Katie Holmes: ‘You know what’s so upsetting about the 40s? My old tricks don’t work’

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In the post-Tom Cruise era, I’ve read my fair share of Katie Holmes’ interviews, especially in magazines. She doesn’t have the most exciting personality, either that or she’s just very cautious about how she presents herself to print media. She has the willpower to never really take any bait and she refuses to even mention Tom’s name. So, we’ve never gotten that juicy tell-all interview, and we probably never will. Which is fine, I guess. But I’ve always hoped to get to see more of her personality, and here it is – just a better profile/Q&A with InStyle for their April cover. Katie is promoting The Secret: Dare to Dream, and she’s about to direct her second film, Rare Objects. You can read the full InStyle piece here. Some highlights:

She’s enjoying herself at the age of 41: “Suri is 14, so we’ve gotten through the sort of girlie stage. I feel like I can be more creative and have more time, have my voice. It’s sort of, like, just put your stuff out there and be yourself. It takes a while to be comfortable, though… People say you don’t really know yourself until you’re 40. I’m 41. I have seen things. I have experienced things. I know what I’m talking about, and I know that my feelings and my insights are worthy. I’m going to listen to myself instead of deferring to someone else. That’s a big step as a human. It takes time.

Being an actress in the ‘90s: “When I started, it was about being very mysterious. You were known through your work. There was much less attention in the ’90s than there is now, and as a young actress, you just want to get the job. You want to be liked. You want a good take and think, “Was I good enough?” Over time there’s a transition. I have my own confidence now. I’m not looking for somebody else to say, “Good job.” It’s more, “What are we going for?” It’s more collaborative.

Her New York life, where she has a book club: “I’ll take a class at Broadway Dance Center. I’ll go to the Joyce Theater. I do hot yoga and boxing classes. I have a book club. The city has a lot to offer, and I use it. Yes, it’s a little too exposed at times, and we work hard to maneuver and navigate. But what I love about New York is that for me and my child, this is our vibe. When there are 25 things to do every night, it takes you out of your own thing. And you know what else I discovered? There’s a place not far from my house that does foot massages until midnight. That’s what New York offers!

On her 40s: “As I told a friend of mine, “You know what’s so upsetting about the 40s? My old tricks don’t work.” [laughs] I have older siblings; I’m the baby of five. So I was always the cute one, and you get used to being the little cute one. Then you wake up one day — I’m basically always putting lotion on. I do all that Barbara Sturm stuff: hyaluronic, face brightening, face cream, skin cream. It’s so vain. But that happens. It kind of hits you….It’s very odd. I used to get away with no makeup. When I was a teenager and a young actress, it was about being sort of grungy. Now I’m like, “Oh god, I have to do stuff!” It sounds so superficial.

That famous cashmere bra moment: “Honestly, I wasn’t feeling so sexy. And I saw that and was like, “Sexy. I can do that!” I thought it would be good if I was in a cabin sitting by the fire and wore the [matching] sweater over it. That’s how my brain works. But then I was like, “Oh, wait, I’m not in a cabin, and I’m not going to a cabin.” I still thought I could pull it off, though. I had noticed other people wearing bras with blazers.

[From InStyle]

She also says some stuff about Suri and how proud she is of how hard Suri works and how open Suri is to try new things. I previously described Katie’s New York life as that as rich trophy wife with no husband, and I still stand by that. She works when she wants to, she spends time with her kid, and she fills up the rest of her life with galleries and museums and plays and dinners and facials. She’s right about ageing too – one day you wake up and you’re like “g-ddamn it, I used to be able to look cute on four hours of sleep and no night cream, what happened.” Now I can see it immediately in the morning if I forgot to put on night cream. Ageing is a disaster.

Cover and IGs courtesy of InStyle.

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  1. ChillyWilly says:

    “I have seen things. I have experienced things.”
    You sure have, girl! I would love her to spill her guts about Cruise and Xenu. Maybe when Suri is older she will.

