Duchess Meghan wrote an open letter in support of paid family leave

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The Duchess of Sussex has gotten pretty choosey with how, where and when she makes public statements. Part of that is that she’s been busy having babies and raising her babies, and that’s her priority right now. Her point this week is that every parent should be able to have time to have babies and raise their babies. She wrote an open letter to Senator Chuck Schumer and Speaker Nancy Pelosi about the need for universal paid family leave. The letter was published on the Paid Leave For All site, and you can read the full letter here. Some highlights:

Why this conversation is important in a pandemic: Over the past 20 months, the pandemic has exposed long-existing fault lines in our communities. At an alarming rate, millions of women dropped out of the workforce, staying home with their kids as schools and daycares were closed, and looking after loved ones full-time. The working mom or parent is facing the conflict of being present or being paid. The sacrifice of either comes at a great cost. For many, this sacrifice goes back further than the past 20 months; it’s 20 or 30 years, even longer—decades of giving time, body, and endless energy not just in the pursuit of the American dream, but simply the dream of stability.

The Sizzler salad bar: I grew up on the $4.99 salad bar at Sizzler—it may have cost less back then (to be honest, I can’t remember)—but what I do remember was the feeling: I knew how hard my parents worked to afford this because even at five bucks, eating out was something special, and I felt lucky. And as a Girl Scout, when my troop would go to dinner for a big celebration, it was back to that same salad bar or The Old Spaghetti Factory—because that’s what those families could afford to do too.

Taking parental leave: In June, my husband and I welcomed our second child. Like any parents, we were overjoyed. Like many parents, we were overwhelmed. Like fewer parents, we weren’t confronted with the harsh reality of either spending those first few critical months with our baby or going back to work. We knew we could take her home, and in that vital (and sacred) stage, devote any and everything to our kids and to our family. We knew that by doing so we wouldn’t have to make impossible choices about childcare, work, and medical care that so many have to make every single day. No family should be faced with these decisions. No family should have to choose between earning a living and having the freedom to take care of their child (or a loved one, or themselves, as we would see with a comprehensive paid leave plan).

You either pay for it upfront or you pay on the backend: In taking care of your child, you take care of your community, and you take care of your country—because when paid leave is a right, we’re creating a foundation that helps address mental health outcomes, health care costs, and economic strength at the starting line. Instead, as it stands now, we spend a fortune as a country paying into symptoms rather than causes.

America is so far behind on family leave: I’m writing to you on behalf of millions of American families who are using their voices to say that comprehensive paid leave should not be a place to compromise or negotiate. In fact, most nations already have paid leave policies in place. Estonia, for example, offers over a year and a half of leave to be shared by new parents. Many other countries have robust programs that give months of time for both parents (birth or adoptive) to be home with their child. The United States, in stark contrast, does not federally guarantee any person a single day of paid leave. And fewer than one in four workers has dedicated paid family leave through their employer. I’m sure you agree that if we are to continue to be exceptional, then we can’t be the exception.

This isn’t political: I know how politically charged things can—and have—become. But this isn’t about Right or Left, it’s about right or wrong. This is about putting families above politics. And for a refreshing change, it’s something we all seem to agree on. At a point when everything feels so divisive, let this be a shared goal that unites us. So, on behalf of my family, Archie and Lili and Harry, I thank you for considering this letter, and on behalf of all families, I ask you to ensure this consequential moment is not lost.

[From Paid Leave For All]

She signed the letter “As ever, Meghan” which is an amazing sign-off. If they make a bio-pic about her – a real one, directed by Chloe Zhao – it will be called As Ever, Meghan. Loved the shout-out to Sizzler’s salad bar, always a real one. Here in the South, we grew up on not only Sizzler’s salad bar, but the Country Kitchen salad bar. Anyway, it’s insane that America doesn’t have comprehensive family leave, maternity leave and paternity leave laws in place so here we are. A Sizzler-loving duchess is writing to the Senate Majority Leader and Speaker of the House. Both of whom are already advocates for paid family leave, as is President Biden. Schumer, Pelosi and Biden aren’t the issue here – the issue is turtleface Mitch McConnell and the rest of the Trump-thumpers.

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  1. Belli says:

    Is it weird to feel proud of someone you’ve never met?

    • Magick Wanda says:

      This comment just gave me a huge smile. If it is, I’m okay with being a weirdo. I’m very proud of Meghan and how she shines in the face of abuse and bullying. She just sparkles, her inner glow and love always come through.

    • Becks1 says:

      If you’re weird, then most of us here are weird, lol.

      One of the many things i love about this letter is how she took criticism and turned it into a positive. Like there was a lot of “noise” about Harry taking paternity leave etc, and now she’s saying “yeah he took paternity leave, and you know what? Everyone should be able to take paternity leave!”

    • BABSORIG says:

      Who was it that said the Sussexes need to one up the Cambridges on PR or else? Just sit back and watch this unfold.

      • L84Tea says:

        The Cambridges just got flicked off the front pages like a couple of gnats.

      • Jais says:

        Where’s @pao? Does this lessen the concern over a Cambridge takeover?

      • Chica says:

        @Babs that was @Pao.
        They mean well, but hope they stop by today and maybe offer something different than criticism.

      • Becks1 says:

        Pao is pretty pro-Sussex, I honestly think they’re legit worried that the Cambs are going to “beat” the Sussexes so it comes across like they think the Cambs “can”, you know?

      • NiqGee says:

        @Becks1, they can’t ‘beat’ the Sussexes. To paraphrase Princess Azula of the Fire Nation, The Keenbridges shouldn’t flatter themselves. They were never even players. The Keenbridges deal in PR hits, the Sussexes deal in projects. One will always outweigh the other.

    • MMadison says:

      And this my friends is Meghan…this is exactly what I have been waiting to see from her in the USA. She has a voice and she is using her voice to speak for those who can’t speak or who well not be heard. She has a seat at the table and she will be heard…..@Belli, I agree. I’m so proud of her! Our Duchess has just started her journey and I’m here for it!!!

      • Chica says:

        May I suggest those of you who are proud of her send her letters that tell her just that. Meghan, while she doesn’t allow other people’s words to go to her head, is a child that grew up with affirmative acknowledgement for when she did things good, and was praised for doing things for others besides herself. The positive letters she received while in ENG kept her hopeful in the darkest of times. I think it would be great to keep communicating our appreciation for what she’s doing and how proud we are. It’s the BH address on their Archewell site. She’s even written back thank you cards to some.

      • BnlurkN4ever says:

        @Chica, that’s a great suggestion. Everyone needs encouragement to keep going and there needs to be a balance of positives against the avalanche of negative coming from across the pond and sometimes from right here in the US.

      • Sondra Jackson says:

        @Chica, I also think that is a great idea, bur how would one contact her, via her Archwell site?

    • Cessily says:

      For a pure soul that uses her voice for others, never..💞

    • Abby says:

      I’m super proud of her too. Nodding my head to ALL of what she wrote. She GETS it. She just gets it.

    • Alexandria says:

      I’m Asian and I’m proud of her 😊

    • Chaz says:

      There are no appropriate words for how vested I am in Meghan’s incredible journey. She has set a new bar in what it means to be relevant. It’s probably time to stop mentioning or even comparing her to the royals –
      Meghan is on a very different trajectory.

