Diet culture is a real thing and it sucks. It sucks when men and women engage in Diet Culture and it sucks when companies and corporations actively engage in Diet Culture too. Case in point: most frozen yogurt is already low-fat, low-calorie. Walking into a yogurt shop which labels everything “diet” is a shop engaging in Diet Culture. So it was for Demi Lovato, who has suffered from eating disorders in the past and still has some disordered eating habits. She went to a yogurt shop and she was disgusted by how many signs were proclaiming such-and-such snacks were “diet” and “guilt-free.”
Demi Lovato is speaking out about her negative experience with a Los Angeles-based frozen yogurt store. Over the weekend, the “I Love Me” singer, 28, wrote on her Instagram Story that she was “finding it extremely hard to order froyo from” The Bigg Chill due to all the “diet foods” they offer.
“You have to walk past tons of sugar free cookies/other diet foods before you get to the counter. Do better please,” wrote Lovato — who has long been open about her struggles with an eating disorder and body image. Alongside the message she also included the hashtag “diet culture vultures.”
The shop went on to respond to Lovato on their official Instagram account writing, “We carry items for Diabetics, Celiac disease, Vegan and of course have many indulgent items as well.”
Over on her own Instagram Story, Lovato went on to post screenshots that appeared to show a private message exchange between her and the shop. “We are not diet vultures. We cater to all of our customers needs for the past 36 years. We are sorry you found this offensive,” the frozen yogurt store appeared to write in the message. In response, Lovato wrote that she found her “whole experience” with the store “triggering and awful.”
“You can carry things for other people while also caring for another percentage of your customers who struggle DAILY just to even step foot in your store,” she wrote. “You can find a way to provide an inviting environment for all people with different needs. Including eating disorders. Don’t make excuses, just do better,” she added.
Real Housewives of New York City star Leah McSweeney went on to address Lovato’s comments in a series of Instagram Stories, noting that sugar-free options can be important for a variety of people, including diabetics. Later that day, Lovato posted another response with some suggestions on how to make the store feel more inclusive. “I was thinking, maybe it would help if you made it more clear that the sugar free options and vegan options are for [health needs]. Labeling the snacks for celiac or diabetes or vegans,” she wrote.
Yeah, things are labeled “diet” when they should be labeled “vegan” or “diabetic/sugar-free” or “gluten-free/celiac-friendly.” I trust that Demi was genuinely triggered stepping into that shop because there are so many trendy little restaurants where the terminology makes no sense, or they just label everything “diet.” That being said, Demi really went over-the-top in her targeting of one independently-owned yogurt shop, and she actively used her celebrity and her social media platform to harass this shop because they… offer food for diabetics, vegans and people who are gluten-free. Several things can exist all at once: it’s a good conversation to have, and Demi way overreacted. She knows that too. She offered this apology last night:
“I am very outspoken about the things that I believe in. I understand that sometimes my messaging can lose it’s meaning when I get emotional,” she says. “I am somebody who is just very passionate about what I believe in and I’ve lived through enough to know when to speak up for people who don’t have a voice.”
Demi mentioned that going into the yogurt shop was hard for her, as someone who is recovering from an eating disorder, and that the signs and labels of different products weren’t clear to her as to what they were for. If you missed it, the yogurt shop has said that they “carry items for Diabetics, Celiac disease, Vegan and of course have many indulgent items as well.”
“Because it wasn’t clear, I definitely jumped to conclusions and probably shouldn’t have gone about this the way that I have,” she said. “I’m willing to talk to this froyo shop to help get this messaging right… I’m human and I talk about my struggles. I’m passionate, so I’m sorry that I got the messaging wrong. I’m sorry that I may have disappointed some people.”
“I’m not coming after a small business as someone with a lot of followers. That’s not what I’m doing here. I walked into a situation that didn’t sit right with me, my intuition said speak up about this, so I did,” Demi continued. “And I feel good about that. What I don’t feel good about, is some of the way that it’s been interpreted and how the message has gotten misconstrued over all of it. I will do whatever I can to work with this froyo shop if they want to, to help align the messaging.”
“I’m genuinely sorry that people took it the wrong way. I just get really passionate,” she concluded.
This really made me want some fancy yogurt. Mmm. I think I’m going to get some French vanilla with chocolate chips.
Demi Lovato calls out a Los Angeles frozen yogurt shop for its “harmful messaging” regarding their sugar free cookies and other diet foods. pic.twitter.com/6teLtOaITH
— Pop Crave (@PopCrave) April 18, 2021
Photos courtesy of Demi’s Instagram.
She mentions “I’m passionate” 3 times in her non-apology. Replace passionate with privileged.
Exactly this! I’m sympathetic to her past & current struggles but this is one of the most self-absorbed things I’ve read about in a long time. Not everything needs to be catered to what does or doesn’t trigger her. It’s not all about you Demi! 🙄
This. I do believe that this is triggering for her. But is this shop responsible for managing her triggers?
And frankly I don’t like a celeb activating their MILLIONS of followers by tagging the location and possibly putting the safety of the employees at risk.
The items were labeled sugar-free, not guilt free, and Demi fails to realize that some people have health conditions that need this kind of labeling.
I have a friend who is T1 diabetic, and I’ve seen her struggle to find treats that work within her health needs. Sugar-free is a nutrition label sharing information. It’s not a pressure tactic.
Demi overdosed in 2019 and had 3 strokes and a heart attack. “I was left with brain damage, and I still deal with the effects of that today,” she said. “I don’t drive a car because I have blind spots in my vision. For a long time, I had a really hard time reading. It was a big deal when I was able to read a book, which was like two months later, because my vision was so blurry.” I’m going to put this angry explosion at the yogurt shop down to brain damage. If you’ve ever known someone with TBI, this is not out of character. This is sad, really.
Amen, Mrs. Peel. Amen!
