Zayn Malik already took a plea deal for assault & harassment of Yolanda & Gigi


Well, this went from zero to sixty in a second. I thought the Yolanda Hadid-Zayn Malik situation would be opaque for a while, with a “he said she said” energy around the alleged assault. As it turns out, Yolanda and Gigi *did* press charges. They already pressed charges against Zayn and he already took a plea deal. This sounds so much worse than I imagined:

Zayn Malik said Thursday his dispute with Yolanda Hadid was a “private matter,” but we’ve learned it actually became a public matter, as in Zayn was charged with crimes against Gigi and Yolanda Hadid and ended up copping a plea.

Zayn was charged with 4 criminal offenses of harassment and, although the official doc says he pled guilty to one, other docs show he pled no contest.

According to the docs, obtained by TMZ, Zayn showed up at Gigi and Zayn’s Pennsylvania home on Sept. 29 and got into a nuclear argument. He allegedly called Yolanda a “f***ing Dutch slut,” ordered her to “stay away from [my] f***ing daughter.” He said this, although it’s hard to know why, “the f***ing sperm that came out of [my] f***ing c***.”

He then allegedly “shoved her [Yolanda] into a dresser causing mental anguish and physical pain.” Zayn denies any physical contact.

As for the charge he harassed Gigi, according to court docs, he screamed at her “strap on some f***ing balls and defend your partner against your f***ing mother in my house.”

There was a security guard on hand, and according to the docs, Zayn screamed, “Get the f*** out of my f***ing house copper.” The docs say Zayn tried to fight the guard.

Zayn pled no contest Wednesday to harassment and was fined, but with conditions. He’s on 90 days probation for each count, totaling 360 days. He also must complete an anger management class and a domestic violence program. He must have no contact with Yolanda or the security guard. Assuming all conditions are satisfied after 6 months, the judge could terminate probation.

As we reported, Zayn and Gigi broke up around the time of the incident. They share a 1-year-old daughter together.

[From TMZ]

So… Gigi and Yolanda were in Gigi and Zayn’s Pennsylvania home when Zayn came in and lost his sh-t. He shoved Yolanda, he screamed at Gigi and got into it with the security guard. You know what I wonder? I wonder if Zayn and Gigi had already broken up before this incident and that’s why Zayn behaved this way. In any case, this is a huuuuge issue. I hope Gigi does not go back to him whatsoever.

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  1. Courtney B says:

    Everyone will say something better than me about the actual assault which sounds pretty scary. And I hope he gets counseling if only for his daughter’s sake. So I’ll just add ‘copper’?! Does zayn think he’s in a 1930s gangster movie?

    • Chloe says:

      Its actually a pretty popular term in the UK to describe a police officer

      • Courtney B says:

        Ah, gotcha. Thanks for the clarification. It sounded so odd to me being an American.

      • AnnaKist says:

        Yep, same goes here in Australia: “Two coppers chased him into the alley, where he tripped over an old bike.”

      • AnnaKist says:

        Yep, same goes here in Australia: “Two coppers chased him into the alley, where he tripped over an old bike.” Just normal, everyday speech. Oh, geez, this lad has some serious issues. Hopefully, GH will stay well away from him. I wonder what the success rate is of these court-ordered anger and domestic violence programs? I’ve no sympathy for anyone who thinks it ok to carry on like that to fellow humans, much less the mother of hhis baby.. He should be thankful not to be in Australia – this kind of carry-on carries instant, mandatory criminal charges, in my state, at least. If the charges are proven, he’d be escorted to the nearest detention centre, and chucked out on the first available flight, and…good riddance.

      • Nonartistic Diane says:

        Hmm…lot of new posters defending this trash behavior. Regardless of what caused it, it happened. Zayn pled guilty and no contest to harassment charges, please stop trying to make excuses for his behavior. Zayn acted completely out of pocket and if what he was alleged to have said to Yolanda is true, then what disgusting things to say.

      • dj says:

        @AnnaKist I love the rules/laws in Australia. Australia does not take any mess!

      • ElleE says:

        One doesn’t refer to a private security guard as a “copper”, or a personal bodyguard as a “copper”. According to the multiple comments here helpfully telling us what “copper” means to Zayn, there was a police officer at the house.

        Not a “security guard on hand” on hand as TMZ politely puts it. An on-duty cop was at the house. As was Gigi’s mother, apparently putting herself in between Zayn and Gigi and the baby.

        Going back into my “Law & Order” catalogue, situations that warrant “we’ll post an officer outside of the house, m’aam” are not good. Something very bad happened at that house before Sept. 29th.

      • marehare says:

        It sounds like it could be a substance intake issue. Perhaps he’s on drugs. They do make a person act crazy. I hope Gigi and her mom both get restraining orders. He sounds scary crazy.

      • Hooboy says:

        marehare in the U.S. many of the “private” security personnel ARE in fact off duty policemen…so cops/”copper” would apply here too.

      • BothSidesNow says:

        @ dj, I wholeheartedly agree!! AU and NZ don’t take sh!t from anyone about anything that is detrimental to its citizens!! I remember that shooting in NZ of that racist POS Roof that gunned down those poor congregants at Emmanuel African Methodist Church, and some whacko in NZ carried out a similar attack in NZ. They weren’t going to sit by and watch it possibly happen again.

        On a side note, Zayn needs to grow up and take full responsibility for his atrocious behaviour. Pleading “No Contest”, and only ONE guilty plea. Zayn should face jail time, and anger management classes. Yolanda does seem to be a liar, historically, so I certainly believe her. Abusive men thinking that they can treat women with abuse, either verbal or physical. This needs to stop!

