Diddy told Lizzo not to twerk on his Instagram dance-a-thon, but he let Draya twerk

Sean Diddy Combs and Christian Casey Combs arrive at The Recording Academy And Clive Davis' 2020 Pre-GRAMMY Gala held at The Beverly Hilton Hotel on January 25, 2020 in Beverly Hills, Los Angeles, California, United States.

I am old, so I don’t check Instagram Live and Instagram Stories for whatever celebrities are doing to amuse themselves these days. Note: I have watched a lot of IG Stories/Live events with tennis players, just because it’s a little bit funny to watch them all go stir-crazy at home. But all of the DJ-parties and dance parties and such… no, I’m not watching those. So I missed Diddy’s Easter afternoon dance-a-thon. He did it to benefit teamlove.com, a coronavirus relief fund to benefit frontline workers. He got tons of celebrities to dance on Instagram Live from their homes. He and his sons were into it when Draya twerked to “Back That Ass Up.”

But then when Lizzo tried to twerk on the dance party, Diddy told her to stop, that it was too much for “Easter Sunday.”

What the hell?? Apparently, the chronology was reversed – he first told Lizzo that she was doing too much for Easter, then Draya came on and twerked and Diddy and her sons were totally fine with it. I realize this was all done in good fun and I hope they raised a lot of money for charity and all, but can people stop acting like Lizzo needs to hide her body away in a closet, or that Lizzo can’t twerk and dance and have fun without it being “too much”? Don’t get me wrong, Lizzo often does A LOT. But twerking on an IG dance party? If the skinny girls get to do it, Lizzo gets to do it too.

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  1. manda says:

    It’s not really a surprise that he’s a sexist misogynist. I remember hearing about the white parties he used to throw and how the women were directed to be “waxed”. eww he’s gross

    • Ladychef83 says:

      Not surprised to hear that. I remember reading that he sent Lil Kim a treadmill when she started to gain weight. He’s a pig.

  2. eto says:

    Oh god, the ‘concerned about her health’ trolls are coming…
    Also Diddy has always been trash.

    • Kate says:

      Let’s play bingo! The squares can be “she’s glorifying fatness” “she’s flaunting herself” “she’s not healthy” “but the kids” “she’s thirsty”….hm, what else?

      • Otaku fairy says:

        LOL, yep. Don’t forget the equal opportunity prude’s free space: “But it’s always wrong when a woman of any size does it because access to the female form is something that should only be available through LUV, and a woman making any other choice is degrading herself!!”

    • whatWHAT? says:

      it’s so funny…I know that’s a popular THING with heavier women, but I’ve seen Lizzo do some work outs (and OF COURSE I’ve seen her dance on stage) and that woman might be heavy but she is WAY BETTER shape than a lot of thinner people, including yours truly.

      and F Diddy, that mouth-breathing misogynist pr*ck.

  3. Ali says:

    Diddy’s has some strong genes.

  4. Kate says:

    lmao i don’t even know what I just watched but I mean Lizzo was like slow-mo humping the floor partially offscreen while Draya was just bouncing around to a hoppy song. So kind of apples and oranges? I feel bad that she was apologizing so much though, like maybe they could have conveyed that this was supposed to be “family friendly” (eyeroll) before inviting their lady friends to dance

    • Yup, Me says:

      If you don’t know what you watched, why do you continue to speak?

      • paranormalgirl says:


      • Kate says:

        I meant i didn’t know what that instagram live dance party format was supposed to be – more a joke on myself not being into IG live and tiktok and whatever the celebs and kids are doing now. but getting prickly responses from internet strangers is good people-pleaser therapy for me so thanks

    • Ronaldinhio says:

      The song content maybe had a part to play – I did wonder
      I also thought Lizzo is stones lighter than before but still as gorgeous as before and can still twerk like a demon

  5. naomipaige99 says:

    That’s because Diddy is a douche!