@smcollins I am really starting to dislike Demi Lovato’s self-absorption. It really never occurred to her that the shop catered to other people’s needs? Does she know anyone with a true gluten sensitivity because my goddaughter has one and let me tell you that it’s very hard to find any sweets for her to eat at most stores. Just stop to think or reach out to the shop with your feedback directly BEFORE unleashing your millions of followers something (on a small,independent business no less). Why is the first step always publicity these day?
Yeah, I like her but that was wrong, especially while people with less money than her are trying to support themselves during a pandemic. There’s definitely some punching down there, considering her privilege and platform. I do think body positivity can go a little too far when all dieting is treated like an eating disorder. You’d think someone who is open about how weed and alcohol can be done in moderation (even after addiction) and should be a matter of personal choice would be just as reasonable about other people dieting. That said, it must be hard to have an eating disorder while working in an environment like hers. This just isn’t the way to deal with it.
She is a complete a**hole and makes everything about her. I am done with her.
I’m glad others have said it. In her “apology” all she really accomplished was justifying her actions while blaming everyone else for “misconstruing” and “misinterpreting” them. Come on, Demi. Do better.
She will never do better, she is a narcissist. I’m getting really tired of her turning every issue into one that impacts her “especially”. Her whole presence is annoying at this point. She needs to sit down and keep self reflecting. She has enough money to have a whole kitchen fitted out with all her favorite foods and would never have to leave her damn castle if she didn’t want to; and avoid being triggered by the wider world! This crap from a woman who literally almost poisoned herself to death with drugs and she’s pissed about cookies with made with Stevia for diabetics?! GTFOH!
The Big Chill, which is owned by a lovely elderly woman, has been our family’s “go to” FroYo place for almost 30 yrs. They have the *best* yogurt (as the lines out the door EVERY day will show). Their FroYo choices include “regular”, “low-fat”, “sugar free”, AND “dairy free”. They have *regular* muffins/cookies as well as sugar free AND gluten free choices. They literally have something for every dietary restriction/choice.
If Demi is so traumatized by going into a shop that has choices, let her sit her entitled, privileged a$$ at home and order it for delivery (which they do).
You say it here exactly. “Diet” does not mean- losing weight crash dieting restricting yourself so you don’t get fat. It means dietary restrictions.
Diet, the word itself, means the specific type of manner of what you eat. The dictionary definition- “the kinds of food that a person, animal, or community habitually eats.”
I’m on a Crohn’s disease diet. I am in no way shape or form “dieting” as Demi and this stupid “diet culture” fantasists think people are. It’s enraging they think the entire world revolves around only their experiences and we need to govern life by their very narrow backgrounds. I’m just trying to eat things that don’t put me in the bathroom for hours or hospital for a bowel resection surgery my diet has nothing to do with some diet culture, nor does most people’s.
Same with “diets” like gluten free diets, low-sugar diets, sucrose intolerance diets, low salt diets, lactose intolerance diets, low-FODMAP diets. None of these are “diets” like Demi & diet culture people are thinking.
It’s some real ablest and privileged shit for these people to see everything through the lens of their past problematic dieting or eating disorders and not realize there’s an entire world of diets that are medical based and that the word doesn’t mean what they think it does. And then using their ignorance to judge shit like specialty diet foods that some of us need just to live day-to-day in a remotely comfortable or physically safe way health wise.
Very well said, HeyJude. People tend to forget the actual, literal meaning of words.
It’s also rather tiresome listening to people who feel THEY can decide what is best/right for others. While we all have to come together as a society/world for some major issues, I wish everyone would just begin taking care of *themselves* in *this* respect, and let others make the best choices for *themselves*.
This shop would be a Dream for me!
She should be ashamed of herself, going after a little business with her celebrity privilege. Can’t stand people like this.
I don’t know, I always struggle with celebs who make money off their looks, including their ups and downs in their weight, and then complain about everything related to the culture and commerce related to women’s images. Banking off of what you look like makes you a huge part of the problem. It doesn’t matter that she’s not rail thin – selling a physical image is still a huge part of what she does. I emphathize with not wanting to be judged on one’s looks, but it still feels like she’s selling her image over and over again with the perfect hair and the perfect image and the expensive clothes, etc.
She needs to check herself.
Her outrage and self absorption are signs she needs to keep up that therapy—
She’s a child who needs to grow up.
I empathize with her story over all
But this battle
As some one who also had an ED, this is not the way to fight that battle.
She needs meditation.
It was reckless and irresponsible of her to lash out a small business. And her non apology reeks of ego and obliviousness. And frankly makes me think she an alcoholic too.
but…she IS helping the world? I mean.
When see what she’s up to, by comparison, I feel sane & considerate
The yogurt shop’s marketing is a symptom of a much larger diet culture -supported and perpetuated by big companies, mass media, celebrities (including Demi herself) . Maybe channel some of that energy into tackling the people and institutions with the biggest platform for change.
Oh Demi. The struggle always. On diet culture: you know, she could start by sending back the Goop gift and making a statement on how her celebrity peers are adding to toxic diet culture with their intermittent fastings and other starvation cleanses to make a buck. She’s not going to hit her goal by going after a small business w her millions of followers. She needs to learn how to regulate (or get someone else to regulate) her triggers because Demi is always pointing a finger. I’m glad she took some responsibility for her reaction, buy I agree w the other posters here: the world doesn’t exist to work itself around her triggers- especially one has hair-triggered as this was
Stop. Their marketing are ways to tell people with medical-based dietary needs there foods are able to be consumed and as they say guilt free.
You guys see some conspiracy. People with diabetes see these signs and think “finally, something I can indulge in all I want without having to feel bad about risking my sugar-free diet.”
Stop with the ablest talk that refuses to see their are necessary dietary restrictions for medical needs. And it’s perfectly okay for companies to market to them.
