Shia LaBeouf & Margaret Qualley have apparently been dating for months

Stars at the 70th Berlin Film Festival Opening Ceremony

FKA Twigs sued Shia LaBeouf for sexual battery, assault and emotional distress two Fridays ago. Shia has a history of aggression and abuse, although many people probably believed that once Shia got sober and clean, perhaps the violence and aggression would simply disappear. His relationship with Twigs came after he got clean though, and Twigs’ story is one of being groomed and manipulated by a toxic serial abuser. I hoped that Twigs’ lawsuit would be the final nail, you know? That Shia would finally be over, and we could stop pretending that he’s changed, or that sobriety made him a better person. Apparently, Margaret Qualley is seeing Shia. Qualley is Andie McDowell’s daughter, and Qualley… has a bad picker. Her last significant relationship was with Pete Davidson. And now she’s with Shia.

Shia LaBeouf was seen packing on the PDA with his new girlfriend Margaret Qualley in Los Angeles in the wake of FKA twigs’ lawsuit accusing him of sexual battery. The actor was picking Qualley up from the LAX airport when the public display of affection occurred. They were seen walking to his pickup truck where they started their make out session. At one point, Qualley was seen wrapping her leg around LaBeouf’s as they kissed.

The public display of affection comes just months after they both stripped naked to portray passionate lovers in a short choreographed film Love Me Like You Hate Me. The video, created to go with a song written by Qualley’s sister Rainey, was introduced by the singer on social media in October, along with a selection of screen-grabs from the 10-minute video.

[From The Daily Mail]

So Shia and Margaret met months ago, and they’ve probably been dating since they met. Did she see FKA Twigs’ statement? She’s 26 years old, in case anyone is wondering. I hope she’s ok.

Shia LaBeouf out for his morning run as ex-girlfriend FKA Twigs sues him for sexual assault

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  1. Lala11_7 says:

    He’s a serial woman abuser who was just slapped with a lawsuit for abuse last week and Margaret is out here caping for him….I mean…she is doing…THE MOST…

    Her Mama needs to pull HER to the side and have a SERIOUS talk with her….

    • FHMom says:

      I completely agree. Andie, please talk to your daughter.

    • shasha says:

      Uh, you don’t understand abusive relationships AT ALL and should never talk about them if you think it’s super easy to get out of a relationship with a cunning, manipulative, well-practiced abuser after 2 weeks based on someone else’s statement. And that if she’s unable to do so, she’s “caping.” It takes battered women an average of SEVEN tries to leave an abuser – and that’s talking about adults. If you think it’s super easy for a NINETEEN-YEAR OLD to get out of a relationship with a repeat abuser 10 years her senior, just don’t pipe in on the subject at all.

      I’m certain LaBoeuf choreographed this pap walk and PDA and told her exactly what to do, even down to the leg wrap. My abuser did similar.

      • theothercleo says:

        @sasha: THANK YOU. The comments on this post are a mess. I’m so sorry for what you went through.

      • FHMom says:

        I don’t think anyone is naive enough to believe her mom would have any influence over her relationship choices. She should, however, be aware of the situation and offer her a place to seek safety.

      • sunny says:

        Thank you for sharing your own experience! She is young and Shia has proven to be extremely manipulative. I really hope she manages to stay close to her loved ones so she has a support network if/when she needs to get away from him.

      • Lemons says:

        If Margaret is finding herself in the public eye in many of these questionable showmances, she should really be taking a long moment to consider the why behind it.

        Like…this man has herpes and purposefully infected a partner. Does Margaret want to be associated with that at this stage in her life/career? I, for one, hope that her mother gets involved somehow as well as her friends. Anything to get her away from Shia before he does actual irreversible damage.

      • shasha says:

        Lemons, he probably has already given her the herpes (because it sounds like he does that deliberately), made her believe she’s now damaged goods and nobody else will want her but him, and has firmly established the first part of the cycle of abuse described by Twigs.

        It’s not like she got together with him two weeks ago after the statement by Twigs. He’s already had months and months of opportunity to get her hooked in the same way. It’s not a matter of avoiding a relationship with an abuser, she’s already in it and been in it, and getting out now is a very different matter that is well known by professionals to be harrowing.

