Two weekends ago, DaBaby performed at Rolling Loud and he ended up offending a lot of people while he was on stage. He went off on gay people and HIV-positive people and he just went on and on. Instead of apologizing immediately and thoroughly, DaBaby was like “I’m sorry for being real” (I’m paraphrasing) and tons of high-profile people were like WTF. Dua Lipa issued a public statement against him. Elton John made a statement, as did Madonna. It got so bad that DaBaby lost work: with a 24-hour period, his scheduled appearances at Lollapalooza, Governors Ball festival and a Las Vegas festival were all cancelled. So finally, DaPublicist got through to him and he issued this statement on his social media:
“Social Media moves so fast that people want to demolish you before you even have the opportunity to grow, educate, and learn from your mistakes. As a man who has had to make his own way from very difficult circumstances, having people I know publicly working against me — knowing that what I needed was education on these topics and guidance — has been challenging. I appreciate the many people who came to me with kindness, who reached out to me privately to offer wisdom, education, and resources. That’s what I needed and it was received.
“I want to apologize to the LGBTQ+ community for the hurtful and triggering comments I made. Again, I apologize for my misinformed comments about HIV/AIDS and I knew education on this is important. Love to all. God bless. – DaBaby”
“…Having people I know publicly working against me — knowing that what I needed was education on these topics and guidance — has been challenging…” What in the world? People had been trying to get in touch with him and educate him about how f–king offensively wrong his statements were. They were privately and publicly yelling at him for a full week and instead of just stopping and listening, he dug in and refused to admit he was wrong. He even targeted Dua Lipa (his coworker) after she was appalled by his words. His argument is basically: sure, I said terrible things in public but that’s on everyone else for not educating me privately, and educating me with more kindness than I showed the LGBTQ community.
Photos courtesy of Avalon Red, IG.
Can we talk about the fact that a grown man calls himself DaBaby?
Seriously. I do not understand that at all.
So DaPR Team finally took Dahold of Dasituation to prevent Daidiot-baby from Dacancelation of his career and Dabankruptcy that was bound to follow?
To quote DaRappin’ Duke, “Da-ha-da-ha-da-ha ha ha ha ha🤣🤣🤣”
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Just think, had he just stuck to his misogynoir and gaslighting Megan thee stallion by bringing her abuser on stage, none of this would have happened.
I love how this has been brushed over. Yes, please highlight how he insulted those with HIV/AIDS and the gay community BUT ALSO please highlight how he spoke about how women’s nether regions need to smell/taste like water (which, I’m sorry, just doesn’t happen all of the time), especially if you’re sweating at one of these concerts.
I’m tired of the excuses people have been making for him even while he continued digging holes AND SO GLAD that it hit him DEEP in his pockets.
Wtf?
What an idiot
Yeah. 😓 At no point did he apologize for that, or to women for the misogynistic part of his rant that’s basically about women having pussies that smell like water if they have class. It says something about him and about some of the hierarchies still left.
i really admire megan but she is not perfect (she’s human) and her collab vid with DaBaby raised an eyebrow from me and i literally knew NOTHING about him i was only watching it cause it was a Megan video — and i got a really bad vibe from him in that video and uhm, i was right?
also, cool concept, not sure about the execution at all. it is one of the things that has lowered my admiration for her but that doesnt mean im still not a fan (plenty of celebs i like have collab’d with people i’m either not a fan or can’t stand)…. and i felt like this before ALL THIS ACTUAL mess of receipts came out! (cuz i felt it whenever the video came out and why the fuck should i google a creepy grown man named DaBaby)
and i hate criticizing megan because i want to lift her up, but her picker as bad as mine was when in my early/mid 20s and thats REALLY saying something (ive been in abusive relationships with people who are very charismatic and i am still struggling to ‘get out’ although ive made progress). anyway back to megan, to me it doesnt matter if they were dating or just some kind of FWB but the impression i got was she had *something* go on with tory lanes before he *shot her multiple times*
Now DaBaby cwying!