I said further below I don’t think it was ok for her to call out this yogurt shop, but for the defenders trying to act like the store is only concerned about people who can’t eat sugar/gluten/dairy due to health conditions, I do call bs on that. I looked up their website and see their “fun facts” include that their dairy-free yogurt only has 14 calories per ounce and that they have a large selection of fat free muffins. Also their no sugar variety is called Carbolite. I mean come on, we’re really going to act like this is all solely intended for diabetics and lactose intolerant purposes, and not at all marketing these products for people watching their waistlines?
Lmao. Who cares? It’s LOS ANGELES. Low-calorie anything ads are part of the package of living here and ‘carbolite’ is pretty inoffensive compared to the other messaging she probably gets daily, particularly in her corner of town.
If she genuinely can’t handle a mediocre pun, then she she shouldn’t live in a city that is so self-obsessed and the literal nexus of toxic diet/wellness culture. She should go work on her recovery instead of continuing to feed her demons by expecting the world to cater to her volatile moods — which is both immature and addict behaviour.
Yes, for people on medical diets this type of store would be a dream. I am always looking for new things because I’m lactose intolerant and I have to be very careful of fat content and carbs, other wise I sugar dump and I’m vomiting and have to lay down for 6 hours.
So for me an ounce of froyo with 8 sugars as opposed to 15 sugars means A LOT
What all the abelists don’t grasp is that there are very few places that have anything like this that also tastes good (I’ve been there many times)
So if they are triggered they can go to one of the thousands of other froyo shops and LEAVE ME THIS ONE GOOD THING
FU DEMI
She needs to stop. She is exhausting.
I know. Can a week go by when we don’t hear from her? What annoys me the most is that everyone jumps through her hoops. She makes all of these declarations about her life that turn out to be bs like 6 months later. She’s constantly lying and misrepresenting so why do we keep falling for it?
I think she is a deeply troubled woman. And maybe not terribly bright?
Word.
100%
Exhausting is 100% the word for her. I sympathize with her struggles, but she’s a bit too much.
She’s Tiegen 2.0
such dramatics. Sounds like “california sober” is working out well.
Yeah… is she okay? Seems soooo misplaced to go off on a tiny yogurt shop like this.
As soon as she spewed that nonsense about being an addict but still indulged in addictive habits, I completely shut her out. You can’t be a recovering addict and still indulge in the addictions. She is trying to fool herself into thinking that she can control her addictions, where as in reality she can’t.
Plus, why is she blasting a shop publicly were she has the power and influence to cause serious harm to their business and claim she is just passionate about her convictions? No, you are being compassionate, you are causing harm to a business with your influence of followers to harm a business! Take responsibility for your actions and apologize to the business and STFU.
Thank God someone finally thinks the same way as I do! She is not sober and let’s be honest…how triggering is it for addicts to hear “I’m California Sober” that is a very dangerous line to draw and a “star” like her is sending the wrong message saying that. She is NOT sober and I don’t know any addiction counselor that approve the California Sober as being sober.
it was beyond ridiculous what she did. and entitled. and now she’s minimizing it. not cool.
She was doing way to much.
But is she sorry for the way she used her celebrity to bully an independent shop? I want to root for her while she overcomes her demons, but she makes it very difficult to be on her side a lot of the time.
Exactly. It’s not like she’s going after Pinkberry (is that place still a thing?). There’s a good chance she’s permanently impacted someone’s livelihood and ability to pay bills and buy food. That’s not okay.
Also, like, you’re going into a frozen yogurt shop. Those only exist BECAUSE of diet culture. I’m a weirdo and genuinely enjoy frozen yogurt more than ice cream, but I’m very aware that it was developed as a “healthy” ice cream replacement. What the hell else was she expecting?
Luckily, her bullying backfired.
Everyone called her out for how ridiculous she was being and business has been booming at the shop.
Good question about Pinkberry and good point. I don’t think there’s an easy, right answer – aren’t many places required to list calories now? I find that to be a relief because it helped me avoid ordering a 1,200 calorie vegan smoothie the other day at Smoothie King, but for some that would be triggering. For Demi, I think she as usual went about this the complete wrong way.
I live in NYC and my nighttime routine when I was in my early 20’s was going to Dunkin Donuts and getting a giant decaf coffee, a chocolate chip muffin, and talking on the phone to my best friend who lived in Atlanta at the time. I picked the muffin because I really wanted the coffee roll but thought I would choose the “healthy” option. I remember being on the line at Dunkin and on the phone and seeing them put the calories up for the first time ever: the muffin was like 650 calories (the coffee roll was like 390). I was shook and had to tell my best friend I would call her back. Thank goodness they put the calories up!
The Bigg Chill has been around since at least the 90s. Back then it was known as the best FroYo in town, in that it tasted the most like ice cream while still being “healthy.” People drove there from miles around just to “safely indulge.” As you imply, being lower-calorie is literally the reputation they built their business on. Demi is way out of her depth on this one.
Maybe contact the yogurt shop with your concerns on a non-public platform, then use your social media power to address the diet culture issue and NOT target the specific business.
Plus, Eat Me Guilt Free is a branded product. Maybe reach out to them about their message and marketing. Encourage the yogurt shop to look at other items to carry for diabetics, those with celiac disease, and other food intolerances.
Don’t tell me DL is unaware of her social media influence and its power. She can also “do better.”
My thoughts exactly. If she just posted images of those “guilt free” cookies and other diet culture type signage without identifying the business that would still make her point and possibly help open people’s eyes who are not aware of how insidious the messaging is everywhere.
