Why was the palace-reaction to Duchess Meghan’s op-ed so ‘sulky & strange’?

Meghan Markle visits the mothers2mothers (m2m) charity in Cape Town,

As I covered, Tom Sykes at the Daily Beast had some interesting insights into the Windsor family’s reaction to the Duchess of Sussex’s New York Times op-ed. Meghan revealed that she had a miscarriage in July, and the reaction from the various royal households was either “no comment” or “this is a deeply private matter.” Sykes pointed out that unlike every other Sussex headline, the palaces were not running around to slam and smear Meghan, so perhaps this is a “royal reset” in relations between the Sussexes and the Windsors. But as Sykes also pointed out, there were some royal commentators doing the most to go negative (although it’s unclear whether this was authorized by any palace):

It didn’t take long for some pundits to begin sharpening their knives against Meghan: Camilla Tominey, an influential royal commentator for the Daily Telegraph where she is also a senior executive, sent out a breathtakingly harsh take in her weekly newsletter in which she wrote of Meghan’s decision to reveal her miscarriage.

“The piece she has written for the New York Times will only serve to further support the Mail on Sunday’s defense that Meghan has repeatedly invaded her own privacy,” Tominey wrote. “In describing how she watched her ‘husband’s heart break as he tried to hold the shattered pieces of mine,’ she has disclosed one of the most intimate moments in her own marriage.”

Sadly, there will be many in the upper echelons of the British establishment who will peddle this line in the days to come. The clever ones will pretend to respect Meghan’s public statement on the one hand, while simultaneously undermining her or calling her stupid or shortsighted on the other. They are on a losing ticket, not least because Meghan is clearly an extremely smart person. For example, she shrewdly used her piece not to wallow in her own grief but as a springboard to discussing the wider crisis that America finds itself in this Thanksgiving weekend.

[From The Daily Beast]

Yeah, I don’t understand what Tominey is even trying to argue – Meghan’s privacy is hers to “invade.” Meghan can tell her own story, in her own words, at any time. That’s her choice. And if that was all the royal establishment had to criticize, it just shows how thoroughly they hate Meghan and Harry for *anything*. Meanwhile, there are some people in the media questioning why the official word from the palace wasn’t more generous to Meghan:

The Royal Family made a “huge mistake” by “abandoning” Harry and Meghan after the Duchess of Sussex disclosed her miscarriage earlier this week, a royal expert has claimed. The Royal Family botched an attempt to repair their relationship with Meghan Markle and Prince Harry, according to Russell Myers, the Royal Editor of the Daily Mirror. Mr Myers labelled the “cold” response from Buckingham Palace a “huge mistake” and a “missed opportunity”. He suggested the failure to stand by Meghan and praise her for the op-ed suggests “how big those cracks are in the relationship”.

Buckingham Palace’s only comment on the sad news was a short statement that said it was “a deeply personal matter we would not comment on”. This prompted criticism that the response “lacked empathy” and showed a “cold” side to the royals.

TalkRADIO host Kevin O’Sullivan described the response as “sulky” and “strange”. He said: “When the palace released their statement, they neglected to note that Meghan had decided not to make it a deeply personal matter. She decided to share it with the world. They were wrong on that.”

Mr Myers told talkRADIO this morning that “this is a huge, huge missed opportunity for the Royal Family” before accusing them of “abandoning” Meghan. He explained: “They should have backed her to the hilt on this. They should have made public statements on this saying this is a really brave and honest thing to do. It would have potentially mended some of the cracks in the relationship that we have been talking about for months and months now, that are obviously there and still very raw. I thought the response was very stuffy, to be honest. We understood that Meghan and Harry spoke to senior members of the Royal Family about the miscarriage. We don’t know who but you can determine it was Charles, William or maybe the Queen. This was a massive missed opportunity. The palace could have got out front and centre on this and it would have been more of a conversation. It wouldn’t just be Meghan out on her own.”