    • swirlmamad says:

      Not at all. This is the way I feel about Madame Duchess Meg, too! I just love what she’s done, what she’s doing, and what she will inevitably accomplish in the future, with her loving, supportive, just-as-passionate hubby by her side. They are so beyond the Firm and other royals it’s not even funny.

    • Lexistential says:

      Not at all. Proud fellow weirdo here too. She doesn’t let hate bottle up her better self.

    • kimmy says:

      Just reading the excerpts , I was getting teary thinking about how much time I lost with my littles because we needed (and still need) my income to make ends meet.

      Meg is such a good person. We don’t deserve her.

      • L4frimaire says:

        I’m in the opposite boat. I actually didn’t even have my kids until I was laid off from my corporate job and went freelance. Before that didn’t think I could take the time out to have kids. I still freelance because it allowed me more flexibility but the income hit was very real and the childcare costs certainly didn’t go down. Kids are older now but the pandemic has certainly caused a lot of chaos work wise and with after school care.

    • Bookie says:

      I’m with you 100%! I feel almost maternal towards her while at the same time girl-crushing and copying her style. Kinda weird.

      • JT says:

        Meg’s letter made news in Indonesia, Canada, UAE, France, and elsewhere. She didn’t even have to leave her house or make an appearance. The Keens had a whole awards show and still couldn’t get this kind of press, so who is the one who needs to change up their PR again?

      • Babz says:

        @Bookie, your comment encapsulates my feelings toward her. She shows, time and again, the makeup of her character, and it shines brightly. She has a strong, clear voice, and despite everything she’s endured, she won’t be silenced. This letter is just remarkable.

      • Lorelei says:

        @Babz, agreed, it reads like Meghan actually wrote it— I read it in her voice in my head— and not like a bunch of vague sentences in a row like the ones that staffers write for Kate always do.

        Meghan is so naturally impressive and she makes it seem effortless. Her letter doesn’t come across as overly scripted; it sounds like she just sat down and wrote out her thoughts yesterday, and reads the way a normal person would speak to another person. It’s not full of platitudes or entire paragraphs which we’ve already heard from her, verbatim, for years. It’s honest and imperfect and relatable and that’s what makes people love her so much.

        One of the attendees at Earthshot called W&K “very approachable,” but I don’t see that at ALL. The Cambridges come across as imperious imo; the Sussexes have always been the approachable ones. Because they come across in person the same way Meghan comes across in this letter.

        I love that even though Meghan is wealthy enough that this is no longer a problem for her, and she easily could have said nothing and avoided the inevitable criticism but she didn’t!
        She’s getting a ton of sh!t for it because of course, but how many Americans are aware of this bill now, having had no idea it existed until yesterday? I just love her so much 😭

        “As Ever” is such a boss way to sign off. If I disliked her, I think I would find it so obnoxious, but since I fcking love her I think it’s great and hope she keeps using it.

    • Over it says:

      Nope, I am with you 💯

    • ACB says:

      As an adoptive mom, her inclusion of adoptive families really touched me. Rock on, Madame Duchess!

    • Christine says:

      It may be weird to some, but I am right there with you! As an adoptee, I LOVE that she included adoptive families.

    • Cara says:

      No mention of the fact she used her title in the letter – can’t have it both ways!

      • Jais says:

        Why not? Pretty sure she can have it any way she wants. She’s an American citizen and a duchess, that’s her married name. She can be both. People always trying to set limits.
        @christine-also love the adoption inclusion!

      • Christine says:

        Are you truly so jaded that you cannot recognize a woman who has power, and uses it to help the women who have no power, Cara? Sincerely, listen to your heart.

      • MMadison says:

        @Cara: The title doesn’t give Meghan the privilege to speak in this country. It’s her citizenship. She could’ve just sign it Meghan….it would’ve still had the same impact. For some CRAZY reason the Brits believe that it’s Meghan’s title that’s important….NEWS FLASH….It ISN’T. Meghan’s husband is a born Royal. His name is the Duke of Sussex as his wife she is the Duchess of Sussex….Americans didn’t make that rule. Who are we to tell her to drop the name of her husband? I haven’t heard anyone tell Hillary to drop Clinton, Michelle to drop Obama or Laura to drop Bush. Why should she drop the name of her husband?

    • Belle Prue says:

      I have tears in my eyes, hoping my daughter and son will be the recepient of a federally mandated parental leave.
      I had to quit my teaching job to have time with them.

  2. Becks1 says:

    I was so excited when I saw this yesterday. I loved that she didn’t just send a letter, she is partnering with organizations that are working for paid leave for all. I also love that she openly acknowledges that she and Harry are privileged and are able to take time off with their children without worrying about their jobs or bills – it should not be something that only the privileged can do.

    • Elizabeth Regina says:

      I love that substance and strategic thinking triumphed once again. You cannot compete against authenticity and lived experience.

    • Eurydice says:

      Yes, this is what separates her as a celebrity. She knows that she has influence, but also doesn’t make everything all about her. She directs people to organizations that can help. And what’s awesome is that her words were stronger and more clear about “early years” than anything Kate could say.

    • MMadison says:

      @Becks: I love how the British media was all excited over John Kerry and here Meghan pens a letter directly to the Speaker of the House of the USA and to the Majority Leader of Senate. For those of you who are not American the Speaker of the House is the most powerful member of our Legislative Branch of Government. She is 3rd in the line of succession if anything should happened to our President and VP. That letter was a huge flex by Meghan…. a huge flex!!!

    • Nic919 says:

      It was a good letter and I loved the personal touches about going to Sizzler. It’s the kind of letter you can tell she wrote herself and didn’t get staff to write vague comments that don’t mean much of anything.

      • Lyds says:

        It was a good letter. THIS is the kind of writing I love from Meghan: powerful, concise, evocative, with a direct call to action. Serious issues like paid family leave, food insecurity or period poverty benefit so much from a person like her, and like every other commenter here, I am so proud of Madame Duchess and the way she’s attached herself to worthy and relevant causes.

      • Lorelei says:

        @Nic I just said the exact same thing, before I saw your comment. There’s such a striking difference that it’s impossible to not see it.

  3. FeatherDuk says:

    Do you think perhaps the RAF has their panties in a wad because Harry could actually succeed as a politician here? Sure, he can’t run for Pres, but he could be a governor, house of reps, or senator.

    • Elizabeth Regina says:

      They will forever have their panties in a bunch as they play catch up. The latest keenshot stunt didn’t quite land despite throwing everything and I mean everything at it. No one even knows of the names of any of the winners and they actually lost a very passive UK audience. They need to learn the royal mystique has worn off. The glitter has truly fallen off the turd.

      • Jasper says:

        It really is a shame that in this competition, which was touted to highlight the work of so many innovators and activists, that the spotlight was continually placed on the William and NOT those who worked so hard to make positive changes.

      • Elizabeth Regina says:

        Exactly Jasper. And oddly enough, if they had put the winners front and centre and not be so keen to show off back stage images of themselves, they would have been taken more seriously and gotten the type of PR they so badly need. William at the end of the day is just a figure head middleman for other people’s money. Many don’t feel that he truly cares. As much as Charles is disliked, we know he actually cares about the environment.

