu says above,maybe they both are actually applying life lessons learned to their current situation/relationship.I have doubts that they will stay forever together,but they seem to have enough in common and be mature enough to make appropriate decisions.
      I actually am wife #4 for my husband who is the love of my life and father of my daughter,and he supports me in everything I do,18 years together almost-it’s not a perfect marriage because we’re human,but all kinds of people told me to bolt due to age difference,his previous marriages,and all,and many of those people are divorced now (not shaming,just finding the irony).I know the reasons behind each marriage he had ,he learned from his mistakes and I’ve learned from mine,so the past has helped us to have a strong marriage.The past doesn’t have to dictate the future,and grown ups with plenty of money can and should have whatever kind of wedding they want (it’s not like they’re asking her family to pay for it 😉)!

    • Kate says:

      It doesn’t have anything to do with that. Just rich people being tacky.

    • ange says:

      Most people don’t disagree with being married however much but if you’re going for actual weddings and expecting gifts for multiple marriages it does become tacky. People get resentful if they’re constantly spending money financing your mistakes and do-overs, to put it bluntly.

      • Spicecake38 says:

        Totally agree on your point about not expecting gifts after x number of marriages-at least not in the real world,but many of their friends probably don’t have many budget constraints,so it just ends up being a party more than a wedding like normal people would do.

      • Snowflake says:

        I didn’t think about that, good point.

  11. ElleKaye says:

    A-Rod is a cheater. He cheats on women, and he cheated in baseball. Until he figures himself out, no one with him will be happy.

  12. minx says:

    She can have whatever size wedding she wants but the groom doesn’t seem like a good bet.

  13. mycomment says:

    probably because she couldn’t get any underwriters/freebies she was anticipating… and no way in hell is she going to put out the money for a huge friggin wedding.

  14. Lenn says:

    They are not going to make it down the isle. I realised this when i saw her be annoyed with him in that Met gala prep-video.

  15. JRenee says:

    ARod doesn’t appear to be good hubby material, too selfish..

  16. Skwinkee says:

    Why is she wearing a Melania wig?!!

    • Spicecake38 says:

      Tacky as hell isn’t it? One of very few pictures were I don’t think she looks good at all,usually I think she’s gorgeous.

    • deezee says:

      I think the still is from Hustlers, the stripper movie, she is in that either recently wrapped filming or is still filming in NY.

  17. Chelly says:

    Her next “soul mate” will reveal himself in a couple of yrs. I would be beyond embarrased if I were her. 50 yrs old and literally every EX has been a soulmate. She has EVERYTHING and yet feels so incomplete unless she has a man…no matter how obviously WRONG he is

  18. Valiantly Varnished says:

    You know what? For years we all gave J.Lo crap for her poor romantic choices and decisions. But J. Lo is almost 50 years-old. Perhaps she has grown a bit and does in fact feel differently about marriage overall. I’m going to give her the benefit of the doubt here.

    • PurpleHoulihan says:

      Seriously. This so much. People grow and priorities change. It’s been 15 years since her last wedding. She had a 10 year marriage, and has kids now. She’s spent 5 years successfully coparenting and is engaged to someone doing the same. Is it really so ludicrous that a grown-ass woman and her partner would want something normal and low key that prioritized their family and their kids? Or that she’s – gasp! – grown, learned about herself, become more mature, had some therapy, or learned from her relationships in the last 20 years?

  19. SJR says:

    I say these two will never get married. JLo has terrible taste in men. A-Rod is a lousy bet as a husband, look at his history.