Bill Hader & Rachel Bilson are happening, they’re together in Oklahoma right now

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I’ve said this a few times in 2019, but I’m really lacking the “I find Bill Hader to be super-sexy” gene. I think Hader is interesting and funny and talented. Talent is sexy, for sure. But I’ve never lusted over Hader. Plenty of lovely women do lust after him though, but this name surprised the hell out of me: Rachel Bilson. Apparently, Bilson and Hader are happening??

Bill Hader and Rachel Bilson are fueling dating rumors after they were spotted grabbing coffee together in his hometown of Tulsa, Oklahoma, on Saturday. In a photo obtained by TMZ, the Barry star, 41, can be seen with the former The O.C. actress, 38, who was close behind him. Hader wore a black sweatshirt, blue jean jacket, gray jeans, and a black hoodie as he clutched coffee in his hand while Bilson opted for a gray shirt, jacket, and blue jeans while also holding a cup of coffee.

The outlet claimed the Saturday Night Live alum was holding Bilson’s hand during the outing, which his family members also reportedly took part in. Reps for Hader and Bilson did not respond to PEOPLE’s requests for comment.

The pair previously starred together in the 2013 romantic comedy The To Do List. Maggie Carey, the film’s director, was married to Hader from 2006-2018. They share three daughters: Hayley Clementine, 5, Harper, 7, and Hannah Kathryn, 10. Meanwhile, Bilson split from actor Hayden Christensen in 2017 after nearly a decade together. The exes share 5-year-old daughter Briar Rose.

[From People]

Oy, now I have a headache. Bill Hader’s marriage to Maggie Carey ended in divorce and he was really open about their struggles, with a demanding career and not enough time to spend with their kids and all of that. And yet… he’s now dating an actress he met on a film directed by his then-wife. Oof. I wonder how long Rachel and Bill have been together. I wonder… about a lot of this, actually.

Actress Rachel Bilson wearing a Jacquemus dress arrives at the 10th Annual Veuve Clicquot Polo Classic Los Angeles held at Will Rogers State Historic Park on October 5, 2019 in Pacific Palisades, Los Angeles, California, United States.

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  1. whatWHAT? says:

    I also wonder about this.

    and cringe at those poor girls names…Hayley Hader, Harper Hader and Hannah Hader? Is this a Spiderman comic with triplet characters? UGH.

    • Kittycat says:

      I like the names.

      Its unique without being too weird.

      • whatWHAT? says:

        Hayley, Harper and Hannah are all pretty names on their own, not unique but also not weird.

        I was referring to the alliteration, which I find corny/cutesy/cringeworthy.

    • Cassandra says:

      I used to babysit three kids named Hunter, Harper, and Hadley. It was a little much

  2. Caitlin says:

    This is all just so awkward given the fact his ex wife directed a film they were in and played “lovers”. If he didn’t have time for his ex wife and children how does he have time for Rachel his kids and her daughter?

    • Stan Hooper says:

      I find that creepy and insensitive. He knew that this would hurt his ex-wife. Rachael was probably friends with Bill’s ex yet had no trouble sleeping with her man. Yikes! Hollywood is such a strange place.

  3. Lala11_7 says:

    It looks bad…………………..


    And if I were his ex-wife…personally…I would be…ONCE AGAIN….


    • Ally says:

      Well, kudos to his wife for casting well for chemistry, I guess.

    • Jen says:

      What am I missing here? Didn’t they get divorced in 2017? It’s not like they broke up 3 seconds ago…

      • anon says:

        Okay, here’s why:

        Because Bilson also split with Hayden Christiansen *at the same time* Hader left his wife.

        And ^poof!^ here they are.

        Also, I lived in Tulsa for quite a while. Let me just say there is no way he was going to be squiring her around town without somebody seeing/saying something. Tulsa is a small town with a lot of cell phones.

  4. Erinn says:

    Ouuuu I actually like this pairing.

    I absolutely get why people wouldn’t find him sexy haha. But I kind of get it. He’s kind of got a magnetic way about him if you’re into his sense of humor.

  5. Puglove says:

    Oof. Well this one came out of left field? I don’t think there was any overlap… as an avid bachelor fan (I know, I know) I know that Rachel was linked with nick viall (former bachelor) for the better part of the summer.

    • Meg says:

      this past summer? Its now December and she and bill are serious enough for her to meet his kids and family?
      That makes me think they were talking earlier than just the end of her thing with the bachelor

      • Mo says:

        Relationships move much faster when you’ve known the other person for a while.

