Brad Falchuk compliments Gwyneth Paltrow: ‘She notices. And she acts.’


Gwyneth Paltrow has been with a few men who are not publicly demonstrative. While Brad Pitt called her an “angel” on stage at the Golden Globes in the mid-90s, Gwyneth’s marriage to Chris Martin did not involve a lot of hype either way. They were rarely photographed together and they rarely referenced each other in interviews and they certainly never complimented each other online. Gwyneth’s energy with Brad Falchuk is so different. He loves hyping Gwyneth and she loves being hyped. Falchuk is very EXTRA about her and he has repeatedly used his social media to write these long-ass essays about how Gwyneth is the greatest person he’s ever known. He did this for her birthday (Sept. 27) and their anniversary (Sept. 29).

When you live with this woman, a few things become clear. There are the obvious things – that she’s beautiful, that she’s funny, that she likes things the way she likes them, when she likes them. That she is always busy – but also always has time for you.

But the two things that really stand out are that she notices. And she acts. A lot of people notice without acting. They notice. Then they complain or they gossip or they shrug. And a lot of people act without noticing. Sometimes it’s helpful, but that is a dangerous way to act. Because you’re usually just acting for yourself. But Gwyneth notices and acts. She may notice you need a hug and give you an outstanding one. She may notice that you’re hungry and make you a delicious egg sandwich. She may notice you love the Red Sox and she will live and die with them even if she doesn’t understand what the hell is going on in the game. She may notice that you’re tired all the time and she will get you the right doctor to balance your hormones or create a little chewy square to help you sleep or wake up or teach you to meditate.

She may notice that people still get weird about the word vagina and she will do something so that, for a few days at least, everyone is saying that word. She may notice that women are feeling funny about their bodies and how they are working and she will find brilliant people for them to talk to about it or have those experts write an article for Goop. She may notice that there is injustice. That there are people who abuse others and she will take a stand for the victims, even if it’s scary. Even if she was a victim, too.

She will notice that birthdays matter and so she will always show up to your party with a great gift. She will notice that you worked hard on something and she will amplify your work with whatever credibility she was earned. She will also notice if you are driving like an a–hole and act using her swear words and middle finger. I could go on and on. Really. Today is Gwyneth’s birthday. So today we notice her like she notices us every day. And we celebrate her because if anyone deserves to be celebrated it’s you, Gwyneth. Happy birthday.

[From Brad Falchuk’s Instagram]

While his extra-ness annoys the crap out of me, I’ll admit that I enjoy the fact that Gwyneth is finally with someone who openly adores her. She… um, didn’t have that in her life for many years. But yeah, this is just a weird compliment to give someone: I noticed that you notice things. Gwyneth creates products because she notices things. Products like bajingo-scented exploding candles.

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Photos courtesy of Instagram, Avalon Red.

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  1. Natters says:

    Happy for you Brad that you noticed your wife acts like billions of other people who also notice and act too with the ones they love and their community.

  2. minx says:

    For someone who presumably devotes a lot of time and energy to her appearance, her hair and skin always look so dried out.

  3. Same says:

    I noticed and I am actively yawning

    • Myjobistoprincess says:

      LOL I know Gwen probably read it, rewrote it and approved it for him to send out. That’s probably why it’s soooo cringe!!!

  4. Karelli says:

    I guess she found her mirror, just like Justin Timberlake did with Jessica. Narcissistic people need constant adoration. It’s the only way it « works ».

  5. HandforthParish says:

    Wow on that first picture she looks almost as old as her mother.
    She seems to have aged a decade since last year’s birthday photoshoot.

    • Cat C says:

      @HANDFORTHPARISH the sun is no one’s friend.

    • Granger says:

      Wow, that’s harsh. Does her husband look as old as his father?

      I’m the same age as her, and obviously a lot of my friends are the same age as her, and I think she looks like a 49-year-old woman. I’m not a big fan, but I do admire that she doesn’t seem to be going down the plastic surgery road.

      • Northstar says:

        Thank you. I also “aged” quite a bit between 45 and 50. That happens. I am proud of her for posting a photo without makeup and endless photoshopping.

      • NotSoSocialButterfly says:

        I’m 55, no surgery, injectables or peels, and my skin is much more youthful. It *is* the sun. And smoking. Sunscreen faithfully. And also use retin-A/ vitamin c serum!

        Also, BF looks a bit ghoulish in that photo…like she is sucking the life force out of him.

      • Granger says:

        @NotSoSocialButterfly, really? We all age differently and bully for you for looking younger than your age. Perhaps genetics plays a role? Because none of my 49-year-old friends smoke, they use sunscreen faithfully, and most of them follow a very good skincare regime. To say that this is why you look youthful and the rest of us look 49 is ridiculous.

    • Anne Call says:

      My takeaway was that she looked like a normal 49 year old women and was happy/willing to be photographed without being slathered in makeup and filters. I’ll take that look and the message it sends to other women any day.

      • Pusspants says:

        Thank you Anne Call & the rest of you that said what I was thinking. She looks like a woman that is 49yo and doesn’t have fillers or botox. I think she looks great & love that she does not GAF about showing her wrinkles!

  6. bettyrose says:

    Is it me or is he sorta cute? I can only imagine how grating he is to be around for anyone but her. He’s probably super status conscious and a shameless name dropper, but I’ve never noticed before he has kind of an appealing face.

  7. Kristen says:

    They seem super cute together, and him doing this kind of thing is adorable.

  8. lucy2 says:

    LOL I read that like Floyd from 30 Rock. “She runs…and sniffs…and jumps and stares. ”

    For their sake I hope they’re happy together, but IMO those who tend to go over the top in their declarations, especially on social media, are overcompensating for something, and trying VERY HARD to convince others. Or themselves.
    Or maybe they really are crazy about each other.
    Funny how few people mention they left spouses to be together.

  9. Becks1 says:

    I think she looks super cozy in that first picture and I want that sweatsuit/pajama/lounge outfit she is wearing, but its probably $$$$.

    For the post itself – oh its extra alright, but I kind of enjoy it. sometimes being extra and super cheesy is cute. If he was posting like that all the time, it’d be tiresome, but as it is, its cute.

  10. Monica says:

    If I didn’t know anything about Gwyneth, I’d probably like her.

  11. coolspray says:

    I thought that was kind of nice actually. And I think “noticing” followed by “doing something” is actually pretty rare. I meet people constantly who have a gripe or complaint but never get off their butt to better the situation or themselves… much easier to complain than actually do something!

    • Ange says:

      Does she really do anything though? An article on her website or a scented candle are all things she also benefits from and they’re not all that helpful. I don’t know, I think she helps herself a lot more than anything else.

  12. canichangemyname? says:

    She’s not my favorite, and I’m not sure how I’d feel about my partner being THAT extra about me. But if they’re happy, that’s nice for them. I find her pretty irritating at times, but I do like her in The Politician.

  13. Annaloo. says:

    Has she noticed that she overworks and underpays her Goop staff?