      • Marivic says:

        Yes, you’re right. The winners of the Earthshot are still unknown. Hardly any coverage, not enough exposure. The Cambridges took all the credit, coverage and exposure— all for selfish reasons and to spite the Sussexes. They have turned themselves into clowns clowning and faking sweetness backstage only to have convinced no one but themselves that they’re bad at faking it. All smokescreen.

    • Cessily says:

      He would have to become a citizen to run for office, and that would truly send them into a rabid unhinged frenzy that would make the past few years seem like love letters.. That entire hate filled isle would implode. (I would vote for him🥰)

    • Alarmjaguar says:

      Forget Harry, I want to see Megan run! Though I don’t know if she would want to, but we need more amazing women in politics

      • Eurydice says:

        At this point, politics in the US is about getting elected so you can be reelected. I think Meghan can be more effective for her specific interests if she stays a private citizen.

      • Kviby says:

        I mean Meghan is the one who wrote the letter and is already American why is it about Harry running?

  4. Nev says:

    Go on Duchess. WERK.

  5. Scorpion says:

    That’s our girl, keep shining and eclipsing ☀️☀️☀️

  6. L84Tea says:

    THIS is why we stan Meghan. Because when she dominates the headlines now it’s because she’s making an impact on peoples’ lives, not because she wore a gold dress.

    • Elizabeth Regina says:

      Imagine that! The keens have pulled stunt after stunt even getting their PAs husband backstage to photograph ‘candid’ awkwardly staged moments. Until they learn to actually care and work, they will keep looking foolish.

    • Lorelei says:

      @L84Tea I happened to be on Twitter yesterday when this letter dropped, and it was AMAZING how quickly this dominated the TL. Chris Jackson’s “artsy, authentic” (lol) photos completely fell away in the blink of an eye.

  7. Fanciful says:

    Brought tears to my eyes. 20 years and a bit older than meghan, the poverty was crushing. If only we’d all had more choices. I wish my daughter hadn’t been babysat by a less than desirable because I was a single parent

    • Nick G says:

      Bless you, @Fanciful. That sounds really hard.

    • Chaz says:

      Fanciful -more of us have been there than it is comfortable to admit. There is comfort in realizing sometimes your best is all you had to give at the time. As a 60+ woman with her own struggles forgive that single mom in your mirror. Peace be with you.

  8. truthSF says:

    I love her passion, and how she always put 100% into everything she’s passionate about!!🥰

  9. Northerngirl says:

    I could hear her voice as I was reading it. Wow, she’s amazing, I’m not even American and I love her so much.

  10. SarahCS says:

    Outstanding and yet again pushing for tangible changes that will benefit people.

    I still struggle to understand how the US is still in this position in 2021. Do the Bezos-led corporations have SUCH power over the political landscape that they can keep blocking this? Society at large only gains with proper (so more than a couple of weeks) paid parental leave so it has to be greed that is stopping progress.

    The last company I was employed by updated its policies while I was there to go beyond the statutory requirements and offer an enhanced package because they realised that to make any progress on diversity and dealing with the talent shortage in their field (construction and engineering) they had to make it a more appealing place for women to work. This was one small but essential component of that.

    • NCWoman says:

      We still live in a society dedicated to white men. We need to elect more progressive to moderate women of multiple races at every level of government if we’re going to ever change things on a systemic basis.

    • MipMip says:

      @Sarah. Yes, those corporations do have that much power. It’s why the US needs to get money out of politics and completely reform our campaign finance and election laws.

      It is why Manchin and Sinema are blocking the infrastructure/build back better plan, it’s down to their big money donors flexing their power, that’s it.

      The UK has issues but I appreciate the way they run their elections, there is much less direct influence via political donors and only six weeks to campaign. That sounds like heaven to an American where our politicians are in campaign mode all of the time, focused on getting money from donors 24/7.

  11. Brit says:

    Good for her and this letter was amazing. I saw some bitterness last night about why she didn’t mention the UK or give them the letter to publish, lol. I’ve never seen people do the same foolishness over and over and expect a different result. Made her life hell, blamed her for everything, abuse her daily but want acknowledgement for her. As I said before, they’re traumatized that they haven’t cracked her and got access to her and bringing out Thomas the other day was a giant temper tantrum from a press who don’t what to do when it comes to her. Nothing has worked and they’re stuck. Harry and Meghan are a formidable team in so many ways but it’s their strength and dignity that makes me respect them.

    • swirlmamad says:

      Why on earth would she mention the UK?!?!?? For all their faults, the UK, along with the rest of Europe has done parental leave much better than the USA — this is a serious pressing issue here and we are light years behind. I swear I don’t understand how people can be this stupid and still manage to navigate through life.

      • Nic919 says:

        Seeing as how parental leave has a serious impact on the early years of children, the one in the UK should be focusing on that issue.

      • nina says:

        This. Why would she give a letter addressed to US politicians to UK publishers. She is an American and that is how Americans address issues with their Gov. Reps.
        Her connection to the UK is incidental. She married a British citizen, she lived there for a few months got bullied so bad went home to her home country. She has no connection with them now except the one they create in their own minds.
        She is exercising her right as an American citizen to lobby her government.
        Some people are beyond stupid and you can’t fix stupid.

      • Lorelei says:

        That’s always their knee jerk reaction to anything she does and it’s so stupid. When her issue of Vogue was released, they were all, “why isn’t THE QUEEN on the cover?!” Why on earth *would* the Queen have been included there?? Beyond delusional.

    • Deering24 says:

      “I saw some bitterness last night about why she didn’t mention the UK or give them the letter to publish, lol…”

      Oh, FFS. Like they wouldn’t have dissed her for intruding on Kate’s turf or being too political. 🤮🤮🤮

  12. heygingersnaps says:

    This is how a person with a platform should use their influence, to shine light on causes rather than just towards themselves (cough willnot and kannot). I am so grateful for the UK and that of the company that I used to work for, for their maternity leave policy when I had my child. It’s not perfect but I can’t even imagine where I would be without that safety net.

  13. Watson says:

    This was a powerful letter and something America has needed to addresss for years. Meghan is on the right side of history here. Also: sometimes her writing leans on the side of schmaltzy but this one was so solid. No flaws.

  14. ABritGuest says:

    Nice letter& good luck for all pushing this campaign. my US colleagues are always amazed by how much leave is available in the U.K.

    After press comments on how great it is that royals are woke now, speaking on issues of the day, praising the queen for calling out leaders’ inaction on the climate crisis, saying royals will be used to lobby China etc on climate change at cop26, it will be interesting to see if the press play the ‘royals can’t be political ‘ card again at Meghan.

    Going by their timetable of copying can expect a similar open letter from Kate in 2 years time lol. It’s nice that Meghan can advocate for families in this way & the letter it’s getting some high level support.

    In U.K. we have certain social care support funds being cut which charities say will push families into poverty. Would be great if the early years expert could highlight charities supporting such families. Could be a good way to highlight the needs without speaking out against government policy but hey ho

    • Watson says:

      Doubtful. That would require work without a splashy debut. So far Meghan has written several passionate letters and op Ed’s that didn’t involve her attending any premiere, party or pr stunt. This is extremely unusual for any celebrity considering how much press they have all gotten. She was able to pull an Angelina Jolie level of attention based on words alone.