But also, that shop is full of it with their defense. Not that it makes it right she publicly called them out, but I mean even saying “we carry indulgent items” still makes it sound like if you want to eat something with real sugar, fat and calories you are “indulging” as opposed to just eating some food. I recently had it pointed out to me that when I call enjoying myself or relaxing “indulging” it paints that activity with a judgment. Which leads to internally having to justify why I *deserve* to indulge – did I work enough, accomplish enough, eat virtuously enough to deserve to indulge?
Geebus!
Diet culture is a real thing for sure but..I can’t get behind this girl for putting them on blast like this. I don’t know…maybe go get your fro-yo somewhere else more palatable if this place “triggers” you so hard, eh?
This one seems hella problematic – and please don’t try to sweep the outrageously entitled things that come out of your mouth with the “I’m just so passionate” broom.
Cripes, this pisses me off.
Yeah, if she really wants to raise awareness and change the conversation about the larger societal issue, don’t do it this way. She accomplished nothing, and further diluted the point re: unrealistic body images and dangerous norms.
This reminds me of Duchess Meghan’s Ivory soap story. If you stop and think about the best way to broach the issue (in her case it was writing letters about the issue itself, not directly targeting the brand), you can actually achieve change and elevate your profile in a positive way.
This is why people hate progressives, btw.
This is not progressive activism, lol.
Sorry, but instead of actually apologizing to the small, independent fro-yo shop that is somehow still existing during a pandemic when so many businesses have gone under, and recognizing that she with her fame and followers could have ruined a person’s means to support themselves, she’s now offering to fix their messaging because it’s triggering for her (yes, could be for others as well, but she’s focused on a message she approves of).
I feel like her recovery is one in which she forces everyone to come along for the ride, and that is exhausting. I truly wish her the best, as I think she is coming through some dark places and it sounds like she’s really making the best life for herself – and that is huge! But this was extreme and not cool.
I’m sorry if she’s struggling, but my God she really thinks the world revolves around her. Did she really not realize there are diabetics that can’t eat sugar?
And that absurd apology saying she’s willing to work with this company to fix their messaging? Fix yourself, girl.
Such galling behavior. Yes indeed. Fix yourself.
She stays doing thee most. Super self-absorbed.
Add personality disorder to her many pathologies. I’m so sick of hearing from her.
Targeting a tiny yogurt shop with her 100+ million Twitter followers? In the middle of a pandemic? Imagine thinking the world revolves around you. I’ve had an ED for over a decade… I also have a best friend who is a type 1 diabetic and I’m happy places like this give options for patrons like her.
There is a big issue regarding diet culture. You can’t escape advertisement about diet pills, diet boxes, fat burning pills, diet food. It’s extremely stressful living in a society that tells you that to look good you need to be thin. It’s good that she wants to start that conversation, but she did overreact. I really want some froyo too. there is a place that makes a really good maracuja syrup that pairs really nicely with their froyo, unfortunately, they open in May.
She only wants to have a conversation now because she was called out about attacking a small business. She’s a brat who had a public tantrum. Awful.
Fro yo itself is a diet culture sub for ice cream. If you want ice cream, get ice cream. Just do it less often.
Exactly, and it’s a crap substitute for ice cream. If you want something frozen and sweet, skip fro yo, go for gelato or custard.
Or, if you want froyo, get froyo. Some people don’t want ice cream or custard or gelato. Everyone can get what they want without being told what they should be eating instead.
I would rather have sugar free or low sugar fro yo than sugar free ice cream. I like the tang that you get from the fro yo. Why can’t people just like what they like?
Some people just prefer froyo though. And I don’t think it’s really that many fewer calories, but I don’t know because I can’t eat either. I’m obsessed with “nice cream” though (made with frozen bananas). It’s a nice substitute for those of us who can’t have dairy but like the texture of ice cream.
I bought a pint of the 300-calorie per pint ice cream a few years ago. I thought hey, it’s ice cream, it’s got to be good. Nope. Maybe it was just the flavor I bought, but I couldn’t stand that stuff and ended up tossing it. I’d rather go froyo too. Or like was said above, give me the fat and calories and sugar, but maybe less.
Wow, over react much. I used to have an ED, I know it can be hard, but at the end of the day you have to learn to function in a world with triggers. Stores are not going to reorganize themselves because you have food issues. And diabetics, celiacs, vegans etc. Still deserve fun food choices, even if it upsets you.
Just what all independently owned restaurants/shops need right now, during a pandemic, someone famous targeting their business on social media. There had to be a better, kinder way to get your point across….this seemed bullyish.
She’s insufferable.
this is missing context: that guilt free cookie is from an IG post form 2016 and they don’t sell it anymore
Demi threw that fit over sugar free cookies every coffee shop out there sells
Lol she had to dig deep to make her point. She just can’t admit she is the one who is wrong here.
I am gland you mentioned this!!!
Her and her fans are being so OOT about this.
Good news is the business is booming!
” I will do whatever I can to work with this froyo shop if they want to, to help align the messaging.”
UGHHH , how about she does whatever she can to fix her disproportionate response to whatever triggers her and gets help to align herself to the reality of existing in a world that doesn’t revolve around her.
^^^^^ THIS ^^^^^
Also for all the hours of content she has created about her drug usage issues, I don’t think she’s ever apologized for punching one of her dancers years ago (for outing her drug usage on tour in front of other staff on tour).
She is absolutely pathetic and entitled and needs to STFU. It’s like going to a bar and then ranting at them for having mocktails on the menu. “How dare you make me feel guilty for drinking alcohol by advertising non-alcoholic drinks!”
My partner is diabetic and it’s very rare that we go to a dessert shop and they have anything he can eat. Typically, we go someplace, there’s nothing he can have and everyone else eats awkwardly while he sits there with a water. It is wonderful that the owners of this shop recognize that not everyone can have sugar and tried to give some alternatives so that everyone has an option at their place.
Also, the propose alternative to label something as “diabetic” food is a stupid idea. Sugar-free can be for anyone who doesn’t want overly sweet things, and not every diabetic wants to advertise their condition. Men especially are sensitive about this.