    • Gabby V says:

      This is common British slang, so totally normal for him to say considering he is English.

      • Courtney B says:

        It’s used almost mockingly in the US like being some faux jimmy Cagney or something. Glad for the context.

    • Noki says:

      I think thats just some UK slang, sometimes reading it seems harsher than it is like the flippant use of c***.

    • Ronaldinhio says:

      The entire internet is full of the worst sort of abuse about Yolanda.
      Sometimes I wonder if fans are more than a little crazy
      It feels very Depp/Heard – how could some man I like singing or acting behave in terrible ways although there is evidence, witnesses and charges/convictions
      Massively misogynistic commentary everywhere

    • Size Does Matter says:

      How about “Dutch slut?” Is Yolanda actually Dutch or is that a special UK burn?

  2. minx says:

    Well, well, well. That certainly clarifies some things. He sounds out of control.

    • Myra says:

      Yes, that tells a different story to the one he was trying to portray. I’m glad they pressed charges because then it’s not a ‘he said, she said’ situation. Honestly, he should be supervised around the child until he gets his act together.

      • Kebbie says:

        Thank God she pressed charges. This is the kind of thing that will be really important when it comes to custody issues. So many times it ends up being accusations in court months later that are denied by the offending party and it’s just a he said/she said like you said. She did the right thing to immediately involve the police. He’s clearly got anger issues.

      • minx says:

        Kebbie, I was also very glad she pressed charges. In Zayn’s first statement yesterday he kept using the word “privacy”—it was a private matter, etc. etc., over and over. Now we know why. Abusers want to keep their abuse private. In Kaiser’s first thread about this story today I withheld judgment, but this new info blows the story wide open. And it has nothing to do with Yolanda being overbearing or making Gigi diet or supposedly publishing baby pictures, it’s all on Zayn. Period.

      • ItReallyIsYouNotMe says:

        I sincerely hope that all the people who were trying to describe this as being Yolanda and or GIgi making it up or overreacting on the first article decide to sit down and shut up. He entered her home and acted like this, that’s abuse plain and simple. This sort of thing is exactly how abusers get away with it. Minimize what happened, call the victims liars, and have everyone start debating whether the VICTIM is credible. And of course she called the police and wanted to file some thing because when there’s a custody dispute without this on the record he’s going to be treated like any other father and automatically get half custody of a child that he endangered.

      • Otaku fairy says:

        @ItReallyIsYouNotMe: Agreed, people tend to have the worst timing and ways of putting women on trial for all the reasons that they’re unlikable.

      • Robert says:

        This is why you dont rush in and get married quickly. You need to really get to know someone. All their little quirks, like socks on the floor, or leaving dirty dishes in the sink. That seems like nothing during the honeymoon phase. But its the little things that push you over the edge later on. Plus it gives you ideas of red flags that may show up later.

      • Pilar says:

        He didn’t enter her home. It was his home that Yolanda entered without permission while Gigi was away.
        No excuses though for pushing her and the foul language.

      • Christine says:

        But why did you frame your comment that way? Does it matter if he was in his home, or he was on a sidewalk?

      • BothSidesNow says:

        @ Myra, yes!! He should only have supervised visits with his daughter. And Gigi needs to dump his abusive ass!

    • Silver Charm says:

      He’s definitely getting a call from immigration. He plead to lesser charges but a lot of what is described here will trigger deportation.

      • Courtney B says:

        Ouch, I didn’t even think about that.

      • AlpineWitch says:

        @Silver Charm

        For some reason some non-US-born celebs keep forgetting they’re liable to deportation like everybody else if they commit crimes and judged guilty. He took a plea though, so it needs to be seen if he pleaded guilty to all counts or only a few.

      • Dugberg says:

        @AlpineWitch the article states he pled guilty to one charge and no contest to three others

      • Christine says:

        He clearly has a smart lawyer who advised him to plead immediately. I hope they do deport him, this is appalling.

    • Isabella says:

      Wow, the misogyny in some of these comments: over bearing grandma, insta model entrapment.

      Gigi is more famous than he is. I didn’t even know who he was.

      @Robert, I get what you’re saying about red flags, but they’ve been dating since 2015. This wasn’t fly by night. Some abusers are very good at disguising themselves.

      • Lucy says:

        100%. I think the statistics are 20% of the time abuse starts when they get married, and 20-25% of abused partners, it begins with pregnancy.

        That doesn’t mean it’s always out of the blue, but it’s easy to rationalize the red flags.

      • ElleE says:

        Could be misogyny, could be age, or it could just be women commenters that haven’t (lucky them) yet had to recognize that even the weakest man on the subway could beat the sh!t out of a woman, no contest. Men don’t take self-defense classes to ward off women.

        Any violent crime against a woman is met with questions like, “was she walking home alone at night”, “was she drinking”? Like it takes a while to come to grips with the fact that the only “reason” a woman gets assaulted is because the man in question knows the odds are in his favor.

        How many men has Zayn had the guts to square off against (grade school doesn’t count!)? He knew he had nothing to fear physically from a grandmother or her skinny daughter so he goes all Rambo? Loser.

      • GraceB says:

        I have to be honest, yesterday I posted a comment saying I thought this was Yolanda blowing things out of proportion. I really thought she probably was the overbearing grandmother, and it was probably something really small, that she’d turned into something much bigger.

        I’ve thought about why I felt that way. Was it misogyny? Again, I’m being completely honest but I don’t think it was. It wasn’t even that I know men can be abusive. I’ve said before on other posts, that I’ve had my own experience with that.