        As to the alleged overlap, the fact that they both had children with other people in the meantime suggests that the relationship on the film was a professional one.

      • Meg says:

        Exactly, an emotional relationship for years. How many married people would be bothered by their spouse have newly acquired ‘friends’ of their desired sex that they keep in touch with one on one? It suggests to me they were in each others orbit all this time which explains why the relationship moved so fast in just 5 months. These werent just acquaintances
        Some people think a marriage will last if they have more kids or get pregnant as they are discussing divorce like ben Affleck and jen garner-which confused me, if ur marriage is bad youre still having sex? or maybe thats also a sign theyre thinking sex may help keep them together
        Im thinking one or both of then enjoy andor wanted this attention given how many websites picked up this single picture yesterday and ran with it

      • Nikki* says:

        Agree with y’all, Meg and Mo.

  6. Monette says:

    I ship this hard! I love Barry and Bill Hader. And I’ve wanted someone great for Rachel Bilson for a long time (big Hart of Dixie fan)
    I don’t think there was any overlap, she was with a bachelor not long ago.

  7. Valiantly Varnished says:

    Meh. I see what you mean about it seeming cringe-y but at the same time that was seven years ago that they worked together. It could simply be that they reconnected and hit it off now that they are both available. It happens.

    As for his ex having been the director again I’m a bit meh about that. If they had all at one point been friends then yes that would be icky. But a director and actors are ultimately all there to do a job. They aren’t friends.

    • Erinn says:

      Beyond that, do we know if it was a messy divorce? Sometimes people agree to split without there being a huge cheating drama. Sometimes things that you thought would work out just don’t. For all we know the ex is cool with them dating – I mean, surely there are worse people for your ex to move on with than Rachel Bilson who seems pretty private for the most part.

    • fritanga says:

      I’m more disappointed that Hader has gone for an uninteresting former TV starlet who has never seemed too bright. Guess I should be giving him an attaboy for choosing someone age-appropriate, but I wish he’d gone the Keanu route and hooked up with an accomplished, smart civilian.

      • Cheryl says:

        I’d think it would sound a million times douchier if he did go for some artsy-fartsy person or some intellectual. It would just feel like he was just trying to put a feather in his cap, a la Brad Pitt and that professor. I’m glad he’s going for someone who seems down to earth and sweet. It feels like he may be going with his heart. RB seems like the kinda girl you can have a decent genuine camaraderie with.

      • Chancey says:

        This is mean, what makes you say she isn’t intelligent. It seems you are making a judgement based on her appearance.

      • fritanga says:

        As he was around so many accomplished women during his years at SNL I thought Hader would at least go for someone as smart & funny as he is. All of his much-beloved SNL buddies (except for Fred Armisen) – Seth Meyers, John Mulaney, Andy Samberg – are married to very accomplished women. But like most men in Hollywood he’s gone for the “uncomplicated” woman (as Carrie Fisher’s character so astutely pointed out in 30 Rock’s “Rosemary’s Baby”). What’s surprising about this pairing is that she’s not 25. This suggests (to Bilson’s good fortune) that the seed of a hankering may have been planted 7 years ago on the set of his ex-wife’s movie.

      • Meg says:

        I think you hit the nail on the head with the 30 rock carrie fisher quote here and his SNL castmates did seem to end up with women who seemed more their peers

      • Nikki* says:

        I’m so relieved he’s not with an 18 year old; there’s a lot of that going around!

  8. Eva says:

    The movie was in 2013.
    Very unlikely an overlap situation where they had a secret affair for 6 years.

    Let’s just be happy when two people find each other.

  9. emmy says:

    Saw this last night and did a double take. I like them both a lot, still sad that Hart of Dixie ended. But this is so out of left field and then… it isn’t? They know each other, both have kids of the same age, they themselves are the same age, same job. Kinda makes sense? If I were the ex though, I would start wondering if there was a hint of that going on years ago. But she’s probably better than I am. I’m a mistrusting bitch. 😂

    • Meg says:

      No i dont think its you. I think anyone would wonder that at least at first ‘oh you met your now girlfriend through me while we were married?’ That sounds like he was connecting with women in some way while he was still married

      • emmy says:

        Maybe it’s just my experience but I have rarely seen (or experienced it myself) that people get together after years of no attraction at all. I guess it happens but really, it’s more likely that there was a little something there. Not saying anything inappropriate happened. But yeah, if that was my ex husband, I’d have doubts.