    • Snappyfish says:

      I expect once her daughter is grown. She was such a boss protecting her girl from Xenu. Well done indeed

    • AmyB says:

      As others here have said, I am sorry but Katie Holmes was a complete bad ass the way she (with the help of her father) masterminded the way she left that crazy loon Tom Cruise in one instant with burner phones etc, to keep her daughter away from that cult Scientology! I am sure she is bound with some iron clad non-disclosure agreement, which is why she has never said one word! And that has all been for her daughter, and for that, I admire the hell out of her. So yes, perhaps when that expires, or when the cult of Scientology is finally destroyed (as it should be), then perhaps we will hear the full story from Katie….I’m sure it’s juicy LOL

      • SomeChick says:

        Katie’s Great Escape brought me here! I was fascinated by scientology and already knew a few things about it, and was occasionally doing anti-scientology activism with friends. People were making “Free Katie” tees. And commenting that she looked really sad. Tom was dressing Suri up in tiny high heels.

        And then, BAM. Total badass move. (And great reading here! I was impressed with how much the celebitches knew about scientology.)

        FWIW anyone wanting more information about scientology can find a wealth of it at tonyortega.org

        The south park video is also 99% accurate. Tom’s not gay, but the rest of it is correct. So that’s actually a very entertaining quick overview.

        I warn you, it is a rabbithole!

        GO, KATIE! I think she’s beautiful and smart, and very careful about what she says to whom.

        Oh, and I want that cashmere bra and sweater! Badly!

      • AmyB says:

        I agree @SomeChick I watched HBO’s Going Clear a few years ago and was disgusted/fascinated by the whole cult and went to Tony Ortega’s site as well as others. I have watched Leah Remini/Mike Rinder’s series on A&E about it too. Rinder was a top Exec in Scientology who defected. It’s incredible how they harass and torment people who leave the organization – just frightening! So yeah, when I saw how Holmes left Cruise, I was like you Go Girl!!!! Mad props to her!

    • cf86713 says:

      She won’t its not her style she doesn’t say much of anything and its going to stay that way.

      Smart move IMO.

      Suri OTOH might tell us.

  2. OuiMelissa says:

    There’s something about Katie Holmes that has always felt too vanilla trying to be sexy for me. Nonetheless I’m glad she masterminded her divorce the way she did and got out of what I considered to be a psychologically and spiritually abusive relationship.

    With that being said, what else are actresses in their 40s are going to say? I feel like everyone always says different versions of the same thing.

    • Bettyrose says:

      Escaping Co$ was badass. Nuthin but respect for that. Now that we’ve gotten that out of the way….OMG girl is not an actress. She was a teen star who somehow transitioned to adult roles, but she never learned to actually act beyond girl-next-door with soft voice.

      • Eleonor says:

        That woman looks “cute and sweet and nice”, but she is made of steel and she proved it: she escaped a cult, brainwashing, and Tom Cruise all at once.
        Respect.

      • kellebelle says:

        I think she’s a very good, under-rated actress.

      • bettyrose says:

        kellebelle –
        Serious question: What has she been in that you recommend to see her acting skills? I’m ready to change my mind about her because I do really admire her escape from Co$ and generally cool lifestyle. But her acting is so cringe-worthy in Batman Begins, an otherwise brilliant film, that I can’t even rewatch the scenes she’s in.

      • North of Boston says:

        Pieces of April was sort of a uneven film, but she was very good in it.

      • K says:

        She’s mediocre as an actress. I’m impressed though that she can admit “my tricks don’t work anymore,” because she always struck me (like Neve Campbell and Claire Danes) as devoid of range. Same crooked smile, whiny little voice, super bland vibe, no matter the role.

        But yes, I’m glad she got her independence back as a woman and mother.

      • GirlMonday says:

        @bettyrose.
        Have you seen Abandon? She stars w Benjamin Bratt. I thought she was great in that. I haven’t been all that impressed with her in other roles, but Abandon stuck with me.

    • OriginalLara says:

      I remember her being cast as some sort of vixen in a couple of movies, The Gift come to mind, just shortly before she got with Tom Cruise. She was so bad in it not because she can’t act but because girlfriend doesn’t possess even one ounce of sex appeal (she doesn’t have to, it was just glaringly obvious watching her trying to act sexy). She’s pretty and cute but also dull as dishwater.

  3. Lolo86lf says:

    Aging at 41?. 41 is the new 30. Wait until you turn 50 and then talk. She looks great.