        My feelings were dictated by the public image I had of both Yolanda and Zayn. I knew Yolanda as a Real House Wife, and I was aware of how small dramas are made huge and public, often for attention. I didn’t know much about Zayn because I never followed his career. The only thing I had seen was that he seemed like he was very much a family man, dedicated to Gigi and their daughter.

        It’s actually a bit troubling for me to feel like in some ways I took his side, because it’s being taken in by the abuser. It’s something I never want to repeat in my personal life, and a bit of a wake up call. The very fact that he tried to make all the right moves, saying it was a private matter, that he was trying to protect his daughter, giving off the doting father image. This has got be triggered.

      • MipMip says:


        We have all been indoctrinated into misogyny. We women internalize it our whole lives. You say you were influenced by the public images of Zayn and Yolanda. Yolanda is a real housewife reality star and your first reaction is that that makes her frivolous and silly, somehow devaluing her own self and experience. You say you didn’t really know anything about Zayn yet you effectively elevated him above her in terms of legitimacy- like it or not that’s internalized misogyny. I would be lying if I said I didn’t have a similar reaction too.

        In order to be better we need to keep interrogating our gut reactions to things like this, like what you did. Discomfort is good, it’s how we become better. The alternative is MAGA-adjacent madness.

  3. FrodoOrOdo says:

    An absolute shit show.

    He needs supervised visitation for a long while without the involvement of Yolanda or Gigi.

  4. Rapunzel says:

    Sounds like Yolanda was telling him how to parent and Gigi took her side. I wonder if he was high or drunk around the kid and that was the issue? The “sperm from my cunt” rant doesn’t sound like a sober statement.

    • TigerMcQueen says:

      I don’t think he said ‘cunt’, I think it was ‘cock’.

    • Becks1 says:

      I think it was c*ck, not the other word.

      My thoughts are with yours. It sounds like there were some ongoing issues with Yolanda and the child and he freaked out and this mess is the result.

      • Rapunzel says:

        My reading comprehension is off this morning. I wasn’t thinking cock would be a censored word.

    • superashes says:

      I read it the same way as you at first and was like “what?”, then I realize he meant the other four letter c word for genitalia. I think he was high regardless.

    • M says:

      Perry Edwards is obviously luckier than any of us knew. Girl got out in the Knick of time.

      • BothSidesNow says:

        @ M, he broke up with Perrie over text in 2015. Plus, he evicted her while she was on tour. I was just reading that they were together for 6 years, or possibly just 4. But she stated that they were together for 4 and engaged for 2, but she doesn’t specify if out of the 4, 2 were engaged.

    • Lizzie says:

      Nope, it sounds nothing like that.

  5. Noki says:

    Being new stressed parents and having an over bearing grandma around can be a recipe for disaster. Zayn never seemed all the way in with this relationship,i think he just was dating a hot insta model and wasnt expecting to play happy families so soon. There were red flag from all involved.

    • MrsBump says:

      First of all Gigi isnt just a hot insta model, secondly whether he was expecting to play happy families or not so soon is moot, if he didn’t want kids, he should have worn a condom. He has a child now, and access to plenty of resources to clean his shit up. There is no excuse to shoving his child’s grandma no matter how overbearing. I was really rooting for him, but i hope Gigi leaves, i wouldnt stay with a man that shows this level of disrespect to my mom.

      • Kfg says:

        I think he was probably high or drunk, but Yolanda is a disrespectful, antagonizing, horrible human. Forcing eating disorders on your kids, saying if you play sports you’ll look like a lesbian, and pushing your daughters to get in relationships with famous people who are toxic are not the action of a good mom. It wouldn’t surprise me if Yolanda wants Kai on a diet so she doesn’t get fat. He’s obviously got issues, but let’s not pretend that Yolanda is some good mom or caring person

      • MrsBump says:

        I have no idea who yolanda is, but this is sounding a lot like victim blaming with a side of unfounded assumptions

      • Dizza says:

        @mrsbump I couldnt agree more, why are people making excuses for Zayn being violent with a woman twice his age?

      • Otaku fairy says:

        How is it that the mom is the bigger problem in this situation for allegedly pairing Gigi with a toxic guy…than Zayn is for actually being the toxic guy? How does he just get off with “he was probably high” when this isn’t his first time getting into a physical altercation with people? Before the bar fight, wasn’t being a cheater when he was younger his only known toxic behavior? That’s not enough
        proof to say the mom or Gigi should have known he was capable of violence. We also don’t know for a fact that Gigi never actually wanted to date him. And if we’re talking disrespectful behavior- it doesn’t sound like Zayn has much respect for women period, based on what came out of his mouth. He’s both too old and too young to get a pass for talking to women like that.
        I used to like Zayn too, but damn. He sure is getting a lot of passes/benefit of the doubt.

      • Rea says:

        If I was Gigi I would have duped Zayn and her mother a long time ago. Both are toxic people. This situation is two toxic people fighting it out. The real victim here is the 1 ,year old it will suck when she grows up & reads about this dysfunctional family.
        Gigi needs to wakeup & realize Yolanda is no saint either. She finally woke up with Zayn now it’s time for Mom to leave her life.

      • Jenn says:

        @mrsbump and @otaku fairy – I do think it’s more complicated than that. Actually, absolving YH of all possible wrongdoing is really potentially damaging to BH. I think people with *parents* who have narcissistic traits often fall in love with *partners* who have narcissistic traits. (And, sometimes, what we call “narcissistic traits” are actually trauma survival skills.) It’s why people who already have ptsd (or c-ptsd or bpd/dtd) are so susceptible to becoming victims of domestic violence — because, through no fault of their own, their loved ones’ bad behaviors are now so normalized that they struggle to recognize red flags. And this is cyclical! YH may have a history of trauma and poor coping skills as a result of this same thing, so she struggles to communicate with her grandbaby’s father.