He added: “Harry and Meghan – the whole view of them being outsiders is only further entrenched when they don’t get supported like this, unfortunately. In certain quarters of the palace, there are people at odds with Harry and Meghan’s approach by saying they wanted privacy and then they are doing an op-ed in the New York Times. But I think it was a bit of a sad, missed opportunity and they haven’t covered themselves in glory. They should have said they stand shoulder to shoulder with her, and she is very brave. One must wonder how big those cracks are in the relationship where they can’t even do that.”

[From The Express]

I won’t defend the Windsors here, but I’ll say that it was nice that Meghan got the chance to tell the story on her terms, in her own way, and there wasn’t any pushback from the palace, and there weren’t courtiers running to the Mail to brag about how happy they were to shun her yet again. But yeah, this would have been the moment for Kensington Palace – William and Kate – to offer a more personal statement of support. Again, the fact that they can’t even pretend to care shows how mad W&K still are at the Sussexes’ popularity.

The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge visit the London Bridge Jobcentre

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  1. Maggi says:

    I adore that photo of Meghan, smiling and calm, chilling with that little kid. What a remarkable contrast to the facial braying banshee approach of her SIL.

  2. Snuffles says:

    The RRs will eternally be furious that they no longer have access, get to break the news, control the narrative or profit off of Harry and Meghan in all of the ways they used to and had taken for granted.

    That’s the main issue. The fact that it was an African AMERICAN commoner just supercharged their rage.

    • Myra says:

      I think that since it’s in the BRF’s best interest for Harry and Meghan to be viewed negatively, they are not going to and will never say anything positive about them in public.

      What’s surprising to me is the reaction of royal reporters/commenters. I have no idea why they are waiting with bated breath for a reconciliation when they gleefully participated in the smear campaign. Perhaps they should have had the foresight to see that the couple would decide to make a clean break from this toxic situation.

      • Snuffles says:

        Because the plan was to drive MEGHAN away, not Harry. They miscalculated and lost both of them. They still want to drive a wedge between them and drag Harry back. Harry is currently the cash cow of that family like Diana was. But Harry has cut them off.

      • Va Va Kaboom says:

        They’re playing a variation of the oldest media game in the book. You build someone up and then tear them down when the landscape has become too saturated with your current narrative.

        In this case they’ve torn the shit out of the Sussexes, but I get the feeling public interest in such stories is waning. They’re hoping with baited breath that there’ll be a reconciliation because that would most definitely spark interest again.

      • Myra says:

        That’s true. I keep forgetting that part. Grown-ass men and women begging Harry to abandon his wife and child and return to them. smh!

      • L4frimaire says:

        The royal reporters and royal family have no interest in reconciliation. What they want is capitulation, because they know the spotlight will return to the Sussexes. They want to keep wallowing in their toxic stew.

  3. ThatsNotOkay says:

    They couldn’t say anything nice, so they said nothing at all. That’s *progress*.

    Bring on the documentary The Crown!!

    • MsDiMeanOur says:

      perhaps they will later release a statement that they were KEEN to respond.. and take 10 years to put on a show..

  4. Chaine says:

    I agree strongly—imagine the warmth, the humanity with which Kate could have imbued herself by releasing a sympathetic statement just as one mom to another, much less as a sister-in-law sharing in grief…

    • The Duchess says:

      These Windsor’s don’t help themselves one bit. I wasn’t expecting any outreach of sympathy, nor did I want it after seeing what they put Meghan through. However, it just sums them up perfectly to see their shameless silence. They have zero humanity and it puzzles me how the UK still tolerate these idiots. Seeing them fall like this has been nothing but spectacular. They can carry on. Harry, Meghan & Archie are doing just fine!

    • MsDiMeanOur says:

      do you think that Keen has anything warm to imbue? AT ALL?


    • mytwocents says:

      What i don’t get is, when will they learn? How many missed opportunities must there be? There were similar comments about the Royals after the rejecting of the wreath. That they missed an opportunity, and yet, a few weeks later, there they go again

      • BnLurkN4eva says:

        It’s not a missed opportunity when you don’t wish to appear like decent morally upstanding human beings. It’s like people always ask, how can Trump supporters support such a cruel little minded man and the answer is, they are cruel little minded people themselves. The royals are cold through and through and they don’t really wish to change and frankly, who is making them. The British public accepts them just the way they are and that’s all that matters.

