Last week, we learned that Demi Lovato dumped her fiance Max Ehrich, likely because he had a history of sending crazy thirst-tweets to other famous women. That was just the tip of the bonkers iceberg though – as soon as their split was confirmed and their engagement was officially broken, Max went full-tilt nutburger and accused the people in Demi’s life of abusing her and turning her against him. He’s been making all of these public accusations and Demi and her team have issued a flurry of statements to shut him down. This whole drama reads as “when a famous woman accidentally ends up dating her stalker.” It’s messy, but I’m happy that Demi got out before she actually married the guy. It sounds like she really is embarrassed about the whole debacle though:
Demi Lovato has learned the painful truth about her ex-fiancé Max Ehrich’s intentions for their whirlwind relationship. Just hours after PEOPLE exclusively confirmed that Lovato, 28, and Ehrich, 29, had made the ″tough decision″ to call off their engagement and go their ″separate ways,″ the singer appeared on her Instagram Story — notably without her engagement ring.
The pop star also seemingly threw subtle shade at her now-ex by zooming in on the words displayed on her T-shirt which read, ″Dogs over people.″
Multiple sources say that Lovato and The Young and the Restless alum — who got engaged in Malibu on July 22 just four months after they started dating — were having ″conflicts″ over the past few weeks. One insider close to Lovato says, “It was very hurtful to Demi when she realized that Max’s intentions weren’t genuine. The source adds, ″Breaking off the engagement was not an easy decision.”
When Ehrich’s previous tweets professing his love for Lovato’s former best friend Selena Gomez, 28, resurfaced on Twitter earlier this month, Lovato publicly supported him. She even slammed the posts as ″fake″ in her Sept. 13 Instagram Story. Soon after, the singer began to believe that Ehrich was really just ″trying to further his career by using her name behind her back,″ according to the insider.
With her loved ones’ support, Lovato broke off the engagement. The star has been open about her battles with mental health and addiction, but she is ″doing okay,″ the source says adding that ″[the breakup] is a good thing.″ Sadly an insider says, ″It was hard for Demi to admit she made a mistake when it came to Max.”
That insider sounds like a judgy B! Granted, I’ve never dated a stalker, but TONS of women end up dating guys who seem lovely, nice and normal and then we find out that they’re gigantic creeps. And yes, it’s sometimes hard for women to reconcile that and admit that we’ve made bad choices when it comes to men. But let’s sprinkle this conversation with “it’s up to men to not be f–king creeps” too. Demi’s not responsible for Max’s words and behavior.
Also: Demi releasing a song just days after the split is… something.
Music is always there for me… pic.twitter.com/I77rrfFj8r
— Demi Lovato (@ddlovato) September 30, 2020
Photos courtesy of social media.
I think pretty much everyone saw this coming. Demi should stay single for a bit and get comfortable with herself minus a boyfriend. She seems too vulnerable to make good relationship decisions right now
Off topic but yikes I do not like the lipstick in the bottom photo. They blend right into her face, its such a strange trend to be the EXACT color of your facial make up.
It’s such a bad pic of her. I think it every time I see it.
Funny, I had the opposite reaction! I’m usually not a big fan of her style at all, but my first thought was that her makeup looked so fresh and glowing here, maybe the best I’ve seen her. I just love the peachy lip look for some reason.
I don’t understand any of the makeup stylings of The Youths (I am in my 40’s, lol.) The eyeliner only from the inner corner to the middle of the lower lash line, the visible highlighter, the face-colored lips, the peach-toned foundation, the big eyebrow…none of it makes any sense. And so many young women are covering up their youthful skin with layers and layers of product. You kids get off my lawn!!
AMA1977 – I agree 100% with everything you said! 🙂
“ TONS of women end up dating guys who seem lovely, nice and normal and then we find out that they’re gigantic creeps.”
Why @Kaiser I would have no idea what you mean…*ahem*…anyway moving on….
I do find it funny how if he had just kept his mouth shut or released a generic “sad but supportive” statement we all would have written this whole relationship off as the heightened emotions we are all in right now. He’d be on his merry way. Now? His creepiness is absolutely on display for the world to see. Good luck with that “career” dude!
Yep. His behavior since the break-up has only proven that she’s making the right choice now.
Tons of women, what? Sure guys can be assholes. And so can women. Do we have to make crazy statements to villianize all men. Both these two seem hungry for media attention.
Of course both sexes can be assholes. Nobody is making crazy statements or villainizing all men. This is just a discussion about how low the bar is for men, how high it is for women, and the impact that dynamic can have on the kinds of men many women end up having in their lives at some point.
Men also benefit from a culture that rushes to make the woman ‘putting herself out there’ in any way (be it career advancement, dress, selfies, sexual history, talking about her health struggles, unrelated arguments had with others in the past, or whatever else) just as bad as whatever creepy or dangerous thing the man has done. Both people in this story seek attention for sure. The difference is that one of them is also acting like a creepy stalker, behaving like an abuser, and putting other people at risk while being thirsty.