        Yes, we should always take people at their word when they suffer abuse: no one makes abuse up. I do think, though, that we do disservices to survivors by calling innocent observations about a situation “victim-blaming.” I think these observations are probably damaging when a person is still in a situation — during crises we need unconditional support, not to hear where we went “wrong” — but down the road, these observations are actually really important for processing the trauma.

      • MrsBump says:

        Thank you for your well thought out response, however i believe this is out of context for the situation at hand. Also with all due respect, i feel like armchair diagnostics of narcissistic traits in people we don’t know has really gone out of hand lately, even if we see them on tv, we only see in a heightened version of themselves dramatised for the public. We dont know that Gigi is choosing to be with Zayn as a result of trauma caused by her mom.

    • Concern Fae says:

      These women from reality shows having babies so young is bad, bad, bad. And when the marriage/relationship is unstable, it serves to keep the daughter under the mother’s orbit and control. This is a very sad dynamic that I’ve seen too many times IRL.

      I hope they both can learn from this and move on. I don’t know if this was just him being overwhelmed or a larger pattern. It’s unacceptable and I hope he learns from it rather than being resentful of the price he’s paying.

      • Amanda says:

        Concern Fae: I agree.

      • FrodoOrOdo says:

        ConcernedFae, I totally agree. This is a mess all around and I hope everyone takes the time and the therapy to get better and do better.

      • TaraBest says:

        Since when is 25 “so young” to be having kids? I know it’s more common to wait these days but I know many, many women (my mother included) who had kids at or before 25 and it wasn’t “bad, bad, bad”.

        Obviously, this particular situation sounds very bad and I hope Gigi is taking care of herself and her daughter. It sounds like she has good family support, which is so needed when dealing with an abusive partner.

      • Miranda says:

        I don’t think it’s “bad, bad, bad” for a normal woman in her early 20s to have kids, because in the real world, those women generally have jobs and responsibilities which keep them grounded. But many of these young socialites, nepotism models, reality stars, etc. seem to be very emotionally stunted, immature, and just…vapid*, (Paris Hilton is a good example. She’s pushing 40, but still talks and acts like a teenaged airhead.) They’ve never really had to work for anything, but suddenly they have a kid to raise and that’s just about the hardest job there is. It’s a baptism of fire, and I don’t know how many of them are up to that task. Some of them just make me think, “thank god for nannies”.

        *All that said, I’m not too familiar with Gigi, so I don’t know if she’s like that herself. My comment is more of a general assessment, not directed at her specifically.

      • Ronaldinhio says:

        This isn’t anything to do with the women in this scenario.
        It has to do with a man who was domestically abusive.

        Paris Hilton – is a very savvy and thoughtful business woman, who has faced a great deal of trauma – if you cared to listen

      • Kfg says:

        Ok everyone keeps mentioning a bar fight, but didn’t actually read the story. Zayn didn’t get into a physical fight, 3 guys started calling him names and threatening him. The weird part was him taking off his shirt. Literally he didn’t escalate or start the issue.

      • Miranda says:

        @Ronaldinhio – Oh, I know! I’m sorry if it wasn’t clear that my comment wasn’t really in reference to this particular case. It was just meant as a reply to the first part of TaraBest’s comment above mine, but I forgot to @ them.

        I will admit that my assessment of Paris Hilton was uninformed and shallow, and I apologize for that. I didn’t know about her traumatic experience at one of those barbaric “reform” schools (is that what you were referring to? I just Googled “Paris Hilton trauma”), and I feel awful for not taking that into account. Thank you for bringing that to my attention, I will definitely hold my tongue about her from now on.

      • Dugberg says:

        @Miranda why would you bring up paris in such a nasty way when she has never had children? who cares if she acts like a teenage airhead, it’s not like there’s kids involved. let her live her life.

      • Miranda says:

        @Dugberg – Please see my reply to @Ronaldinhio above; I acknowledged and apologized for my ignorant and unfair comments. I honestly do feel terrible for what I said.

    • MelOn says:

      Once he decided to put his hands on someone, he went the wrong way.Yolanda may be an overbearing pain in the butt and Gigi may be weak willed when it comes to her Mom but he’s STILL has to keep his hands to himself. It sounds like he may have some substance issues and he needs help.

      • Isabella says:

        We don’t know that Yolanda is over-bearing or that Gigi is weak-willed. But it doesn’t matter. Zayn is the abuser. Not them.

    • superashes says:

      Nah. Being a new parent doesn’t give you a pass to call your partner a “fucking Dutch slut” and shove her mom.

    • Bunny says:

      No, it isn’t. There is never a reason to shove someone else like this. She didn’t attack him. He violently attacked her. Most people have enough self control and decency not to hit another person out of anger.

      Secondly, it doesn’t matter if he was ready to be a parent or not. Maybe she wasn’t, either. Again, not a reason to become violent.

      Please don’t make excuses for domestic violence. There is no excuse.

    • Jaded says:

      @Noki — She’s not a “hot insta model”, she’s a VERY successful professional model. Quit trying to make this seem like it’s in any way the fault of Gigi or her mother. Zayn sounds like he either has substance abuse problems or anger management issues, maybe both. You NEVER, EVER speak like that to someone or push them around no matter how over-bearing they might be, and I have no problem with Yolanda going mama bear on his ass if he was acting in a threatening, rude or violent manner to her daughter.