    • Nic919 says:

      It looks pretty awful for someone who claims her issue is helping new mothers and young kids to be so silent about her own sister in law. She’s never even said her name in public.

    • BnLurkN4eva says:

      Nothing this woman could ever do going forward would make me forget her behavior at the CW ceremony. They do as well to remain silent and continue to let their paid trolls run around doing their bidding, I can ignore them and so can H/M it seems.

  5. Harper says:

    Would the Queen Mother have publicly acknowledged Meghan’s miscarriage back in the 1940s? Heck no. So Queen Eliz won’t do it now. I truly think in matters of judgment, Eliz. just thinks of what her mother would have advised, does that, and moves onto the next thing.

  6. Eleonor says:

    I don’t know…their statement would have been so out of touch, to me is preferable they shut up. Yes the bar is really low.

    • Sofia says:

      Agreed. I rather they didn’t. Anything negative would have been seen as cold and heartless. Anything positive would have been seen as fake and “trying to win PR points”

      This is the one time where I genuinely appreciate and agree on the BRF’s silence

      • ItReallyIsYouNotMe says:

        I also think that making a statement or staying silent was a no-win situation for the palace. How many times have we criticized Kate and William for stepping over Megan and Harry’s new cycles or projects. I think there would’ve been backlash that that is what they were doing if they had tried to make a sympathetic Public statement so better to say nothing at all.

    • S808 says:

      Same, after everything they’ve done, I don’t look to them for any type of commentary on what she does. “Support” or not, I don’t want to hear it.

    • Mignionette says:

      But isn’t that the problem. They are horribly out of touch and not even in the ceremonial way that we expect.

      What exactly is their function anymore ? If anything the pandemic has heightened the need to ask that question. I don’t think gen Z will be too forgiving of Chuck or Bill if they mess up again and with politicians becoming increasingly younger, boomers dying Chuck must surely be the last King.

  7. Prof Trelawney says:

    I’ve thought for a while that it was Meghan’s getting pregnant w Archie maybe more than anything that enraged this family, one thing to date or mix with non-whites but not to have children w them. Their whole identity is based really on a dressed up white supremacy and “breeding” so whether it was conscious or not, I think that’s when the rage at Meghan and the efforts to bring Harry back into the “fold” really took off. So this news at some level, probably unconscious, might even be welcome for them. I think Harry and Meghan know it and see it for what it is, and I find their strength in leaving it all behind inspiring.

    • Amy Too says:

      Right. It’s only a missed opportunity if the palace actually WANTS to reconcile with Harry and Meghan or WANTS to look like they care about and support Harry and Meghan during this difficult time, or if they WANT to send a message that they’re sad about the miscarriage of a baby that would have been their very much wanted future (great) grand child or niece/nephew.

    • Christina says:

      Yes, Prof. It’s the miscegenation that has upset the royals and the part of the public that support the royal rota’s coverage. And everyone wants to think that they aren’t biased or racists.

      In the NYT’s comment section, “Katie” wrote, “comments here are very supportive of this, but I want to offer a counterpoint”, and she wrote that Meghan failed to mention that it was also International Miscarriage Day, or month, I don’t remember, and that she should have mentioned a d promoted it instead of herself. I replied, “Katie Nichol? Hello. Aren’t the courtiers supposed to advise the royals about such matters? It looks like they didn’t.” If this was important to the Royals, would this be on the list of things that they promote? Wouldn’t Megan have known if she or Kate had been sent out previously to support that cause? Of EVERYTHING the Duchess wrote, she picked up on her missing to mention a day/month that many of us, excepting maybe families who have suffered miscarriage, don’t know about.

      I don’t know if it was Katie Nichol, but the comment was low and extremely detailed. Someone who wrote that they were from the UK replied, “I did not know that. Thank you for sharing this”, or something like that, like “Aha! The flaw!”

    • Beach Dreams says:

      Exactly. I don’t see how anyone could deny it at this point. There was talk of how the RF was unpleasantly surprised at how quickly Meghan became pregnant and how they would’ve preferred that she and Harry waited. Clearly they assumed that she would have more difficulty conceiving and thus they would get more time to force her out without a permanent link to the family (aka Archie).