      I don’t think Kate or William is able to do the same I’m afraid.

      • Brit says:

        They can’t. They tried it Mike Bloomberg and Jill Biden and it made little to no traction. Her NY times piece about her miscarriage was more impactful that anything Kate has ever done. I can see why they’re jealous.

      • Lorelei says:

        Kate has spent the last two decades trying as hard as she can to not speak a word or let the public know a SINGLE genuine thing about her personality. It must be exhausting keeping that wall up all the time. And that’s the reason she could never write anything as powerful as this; she’s too determined to remain a blank slate. Meghan shines through here, and Kate is determined to remain completely unknowable (and therefore unrelatable).

    • Belli says:

      If Kate was smart she WOULD copy and piggyback onto this in some way. It would play into her supposed passion for Early Years. It would get her nothing but positive press (because it’s apparently good that the royals are woke and political now), maybe even in the US where she and Willy are so keen to be celebrated. And she’d get to paint it like she’s the wronged party in a Cambridge/Sussex feud by magnanimously supporting her SIL’s cause because she cares soooo much about children while Meghan holds a petty grudge. The spinners could even do that thing where they credit Kate for Meghan’s work and say Meghan was inspired by Kate’s passion for early childhood development.

      • SunRae says:

        Balance me @Belli, because maybe I’m slow. In what capacity would she be latching on to this? Given that Meghan is two things she isn’t… American and coherent? She and her bland-mate husband need to focus on their kingdom. Literally no one is checking for them beyond it.

      • Nic919 says:

        The UK parental leave system could always stand to be improved. Also the UK cut off benefits for more than two kids at about the time she was pregnant with Louis. So if kate cared she could work on these issues to improve the early years. But we know she doesn’t care.

      • nina says:

        Please, no. Don’t give them anymore ideas on how to exploit H & M. I for one, just want them to stay on their little island walled off in their palaces. They are a lot whose time have come and gone. They are beyond their expiration date.

      • Wiglet Watcher says:

        It would be amazing if the Cambridges started copying the Sussex on things like this. Actual changes we can make today that will help strengthen our futures.

        Lol Meghan made Early Years impact with a few sentences. Kate has claimed a passion for early years for maybe 2 years now and has done absolutely nothing.

      • aftershocks says:

        @Belli said:
        “If Kate was smart she WOULD copy and piggyback onto this in some way. It would play into her supposed passion for Early Years… And she’d get to paint it like she’s the wronged party in a Cambridge/Sussex feud by magnanimously supporting her SIL’s cause because she cares soooo much about children while Meghan holds a petty grudge.”

        Seriously @Belli!? 🙄

        As we know, W&K have been experts at ‘piggybacking’ onto Harry’s ideas and initiatives, over the years. But those days are completely over! Cannot and Willnot have been exposed for the petty, selfish, insecure persons they are. We’ve always known they are boring and lazy. Neither of them will ever hold a candle to M&H’s flex.

        Meghan is in a different stratosphere than Kate Late Lamebridge. Kate, with the rota’s help has previously tried mightily to piggyback on Meghan’s ideas and projects. And it has never worked for Kate. It’s just made her look desperate and CopyKate.

        Remember the great spoofing Twitter thread on Kate that arose when a rota rat tried to give Kate credit for Meghan’s SmartWorks wardrobe project, promoted when the 2019 British Vogue issue dropped. Also, it was Meg’s launch of the Together Cookbook to help the Hubb Community Kitchen women, which provoked Kate’s staffers to come up with the lame ‘Broken Britain/ Early Years’ vanity project in the first place! Kate has no ideas, and she’s gotten no traction from piggybacking, post M&H marrying and becoming a dynamic duo.

        Your attempt to try flipping the script with the gaslighting scenario of Meg being the petty one, is a ridiculous Cambridge-stan over-reach!

    • Sid says:

      “In U.K. we have certain social care support funds being cut which charities say will push families into poverty. Would be great if the early years expert could highlight charities supporting such families. Could be a good way to highlight the needs without speaking out against government policy but hey ho”

      ABritGuest, it’s missed/ ignored opportunities like this that just seem to prove what many have been saying, in that the whole Early Years project was hastily put together to compete with Meghan and the way she really did hit the ground running with projects.

    • aftershocks says:

      @Abritguest said:
      “Going by their timetable of copying can expect a similar open letter from Kate in 2 years time lol.”

      LOL. Meghan has written at least one additional open letter previously. I believe M wrote to a charity involved with women’s advocacy issues? Or, maybe it was an open letter to the ACU, or both. I don’t recall the details.

      Afterward, it didn’t take long, of course, for Kate’s staff to write an open letter to a British Midwife group, with Kate signing off, as if she had anything to do with either the idea or the composition of the letter. LOL!

      W&K both need to stay in their own U.K. lane, self-reflect on their egregious errors and character faults, and try to correct themselves! Charity begins at home. Of course, that’s not going to happen, as W&K are known to be petty and foolish, stumbling and bumbling their way through that ill-conceived Scottish train tour, for example, during the pandemic lockdown. They both need to keep their distance from the American sphere. They are boring, mean-spirited, and inauthentic.

      Meanwhile, Meg and Harry are always booked and busy, working purposefully behind-the-scenes, and dropping meaningful work when the time is right. I’m not surprised by M’s passionate, well-expressed and well-received advocacy for parental leave.

      M&H are so skilled and dynamic. What they are doing to help others, and contributing toward making the world better, truly lifts my hopes for the future. Their entire vibe has always been so bright and inspirational during trying times for them personally, and during such a challenging time for us all on a global scale.

  15. Ella says:

    This is great! I would still love her to find a more discerning editor though. I hope she is lobbying her local reps too!

    • SunRae says:

      If she needed a discerning editor she wouldn’t be making the waves she’s making with her current writing style. Incidentally, I think it’s Meghan’s earnestness, which is easily misconstrued by people who’ve never seen it, is why she does so well and to the detriment of her detractors. She has an unfathomable lack of cynicism. It’s rare, and because so… it works.

      • Jais says:

        Well-said, @sunrae.

      • Ella says:

        I say this as someone who works in publishing: she still needs a discerning editor.

      • Maria says:

        I agree with SunRae.

      • L4frimaire says:

        @Ella, agree that Meghan can be a bit florid sometimes in her writing but here it works. It’s a little bit Mr.Smith goes to Washington idealism. Americans are nostalgic and still very much into the Ozzie and Harriet narrative of families. Her writing of this letter uses that framing to put across how she feels and trying to appeal to those in Congress who also have families to empathize with this new economic reality families grapple with today . If she was writing a straightforward op-Ed or policy piece, totally get what you’re saying in the need to be more succinct , but this letter hits the emotional notes as well. Some good takeaways and quotes you can pull from it.

      • BnlurkN4ever says:

        @Ella, your working in publishing doesn’t make your opinion more valid than anyone else who read the letter. Your left your opinion on it, there’s not need to announce your qualification.

      • aftershocks says:

        @Ella said:
        “I would still love her to find a more discerning editor though.”

        Thanks to @Sunrae and other CB posters for responding to @Ella. As has been noted, this particular letter by Meghan hits all the right notes. It doesn’t need ‘a discerning editor.’ It has Meghan’s heart, passion, and timely precision.