      • Lemons says:

        God, I would be horrified if he did that, but not surprised. Again, I hope someone steps in before that happens and before anything else happens because he is dangerous.

      • Christina says:

        Thank you, Sasha. And her mother sitting her down and giving her a good “talking to” will only entrench him and he will isolate her from her mother and others for that talk. And he will manipulate her into believing that she needs to be a grown up and deal with him alone. That’s how she will cut off her parents.

        At this point, all that can be done is for her to NOT be isolated so that she still sees healthy people. When she leaves, and she will like all of the others because so many people are watching, it will be a “last straw” event, and she will run to protection he can’t penetrate. Money CAN help you get out of an abusive relationship. But, as we know, everyone isn’t successful if he’s a sociopath. Drew Carey’s ex was murdered years after she stopped seeing her abuser because she ran into him at a party and he began stalking her again.

      • lucy2 says:

        I agree. My guess is he’s love bombing her, and has managed to convince her that all his past exes were “crazy” and that their relationship is different, she’s the one, she makes him a better person, blah blah blah. He’s a serial abuser and has done this over and over. It’s all good until it’s not.

        I do hope she has a good support system around her, and that she sees the truth before it turns ugly.

      • Lala11_7 says:

        @Sasha…The reason I said WHAT I said is based on LIFE…I am sorry you had an issue with what I said and about your experience …but I meant what I said…PERIOD! You have your opinion and I have mine…you don’t get to negate mines to justify yours.

        Happy Holidays

      • Anna says:

        She’s not 19

      • Lisa says:

        100% this! As someone who grew up with abuse, I have only now, at 44 begun to unpack the impact of that and the fact that every successive abusive relationship I endured was purely because of early abuse as a child. And let me also clarify that I am coming to that understanding after 14 years of a very beautiful, healthy and loving relationship! So yeah, its not easy to unpack this shit.

    • Veronica S. says:

      People are going to give you shit about this, but frankly…there is a middle ground here. I don’t know if it’s because I grew up in an abusive home or have both a sister and mother who have been in abusive relationships, but my feeling is that there is a certain level of pragmatism you have to take to engaging with people like this. Nobody deserves to be a victim, obviously. Nobody deserves to be abused, but abusers are not going to stop abusing. They don’t care about other people. That means we need to be vigilant to some extent in protecting ourselves and others when we can. To me it’s no different than locking your doors at night, not talking to strangers, or putting on your seat belt when you drive. There’s no promise doing those things will protect you, but it cuts down on the risk you take.

      It’s one thing if it’s never happened before or is the person has done work to cover up their history. This isn’t that case. Shia Lebouf’s treatment of women is well known and documented, and when you choose to ignore repeated red flags if not an outright history of abuse, you are responsible for the decision to take that risk. You are not responsible for the abuse, but that is an active choice to place yourself in the potential path of an abuser. I meet far too many women who have convinced themselves it can’t happen to them, that they’ll be the woman for whom it is different, that he won’t treat you the same way he did all of those other women – and that self deception is itself a form of victim blaming, or at least the internalization of that social concept, because it assumes all of those other victims did something wrong to incite the abuser’s wrath that you’ll somehow magically avoid. My sister tried to warn the woman who came after her, even showed her pictures of the hand he’d broken, and this woman literally made every excuse in the book for him. Six months later, she had a PFA on the guy.

      Don’t be fooled by the snake charming. Train yourself against the social programming that tells you to give these people the benefit of the doubt, especially if you’re female and raised on a steady diet of romance that tells you it’s your job to change a man. Learn what the warning signs are and respect them. If you’re a parent with children, teach them, regardless of gender, what those red flags are. FKA Twigs didn’t go public simply to get revenge; she went public as a warning to other potential victims he may go after. If Qualley ignores those signs and winds up another victim, she won’t be responsible for any abuse done to her, but she will have to live with the active choice she made to ignore those warnings – and there is nothing abusers love more than knowing that even after you leave, you’ll spend your life beating yourself up for the mistakes you made. Trust me, Twigs knows. She’s living it.

      • emma33 says:

        Thanks for this nuanced reply. I think FKA Twigs said in her statement that her 2nd worst nightmare was going public with this, but her 1st nightmare was it being repeated with other women. She also made some excellent points about her having all the financial resources to leave (inluding a house in London), but he had battered her self-confidence so much, she thought she couldn’t leave.

