Two Fridays ago, Saweetie announced that she and Quavo were done. They reminded me a lot of the early version of Cardi B and Offset – young, attractive, popular, well-connected, musical and, as it turns out, toxic. Saweetie is 27 (Cardi is 28) and Quavo is 29. My take on the breakup wasn’t that it was particularly nasty – Saweetie tweeted this:
I’m single. I’ve endured too much betrayal and hurt behind the scenes for a false narrative to be circulating that degrades my character. Presents don’t band aid scars and the love isn’t real when the intimacy is given to other women.
— 220 (@Saweetie) March 19, 2021
I emotionally checked out a long time ago and have walked away with a deep sense of peace and freedom. Excited for this new chapter of elevation 🙏🏽
— 220 (@Saweetie) March 19, 2021
So it’s clear: he cheated and she endured “hurt” behind the scenes. She knew when to fold ‘em and she walked away. When Quavo got bitchy about her tweets, she responded this way:
Take care https://t.co/cNiQqDFtzR
— 220 (@Saweetie) March 19, 2021
Since then, she hasn’t looked back. Zero backsliding, just promoting her own work, her Cosmo cover, her new music, portraying herself as “over it” and fun and single. Completely classy and mature. I loved everything about it. Well, I thought the whole breakup thing was just about Quavo cheating. But it’s a hell of a lot darker than that. TMZ got their hands on a video of Quavo and Saweetie before their breakup – according to TMZ, it’s security footage from an elevator in an apartment building where Saweetie used to rent a place. TMZ says this happened last year.
As the elevator door opens, you can see Saweetie and Quavo already physically fighting and it looks like he’s trying to take away that orange case. The fight spills into the elevator and he shoves her. She ends up crumpled on the ground. While there’s no audio, I recognize the way she’s swaying on the floor of the elevator. She’s crying, if not sobbing. Quavo seems to push the elevator buttons back to the floor they were on before, and he waits until she stands up and comes out of the elevator. My read on this: they were already fighting and arguing about something serious before the video begins. He assaults her and leaves her on the floor, sobbing, and then orders her to come back to the apartment or whatever. It’s really disturbing. I’m so glad she was able to walk away from him.
Photos courtesy of Avalon Red.
That is similar to the way my abusive ex would act. He’d be violent (verbally or physically) then act totally calm and say it was all my fault for making him do it. And if I was hurt, he wouldn’t lift a finger to help me. He’d just watch or ignore me as I tried to put myself back together.
Same. It was 14 years ago and still not processed it. Doesn’t help that it was BW-BW/lesbian which no one takes seriously at all. I’ve just remained silent on it and removed myself completely from all related environments including from work-related because she threatened me for the one person I even alluded to anything being wrong.
No one should ever be treated like this. Glad she is safe and away from him!
As a survivor of domestic violence, I recognize the defeat in her demeanor, the crying. The fact that folks are defending him and playing off everything is only another layer of recognition.
So so glad she left. For her physical, emotional, and psychological well-being, she needed to.
Good for her that she dumped him and hasn’t looked back since. He is abusive trash and his type never changes.
This guy was accused of rape last summer. Why am I not suprised he was also violent to his girlfriend.
You’re thinking of his nephew and Migos group mate, Takeoff. But yes, they both are trash. My heart goes out to Saweetie and I’m glad she’s out of this horrible situation 🙏🏽
My bad!! What a nice group of piece of sh*t
Literally!!! Trash!
As someone who has suffered dv…trigger warn the video please.
I hate this and I hate this for her. Yesterday twitter was flooded with people blaming her for her own abuse. Just like Rihanna, just lIke Meg thee Stallion. Why are we caping for these awful abusive men? Migos’ or any other music for anywhere isn’t good enough to make me unsee what I saw.
Disgusting.
I hate how black women are always blamed for being attacked. It’s disgusting. Cases of abuse particularly around black women only reinforce the belief that we all must protect black women at all costs. I believe Saweetie. I believed Meg. And I supported Rihanna for those reasons.
why do people cape for Depp & Pitt, for #notallmens? why do people cape for racists? it’s because it hits too close to home and if they acknowledge that this situation is abusive then they have to reexamine their own ish
Sickened by all the excuses men are making on social media for his behavior. Even some women! It’s disgusting.
Internalized misogyny and misogynoir is real. So many women have been conditioned to accept toxic behavior as normal. You are supposed to protect black men at all costs but are not owed the same courtesy and respect.
A radio station I listen to while working mentioned this story, detailed the abuse in the video, seemed to side w saweetie then went on to play a medley of migos songs. It was the weirdest most disturbing intro for a bands music. Basically “listen to this abusers music and forget everything I said seconds ago” it was strange
that’s thoroughly gross
The defeat in her posture as she gets off the elevator is heartbreaking
So much this. Truly heartbreaking. You just want to hug her and walk her away from him.
The way he saw her sobbing on the floor and didn’t even move to see if she was ok is so chilling. Showed it wasn’t the first time he saw her sobbing and defeated like that.
I’m not surprised men are supporting him, they never hold themselves accountable. it’s disgusting
He also looked directly at the camera while she was on the floor and noticed it, but didn’t gaf
I don’t understand how you can see someone you care about like that an just not give a damn
This is awful. The things women have dealt with is just boggling. I hope she’s ok. She’s going to be much better without this horrid man.
I can’t help but feel TMZ released this because he’s black and not old white man buddies w Murdoch.
I can’t help but feel Saweetie will get less support because she’s a black woman.
It’s not okay
I don’t know WTF was in that Call of Duty case that they were fighting over. SMH. They both fell to the ground scrapping over it, because he was so forceful grabbing her sweater/arm and pulling her down. Then, he looks up at the camera and he checks himself, and I’m glad he realized he was being recorded, because I’m afraid it could have been even worse for her and he would gotten even more physical. Glad she’s out of that relationship. Throw the entire Migos group away. They are all trash. Offset the compulsive gaslighting cheater, Takeoff the rapist and Quavo the abusive cheater.
The force with which he throws her is completely unacceptable, but to be honest, it makes me equally uncomfortable that she clearly swings for his face right before that. I don’t know if that was a defensive move or the first strike, since we’re clearly seeing the conflict as it escalates and not from the start, but whatever was going on was toxic and ugly. It’s very much for the best that they’re separated now.
It’s sickening that people are defending and excusing his behavior. I’m glad she got away from him.
I don’t see her as swinging on him to hurt, I see her protecting herself. THAT’S why he threw her INTO the elevator as opposed to keeping his distance she is clearly trying to get away. Been there.
What a disgusting piece of trash he is. I was once in a relationship like that and he pushed me so hard I fell with a glass bottle in my hand, in front of his friends. None of them helped me up or asked if I was okay. Good for her for getting away from that situation.