  8. Becks1 says:

    It was definitely a missed opportunity. They could have released a warmer statement that was supportive but not gushing. Say you support them, you wish them peace and healing, you respect the Duchess’s op-ed and how it started an international discussion on this very difficult issue.

    This was the wrong time for a “no comment” response and it makes the palaces look SUPER cold. Honestly KP is the one that looks pettiest to me, because it looks like they’re pissed they’re even being asked about this when Kate is being super keen on IG.

    • SomeChick says:

      She even said she was keen in the one clip I watched. I LOL’d!

    • windyriver says:

      It was definitely a missed opportunity to say something kind for UK women as a whole, since one of Meghan’s points was miscarriage is much more common than realized. I mean, the country has a Baby Loss Awareness week, which was in October, just a month previously. Instead, the cold response, or lack of any response by some of the palaces, seems instead to send a message it shouldn’t be talked about, which reinforces why many women may feel alone and ashamed.

      And, since Kate had in fact made a visit during that week in October to highlight work being done to reduce loss due to miscarriages, stillbirths, etc., it would have been reasonable (and looked good) for KP to have made a statement connecting the two – especially since the whole point of Kate’s visit was supposedly to “highlight” the work.

    • I was most disappointed in Princess Eugenie’s silence. It would seem she is still close to Harry as she is currently living in the Sussex’s UK home. Not a mention tho…..guess it was more important to take the family line of silence rather than support.

      • Chrissy (The Original) says:

        To be fair, it seems she and Harry seem close and she might have been told about the miscarriage by him personally and connected with them privately.

  9. lanne says:

    Meghan never stood a chance with these racist idiots. They should have told Harry he can’t marry her because they don’t want a black woman in the family, and then let him make his own choice. It was extremely cowardly of them to pretend to accept her, then do everything they could to force her to leave. Well, they got what they deserved when Harry left too. They don’t mind acting racist, but they do seem to mind being called racist. Their treatment of her and of Harry is so mean spirited. What do they hope to accomplish through this? The more they go on, the more they damage their image in the eyes of the world, and especially the eyes of their majority nonwhite commonwealth. They can claim “tradition blah blah blah” all day, but they seem to be confusing the idea of tradition with pure inertia. I’m starting to wonder if their courtiers are actively trying to sabotage their reputations. They couldn’t do a much better job of it if they tried.

    • Kalana says:

      It’s what Charles did with Diana. Pretend to accept her and then reject her.

    • Beach Dreams says:

      The problem is they knew it would be a disaster for the Firm’s image if they told Harry to find someone else (white obviously) or leave. They probably thought that they could make a show of welcoming her, turn her image into a Fergie-type fiasco with the smear campaign, and get her and Harry to divorce while still retaining the goodwill and attention gained from the wedding. They’d still be seen as progressive and they’d successfully cast Meghan as pushy, demanding, not willing to adapt to her role, etc..

      Unfortunately for them, their golden goose went with her and they know that neither Charles nor William spark anywhere near the same level of interest and engagement.

  10. Implicit says:

    Archie’s Early Years certainly aren’t a concern to these two balding wrinkled denture holders.

  11. ABritGuest says:

    To be fair when Zara shared about her miscarriage the palace said it was private. Of course firm could have briefed via ‘sources’ that they were sad for the Sussexes etc and could have posted via Heads together support for open discussion etc. But hey why show support now.

    the piece has been widely shared by charities to congress women to acclaimed writers. The palace would look bad if they centred themselves about being blindsided but certainly sounds like many of them didn’t know until last week. but I assume the Sussexes are still enemy number 1 so they don’t want to be too supportive especially when they will likely resume sniping soon.

