Ben Affleck is still in Miami with Jennifer Lopez. He flew in on the redeye over the weekend and went straight to Jennifer’s waterfront home, where he’s been photographed on her upstairs balcony, smoking cigarettes and looking like he’s totally spent. I mean… it must have been some reunion. Cross-country booty calls pay off in this case. Jennifer’s trying to keep his ass in shape too, because they were seen going into her local Miami gym yesterday:
Jennifer Lopez gets Ben Affleck to hit the gym in Miami https://t.co/Bkxx3G6Wlb pic.twitter.com/IOcrqLlj3r
— Page Six (@PageSix) May 24, 2021
If nothing else, I like J.Lo for Ben because she is very clean-living and healthy. I don’t think she drinks at all, she works out a lot, she eats healthy, she doesn’t look kindly on Ben’s love of Dunkin Donuts. She’ll take his ass to the gym and make him drink smoothies. Meanwhile, E! News has an exclusive about how Jennifer has fallen for Ben again, 17 years later:
Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck are picking up right where they left off! The new It couple, who ended their engagement in 2004, have rekindled their romance with secretive reunions in Los Angeles, Montana and, now, Miami. What’s changed in the last 17 years? Apparently, Ben has really stepped up his game. Over the weekend, the Gone Girl star took a redeye flight to the Florida hotspot and went straight to J.Lo’s house for some downtime together.
A source exclusively tells E! News that the Hustlers actress has been “really busy” flying back and forth from L.A. to Miami for work. When the Argo actor joined her this weekend, it seemingly proved he is making their newly revived relationship a priority.
“Ben has been making the effort to make it work with their schedules. He’s really making a huge effort,” the insider shares. “J.Lo thinks Ben has really stepped up and loves this version of him.” His new game plan appears to be paying off, as the source reveals, “It’s comforting to her and she is smitten,” adding, “They are giddy together and you can tell she’s really happy.”
“They really care for each other and they picked up right where they left off,” the second insider says. And while they seem to be putting a lot of energy into their new romance, the source notes, “Both are focused on their family first.”
Another insider shared with E! News, “She looked very happy to see him and they walked around the property together so she could show him around.” The third source added, “She had a big smile on her face and was twirling in a loose summer dress. They spent the day inside together but came out a few times for fresh air and to admire the water view.”
I’m glad that he’s pursuing her and that he came to her in Miami. I’m happy with the way this thing is progressing and let’s all keep our fingers crossed that this is the summer of Bennifer.
Meanwhile, Ben is back to wearing the watch Jennifer gave him in 2003?? The watch disappeared for 17 years but now it’s back and people are obsessed!!! There are a lot of questions about whether Ben was the one who held on to it for all this time, or whether he gave it back to Jennifer and she held on to it. I kind of feel like Ben had it all this time?
It’s the lil things…
Ben Affleck wearing the same watch JLo gave him while filming Jenny From The Block pic.twitter.com/Yfs7hN3xfT
— bennifer tea (@jloaffleck) May 24, 2021
Photos courtesy of Backgrid.
He needs a good therapist.
They BOTH do.
Amen to that!
lol yes ^^
What’s wrong that she won’t find an EQUAL. He’s neither health minded nor sober. Are they filming a real life re-make of Leaving Las Vegas??
Yes they do. A very good therapist. VERY good. Ben Affleck is very triggering for me because he’s an absentee father. He’s in his own world, he’s admitted in the past he doesn’t like spending time with little kids – even his own – he’s just very, very problematic as a father. I’m glad Jennifer Garner has a lot of good support around her and the children. My own father was a family therapist by profession but he was in his own world. Impersonal and self-centered, though it was covered in nice guy Christian stuff, people thought he was just so nice. Maddening because nobody saw it or would admit it but me, the person most affected. The kind who is more interested in his new woman’s kids and grandkids than his own.
I feel for his children, especially his daughters. Having a father who is more interested in himself and his pleasure (boozing, drugging, sex life) is very frustrating, lonely and causes a lot of self-esteem issues. You always wonder why your father isn’t as interested in you as he should be. Screw Ben Affleck and his massive ego. I don’t care what his issues are, we all have them. Get over yourself and be more interested in and involved with your kids.
@Soupie, I had one of those dads too. You are spot on.