  6. Canadian bacon says:

    Yet if a white man told her don’t twerk it would been racist and if a woman told her it would been a offensive/sexist but because it’s Diddy she says sorry ..thought she was about being confident and herself

    • frenchtoast says:

      she’s definitely overcompensating by being extra. Deep down I don’t think she’s confident.

      • Naddie says:

        That’s one of the reasons why I like her, I see an extra effort to transmit self acceptance and all, when it doesn’t ring true to me.

  7. Kentuckygirl says:

    Sounds like the song was his problem… maybe at first he liked it then realized some of the lyrics or something were not “family” enough for Easter. He asks them to stop the song and then they find a different one. Back that Ass Up is not really a family song either, but I don’t know the second one to know what lyrics are coming…

  8. Nina Simone says:

    He is close to being a billionaire. Why is he asking folks who have just lost their jobs etc so donate? I don’t get it. He’s always been a selfish, misogynistic and thieving person so I guess that explains his tone deaf “donation”

    • Anna says:

      Good question. It would be more appropriate if he was matching donations or something, because the dude is rich as hell. He can certainly afford to contribute.

  9. Valiantly Varnished says:

    Why is this shocking? Diddy been misogynist trash.

  10. Imtired says:

    So I guess draya is conventionally curvy or thin right?

  11. Imara219 says:

    Are we supposed to ignore the fact that Lizzo can’t twerk? I cringe whenever she tries. 🤦🏾‍♀️ 😄

    Honestly. I didn’t take his comment negatively it actually seemed like a friendly joke in the vein of: you got so much don’t get us shut down or don’t show out here. Those types of comments are usually told in jest.


    He released a statement saying he wanted to change the song because of the cursing, not stop her from twerking, but I’m not sure I believe that.

    Here’s what I think- he wanted to raise money, so he wanted as many viewers as possible. He thought Lizzo twerking would cause some people to stop viewing. I’m not saying that’s just but it’s probably true to a certain extent because not everyone believes in the body positivity movement. I think it’s shitty but it’s a practical choice. It may not be fair thin women are “allowed” to twerk while fat women aren’t, but honestly, no one will suffer from not twerking. Seriously.

  13. JoJo says:

    It was clearly the song(profanity) that started playing when he was off camera that he had a problem with.This event had sponsors so he wanted to keep it family friendly so that’s why he shut it down( the music)

  14. Anners says:

    There has always been (at least in my 40 some odd years on this earth) a vast divide between what larger people are allowed to do/get away with vs what slimmer folks can do. My friend and I were just discussing it this morning at the end of shift. There’s a strict dress code at work, supposedly, but if you’re conventionally attractive then it’s okay to wear leggings as pants or sweatshirts or short skirts. If you’re larger, then you’ll be spoken to about it. Fat people always have (and continue to have to) live by a very constrained set of rules in order to not offend people’s aesthetic values and incur their wrath.

    • Naddie says:

      True, and it’s applied to behavior as well. Fat women need to constantly walk in a tightrope.

  15. Melissa says:

    Diddy’s a dick but it’s the song he had the problem with, he says so while she’s apologizing. And I’m a huge Lizzo fan. Not saying it’s ok he did that, just saying it wasn’t her dancing.

  16. Mimi says:

    People are taking this out of context but its interesting to see who is defending her and who isn’t. As usual, she was doing way too much, especially with her song selection. Nevertheless, her “twerking” is a joke at this point. No one wants to see it because we have seen it a million times. She has too much talent to keep resorting to that unless she just doesn’t know how to dance.

  17. Lisabella says:

    Diddy needs to take a GOOD LOOK IN HIS MIRROR – he is NOTHING special to look at, never has and never will be…he’d be LUCKY if a pretty girl like Lizzo would look twice at him!!!

  18. L says:

    That was awkward.

  19. Naddie says:

    People saying Lizzo can’t twerk, seriously? As if it was some kind of complex technique. She’s awesome, twerking or not.

    • JulieCarr says:

      I mean, it is. There’s actual twerking, and then there’s bending over and shaking your ass. Everyone can do the latter, but proper twerking is a skill like any other dance move, and it’s not one I’ve ever seen Lizzo even attempt.