Absolutely, I avoid sugar because of how it makes me feel. I’m not diabetic. Sugar-free label works for everyone interested in it.
Labeling something diabetic is like labeling dairy-free “for lactose intolerant people” or gluten-free “for celiac diseased” Lol
Exactly, Chaine!
“Sugar-free” is nutrition information. It tells the consumer what the food product contains. It’s really terrible that she’s assigning morality to a factual disclosure to the consumer.
AFTER the shop explained that those products are for people with diabetes, celiac disease, etc., she still told them to “do better” and to “find a way to provide an inviting environment for all people with different needs. Including eating disorders.”
A yogurt shop is supposed to be inviting for people with eating disorders? HOW?! And why is that THEIR responsibility? She said walking in that shop made her have a “hard time the rest of the weekend.” Again, your weekend is not their responsibility.
Instead of trying to carpet the world, put on slippers, Demi.
Frozen yogurt is a scam and you might as well as eat soft serve ice cream. I enjoy it from time to time but I don’t delude myself that it’s healthy. She’s an idiot and incredibly, staggeringly, self-obsessed.
What kind of scam? It’s frozen yogurt. What it is is right in the name.
Some people like it. Some people prefer the texture, or the tang, or want a frozen treat that has less fat than ice cream, like gelato or many frozen yogurts.
If someone doesn’t like frozen yogurt, they can just avoid going to a frozen yogurt shop.
Naa its better than soft serve. Soft serve at yogurtland has 35-60 sugars per ounce depending on flavor. Nonfat yogurt for the vanilla and chocolate have 8 sugars and 13 sugars per ounce.
That is a HUGE difference to people like me who can’t tolerate sugar well.
4 oz of the softserve would put me in bed sick for 6-8 hours
the froyo would make me feel mildly shitty for maybe an hour
she had a bad weekend because froyo wasn’t labeled to her liking? STFU, Demi.
You know, one of the things I’m working on (and it can be hard) is letting go of negative thoughts.
She had a bad experience in a frozen yogurt shop-it was probably a 10 minute encounter max. The fact that it bothered her the rest of the weekend? That’s something she needs to address with whoever is helping her with her mental health.
I know she’s gone through a lot but this is a dick move. Adding to this: I don’t think she’s sober.
She’s basically admitted she isn’t with the “California sober” thing, right? Weed and alcohol are okay in her version of sobriety.
I’m so over her. Drama drama drama with this one
She doesn’t sound very smart. I feel like she is generally pretty full of BS. I listened to her on Joe Rogan and it was hard to listen too. Just somewhere who is not very self aware.
Shut up Demi.
I can’t believe she made this public! There was absolutely no reason to share the conversation they had, she offered her perspective, and whether they choose to listen or not is up to them, but publicly complaining a small business during a pandemic???
I’m sorry if it was triggering for her, but she also has the option to simply leave and decide that is not a business she will patronize and move on with her life.
I am so sick and tired of Demi Lovato.
Girl needs better therapy to give her the tools to deal with these issues herself instead of expecting the rest of the world to anticipate them.
Demi is free to pay me a hefty amount to give her the tough love, accountability, and truth she clearly needs
I reallllllly don’t like her, never have, and could never put my finger on why. But I feel like she’s just really self absorbed (more than celebrities usually are, lol). She didn’t need to drag the actual yogurt shop into this. She could’ve reflected on the issue without naming names. “I’m genuinely sorry people took it the wrong way” is the WORST non-apology to date lol.
Her apology was not really an apology and the “guilt free” picture is from several years ago. The shop doesn’t sell those aly longer and hasn’t for years.
Demi way overreacted and her offer to “help them fix their” marketing is condescending AF.
She is the one who didn’t consider that sugar-free options aren’t just for those who want to limit their calorie intake, but have actual dietary restrictions they HAVE to follow.
I understand that it was triggering for her, but there are other ways to go about than to slam a business that didn’t do anything wrong on social media.
The Karen jumped out.
Some of this post is missing context btw: The shop hasn’t sold those “guilt free” cookies in years. When the shop told Demi that over IG in DMs she went on a tantrum about other cookies they supposedly had and responded by saying that they “don’t want to mess with me” and that the “customer is always right.”
The reality is that this woman is a liar who is using her mental illness as an excuse to deflect how awful of a person she is. And yes she’s a very very nasty person and has been for years. She has a pattern of behavior that shows this but with regards to this particular situation, first she had an issue with sugar free cookies. Never mentioning those guilt free cookies, which again the store doesn’t even sell anymore. Then she turned it into the employees were rude to her, which is odd because in her IG live she claims she was so triggered she left without getting froyo. Then she finds this post from 2016 with the date cropped out about “guilt free” cookies that the store doesn’t even sell anymore.
She probably thought everyone was going to rally behind her once she mentioned the sugar free cookies but when no one did, she doubled down and kept changing her story. She’s a liar. And I am so so happy that the froyo shop stood up for themselves and didn’t let her bully them. I hope they sue her for defamation.
They should sue her!
She exhausts me so much! I really need her to take a nice vacation/break and step away from the limelight for a minute. It’s always drama with her.
As someone who grew up with a Type 1 Diabetic sister (she was diagnosed at age 2) and has a daughter with a lot of food restrictions, I am having trouble sympathizing with Demi here, to say the least. I agree that Diet Culture exists and can be a problem, but that’s no reason to go after this particular place which is at least offering things for people who are GF, low-sugar, etc. There are temptations everywhere. If you’re an alcoholic, maybe avoid bars.
The struggle is real but so is the struggle of small businesses to survive. There are people out there who like frozen yogurt. I think it’s nice if a couple of friends with different food needs, or a parent with two kids with different ones, can go to one place and find a treat once in a while.