    My guess is rota are upset they didn’t know of pregnancy. If royal news isn’t filtered through them they treat it as tainted hence this silly privacy argument. This is second time news has been broken through NYT-like the Netflix story. The rota might realise now that the Firm doesn’t have relevant access to the Sussexes anymore for leaks- are probably seething

    • Amelie says:

      But I think with Zara they had to announce it because the fact she was pregnant was made public. Otherwise the palace never would have commented? I can’t remember who announced it exactly but at some point the BRF reporters would have started to make noise about why Zara hadn’t given birth yet. Zara did have one more miscarriage before she had her second child but she kept that one private and never announced that pregnancy. We only found out about it after she had her second daughter.

    • Amy Too says:

      “It’s private” is so stupid anyways since the entire point of Meghan’s piece was to say that couples who suffer a miscarriage need love and support publicly as well as privately. And that it would be healthier for everyone involved if we were able to talk openly about baby loss and acknowledge it as something that happened, and that we’re sad about, and that we need support for right now.

      The whole larger theme of her essay was “Are you okay?” How we NEED to talk to each other, talk about the hard things, and listen and support each other. “Are you okay?” was literally a call back to how the BRF didn’t emotionally support her the first time she was pregnant!

  12. Sofia says:

    It’s a tough competition but in this case, Tominey definitely manages to make herself look like the worst out of all of them. And let me emphasise, I mean in this situation.

    • MsDiMeanOur says:

      Tominey makes it seem like the situation affects her personally

      How entitled must you be to someone else.. to try and over ride their grief? WTF.

      How does someone receive a salary for being vile & despicable?

      • Otaku fairy says:

        Exactly. That’s not an appropriate way to respond to someone else discussing grief or trauma. People get too stuck on whose “Team” they want everyone to know they’re on or not on and lose sight of that sometimes. It can be surprising how far people get in life without realizing that saying nothing is a better response in that situation. Same with the people whose immediate response was to trash Meghan’s writing skills and come up with theories on why this proves she’s some phoney or villain. Who does that?

    • Kalana says:

      Remember that Zoom interview and the face Camilla made when her housekeeper accidentally came into view? Camilla is an awful person.

    • Beach Dreams says:

      That woman is perpetually vile and seems to have no shame about how unhinged her articles are. It doesn’t surprise me that many of Meghan’s most vicious critics have been white women. There’s always a certain note of personal bitterness and hostility from white women towards black and biracial black women when they’re in spaces/situations that are “supposed” to be exclusively white. See Michelle Obama, FKA Twigs and her relationship with Robert Pattinson, etc.

  13. Oatmeal says:

    People need to stop with this “if they want privacy so bad why do the Sussex’ keep doing stuff that generates attentionn”

    Um first of all, their lawsuit against the mail was about HARASSMENT and invasive breach of privacy.

    M&H are public figures, certain aspects of their life will always be public

    But having a personal letter published without permission? Sending drones on private property to get photos of a minor child? That is invasive and harassment.

    • CC2 says:

      I want to punch the next person that says ‘I THOUGHT THEY WANTED PRIVACY’ in the forehead tbh.

      There’s no logic in that even if they said they wanted privacy. Posting pics of you in your underwear…ok. A guy trespassing to take and sell pictures of you in your underwear, not ok.

      The distinction is very, very clear which makes me think a lot of these accounts (bots) and journalists who parrot this statement are doing so because they are fed the words by someome…kp.

      • GuestWho says:

        The “I thought they wanted privacy” BS is all they have left as a weapon. They spent a year screeching about Frogmore – done, paid. Can’t use it any more. They didn’t want to support them through the sovereign grant. Done, can’t use it any more. Didn’t want to have to pay their security. Okay, you don’t any more. The BM can’t start acknowledging that the real reason H&M left the UK/royal duties was because they were being forced to use the royal rota which has no accountability or oversight and, along with the RF, created a smear campaign to silence the (more interesting and talented) spares to uplift the heirs. The privacy lie is all that is left as a weapon. It’s not even a good weapon – it’s like a nerf sword. Reasonable people know it wasn’t really a privacy issue, but the british press and/or the royal family cannot and will not ever admit it.

  14. tee says:

    Any significant comment of support would have seemed dishonest and exploitive imo. I’m glad she got the moment to tell her story without the RF perspective, particularly since they’ve been one of the primary sources of her anguish over the years.