        I feel for Margaret, and if she has gone from Pete to Shia, there’s a pattern there. Abusers are 100% responsible for their abuse and should be held 100% accountable. But, if I don’t want to be abused, I think it’s also on me to educate myself about red flag behaviour, talk about this with younger women etc. etc. That doesn’t mean I deserve it if I am abused, but just that if I don’t want to be abused it’s on me to take some steps to protect myself (just like I’d take steps to avoid being eaten by a bear if I went hiking in Alaska!)

        I think it’s also on all of us as a society to make sure that information and awareness around abusers tactics is as widely known as possible.

    • AB says:

      Amen to that, Lala11_7.

  2. theothercleo says:

    I’m worried for her. That man is a textbook abuser. He probably told her the exact same thing he told the NYT: “yes I did it but it’s because I’m sick and you know I actually hurt myself the most so I’m really the one suffering here”. I also fear that it might be even harder for her to get out because it must be so hard to admit to yourself that the entire world knew about it and you stayed anyway.

  3. Bibliomommy96 says:

    We can’t blame everything on a bad picker, some people love the drama

    • Mindy_Dopple says:

      I’m still reeling from an article I read on Elle ‘The Journalist and The Pharma Bro’. Everyone please read it if you have the chance! I want to talk about it with someone!! LOL. I agree BiblioMommy, some women LOVE the drama – the love the idea of being the “one”, the “exception” to the bad behavior and the one who truly gets him. The woman – the journalist – in the story got on twitter and essentially spent the night defending her actions and her love, which is what she wanted. She wanted to feel like it was them against the world again. Prove her love to a man who is a psychopath. It’s so disturbing and fascinating.

      • Bibliomommy96 says:

        Thanx! I will read it!

      • Bre says:

        I read it last night. That last paragraph was just painful to read

      • MVJ75 says:

        I read that article!! That woman was drawn in by him over the course of reporting on him. She basically trashed her marriage and professional life for him. To add insult to injury, he dumped her and she’s still holding on. It was unreal.

      • Solace says:


        Come over to femaledatingstrategy on Reddit. It’s a wonderful women friendly group and they are discussing this. They are quite literally aghast and have a great read on this dynamic.

      • TQ says:

        Yes! Read ‘The Journalist and The Pharma Bro’ this morning. Whoa, it’s nuts. From the article, it sounds like he’s a manipulative, selfish douche like Shia.

      • KL says:

        –Afterward, Smythe tweeted a photo of her holding the album, tagging a female journalist whom Shkreli had harassed online and writing: “I don’t think he would hurt a woman, even a journalist. Behold: me and the #wutang album.”–

        hot damn the pick-me girls have a new patron saint

        (thank you for that read, that was……. wow)

      • WhoWhatWhy says:

        @Solace FemaleDatingStrategy is a disgustingly toxic place. That’s just a home for female incels.

      • Ariel says:

        Read it, and oh my. I feel bad- but also want to slap that woman.
        She reads like a Manson girl.

  4. Queen Meghan’s Hand says:

    I hate it when women use their position as girlfriend to rehabilitate an abuser’s image. How convenient we find out about this relationship?

    • shasha says:

      I can’t believe all of you are so certain she’s doing this of her own free will, I’m wondering if any of you have had experience with abusive relationships before? It seems crystal clear to me that LaBoeuf orchestrated this entire thing and told her exactly what to do. How are you all able to extend empathy and understanding when Twigs explained why she “didn’t just leave” and returned for abuse after abuse, but somehow can’t see how the same could apply to this 19 year old girl?

      • ThatsNotOkay says:

        This has Dominic West staged photo op written all over it.

      • Queen Meghan’s Hand says:

        Qualley is 26 years-old and until she comes out detailing her relationship with Labouf and states otherwise, I’m assuming she’s willfully participating in these photo-ops. His recovery PR story helps her right now.

      • osito says:

        I completely agree with you, Sasha. There’s something happening in the photos — maybe it’s because they’re so performative in general, or it’s because I see *me* in those photos with someone who was incredibly volatile and needy and impossible to get away from until he wanted to end things. But to say she’s choosing abuse when we know how abuse works is pretty callous to me.