      • Kfg says:

        She’s a successful model because a shes a billionairess. She didn’t go through normal modeling chains or have to do the work other models do and her mother being a model and having access to plastic surgeons and media is what made her a successful model.
        Not excusing domestic violence, but I don’t believe he shoved her. I also find it interesting that Yolanda tipped off TMZ. It’s bizarre. Yelling and screaming at your MIL who is violating boundaries is not unheard of. He pled out which means he knows he messed up. The original story is why I question Yolanda’s claims. If he already pled then she can’t press charges again for the same incident.

      • minx says:

        Kfg, why don’t you believe he shoved her? What is it about him that you find defensible?

      • 2tall4u2 says:

        Yolanda has a history of lying about a man “striking” her. So forgive me if I’m a bit leary in believing her version of events. I’m thinking it’s the initial story: Yolanda let herself into their home without calling first or ringing the doorbell. Obvi this has happened before is it seems it’s an ongoing problem – hence this time she brought one of her paid bodyguards to trespass into his home without his permission. I’m certain he said to Gigi “woman up to your mom” after Yolanda sold a photo of their child. We know she’s going after his money for child support – she’s got a history of pulling stunts like this.

        If I was his attorney, I’d file a tresspassing and illegal entry charges against Yolanda and her body guard.

      • Maria says:

        @2tall4u2- And yet, prosecutors filed charges against Zayn not her, so clearly they know something you don’t.
        Stop victim-blaming and believing the lies concocted by Zayn fans. Zayn has a history of violence and if it was their home and Gigi gave her permission to be there it’s not illegal entry.

      • minx says:

        2tall4u2, The photo story has been debunked and I don’t see you blaming Zayn for anything here, only Yolanda and Gigi. But he’s the one who got charged and pleaded guilty. So, please explain how that worked? Everybody is lying and he’s the only one who isn’t? And there’s nothing about his attorney filing any charges, so I’m not sure why you think they should.

      • Jenn says:

        @Kfg I don’t disagree with you that this sounds like a “normal” in-law altercation, but there is NO way YH is lying. This whole thing involves 3 different traumatized people with their own sets of coping skills, triggers, and communication styles.

        Actually, now that I’ve typed that, I think I can actually understand what happened here. I myself was a “quadruple” orphan — I’d lost both my birth parents and *then* my adoptive ones — when I married into my husband’s tight-knit family. Which was rough on all of us. Plus, a major “meltdown” trigger for me is feeling like an outsider! Literally the only thing I know about ZM is that he left One Direction for a solo career… and, also, that he is Muslim. Was the latter enough to make him feel like an outsider and leave the group? Does Gigi ID as Muslim/third-culture? I’m feeling like ZM was trying to create his own family with Gigi, and that’s why he zeroed in on “Dutch slut” with YH — to emphasize that she and her values don’t fit in with “theirs.” (It’s also possible that YH was encouraging Gigi to leave him, whereas ZM feels that it would be “slutty” to leave your child’s parent. I grew up within Christian fundamentalism, and this same noxious, puritanical attitude kept me with my abusive boyfriend for way longer than was healthy.)

        Ultimately it’s complicated! You can’t reduce Gigi Hadid to “well, she’s a nepotism hire” and then sit back like you have all the answers. Everyone had reasons for behaving the way they did, because behaviors don’t just come out of nowhere.

      • Yasmine says:

        @Jenn I’m really disheartened to see you bringing Zayn being Muslim into this. When other couples fight, religion isn’t mentioned. But because it’s a couple who grew up with Muslim parents, now Islam is brought into this. Even worse, you construct Zayn being Muslim as an ‘other’ who would be in opposition to Yolanda because of his religion. This is incredibly Islamophobic and racist. You’re creating a view of Muslims as being against the norm (aka Christianity), so in your view Zayn would be against Yolanda. Your experience in a religious cult is valid, but this has nothing to do with this family. You’re projecting your experience in a fundamentalist family onto Islam and then making these blanket assumptions about other human beings. That shows some deep prejudices against Muslims. I really hope that you can work on that. Because even if our hearts are in the right place, we all have prejudices we need to work on.

      • Jaded says:

        @Jenn – apparently you don’t know that Gigi’s father is Muslim and she grew up in a freely “two-religion” household. That you would bring Malik’s religious background and ethnicity into this is deeply disturbing and biased. His behaviour is unconscionable because he clearly has anger issues as well as substance abuse problems, not because he’s Muslim. Period.

    • JL says:

      Yeah, NO. Yolanda might well be a crappy parent, but there is no excuse for physically attacking someone. If (and that’s a big “if”) he was worried about her behavior around his child, there are a million appropriate ways to address that. Hitting/shoving his partner’s mother is NEVER okay.

    • Isabella says:

      Wow, the misogyny in some of these comments. over bearing grandma, insta model entrapment. Wow.

      Gigi is more famous than he is. I didn’t even know who he was. She has a lot more money, too.

      Yolanda has never seemed like a crappy parent.

    • Fortuona says:

      He is a smack head and was in a brawl 3 months ago in NY with Bella and Kendall’s friend Daniel

    • Lizzie says:

      Stop victim blaming.

  6. Chloe says:

    I still find it hard to believe that he came into the house all guns blazing without any reason. I wonder what went down before this incident. Crazy. Somehow he never struck me as an aggressive person.

    • Kacy says:

      Yeah, he definitely needs to work on himself so he does not act like this again. It’s not excusable. However, I would not want Yolanda around my daughter. She’s very toxic regarding body image and diet.

