Cardi B saved her marriage by ‘praying on it’ & having priests ‘come to us’

Actress Greta Gerwig and partner/director Noah Baumbach arrive at the Los Angeles Premiere Of Netflix's 'Marriage Story' held at the Directors Guild of America Theater on November 5, 2019 in West Hollywood, Los Angeles, California, United States.

I get that Cardi B evokes strong feelings in a lot of people. Even though she’s said and done some problematic sh-t, I still like her and find her interesting though. I’m not a full-time Cardi stan or anything, but I love reading her interviews and she always gives a lot. She’s one of Vogue’s many January cover subjects, and look at little Kulture there on the cover too. It’s this thing Vogue did for their January issue – mothers and children, posed together on the covers, and one pregnant lady (Ashley Graham). Cardi’s Vogue interview is the best piece I’ve read so far from all the Vogue covers. She talks about music (she’s got a new album coming out soon), style (she’s into suits), sports (she supports the Red Sox), motherhood (she wants another kid) and tons more. You can read the full piece here. Some highlights:

On Offset & her marriage: “When me and my husband got into our issues—you know, he cheated and everything—and I decided to stay with him and work together with him, a lot of people were so mad at me; a lot of women felt disappointed in me. But it’s real-life sh-t. If you love somebody and you stop being with them, and you’re depressed and social media is telling you not to talk to that person because he cheated, you’re not really happy on the inside until you have the conversation. Then, if you get back with them, it’s like, how could you? You let all of us down. People that be in marriages for years, when they say till death do us part, they not talking about little arguments like if you leave the fridge open. That’s including everything.”

No one’s relationship is perfect: “My thing is, everybody on social media acts like relationships is perfect. And that’s crazy to me. I’m around so many women, and there’s always a woman talking about how she loves her man, but her man is not financially stable, or she has a problem with his mom, or the sex is not as good anymore. Everybody has issues. I believe in forgiveness. I prayed on it. Me and my husband, we prayed on it. We had priests come to us. And we just came to an understanding like, bro, it’s really us against the world. He has my back for everything, I have his back for everything, so when you cheat, you’re betraying the person that has your back the most. Why would you do that? We have come to a clear understanding. For me, monogamy is the only way. I’ll beat your ass if you cheat on me.”

On feminism & privilege: “Women always want to talk about feminism and supporting everybody, except if it doesn’t fit your category of what to support. Certain women that claim they are feminists only think that a certain type of woman should represent that. Like oh, you have to have a college degree, and you have to f–king be, practically, like, a senator or Mother Teresa or a Christian holy woman. No, you do not. Feminism means being equal to a man. And I am.”

She was never a prostitute: “I just hate when people be like, oh, you used to be a stripper, so you’re a prostitute, you used to f–k guys. I never used to f–k guys. The thing about it is, when you’re known as a stripper that f–ks guys for money, everybody hates you because you’re f–king up the game. You’re making guys expect more than what you should be giving, and the next bitch pays for it. I don’t have to give guys no ass. You want something from me? I want something from you. I want your money, you want my time. So I’m just gonna give you time. Once you start expecting more, my phone number’s disconnected. Bye.”

Her thoughts on the 2020 election: “It’s like, why is this such a successful country and we don’t have Medicare for everyone? It’s like, how are people gonna work if they’re sick? People gonna f–king be paying forever. And we don’t have freaking free schools? That discourages people to want to go to school if you gotta pay for it. Especially the way that social media makes it seems like everybody is the boss of something. Not everybody can be a boss. People gotta have certain jobs to keep things going. Let’s say I go to school for my job, and my school bill is more than I’m gonna be paid for. Then I’m not gonna want to do that job. So it’s like, who’s gonna do that job? It discourages people from wanting to learn.”

On Donald Trump: “Because he was an entertainer, Trump knows how to get them to keep on talking about him. All these little antics that he do, like get into arguments with Chrissy Teigen, it’s just techniques to get attention. And I get that. You like a certain artist that do crazy sh-t. But this person is in charge of our country. This person is in charge of our well-being. When it comes to my president, I want my president to be, like, extremely holy. That is the person I want to look up to. I don’t want my president to have any hatred toward a certain type of people. I don’t want my president to be arguing with freaking celebrities or caring what people think of him. I want my president to tell me an answer on sh-t that really matters. I don’t want my president to entertain me. I just don’t.