    • Gigi La Moore says:

      It’s all relative. She lives with herself so I am sure she is aware of all the things she considers flaws that we would have no idea about. It’s her own experience and that knows no age.

    • (TheOG) jan90067 says:

      50 was a cake-walk for me… still had estrogen as my friend! lolol.

      Talk to me when you hit 60!! Then it’s a WHOLE ‘nother ball game!

      • Jaded says:

        Oh yeah, I can relate. I stayed on HRT from the age of 42 when I had a total hysterectomy. Then at age 64 breast cancer reared its ugly head and HRT stopped immediately. The surgical menopause I went through was BRUTAL. I’ve mitigated it by using some herbal stuff but aging without hormone help is truly a challenge.

      • Trashaddict says:

        I think a lot of people don’t realize how much confident that little old hormone estrogen gives you. My level of certainty plummeted after menopause. My skin’s not so hot, either.
        Good thing I started moisturizing early.

    • Esmom says:

      I know, right? I get that everyone is different but 41 is still pretty damn young. I think I still coasted along on the fumes of my youth until 50. In fact I was like “what is the fuss about 50?” But then 51 hit and suddenly all bets were off. Sigh.

      Still, the fact that I am here and healthy and mobile is enough. I’m grateful.

      • bettyrose says:

        At 41, I felt like I was better than ever. The weight issues didn’t start until about 44 for me (and I’m not even gonna discuss jowls). But I wasn’t a teen star. When you’ve earned a living on being adorable from a young age, you’re probably much more aware of that trait slipping away. Though, honestly, I can think of lots of fab elderly women who still pass as “adorable.” Betty White, amirite?

    • april says:

      I was good until menopause at age 53. When I was 52 I went to the doctor because I broke my foot and he could not believe I was 52. He thought I was 38. And he was 38. One year later and menopause, I looked awful. I had acute adrenal dysfunction and my hormones failed. To look better I experimented with supplements. Some help me to feel and look younger, but it’s a continuous rotation for me because they don’t keep working if I stay on them too long. I had tried bioidentical prescription hormones at age 53 which worked for two weeks. I felt fantastic but then they stopped working.

  4. dlc says:

    I can definitely tell a difference at 44 in how people treat me. I’m a little more invisible than I used to be. Also, too little sleep or too much wine REALLY shows up on my face the next day. And my sagging jaw line is a bummer. The wrinkles don’t bother me too much yet tho.

    • Anonymous says:

      I hear you. I’m about to turn 49 and I can’t believe how jowl-y I’m getting. (Suddenly having to do so many video meetings has made me notice it even more!) I am trying not to let it bother me — I come by it honestly, I have my dad’s face, I knew it was inevitable — but it’s hard not to be vain about it.

    • Joanna says:

      Yeah, the saggy jaw line really bums me out. And now my eyelid skin is saggy so I have to pull my eyelid skin up so I can do my eye makeup.

      • (TheOG) jan90067 says:

        I can deal with the hollowing out under my eyes (concealer IS my friend!), even a bit jowly doesn’t bother me THAT much… it’s the sagging NECK that I hate more than anything…esp. from a side view. UGH…

    • Lolo86lf says:

      Sleeping 8 hours with at least 3 hours of REM is crucial to look your best and feel well rested. Unfortunately Katie is right, the older you are the less neglect your body can take without looking and feeling tired. Drinking alcohol will surely make you look bad the next day.

    • manda says:

      I’ve rather embraced the invisibility. I work from home for the last three or four years and I will run errands straight out of the shower, no makeup and haven’t even combed my hair. Conversely, I will run errands after not have showered in days and not really combing my dry shampoo all the way through. I seriously DNGAF and it is so freeing

    • Spicecake38 says:

      I’m 44,and there is an invisible feeling at times,but I don’t mind it;my daughter is coming into her own beauty,young boys and young men look,and at first I was like gosh,why are these young guys checking me out,lol-and duh!I quickly realized they are looking at HER,not me 😂
      It’s just weird how your body and face can change,at this age almost daily because stress,sleep,alcohol,exercise or not.

      My motivation has definitely slacked during this time of self isolation and I look worn,I really need my old routine,I guess it was more beneficial than I realized.

    • bettyrose says:

      dlc –
      I personally embrace the invisibility. Recently, my arms were full leaving a store and a young man held the door open for me . . . just to be polite. I was able to thank him and go on my way with no “hey, I just wanna talk to you” to slip away from.