      • Chloe says:

        They both need help honestly. Yolanda does seem like the overbearing type, but its clear that zayn doesn’t have it all the way together. I just hope he gets the space to work on himself for his and his daughters sake.

      • Tiffany :) says:

        From what I’ve seen, Yolanda was abusive to Gigi when it comes to her weight. There was a video compilation made that showed all these dozens times where she shamed Gigi for eating, telling her she can only have 1 almond, etc. While I think Zayn clearly has issues, I think Yolanda is dangerous too. I hope Gigi can get away from both of them.

    • minx says:

      He was abusive. Whether he was drunk or high or Yolanda/Gigi said or did something—doesn’t matter. He was abusive.

      • superashes says:

        This right here.

      • Kate says:

        Yep. Totally natural to be curious about the events leading to this but it actually doesn’t matter. Unless someone was posing a physical threat to him and he was responding in kind, there is no excuse.

      • ADS says:

        Totally. I think that is the only take away from this.

        All the “Yolanda is a terrible parent” convos should take place outside the context of this incident. Let’s not ever give domestic abusers cover for their conduct.

      • Nic919 says:

        There is zero justification for his behaviour. It is up to him to get counselling or therapy because his reactions are inexcusable and criminal. If he wasn’t a former boy band member with some level of fame he would be deported already following this plea.

      • Becks1 says:

        I don’t think anyone is defending his hitting….whoever it is he hit (because it seems we don’t know that for sure, right? He’s denying hitting the MIL, but it seems he hit the security guard?)

        I just think the convos are getting a little garbled, and people are trying to figure out the context of what exactly happened, which I think is a natural response, bc this seems to be a crazy story, in terms of the different wording (Yolanda showing up at his house where he is with the baby is very different from him barging in on Yolanda and the baby), the timeline, etc.

        But figuring that out or discussing why she is a horrible person is separate from what he did in terms of hitting anyone. I HOPE no one is using the former to excuse the latter, but maybe I’m the one giving people too much benefit of the doubt here.

        Also I still have no idea who he is so I’m just going off these stories posted. I don’t know who Alice evans is either. I’m going back to the royal posts.

    • TigerMcQueen says:

      The TMZ story on their website now says ZM was ‘at the house’ not ‘showed up’ at the house (and that the stuff he screamed at Gigi was over the phone, not in person). Don’t know why they originally published that he ‘showed up,’ but it’s changed now. But that just makes me think ZM was home with his kid while Gigi was away (supposedly in Paris), his MIL showed up at the house uninvited, he probably told her to leave, and things escalated from there.

      He’s obviously got anger management problems, because no matter how gross the other person is (and Yolanda totally comes across to me as a total boundary stomping MIL), shoving and screaming the way he did is wrong, period. He’s lucky he’s not in jail.

      • Tiffany :) says:

        I agree, it sounds like the mother-in-law came over to the home while he was with the child (and Gigi was gone), and tried to force her way into the home using a bodyguard. That doesn’t sound acceptable to me. But he also has anger management problems, so it is hard to think he’s totally innocent here.

    • Silver Charm says:

      There’s video of him outside a bar with his shirt off trying to fight a guy at like 2 am on a Tuesday. There’s a history of violence.

      • Jenn says:

        To me, fighting with strangers in public doesn’t speak to abusive behavior, but to disordered coping. Anyone with a history of trauma can melt down when triggered — “fight,” “flight,” “f***,” and “freeze.”

        I dated a cruel narcissist who, despite being combative in general, only ever physically took it out on me at home. I’m not saying “being violent” isn’t ever a red flag, but the person who was violent with me was absolutely never violent in public.

      • Pilar says:

        He also didn’t actually fight. He took of his shirt (bizarrely probably in an attempt to intimidate the other guy either way lame he should have just ignored him) but there was never an actual fight. Also the other guy wasn’t a stranger it was Bella Hadids BFF who shouted homophobic slurs at him.

    • Arpeggi says:

      There’s never a reason to be violent towards someone, no matter how annoying they might seem, no one is ever « asking for it ». It’s all on him, period. He’s at fault

      That he doesn’t strike like a violent person is why so many victims of DV aren’t believed

    • Maria from Tercer mundo says:

      So basically you’re saying he doesn’t SEEM a violent guy and surely SHE DID something that make him angry.

      SMH. I want to scream to your comment. Wake up.

      • Zapp Brannigan says:

        Yeah I’m getting tired of reading so many variations of “she was asking for it”.

      • g says:

        Why are so many women on this site bending over backwards to defend this guy?! i don’t care how annoying or overbearing she is, you don’t hit your partner’s parent unless you’re defending yoursel or partner/child from their physical assault. Are some of you really excusing abusive behavior because he makes your nether’s tingle? That is some internalized misogyny right there. Sisterhood is only if he’s ugly?!

      • minx says:

        g, I don’t get it either. Because he was a cute boy bander he couldn’t possibly be an abuser? There’s ample evidence of his anger, alcohol and drug problems. I just SMH.

      • Jenn says:

        @g I can tell you that I sympathize only because I have so struggled to get along with my own mother-in-law. I got into therapy after she said something so charged, I thought I would strike her (“oh ho ho your mother *definitely* didn’t think you were perfect”), which she’d said in response to me *trying* to explain how alone I always feel around my spouse’s family — where I’m always being picked at, always in the wrong, and no one ever thinks I’m remotely funny, smart, kind, or engaging (just temperamental, “arrested,” and boring). Anytime I’m with them they’re singing my spouse’s praises, and I just really FEEL how orphaned I am. In therapy I grieved the relationship I’d hoped to have with my in-laws, and I learned to accept the thin relationship I have. (I also grieved not having an advocate separate from myself, and I’m working to “be my own mom.”)