[From Vogue]

These were just the parts which I found interesting, but there are at least three more pages full of quotes I could have included, like her thoughts on the pressures of delivering a new sound and how she thinks that “twerk-twerk” music might just be a fad. I obviously included the Offset stuff because… that dude is still cheating on her. And it makes me sad for Cardi, because I get what she’s saying too: she still loves him, even though he cheats. He still makes her happy. And despite all the tough talk, she’s not leaving or beating his cheating ass. Also: love what she says about feminism and Trump.

Here’s Cardi’s Vogue “73 Questions” feature. Maybe it’s because Kulture is there, but Cardi is so SOFT here. She’s in mom-mode.

Cover courtesy of Vogue.

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  1. Amy Too says:

    She’s insightful. She has good things to say about politics and social issues and feminism and the way regular people/regular women live. I’m always surprised to hear people say she’s just so “ignorant.”

    • Lala11_7 says:

      People call her ignorant because of her presentation….She reminds me of one of my girlfriends …which is why we I think we could hang….seriously…I REALLY need to talk to her about politics! But I LOVE HER…she’s ruff and ready….and she’s true to the game she came from….she’s authentic…

      • Valiantly Varnished says:

        I could TOTALLY be friends with Cardi. We could talk about real s*it because sis is smart. And funny. She would crack me up.

      • Lana says:

        I agree. I don’t think it’s fair for anyone to say she is “ignorant.” She expresses herself clearly, creatively and is able to connect to a wide audience. She’s down to earth and I love her hoops in the Vogue video!

    • Valiantly Varnished says:

      The “ignorant” comment is coded language. Always has been. They use it against POC to make you disregard what they are saying because they aren’t saying it in a specific way.

    • manda says:

      I totally agree. I love her

    • MaryContrary says:

      I agree. She may not be the most articulate or well educated-but what she says about politics (especially Trump) is 100% on the money.

  2. Valiantly Varnished says:

    This is my feeling about her marriage: it’s her CHOICE to stay in it. Whether we agree or not. That’s ultimately her business between herself and her husband. She doesn’t owe us an explanation.
    And she’s SO right about feminism. You can’t call yourself a feminist and judge sex workers. You can’t call yourself a feminist and treat certain demographics as less than. Period.

    And what she says about Trump is spot on.
    I’ve always liked Cardi. She isn’t perfect but she has never pretended to be and has always been up front about her mistakes. She’s a smart and intelligent woman and people underestimate her because of how she presents herself.

    • otaku fairy.... says:

      This. Supporting a hierarchy based on female modesty is not equality. It’s just purity culture. Cardi B obviously isn’t the best messenger herself, but she’s right about that.

      • Valiantly Varnished says:

        I think as a former stripper Cardi is a great messenger for that. Why wouldn’t she be?

      • otaku fairy.... says:

        Because of how she handled the Offset situation + her recent comment about T.I. 😭 Still, there’s no perfect messenger and there’s room for growth.

  3. Jadedone says:

    Kulture is Sooooop cute

  4. JanetFerber says:

    I think the “saving the marriage” part is really all on Offset, because his actions alone are putting the marriage in jeopardy. I feel bad for Cardi. Offset’s disrespect for her and their child will continue as long as he refuses to zip it and keep it zipped. It’s his CHOICE to do that and no amount of praying will stop him from making that choice again and again if that’s what he wants to do. And he does. Either she lives with his infidelity or pulls the plug on the marriage.

  5. LoonyTunes says:

    No, she doesn’t whoop his ass, just the women he’s cheating with. Can’t support a woman who’s facing a case over some trash man and his actions and continues to stay with him. That is the true ignorance to me, not her presentation.

    • ReginaGeorge says:

      This! And then she doesn’t even do the dirty workt herself. She sends other people to jump the women for her. Girl, bye!