    • anony7 says:

      @Spicecake, lol, yeah, now I realize why my mom was miffed when guys checked teenage me out instead of her.

    • Trashaddict says:

      I do mind the invisibility when I’m crossing the street! I do not walk slowly, but cars that would slow down for the pretty young thing are still driving 20-30mph (in a crosswalk). My stare-down is evolving by the day but frequently “really!?” escapes my lips.

  5. Vava says:

    Aging is not a disaster. It’s better than the alternative.
    That’s all I’ve got.

    • MarineTheMachine says:

      With you on this! Seeing ageing as a disaster is taking away our privilege to be able to get older.

    • Marjorie says:

      You are absolutely right.

    • Jules says:

      Came here to say the same. Aging is normal and natural. To say it is a disaster is just someone projecting their own fears. Not biting.

    • lucy2 says:

      Absolutely. Aging is a BLESSING. May we all be so lucky.

    • McMom says:

      I totally agree. I’ll be 49 this fall. I used to get told I looked so much younger than my age – I don’t get told that anymore because I now look my age. I am in decent shape and I wear clothes that make the most of what I’ve got, but no one is mistaking me for my teenage daughter’s older sister. And that’s fine with me. I really like my middle aged life.

    • Trashaddict says:

      Yup, it’s normal but when you are surrounded by people who tweak and inject and dye etc. it’s tough to remember that.

      • cf86713 says:

        Thank you for saying that she lives in a different world where youth is valued and you are worthless after you reach 30. Not to mention so many people here have commented on how she’s aged badly etc I find it rather hypocritical to criticize her for stating the obvious.

  6. TippyToes says:

    To me she really is as bland as bland can be. Maybe in real life she’s different but in interviews and on film she is the definition of boring.

    • Bella DuPont says:

      Katie Holmes is Kate Middleton gone renegade.

      • Yoyo says:

        You’re right, Katie escaped a Cult, and
        Katie was never called a mean girl like Kate.
        They may be both boring with maniacal grims, but nothing else in common, that can be see.

      • Bella DuPont says:

        Don’t forget the controlling, narcissistic husbands, nice leisurely lives and aggressively vanilla personalities.

        I’m being unfair to Katie Holmes, though……she at least had a reasonably vibrant career in her 20’s (?), unlike our Duchess of Inertia, Kate Midds.

      • Anners says:

        I just want to say how much i love the term “aggressively vanilla” – it’s spot-on and I’m keeping it

      • Summer says:

        Why is she being compared to Kate Middleton? Because of their common names? Very weird.

    • Jules says:

      I agree. But I remember in the Tom Cruise days, she said his kids called her mom. This was in the midst of Kidman saying she had no contact with them. It seemed like a very direct and intentional slam towards Kidman.

      • bettyrose says:

        Oh, man, I forgot about that. You know, she was clearly under Cruise’s spell for a time, and was possibly pressured by Co$ into saying that as a dig at Kidman for never joining (and thus losing her children).

      • Jules says:

        @bettyrose, Ah, good point, I hadn’t thought of that. Holmes really flaunted her relationship with those kids and it would make sense if this was just another way she was being controlled.

      • Bettyrose says:

        Jules,
        I’m mostly thinking because she doesn’t seem to have any ongoing relationship with those kids who are now adults…nor does Tom seem to have any relationship with Suri…that it stinks of Co$ manipulation. Maybe in 40-50 years we’ll get a tell-all from Katie (or Nicole).

      • North of Boston says:

        It took me a bit to understand your comment. I was trying to follow why Tom’s kids calling Katie’s mother on the phone would be a diss to Nicole LOL.

        I do get the sense that it was CO$ nonsense. Good for both of them, Holmes and Kidman, for getting far away from that mean-crazy.

      • Jules says:

        @north of boston—lol that’s too funny :)

        @bettyrose–yes Katie and Kidman are both now considered SP’s by Scientology, Suppressive Persons. Silly terminology and crazy ironic given that it is the cult that suppresses people.