        I was never socialized well, so I only felt “at home” and understood with my own family — who are now all deceased. I suspect something similar is true for ZM. Hitting and yelling are never ok, obviously, but I think people are defending him because it honestly kind of sounds like he was triggered and melting down. Which should NOT take away from everything Bella and Yolanda have experienced???? I feel for Bella Hadid most of all, because it is impossible to function as an intermediary between two people who are “coping ugly.” I don’t know anything about her mom except that she has chronic illness AND a flair for the dramatic, and I would not be surprised to learn that she has a sad history with domestic abuse that has caused her to be on the defensive with ZM.

        I think some people struggle to be emotionally generous with YH because, if you yourself had a mom who was deeply traumatized but refused to seek help, it might seem like after a certain age you’re “beyond hope.” I just hope anyone who is “picking sides” is open to the very real probability that everyone in this scenario is screwed up.

      • Jenn says:

        @minx – I’m not excusing those behaviors, but Britney Spears exhibited them, too. Substance abuse and anger are both indicative of the poor coping skills that often co-occur with developmental trauma (“BPD”). It shouldn’t be “victim-blaming” (not that you, personally, said that it was) to acknowledge that some abusers are people who haven’t healed from abuse themselves. Abuse IS a cycle, and we break it by making it easier to talk about this stuff without shame. (There ARE predatory abusers out there, 100%, who absolutely thrive from the nonjudgement I’m describing. Ugh. All you can do is try to learn how to recognize them in the wild — which, I actually believe, was what YH was doing here.)

    • Michael says:

      Have you seen him fighting with Bella’s friend Daniel? Have you heard him in Las Vegas with Jake Paul? He is very unhinged and out of control. Maybe it is drugs or alcohol but he is not a calm person when he gets upset. There is plenty of film to dispute that

    • Kebbie says:

      Some people don’t need much or any provocation to fly off the handle. Zayn has proven himself to be that type of person many times. And those are just his public outbursts. I hope his visitation is supervised until he can prove himself sober and even-tempered.

    • Ronaldinhio says:

      Yeah, like when Chris Brown violently attacked Rhianna
      I wonder what she did to make him?

      This sort of commentary wondering what women did to make men act abusively is always nonsense at the very best
      He is in charge of his own emotions and actions
      He made himself behave like that. End of story

      • Ursaline says:

        Not that it matters, but kudos to Riri. Chris Brown didn’t look any better after that elevator fight. She’s a badass.

    • Dugberg says:

      he didn’t enter the house, it’s his house and he was there already. yolanda entered his home when gigi was out of the country.

      this isn’t defending him btw it’s getting facts straight.

      • Fortuona says:

        On her property and Gigi might have asked her to drop in

      • MaryContrary says:

        And maybe Gigi was worried about the baby since he appears to have alcohol/drug issues and sent her mom over?

      • Pilar says:

        He owns the house. Not sure who the “her” you are referring to is but his house certainly isn’t Yolandas property. Agree with the above poster, the story is bad enough as it is, let’s just stick to the facts.

    • Lizzie says:

      It’s more than easy to believe if what CDAN has said for years about him and drugs. Very easy to believe.

  7. girl_ninja says:

    You cannot put your hands on someone. Ever. This young man clearly has anger issues and needs to get help for that. He isn’t and island and has to think about his mental health and the well being of his daughter. He better get it together. I hope that Gigi and their child come through this with minimal scars.

    • MarcelMarcel says:

      ITA at least the courts didn’t rule in his favour (so often abusers aren’t held accountable by the law). Hopefully the legal ramifications lead to him holding himself accountable and realising he can’t use his feelings as an excuse to be violent.
      I really hope Yolanda, Gigi and her daughter are okay. I get why Yolanda is unpopular here. Someone being overbearing isn’t an excuse to get violent and angry. Because violence is never ever okay and he needs to learn better coping skills. For his own sake and for the safety of the people in his orbit.
      Hopefully, Gigi and her daughter are surrounded by support and aren’t hounded by the press over this.

  8. Oh_Hey says:

    Have you ever woken up and wanted to destroy your own life?
    Cause that’s what Zayn seems to have done. This is wild. You shoved your MIL, lost your partner, and if this doesn’t affect custody b/c he could legally be a danger to the baby…

    I was legit a fan of his solo music but YIKES… I’m done.

    • SnoodleDumpling says:

      And then there’s the possibility of getting deported. ‘Cause this is exactly the kind of legal shit that gets ya deported.

  9. Delphine says:

    My understanding from reading the article is that Gigi was actually in Paris at the time and he screamed at her over the phone after his altercation with Yolanda. Either way no this is not good at all. I had a similar experience between my mom and son’s dad when my son was a baby. I’m glad they documented this and that he was charged. This type of behavior tends to escalate in my experience. Early intervention is best for everyone involved, especially the baby.

    • Michael says:

      Gigi was in Paris at PFW. She immediately left to fly home. Nobody understood what happened when it happened but we know now. This is sad. Zayn needs to get into rehab today or he will destroy what is left of his life and his relationship with his daughter

      • MarqueeMoon says:

        This is also something you see time and time again from abusers, there is a documented pattern of abusive partners creating drama when the partner is away at work or otherwise doing something that is healthy for themselves or that bolster their personal power or esteem, a drama or incident will be created that ruins that for them and they need to rush home to deal with the situation, these dramas can harm the professional reputation of the victim , harm their professional relationships and support, and so disempower them, many abusers undermine their victims family relationships to undermine their support network and their jobs to make them more dependent financially
        Gigi, don’t go back to him!