      • Kristen says:

        Queen Meghan’s Hand: FKA Twigs is 32 years old, and it still took her some time to even realize that she was the victim of abuse, much less be able to extract herself from the situation. Qualley may be willingly participating, but that doesn’t mean that the participation isn’t the result of manipulation and abusive behavior.

  5. Lawcatb says:

    You in danger, girl.

  6. Amelie says:

    Does he sleep with every single lady he works with? We know he dated Megan Fox briefly while she was on a break with Brian Austin Green while they were working on Transformers together. He met FKA Twigs on the set of Honey boy, Sia presumably due to the Elastic Heart music video, Mia Goth (who he was married to??) through Nymphomaniac, and now Margaret Qualley through another music video.

    OH and I forgot he also dated Carey Mulligan, they starred in Wolf of Wall Street together. So he’ll basically sleep with whoever he stars in a movie/music video next.

    • Bibliomommy96 says:

      That’s probably how he grooms them, he’s on set, he’s an actor, I’m sure he is very charming when he needs to be, and funny, and understands their frustrations with their jobs, so they can vent to each other.
      So many work place affairs happen because of so much time spent with each other, and being able to vent to each other about the job and significant others.

  7. Ann says:

    Yikes. This woman is in danger. Shia is a dangerous man who should be removed from society because he is a danger to himself and others. He is like Chris Brown in a lot of ways, including the fact that he will likely never be held accountable.

  8. Andrew’s Nemesis says:

    And until he’s done gaslighting her, she’s never going to see it. This is truly heartbreaking.

    • Zapp Brannigan says:

      I would guess that serious lovebombing is happening to her right now. I am sure she is the only woman to ever understand him, the only one that can help heal him and the only one he has ever felt like this about before. I hope she has a good support system to catch her when this implodes and that the support system are smart enough to know that making him the enemy here will only drive her towards him further.

      • lucy2 says:

        I should have scrolled down, I just said the same above.

        I hope she’s OK.

      • Ariel says:

        When i was younger, oh man did i fall for that- you are the only woman who understands me- crap.
        Makes me so mad in retrospect.

  9. Insomniac says:

    Ugh. Between this and the heartwarming story of the reporter who left her husband for Martin freaking Shkreli, I think I’m done with the Internet today.

    • Mindy_Dopple says:

      THANK YOU!! Someone else has read this – please see my response to BiblioMommy – I’m horrified and fascinated by these women. Did you see Smythe spent much of her time on twitter reliving her us against the world fantasy? I could only read a few tweets before I got sick to my stomach.

  10. Keroppi says:

    Run! Run fast and run far!

  11. Julia K says:

    Eating disorder? Emotional issues related to this behavior? Attracted to destructive men? Just thinking how these could be related.

    • shasha says:

      Try: it’s easy for abusive and predatory men to target 19 year olds because they are essentially children and easy to manipulate. Can’t believe the level of judgment and bashing I’m seeing here towards this teen in a relationship with a MUCH older repeated batterer and sexual abuser.

  12. Sumodo1 says:

    She has a type. Qualley dated Pete Davidson. The “I’m the only” thirst is strong with this one.

    • Angel says:

      Pete davidson doesn’t beat his girlfriends.

      • Darla says:

        Yeah I don’t get comparing this guy to Davidson. Whatever Pete’s problems, he has zero accusations of abuse. I mean, I think that’s a really important differential.

      • Ariel says:

        Of course adding physical abuse is a different level. However the emotional manipulation, the only you understand, only you can save me, the intensity right away, the love bombing- all of that stuff is from the same playbook.
        It is so enticing, and addictive.
        And EXHAUSTING.

      • tcbc says:

        He did date Kaia Gerber when she was 18 and 1 second old (if you believe they actually started then, which I don’t.) So…

    • LillyfromLilooet says:

      I think the communality is the “wounded bird” thing these guys give off. I’m damaged goods, I’m outside norms, no one sees me, looking for my true angel…

      Said with my respects to Pete Davidson, whom no one ever has spoken of as an abuser, this commonality is important, because it creates a perfect storm. The person who falls for a wounded bird who does a heart breaking departure is hugely vulnerable to a next wounded bird who pledges Love Forever, Closeness, and Will Never Leave.

