So what’s up with Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott? That is the question Tori wants us to ask because she’s been leaving a trail of breadcrumbs for the last six months. Dean was out of town filming while Tori was dropping Easter Eggs to the press that all is not well. The rumors started last November when Tori released the family Christmas card that featured herself and her five kids, but Dean was merely a headshot held by Tori. Tori said he was away working, and this was the best they could do.
In January, the whole family did a pap run for ice cream near their home in Calabasas. In March, Tori took the kids to the Farmers Market without Dean and without her wedding ring. Even more notable, the couple did not post about each other for Mother’s Day, Father’s Day or their 15th Wedding Anniversary on May 7. Last week, while appearing on her friend Jeff Lewis’ Sirius XM show, Jeff asked Tori, who was wearing her wedding ring, if things were okay. Tori admitted that Dean was finally home from filming but since the kids and dogs were used to sleeping in her bed, she and Dean were in separate beds. Since that interview, fans have started the countdown clock on the Spelling-McDermott marriage and insiders are saying they are all but done.
After Tori Spelling fueled speculation about her marital woes by admitting she and Dean McDermott sleep in different rooms, a source reveals in the new issue of Us Weekly that things may be even worse than she let on.
“Tori and Dean have been having major issues for over a year now. The fact that she’s talking about sleeping in separate beds is very telling, she wouldn’t do that unless things were really not great between them,” the source says.
Spelling, 48, and McDermott, 54, who wed in 2006, are the parents of sons Liam, 14, Finn, 8, and Beau, 4, and daughters Stella, 13, and Hattie, 9.
“Tori knows her kids see what she says online, so for her to say something publicly means the end could be very near,” the insider adds.
The Beverly Hills, 90210, alum made headlines earlier this month when she told Jeff Lewis about her and her husband’s sleeping arrangements after the 51-year-old Flipping Out alum pointed out that Spelling was wearing her wedding ring again.
“Right now, my kids and dogs sleep in my bed,” Spelling said on SiriusXM’s Jeff Lewis Liveon June 16. “Since he left — this is not good, you guys — but since he left [and] he was gone for six months filming in another country, they all stayed with me. So I currently still have four in the bedroom with me who have yet to go back to their rooms, yes.”
I believe that Tori and Dean’s marriage is always balancing on the edge. I’m sure they were blinded by lust once upon a time but at some point, their relationship became a commodity to Tori and she constantly has to weigh effort vs. output. Not to say they don’t share any affection for each other, I’m sure they have some real feelings. But it’s also a business relationship on some level.
My first reaction to this story was to call BS because it was all too beautifully crafted. Since I rarely wear a ring on my wedding finger, let alone my actual wedding ring, I know that can always be explained. Tori made sure she was photographed without it but had a plausible explanation if she needed it. It felt like a set up for the press, just like the Christmas card stunt. And her comments on Jeff’s show seemed calculated as well. None of us knew they were in separate beds but somehow he knew to bring it up. Again, Tori had a good out if she wants it: She doesn’t want to boot the kids, guys – don’t make a big deal about this.
I think she’s still deciding how she wants this to play out in the press. She definitely wants us to know there’s trouble, but hasn’t settled on divorce, separation or reconciliation. The part that gets me is both of them omitting the anniversary post. That’s the loudest signal that they are looking to announce a split. Or at least a break that they can sell into another splashy vow renewal. Because it wasn’t that long ago they were selling us how they were soulmates and didn’t have relationship problems.
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Wait, he works?
Lol, that was my first thought. Yeah right, Dean was “working!”
If he leaves, it’s because Candy let them know she’s leaving all the money to charities or spending it all on dolls.
LOL! Yeah I new this would be the first comment. All I could think reading this story was “I am so shocked!….Dean WORKS?!”
Looks like he got a supporting role in a Canadian TV show in a 10 episodes first season. Huh. I’m Canadian and I have never heard of it or anyone in it. He’s clearly not the star. “Pretty Hard Cases” Looks like they just started filming a second season but he’s not listed as returning.
WTF Canada?!? Just because he’s Canadian doesn’t mean we have to employ him!!!
Yeah, have some pride! 😂😂😂 Maybe he saw the opportunity to collect some 🇨🇦 government Covid cash.
Ah, but he was in Due South, eh? Maybe we do. Just to be nice.
The kids are cute. Hopefully they’ll come out of it all unscathed by their loathsome parents.
They always look somewhat haunted to me. Like they’re desperately trying to signal with their eyes for someone to rescue them.