He does seem to be very involved with his kids. He shares custody and is photographed with them all the time.
@a0 my dad was very involved with me too. We spent a lot of time together. All I can say is, it’s very subtle, the lack of connection, the lack of interest, the lack of ability to be emotionally intimate with your child. I hope you’re right, but I have my doubts.
@jugebair Thank you. There are so many of us. It took me a long time to totally see it. Later generations have the benefit of the growth our our culture, access to technology, therapy and support of various kinds. I see a lot of boomer hate on the internet and it saddens and frustrates me. We did the best we could. It was a crazy time. We had no real way to dissect and learn how to love ourselves when those who should have, didn’t. And we didn’t really understand what was happening to us until much too late. I’m still peeling the layers. There was little access, and what there was, cost too much money.
In that sense, I can feel better knowing that more children nowadays can get the help they need. From what I’ve seen, I’m sure Jennifer Garner is an excellent mom. That right there really helps, but it’s still not a replacement for an attentive, involved dad.
This right here is why I don’t think Jen G will remarry anytime soon. She’s those kids only functional parent and I think she’s going to want to maintain stability in the household until they are all ready. I’m sad that Ruffalo isn’t available. They’d be perfect together but someone like that. Someone sensitive who’ll appreciate that she’s just a dork on the inside.
@Renata
We need more men like Mark Ruffalo in general! As an aside, my friend and I were just discussing how cool it would be to have Mark Ruffalo in a Colombo remake, not that the original needs remaking (we just started bingeing from Episode 1 last week). Mark would be perfect as Lt. Colombo.
Honestly, it’s better for his kids that he’s not around. Growing up with an addicted parent is awful. If he got sober and entered true recovery, that would be a different story, but we all see that he is nowhere near that.
I just dont know how you jump from one relationship right into another one. Can someone explain how that works for me? No down time, no figuring your sh!t out, no letting your heart heal, just jump right in. Not only the adults, but you know those kids are drug into it as well.
My thoughts exactly! Jennifer- for all her good looks and money – appears to be a trauma queen and with the overlap in relationships, one can see why she just might be.
When Ben dumped her the first time, she went and marry Marc A about a month later, that’s how she operates. Ben romanced her right in front of husband #2 to his face… she left Chris and was with Ben the next day or before, just saying, that’s how she rolls. They both need help.
Fear of being alone…not knowing who oneself is…being codependent. That’s just a few reasons. And with JLo…I suspect part of it is also getting revenge on her ex.
I feel like celebs all have mental health issues. Both of them seem to have an insecure attachment on differing spectrums (Ben seems avoidant). JLo stated she has esteem issues and likely cannot be ‘alone’, especially when ARod humiliated her.
Does anyone else feel kinda bad for Jennifer Garner? I’m all for my ex husband moving on and being happy but something about him being with an ex again would sting abit. Especially if I found out he had held on to gifts given to him by her.
I’m happy for Jen Garner actually. That means when Ben inevitably falls off the wagon or gets messy in 6 months it’ll be JLo that has to fix it or dump him and not her.
Please, if he relapses Lopez will drop him like a bag of potatoes. She has no trouble dumping men on a whim. Garner will once again be left to clean up for the sake of their children.
Lara, Jlo doesn’t leave until she’s publicly humiliated. There’s zero way she never has any idea they are cheating until we all do. From Casper’s photographic evidence, to Ben’s strippers confessions, to ARods reality stars, to however Marc got caught, Jlo never leaves a man until the world is talking about the cheating. When this ends, it will because Ben passive aggressively forced her hand again.
They’ve been divorced a long time, and he is exhausting. I doubt she feels anything about him beyond his duties as a co-parent.
Yeah, especially because she was his next relationship. Like, if there had been at least one relationship in between than it would be different. This would just make me feel like he married me because he was ready and I was there.
I remember he was dating a dark-haired girl from Boston, whose roommate started leaking embarrassing emails about Ben (making fun of him) and caused more gossip. That was about eight months about he broke up with J-LO. The girl from Boston eventually married a Red Sox player. So Garner wasn’t some quick jump-off for Ben.