  7. MangoAngel says:

    She’s probably a very nice woman. She sounds nice. She’s always been considered nice. But “nice” is about all there seems to be to her. If she hadn’t gone through the whole TomKat thing, I honestly doubt anyone would be remotely interested in her, because as nice as she seems, good lord she can’t act. The sideways smile, behind-the-ear hair-tucking thing was great for nice girl of Dawson’s Creek, but she never progressed past that.

    Maybe she should seek out the plethora of acting classes in NYC while she’s not brunching with her book club or getting midnight foot massages.

    • SomeChick says:

      The “sideways smile” is due to a neurological condition called Bell’s Palsy.

      You are free to have opinions about her acting, but she smiles that way because that is how she smiles. That is how her face works. So maybe that’s not really something to criticize her for.

      • MangoAngel says:

        My husband has Bell’s Palsy, and gets only seems to come out when she’s acting. Photos of her grinning on the street at photographers show a fully natural smile.

        Her acting smile always comes with that hair-tuck-tic and studious I Am Acting Face.

        If that’s what triggers her Bell’s Palsy, then my apologies. But it’s a very specific thing that doesn’t really seem to jive with my understanding of the condition.

  8. emmy says:

    I find her so boring. I had a soft spot for her forever because of Dawson’s Creek but she’s just not a great actress. The Tom stuff just threw me for a loop and then she made her big escape and I knew we were never going to see her more interesting side if it exists. It must be there, right? She not only ran, she also dated Jamie Fox for years.

    I’m 36 and I need my retinol. I take really good care of my skin and genetics are on my side but retinol makes all the difference in the world. It shows when I get complacent with it.

  9. Goldie says:

    I have a soft spot for her. I know she’s not the greatest actor, but I don’t think she’s nearly as bad as people make her out to be. I feel like most folks who diss her acting have probably barely even seen any of the work she’s done in the last 10 years or so. I mean she’s not exactly starring in high-profile blockbusters or Oscar nominated pics, is she?

  10. AppleTartin says:

    She signed her voice away to keep Suri safe. Bless her for it, its not easy what she did. And what would speaking out do. Sure a lot of titillating attention. But nothing is going to bring Scientology down as long as they have her their big whale donors. She would be written off as a bitter shrew of an ex-wife. The fact that Tom is still celebrated as an actor and people see his MI movies when he has clearly cut his own daughter out of his life over a religion. What else needs to be said?

    • Jules says:

      I agree…. however there is so much falling apart right now, so many whistleblowers, corruption is being revealed and people taken down. Scientology has remained fairly untouched up til now, but maybe their fall from grace is coming soon?

  11. Xantha says:

    I guess I’ll never understand the fear of aging because I was never the pretty, hot thing. I’m 38 now, I don’t see anything being different when I hit 40.

    • Anners says:

      Same. I’m 43, never was hot or the object of male attention, and getting older hasn’t been too bad. I care a lot less about the opinions of others, which is nice, although I’m starting to notice changes in my skin (losing elasticity I guess) and it makes me a little sad because apparently that was my vanity. But overall I’m grateful for the opportunity to get older and to experience this part of life. It’s all an adventure.

  12. manda says:

    Rare Objects is a Kathleen Tessaro book, and I am excited there will be a movie!

  13. Seraphina says:

    Kaiser, I agree with your trophy wife comment. I never really liked or disliked her, she was just there. But she gets my approval in how she left Tom, and taking Their daughter with her, and for dating Jamie Fox. That was kinda awesome. So not vanilla.

  14. panzley says:

    People may call her plain and vanilla but to me, she is such a badass! She took her daughter from a very powerful, crazy man…….hell, an entire crooked organization! I wish her and her daughter all the best.

    • lucy2 says:

      For all the vanilla talk, she’s probably had one of the more interesting lives out there! I think after all that she’s just careful about what she puts out to the world. I can’t blame her for that, and I’m sure after that nightmare she’s happy to be considered boring.
      I really respect her for how she’s lived this chapter of her life. She has for sure seen some THINGS, and was strong enough to ask for help and get her and her daughter out.

      • Summer says:

        I agree. I bet she is happy to be considered boring after all of that. Her life in NYC sounds fun to me. I miss living there. She comes across as a strong woman and a good mother imo.

  15. FYI says:

    Aging is NOT a disaster! It’s fantastic. Take a look at Madonna if you want to see someone who is insecure about aging. Fear of aging is not a requirement, and not everyone has it.

