Kristin Cavallari thought Jay Cutler was ‘lazy,’ ‘unmotivated,’ needed a post-NFL job

Do you know how I’ve been saying that Kristin Cavallari is leaking stories about her divorce from Jay Cutler, only to deny the story in another story, thus ensuring she keeps her name in the press? It’s still happening. Page Six ran a story that Kristin thought Jay was loafing around the house after he retired from the NFL in 2017 and that she found that annoying. They had a ton of details and quotes and it looked straight from Kristin’s publicist. It read:

Kristin found [Jay] “unmotivated” and even “lazy” — while he found that he had a penchant for hanging out with their three kids and menagerie of animals on their Tennessee farm.

“She was growing increasingly impatient with him. He was supposed to take this big job at Fox Sports and have a life after football that would get him up off the couch and do something,” said an insider. “Instead, he backed out — this is [three] years ago — and joined the [Miami] Dolphins. That didn’t pan out well, and he was left with no TV gig until she got the show for them.”

The source added that Cavallari “views herself as very polished and put together, and [Cutler as] this lazy, unmotivated guy.”

[From Page Six]

Of course someone then denied that to US Magazine a day later:

There is “no truth … whatsoever” to reports that the reality star, 33, split from the former athlete, 37, in large part due to his refusal to get another job, a source tells Us Weekly exclusively. On the contrary, the insider says the couple just “fell out of love.”

Cavallari, in fact, did not even harbor ill feelings because of Cutler’s step back from his career. “Kristin never had a problem with him retiring,” the source reveals. “She didn’t find him unmotivated or lazy.”

“She never criticized him about not working or not working hard enough. She didn’t care.”

[From US Magazine]

ET has another story, told from Jay’s perspective, about how Kristin was working really hard and he wanted more time with her. The “work life balance” was said to be an issue in their relationship. I don’t want to get too into the weeds with these people I care absolutely nothing about. I’m already annoyed at having to read all this about them, but earlier in the week I wondered if there’s a team at E! working to get them more press. It could be a team that Kristin hired too, and that she’s angling for another season of her reality show. It might just work.

Oh and Kristin is buying a $5 million dollar estate near Nashville with two houses on it. It’s all for her kids though, remember? A source tells people “She’s trying to minimize the impact on her kids, so she’d love to bring them someplace really nice, really welcoming, really special where they can start putting down roots and make memories.” She needs to have a $5 million dollar place for memories!

This is a post Kristin put up for Jaxon’s sixth birthday yesterday.



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  1. Alissa says:

    has his camp really said anything negative about her? I only seem to see accounts from her trying to trash talk him, and it’s interesting.

    • Seraphina says:

      The gloves are off (for her) and the more she trash talks and he stays silent, the more classless she appears to be. I understand she is hurt, but knowing when to keep the mouth shut is key.

      • Ctgirl says:

        Her inner Valley Girl is showing and it’s ugly.

      • Adrianna says:

        Now take those kids Dad and get them vaccinated for heaven’s sake. The airhead called the shots long enough.

    • runcmc says:

      I definitely read a few things, but not here. There are memes about HIM telling HER to get a job (because of whatever that fiasco was surrounding funds for her to buy a house)

      I think *maybe* he released some minor dirty laundry and she decided to destroy him in response. It’s all incredibly petty and I feel for the kids. I wish famous divorcing couples (with kids) would remember them before tearing each other apart in the press.

      • Winnie says:

        He didn’t release anything. The story you are thinking about is his filing a response to her motion that she didn’t have anywhere to stay.

        It was some websites who get ahold of the filings. He had pointed out they already have two homes and a condo in Nashville so her assertion that she needed another 5 million dollars for another house was ridiculous.

        The meme was just a “get a job” from the trolls. He never said that.

  2. Chica1971 says:

    She’s angling for something! Too much details for C-listers.
    I’m more curious about Nashville real estate. It seems that a lot of stars buy homes there but always have trouble unloading them years later.

    • Escondista says:

      I’d guess that since it’s sort of middle America that there is a lot of open land surrounding Nashville. Probably a case of “If you have the money, why buy someone else’s dream when you can custom build your own?”

      • Kebbie says:

        I think it’s this. You can’t build your dream home in the most exclusive areas of Los Angeles or New York like you can in Nashville. In those areas you have to buy and then renovate what’s already there for the most part. There is a lot more land available in the Nashville area to develop yourself.