Her name was Enza Sambataro.
https://www.whosdatedwho.com/dating/ben-affleck-and-enza-sambataro
I don’t think Garner has anything to worry about. He actually married her. Did we forget that Jlo has always said she was heartbroken by the wedding being called off and the breakup? Ben did everything he could not to marry her including sleeping with a stripper a week to the wedding. If I was Jlo that would be my hangover. This man who couldn’t keep it together for two years went on to marry and have kids with the next girl. And not just the next girl but a girl he later said he fell in love with during shooting a movie while engaged to me. I’d know this man didn’t think I was marriage or baby mama material but likes bragging rights of bagging me.
He only married Garner because she was knocked up.
My exact thoughts. I feel bad for garner. The watch – if he held on to it all that time – that’s what gets me. I’m sure she’s ok; but if I was Garner it would make me wonder things about my relationship with him.
On the one hand, no matter how much time she has had to process, him donning that watch makes me feel full body cringe but on the other, the episode of “Dinner for Five” where she forgets to not fawn over him like a lovesick teenager kinda shows how they probably were not good at healthy boundaries since she was so deep in love that he could’ve had that watch in his little jewelry case every day: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Gt3NZbWbCg
Doesn’t change the fact that it was he who actively worked to sabotage that engagement. He who evidently didn’t fight to get it back (Jlo has said it was the worst crisis of her life, rehab and lots of self work would have won her back). He who moved on first. He who married first. He who spent years trashing what Bennifer did to his career. I also don’t think hanging on to some expensive one of a kind Rolex is a declaration of undying love. This is like expecting me to return all gifted jewelry after a breakup. I think he’s wearing it now because it matters to her. And that’s assuming it wasn’t Jlo that hang on to it.
Actually didn’t J. Lo marry first? She moved on with Marc Anthony just weeks after splitting up with Ben and married him about 3 months later or so. She moved on first. Affleck wasn’t rumored to be dating Garner until later that year.
Renata I find your posts interesting. You have an agenda that you repeat over and over, on every Bennifer post. Relentlessly. Do you post on any other stories here?
I feel bad for her too. He clearly settled.
Affleck doesn’t want the comfortable, stable life that would actually be good for him. That’s why he’s messy and ruins any good relationships he has. It’s also why he embarrasses himself, relapsing publicly, stumbling out of clubs and hooking up with strippers. He’s got serious issues. JLo always wants guys that are wrong for her also.
JLo and Affleck are a time bomb, once again.
I don’t think Ben has ever had a good relationship, period. With Garner or anyone else. He always self-sabotages. Until he comes to terms with his demons and actually heals from his mental issues, he will continually do that.
He said a long time ago he gets bored easily and self-sabotages on purpose and he’s aware of it. (This was back around Pearl Harbor when he was drinking heavily, right before 1st rehab.) He had just broken up with Gwenyth Paltrow and talked about how he sabotaged the relationship because she was too good for him.
He doesn’t think he deserves love (a real love) and I think that’s where most of his issues come from. (I kind of do the same thing lol, and I’m also an alcoholic, genes stemming from both sides of my family as well! )
So while I do think this relationship is PR, I admit this has been fun to watch Bennifer 2.0. Hopefully Jennifer doesn’t get hurt again. I feel like she will though unfortunately.
I feel bad for her for what he put her through during their time together. Going back to an ex after a 17 years breakup doesn’t erase the life they had together. Plus he was a pretty sh*tty husband so she is better off without him.
For B and you young ones: There were definite overlaps between Jens that I remember from the bygone gossip of the day. He said they (he and JenGar) fell in love during the making of daredevil. I don’t think he would be confused about that. And there was a lot of rumors of the two of them during the shoot.That was after he had made Gigli With JLo. The Jens were both married but JLo then left her husband for Ben. Then there was gossip that JLo found emails Ben sent JGar when he found out she had separated from her husband in spring of 2003. Then in summer 2004 they did the daredevil sequel Electra together after JLo and ben had split & it was bye bye Vartan (who at the time was doing a movie with Jlo!). Ben likes taken women. He’s a home wrecker.
The early to mid 2000s gossip era must have been something. I love the label of homewrecker for a man, for once. That makes him purchasing JLo again even more problematic. He knows he is going to hurt her but he still does it. I hope she doesn’t get attached and ends it after the summer.
Do you feel bad for the husband Jen left for Ben? She’s just as messy as Ben.