    Where is the rest of her right leg in the top photo? Is she supposed to be climbing out of a closed window?

  16. MeghanNotMarkle says:

    I’ve always admired her for her escape from Scientology but that’s all I’ve got. She’s just boring to me outside of that.

  17. David says:

    Growing older is natural and beautiful and to be embraced. I can’t say I’m not bracing myself for my 40s though. My time in the sun as a youth is slowly creeping in to roost.
    Also: what has everyone been doing in the kitchen? We need a post on this! Bon Appetit’s banana bread has been a go to. A little sugar mixed with salt on top before baking is extra good.

    • Esmom says:

      Banana bread sounds great. I used to make a version from the Moosewood Cookbook that had espresso in it, yum. I think bananas and coffee are a great combination. I make a smoothie with cold brew, banana and greek yogurt almost every day.

      I haven’t been able to bake, though, because all the stores in my area are out of flour and sugar. Hoping the shelves are restocked one day soon.

      • David says:

        In a pinch I like to put old fashioned oats in the food processor. Of course it will be a slight variation but old fashioned oats in a processor always add a nutty flavor. Had some dk brown sugar on hand and used sour cream instead of mascarpone since I don’t have any. It was nice NOT using vanilla for once. The coffee addition sounds great. I love espresso powder and coffee in so many chocolate things so why not bananas?! Thank you for the ideas!
        And on topic: I think aging is easier for me because even in the sun as a youngin I was faithful to sunscreen and growing up in a personal care home made me find the beauty in super seniors.

      • McMom says:

        Esmom – the mocha pecan pie from the Moosewood Cookbook is a family favorite. My eldest requested it for his 18th birthday instead of a cake

    • MeghanNotMarkle says:

      Banana bread has been happening in my house, too. A week-and-a-half ago there were no bananas to be found where I am, and then suddenly this week the store had two displays of perfect bread bananas. So I bought a bunch to use and freeze for more bread and smoothies.

  18. Mabs A'Mabbin says:

    Aging does suck the big pelota, but once you swallow that pill, it’s quite liberating. For me, it took considering the many definitions of old. When I was young and pretty, I used to hate all the attention. I waved it off and ignore it. When it stopped, (for me it was late 40s), there was actually a mourning period. And for some women, it’s important to recognize that it’s okay to mourn. Just don’t stay there wallowing in lost youth lol. My grandmother never delved into her life other than a few well-placed ‘visits,’ because things were so hard. A dust bowl, great depression and a world war leaves many scars. So when my grandbabies are born sometime in the near future, I plan to let them in. It’d be really weird if I still hung on to my youth with dress and plastic surgery lol.

    Katie may project monotonous boredom, but I’ll never forget her exit from extraterrestrial evil.

    • Naddie says:

      Same.I’ve never been stunning, but I was pretty and had an amount of attention I don’t have now (I’m 32 and although not invisible, it’s not like when I was 19) and when it bites I feel like a shallow bitch, even though I prefer myself now, looks included. Also, I think this thing of youth and attention is not only about the looks but the predatory rooted in men’s behavior.

  19. Pepper says:

    I am 37 but often mistaken for being in my 20′s. Sometimes I attribute this to my mixed race genes, but then all my family look young on both sides, including my Scottish relatives. I find that because I am often told I look younger it does make me more vain about hanging onto that and now that I live in the Caribbean I worry that the effects of sun exposure will creep up on me and overnight I’ll suddenly look ‘old’. Caribbean people are very sensible with sun, they don’t sunbathe and they use umbrellas during the day, but you don’t get the feeling it’s out of vanity – it’s more precautionary and for comfort. I find it interesting to observe the cultural differences in approach to sun and beauty regimes generally.

    I like Katie…she reminds me of an American Kate Middleton, but a nicer and more interesting person. The fact that she dated Jamie Foxx makes her cool in my eyes!

