Wilson Cruz covers EW, says his parents kicked him out when he came out at 19

Entertainment Weekly is running six different covers to celebrate Pride Month, all of them are beautiful. The other covers feature gay trailblazers such as Neil Patrick Harris, Ruby Rose, Janet Mock, Anderson Cooper and Melissa Etheridge, But the one I want to discuss is Wilson Cruz’s cover story. Wilson plays Dr. Hugh Culber on Star Trek: Discovery who is partners with Paul Stamets (Anthony Rapp), making them the first openly gay couple on a Star Trek series. But this wasn’t Wilson’s first trailblazing role. Prior to Discovery, Wilson was the first openly gay actor playing an openly gay character on TV in his role as Ricky Vasquez on My So Called Life at the age of 19. Wilson was still in the closet when he auditioned for Ricky but promised himself that if he got the role, he would come out to his parents, which is what happened on Christmas Eve 1993. Unfortunately, his parents did not take it well and kicked Wilson out of the house.

There was more than just a paycheck at stake for Wilson Cruz while he waited to see if My So-Called Life would be picked up to series.

“I was still in the closet when we made the pilot, but I had made an arrangement with myself that if the show got picked up, that I would come out to my parents,” the actor recalls in the current issue of EW.

It took months, but Cruz eventually got the call—and on Christmas Eve 1993, he told his mom and dad that he was gay.

“It didn’t go well with my dad,” says the actor, who was 19 at the time and living at home. “He kicked me out. I lived in my car. I slept on friends’ couches.”

[From Entertainment Weekly]

Wilson’s story is, sadly, not unique. 40% of homeless teens identify as LGBTQ, most forced from their homes by disapproving parents or grandparents. Wilson did not begin filming My So Called Life for three months after he was forced out of his home. However, he remained committed to his decision because he felt playing Ricky was, “an opportunity to shed light on LGBT youth issues and give a voice to young people,” and the only way he could do that earnestly was to be out himself. It was admirable and extremely brave, and Wilson paid a high cost for his convictions. But his commitment to these values was incredibly important to so many kids watching. As many gay actors and advocates discussed at the Paley Honors last month, characters such as Ricky are sometimes the only role models LGBTQ children, especially closeted children, have. The tides have changed somewhat since 1993 but there are still plenty of LGBTQ kids living in inhospitable environs. So it’s important to support shows with positive LGBTQ representation to keep them on the air *coughOneDayAtATimecough*.

But it’s Friday so let’s end on a positive note. Obviously, Wilson went on to a successful career and continues to use his platform to advocate for the LGBTQ community. In December 1994, four months after My So Called Life first aired, they had an episode in which Ricky was kicked out of his house for being gay. The show’s creator, Winnie Holzman, worked with Wilson to get the episode right and to make sure he was comfortable with what was put in. By this point, he was in communication with his mother, but his father was still not speaking to him. Wilson told Vulture in 2014 that his father reached out to him after watching the episode, which eventually led to a full reconciliation.

If anyone wants to help homeless LGBTQ teens, here is a link to donate to Cyndi Lauper’s True Colors United Fund.

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  1. Becks1 says:

    He was so good on My So Called Life. I had no idea that he had been kicked out, but I remember that episode of the show. Interesting to think of how groundbreaking that show was in so many ways.

    • Lizzie says:

      i’ve re-watched it recently and it completely holds up and every actor on that show (yes even jarad leto) was so good. exceptionally good. it was a few years before prestige TV was a thing but i think it would fall into that category today.

      • Moneypenny says:

        That is so true. It was an amazing show. That was my junior year in high school, so we were the age of the characters. We loved it and it spoke truthfully to us. Ricky was my favorite and I partially credit him with opening my eyes to the issues of the LGBTQ community and helping to turn me into a life-long ally.

  2. Kittycat says:

    I cant imagine people kicking out their children just because of their sexual orientation. Some people only love with conditions.

    • Snowflake says:

      Very sad.

    • ADS says:

      “Some people only love with conditions.”

      So true.

    • Fluffy Princess says:

      I honestly cannot understand it–at all. That is your child! You loved your child before they told you, but now you don’t? And you want them out of your life? WHAT IS THAT??? Honestly, people like that are an absolute disgrace. I don’t want to hear anything about “religion” or whatever — that is your child. I will never have respect for people who do that.

      • Chuck Mielke says:

        Though explanations do not make such behavior acceptable, here is one sad dynamic in rejecting children: parents may (1) want the child to live the life they, themselves, didn’t; (2) want the child to be the reason they feel valued and accepted by their friends and neighbors. In both cases the parents aren’t letting the child live his/her own life.

    • I truly cannot fathom it. My son has always been out to me and this has enabled him to be SO helpful to kids in his school who don’t have that love. ( I hate the word “Acceptance” What the hell is there to accept? It’s like “accepting” my kid has has brown eyes) I have also always done my best to be a surrogate parent for any child who cannot be who they are at home, to the point that I am trying to set up a program at my sons school. Kids need each other but they need loving grownups too. The family you have is important but more important is the family you MAKE.

    • Bill says:

      Mine tossed me into the street 32 years ago when I was 16. I haven’t heard from a single family member since.
      And I am a better man for it.
      Most straight people don’t deserve their LGBT children.

  3. Jenns says:

    I loved My So Called Life. I remember my friends and I wishing that we had a friend like Ricky that we could hang out with in the school bathroom.

    On an unrelated note, I’m really bummed that EW is changing it’s format. I know it’s a sign of the times, but it’s an end of a era to me.

  4. duchess of hazard says:

    He is a handsome one, hmmm. I’m glad that he’s booked and busy, as they say.

  5. Nev says:

    Longtime ICON.

  6. Alexandria says:

    It’s Pride Month and I’m devastated to hear about the two UK ladies who were attacked for refusing to kiss. It’s sickening!

    • duchess of hazard says:

      @Alexandria – gosh, same. Waiting for a comment from our PM, but May is homophobic as well as racist and xenophobic. I hope the ladies get swift justice and have peace of mind.

  7. JanetFerber says:

    I’m so sad that happened to him. Thankfully, he landed on his feet, but I’m sure it still hurts. I too wanted to add that he is an exceptionally attractive man. All the best to him.

  8. rahrahroey says:

    The episode is called “So Called Angels” and it’s on Hulu if anybody wants to watch it. That show made me feel so many different emotions, I wish there was more than one season, but alas:(. My “So-Called Life” is in my top three shows of all time. I love Ricky and Wilson Cruz!

  9. Nikki says:

    This post meant SO much to me, because my son is gay, and was a longtime volunteer at Trevor Project, a hotline for LGBTQ folks. (Where he met his now-husband!) It’s heartbreaking that so many people are still anti-gay, so much so that they’ll kick their kid out. It’s still happening, even to CHILDREN. I’m glad his father came around. How fulfilling it must have been for Wilson to have been part of a show which could make such a positive difference. Lastly, thanks for the link to help homeless teens. <3

  10. Queen Meghan’s Hand says:

    I was too young to really “get” My So-called Life, but I remember Wilson Cruz was heartbreaking as Ricky. I am so happy he is working and getting his flowers.

  11. Suzanne says:

    I love, love, loved him as Ricky on My So-Called Life. What kind of vile person kicks their baby out of the house for doing nothing wrong? Because you don’t want your vile friends to talk. Awful.