    Tominey is pressed as always and should shut up. Meghan obviously wasn’t talking to her.

  15. Amy Bee says:

    Hmm…this reaction from Russell Myers is quite different from his response to a Huffington Post reporter who questioned the Royal Family’s reported support for Harry and Meghan when they refused to let a wreath be laid on Harry’s behalf on Remembrance Day. He was highly critical of the journalist’s statement. I wonder where these new comments are coming from but I must say it is in stark contrast to the usual reaction from the royal rota which is to criticise Meghan and Harry and to side with the Royal Family. May be he didn’t want to be seen as being mean in this case. Or could it be his anger at the Palace is because the Royal Family allegedly knew about Meghan’s miscarriage and didn’t leak it to the press?

    I agree that KP missed an opportunity to push this issue further, considering Kate is an advocate for mothers and babies.

    • Ruby_Woo says:

      Russell Myers is the worst! He isn’t as obviously hateful like Camilla Tominey, but is very negative and gaslights constantly.

      When the Sussexes confirmed that they were unhappy during the South Africa tour, he suggested in a podcast that it was because Harry had mental health issues from his time in the military. He didn’t outright say it, but said something along the lines of “he changed after that you know…”. Putting the fault all on Harry’s mental health and no mention about the abuse Meghan has received (same tactic they used on Diana.

      The only thing I can think of is that he is a guest on an ITV lunchtime show called Lorraine. They usually just bitch about H&M (Myers predicted that Harry would be back to the UK either with or without Meghan), but since Meghan’s Op-Ed, Lorraine herself has come out to talk about her own experiences (which I side-eye, considering she was happy to slag off Meghan when it suited her).

      ITV is also trying to make their line up more diverse & relevant; Eamon Holmes who called Meghan ‘uppity’ and that he ‘didn’t like the look of her’ has been replaced by a Black presenter (which he was NOT happy about).

      Maybe Myers has realised that his usual hate isn’t good career-wise and is taking a slight turn… who knows?

    • Beach Dreams says:

      Personally I think it’s definitely the second reason: anger and resentment that the RF didn’t leak the story to him. It’s the same type of reaction that Jobson and Palmer had a few weeks ago when William dropped his COVID-19 “news”. I’m still of the belief that the family didn’t know about Harry and Meghan’s loss until last week. They didn’t have time to leak and spin as they probably would’ve liked to. I know some people have that even the royals know better than to exploit Meghan’s miscarriage, but they’ve shown that they’re perfectly willing to attack her for any reason.

  16. Roo says:

    If the RF truly want to be loved, or at least more liked, they need to join this century and get rid of the old, white male courtiers who still behave as if it’s the 19th century. Expectations and communication have changed massively, and the courtiers constantly miss the mark. They are outdated and outmatched. Imagine younger (say in their 40s or 50s) female advisors from *gasp* a Commonwealth country dealing with the NYT editorial. Their reaction would have been warmer and more supportive. And that would make the RF more likeable.

    • booboocita says:

      One of the most believable aspects of “The Crown” is the parade of old white men like Lascelles and Adeane and Betty’s struggles with them. Peter Morgan also addressed the issue in the movie “The Queen,” in which old white courtiers (and a couple of token white women) sit at a conference table and plan Diana’s funeral, and Charles and his press secretary talk to Tony Blair about being “modern men.” Given the tremendous pain that men like Lascelles have inflicted on that family, you’d think they’d all be more than willing and eager to give them the old heave-ho.

  17. Mich says:

    I’m tired of people pretending they don’t understand the difference between “privacy” and “anonymity”.

  18. Cecilia says:

    I might be the only one but im actually so happy that they didn’t make any public display of support. After the past 2 years it would have come of as fake and the press would have only talked about how wonderful the family was to support them instead of meghan Op-Ed. Meghan’s grief isn’t the time dor their silly PR games

    • L4frimaire says:

      I kind of agree. They’re the last people they need to hear from, especially when we just saw how petty and nasty they were with the wreath on Remembrance Day. Their true thoughts on the matter are probably rather hateful. We saw some of the vile comments from their supporters.