Apologies only seem to happen when there is damage done to the pocket book. This dude is not going to change his mind-set…he’s just going to hide it better. Same with Paula Deen. You think she didn’t know the “n” word was bad? Now she’s all changed huh? No one changes that fast. It takes a long time to erase ignorance and to truly educate yourself. This is just about money per usual. I think this man is actually very talented and has the potential to be huge. I just don’t understand why he did this.
Lmao at “dapublicist”!!!!
Dababy needs to shut daf*ck up and sit down. No one is buying it.
yeah that got a laugh from me the writing in this article was actually pretty great
Oh yeah “he” issued this apology statement. I doubt he even read this one.
I’m sorry this man baby is 29 years old. What kind of education did he need on HIV/AIDS in particular that he didn’t learn in health class. He graduated high school, even had 2 years of college under his belt. Other people are not responsible for educating him when he refused to be educated in the first place.
I graduated high school over a decade BEFORE this guy. I remember in middle school the subject of AIDS/HIV being very tentatively discussed but it was discussed. (early nineties).
That’s all. Rant over.
Are there rappers who aren’t trash? Not trying to be hateful – I’m not into rap, so all I can see is what’s covered here, and wonderful unproblematic people don’t always make for the best gossip. The ones I’m learning about here seem like pieces of work.
sure, but it seems like the music industry loves supporting the ones with issues.
I wouldn’t be surprised if the sexism in a lot of mainstream rap was deliberately supported over people who said something wise in their rap.
Unfortunately, that has had a disgusting influence on popular culture for decades.
It sure does seem that way based on what I’m learning here – that somehow sexism still sells, so they are allowed and perhaps even emboldened to say crap like that. I’m actually wondering if anti-gay rhetoric is related to sexism.
My best friend is a local rapper/producer and he makes LGBTQ+ friendly music. He even made a short, experimental children’s EP for Halloween a few years back that is dedicated to my little brother and a few of his cousins, so they do exist!
His first full-length record is full of inclusive songs, including one about how he’d rather hang out with the girls and paint his nails than posture around in a faux-hyper masculine haze with the guys. It ends in a rant about how standing back and letting others be jerks and not saying anything to them about it makes a person complicit and just as at fault.
He’s been sidelined by renal failure the last few years, but he had a kidney transplant in January, so he should be getting back to producing more music soon, both for others and himself.
Some of his work is on Spotify under Brian is Z. Check out that record, We Lurk Among You. My favorite song on it is Watermelon Elephant and the song I mentioned above is Puffed Up. Also recommended is Polyolyoxenfree, all about polyamory, consent, and respect for transgender and queer people.
I think you hit the nail on the head!
Anti-gay rhetoric is absolutely related to sexism.
Anything un-heteronormative – so all of the queer community – is a threat to the patriarchy. If there is another way to live, why should we continue with the status quo? This puts the patriarchy in danger.
In toxic male thinking, anything to do with femininity is less-than. Usually a woman desires a man, and vice-versa. So when a man desires another man, he is less-than. Even worse, he is a traitor to his gender. The consequences of this kind of thinking are exponentially worse for trans women.
I don’t think DaBaby’s views on this matter are very philosophical, but I do think that his behaviour is instinctually stipulated by these kinds of sexist views.
I didn’t even know who he was before this.
The first half, or maybe a little bit more, of his apology is all about how he’s the victim.
I was just going to say that I’m so over these “celebrity apologies”. It goes – 1) Say/do something offensive. 2) Get caught and subsequently called out. 3) Double down and/or give a lame apology. 4) Money is affected. 5) Publicist puts out 2nd apology that makes celeb sound like victim. 6) Goes quiet for a bit. 7) Forces a “comeback”. Back at 1.
Yup, hit them in the pocketbook. It works every time. That’s why the idea of making the unvaccinated pay more for health insurance is a good one. Nothing like the bottom line to make a person see more clearly.
A 29-year old is responsible for seeking his/her own education. He has internet access and probably people access. He could have looked up “How fast does HIV/AIDS kill someone in 2021?” You know, just to differentiate it from 1984 when we lost so many beautiful souls.
He’s gutter trash, hope this makes him fade into obscurity, he’s so revolting to even look at!