Andie MacDowell ‘had to learn to be an independent woman’ when her kids left home

Andie MacDowell attends the premiere of "Ready Or not" in Los Angeles

I am someone who stresses out when anyone or anything is dependent on me. Like, I sometimes feel like it’s a hell of a lot of work to just take care of myself and one cat. There’s just so much to remember – grocery shopping, cleaning, feeding the cat, doing laundry, paying bills, and working this job. That’s part of the reason why I felt like I was in emotional tailspin when my mom was in the hospital – it was A LOT. Right now, I’m taking care of one of her cats so now I have two furry housemates and myself to take care of. And honestly, my life feels really full as it is. I guess I’m just missing the gene where I would want anyone or anything else to be dependent on me. But so many people love that feeling, love being caretakers, love having a house full of kids and I’m just like… nope, not for me. Anyway, I was thinking about all of this as I read this Andie MacDowell interview where she talks about being a divorced empty-nester:

Andie MacDowell is the first to admit that adjusting to an empty nest once her kids left home was not an easy transition. “It was shocking to me because I was so dependent on them filling my home. At first it was hard,” the actress, 61, tells PEOPLE. “I have this conversation with a lot of mothers who are really tight with their children and have so much pleasure and joy from caretaking. I had to learn to be an independent woman.”

MacDowell, who is now starring in her first horror film Ready or Not, remains close to her children, with ex- husband model Paul Qualley: Justin, 33, a real estate agent; Rainey, 29, a singer and actress; and Margaret, 24, who stars with Brad Pitt in Once Upon a Time . . . in Hollywood. But MacDowell says after about a year, she began to adjust to the new family dynamic and learned to enjoy it.

“I started liking it. So much so that I’m not really looking for anyone. I mean, if someone came into my life, I would be pleasantly surprised. I would be like, ‘Wow, isn’t this fantastic?’ But I’ve learned how to tap into friends, peace and quiet, and do whatever I want to do whenever I want to,” she says.

MacDowell says despite all her movie success, it’s her children that make her most proud of and she’s glad they’ve become strong and independent people. “Once they’re older, you then have to learn to let go. I’ve done my job and I’ve done my job well because my kids are all making their own choices for themselves and developing into the people that they’re supposed to be,” she says. “The most important thing that you will teach your children is to be independent.”

[From People]

She’s where I am, and I don’t have the ex-husband or the grown children. Like, it’s awesome to just take care of myself. I don’t need anyone else putting demanding on me emotionally or psychologically. Just let me do my own thing! But yeah, she sounds like an empty-nester who had to re-learn how to be alone, and once she re-learned it, she loves it.

Andie MacDowell at the Los Angeles screening of 'Ready Or Not' held at the ArcLight Cinemas in Culver City, USA on August 19, 2019.

Photos courtesy of WENN.

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  1. Jadedone says:

    Andi is body goals!

  2. Valiantly Varnished says:

    First off she looks amazing. Second- reading this made me feel so old! I was an avid magazine reader from the time I was 10 years old. I remember when Andie posed on the cover of InStyle with Margaret when she was a BABY! She and her ex Paul were living on this gorgeous Montana farm that was featured in the magazine and I remember thinking, “Wow what an idyllic life. A beautiful home and land, beautiful children, beautiful husband”. That spread was GOALS to me at the time. I was all of 15 at the time!

  3. Hoya_chick says:

    I saw her last night in a restaurant in NYC with a large group of young looking people. I think it was the cast of this new movie? She seemed nice, very tiny/skinny, and looked a lot older than I thought she would, or does here, not in a bad way, just in a normal person way.

    Also saw Kevin Jonas and his wife. My friends who were facing them (my back was turned) said that he was the only one talking and she just was just sitting there looking sad. He was nice to the host and said bye when they were leaving. She’s is also very small! And he’s short. I guess people look taller on tv/movies lol in real life they just look…regular.

    • Valiantly Varnished says:

      All of the Jonas brothers are small. A friend of mine lives next door to Nick Jonas’ ex Olivia Culpo’s family. She said back when they were dating he was sitting on the porch smoking with Olivia’s brother and asked to pet my friend’s dog. She said he’s about 5’5” TOPS. My friend is 6 feet tall.

    • Spicecake38 says:

      When in HS ,friends saw her in an open market I think it was in France.They approached her and asked for a picture together,said she obliged but wasn’t overly nice,and she looked a bit annoyed in the photo,but I would not want people coming up to me either,whatever.

  4. Meg says:

    Considering the mommy shaming most if not all mothers experience, I’m not surprised she feels her identity gone entirely now. it’s like how dare you not be with your kids every second, but fathers aren’t expected to do that. That movie on Netflix called otherhood I feel like is a good title.