      • minx says:

        It’s still in a red state. If you’re rich it doesn’t matter, but I wouldn’t live there by choice. I don’t want my governor forcing me to go back to work and then cutting unemployment benefits when you don’t.

    • lucy2 says:

      I’m guessing there’s a limited pool of very wealthy buyers there, and lots of competition.

      • Rosemary says:

        The Nashville real estate market is really, really hot now. Nashville has become the southern Las Vegas. This in addition to all of the country stars living around there as well as being the state capital. It’s in a beautiful part of the country, BTW, and there is definitely open land around there.

  3. Erinn says:

    Oh I 100% believe she considered him lazy and unmotivated. Nevermind that she’s just kind of floated along doing nearly nothing post HIlls. I mean, I’m sure those single episode guest spots on tv shows were SUPER difficult for her. But yeah, the dude who had to be obsessive about his job to get to the level that he got was obviously a big ol slouch in the motivation department.

    But that has been the vibe she’s always put out. She wants to do very little (and maybe now that she’s found something interesting to her that could be changing) while her husband works and provides for everyone. It probably annoyed her that other friends managed to have that kind of situation.

    • crowhood says:

      Not for nothing, but she is actually pretty ambitious. We can all judge reality tv stars but at the end of the day she became famous at 18 for a medium that wasn’t really understood at the time. I say that to say- now we all know how manipulative those reality environments can be in but we didn’t really get it back then.

      She took that and was then on other shows. She hosts the emmys red carpet coverage, she hosts some other trash show on ABC that I don’t watch, she started a jewelery line with a few people at her house and now employs many and has multiple retail locations.

      Jay threw a ball really far and then didn’t anymore. I don’t really think either of them are good or bad people because we don’t know them. I just think because she’s young and attractive and polarizing we tend to assume she’s a gold digger when she has made a lot of her own money due to her own businesses.

      • Erinn says:

        I mean, the thing is the Hills were ages ago. So it’s no different from him throwing a ball and then not throwing a ball anymore. Laguna Beach was 2004-2005. Then The HIlls was then 20 something episodes for her in 2009-2010. Then she worked a few bit guest judge roles for an episode or two of other television shows.

        While I AM impressed that some people jumped on the reality show wagon before it was a cool thing to do – it really doesn’t make someone look motivated if they’ve only filmed a few bit parts between 2010 and the start of her new show in 2018 which was only like 18 episodes. I wouldn’t call her a gold digger though – I think that is unfair here. I just think she’s a hypocrite for talking about motivation.

        And she’s not creating the jewelry, is she? I guess my question is – is she selecting pieces and buying them wholesale to sell, or is she actually designing or creating jewelry? Because from what I recall her jewelry line had something like 10 EMPTY boxes being shipped per week.

        I’m just saying – the dedication you need to put into football and the dedication you need to put into being a blonde reality star that only hosts the occasional gig are two very different levels of motivation/effort. One is incredibly demanding on your body and encompasses your whole life while the other involves hustling and trying to make yourself marketable.

      • Melissa says:

        There is no need to downplay his accomplishments while listing hers, “Jay threw a ball really far and then didn’t anymore?” Come on now, he wasn’t the best QB in the league but as a professional athlete he put in DECADES of work, by the time these people play through little league, high school, college and the pros, they have literally put in more years than many do at their regular job.

        I have no doubt she is ambitious and has hustle and personally, I think this daily PR blitz is ALL about her hustle and trying to drum up another season of her reality show. Because blowing up the father of your children in the tabloids with a new innuendo every day darn sure isn’t about your children.

        and now I need to go back to bed because I’m here defending Jay Cutler of all people.

      • Jellybean says:

        I had no idea who either of them were until this happened. I dislike her for asking for primary custody and launching a PR campaign with no consideration of the children’s welfare.

      • Dee says:

        Agreed. There were several plot lines where he was struggling with her success bc he’s a very traditional guy. He couldn’t figure out what he wanted to do with the rest of his life.

        Also- her buying a $5 mil house with her money isn’t a big deal to me. He’s worth 60 mil on his own. The houses they owned together are about 17mil total. You know he’s either going to live in the 10mil estate that the family currently resides in or buy a new fancy one. It’s not like he is going to downsize at all! So why the double standard. It’s about keeping the same level of comfort for the kids so they don’t decide to live with the richer parent when they are older.