        A discerning editor was needed for Scobie & Durand’s FF book! LOL 🤪 I blame their publisher for rushing it out so quickly after Sussexit when it was nowhere near being a good finished product. I avoided the reboot, which wouldn’t have been needed had they waited and done a more thoughtful job. But that’s the publishing industry and the royalty industry for you: always on the lookout for quick bucks exploitation, rather than well-researched, polished work.

        A big thing you don’t get @Ella, is that Meg has never tried to be perfect. She simply utilizes all that she’s got, in-the-moment, to act on her passionate ideas in support of worthy causes. And she always comes prepared with knowledge of the causes and issues she’s advocating on behalf of. M& H are always conferring with experts in various fields allied with their passions. So she makes sure that she’s informed and thorough, but she’s not going to wait until her prose is rated perfectly suitable by incessant critics.

        This positive, proactive action is a Meghan signature, and it’s what makes her so productive and successful. I think this is a teachable moment. In order to accomplish a heartfelt goal, don’t wait to be letter perfect. Try hard with what you’ve got and see how much you can achieve. I always learn a lot from Meghan, and I’m in her mother’s generation. LOL 🥰

        Your nitpicking on this letter @Ella is off-base. It’s as if, because Meghan, The Duchess of Sussex is so bada$$, somehow you must find something to critique. I don’t think Meg’s writing is perfect, but it’s pretty damn good, and it always gets the job done without any hemming and hawing, and anxiously trying to be perfect. Meghan always leads with her heart. She’s comfortable in her own skin, and she’s admittedly ambitious to achieve great things in helping to uplift others.

        In general, those people who have to wait to be perfect, with the help of ‘a discerning editor,’ never get much done.

    • Amy Bee says:

      @Ella: You can’t criticise her for her action so you go for her writing. We see you.

      • Ella says:

        Hi Amy Bee – if you look at my last commenting history it’s clear I’m a fan. It’s okay to (mildly) criticize those you like and root for.

      • Lorelei says:

        I’m totally with you, @L4Frimaire. I have found her writing to be…a bit much in the past, but for some reason, this letter just works perfectly, imo, and hits all of the right notes without being overly earnest. It’s imperfect, but that’s what makes Meghan so perfect, if that makes sense? She’s willing to open herself up and I think she did it really well here.

        If she had a discerning editor, it would have taken away from the authentic tone that she struck here, and imo a letter like this *should* sound genuine and not overly edited to perfection. As Nina says below, she isn’t submitting this for publication, she’s telling people how she feels about this issue and why.

    • nina says:

      Shes not trying to get published. She’s lobbying Congress. They like getting letters like these, it shows they are in touch with their constituents and they like to have actual letters written by ordinary people.
      Sometimes a letter written by an ordinary person instead of a paid professional has more impact.

    • SunRae says:

      @Ella I also work in publishing lol. Editorial standards vary and are subjective. The best measure of successful content today is audience reach and participation. But those standards, it doesn’t seem like she needs the advice does it?

    • MsIam says:

      Its not a book published for sale though, its a letter to Congress just like any citizen can write. Its not even a newspaper or magazine article, I guess you could compare it to a letter to the editor.

    • Jaded says:

      @Ella — Meghan is not a professional writer, her prose comes from her heart. If one writes from a strictly editorial POV it often comes across as impersonal and pontifical. Her aim is to touch people, to move them and to highlight needs of the community, not to stick to dry editorial standards.

  16. Fanciful says:

    Holding breath for ‘Meghan’s interfering in US politics’ and ‘how dare she politicise the RF’ in 3, 2, 1

    Never mind keens husband meeting conservatives

    • I pet goat 2 says:

      I mean, she’s using a royal title from another country to lobby politicians in the US. It’s not great, diplomatically. Personally, I wish she had at least used a different letter template, here.

      Of course, she’s 100 percent right about the topic and in what she’s saying.

      • Kaiser says:

        counterpoint: a married woman is using her married name on an official letter.

      • mariahlee says:

        She’s not a diplomat tho. She’s a private citizen speaking on behalf of herself, her family, and the organizations/campaign that requested she share this letter. The title is weird in a US context, but it is her name and without HRH it has no significance. I see it as a stage name, like Megan thee Stallion lol

      • Lila says:

        She’s not using her HRH, and as other people have said it, her married name is literally The Duchess of Sussex. I don’t see the issue because she’s an American citizen living in the US and it’s a known fact that she does not represent the Queen anymore.

      • L4frimaire says:

        The title is tricky because that is her actual name now, but I’m more comfortable with just Meghan Markle, especially in a political context, since we shun titles as a nation. It’s tricky to figure out. However, even if she did that there would be pushback.

      • MsIam says:

        Meghans not acting on behalf of the Queen or any government. If she were not a US citizen you could question it but since she is and she is living here then its fine.

      • Myra says:

        For it to be wrong diplomatically, she’d have to be a diplomat of some sorts. As the royal family has made it clear that the Sussexes don’t represent them, there is no diplomatic issue here. As others have mentioned, you have to think of the Duchess of Sussex as a legal, married name. Outside of the UK, it doesn’t have any real meaning.

      • Lorelei says:

        The thing is, the people complaining about this only want to criticize her— they need to pick a lane.

        A few months ago, they were GLOATING about how meaningless their titles were without the HRH, and how that was the Queen “punishing” them publicly and severely. Now they’re mad she’s using it because even without the HRH, she’s out of bounds. Which is it??

      • Agreatreckoning says:

        There is no lie in how she signed it. It is her name.

        Though, signing it Madame Duchess would have been awesome.imo

    • Mary Mae says:

      They’ve been losing their minds in WaPo’s FB posting for this since yesterday.

      • MsIam says:

        They would have to have minds worth losing for that to matter, imo. I’ve seen those comments before and most are trolls/ bots. Very repetitive.

    • Marivic says:

      @Fanciful . The DM is on this already. It rants on Meghan trying to prepare herself for her political ambitions as president of the USA. DM is crazy and evil.

  17. Sunshine says:

    I still can’t believe how inhumane that system is. Where are the anti abortion activists who want to force women to have babies? Why aren’t they fighting for a safety net?

  18. Jais says:

    Epic and awesome. Let her words become the reality: paid leave for all.

  19. Chelsea says:

    That part about how we pay for “the symptoms not the cause” is so spot on and reminds of one of the few semi fair criticisms of Meghan’s work when she was in the Firm which was that as a royal her hands were tied to the point that she couldn’t really address the root cause for so many problems because it might get deemed “political”. I think she tried in her work to get at it as much as she could ,helped a lot of people, and did more than the other members were willing to, but she wouldn’t be able to as bluntly state it as she does in this letter and lobby for systemic change as she is now, which is another reason I’m so happy that she left and is back home. (If the shoe were on the other foot obviously none of the current RF would use their new found freedom in this way which is what makes Meghan Meghan).

    As for why this is addressed to Pelosi and Schumer: they are currently working on Reconciliation for a bill that includes Paid Leave and there’s worry they could back off of the needed Paid Leave Plan to appease Manchin and Sinema. I think she wants to focus the media and public’s attention on this measure, which is very popular amongst all voters, to make sure it doesn’t end up as a casualty in the negotiations. It’s a very well written letter that hits good personal notes while also brilliantly talking through the overall ramifications of not taking action and it’s spreading like wildfire on sm and traditional media as well which is fantastic.