Does she *still* not have anyone in her close circle who could maybe take away her cellphone and change all of her social media’s passwords? A close friend who makes sure she stops embarrassing herself?
She could have done this in a more appropriate manner. Complain directly to the yogurt shop manager and share your concerns and give some marketing suggestions, but don’t put them on blast to millions of people on social media. This was just dramatic and unecessary. Now this small business will suffer even more during the pandemic. I don’t agree with diet culture, but most of the products in that shop were targeted to diabetics and people with gluten allergies.
Sugar free, gluten free, etc are not exclusively for “diet culture”…. some people have restrictions. The shop is correct for having options. The fake woke performative thing is annoying
I will not accept this Bigg Chill slander. Their shop is amazing and legit my fav fro yo! This chick has gone way too far. I was done with her the minute she said “California sober” what a slap in the face for all of the recovering addicts putting in the work every day to stay healthy and clean.
Sorry but this is so ignorant. It’s up to her to figure out how to manage her triggers, the whole world doesn’t cater to her. Speciality/sugar free/vegan items aren’t always easy to find and they can place them anywhere and label them any way they please in their own store.
People are being very understanding about this being “triggering” for her. If you can’t stop yourself from having a public meltdown because you see a sugar-free label, best to stay in.
“I’m willing to talk to this shop to help get the messaging right.”
She is not gate-keeper or guardian of what this business is ‘allowed’ to do. Why does she need to have a chat with them about getting their messaging right? It’s *their* messaging, and I would be extremely disinclined to talk to her about anything if I were the business owner.
This girl needs help. She has more than just ED and addiction issues. I hope that the froyo shop sues her to recoup the sales that they lose because poor Demi was ‘triggered’. Hopefully, most people are already sick of Demi’s narcissistic behavior and will ignore her latest rantings.
Almost every froyo shop has non-dietetic (full sugar) cookies and stuff as toppings, and that is an issue for people like me with insulin resistance. I get froyo maybe 4 times a year, but it would be nice to have that option. If she’s that triggered by seeing a shop that actually caters to the health and dietary needs of another segment of the population, she should just take her business elsewhere.
Perhaps it would be better if the Fro-Yo shop helped Demi to work on her messaging.
LOL
Those pesky diabetics triggering a spoiled celebrity with their life-dependent sugar free diets…HOW DARE YOU???
My god she is exhausting! If you’re so triggered about going into a business (that no one is forcing you into) then the real world might not be for you and she needs to stay home in her bubble safe space and not target a business where people who actually need to work are working at. What a privileged brat. This is why people hate on Millennials, because of this whiny, everything must be about me and everything is offensive to me and they need to change it to keep me safe. I just can’t with her.
Serious question: what would be an “inviting environment” for people with eating disorders? What is the “messaging” for that?
I don’t know about “messaging” cause I have no idea what Demi thought she was doing here. But as someone who suffered from eating disorders for years, on some level, there’s not much people can do to avoid “triggering” us. It’s part of why ED recovery is so tough–cause food is everywhere & we have to eat. It’s not like a drug you can stop using. It’s part of life.
Now, I do think there are conversations to be had about diet culture, normalizing women/girls lamenting being “fat,” etc. And many folks in the ED community have expressed concerns that laws requiring calorie counts to be posted on menus can be very harmful to people with eating disorders. But Demi isn’t engaging in a serious way here. She’s just being a jerk.
Thank you, and I wish you well in your recovery. Eating disorders cover such a wide spectrum I can’t think how on earth one presentation could work for everyone (or people would already be doing it).
Thanks, FancyPants! Doing much better now.
She has an album out, right? Her music off this album is just not generating the buzz she thought it would. What shall she do? I know let’s create this conflict which involves bullying a store because it gives her the triggers. I mean a yogurt shop triggers her but not her friends the Kardashians with their silicone enhanced body parts, the fashion magazines, Hollywood in general. She could have made valid points if she would have gone after the bigger fish so to speak but she chose a small yogurt shop. Ok Demi. Drama queen to the max. Sit down you pretentious twat and work on your sobriety. She has no problem ingesting drugs and alcohol but it’s the “yogurt” that’s the problem.
Unpopular opinion but I have never liked her. She always seemed like a not very smart overdramatic mean girl.
Passion or Anger?
To me it seems that Demi is very angry and often lashes out, maybe she should consider anger management classes.
Demi should think very carefully before posting, because she has a huge following on various social media platforms and what she posts can really have a negative or positive impact.
” Do better ” really applies to her and not the small business she was targeting.
Attacking a small business in such a public manner is wrong, if she really wanted to make a difference and help a small business ” Do better “, she could have done so behind the scenes.
Demi seems to have an ego problem.
The diet culture is very real and wrong, but that doesn’t give Demi a right to blast a small business, especially during a pandemic when small businesses are barely keeping a float.
How dare you Demi?
Who in the world do you think you are?
I love that she reamed out a small business for posting triggering content and made it all about being sensitive to people’s triggers and then immediately posted pictures on her stories of her smoking weed. Like… What.
Girl just stop. And who exactly is her fan base and followers? Teens, tweens, Disney fans? Anyone who supports her is supporting narcissism and entitlement. We really need to grow up as a society and stop putting people on a pedestal who peddle this crap.
She was way off base here. Firstly it’s not every businesses job to cater to your privileged little self. If you’re this triggered by a yogurt label you need more intensive treatment. Secondly this is not the time to go after a small business. Thirdly, and I get this is a hard concept, but there are real people with various medical ailments who are happy to have a shop that serves them. F*** those people right? Because the only thing that matters is you and your myriad of issues.
UGH. This one again with more performative outrage and manufactured victimhood. What a shock.
This ^^
Different day, new problem. Demi will do anything to stay in the media. Please, just sing.
Jameela Jamil defended her. Enough said there.