    • Dutch says:

      Jay has career earnings of $122 million playing a physical, violent sport. I think he’s earned a few years of couch time before diving back into the working world.

      • minx says:

        Agree, and I’m a Chicagoan who couldn’t stand him when he played here. The guy worked hard, he deserves to do wtf he wants to do.

      • Dutch says:

        Plus he gave the world all those Smokin’ Jay memes. He’s more than made his contribution to society.

      • minx says:

        OMG Smokin’ Jay! I forgot. Just googled a bunch of those.

      • damejudi says:

        I dated a guy whose son played Division 1 college football, and I was shocked when I saw the weekly schedules for these student athletes. I don’t know how his son managed to do everything (including a degree in chemical engineering). This kid was an elite athlete, a student, and a really good kid. But after his team played in their bowl game, he was happy for a break. He was exhausted.

        So if Cutler wants to take some time to transition, his wife should have tried to understand that. Even a “crummy” NFL player has been working, working, working for so many years before they ever don a pro jersey.

    • Geraldine Granger says:

      Not that I think she isn’t silly, but she was supposedly a stay at home mom for the last seven or eight years while he was in the NFL. It seems like she waited for him to be done and then thought it was her turn and he wasn’t supportive of that. That, along with her cookbooks and tv shows I think are evidence of her hustle. If not, she wouldn’t have tv shows or notoriety at this point.

  4. Scollins says:

    It’s all about her, her fame-whoring and damn the husband and kids. I’m guessing she used to bitch about him working too much and leaving her to be a ‘single parent’. Now he’s a full time parent but she doesn’t like that either. Not participating in daily press beat downs says lots about him and shows her to be a grade A bitch.

  5. Taylor says:

    I’m surprised they made it as long as they did. I distinctly remember thinking they didn’t really like each other but settled because she got knocked up. I haven’t really thought about them since.

    • smcollins says:

      Me, too. From what I “knew” about them she seemed a lot more into him than him into her. She seemed to want the status of being a Quarterback Wife and he stayed because they had a kid…and then another one…and then another one. I never got any real chemistry between them. I just feel bad that there are kids stuck in this (apparently one-sided) drama that is most likely being played up for a reality show.

      • S says:

        I don’t know, they go serious pretty quickly – he proposed to her in under a year. I remember her saying once that within a couple weeks of dating he said he was going to marry her, that apparently he had seen her on her show and was interested, etc.

        Though once they broke up, I agree that they probably only got back together because she was pregnant.

    • Sarah says:

      I definitely didn’t expect Heidi and Spencer to be the longest lasting marriage, but here we are!

  6. TIFFANY says:

    So she was upset that he was *checks notes* ended a lifelong career and ceased to continue on said job.

    So, she is upset that he….retired?

    • Jodi says:

      i always got the feeling that she was annoyed that with him home and her launching her business, the expectation was that he wanted more time with her and she couldn’t be bothered so she wanted him to find a hobby so she could live the life she wanted without being a partner.

      • Scollins says:

        With her eternal need for attention, she’ll never have a healthy relationship with a partner.

    • Dutch says:

      Post-retirement divorces are fairly common in the sports world even without one of the partners possessing an unquenchable thirst for continued fame. These families structure their lives around making it possible for the athlete to be as successful as possible. They’re used to that person not being around and have developed a routine that works for them. Then the athlete retires and throws the whole thing out of balance. Some people can adjust, many more just can’t.

      • Kebbie says:

        Definitely. You build a life based on a certain kind of relationship and then after a decade or more it’s completely turned upside down. And it’s not any easier for the athletes who have lived a lifetime of rigid structure and schedule and have based their entire identities on playing that sport.

        It takes a really strong marriage and really flexible people to adjust. I don’t think either of those describe Jay and Kristin.

      • Tiffany says:

        This is why I always appreciated when Dwayne Wade said that he went into therapy to help with his transition to retire as he knew he would be at a loss and didn’t want it to effect the home life too much.

  7. Esmom says:

    Ugh, that photo of him with the bare feet! It grosses me out no less today than it did a few days ago when I first saw it. I know nothing about them but I get a feeling that she is the one who made him dress like that, like a dress-up doll. He strikes me as the kind of guy who would live in athlesiure wear if he could and thrown on a basic old suit if the occasion required.