    • AnonyCat says:


      I was going to mention the context that you added in there. I think it is important to note that Meghan didn’t write this to re-assert the importance of paid leave; rather, she wrote this to pressure the Congress into not dropping a family friendly policy under the guise that it is too expensive.

      2 people are not a reason to leave a nation of over 300 million in the lurch. I hope more people push and push, so that the paid leave stays in the bill. I also heard many other Congress members wrote letters. It’s kind sad how much government is willing to shaft women and their families for the benefits of ?????

  20. mariahlee says:

    That she can wield her platform without even showing her face is powerful. And like others have said, this is what distinguishes her from those attempting to emulate. They’re in different realms, when you think about it.

    This is purposeful brand building that’s true to who Meghan is and consistent with the values she’s demonstrated through her *entire* public life. Love it.

    • sunny says:

      This part! She is authentic and her values are aligned with her causes. Love that she did this for this important issue.

  21. Cel2495 says:

    Our madame duchess is the best

    • Name keeps changing cos I delete my cookies says:

      Theeee best!! And without showing her beautiful face too. Just words.

  22. Alexandria says:

    I really like this initiative because it is not just vague words for action. It is calling for a specific action. That’s impact that can be measured.

  23. Nanea says:

    I love that people like Alexis Ohanian, who has been campaigning for paid parental leave for quite some time, all retweeted the letter.

    • swirlmamad says:

      Yes! Saw so many retweets by plenty of famous heavy hitters as well. Warms the heart to see.

  24. Over it says:

    Thank you so very much Madame Duchess for always seeing the bigger picture.

  25. Maria says:

    I just adore her and this is why!! She continually shows up and does so from a place of compassion, politeness, and information.

    Trolls were screaming about how “privileged” she is, of course showing they didn’t even read the letter. Pathetic!

  26. Amy Bee says:

    I’m glad that she’s not to speak out on important issues. There’s no way someone can be an advocate without speaking to the political leaders

  27. Plums says:

    I love the issues she’s willing to step in for- it’s really a brilliant political move on her part. No one can argue that paid family leave is a super partisan issue. I mean, there’s no legit, convincing argument against it conservatives can use because it’s a universally popular idea. They’re probably fuming she brought such a spotlight to it before they could quietly cut it out of the reconciliation bill.

    Also, I love how one open letter advocating a right for paid family leave and explicitly laying out the benefits of such a system brought more legit attention to the cause of early years than all the ham-fisted PR exercises of struggle surveys and “woman working” stock photos of writing notes in front of nonsense pie charts and holding a phone at a desk coming out of KP. Now, in absolute fairness to KP, paid family leave is not an issue in the UK because the US is so uniquely barbaric in not having it at all, but seriously. It’s basically different facets of the same issue, and this letter just absolutely put paid to the notion that Kate has ever been a real advocate for any issue, ever.

    • Nic919 says:

      The UK did cut off child benefits after your second child about the time Louis was born. And they needed to get unicef to help feed children recently. There are in fact huge issues in the UK relating to young children, but wearing a gold dress is a more important priority.

  28. Just Me says:

    This is how it is done!
    Pie Chart Kate take a seat!

  29. NLB says:

    Here in Brazil we have a 4 month paid leave and public servers have a 6 month paid leave. And, as a mother of a baby, let me tell you, it is not enough. Exclusive breast feeding is recommend until 6 month. the first two years of a baby are the most important one in terms of development, emotional security, health and family connection. Also, to take care of a baby and a house in a 24hour spam, you need at least 4 people to not affecct anyone’S mental health.

  30. Bettyrose says:

    Serious question, how do American parents manage? When I was in my thirties, my partner and I both worked full time in white collar jobs but it would have been a huge financial stretch for us to pay $2k/ month for child care so we could both return to work (on top of diapers and all the baby accoutrements). It would’ve been more affordable for one of us to stay home with a baby, but the one of us would’ve been out of the job market and lose out on pay, career advancement, and retirement savings. Returning eventually to the workforce at a disadvantage. We never wanted children so it’s not a decision we had to make, but how does anyone manage it?

    • AmelieOriginal says:

      The truth is they barely manage. My mother was lucky she had 12 week of paid maternity leave in the late 80s/early 90s when my sister and I were born. Some employers offer 8 weeks, some 4 weeks. When my friend went on maternity leave, she worked for a nonprofit that didn’t technically have maternity leave. She went on “disability leave” which I can’t remember lasted how long, maybe 6 weeks. I think she took another 6 weeks unpaid to make it to 12 weeks. I remember her telling me this and I was like why the hell would you continue working there. Another friend who is currently pregnant and a federal employee is thrilled she gets to take advantage of the 12 weeks paid leave that Trump’s administration passed for federal employees. She didn’t have the same benefit when she had her first kid in 2020.

      About 9 US states have paid family leave, which means 41 states don’t have any. I’m proud to say my home state of NY has it and CT where I live kicks in next January 1st. Most of the states with paid family leave are unsurprisingly located in the Northeast which is traditionally governed by democrats. DC also has it along with Washington state and California as well. Oh and I think Colorado. And I think some other states have it on the docket but have not passed their policy yet. But it shouldn’t be dependent on where you live or who your employer is.

    • AthenaMachina says:

      @Bettyrose How do American parents manage? I don’t know how, we just do. My partner and I welcomed our daughter last November. We both have white collar jobs and are well off compared to many. I was back at work at eight weeks (post c-section) because that’s when my short term disability plan ran out. Because we were remote, my parent and I were both caring for an infant and working simultaneously for her first few months. I felt she was too tiny to go into daycare before four months. And then we she did go, she was constantly sick for her first six months there. You’re still paying full price for daycare, even if your child is out for most of the month with an ear infection, a head cold, or you’re on Covid quarantine. And in the meantime, you’re still juggling work obligations, pets, the housework, maybe self-care if you’re lucky.

      I love my daughter but this is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Coming back to work after eight weeks was awful. The lack of support in my job was awful. The cost of daycare is astronomical. We’re only having one because of a combination of all of these factors.

      • bettyrose says:

        Congratulations on your new baby! Thank you for sharing your experience.

        I have a cousin in her mid twenties who’s expecting her first child this year, and I have my concerns. She’s young but she has a good job. Her husband’s job is less secure. They also *just* bought a house at the top of their budget.

        Still, they’re actually older and more settled than my parents were when I was born, so it’s crazy that I should be concerned, but my parents were so stressed out when I was young. I wouldn’t wish that level of stress on anyone.

    • Becks1 says:

      So, thankfully when I was pregnant with both my babies I got a nice promotion that helped a lot for daycare costs. My job at the time (federal) did not offer “parental leave” per se but I was able to save my sick leave and annual leave and have enough to make sure I had 12 weeks paid leave for my first – it took almost 3 years and for the full 12 weeks to be paid, I had to use the leave I was accruing while I was ON leave so I went back with no leave saved. But soon after that I got a bump in leave (from 4 hours a pay period to 6) and that made a big difference, so I was able to take 14 weeks off paid with my second and did not have to use the leave accrued while I was off.