Plus, the releases DM where Demi says “you don’t want to mess with me”?
Fuck her.
I suffer with bulimia too, and still have to shop, deal with life. She’s entitled and overly privileged with absolutely nothing to give back to justify her popularity and privilege.
I wish she’d shut up and just stop posting.
Any good she does, she wrecks with her obstinacy.
The world doesn’t revolve around Ms Lovato and her billions of triggers.
If a sugar free cookie triggers her then maybe she needs to get out of the entertainment industry and move out of CA. I imagine there are probably triggers on every corner for her. Yet for whatever reason her new “California Sober” lifestyle DOESN’T trigger her. You would think a very newly recovered heroin addict would be easily triggered by those vices. She is becoming a professional victim and it’s getting old. As soon as she told the yogurt company not to mess with her and the customer is always right, it made me dislike her even more. To call out a business trying to make it in this pandemic with her nonsense just shows her privilege. I don’t see her calling out grocery stores for carrying sugar free items if she is so triggered by them.
Demi has always had a victim complex. She needs to stay off the internet and get better therapy. I know she’s had a hard life and deserves a pass on some things, but at the end of the day, the world doesn’t revolve around her and her struggles.
Yes Demi f-ed up. The average person in the US has only an 8th grade education level of knowledge in regard to health issues. I do believe she did not understand some of the wording was for specific conditions. However, she is an adult and should remind herself there is always more to a story.
Now all these media outlets jumping all over her are f-ed up too. This cancel culture shit us BS whether it’s from conservatives or liberals. They all claim to like they are trying to be helpful but they are really trying to punish people. People are not perfect. No Demi is not right either but the reaction is so overblown. And she’s mentally ill so I am sure it’s difficult for her. So tired of all this stuff. We need some serious empathy in the US.
She didn’t understand the wording of a label?! For real?! And it’s A-OK for her (with millions of followers) to try to punish a small business? Explain again about cancel culture?
That is my point exactly. This site is full of wokies writing about awful someone is for this or that offense of the day. I clearly wrote that she f-ed up. Fine, can we point stuff out without being so punitive? Yes she was trying to be punitive but I cannot change her or what she did. Maybe we can all use as an example to stop trying punish people. Sometimes change starts with us.
Nope. A superstar/rich white woman tried to go after a small business. Demi tried to pull a karen and got rightfully called out for not only lying about what happened but then tried to bring it up as triggering her ED. She’s foul.
Yes, she is in the wrong. The point of BLM, IMO, is that we should be as forgiving of people of color as society is of white women. This is not some game of let’s be mean to people. Instead it turns into, let’s publicly crucify people. Hate doesn’t belong anywhere. Yes is social injustice. If we go after every dumb or mentally ill person, we are not furthering a cause. It just makes one as much of an a-hole as she was.
Even if things are “difficult for her,” that doesn’t mean she gets to lash out at whomever and then ask people to feel bad for HER. (You seem to think being either dumb or mentally ill is a valid excuse?)
It’s a gossip site, so people gossip. She used her very large platform to do something that was mean and self-centered, so people are going to comment on that. People aren’t haters just because they speak up when they see wrong-doing.
That is not what Black Lives Matter is about. You are a troll.
@Christa girl what? BLM has no place in this conversation. Has nothing to do with this conversation. BLM is also not about “we should be as forgiving of people of color as society is of white women”…. it’s about us not being killed, harassed, demeaned, among a million other systemic and institutional racism present in our world simply for BEING BLACK.
@ Christa ;
Demi is wrong, anyway I look at it, Demi is wrong, targeting a small business on social media with Demi’s following is disgusting to me, especially during a pandemic.
Regardless of skin color, gender, sexuality, ethnicity or religion. We all have to be accountable for our behavior.
It’s not about hating on or cancelling people, we all make mistakes, as long as we learn from them and not repeat them, it’s an opportunity for growth and improvement.
Demi is tripling down instead of acknowledging that she could have voiced her concerns privately to the business and not blasting them for the whole world to hear.
I would sue Demi, if my bottom line would get hurt after her very public critique.
Demi should stop being on social media and rather focus on her health, physical and mental.
She nearly overdosed, talk about a massive red flag.
She has the resources to help herself unlike many people that do not.
If a small yoghurt shop is causing this kind of a trigger, Demi for her own safety should get out of showbusiness, because talk about TRIGGERS, attending parties, events, socializing with industry insiders were alcohol and drugs are all around…
Where is the cancelling though? I don’t see here and I haven’t heard about anyone saying they’ll never listen to her music again or watch anything that she’s in, no one is tweeting to her label to drop her, or asking iTunes to stop caring her songs, or trying to get her fired from promotional gigs. She did a dumb thing, acted all self righteous about it, doubled down and lied a little bit, then did a non-apology in which she patronizingly tells the froyo shop that she’ll help with their messaging, and people are saying that she acted ridiculously. And we’re saying it in the comment section of a website. We’re not all DMing her every comment that’s posted here. We are talking amongst ourselves about how this was misguided and bizarre. I don’t even see hate for her anywhere. People are sympathetic to her ED issues and triggers and the message she *thought* she was sending about diet culture, but they think she acted poorly in this instance. Some people find her perennially annoying, some people have never liked her, some people just want her to stick to singing, but no one is hating her, or saying she needs to be cancelled, or claiming that she’s an awful, irredeemable person. So…. I don’t get your comment about cancel culture and hating her.
Ok Christa is a huge freaking troll “wokies on this site” and that is not what BLM is about
Mental illness is NOT an excuse for being an asshole.
Demi Lovato is a million times more famous than this yoghurt shop. So if she wants to talk about triggering and responsibly, let’s talk about her yammering on about “California sober”. That is triggering to people struggling to get/stay sober.
