Jennifer Garner’s breakup advice to a fan: laughter is worth fighting for

Jennifer Garner posted the Instagram photo above and captioned it “Quarantine, but make it fashion.” The first outfit is from Garner playing Princess Buttercup in that Quibi version of The Princess Bride. (Please don’t make me watch that.) I would like to know the context for some of these other looks, and I particularly like the rollerskating car hop look with the projected drive in behind her, that’s a nice touch. She must be dressing up for Zoom get togethers and play dressing with her kids. Garner has really been coming onto her own on Instagram and I particularly like the talent she’s highlighting and the messages she’s sharing. She also supported Duchess Meghan’s video with baby Archie for her charity, Save The Children, and that warmed me to her.

A commenter asked Garner on that Instagram post for breakup advice and she answered. Here’s what they said:

“I wish I had your happiness and feeling of security. And I don’t say that resentfully because you present yourself as a good and kind person. Your actions show you to be good and kind,” a fan wrote on Garner’s post. “It’s that I have finally gotten the courage to tell my husband to leave after years of emotional abuse and I feel like I will never find happiness or security. I find a sense of balm from seeing yours but it’s also mixed with a winsome feeling because I don’t think I’ll ever be there. He is so vindictive and powerful and I have nothing and no one. Why am I saying this to a stranger? I really don’t know.”

Garner, who officially divorced the father of her children, Ben Affleck, in 2018 after a long separation, wrote back.

“Your heart sounds heavy, I am so sorry,” she replied. “Hopefully you have powerful women in your corner, reminding you of your strength and your worth. Hopefully, you are able to calm your mind with prayer/meditation/ exercise/ art. Laughter will come and really ― it is worth fighting for. Until then, all of my love. ”

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When I went through a breakup I googled “how to get over a breakup,” and vowed to follow all the advice in one specific article no matter what. (I wish I could find it again! It was short and had a lot of practical advice. So many of the articles had vague advice like Garners, which I’ll get to in a moment.) It was stuff like “throw out all their gifts,” “make new friends and go out even if you don’t feel like it,” “do your favorite things,” “work out,” “take a trip,” “buy new clothes,” etc. I did it and it worked. As for Garner’s breakup experience, she’s had a lot of time to get over Ben and to also be relieved to be rid of him. She’s only hinted around that. I kind of think she’s been dealing with a more recent breakup that she hasn’t talked about at all. We haven’t heard about John Miller in ages. Her advice is really general, but it’s also decent. It’s true that all those activities help, and she’s just commenting back to someone. It was kind of her to do that. I’m sure she dealt with so much behind the scenes with Ben which she’s never going to talk about.

Garner out hiking on 6/29:



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  1. DiegoInSF says:

    I find those photos super cringe, she seems to think she’s super funny or something. Sorry but I’m still mad at her for starring in that Peppermint movie where she painted Latinos as criminals and herself as the white hero. Yuck.

    • Ang says:

      The fact that her answer said “I hope you have strong women around you” …the lady JUST said she has no one! People don’t read and it’s frustrating.

  2. Tiffany says:

    She is a band kid through and through and there is nothing wrong with it.

    I have looked through her IG and I like it and I like her more now that she is no longer with Batfleck.

    What is it about some dudes that when they are with a woman they manage to just suck the life out of them just by being near them.

  3. LBB says:

    I like her, but I always have. I find her delightful.

  4. Marietta58 says:

    I’m just here to say I want her bathroom. And in pap pics she doesn’t look as small as she does on Insta. But good for her to actually answer a fan. Sometimes words from strangers can take you away from a ledge, so it’s wonderful that she did that.

  5. jbyrdku says:

    I’ve never been her biggest fan, but a super small part of me feels for her. She really loved him for all of those years, and was his biggest cheerleader while he treated her like shit for a very long time. I’m not saying she had to stick around, but she gave it her all. No matter how relieved she may be to actually be rid of him at this point (she probably is), it still has to suck (even a little) to see him seemingly get his act together for someone else.

    I think it’ll burst in to flames anyway, but that’s my read on Garner.

  6. Watson says:

    Love Jennifer Garner. Glad she got away from
    Affleck and could rebuild her life like a Phoenix rising from the ashes. Hahahahahah. Sorry. Had to get that tattoo reference in there somehow… 🤣

  7. lucy2 says:

    That’s nice of her to answer, and I think her comments were good.

  8. JoJo says:

    I find it interesting when people say she’s glad to be rid of him. I’m quite sure she’s dealt with the breakup at this point, yes, but glad to be rid of him? Not so sure about that. That’s just us transferring what we think she must feel or should feel onto her. I’m sure she’s glad to be rid of the pain, yes, but I sort of think Ben was “it” for her, and I suspect he will always retain a spot as “the love of her life.” I’m guessing she still finds it hard to see him happy with someone else. Mind you, I’m not saying she wishes they could be back together. I just don’t think she’ll necessarily ever be fully over him. But this is just me projecting, just like others project in the opposite way saying she’s glad to be rid of him.

  9. Amelie says:

    I’ve been a Jen fan since Alias. I don’t think she’s had the most interesting career and I think that show might end up being her peak along with 13 Going on 30. It feels like being a mom took precedence over her career and she took on projects that fit around her mom schedule.

    I remember when she started dating Ben in the mid 2000s because I was obsessed with Alias and I avidly followed her breakup with Michael Vartan (her costar on Alias) before she quickly moved on to Ben Affleck. I remember those early pap pics which involved dates to see the Red Sox and such. Jennifer adored and worshipped the ground Ben walked on, you could tell from the pictures. And as they went on to have kids you could tell from interviews she was absolutely besotted with Ben. We all saw how hard it was for her to move on and how long their separation/divorce dragged on. I think she will always consider him the love of her life but I am so glad she seems to have emotionally moved on and no longer pining for him. I really want her to end up with a regular Joe Schmo who just worships the ground she walks on. She deserves to be happy and not have to deal with a perpetual man child.

  10. Carolnr says:

    Jen is right …”Laughter will come & it is the best medicine. Karma is actually even better!!!
    This not only is true with personal relationships but professional ones, as well!!!

  11. Carolnr says:

    I actually think that Jen has strong women supporting her.

  12. Summer says:

    @Ang: Celebrities are pretty far removed from our own personal peasant realities. But if someone I didn’t know personally wrote that to me, I wouldn’t know exactly what to say. Jennifer was trying to help without dwelving. Jmo.