        I do like them and hope it works out but he’s pretty busy and with 4 kids between them… Oof.

      • Meg says:

        @emmy very good point

  10. Caitrin says:

    Given how her relationship with Hayden Christensen ended – in an on-set affair with Emma Roberts – I’d be very surprised if she had an extramarital affair with Hader. Bilson of all people knows how painful betrayal is.

    • Emily says:

      Exactly. And there were years and years and children between the filming of To Do List to their divorces to the relationship. To me, it seems like they reconnected rather than carrying on some sort of devious multi-year emotional affair.

    • Cheryl says:

      I doubt it would be an extramarital affair. It’s probably just a situation where they worked together on a contract job years ago and had a good rapport, but nothing else. Then years later, they both happen to be single, so why not give it a whirl?

      Plus people act like just because the ex-wife directed them on a 3 month contract job 7 years ago, that her and RB developed some sort of deep friendship bond where it would be an absolute betrayal of trust for RB to get with her ex-husband, years after their divorce. Come on now. They probably haven’t even spoken after that job.

      And now, Both parties were assumingly fully single when they got together, so let them have their chance at potentially finding happiness with each other, l say. No need to create scandal where there is none

    • Nikki* says:

      I did not know about Hayden’s affair! Thanks Celebitchies for clueing me in on so much!

  11. Chelsey says:

    I find Hader incredibly sexy- it’s one of those things that grew over time because of his roles and his personality. It started with Trainwreck!

    • susiecue says:

      agree completely!

      My take on the relationship is that in 2013 they were both paired up and nothing happened between them, then they reconnected recently and a romantic relationship blossomed. It happens all the time. I think they could be cute together!

  12. lucy2 says:

    Hmm. I can see questioning the overlap, but it was so long ago that they worked together. Maybe they stayed friendly, and reached out to offer support during their divorces or something?

    I think Bill is attractive, but not handsome, if that makes sense. He’s really talented and funny. I don’t know much about Rachel.

  13. otaku fairy.... says:

    I thought this was Kaia Gerber at first.

    • Rando says:

      If I were Bilson I would take this as a such an enormous compliment!

      I hope someone compares me to a 20 year old when I’m 40. 😅😊

  14. Chelsey says:

    I actually thought/heard she was dating Nick Viall from The Bachelor recently? He’s all up in her IG comments lol

  15. Meg says:

    This reminds me of drew Barrymore directing kristen wiig when drew was dating a musician for years.
    After the film ended they broke up and he got with kristen. Drew was asked about it and instead of no comment or something she said ‘yeah when i found out i just thought, of course. Of course you are with her now.’ Which to me sounds like drew saw some interest from him at least if not between both of them when she introduced them on set or when promoting the movie.
    Its a shitty how we met story too, well we were with other people. Thats not a great start IMO. Trying to keep an open mind but comeon, that shows theyre capable of keeping the equivalent of a little black black book of people for later which IMO is emotional cheating
    The difference here is the time between when rachel and bill first met to now. I think Kristen and drews ex dated much sooner after drew and he broke up.
    Didnt justin Timberlake write a song about a friend’s fiance leaving him for his friend who crashed at his guest house? taking timberlake out of it because hes not my fav either and id be biased- meeting your current partner through your ex doesnt sound great
    If rachel was with a guy from the bachelor just last summer and its now December and she and bill are serious enough for her to be spending christmas with his kids and family that to me says they were dating before because 5 months is fast with kids from a previous relationship -he does lots behind the scenes of his show too so i cant imagine he has much free time and with three kids

  16. Jillian says:

    I watched trainwreck for the first time and bill’s such a hottie in it.

    Looks like a great couple

  17. Cupcake says:

    I don’t find him sexy, but to each his own. I think he’s funny for sure. What I find off-putting is knowing you don’t have enough time for your kids but having a second and third child. Also off-putting is having some degree of awareness that your marriage isn’t working and continuing to have more children.

    • lucy2 says:

      Their youngest is 5, and his career has only really taken off in the past couple of years.

      But in general I agree, don’t keep having kids if the marriage isn’t great.

  18. megs283 says:

    I’m hitting 37 soon and I need to learn her skincare regimen STAT. I look like I could be her aunt or something…

  19. Jadedone says:

    When I picture Seth Cohen as an adult I see Bill Hader so this all makes sense to me.

