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We haven’t been following This is Us actor Justin Hartley’s divorce because who cares, really? He’s a tv actor we don’t usually pay attention to and his marriage ended after two years, it happens all the time. Only his wife, Chrishell Stause, is making it clear that Justin completely blindsided her by filing for divorce. After she got served, she filed a response in which she did not agree with his separation date of July. In fact TMZ notes that they were seen out together just a week before he filed for divorce! A photo from that appearance, taken November 14th, is above. What’s more is that Chrishell gave some sourced quotes to People indicating that the divorce filing was a complete surprise to her.
Chrishell just filed her response to Justin’s divorce petition and, according to the docs — obtained by TMZ — she’s listing their date of separation as Nov. 22, 2019 … literally the day Justin ran to court and filed his petition.
Meanwhile, he says they separated on July 8, 2019 … which seemed crazy because we’d seen them out together multiple times since then, most recently in November — just a week before his divorce filing.
People Magazine has sourced quotes explaining how Chrishell is taking everything.
“Chrishell moved out of the house today that she shared with Justin. She is still in shock,” a source tells PEOPLE. “There are so many things that she doesn’t understand. They don’t even agree on their separation date. It’s just a strange situation. But what she can do? She has no choice but to move on.”
A source recently told PEOPLE Stause, 38, didn’t see the split coming and is “still reeling.”
“Yes, they’d had some problems, but she certainly never thought he would just go and suddenly file for divorce, and not even try to save things,” the source said. “He’s reached a new level of fame thanks to the show and he doesn’t want to close many doors right now, and that’s not necessarily the path Chrishell is looking to take. She thought babies would happen soon after they got married, but it just hasn’t worked out.”
This is Hartley’s second marriage. His first marriage was to Lindsay Korman of Passions from 2004 to 2012 and they have a 15-year-old daughter together. (I got all that from the People article honestly.) How much of an emotionally unavailable narcissist do you have to be to just surprise your spouse with divorce papers and not have a discussion with them or break up in person like an adult? Many people, particularly men, lack the emotional maturity to sit down and have a conversation about relationship issues. I hope that women considering dating Hartley google the sh-t out of him and decide he’s not worth it. Yes he’s hot but he is in no way equipped to be in an adult relationship. Also, I like that Chrishell’s response is that “she has no choice but to move on.” And up. I mean you can only go up from that guy.
October 5th:
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November 14th.
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Also, he listed their separation as July but they even went to the Emmys together in September!
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Didn’t he cheat on the last wife with this wife? Or am I imagining that?
I hadn’t heard that, but it wouldn’t surprise me. I was a huge Passions fan. Anyone else? Lindsay Korman was the bomb as Theresa and I wish she’d had Justin’s good luck with career rather than him.
Passions was crazy. You’re right, Teresa Lopez-Fitzgerald was awesome, lol. It was often very stupid but I miss it.
Passions was the best thing to happen to my junior high days. Lindsay was/is absolutely stunning
If he’s religious, he’s probably used the first known date someone had intimate relations outside of marriage; at least that’s how its done in Canada.
If he’s being a jerk, he’s probably using the divorce filings to let Chrishell know that he knows what she did on that date (i.e. have a fling).
Take your pick, b/c I know nothing about Justin Hartley.
I actually heard that rumor too. I just think if she cheated he’d let it be known through “sources” and she wouldn’t be playing the hurt party card, but who knows
Oooooh yes he might know (or think he knows) about a fling she may have had on that date.
Honestly that reminds me of a thing my first husband would have done. He was a serial cheater(I didn’t know until later), and he constantly accused me of cheating (I didn’t). He got another woman pregnant while we were married and when I found out had the gall to blame me because he ‘knew’ I cheated with a coworker. He claimed ‘people’ told him. Didn’t happen. Therefore it was all my fault he cheated… idiot.
So if Justin is like him, he’s the actual cheater looking to get out, but needs it to be her fault. Maybe her phone died that day so he’s gonna be like I know you turned it off to cheat!!! These kinds of men will do crazy shit like that.
Although I don’t exclude the plausibility of him cheating, this is also plausible. He wrote an overenthusiastic birthday message with pictures of her at their wedding on Instagram after the date he is now claiming as the date of separation. Seems odd to have those types of social media posts laying around if he had started seeing someone else before and is to trying to claim it was kosher…
I wonder what happened between him and Lindsay Korman…I LOVED them together in Passions and in RL. Was cheating involved?