      • ME says:

        Well don’t you know when a man cheats it’s never his fault lol? Men can’t help it when women throw themselves at them lol. It’s the women’s fault ! So stupid.

  6. Those quotes on feminism are on point, I always appreciate an interview that makes me sit back and evaluate my own positions on a subject.

    How does a woman that beautiful and dynamic end up with THAT cover photo?

    • minx says:

      It’s a terrible cover, it could have really been a wow. The hair, makeup, outfit and pose do not do her justice.

    • Turtledove says:

      Agreed. That cover did her dirty. Maybe…just maybe the issue was the baby? Kulture is beyond gorgeous, but babies are unpredictable, so maybe that was the best shot where the baby wasn’t looking the wrong way, crying, grabbing mom’s earlobe etc?

  7. otaku fairy.... says:

    “Women always want to talk about feminism and supporting everybody, except if it doesn’t fit your category of what to support. Certain women that claim they are feminists only think that a certain type of woman should represent that. Like oh, you have to have a college degree, and you have to f–king be, practically, like, a senator or Mother Teresa or a Christian holy woman. No, you do not.”
    This is so true, but you can just tell how Purity Princesses on both sides and the men who put them on that pedestal will misinterpret this. 🙄🍿🍷

  8. HK9 says:

    Well I hope those priests laid hands on her husband to cast out those cheating demons who seem to inhabit his life which is why he spends most of his time “playin in her face” it’s her decision. I also hope that when she reaches the point where she knows staying with him will hold her & her child back, she’ll walk away knowing she did what she wanted to do.

  9. bobafelty says:

    So she’s choosing to stay with a cheater, her choice and that’s fine. But I don’t want to hear her complaining about his cheating a few years from now. She knows what type of marriage her husband wants (open, at least on his end).

  10. minx says:

    No need to pray with a priest. Dump him, he’s not going to change.

  11. ItReallyIsYouNotMe says:

    The part where she says why Trump’s fame does not make him fit to be president was golden. Let’s all quote Cardi B to the MAGA supporters because she makes the most sense out of anyone.

  12. naomipaige99 says:

    I”m waiting for her 15 minutes of fame to be over. Next!

  13. MaryContrary says:

    She deserves WAY better than him. Of course it’s her choice to stay and try and make it work. But I feel about her like I feel about Khloe Kardashian-if you’re willing to settle for that, you really need to work on your self esteem.

  14. Starkille says:

    I don’t disagree with anything she says here. She’s very intelligent and insightful. I am sure she can do much better than the person she married, but that is her choice, not mine.

  15. Turtledove says:

    It’s her choice to stay. It is hard to wrap my head around WHY she would want to, but yeah, it is her choice.

    I think part of the issue is that from the outside we all know that he won’t change. She hopes he will, but he won’t. And to be clear, I don’t entirely believe “once a cheater, always a cheater.” I think in the real world, things can align in the ugliest of ways and a person could cheat, regret it, and never do it again. I really do. But this guy is famous, he does apparently have women throwing themselves at him (I do not get that, but it is a fact all the same), he will have plenty of reasons to be apart from his wife because of their careers, and that will give him the opportunity. And he sure seems to WANT to have side chicks. So no, I don’t see him changing. Especially if Cardi stays.

    I do feel bad that she can’t make her own shitty decisions without the strangers of the world chiming in.

  16. No Doubt says:

    It’s her choice to stay with her husband and I respect that she wants to work it out…however, she looks like a fool and he clearly isn’t done cheating with all that happened last week on IG. Have a little respect for yourself Cardi…

    I loved the Vogue questions. It’s nice seeing her so mellow.

  17. Lillian says:

    Feminism statement: perfect. Statements on systems and leadership (from stripping to presidents to education and healthcare): also perfect. The lady is sharp and the cover is lovely. That may be the best dress ive ever seen.

  18. Call_me_al says:

    Nope. She may deny having been a sex worker (not criminal in my book), but she admitted to luring men to hotels with the promise of sex, drugging, and robbing them (violence and abuse).
    She expresses herself very intelligently, but she is an abuser.