Heidi Klum on renewing her vows to Seal every year: ‘You can’t say I didn’t try’


Heidi Klum was married to her second husband, Seal, for about eight years. Their wedding ceremony at a resort in Costa Careyes Mexico was attended by Heidi, Seal and Heidi’s daughter, Leni, who Seal later adopted. On each anniversary following, they renewed their vows at same resort. The ceremonies grew to include their future children and a guest list that expanded upwards of 50 people. Heidi themed the ceremonies. In 2009, travel to Mexico was restricted due to the H1N1 virus, so the couple hosted their annual renewal at their home in L.A. with a “White Trash” theme. At that point, I many people began to question the point of the renewal, as it seemed they were more an excuse for a party than a true reaffirmation of vows. But Heidi just gave an interview to the Sunday Times in which she said that she was, in fact, trying to preserve their love with each ceremony. Obviously, they didn’t work. The Times article is behind a paywall, but Yahoo has an excerpt.

Officially, Heidi Klum has been married three times: to hairdresser Ric Pipino, then singer Seal, then her current husband, Tokio Hotel rocker Tom Kaulitz. During her marriage to Seal, however, the German supermodel and the “Kiss From a Rose” singer repeatedly renewed their marriage vows each year — but ultimately split in 2012.

“I think I got married eight times to Seal,” Klum, 48, now says of the former couple’s multiple trips to the altar in a new interview with the Sunday Times. “I thought it would be kind of, like, fun. I thought it would be a fest of love. But you know, that doesn’t work either. I tried, you can’t say I didn’t try!”

She admits that over time she began to lose faith in the repeat ceremonies: “Like, ‘This is really not working.’ But I tried.”

Seal, 58, has also addressed the vow renewals, telling Andy Cohen in 2015 that “that was my ex-wife’s idea, to be honest.“

Noting that he “disliked” that the ceremonies were publicized, he added, “It kind of turned into a little bit of a circus, which I wasn’t terribly fond of because, by default, I’m quite a private person.”

[From Yahoo!]

I don’t have an opinion on vow renewals in general. I feel that, like wedding ceremonies, it has to be what they couple wants. I’d have one if my vows were broken and we decided to give it another shot. But that’s how I feel about it right now (I could always change my mind, too). Plenty of couples view them differently and that’s great. Celebrate your relationship however it works best for you. I admit that I got the impression that Heidi and Seal’s renewals were almost a habit after a while, like Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon. They didn’t seem to have any sentiment behind them, more fun than anything. So I was surprised to hear Heidi was actually trying to buoy her marriage with them. I wonder if that’s what was behind the themes, to incorporate traditions she found so beautiful she wanted them to bless her marriage in that way. I’d struggle with what her “White Trash” theme brought under that theory, however. But if Seal was, as he claims, against them, then they were doomed to fail from the start. If he told Heidi he didn’t want them public and she went public, that’s not cool of her. If he never told her that at the time, then he’s set her up to fail. Either way, these two were obviously not on the same page.




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  1. Lady Luna says:

    He has always been low key, if she did them for attention that is messed up. I think (MOHO) having a vow renewal should be for 20 or 30 years.

    • Tom says:

      Some hate Holiday family newsletters. I hate vow renewals. You throw a wedding once. After that, just do an anniversary party, if you want a cute outfit and a catered affair.

      More than one is a sign of real trouble. Besides Heidi Klimt and Seal, Rachel Hunter and Rod Stewart.

      • tealily says:

        I feel the same. Honestly, I feel like most weddings are a bit over the top, let alone a renewal. Getting all your people together and celebrating is great. Constantly expecting people’s attention (and gifts?) is tacky.

  2. Lili says:

    ah i canrt say much about, since ive never been married. i loved them as a couple the meeting story was great. but it seems there was not very good communication between them . has he remarried ?

  3. Chelsea says:

    When they were together they were hailed as such a rare Hollywood success story that i can’t believe they were only married for 8 years. Tbh i forgot about all their renewals but i mostly remember their extravagant Halloween parties; looking back on it she did seem to do a lot more publicly than he seemed comfortable with but like you i wonder if he ever actually told her that or just went along with it to try and make her happy.

  4. GuessWhoIsBackVita says:

    I think he did tell her but I think he also wanted to make her happy. I was rooting for them. It was really honorable of him to step in and be a father to Leni. They had such a cute relationship.

  5. Lena says:

    They were one of those in your face couples, very performative, telling us all about their proposal, etc. I’m a cynic but I never trust couples like that. Why do you have to tell us all the time about how in love you are? That alone makes me wonder about it, and vow renewals seem unnecessary to me, unless you actually separated and want to recommit. At the time their renewals though seemed like an stunt.

    • Nikki* says:

      So many Instagram or reality tv couples are so much about appearances and impressing others. I just don’t trust them any more, and some grand romantic gestures now seem too try-hard, like engagement rings that could feed a 3rd world country for a week!

  6. Driver8 says:

    God they were so hot together!

  7. Ainsley7 says:

    I’ve always felt that vow renewals aren’t necessary unless you’ve broken them. So, if you’ve been through a really rough patch and made it to the other side, then it makes sense. I can also understand a couple wanting to celebrate after big milestones. So, like 10,25,50 years.

    It seems like Heidi was super insecure about her marriage the entire time. She got together with Seal during her pregnancy with Leni. Seal felt strongly that Leni was his child even if she wasn’t his biologically. Seal and Heidi were married a year after Leni was born and he officially adopted her. So, it may be the case that they were both really trying to convince themselves and each other that it was working when it wasn’t. Had circumstances been different they might have never gotten married.

    • Jayna says:

      I just think Heidi loved the spectacle of it all every year. Seal is extremely private. He just went along with it.

      They were absolutely one of my favorite celebrity couples because they looked so striking on the red carpet together and did seem to genuinely love each other. They were definitely one of the hottest-looking couples. Having a bunch of kids fairly close together and both being driven career couples that take you away, in hindsight, probably caused for a marriage that wasn’t as smooth as they always presented it to be in gushing love interviews (especially Heidi who did more interviews).

  8. Summergirl says:

    Renewing your vows constantly isn’t the same thing as actually working on your marriage. It’s just a performative, superficial thing. Heidi says “you can’t say I didn’t try,” but marriage renewal vows aren’t where the real “work” and commitment of marriage take place—of course I have no idea what went on in their marriage.

    • JustBe says:

      This! Putting on big parties isn’t the same as doing the work to shore up your relationship. As big and as public as those parties were, I doubt they even got a chance to spend any real time together during those events. I’m an introvert, so these types of events would never work for me, but I’m sure that they may boost people or couples that lean more toward extroversion. But, that doesn’t seem like Seal’s personality. So, it’s weird that Heidi Klum would point to the parties as proof of her attempts to improve her relationship.

  9. questions says:

    Did they marry really fast? She’s kind of obviously extra (not necessarinly in a bad way, but her personality leans this way). Setting aside that she’s a supermodel, it seems weird a private guy would marry her unless they married too fast.

  10. Starkille says:

    Marriage is like a fart, if you have to force it, it’s probably sh*t.

    Heidi just loves to party and loves a theme party. Also of which she is known for her Halloween parties every year (at least when she was living in the Us).

  11. Mee yo says:

    Didn’t he have serious anger issues?? She married him anyway. All the vow renewals in the world won’t help that rage.

  12. Bread and Circuses says:

    Their Hallowe’en parties were also huge, media-publicized affairs, so clearly one of them enjoyed that sort of thing immensely.

    And yeah, if it wasn’t both of them, the circus was doomed to become more of an irritant than a glue for their relationship.