  20. usedtobe says:

    I’m doubting on the overlap theory. The movie was years ago and they may have remained friends. Look at Mila Kunis and Ashton Kutcher…
    However, I will say it’s an odd pairing that I really like!

  21. Daisy says:

    With the way this was written I thought the movie they made together was very recent, but people mentioned it was in 2013? So yeah, really doubt there was any overlap between relationships.
    Anyway, very surprising couple but I like it! Love Bill and Rachel seems to be such a sweetheart. But I guess time stopped for me because I really thought she was still in her 20s lmao

  22. Jamie says:

    I’m just happy that she’s age appropriate. That’s how low my standards are for celebrity relationships.

  23. original_kellybean says:

    I thought he came out as gay. Or I am confusing him with some other comedian from SNL?

    • Anonymous says:

      He has not come out as gay, but a lot of people assumed he was/is and were surprised to see that he had been married with kids.

    • Emily says:

      Hader’s most beloved SNL character, Stefan, was paired up with Seth Meyers in a skit when we left SNL. That might be why you’d think that.

      • original_kellybean says:

        Nope. I have never watched SNL – I don’t know why it’s still on the air, to be frank. I just thought I had read it somewhere but I may be confusing him with some other brown-haired comedic actor. (Shrugs)

  24. Mel says:

    I have to say I like them together.

  25. Anonymous says:

    I have nothing against Rachel, but isn’t she “known” for doing the bearding/fake relationship thing? There have long been rumors that her relationship with Hayden was a bearding one, and she finally, recently admitted that she and Nick weren’t dating, despite playing coy for months. Her relationship with Bill may be genuine, but given her (alleged) track record, I’m a little skeptical.

    • Meg says:

      Ive not heard that rumor. Any outlet you heard it from? Was it here?
      Im so curious now as this story of them just getting coffee seemed to be on every website i went on yesterday so someone wants it to be talked about

      • Anonymous says:

        I’ve read those rumors on places like Datalounge, Lipstick Alley, Crazy Days and Nights, etc. We obviously have no way of knowing if they’re true, but the general consensus on those sites seems to be that her relationship with Hayden was fake. Again, I say this not as a diss to her; this is just the information I’ve come across.

        Oh yeah, the picture spread like wildfire! It wasn’t a blurry shot of their backs, either; it was a clear picture of both of them. Call me a conspiracy theorist, but I agree with what you said: someone wants it to be talked about. Welcome to Hollywood, I guess?

      • Meg says:

        Googling her and hayden just now so many things came up about her being his beard
        Between that and just this coffee picture being discussed so much yesterday on many websites….
        their body language in the picture, not walking together, TMZ noting they held hands yet no picture of it …
        Yeah i know just hunches but still, this gives me pause

      • M.A.F. says:

        “I’ve read those rumors on places like Datalounge, Lipstick Alley, Crazy Days and Nights, etc.”

        LOL DataLounge is a gay gossip site where according to them EVERY MALE in Hollywood is gay and every woman is a lesbian.

        Her & Christensen were together for 10+years and they have a kid.

      • Meg says:

        I dont doubt that, but this was not just one mention of him being closeted

    • haley1020 says:

      Yeah, I kept hearing that Hayden is closeted.

  26. billypilgrim says:

    Wish he’d fix his hooded right eye, so it’s not so squinty and would match his left eye.
    That’s all I got.

    • Writermarie says:

      I have the same thing with my eye doing that when I smile. My sister has it too… I didn’t even know it could be fixed lol… but I guess they can fix anything!

      • lucy2 says:

        I have the same thing, I smile crooked and my one eye squints more than the other.
        If something fixable really bothers a person, go for it, but I don’t mind all the little quirks and imperfections that people have.

  27. Charfromdarock says:

    I saw that movie but for the life of me I can’t remember Bilson in it.

    It seems kind of a stretch to say there was overlap from years ago.

  28. Anonymous says:

    @meg – Sorry if I opened up a rabbit hole for you! Because I had previously read those rumors, whenever I see something about Rachel Bilson dating someone, I automatically think “Is she, or is it a PR stunt?” AGAIN, I can’t stress this enough: I have nothing against her. I think this is just typical Hollywood stuff that many actors and actresses partake in, most likely at the urging of their publicists.

  29. haley1020 says:

    One of my friends said that Rachel might be using Bill and that Rachel is notorious for calling the paps.

    • Anonymous says:

      Out of curiosity, does your friend work in the industry or is this just a hunch they have because of rumors they’ve heard about Rachel? Just wondering. What your friend said wouldn’t surprise me.