Vulture graciously put together a timeline. I forgot Jen G. was married to Scott Foley.
https://www.vulture.com/article/ben-affleck-jennifer-lopez-relationship-timeline.html
Please, she’s likely laughing her head off about this whole thing and how pathetic it looks for both parties involved.
She posted a cute IG video about needing red wine and chocolate. No matter how over him she is, Ben getting SO publicly back with his former ex JLo is reason for some red wine and chocolate.
I didn’t see it that way. I saw it more like being a primary parent, running a business, doing her Save The Children work and now having to face speculation on how she feels, deserves a little wine and chocolate (“don’t go crazy, you’re old”). The only thing I wonder is whether he told her. They were photographed together at their sons swim meet just before he took Jlo to Montana. So did he at least warn her then or did he just create a photo opp moment to push an amicable exes story? It might be the latter which would definitely deserve some wine.
I’m sure she has some big feelings about this. How could you not? Especially since over the years he talked about JLo a lot, and apparently kept sentimental items from her, if you’re Garner, how do you not feel a little wounded, wondering if he always had someone else in the back of his mind.
He’s talked about Jlo over the years but only recently in a complimentary way. A regular theme in his Oscar campaign was how dating her harmed his career and how he had to rebuild the audiences faith in his talent. He frequently dissed their movies together and even his bros felt comfortable enough regurgitating that narrative. The recent compliments about her work ethic and success are imo nothing to be worried about. Ben has clearly had a change of heart with Jlos change of fortunes. He’ll be back to talking about this is as something he had to grow from in a few months. Jen G of all people knows how quickly he turns. She even talked about it in an interview once
Right, Darla? Renata=Garner? Hmmmm
Bren
Not at all!
This relationship is nothing, but publicists leaking for good press and everything about it seems fake.
Even if it was real, Garner has been separated from him and over his BS for awhile. Have you ever lived with an alcoholic? You eventually start looking for the door and never look back.
Plus, she’s doing well and has moved on to a stable guy. Her kids are a priority also. If not for them I doubt she’d give Ben a second thought.
Meanwhile, jLo can’t be without a man and has an Unbroken streak of picking dirt bags. And Ben is what he is after years of substance abuse and as others have pointed out a largely absentee father.
First off, I’m a little offended with your comment about alcoholism. Not all of us are ticking time bombs! I’ve been sober over 13 years and yes it’s been rough at times, but my partners have never had to worry about me in that regards. Not ALL alcoholics make their partners, “eventually start looking for the door and never look back.”
Don’t be so stereotypical with your views. I apologize if you did have a partner that was bad and happened to be an alcoholic, but that was just your experience. Most of us have our s**t together.
@Bren. I’m guessing JG just sort of laughs at what Ben does at this point as long as he holds up his end of things with the kids. The watch thing would bother me a bit too. I just don’t want to hear that he has a prototype of a Goop candle hidden away.
Oh geez.
I can’t believe people think he looks good now.
Looks like he barely eats or gets any sleep, and not in a good way.
Lol–midlife sex hangover. Ben really doesn’t want to let go of his younger self.
He reeks of cigarettes and self-pity.
Agreed. I think he looks thinner but definitely not in a fit way. More like haggard. His grim facial expressions don’t help, either.
He looks strung-out. I think he’s traded booze for pills.
Agreed. He’s looked downright awful since last fall. And don’t even get me started on the bad dye jobs to his hair and beard during the benana days!
That fan account…. Only a stalker would notice that.
…so, it’s Renata’s account? lol
She looks satisfied lol
God maybe it’s the Bostonian in me hoping Bennifer spends time here this summer but I’m loving it😈
Can she get him to quit smoking because it is SUCH an ugly look.
I’m rooting for them.
Same. Just because it takes me back to a simpler time when gossip was fun, social media didn’t exist to deepen our divisions, and I was 15 pounds lighter and 17 years younger!
That watch looks like a woman’s chunky bracelet.
I’m just perplexed by anyone acting like JLO is somehow winning by pathetically running back to her messy loser ex after being publicly treated like trash by the garbage human that is ARod.
Ben is not a catch. Running to any port in the storm after you end a 4 or 5 year relationship is not a win. She’s been married and divorced three times, been engaged who knows how many times in between that. A lot of the guys she’s been with have been not so great people (that loser Cris Judd, Ben, ARod, who is a chronic cheater and seems to believe he’s god’s gift to women).