      It’s kind of ironic bc the federal government has such generous leave policies for people who have been there for a while. Even now every year I have to make sure I don’t waste any leave and I keep 6 weeks of annual leave in the “bank” and I have about 14 weeks of sick leave banked. But my kids are 9 and 7. When I was actively saving leave, it meant no days off unless I used credit, so I was working a lot of extra hours to make sure I had those extra days for long weekends etc.

      Daycare – that’s hard no matter how you look at it. I know a lot of people who have grandparents watch the kids. We used the government daycare which was excellent and a lot cheaper than a normal center (when we left it, I was paying 1900 for two kids at a very well respected national chain a month, which was…..cheap, relatively.) But it was a HIT, and my husband and I by that point were both making decent money.

      It’s hard. There’s no doubt about it. We need to be better about paid leave, we need to be better about childcare options, AND we need to be better about health insurance – bc I’m a federal employee, I have never once worried about the cost of healthcare. My insurance is great. But many, many people do not have that.

      Basically there are a ton of perks to working as a fed when it comes to having children (the “no days off” for years kind of sucked, but many people can’t even bank leave like that) and I wish more of those perks trickled down to private companies or were made into laws.

      • bettyrose says:

        Becks1 –

        It’s no joke that public sector employment is the closest Americans have to the kind of social benefits other first world countries enjoy. Thank you for sharing your experiences.

    • Plums says:

      My mother was able to be a SAH mom when my sister and I were small children because my dad had a white collar job, but that was back in the 80’s and early 90’s. It’s way harder to be a single income home and remain comfortably middle class these days. I can’t imagine how parents these days who are dependent on two incomes manage if they don’t earn enough money to spend on daycare. I guess they rely on grandparents to take care of the kids for free.

  31. Amy T says:

    Good for her. Now, if the people with the power to make changes will listen….

  32. aquarius64 says:

    This is wonderful. Meghan is NOT using her title; the BM is mad that this letter is starting conversations all over the world. That’s something Kate can’t do. Also the 4.99 Sizzler, Meghan confirmed that the Markles were not rolling in dough. No way Bad Dad was paying for her education in high school or college if they were they were doing 4.99 dinners. Most likely Meghan went on scholarship or some financial aid.

    • L4frimaire says:

      The thing is, even with all of his awfulness, she still said “ parents” in that letter, not just her mom, which acknowledges both parents contribution. Such a bad father for what he continues to do.

      • aquarius64 says:

        By parents Meghan is acknowledging Doria had a big role in her care and contributed to her education. Meghan gave that as testimony in her lawsuit with the Fail. TT has been railing he paid ALL of Meghan’s schooling and Doria did nothing. Meghan was merely stating a fact about Bad Dad in the past. In four years he has transformed into a vindictive greedy monster that killed any love Meghan had. He may have been this way before Harry. And it shows NO amount of money paid to take care of you makes you a good parent.

      • Anne says:

        I thought that Bad Dad’s larger funds came from the large lottery winnings he had. I read that he gave part of it to each kid. Samantha (ugh) never went to college and I don’t know about Bad Dad, Jr. but they used their money in different (non-scholastic0 ways since they were much older than her. Meghan used hers for part of her schooling, in addition to scholarships and loans, much like many students have to do. Bad Dad is just trying to elevate himself at Meghan’s expense AGAIN.

        Off-topic but he belongs to the club of dreadful parents, like Vanessa Bryant’s mother (for suing Vanessa the same year she lost her husband Kobe and young daughter to a plane crash); or like Britney Spears’ dad (for well-documented reasons); and basically any parent who takes advantage of their children for greed and profit, regardless of what their actions do to said offspring.

  33. Slippers4 life says:

    In Canada we now have a year that can be shared with all guardians and the pay depends on your employment insurance contributions. Many employers also have top ups in their benefits. My employer tops up to 80% which is essentially the same take home after taxes. People are going to have children. Benefits like this retain employees and allow for businesses to reduce long term spending. There are always growing pains with something new, but, give it 5 years and the business sectors will be saving so much money on receruitment and absentees they’ll wonder why the US hasn’t done this for years. Economies can’t survive without population growth and without consumers being able to afford the products. It’s not “paying people to be off”. It’s paying people to nurture the development of the future overseers of the US economy, and what a robust economy it can be if those overseers had a healthy early development. Paid parental leave is truly something that benefits everyone regardless of their politics. I do hope the US comes around and that the naysayers do the math ans see reason. They always seem to forget the “economic” in “socio-economic”. Kudos to the Duchess of Sussex for lending her relatable and intellectual voice. Funny enough every early years research supports paid parental leave…wonder if the Duchess of Cambridge could share some notes? Lol

  34. Bettyrose says:

    I loooooved that Sizzler salad bar as a kid. It meant I was having chocolate pudding as a main course.

    • Lorelei says:

      @BettyRose I remember loving having access to the soft serve ice cream machine and running back for more and more, lol

  35. Tiffany says:

    It’s amazing that people are still shocked about maternity leave when Republicans have made it known since inception that women are only useful for making babies and staying home. One of the primary reason they worked so hard to reverse Affordable Care Act is because it was beneficial to women’s health and birth control options.

    I mean, some out here really shocked.

  36. Monica says:

    Cue the keen one mumbling about workers’ rights in 5… 4… 3…

  37. Chimney says:

    Love this and love her but I keep forgetting about that second baby!

  38. Athena says:

    My first pregnancy I carried twins, six months in I was ordered to stop working, the doctors were concern that the hour and a half commute by bus, subway and walking was harmful, one of the babies was sitting on my cervix. Even with that intervention a month later I started spotting and was having contractions. This let to full bed rest, a monitor to measure the contractions, and a weekly shot to help the babies lungs develop. My water broke a week short of eight month, I was hospitalized and delivered a week later. During the delivery the doctor accidentally cut my bladder, so I had to have surgery right after the delivery. I know I was paid throughout, (probably covered under the company’s paid family leave) if I wasn’t and money was an issue I would have remembered. I can’t imagine if I had to go through all this worrying about finances, about my job, about the medical bills.
    This country is lagging behind when it comes to maternity/paternity leave, it’s lagging behind when it comes to health care that is not tied to a person’s job, and providing people with a financial safety net when dealing with health issue. Some politicians have turned basic human rights into a political issue and unfortunately too many Americans are willing to vote against their best interest.
    I applaud Meghan for putting herself out there and for using her voice.

    • Bettyrose says:

      I was at a fairly new job when I had emergency surgery .. two weeks in the hospital and another two weeks at home before I was cleared to work. HR did all the work to get me on state disability so I didn’t miss a pay check during that time (on the state’s dime. Not my employer’s). Fortunately due to the ADA my job was safe until I returned to work (at which time they could have legally fired me for cause but they didn’t have cause and genuinely wanted me to return, thank goodness). Point being that we have a few protections in the US but not a lot. Being in California probably helped somewhat for state benefits.