I bet this man got bored with wife #2 once he realized he had more options. A tale as old as time…
–a song as old as rhyme..
@perplexed: that was the rumor. He apparently just can’t seem to keep it in his pants. I was wondering if he was with Chrishell while he was still with Lindsey? I think I heard that back then. He has looked checked out of this situation for the last years worth of photos though. Just google them from a couple of years ago til now.
Definitely a dick move, but looking at these pictures his posture in all of them is “Checked Out”. He looks like he was asked to pose with a fan.
I assume his next red carpet date will be with a 21 year old who is like, totally an old soul who is you know, really mature for her age.
Id say he already has his 21yo model on the hook and she’s ready for her ring next year… considering he was trying to lie about the split date, maybe to make it look better when he stepped out with the new girl.
Ha. She’ll actually be 20 and a half but like, she totally knows what love is because she’s been through so much with like, shopping on line and nothing arriving on time.
lmao
😂😂😂
Agree. Has a whatev vibe.
She does have an LA look, but it’s super beautiful. I’m pulling for her. May she be able to move on quickly and find someone mature and loving enough to start the family she was looking for.
I really love that magenta gown.
Me too!
Wow, me three. I like the white one, too.
I’ve always liked Chrishelle, ever since her “Amanda” days on “All My Children” I think she deserves SO much better than a narcissistic pretty boy who dumps her as soon as he gets some fame. Good riddance to someone so shallow!
@THeOG me too. I love Amanda and because of that I have a soft spot for Chrishelle and she deserves better.
She was recently on days of our lives too. I knew I recognized her somewhere.
He’s very generic looking. And he should move out, not her.
If what she says is true she’s so much better off without him. People who do this are narcissists incapable of love and compassion. My ex did something similar (he informed me via email after 10 years of marriage and two kids under the age of 6) and as the date for our legal separation loomed (it was scheduled for when the judge approved the Parenting Plan – folks don’t understand that if one person moves out of the marital home before that happens a judge can decide that’s abandonment of the kids and award sole custody to the other parent), the woman he was having an affair with dumped him. He came running back but I went through with the separation and divorce. I played The Dog Days Are Over by Florence + The Machine on repeat.
Marias how awful and I know it sounds cliche but you’re definitely better off. Life is too short to spend with a man undeserving of your love and time. Your children are lucky to have such a strong mom and I have no doubt when they grow up they’ll understand how much you put up with for their sake. I hope you find great happiness after such a trying time .
Aw, thanks JB. I don’t know how I kept my sanity during that period – so much gaslighting. I credit my mom and my amazing friends for helping me get through that period.
Yes @MariaS, cheers to you for being strong for yourself and your children.
Grabbyhands – You NAILED IT!
I don’t like him, I don’t think he’s as great as he thinks he is,and I don’t like his character on This is Us.I realize I don’t know him and judging him by a character he plays isn’t really rational but it’s still a vibe I get from him.To me he seems like an overrated narcissist.
She is probably better of minus him.
You may not be far off the mark. He was filming something here in Canada back in the spring and I bumped into him at a club one night. I don’t watch anything he’s in but when he looked at me I recognized him from This Is Us promo and awards stuff. The thing that I found a little much though is that he kept his cap tilted halfway down his face in Dicaprio style and even though my friend was hosting an event at the club he had a crew of minions – in Dicaprio style – blocking a large area off and protectively circling him in. It was obvious it was supposed to be someone famous. Sure, I recognized him but I mentioned his presence to a handful of women I thought might be interested and they all literally shrugged when they saw him a few feet away and were like “who?” 😂 maybe it would be different in a larger city or in the U.S. Either way, he and his posse filed out after an hour of no one approaching him…
I know I wouldn’t give a shit if I saw his bland looking ass out and about . . . other than wondering why they were blocking the area and taking up so much space.
She is beautiful. She is lucky getting out of that relationship. He must be psycho
When he says they seperated months ago, and she’s surprised, sounds like he’s establishing a time that he started seeing someone else…you know, the old ‘we didn’t start dating until I seperated from my wife’ thing.
Yup. He’s got someone else, for sure, and there’s some sort of timeline issue with her.
This guy is so blah. I watched the whole first season of the show, and I still never recognize his face or name, and am always like “who?”