TLDR
Lazy ass.
Of course she’s embarrassed. She put her trust and her faith in this guy, and he betrayed her in the worst way possible. She probably feels like what he does is a reflection on her, particularly her choices. But worse than that is just the fact that she’s probably feeling stupid because she was so vulnerable. And as much as you can tell yourself that it’s not your fault, that it’s ok, that to be vulnerable is to be human, you’re still going to feel like that and it’s going to hurt.
I’m sorry for her. I wish this person could have been the sort of partner she needed. I’m sad that she’s still struggling so much in her personal life like this. I think we all deserve a lot better than we get sometimes, and she’s no different. I wish her all the best, because it seems to me like she’s trying very hard to get better, to be better, but in that haste, is choosing some real stinkers. :/
Really nice and well said comment 🙂
So true. The mixed messages women get don’t make it easy to acknowledge bad choices made about men. We’re expected to downplay everything, but are also held responsible for everything men do at the same time. When a man is shitty/fucks up/ is a mess, the conversation becomes all about how the woman isn’t good enough, and about people’s old gripes with her. It can be so easy for girls/women to stay in unhealthy relationships to prove their worth. Glad Demi didn’t do that. We’ll be reminded of why she’s a flawed human being, but the fact that she made the right decision in this situation could be a sign of maturity, and her being in a better place.
I don’t think she should necessarily see this as her mistake. She was in a vulnerable position with someone who seems unstable and manipulative. I doubt she would have made the same “mistake“ if 2020 had been a normal year and they hadn’t been quarantined together. It falling apart once they were physically apart is incredibly telling. There’s a reason why manipulative people isolate their victims. It’s easier to gaslight them and keep control. It’s really not her fault. They try to present themselves as perfect for you in the beginning. The only red flag often being that they are a little too perfect. It’s a difficult flag to see. Quarantining with him would have made it nearly impossible because he was always right there to gaslight her.
This.
Those kind of manipulative person can smell vulnerability by far. But she needs time to heal and understand .
He is giving me Joe Goldberg from “You” vibes. I am glad she didn’t marry the guy, Stan twitter did something useful for once.
“He is giving me Joe Goldberg from “You” vibes” – OMG yes!! I couldn’t put my finger on it – but you’re right!!
Honestly, I’m glad she ended things with him because he had the audacity/nerve to use her name for popularity. She was really happy with him! We’re all glad she finally opened her eyes and saw his true colors. I don’t see why he’s being like this. He needs to move on! Demi really put her trust and faith in him until she found out who was the real Max Ehrich. Who does that to a beautiful woman like her? If he loved her, then he shouldn’t have left her. He wasn’t honest with her at all. That boy is a hypocrite! She needed him but he wasn’t there with her. He was her fiancé for cryin’ out loud. He was supposed to help her plan the wedding, that’s basically the whole point about being engaged. He broke her heart and I’m not happy about what he did. There’s no excuses! He can forget about her completely because she has and she’s very strong about this. If he wants her back, he’ll have to be a better person, change his image & personality. He needs to be committed to himself first before committin’ to others. Demi has been struggling a lot over the years and she didn’t deserve to be treated this way. We’re all here for her because we’re Lovatics and it’s our job to support her.
This guy is a total loser and I’m glad he is gone. I do think Demi needs to take more responsibility though. She is 28 years old and needs to do better. I feel like she always plays the victim. She is an incredibly wealthy woman who has access to the best therapists and doctors in the world yet continues to surround herself with horrible people. I hope she does some intensive therapy and gets to the bottom of her bad decisions.
Yes, people play the victim game to try to get sympathy, but it gets no one anywhere as far as personal growth and reflection.
Lunasf17, preach!! She needs to realize she was trading one addiction for another. Getting engaged after four months? She’s knows better than that. I am someone who works with VIPs, some of whom are public figures. The people around Demi should have PROTECTED HER from this guy. I mean full background checks on day one to uncover this Twitter sh*t right away, not months later. Her management and others are failing her, and she should fire them.
Not shocked but glad she was smart enough to call it off BEFORE they actually got married
Did yall see his fake crying video, lol
Yeah, he’s really playing the victim. And the way he keeps dragging Ariana Grande (another object of his so-called affection) into it after she already had to deal with misogynists going after her w/ Mac Miller and Pete is really slimy. All these women he seemed to adore know to stay the hell away from him now, that’s for sure.
Sending her strength. Been in a similar situation this year and it is the worst; trying to kill the love you had because your eyes were forced open by reality, that your love was merely a wolf in sheep clothing. Some people literally walk this earth wondering how to wield love as a weapon of destruction. How to manipulate you to their advantage with love. They literally prey on loving souls. It is scary to contemplate! Yet it is very real. Society is full of broken, manipulative psychos thanks to toxic masculinity and who knows what else. It wasnt Demis fault at all. How many women have been duped with love at 60? Love knows no age. Love only trusts. It is the breaker of the trust to be held accountable and i hope karma does. Indeed, “is it loving in your eyes all the way, karma chameleone?”