    • Ann says:

      Good point. I don’t want them getting any credit they don’t deserve. And they really don’t deserve any.

  19. Mina_Esq says:

    I love that Meghan is championing women’s health issues, first by her work on de-stigmatizing menstruation in certain counties and now by openly talking about something that affects more women than people realize. Dismissing these issues as too private to discuss in public IS part of the problem.

  20. one of the Marys says:

    These people think Meghan is still ‘speaking’ to the British establishment. My God they are so self centred and delusional. Girl has moved on!

  21. Lizzie says:

    This is exactly the response from the rf after Diana died. She was out of the family as far as they were concerned and made no comment. It took Tony Blair to open the queens eyes to the public’s reaction. Public reaction to the awful treatment of Meghan and Harry hasn’t crested yet but when it does it could topple the monarchy. People will be fed up with years of unrelenting hatred and lies about two people who want to live their lives and do good in their own way.

    • MF1 says:

      I had the same reaction: this reminded me of their non-response after Diana’s death. The coldness, the lack of humanity and caring is very revealing.

  22. S808 says:

    Quite frankly, I want the palace to shut up about the Sussexes entirely so I’m fine with them saying it’s a private matter and nothing else. I’m glad kate and kp did nothing cause it would’ve looked opportunistic especially when she’s already gained so much from what Meghan’s been through.

    These RRs crying about privacy are just mad H&M have set boundaries and are no longer able to profit off of them. If RRs aren’t the avenue through which H&M address the public, if they don’t have private info to hang over their head to force a working relationship, they want H&M to shut up indefinitely.

  23. February-Pisces says:

    Camilla T is one of Kate’s and ma midds fav mouthpieces, so I can definitely see their fingerprints on this one. What a shame, I though kate cares so much about mothers and children.

    Also having your privacy invaded is like a stranger rummaging through your underwear draw. I however can rummage through my own underwear draw. There’s a difference between consent and not, the MOS letter breached copyright laws, and all the drone pics broke laws too. When someone has broken the law against you, you have every right to take legal action.

    This “I thought they wanted privacy’ line is wearing thin. They never actually said they wanted privacy, that was a line made up by the press. They are public figures and will continue to work in the public domain.

  24. Scal says:

    The palace comment was warm considering the source. They did the same thing to Zara. Heck when Sophie was in the hospital and nearly died from her etopic pregnancy they barely said a word.

    They are cold to everyone. Which is a cold comfort, but at least they didn’t give a snarky courtier leaks this time. A low bar

  25. Gail says:

    If thick headed and bitter with rage about the colored woman marrying into the British royal family had a face in the dictionary, Camilla Tominey would be it .
    Will and Kate can’t support Meghan and Harry because they aren’t old enough mentally to act like grown ups. They only play one on camera. It’s really sad and pathetic that William wants to be the voice for mental health and he can’t see how his brother and his wife loosing their child is the ultimate thing that could literally destroy you. Why does Kate even bother to pretend to support babies and mums when she can’t support Meghan in this time of need? These two really need to retire to the country full time because they are of no use to anyone other than themselves.

  26. Amelie says:

    I wonder if Kate knew about Meghan’s miscarriage in October when she did that event highlighting Baby Loss Awareness? If she didn’t, it shows how bad the relationship is between the Susssexes and Cambridges. If she did, it makes her look “supportive” or “performative” depending on how you look at it.

    • February-Pisces says:

      If kate knew in October and went to that engagement, I don’t think it makes her look supportive, it makes her look like she’s rubbing it in meghans face. I think behind the scenes the Keenbridges are fuming. Meghans op-ed connected with women and mothers in particular in a way that kate never has, that’s why she was pushing the struggle survey extra hard a day later.

    • Beach Dreams says:

      I doubt it. I think she just attended that event because it fit in with her nebulous focus on motherhood and children.

  27. NewKay says:

    ….because racist can’t racist when you are talking about loosing a child- not openly at least. They’ll find a way.

  28. Oh says:

    I’m sorry, but I think they’re happy about that. They don’t want another mixed baby from Meghan. They were angry because Archie was too early. They are sooo evil!!