I liked parts of the show, but by the end of the first season kind of hated it as a whole and quit. But so many people I know are obsessed with it!
When Blake Shelton filed a divorce on Miranda Lambert, how many accused him of being a jerk and thought he’d files because he was the one that cheated? Turns out he filed because she cheated on him, no? I’m just saying we don’t have ALL the facts as to why Justin filed, give the guy a break.
That’s certainly possible
But with Miranda and Blake, I think they did a joint announcement and neither claimed to be shocked or blindsided, or disputing the date of separation.
If this woman is the one who cheated, she’s taking a pretty bold risk publicly playing the victim.
Miranda confirmed the news days after. It was already being reported that Blake blindsided Miranda.
Oh absolutely. He’s totally already got someone on the side and is trying to find some way to save his PR. douche to dump his wife as soon as he gets some fame. She’s better off without him.
On a shallow note-I love that feed bag with the flowers. Super cute.
And in all these pics he’s totally checked out. And she looks happy, which has got to be a gut punch for her when she looks back. Who knows how long he was plotting this right?
I only know her from that Netflix show Selling Sunset (recommend it) but this isn’t surprising. Sad but surprising.
I’m going out on a huuuge limb but maybe the relationship was based on looks. Although guys like that get ugly fast for me.
I watch Days of Our Lives, which she had a couple of stints on, hated her character on Days and Selling Sunset. Both seem shallow, but I hate to see marriages fail.
Honestly i’m not surprised. He’s in a hit, critically-acclaimed show and she’s in a campy real-estate reality one—and most actors who want to be taken seriously try not to associate themselves with that type of reality tv. She seems sweet but also kind of vapid. I feel for her because in the reality show I think I remember she was homeless at some point? And apparently she alluded to suffering an abusive relationship with her past fiancé Matthew Morrison. Sounds like she’s had a tough life. And if it’s true Hartley blindsided her like this, it seems she has unfortunately been a victim of another problematic man again.
The kind of show she is on does not negate her worth. She’s doing the best she can for herself and that’s all that counts. He’s a narcissistic piece of garbage.
Is it possible that she was the checked out narcissist who didn’t see it coming and wanted to present the story in way that makes her seem like an angel. Maybe she did something gnarly that came to light on 7/22 thus the separation date. It seems like it might be hard to prove legally since there are so many photos from this fall but who knows. None of us know these people (unless one of you does?) so we’ll never know the truth.
I’ve watched them both on various soap operas for years. Considering their reputations and just reading interviews both by them and about them during that time… You’re right that we can never be 100% sure, but I’d bet it’s him more than her. She seems quite sweet and her co-stars loved her, on multiple shows. Him? Not so much.
I’ll join you and be the counterpoint to say that I like him as an actor. We have no way of knowing what really happened here. If she is using the press for drama, and he is being quiet, that makes me think the opposite of most people here — that it’s possible things went south, she is exhausting and he is done. He doesn’t strike me as a bad guy, but again, I only know him from TIU.
Dang I don’t know them. I only watch General Hospital. Would love if you could get the real tea on Kelly Monaco and Billy Miller, Kaiser! lol
I didn’t have a clue who either of them were before I read this story, which happens to me frequently on this site. I rarely watch TV and I actively avoid reality shows so there’s often people featured here who I don’t know. I know some of the RHof, by sight simply because they are everywhere. Lisa Rinna, Brandi and Theresa with the jailbird husband come to mind, but I’ve never seen the shows the two in the story are on.
Yikes
Many people, particularly men, lack the emotional maturity to sit down and have a conversation about relationship issues.
Incredibly well said.
Honestly, I don’t believe either of them. Something is off, and the real story is probably somewhere in the middle.
Yes. Agree. I am suspect of her need to milk this in the press. Doesn’t feel right to me.
I like Justin Hurtley and I love his character on TIU, but again I love Justin so… There’s always 3 sides to a story, he said she said and the truth. At this point we don’t have all the facts, I’ll reserve my judgment.
I’m with you.
Eh, my ex told everyone that would listen that he was blindsided after three years of begging for counseling and despite the fact that I had taken the kids and moved out six months prior. Shocked he was, shocked.