  13. osito says:

    I can’t equate dating Pete Davidson, who has never been accused of violence or sexual assault, with dating known abuser Shia LaBoeuf. At most, given what his exes have said about him, Davidson has had a hard time staying committed to and focused on the relationship for the long haul. Which isn’t great — I’m definitely not saying that it is. But his behavior is also leagues away from someone who allegedly love bombs, hits, kicks, chokes, emotionally manipulates, intentionally gives STDs to, and then discards their partners. It seems like a harsh parallel to make to me.

    • Esmom says:

      Agreed. Admittedly I have a soft spot for Pete, but yeah it’s extremely harsh to put him in the same category as Shia.

      • osito says:

        Davidson seems really upfront about who he is, and while his collection of issues might put a serious strain on a relationship and be overwhelming to his partners in their own right, it’s just not the same as DV. I know a few folks with BPD, and they fight really hard to try to be good people ever day — if Pete is anything like the people I know, then I’m rooting for him, too.

      • Amber says:

        Pete may be a mess in a lot of ways but he’s very self aware and there’s never been any talk about domestic violence or abuse. He’s a decent guy with mental health and commitment issues. Shia is an abuser. I have sympathy for Pete as well.

      • Lemons says:

        I wouldn’t put him in the same category. He may be “troubled” which is definitely something that can attract someone who wants to be the person to “fix” them. I wonder if Margaret just feels like she’s the antidote and wants to be the woman to change them for the better.

    • Jaded says:

      Exactly. Pete has BPD, he openly admits it, and one of the symptoms of it is a pattern of idealizing, then devaluing your partner, eventually leading to discarding them. Borderlines are never violent or abusive, if anything they are emotionally childlike – needy and dependent one minute, running away without thinking the next. Shia has an almost sociopathic disregard for women and deliberately manipulates them.

      • Jensies says:

        @Jaded, that’s not quite true, folks with BPD can definitely be violent, even experiencing psychosis. It’s very dependent on the person. But agreed that Shia seems to be quite a different breed from Pete.

      • lemonylips says:

        I went through a relationship with BPD and it was just like you describe it @Jaded. That said @Jenesis I’m open to your knowledge. Going back to Jaded’s post – it’s also freaking hard being in that -partners get sucked in and have a hard time moving on. But I support both sides. I also know that a lot of BPD sufferers (sorry, can’t find a better word) have a hard time not admitting, but going forward, as they are aware but the pattern prevails. It takes a lot of time to understand this condition and work on it in order to move forward. Whoever has found themselves in that should not be associated with Shia.

      • emma33 says:

        I have been through the idealising then devaluing states of a relationship with someone with BPD, and, in my experience, although it may not be physical abuse, itwas most definitely is emotional (and verbal) abuse. To “devalue” someone, what does that mean? It means you treat them with contempt, dismiss and twist what they say, undermine their sense of confidence and self. It is awful and caused me some on-going health issues.

        I don’t put Pete in the same category as Shia, BUT…given they both seem to use the same love-bombing strategy at the beginning of a relationship, they have some similarities.

  14. Midge says:

    It’s safe to say Andie has failed as a parent.

    • Bibliomommy96 says:

      Aw, that’s not fair, I won’t take credit for my kids’ accomplishments, because they did the hard work, and I definitely won’t take credit when they fall, lol

    • Zapp Brannigan says:

      I think that is unfair, Qualley is 26, an adult for a good few years now and all you can hope for as a parent is that you modeled good judgement and guidance for the years they are in your home, let them know that they have a safe place to come home to, but at some point that kid you raised is an adult that makes their own choices/mistakes in the wider world.

    • Mindy_Dopple says:

      Way harsh Ty. All Andie can do is make sure her daughter knows she has a safe place she retreat to when/if anything turns for the worst.

    • Heylee says:

      Andie has not failed as a parent and Margaret/FKA Twigs have not failed as humans. Every day women and men enter relationships with people that later turn out to be emotionally or physically abusive. These people are not failures either. They are human. They are deserving of compassion as the amount of pain they experience in these relationships can stick with you for life.