I think she’s testing out the waters with her mother. Ol’ Candy never did like Dean, and Tori is in a lot of debt, as usual.
I completely agree. This has been going on for decades, at this point. The only reason for Tori to be this publicly vocal, at this point in her life, is the hope her mom will step in with cash.
The kids are cute. And that’s all I got. Besides, she must of been jealous when Hillaria got her 6th.
When someone continually cheats AND there are kids involved. It’s a mind-melt to try and deal and stay afloat. I don’t care about the money issues. That can be taken care of. I hope she can get out and raise the children in peace. I’ve always had a soft spot for Tori.
For some reaaon i thought they were divorced years ago? I might be confusing her with one of the other blondes that had a reality show on E in the 2000s. Like one of the girls next door? Tori Dean had a show on E! right?
Anyway i could swear they seemed like they had major issues over a decade ago.
There was a fake affair with a mystery woman several years back and then they “worked through it” as they milked that story line for a while.
The children are beautiful and their well-being should be priority.
That holiday card gives me weird vibes though… we have one in a suit, one in a zip up sweatshirt, one in a dress with sandals…
The family has always come across as chaotic to me. Tori can’t even get the kids dressed in the same kind of range of formality or casualness for a family pic… it makes me think of more chaos behind the scenes. I feel like Tori would be exhausting and chaotic to live with. I hope the kids are ok. It’s nice to see the oldest girl expressing herself with her fashion and hair, I’ll give Tori that! And it’s nice to see the siblings holding hands, looks like a genuine affection.
So. Much. Hair. Hair Everywhere.
The plumber bills, lol!
I feel so bad for those kids.
He’s on Pretty Hard Cases. It’s not a bad show. The actress who played Cindy on OITNB is the star. Comedy detective show. Hey at least he’s working and providing for his family.
I thought that was the biggest knock on them, that they were lazy spongers? Isn’t that what her mother said and why she cut them off? Can’t have it both ways, and supporting a family of seven ain’t cheap. But maybe once the pandemic restrictions lift they can all move up to Canada. I imagine that separation would be hard on any marriage.
I wouldn’t be surprised if Candy pays for the children’s bills but not Tori and Dean. Candy should have coughed up the money when they were complaining they couldn’t afford a vasectomy for Dean.
I seriously thought they’ve been divorced or separated for years.
What a sad, hot mess Tori and Dean have made of their lives. Those babies deserve stability and they’re in the midst of a hurricane. Tori recently met up with her former husband Charlie Shanian but he refused to have the meeting recorded. Evidently it really shook Tori. She came home to Dean crying about how Charlie was a good man and how safe he made her. What a mess she made of her life. Whew.
I realize there’s something psychological at the root of it, but her biggest problem seems to be her compulsion to shop. So there is the constant stress of debt but her inability to stop perpetuating the cycle. Every scam thing that she does is just in order to try to get more money so she can buy more stuff. It will never be enough regardless of whether Dean is working or not. If not for this, her relationship and family life may have turned out quite differently, but how can it survive this kind of insanity? She always wanted lots of children and she and Dean seemed smitten with each other In the early years.
It’s an addiction, just like alcohol or drugs. I think Tori is struggling with some kind of personality disorder. Mr. Jaded’s ex-wife was diagnosed with BPD and her addiction was binge spending — she continually racked up tens of thousands of dollars in credit card debt that she couldn’t pay down so he’d have to bail her out again and again. There must have be some deficit of love or acceptance from her parents that affected her early on. I recall her mother saying something like “you’ll be pretty once you’ve had cosmetic surgery” and that’s gotta hurt. Studies have shown that people with BPD have lower than normal serotonin levels which have to be boosted up with some kind of addictive behaviour.
She asked her mother if she (Tori) was pretty, and her mother’s answer was “you will be once you get your nose done.” She was just a little girl, like eight or nine.
In an environment like that she must have been hyper aware of her looks from a young age. It’s so sad, especially because she wasn’t a “pretty” girl. But she was just a normal looking kid who never had a chance to grow into and accept herself and the way she looked.
She might have found at a young age, and living an ultra wealthy lifestyle, that material items filled the void she felt between herself and her mother. They also might have been a way to seek and earn her mother’s approval—
My mother likes to shop and so I can shop with her. Idk. The more I think about it the worse I feel for her in this context.
I’m really surprised they are still together after all the financial problems they were having.
hasn’t the “end” been near for years?
Meh, I bet they are just shopping for a new reality show. Like they did a few years ago when they made up a fake woman that he had an affair with.