There is more to this story and since neither is really followed by the tabloids it’s hard to know if either had a side piece. But I do find it weird when someone acts shocked about a divorce filing. There are always signs, many just choose to ignore them. Justin Hartley isn’t that good of an actor that he can hide being checked out for that long. It’s noticeable to us in the November photos so she wasn’t really paying attention.
I agree, someone up thread mentioned Blake and Miranda, yes he blindsided her because he caught her dead to rights. I’m not accusing either because I have no idea, but the idea that marriage issues are out of the blue doesn’t ring true.
I am going to reserve judgment, until it all comes out. Something seems off to me. This doesn’t seem like a – He got famous and wants to upgrade kind of deal to me. They’ve only been married 2 years. He was already on a hit show when they got married.So if he wanted a 20 year old trophy to go with his success he wouldn’t have chosen her.
They have been all over the valley as a couple. She is gorgeous and very sweet. He’s nice too. There are no winners in a divorce.
A lot of women in these comments seem to be projecting a bit & immediately, by default, saying it’s the guy that’s the jerk. I like how somebody mentioned Blake Shelton & Miranda Lambert above.
I see a lot of bitterness over past personal experiences & trying to find them in these two randos. Unfortunate.
No, it’s called having “life experience” and also because a guy hitting it big and then deciding he needs an upgrade is a tale as old as time. News at 11.
He said they separated over the summer, but repeatedly pictured together throughout the fall, until just like a week ago. That makes him look like a dumb, lying liar who lies. We’re going by evidence, not just projection.
They wouldnt be the first couple in Hollyweird to still go to to events together to keep up a public image while making a decision to make a split announcement at a later date.
I watched that dumb Netflix real estate show that she’s in. She seems sweet, hope she has better days ahead.
I watched them both on soaps. She is sweet. He was once humble and you could see the change overnight. I predicted this would happen. She could’ve been the one who got the big break. After his show ends-then what? I hope she has the last laugh.
He doesn’t ring my bell but we have no way of knowing if what she claims is true. He said, she said.
I’m reserving judgment. 1. I’m biased. I love Justin. 2. The different dates are so screwy that I know something else is going on. No idea which party is to blame though. 3. Like a few ppl up thread said, being blind sided by a divorce is hard to believe.
Example Number 10,109 of why I don’t date and will never marry.
Same lol ! No kids either. Why bother.
In California, the separation date is significant for financial and procedural reasons. For example, if your spouse racks up debt after the separation date, you are not responsible for paying that debt, etc.
I almost always believe that the Hollywood husband treated the wife wrong, but I agree with others that this has a Shelton / Miranda vibe to it. Yes, there have been photos of them in public for the past six months, but that doesn’t mean they were living together or not-separated. There are publicity obligations, he has a daughter… If he’s being the jerk, with someone on the side, he has the whole minivan This Is Us fanbase to answer to… I don’t know. TL; DR: Something doesn’t feel right with her story.
I watched the Netflix show she’s on. She was the only likeable person on it. I feel sad for her because she’s had a tough life and seemed enamored with him. He NEVER showed up to anything on the show (reality show about real estate sales in LA, lol) – i get the impression she is no longer “on brand” for his desired career and these details (no agreement on date of separation, her being blindsided) make me not like him AT ALL. And i used to really like him.
Did he sign a contract in August? Soooooo the July filing would mean he didn’t have to share any cash from his new contract?
It sounds like she cheated.
She’s the one who moved out, she claims to have no idea what this is about (which is exactly how my cheating ex responded when confronted), he went to his lawyer before he went to her, which is the smart way to go if you know your spouse is cheating and that’s an instant dealbreaker for you. He doesn’t seem to feel guilty at all, so unless he’s a total psycho, it makes way more sense that he caught her cheating and immediately lawyered up. The separation date he listed is probably related to her affair. All the photos afterwards could be because he either didn’t know about her affair at the time, or knew and thought she had ended it when perhaps she hadn’t.
Just saying, this situation makes way more sense than him being a one-in-a-million asshole.
There honestly isn’t enough here for me to make even a gut based judgement call.
But I don’t believe she was blindsided, not in the true definition of “I had no idea anything at all might be wrong enough that he’d file for divorce”.
Most have some inkling of issues, maybe they didn’t think them that serious but still, you notice a bit.
So in that sense, it seems manipulative to claim so to the media.
I loved him in Passions but why do these young men get married?????!!! At least Leo had the since not toarry someone!
Blindgossip suggests he’s been gaslighting her