      • haley1020 says:

        My friend does work in the industry and she said that “fan” pic was prob taken by someone hired by one of Rachel or Bill’s pr firm to sell the pic to the media for publicity. (It was prob Rachel’s pr firm that hired that “fan” to take that pic, let’s be real here lol). Also, Harry Styles and Taylor Swift’s PR firms did that too when they fake dated in 2012-2013.

  30. haley1020 says:

    This is all a very messy situation, who knew Bill Hader was messy af and him and his wife divorced around the time Rachel and Hayden broke up as well.

  31. haley1020 says:

    I wonder if Rachel is selling stories to the press so that she can be relevant again.

  32. Anonymous says:

    Thanks for the response, @Haley1020! I gather your friend doesn’t think this relationship is legit then? Again, whenever it involves Rachel Bilson I immediately think it’s fake.

    • haley1020 says:

      She thinks it’s legit, but that Rachel is def using him for PR purposes, because Rachel hasn’t been doing anything in awhile and Bill is a hot ticket rn.

  33. Courtney says:

    they worked together so long ago, it seems unlikely there was overlap.

  34. ChillyWilly says:

    Well, at least she is age appropriate? That’s all I got. Very odd couple.

  35. BellaBella says:

    Bill Hader seems like a private dude. I think he’s an exceptional actor and sexy AF. He also seems like a decent guy who would wait until a divorce was final before seeing someone new. I know nothing about Rachel but if they are happy, mazel tov.

  36. Sue Denim says:

    the detailed description of their truly blah sounding outfits is my fav part of orig article, made me laugh…

  37. Tiff says:

    I’m stuck on the description of his outfit. How many clothes does he have on in this description? A sweatshirt, and jacket, AND a hoodie?! How cold is it in OK?! Buy a coat!

  38. McMom says:

    My ex husband married a woman he knew when we were married – they had been colleagues and had a lot of respect and affection for each other. About a year before he and I divorced, she divorced her husband. The two of them got together right after we filed for divorce. I am 100% positive that there wasn’t any overlap and I’m happy for them. When I had heard that he was dating someone, I knew it was her – he hadn’t had time to meet someone new and I knew she had always cared for him. It doesn’t necessarily point to anything inappropriate.

    • tayley says:

      but it does plant a seed. they saw what they couldve had if they met each other first. so you have to wonder did your marriage end organically. did they both try to save their marriages or did they check out.

      • Cath says:

        @Tayley – What you’re describing is just life though…what does it matter? If there was no overlap, there was no cheating. You can’t stop people thinking or feelings things. Marriages don’t end because of that.

  39. MangoAngel says:

    I’m not baffled by the relationship, but I AM baffled by why so many people are finding it sketchy that they met while he was married to the director of a film they were in. That was yeeeears ago.

    I mean, my husband and I met while we were both engaged to other people who were brother and sister. Years later, after those engagements were broken off, we bumped into each other, hit it off, and wound up getting married. Absolutely no overlap, shadiness, or questionable behaviour was remotely involved.

    Sometimes you just wind up with someone you knew before, and things are just *different* when you meet again in new circumstances.

    • Nikki* says:

      That’s a very interesting story; I am fascinated! Your comment was more interesting than their story. Must have been a rough day in your ex-fiance’s family when both siblings were dumped, and then they found out you two got married! Gosh, that’s like the ONLY weird thing my family DIDN’T do…Best wishes!

  40. tayley says:

    his show barry is popular and he wants what pete davidson has. so he convinces bilson that they would make a good couple and they both break up with their spouses. i hope heder factored in that christianson has broken up with bilson millions of times and they always get back together.
    whats happening to hader happens a lot. they marry who they love or for connections. then they get a hit and they want the hollywood life.

  41. mara says:

    I met my husband at work, and we were both married at the time. We worked together for many years, and both got divorced with a year or so of each other. We were friends at work over the years, and nothing more than that. About a year after our divorces were final, my husband started asking me out, and I kept turning him down with the “I don’t date coworkers” & “it’ll look bad” excuse. After almost a year, I said what the hell, and we got together. Sadly, he dropped dead at age 45, and I wasted an entire year because I cared what people thought. I’d give anything for a do-over. Bottom line, I highly doubt that these two were carrying on for all of those years. Seems to me that they both coincidentally were divorced, and a romantic relationship blossomed. It happens.

  42. LA says:

    Ehhhh…2013 to 2018…? I’m not sure I see a direct correlation.