      • Otaku fairy says:

        @Heylee: + 1000. This is sad to see, but your post is so kind and so true, and something to keep in mind.

      • shasha says:

        Thank you, and I wonder about Carey Mulligan’s thoughts on this. Have you seen the trailer for Promising Young Woman? That rage and pain and suppressed humiliation is so recognizable, and I just thought Cary Mulligan was an amazing actress who did some really good research. Now that I’ve learned she was also with LaBoeuf, I wonder.

      • lucy2 says:

        Well said Heylee.

        I would think Andie is rather upset and concerned right now, given what has come out about Shia recently, and I don’t think it’s fair at all to blame her for her 26 yo daughter getting swept up by a serial abuser.

      • Blerg says:

        Thank you, Haylee. Well put.

    • megs283 says:

      Wow, that is not safe to say at all.

      • Winechampion says:

        I’m not sure why commenters keep bringing up her mom, as though she has anything more to do with this situation than the mom of any other person in a sketchy relationship. I’m guessing it’s just because…she’s a famous mom? Which is neither here nor there.

        Notice no one brings up her dad at all. 🤨

    • court says:

      How about Shia’s parents?

      • Jaded says:

        Apparently his father was a pretty awful person. He was an alcoholic, drug addict, in and out of prison, abusive. His mother divorced him when Shia was about 5. Shia’s new movie, Honey Boy, is supposed to be about his childhood and how he’s suffering from PTSD as a result. Unfortunately the apple didn’t fall far from the tree.

    • Jaded says:

      No, her mother is not to blame. Margaret is 26, an adult, and as such it’s her own mistake to get involved with a known abuser. I’m sure her mother has cautioned her against pursuing a relationship with him but that’s all she can do.

    • Anne Call says:

      It’s alway the mother. Maybe her dad really failed her.

    • Midge says:

      I stand by it. Andie failed in the same way that Cindy Crawford and Randy Gerber, Lisa Rinna and Harry Hamlin, and Lionel Richie and his wife have. There are all of these second generation Hollywood kids who chase fame. I’m not talking about Margaret being in an abusive relationship. No parent can prevent that. I’m talking about Margaret’s picker – her public displays – it’s all for fame.

      • Jaded says:

        Margaret is 26, not 16. If she wants to chase fame so be it. She’ll learn some hard lessons as she matures and maybe she’ll come out of it in one piece, maybe not. It’s her decision and I don’t think her mother is to blame.

    • AB says:

      That was my first thought also, Midge. “What went on in Andie McDowell’s home that her daughter ended up dating both Pete Davidson and Shia LaBeouf?”

      However, on mature reflection, her daughter’s choices do not reflect on her parenting.

      As others have pointed out, why do you not also comment on Margaret’s father’s parenting?

      Added to that, Margaret is no doubt now ensnarled in an abusive relationship, so we must have compassion for her.

  15. KJ says:

    Anyone who watched that music video they did for her sister a few months back had zero question they were together. Horrible.

  16. Angel says:

    The guy has an STD and he knowingly gave it to his ex girlfriend and now she has to live with for the rest of her life. The fact that she’s even entertaining him when he admitted abusing his ex. SMH to all of it.

  17. Amber says:

    Shia is totally love-bombing her right now. That’s the pattern of the abuser. At some point the tables will turn and he’ll hurt Margaret too. She’s probably seen what FKA Twigs wrote and she’s probably worried about it, so Shia is currently on his best behavior and may even resort to grand gestures to give her a feeling of security and so that he can gaslight her later on when he starts to abuse and control her. I can’t be that mad at Margaret right now. Shia’s the one who abused twigs, we should direct our anger at him. Not at his probable next victim.

    • BnLurkN4eva says:

      It’s possible he hasn’t and won’t even abuse her. What I have learned about abusive people is that they don’t abuse everyone and some abusers have exes who they never abused, which is why someone is always available to cape for them and proclaimed it didn’t happen to me
      and be righteous about letting the world knows he was the greatest. This stuff is complicated and as a society we need to approach it by 1. not judging the victims/would be victims and b. learning as much as possible before commenting since sometimes our comments can cause further harm to those who are still healing from abuse.