    • HeatherC says:

      I think so too. I also think they were hoping this tragedy would break them up and Harry would go back to them and his predetermined narrow role they have set for him. So part of me thinks some of them did know and were holding their breath in anticipation.

  29. L4frimaire says:

    Between their lack of response at all to the miscarriage and the wreath debacle with Harry, the royals have clearly shown, along with the rest of their snipes and press whining, how shitty they really are. The fact that they are working and visible brings out the worst in the royals. They won’t ever show one bit of sympathy because in their head, they think Harry and Meghan must submit and go away, like really disappear, to show “reconciliation”.

  30. CidyKitty(CidySmiley) says:

    I mean… honestly what could they have said? I think its honestly better they were silent because they had nothing of value to add and this was and is Meg’s story in her own words.

    If they had issued a statement we would be picking that apart and saying that they were stepping on their toes, or trying to fake friendship or whatever. I honestly feel like nothing was the best in this situation.

    I know this is wishful thinking but one can only hope that they received at least some private words of praise for bravery or anything from their family.

  31. MLouise says:

    I think fundamentally, the BRF is so focused on ‘remaining’ at any costs, they have lost sight of what it requires to last: evolving with the society, though at a slower pace. In addition, some of them look ‘down’ on non royal, thus the affected look on their face when mingling or ‘performing’ at an ‘engagement’, and they seem completely baffled and judgy of those who connect and interact normally: Diana, Harry and Meghan ‘love’ people. It shows and they shine and work hard to get results for people- not themselves. And it is looked downed down at. Anne appears to be able to behave normally and so does Zara but they have less exposure.

    I find that sometimes the comments on here (re : noting the work to maintain the ‘magic’ of the BRF which I don’t see in this cold show of petty jealous emotionnally off behaviors) try to both defend H&M and the BRF and I find it is impossible because the latter is just unable to want or appreciate what the former have to offer.

  32. Wadsworth the Butler says:

    The Windsors have either known since July, and did nothing to push back on all the negative stories about the Sussexes since then, or weren’t told because they weren’t trusted by the Sussexes. There’s no good way for them to spin this. Even last week, the press was attacking Harry for not publicly supporting William’s asinine attack on the BBC. There was absolutely no pushback from any of the Royal households on that story, and only limited pushback from BP on wreathgate.

  33. mish-mash says:

    As someone who has had a miscarriage I too feel it’s private.
    At the time the only people who knew were my husband and my mother.
    All this time later I’m still not comfortable talking about it…

    • BnLurkN4eva says:

      That is your right to feel that way. Other women should be allowed to feel ok with sharing if it helps them. The problem is some of the people who don’t feel like sharing think they have to right to extend that emotion to others. Let people deal how they wish is my motto and if the topic being discussed allows those who wish to discuss it a safer space, all the better.

    • MissySnow says:

      I am sorry for your loss, but that does not negate the fact that another woman/couple may feel different and want to share their loss with others via social media. MM’s essay had a major impact on a lot of women/couples coming forward to share their own losses and some from decades ago! There was a major uptick in folks calling the various hotlines looking for emotional support in dealing with their miscarriages and wanting to reach out to others.

  34. Mignionette says:

    The problem with Camilla ‘too many Gins’ is that she studied Law but never went to law school, so seems to think Meghan’s op-ed was an invasion of privacy.

    There is a difference between talking about miscarriage as an act of outreach, as compared to being expected to share private moments of family disagreement with your father with the whole world.

    The whole point of privacy is that you get to choose as appropriate to your need, what you want with the world. So even Chrissy Teigen has the right to keep private the contents of her trash without harassment.

    Embarrassing that this clown writes for what used to be a respected broadsheet. Camilla is upset bc she secured the scoop on M&H’s relationship and the Telegraph gig as a result. She is actually a failed political journalist / commentator who thought she’d be able to make her career off Meghan by some fantasy collaboration Diana style.

  35. Ginger says:

    The fact that we haven’t heard a peep from Ms Early Years and Motherhood expert herself speaks volumes.

  36. Reality check says:

    Because NO ONE believes her!!!