    • dreamchild says:

      Thanks for bringing up this conversation about aging. I am a black American woman and black people’s appearance in general, tend to age slower than other races. However, I’ve always looked sooo much younger than I was from my teenage/young adult years constantly being carded when my younger friends were waved into clubs to my young motherhood. I had all three of my sons btw 24-29. Older ladies would roll their eyes at me because they thought I was an irresponsible teen mother instead of an employed married adult. My husband would get side eye because I looked so much younger than him although I was 6 months older (I did get a kick out of that).
      As I got older I still appeared very young to others. It could be frustrating because I wasn’t always conscious of how I appeared to others and would be surprised when people assumed that I was so much younger than I was. Of course, as I got older and was still getting carded well into my 40s it was flattering. What was frustrating was going to my teenage son’s school and being told to get to class!!! I have to admit to being embarrassed that I appeared so gravitasless (if that’s a word). I started wearing my airline uniform to my son’s school to appear more professional and frankly older. My son’s were always asked if I were their girlfriend.
      I’m aware that part of the reason I was considered young was my youthful personality. I’ve always been outgoing smiley bouncy and people attribute those qualities with youthfulness.
      I am now in my 60s and finally feel that I look my age and although people still think I am younger they at least think I am in my 50s so old :) .
      Even though when young I was pretty and received a lot of male attention I never really cared about that. I valued friends and myself for inner beauty. Never wore a lot of makeup or fake hair cause I loved the beach and getting in the water. I always protected myself in the sun because frankly laying out in the sun with no shade hurts. The sun burns and I’ve never understood how people do it. Can’t they feel the burn?
      Hope all you celebitches are staying safe in this crazy time. I am holding it down with my 91 yr old mom, who looks and acts really young for her age as well, in Manhattan NY. Take care.

      • Pepper says:

        Thanks for sharing your interesting experiences as a black woman! I do agree that black skin stands up better to aging and of course the melanin protects from sun exposure. But no, they don’t seek out the sun the same way as Caucasian people. The anti-aging market is very focused on and promoted by Caucasian people and the white stereotype of beauty. Black women are not given a platform or focus for often naturally defying the aging process. It’s just the world we live in.
        I do agree that personality has a lot to do with it also, so hope you remain happy and youthful at heart!

  20. Jaded says:

    I too am a skin cream junkie – I currently have about 6 in rotation – so I get it. But at 67 I look at photos of myself as a 20-something and damn, I was hot. But like others have posted I didn’t like the attention I got so I deliberately dressed down, nothing tight or revealing, didn’t wear a ton of make-up, I wanted to be liked for WHO I was, not WHAT I looked like. However as I’ve aged I’ve realized that no amount of skin cream will create inner beauty, that comes with experience, compassion, forgiveness and a willingness to embrace the “real” you.

    Katie will never win an Oscar, but she deserves a medal of bravery for escaping the clutches of Co$ and that bastard Tom Cruise. She made a tactical error by letting him love-bomb her into submission but damn, she was a stealth queen.

    • MangoAngel says:

      I think the majority of that was due to her father being a very savvy lawyer and her being close enough to her family to trust them and heed their advice when she decided she wanted out.

    • Zinc says:

      Her dad also helped her by insisting, it is rumoured, on a 9-box prenup (but anyone marrying TC would have to sign a very long and detailed one anyway, I suppose) and getting her to establish residency in NYC so she could file there (there was some tactical benefit to filing in NYC). Her brother is also a lawyer but I don’t know if he’s a family law / divorce specialist like her dad is.

  21. A Fan says:

    And I saw that and was like, “Sexy. I can do that!”

    [*Umm, no you can't.*]

  22. Arb says:

    The most interesting thing she says in this interview is a quote. She’s not bright.

  23. Silvie says:

    Pretty sure that her contractual obligation to silence about Tom and Scientology was one of the terms of her divorce. I don’t think we’ll ever hear a word of dirt out of Katie, much like we’ve never heard much out of Nicole. I’m OK with that. Katie has always struck me as very intelligent.

  24. Naddie says:

    I have nothing to say about her as a person, but she’s one of the most untalented actresses out there.

    • Ennie says:

      I think she’s alright, not the worst, IMO, she was just going slowly up the ladder when she got sidetracked by her “celebrity crush”.
      I bet her bestest work was acting as if nothing was going on in Front if her sciento minders and tiny tom. She was stealthy!

  25. Goldie says:

    Yikes! For someone who is supposedly so vanilla, she sure seems to inspire some strong emotions in people. I usually just ignore the celebrities I find boring.