I’m just saying, I don’t dislike JLO, but maybe if she didn’t ALWAYS need to be with someone she would be able to pick better men and find herself a lasting love, which is obviously something she is seeking in life.
I don’t get ARod’s appeal – whats the deal with him? What’s he famous for?
Being one of the most hated men in baseball. Publicly cheating on his wife and dating various celebrities that he subsequently also cheated on. He’s a serial cheater across the board; in love and in baseball. The guy is a total scumbag. Interestingly enough, both ARod and Ben love their strippers… guess JLo really has a type.
He was a great baseball player, would have been in the hall of fame easily, but he got caught using PEDs. He was generally not liked by people at all, but he was talented.
I think Chris Judd was ok, but she really needs a high profile person “winner”, if you may say, for her ego, but many times unhealthy.
Chris Judd is the only one of her exes that I see any appeal in.
Cris Judd was a loser?!?!? Seriously, I’d like to know why you say that?
I may be out of the loop on this but I thought he was, by far, the most decent, low-key, guy she’d ever been with/married to.
I felt extremely sorry for him when Jlo up and divorced him (as if he were disposable goods) when Ben came round. He didn’t deserve that kind of treatment. If we’re talking about losers, it would be difficult for her to beat the one she’s with now. Ben sits at the top of that pile as evidenced by his own actions over the years. Please don’t lump Cris in with her other relationship disasters. From what I observed, Civilian Cris, was a good guy.
Fickle, thy name is Jennifer Lopez.
I think I’m remembering correctly, hasn’t Jen been photographed smoking in the past? Maybe that’s her one vice.
Yes, I found several pictures (not on-set pictures) of her smoking, but it seems like it was 10/15years ago
Never found him attractive but he looks kind of hot in these photos. I know, I know, I hate myself for admitting that.
No no, I get it. The Againifer effect does make him hot-ish again and I would definitely seriously consider doing that walk of shame.
Againifer OMG
Ben looks hot for his age! He always looks his best when he’s with J-Lo. His clothes are decent, he isn’t drunk, sad and sloppy. If they are happy together, so be it.
Yes, I was coming here to say this. Ben never looked better than when he was with J Lo back in the day.
I feel the same though. He’s hot here
Honestly, there is no greater indicator of Jlo’s insecurity than to see her back with him, but you can bet your Manolo Blahnik Timberland that I’m here for it.
Yep, this reunion speaks volumes about her insecurity. Low self-esteem combined with a huge ego is the only explanation for her jumping back into a relationship with Affleck… and so soon after the Arod disaster.
So i wonder if she still has that big ass pink diamond.
Didn’t she famously lose it?
I remember reading she gave it back to him and a couple of years later it was sold back to the jeweler. I’m sure she gave back ARods ring. You only keep the ring if it ends in marriage.
I get 2nd hand embarrassment looking at these two. So thirsty!
As if he worked out in that gym. He was probably sitting somewhere and drinking his dunkin donuts coffee
I think Jen G would be more upset if he were still with Lindsey Shookus, the woman carrying on an affair with Ben towards the end of their marriage. I remember when Jennifer Garner leaked that story about how she confronted Shookus.
@JAYNA
I would have to agree with you. Lindsay Shookus was the one who broke up her marriage to Ben. Jennifer Lopez has always giggled like a lovesick schoolgirl whenever Ben Affleck’s name is mentioned to her in a conversation. He broke her heart & he was the one that she didn’t get.
Maybe if she had married Ben, she would have been over him. I think Jennifer L. also likes the thrill of the chase.
Ben is looking too skinny now. He has no muscle tone now….
Ben Affleck broke up his own marriage with his many affairs. He’s the one who broke his wedding vows over and over. But people like you always blame third parties.
Ben broke up Lindsay’s marriage. Like someone said above he’s a home wrecker.
I give it until the end of the summer.
@ Hannah
I, by no means , am not defending Ben but
Lindsay knew that Ben was married with children but did not care. If I was dating someone & found out they were married & had children, I would end it in a heartbeat.
Different strokes for different folks…
This is not going to end well……
It’s kind of like when you see an accident and you cannot look away with these two rn.