      • osito says:

        Thanks for that compassion check, bnlurkn. You’re absolutely correct, both about abusers not being abusive to all they come across and about having empathy for their victims/potential victims. I’ve tried to keep in mind that I’m not in that relationship and so know nothing about it, even though I have my suspicions, but I’m still highly concerned for Margaret Q. And I firmly believe that LaBoeuf should *not* be in relationships/casually date others unless and until he gets *serious, sustained, longterm* hell for his mental health, domestic violence, and substance abuse issues.

      • Fleur says:

        Yes. Look at Johnny and Vanessa Paradis vs. Johnny and Amber Heard, plus maybe Kate Moss (all I know is the story of the destroyed hotel room in his Kate Moss years).

  18. Valiantly Varnished says:

    Yeah this girl DEFINITELY has a bad picker. And just based on her track record I wonder if she’s one of those women who likes to think she can “fix” broken men. And to that I say, “YIKES”.

    • Veronica S. says:

      Yep. That’s all I think about when I see men/women dating abusers with known histories – “you think you’re going to be the one that’s different.” It breaks my heart because there’s something fundamentally optimistic and compassionate about that notion, and love can absolutely be a form of healing, but an abuser won’t be the one. They don’t want to be fixed. They want to project all of their self-hatred onto others.

      And they’ll do everything in their power to kill the part of you that has compassion for anything – but most especially yourself.

      • shasha says:

        I also hope people don’t forget that many of the men and women who get into a relationship with someone thinking “my love could save/change them” have spent a lifetime being molded into that role by an abusive parent. That not only CAN your love save/change your abusive parent, but if you don’t try to do so, your parent will abuse your siblings or your other parent, or they will harm themselves, return to alcoholism or drug abuse, or what have you. Many abusive parents even explicitly tell their children this.

        It breaks my heart to see some people talking about that “saving the abuser” mindset as “ego” or some vain belief that they’re “special.” It’s a mindset that often comes out of desperation and trauma, and gets inculcated into many people before they’re even old enough to talk. Your parent has a meltdown in front of you and if you give them hugs and kisses they seem to feel better – even if you’re too young to speak you take a lesson from it. It takes some people a lifetime of therapy to undo that.

      • Meg says:

        @shasha well put. Relatable for me too

    • AB says:

      It’s sadly terribly commonplace.

      Like Ana de Armas with Ben Affleck. He’s so “happy” with her and no longer feels the need to drink. Read between the lines: his wife drove him to drink/didn’t make him happy enough to stop drinking.

      To an abuser/manipulator/predator/groomer, the shiny new toy is always “The One”. The one who will fix him and finally make him happy.

      Until they turn out to be human and not, in fact, a unicorn.

  19. Liz version 700 says:

    This makes me so sad and scared for her. He is basically a sociopath. Swear to God we would be better off if we taught classes in High School about how to recognize predators.

    • Andrea says:

      Agreed! I dated a sociopath briefly (7 months) who was a professor. I met him in my mid 20’s and moved countries to get away from him. I later found out he tried to date all his 18 year old students and gaslit everyone. He basically had 3-4 girls on the go at all times. He is short in stature (5’5″) and pretends he is younger than he actually is. He became highly abusive when I tried to break up with him and stalked me for a few years(violating restraining orders even with an ankle monitor on). I found out he is in california now teaching again (please note professors do not have to do criminal background checks to teach at most community colleges). We women need to be taught about this before dating.

    • Meg says:

      Could nor agree mkre. I think many fear it will be looped into sex ed training and they dont want to ‘encourage’ kids into that so they dont discuss it

  20. Normades says:

    He’ll date Kaia Gerber next…

  21. GreensRGood says:

    He’s gross and quite disturbed. I hope Margaret is okay. I though she was around 19.

  22. Minorbird says:

    I hope her mom is there for her…this guy is dangerous as hell.

    the gas lighting is on now but later, he is going to flip.
    poor girl will be hooked and thinking she is “in love:

    he’s trash to me and he has NEVER been some great actor. never

  23. Nikki* says:

    Oh no.

  24. Juxtapoze says:

    Run like the F’ing wind, girl!!! This toxic POS is a serial abuser and shouldn’t be trusted by any woman.

  25. NYStateofMind says:

    He seems to make these crazy, intense, all sex movies and dates whoever he is in the movie with.