    • Melissa says:

      Agreed! Those pants could be a size larger as well.

    • terra says:

      I absolutely loathe feet too, but I zoomed in (ugh!) and his feet don’t look that bad, actually. For a former professional athlete I’m rather impressed.

      (Side note? Whoever chose the file name for that one gave me a chuckle. Cheers, CB or Kaiser! Succinct, yet accurate.)

      • Esmom says:

        Lol. I will grudgingly admit that maybe his feet aren’t that bad but the whole pose with the too tight, too short gray pants and the way he’s holding his leg like an IG influencer along with the bare feet just looks ridiculous to me. Maybe ridiculous is a better way to characterize my feelings about this, haha.

      • terra says:

        Oh, my goodness, yes, the pants are a disaster! That was the first thing I thought when I saw it the other day.

        But he’s only got the one pose, doesn’t he? She’s the same, but for alternating hips occasionally. Looking at these shots of them makes me remember my musical theatre days. “Bevel, ladies, bevel!” Lol.

    • Grant says:

      They’re just feet. Everyone has them. Not to sound creepy but I think he has nice feet, especially for a former pro-football player. They’re clean and his nails are trimmed. He’s inside, presumably in his own home. I don’t think he has to wear shoes.

      • LaurenMichelle says:

        Jay is handsome, wealthy & witty. I am certain there are plenty of women who will gladly look at his feet & tight pants.
        Kristin should STFU for her children’s sake. Their children must be very hurt & sad to be suddenly shuffled between 2 homes.
        Show some class Kristin, for once in your life.

      • amilou says:

        Seriously, LaurenMichelle. (As the commenters always seem to point out,) he might have a weak chin, but he’s wearing the HELL out of those short, tight pants. And generally speaking I am always the first to gag when I see feet in a photo, but he looks fine.

        That said…I found him pretty hilarious on their reality show. I had no prior knowledge of him, but he made me a fan.

  8. Mar says:

    Unpopular opinion, apparently, but she has earned her money and deserves to spend it however she so chooses. Of course it’s not a purchase all for the kids, but come on— having a happier mom in a house she is comfortable in IS for them. She also hustled for years building a successful brand. She’s not my favorite but I don’t see the point in vilifying her so much, especially on a site that always tries to present itself as women-positive.

    • Bucky says:

      It is unpredictable that she didn’t try to scape together a fixer upper, home renovation, storyline. I’ll give her that.

    • Erinn says:

      A lot of it is to do with the fact that she’s so into the anti-vaxx thing. It’s pretty easy to vilify people who do villainous things like spread false information about vaccine efficacy and safety.

  9. Snazzy says:

    How is she even that rich? Can you really make that much money off some terrible reality show?

  10. Mina_Esq says:

    Prior to this divorce story breaking, I had zero knowledge of either of them. I then looked up some videos on YouTube. The impression I got immediately was that they were at different stages in their lives. She was excited to scale up her business and grow as a professional, while he was ready to relax and enjoy his retirement. She was going 90 miles down an interstate while he was enjoying a leisurely drive on a country road. The best of marriages would struggle to survive that dynamic. I hope she stops the attacks, in the interest of her kids.

    • megs283 says:

      I don’t know, that dynamic has worked a million times before, but with the wife staying at home. Why can’t he be a SAHD?

  11. FHMom says:

    All I know about her I learned from Gawker. These two seem to be in the same situation as Julianne Hough and her hockey husband. Both women married working athletes who have since retired. I would guess that retiring young from a professional sports job is not easy. It makes me grudgingly admire Giselle, who can’t wait for her husband to quit football.

  12. Bucky says:

    Maybe she has two teams releasing these comments, because they’re completely disfunctional and contradictory. She’s the primary at home parent, not Jay -or- Jay is retired and at home with the kids all day? She repeatedly called him lazy on the show, so she can’t realistically deny that. She needs to settle on a smear campaign. Also, starting a jewelry sales business as a reality tv personality who married to a wealthy celebrity is pretty cliche. I don’t think she gets to point fingers at anyone else’s ambition. I don’t know where she got capital for the business, but if any of that was from her spouse, she should just say “thanks” and drop the competition of who works more. Learning that she apparently considers herself to be “polished” is funny.