Your sobriety in alcohol, drugs, food, dieting, etc., is just that. YOUR sobriety. You own it. You are responsible for it.
If this shop is wrong (they aren’t) she is wrong to promote her version of sober.
Maybe the shop needs to put a sign out front that says “Demi Lovato free.”
Demi has always been quick to judge others, yet unwilling to take accountability for her own mistakes. She does not seem stable at this time.
She comes across as completely self-absorbed and entitled. Omg. As a mother of a child who has celiac disease, I appreciate businesses that have options for people with various diet restrictions. My daughter doesn’t cry and post to her millions of followers when she can’t get anything to eat at Baskin Robbins. Jeez.
As someone who struggles with a past drug addiction and eating disorder, I’m more disgusted by the term “California sober” than “guilt free”. It seems as though she likes to pick and choose what triggers her.
Omg she’s so ridiculous. Not everything has to be for everyone. Are people not allowed to eat or sell sugar free foods now because it triggers HER eating disorder?
I’m getting concerned about her. Is she ever ok? Happy? In a good place? I just don’t know why all of her stories are rooted in extremisms and I’m not taking away from her experiences or her past trauma by any means. I just hope she is going through healing and learning to release drama.
What a spoiled, self-absorbed twit. I would LOVE to have a local yogurt shop that labeled gluten-free. No one gives a care about her triggers. She needs to shut up.
Also, I’m trying to eat healthier as well and I have been but today I got Taco Bell. What am I gonna do? Go into Taco Bell and complain because they “triggered” me… I was on the bubble about Demi for years tbh but lately I’m just over her. Just extremely entitled and selfish. DRAMA RAMA can’t stand it.
AND Jameela Jamil has ruined good place for me bc of course she stands up for demi. Go away.
Can we stop with the “food for diabetics” or “diabetic friendly” nonsense? Most of the times isn’t true. Even the designation of sugar free isn’t actually helpful. If you want to help people with diabetes, please note that the information needed is the carbohydrate content (and not if is or not sugar free).
While there’s a conversation to be had abt the structural issues of diet culture, pinning that conversation on your recovery as an individual, especially by pinning it on one instance of you not being able to handle a specific environment, is the wrong way to go about it, period. What she should have done is assessed the situation, realized it wasn’t working for her, then turned around and left the shop, quietly. That would have honestly done a great deal more, for both her personal recovery, as well as for dismantling diet culture as a whole, than pinning the fault for the entire ecosystem that caused her eating disorder on a one-off fro-yo shop that’s been around for 30 years.
This company did not invent diet culture. So why is Demi Lovato holding them, and them alone, accountable in such a public way? Her apology isn’t very useful either. The only part of it that has any honesty to it is when she says, “I walked into a situation that didn’t sit right with me, my intuition said speak up about this.” It’s fine if this was the case–it’s pretty clear that she wasn’t having a good day, and the environment she found herself in when she went to this place wasn’t one conducive to her recovery at all.
But there’s no way to say that she wasn’t coming after a small business, when she pinpointed a specific business in particular when she spoke up. Again, I’m not even faulting her for having a bad day and an emotional outburst. I get it. I don’t blame her for that. Recovery is hard, it’s not linear, and the emotional side of it doesn’t get talked about very often. But her apology is garbage. She doesn’t talk about any of the realities, she just defends herself, poorly at that. F-cking do better.
Apparently the world revolves around Demi. If she is “triggered” that badly by WORDS, then she needs to go to a meeting or therapist and work through it.
Crap. Now I have to get in my car, drive 60 miles to LA and buy a case of diet frozen yogurt in solidarity. Thanks a lot, Demi!
I’m planning on it, it looks really good!
It’s about a half hour drive for me now, but I am totally planning on driving over this weekend
It’s delicious so I would go for that alone
But also because FU Demi
Demi is a classic example of a celebrity who wants to come across smart, intellectual and socially progressive. But instead, she comes across tone-deaf, a bully and highly entitled. Do better, Demi! Stick to music and stop the virtue signaling posts. Maybe you won’t get called out then.
Agree 100%. She could use that platform of followers for better things than singling out a Froyo shop.
This chick is a mental case and needs to readjust her medication. She’s ALL over the board.
She looks sooo *fat face*
She just handed that place so much business! I live in SoCal and plan on trying some. Thanks Demi you fool
Isnt froyo is substitute for ice cream, a low calories, guilt free alternatives?
maybe get an ice cream instead of froyo?
if she feel that store is triggering, the best way is exit that store and buy it from some where else
going after an independent store and then after a backlash, offer an apology-ish and willing to help the store? girlfriend, help yourself
Apparently no one is responsible for managing their own feelings anymore. Apparently there is no such thing as resilience anymore. Everything including our own reactions to external factors such as plainly stated facts can now be blamed on someone else.
^ This!
It’s also a clear demonstration of her enduring immaturity.
EM
Exactly! Demi will hopefully figure her life out. Having said that, most people on this sight know people struggling with addiction. It does not mean you can target a business that didn’t hurt you in any way. I hope for the best of her life. If she won’t invest in herself, good luck.
She is an egomaniac of the first degree. I’m sorry for her problems and struggles, but she is completely narcissistic. I am so over her.
It seems to me to be coming from a place of a continuing angry internal struggle with/about her ED.
I hope she finds a better therapist to help her manage these issues which will pop up when outside the bubble of her home.
As a person with food allergies, it’s triggering for me to read that self centered celebrities are triggered by the few food selections I have available to me. Also, yes diet culture sucks, but not every diet is about being a size 0 for vanity. Even the keto “diet” is used for people with issues unrelated to weight. The term “diet” also relates to lifestyle not just weight loss.
This is what happens with performative activism. This is not the allyship she and many others think it is.
And her horrible DMs to the company where she tells them “You really don’t want to mess with me” and “the customer is always right”…she sounds insufferable.