Angelina Jolie: ‘At my core I’m soft & vulnerable, it’s not my dream just to be strong’

Angelina Jolie heads to Guerlain store. Paris, France on July 9, 2019.

Angelina Jolie will be promoting Maleficent: Mistress of Evil in the weeks to come. I’m looking forward to seeing those interviews. But she’s also promoting her contract with Mon Guerlain too – she’s the face of Mon Guerlain’s perfumes, including the new fragrance, Intense. To shill for her perfume contract, Angelina chatted with Hello Magazine about Mother’s Day in her house, what she tries to teach her kids, and what it’s like to have so many teenagers right now. You can read the full piece here – this interview was conducted in Paris back in July, when Angelina seemed to want to be photographed around the city with her godmother Jacqueline Bisset. Some highlights:

On Mother’s Day: “On Mother’s Day my children make me breakfast and pick me flowers – they treat me like a lady. When I do take time for myself, I rediscover that softness I speak of… I also realise I have more fight and resilience in me than I knew. But at my core I’m soft and vulnerable – it’s not my dream just to be strong. I want to be allowed to be soft and I don’t want to be harmed or feel unsupported when I am.”

She loves Paris: “It’s wonderful to be back in Paris. It reminds me that I don’t spend nearly enough time here. Sometimes we’re somewhere in our lives and can’t really imagine something different – we don’t take ourselves out of a place. But when I’m in Paris, I feel like a different person – and I’m curious about that side of myself. It’s enlightening here.”

How the latest Mon Guerlain Intense ad was shot in Cambodia: “When I first started working with Guerlain in 2017, we spoke about how perfume commercials often capture a fantasy life – and we wanted to deliver something that was a little heightened but still real. The first Mon Guerlain film was shot at my home in France. For this new perfume, given its strength and our conversations around femininity, freedom and making bold choices, my new home in Cambodia seemed like the natural setting. My [Maddox Jolie-Pitt] Foundation has been based in Cambodia for 17 years and it has been a dream of mine to live in that part of the world. The film is set in the home that I’ve finally built there.”

Mother of teenagers: “When your children are little you feel more ‘mommy’. When they are teenagers you start to remember yourself as a teenager. You see them going to punk clubs and you wonder why you can’t go. I’m in this fun moment where I’m rediscovering myself.”

The values she tries to teach her kids: “Kindness – to others and themselves. It’s important to be humble – know the freedoms you have and what you’ve been blessed with and make sure you help others. And always remember your place – we’re all human and very flawed. We’re tiny pieces in a much bigger world. As they grow up, I find my children are strong individuals but still open-minded. I try to lead by example and be kind and gracious, as my mother was – and loving and tolerant. But when there’s a fight that needs to be had, get in there. We need to prepare the next generation because there’s so much happening in the world – they’re up against it. I’m working on a programme for children with the BBC. We’re counting on our children so we must give them the right knowledge and support.”

[From Hello Magazine]

“You see them going to punk clubs and you wonder why you can’t go…” DO IT. I’m here for Angelina rediscovering her youthful wild side by going to punk clubs with her kids. Someone break out a new pair of leather pants! And no, I’m not talking about those stupid leather joggers.

What do you make of this: “…At my core I’m soft and vulnerable – it’s not my dream just to be strong. I want to be allowed to be soft and I don’t want to be harmed or feel unsupported when I am.” I… don’t know what to think? I think she’s saying that she’s not always tough as nails, she’s rarely tough as nails, and she’s not actually not some ballbuster who makes men cry. But… in the context of the Mother’s Day answer, it’s weird.

Angelina Jolie shops with her two daughters Vivian and Sahara at the Century City Mall

Photos courtesy of Backgrid and Avalon Red.

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  1. Sierra says:

    I think this is her way of saying everyone expects her to always be the strong one but that she is also human and can only take so much.

    She thought she had a partnership with Brad where they supported each other but in the end, she was forced to be the strong one.

    That when she feels hurt and soft, she isn’t supported and it’s seen as a weakness.

    She is saying she should be allowed to feel everything without judgement.

    Brad has never supported her in public so I sincerely hope she meets someone who will.

    • Iknow says:

      Absolutely!!

    • TheOriginalMia says:

      That was my impression as well, Sierra. Everyone expects her to be badass and fearless all the time and that’s not her. She has her moments of strength and moments of vulnerability and she needs a partner to support her in those moments. Not expect her to be badass and fearless.

      I can’t believe she’s the mother of teenagers. Wow. Time flies.

    • Kitten says:

      Right. She’s also saying there’s strength in vulnerability and I agree with her. It takes guts to trust that people will support you when you let your guard down. Only the luckiest among us know what it’s like to have that safe place to fall.

    • Embee says:

      Precisely. Her words speak to me. I’m also a single mom in a cutthroat business and it seems as though we are forced to either be a full-time badass or weak. Angie’s navigating how to have access to both in a way that feels authentic. She also seems to express something that reflects my own experience: that exploring the softer side has left her open to exploitation by those who should have stepped in to protect and cherish the softness.