    • lucy2 says:

      It’s sort of the Brad Pitt playbook. Put a bad story out there, then claim that’s not true, aren’t I being nice to my ex, while slipping in some not nice stuff with that story too.

      Whatever their deal is, they have several young kids, and should just both shut up and do this amicably.

    • Winnie says:

      I read Jay financed her jewelry business and owns 49% as a result. She has two brick and mortar stores which – I don’t know how they will survive in this downturn. The jewelry is cute but overpriced and supposedly poor quality.

  13. TheOriginalMia says:

    As I told Kaiser & CB yesterday, she needs to stop because people who don’t even like Jay are coming to his defense. He’s not lazy if he decides, after a 10+ year pro career, to retire. The man has dedicated 30+ years to get to this point in his life where he can enjoy his money and his kids. She’s not endearing herself to any judges who’ll hear her case.

    • JennyJenny says:

      Agreed! He was our mediocre QB here in Chicago and people had a hard time embracing his “who cares” attitude.
      But I’m Team Jay in this mess.

    • Lotus says:

      Isnt that most peoples dream? Make a bunch of money, retire and really enjoy your life and kids? It’s not like he needs more money

  14. Lila says:

    If they had no money and he refused to get a job, I understand calling him lazy. But he made millions a year for a number of years. He’s entitled to some downtime. And honestly, wanting to hang around your own kids at your own house is lovely!

    Plus, I don’t side-eye anyone in entertainment for not working. There are a million reasons why finding the next job can be difficult.

    I don’t have a liking for either of these people, but the PR games are making me like him more and her less.

  15. amiloo says:

    One of the major minor plot points in the show was how lazy and unmotivated she thought he was.

  16. Mumzy says:

    She decided he was lazy because he had “a penchant for hanging out with their three kids”?

    Ummmmm….isn’t that a massively huge, essential, and impactful part of actual parenting?

  17. Jessica says:

    Sure, Jan. All reports being that your stupid jewelery business was raiding Jay’s income. But sure sure.

  18. Kathryn says:

    Can’t say I ever paid much attention to these two except to SMH at the anti-vac stance. It may suck for the couple, but these messy breakups are so much more entertaining than ‘we love each other dearly but have decided to go our separate ways’ divorces. A diversion from the damage being done everyday by Trump and his cronies.

  19. Mtec says:

    Coming from Toronto, a $5 Million dollar house is not even surprising. A lot of regular, outdated homes here can easy go for $2 million, and they come with tiny backyards and no pools, 2 bedrooms etc. She has two kids, so that’s at least 3 bedrooms she’ll need, plus probably a live-in nanny and or chef, probably a home gym, and a pool, etc… It’s actually pretty low amount given the amount of rooms she’ll need, specially if she’s looking for something gated ‘cause she’s a celebrity. if you live in a rich big city, $5 Mil ain’t that crazy if you got it.

    • Sparky says:

      To me the issue wasn’t the amount or even that she wanted/needed to buy a house. Once divorce proceedings were underway it was prudent of him to ensure that handling of marital assets was supervised especially given that they have a pre-nup

  20. KinChicago says:

    I can relate on so many levels. I am the only one working now.
    I keep telling myself it is temporary but he makes no effort. Not cleaning, not cooking, it is like having a six foot two tall four year old.
    The man is not working. I am struggling to work from home and do my job. I cannot complete a webinar or meeting without interruption. He interrupts my work calls, blares loud movies, music and YouTube videos.
    All the money I make is not enough.
    I cry every single day.

    It’s hard for many right now. But when you have someone lazy, unsupportive and demeaning- doesn’t matter what gender- finding something to look forward to becomes very, very hard.

    • Harla says:

      I’m so sorry for what you’re going through KinChicago, I hope it gets better for you.

  21. Lily says:

    Does she not realize her kids will see all these negative stories she is putting out about their father one day? Bad mom.

  22. SJR says:

    Do not care on penny about these two, or their divorce.
    Couple of multi-millionaires with multiple million dollar homes + plus healthy children.

    What they lack is Class! STHU to the press when you have young kids together.
    Tacky. But, it’s all about their “brands”, reality show, clothing lines, makeup lines, hair products, whatever.
    Kardashians have created an ugly monster lifestyle that some of these lesser celebs are trying to hook on to, it is all about $$.