  39. L4frimaire says:

    When this dropped the conversation switched immediately. I am really impressed by this and the people and organizations that have rallied around it. There were Congressional representatives retweeting this and so many women’s/family organizations. This has made an immediate impact, and has support. Unfortunately Joe Manchin has crowned himself the new king and is not only threatened major parts of this bill that involve childcare and education, but now is threatening to withdraw from the Democratic Party. I hope we get some type of family leave passed. So proud of Meghan for partnering with this organization and lending her voice so eloquently.

  40. GrnieWnie says:

    You know why Meghan never fit into British culture? Because they still think it’s perfectly okay to class shame. They think there is shame in being middle class, or working class, or poor. They wouldn’t reveal roots as mundane as a 4.99 salad bar. They would keep that story under wraps. But Meghan knows that story forges a connection. If there’s one thing I’ll say for American culture, it’s that it celebrates a person who transcends their circumstances. British culture will try to shame you right back into them.

    • Bettyrose says:

      That’s a good distinction. There are those who would argue class mobility is a myth in the US but either way it’s a story we love. When someone does make it big, we thrive on their bootstrap stories.

    • Marymary says:

      @grnieqmwnie Know many Brits? Because as a Brit I don’t recognise half of what you say.

      Btw we have generous maternity leave, a free national health service and a minimum of 5.6 weeks holiday entitlement.

      • Jaded says:

        Then why was she threatened and basically chased out of the UK by racist/classist hate-mongers? Why did her in-laws turn on her? Why did she become suicidal? I think you’re seeing things through rose-coloured glasses. I’m Canadian and lived off and on in the UK for several years. I was often referred to as a “colonial”, a moniker I quickly corrected.

      • Maria says:

        I know many Brits and lived there. GrnieWnie is pretty accurate. There’s a reason people speak about chavs and council estates so horribly and that people talk about toffs and poshness. Even in the 80’s you had terms like sloanes and barrow boys, tied to class.
        Maternity leave may be generous but eligibility for statutory maternity pay is often thorny. Studies show at least 1 in 20 UK workers are cheated out of holiday pay. Mandated laws can’t do much if nobody’s enforcing them. And the NHS is crumbling.

      • Emineminaemin says:

        I’m a Brit and it is true as a black woman living in London.

        Also the maternity leave package is hardly generous. Yes, you can take 12 month off, you get like 6 weeks pay at 80% of salary and then around 7-8 months at only £150 a week. My job topped it up to 3 months full pay. Not sure how anyone living in London can survive on £150 a week.

  41. Lala11_7 says:

    My Mama had an in-home daycare from 1975-1995 & I cannot TELL you how heartbreaking it is to remember the babies my Mama took care of that weren’t even a MONTH OLD because their parents HAD to go back to shitty paying jobs…this country was BUILT on slavery & that inhumanity to workers STILL exists!!!

  42. GgRosey says:

    100% great idea. Not enough time at all for new mothers right now.

  43. L4frimaire says:

    Hillary Clinton, Melinda French Gates , and the House Ways and Means Committee retweeted her letter. The Ways and Means committee of the US Congress. Are they allowed to do that?Ok, yes, this is what impresses me.

  44. tamsin says:

    I think Meghan’s letter should be very effective for what she is advocating. I read it twice. The first time I read it, I noticed that in terms of diction and syntax, it is not perfect. However, I wanted to read it a second time. It is persuasive and and packs a great emotional punch, and a “perfect” piece of writing does not necessarily achieve that. Her letter is very powerful.

    • Lorelei says:

      @Tamsin, ITA. The exact reason it’s so powerful is because it IS imperfect; it wasn’t edited to within an inch of its life, removing all of the personal details which make it so resonant.

  45. Margaret says:

    Service is truly universal, glad to hear I wasn’t the only one tearing up after reading the letter on this important issue, and I am 73 years old.
    There are certain things I don’t mind being taxed for, and paid maternity leave is one.

  46. Marivic says:

    FLady Hilary Clinton and Melinda Gates openly endorsed Meghan’s appeal. Wow! The Cambridges are drooling in rage again. They look trivial in the Sussexes scheme of things .

    • Anna says:

      Lovely! I love how powerful American women support Meg. And I have zero sympathy for the Lazies, they can afford best consultants, event organizers, PR guys – everything to improve their brand, if only they let them work and show up prepared things would be so much better for them. But Kate can’t even memorize 10 sentences, 8 years olds are memorizing more lines for school recitals but even they know they have to practice for a couple of days!

  47. HK9 says:

    Really like the letter, and I’ll be stealing her sign off.

  48. MA says:

    When she speaks, people listen. A US issue made headlines around the world and rightfully shamed our government. I didn’t even realize that the US is one of the only countries without paid leave and I had no idea it was being cut from the budget.

    She’s a powerful communicator and I don’t see how anyone could criticize someone using their platform to advocate for what’s right. Royalists may be confused since they’re not used to royals doing things to benefit others and not out of self interest, or doing or saying anything of substance.

    • Anne says:

      I don’t know about anyone else but I’m not concerned about royalists or royal the reporters’ reactions because this is none of their business – it’s U.S. business. The royalists can wake me up when they get outraged about Andrew’s shenanigans with teenagers or Charles’ pay-to-play scandal.

  49. I genuinely love this woman. That is all.

  50. MrsBump says:

    Non American here. Is parental leave the same thing as maternity/paternity leave?
    I’m not really getting the relevance of the sizzler anecdote in this context. Is it rare for teenagers to have jobs in America?

    • Sofia says:

      She didn’t say she worked at Sizzler, she said she ate at it because that’s what her parents could afford at the time.

      • MrsBump says:

        But how is that linked to parental leave?
        It would have made so much more sense to talk perhaps of Doria’s struggles to raise her.
        I’m from a small eastern African country, only being able to eat out at a cheap ( i assume) restaurant isn’t exactly evidence of poverty, so I’m struggling at the parallels being made here.

      • L4frimaire says:

        @MrsBump, I think you can’t see the forest for the trees. I think that anecdote was about the restaurant was to illustrate the choices parents have to make. Because of the high cost to workers for taking leave, the high cost of care, for working and middle class families, even eating out at a chain restaurant can be a treat no longer available to many. It was just an anecdote, not a biography.

  51. NightOwl says:

    I love that she did this. And it is wonderful seeing the widespread support for her letter by the general public, even beyond sussex squad etal!

  52. Sofia says:

    I do love that she not only acknowledged her privilege but also knows she’s never had it in the past.

    And this is why I don’t think she’s going into public office. She has more “power” as a private citizen rather than a public official, where she’ll be worrying about re-election, campaigning, being opened to far more scrutiny than a regular politician because of who she is and having to be answerable to the public that elected her. Whereas now, she can say whatever she wants, whenever she wants, be as visible as she wants and be answerable to nobody.

  53. BnlurkN4ever says:

    She’s just truly an effective advocate, first because she’s passionate about the causes she advocate for and second because she’s been championing these things for most of her life. I am honestly inspired by her because she consistently cause me to ask myself, what else I could be doing leading to me actually doing more.

  54. blunt talker says:

    I read her letter and was deeply moved by what she said-The speaker of the house is from California and the vice-president is from California-she wrote this letter to the people in power from her state-she truly cares about this issue and put her heart in this letter so people can understand the issue-Her and Harry are very endearing when they work on the issues of today-they both show an uncanny ability to communicate so others can understand-I am thankful for this letter and the support for this issue is truly needed in the USA.