      Did anyone see the bit in the news/on twitter yesterday about discovering that a revered viking warrior was revealed to be a woman? It seems an appropriate place to mention it….

    • lucy2 says:

      I think that’s a good take on it.

      Aside from her kids, she sounds kind of lonely, I hope she finds a partnership or friendship that gives her some support.

    • Selena says:

      This. I am “the strong one”, always have been. Always working and supporting everyone else. I was one of those girls that was treated with respect but always expected to sort things. Sometimes I think it would be nice to take a back seat and have someone say “don’t worry, I can do this for you”.

  2. bros says:

    can you link to the guerlain commercial? is it out? I want to see her cambodian house!

  3. Nora Lee says:

    It wasn’t a Mother’s day question it was a self-care question:
    As a working mother, what does self-care mean to you?

    For most women, it’s what we don’t do or the last thing we do. We almost feel guilty taking time out for ourselves. My mother passed away many years ago and I am alone as a woman – but life still has lovely moments. On Mother’s Day, my children bring me breakfast and pick flowers for me – they treat me like a lady. When I take time for myself, I rediscover the softness of which I speak … I also realize that I have more fight and resilience in myself than I knew. But deep down, I’m soft and vulnerable – it’s not my dream just to be strong. I want to be allowed to be soft and I don’t want to be hurt or feel unsupported when I am”

    • Ali says:

      “My mother passed away many years ago and I am alone as a woman – but life still has lovely moments.”

      This part makes the second half of her answer make a lot more sense.

  4. harlequin says:

    Please post the Guerlain commercial, pretty please

  5. Fallon says:

    The new commercial is HOT HOT HOT. Wow!

  6. Myrtle says:

    The line reminds me of something she said after she had settled into life with Maddox, post-Billy Bob, and having been officially single for a couple years: “I’m ripe for the plucking.” Now she’s a dedicated mom, plus an activist for refugees and other victims, and she plays tough characters in movies… but at her core, she’s “soft and vulnerable”. Kind of the evolution of ripe. I think she is signalling she is ready for love again, with a person who is able to see, understand and protect that part of her.

  7. SJR says:

    I agree with most of this interview, it strikes home to me as a single Mom.
    Kindness, showing love in small ways, supporting us when we go thru tough times..everyone needs this!
    Mother to 6 kids is work.
    Being a parent, caregiver to elders or other loved ones is emotionally exhausting.

  8. Mireile says:

    “But at my core I’m soft and vulnerable – it’s not my dream just to be strong. I want to be allowed to be soft and I don’t want to be harmed or feel unsupported when I am.”

    –Girl, I get you. Being strong all the time doesn’t mean you can’t be human. I’m like that with my family, my friends, my colleagues. But I’ll be honest when I say I find a nice quiet spot away from all of my people so I can just have a good old fashion cry when I’m going through a tough time. Because sometimes you feel like you really have no one to turn to who can be strong for you and you don’t want the people who depend on you to ever see you “weak.” Anyhow, here’s wishing all the best for Angie – she certainly deserves it.

  9. BC says:

    Her children are beautiful and oh wow, how theyve grown! Hashtag feeling old! Angie is beautiful and the perfect fit for the face of Mon Guerlain as when i see her, i see the ultimate merge of feminine energy and masculine energy personified. She radiates femininity and doesnt shy away from championing tough subjects and taking up tough roles.

  10. Elisa says:

    wow, I can relate to almost everything she said in this interview. Great quotes!

  11. Slacker says:

    Boy I want to get her and then she says something like that and I’m like 🤦🏻‍♀️ WTH does that mean? 🤷🏻‍♀️ Team Angelina

  12. Lena says:

    I think she’s trying for another image change. Rightly or wrongly during the divorce years she came across as tough as nails

    • lucy2 says:

      I think she probably was tough during that time, she kind of had to be, but now she’s probably just emotionally exhausted.

  13. Fernanda says:

    I watch her father on Ray Donovan. He’s amazing in the character he plays. I never realized how much his daughter looks like him. And the oldest daughter of Angie and Brad as well. I don’t know her name.

  14. Mo says:

    Psst, Angie! Read the Tina Turner profile in the NYT! Find you a hot, younger, rich dude who totally adores you. You can do this!

  15. Hmmm says:

    Maddox was harassed by a paparazzi at his school and said some revealing things about his father. It seems he has not tried to fix anything with their kids. How sad and yet he’s out promoting a father son movie 🤮

    • lucy2 says:

      I think he was intentionally vague, not very revealing, and just said “I don’t know, what happens happens”.
      I find it really gross that he was bothered on campus, and that they asked him such personal questions. I wish he’d told them to get lost and leave him alone.

      • Meg says:

        Like Malia Obama did when arriving at Harvard and an adult woman asked for her picture and after Malia said no the woman just waited outside the store she was at for Malia to leave and get a picture then and Malia called her out on it. ‘what you’re just going to stick the camera in my face?’ or something like that. I was not that assertive at 18.