Something fishy is going on- as if she wouldn’t have a gym at home?!
But how could they get papped if they used her home gym? The paparazzi standing in her hallway would be a bit obvious even for those who think that they got “caught” by the paps
I think JLo considered what action would hurt ARod the most at the moment, and it was getting back with Ben so publicly. I think this is all about revenge. And maybe some fun in the sack as an added bonus.
Revenge too against Ana. Once that cutout was publicly thrown in the trash I think all the ‘we’re still friends and might get back together’ was shown to be PR BS.
Yep. For Ben to do that for the paps (the cutout tossed) has to mean she dumped him.
What I am really wondering is this: When Ben does Jennifer Lopez wrong again, will she run back to A-Rod because she’s embarrassed that this big Bennifer rollout mirrors their first breakup?
I’ve ordered more popcorn..
@Jayna. Someone on LSA said that Ana dumped him over the phone. lol
Where they left off?? They left off with him cheating on her so she had no choice but to dump him after the re-scheduled weddings. He badmouthed her in the media for YEARS. He went on to cheat on the mother of his children with the nanny. Jlo must have fallen and hit her head if she thinks this will end well. That being said, I have no choice but to eat popcorn and watch this train wreck happen.
I wasn’t into at first but now I’m like Bring It!!
Maybe theyll work it out this time.
Three things here.
1. The power of PR Nostalgia
2. Whatever she has on that dress with shoulder ties. I want it.
3. Ben is just a sack
I know people say he never looked better than when he was with J-Lo, which he did look fine in the suits he was wearing then, but The Town Ben was pretty darn hot (during the Garner era),
Pearl Harbor Ben for the win. Also Armageddon. Lord was he hot back in the day. I still think he’s hot now in a more wabi-sabi kind of way. He looks swaggery hot but kind of gray and rumpled. Like he needs some sleep, a few good meals, and to stop smoking and he’d perk right up.
Ben’s interview in the New York Times:
“People with compulsive behavior, and I am one, have this kind of basic discomfort all the time that they are trying to make go away.”
You are trying to make yourself feel better with eating or drinking or sex or gambling or shopping or whatever. Then you do more of it to make that discomfort go away. Then the real pain starts. It becomes vicious cycle you can’t break.”
Jennifer L., listen what Ben is saying…this is probably the most honest statement he has ever made.
When someone shows or in this case tells you who they are, believe them!!!
Couldn’t reply to the comment above but RUFFALO AS COLUMBO is the greatest thing I ever heard.
“Totally spent”, LOL!! I can’t imagine wanted to be in a relationship where you have to parent your partner. She already has kids. And off topic- her hair look hideous.
I hope JLo doesn’t have a cute nanny on staff…remember Ben dallying with Christine Ouzounian?
If you believe deuxmoi, she didn’t even allow female flight attendants or female wait staff around ARod so I think a good looking nanny would never get a chance to be hired.
“Againifer”!! Snaps for that brilliance.
You can always tell it’s performative when a couple of millionaires with a huge mansion, a home gym, a personal trainer, a kitchen with a blender and a private chef decide to go OUT to the gym and buy smoothies. And hang out on a balcony in full view of anyone passing by. Right.
I genuinely like JLo, but this playbook is so old its dusty. Sometimes it seems like publicists and “crisis managers” never progressed past 1994.
This is the perfect ending to the pandemic.
I met my daughter’s new BF for the first time yesterday, and spent some time with them and her roommate. We talked about Againifer (brilliant!) and the first thing they all said was “WHY CAN’T SHE BE SINGLE FOR 10 SECONDS?!”
He’s very messy but I do think JLo’s fear of Singledom is problematic. I’m sure she’s not the only celebrity who is like that, certainly not the only person, but it’s all so very public. I mean, she has plenty to do. She has kids and a huge career. If it were me, I’d just….take my kids on a trip, go shopping, binge-watch a few things, IDK. It’s bizarre.
I’ve always found Affleck very hot, even when he’s looking dissolute. He’s just my type, physically. I wouldn’t date him, though, much less marry him. I wonder how he got Garner to fall for him? She seems pretty together, not like someone who self-sabotages with Bad Boys. I guess she thought he’d changed. Maybe he thought so too.
Omg-stop! These too are having too much fun. Don’t get me wrong. I am loving this.