    • Dugberg says:

      correct, gigi was not there when this happened. zayn yelled at her over the phone.

  10. Bishg says:

    I feel bad for Gigi, her little girl and everyone involved. Even so, I can’t help but thinking that safe sex could have prevented her from being once again (and pretty much for the next 16 years or so, at least) subject to a volatile relationship with an ex with well-known alcohol and drug abuse problem, whom also have been struggling with anxiety and depression. I understand she might have felt like fatherhood could change or heal him, but it was a colossal mistake. Yes, she got a lovely child out of it and I’m sure she wouldn’t want it any other way, but..

    • Amanda says:

      Exactly. I don’t understand women who think having a baby will fix their relationship, it only makes things worse, usually.

    • Knish says:

      I think I understand where you’re coming from re your comment, and I doubt you mean anything negative, but I personally find your safe sex comment a bit off putting considering a child was created, and by all accounts is loved and wanted…

    • Delphine says:

      This is really not a good take IMO. We have no idea whether or not they were practicing “safe sex” and by that I take it you mean using birth control, which as you probably know is never 100%. Pills fail, as do condoms. And frankly it’s none of our business what type of family planning they were doing, regardless of whether this is a gossip site. There are quite a few implications to be gleaned from what you’re saying here. One of which is that maybe this child shouldn’t have been born because her father turned out to be violent and if they were more “careful” they wouldn’t be in this situation. My birth control failed, I chose to have my child and his dad turned out to be violent. Yet I would never go back and choose to not have my child. It’s also fairly well understood if you’re at all aware of the cycle of abuse that abusers don’t usually show their true colors in the beginning of the relationship.

    • AmelieOriginal says:

      For all we know the baby was planned though. Gigi and Zayn have been on and off for years, this go-round they might have decided they wanted to become parents. They aren’t strangers to each other, they’ve been on and off since 2015. Not a healthy relationship clearly and Zayn obviously has issues but we have no idea if this was an oopsie baby. They were on and off for six years before having a baby so clearly they know how to practice safe sex.

      • Sandii says:

        On/off for six years and safe sex are two very different matters. When you have to give your partner multiple chances to get it right you better make the sex extra safe. Giving someone a second chance…. ok. But on/off is clearly a red flag with lots of issues.

        I can only recommend to all who are in such relationships to be prepared to go through with an abortion because very likely otherwise you will be bound to this unhealthy person for many years to come. A volatile relationship does not get better with a newborn in the mix. It might make escaping nearly impossible.

        Hadid at least is financially in a good position so some of the fallout for her is less harsh. But nonetheless she must now deal and coparent with a violent junkie for the next 18 years.

  11. Coquette says:

    Judging by what he said during the incident…he sounds like he’s high etc under the influence.

  12. Piratewench says:

    There’s no excuse for getting physical. I have a narcissist for a mother and we now have no contact. She’s put me and my spouse through hell. But we never ever got anywhere close to physical with her, even when she was actively trying to destroy our family and screaming lies and insults at us.
    He should have never raised a hand to anyone. He will pay the price. Very sad story for the little girl involved.

  13. ML says:

    Whoa, this is actually worse than I thought it was. I had understood that Yolanda entered his home while Gigi was absent, and that only Yolanda was involved. I did get the feeling that he had done something wrong… I hope that Yolanda, Gigi, the security guard and Khai can heal and feel safe again. And I hope that Zayn is able to modify his thinking and behavior. And if necessary, get sober. I really don’t like how Zayn reported this though, and I’m still getting major red flags from how he’s handling this.

    • Kebbie says:

      Completely denying the incident took place (while not contesting it legally) and implying Yolanda is just leaking it to the press to hurt him? Red flags? Where?


  14. Digital Unicorn says:

    Gossip is that he’s always been like this, combined with drug and alcohol issues it just fuels the anger. Look at the way he behaved toward his former band mates when he left – he was all ‘am better and harder than the rest of you’.

    I would not be surprised if this wasn’t the first time he has behaved this way towards her.

    • AlpineWitch says:

      Maybe we heard the same gossip because we live in UK. His reputation has always been pretty terrible.

    • ME says:

      If Gigi knew Zayn was “always like this” why did she have no issue leaving him alone with their daughter while she was in Paris? I’m guessing this was the first time he acted like this. Gigi doesn’t take sh*t from anyone. Once may have been enough for her.

      • Maria says:

        Or, her mother came over because Gigi wanted her to check on her.
        Your comment ignores how abuse works.

      • minx says:

        I absolutely don’t think this was the first time he acted like this.

      • ME says:

        @ Maria – Gigi doesn’t take sh*t from anyone. No way is she leaving her daughter alone with Zayn if he was abusive like that in the past. She’s rich enough to hire a nanny to stay with the baby and Zayn, but no mention of a nanny. This makes me believe she was fine with him being alone with her. All abuse/violence starts with one incident. This may have been the beginning. They might have broken that cycle real fast. Not everyone can do this of course. But Gigi had her mom to help and also money. She probably also used her fame as leverage to out Zayn as an abuser. Either way, the abuse has ended let’s hope.

      • Maria says:

        Someone’s carefully crafted image for PR has nothing to do with what’s going on behind closed doors. Plenty of strong female public figures have suffered abuse, because it’s normalized. Just look at the comments here that are totally uneducated about abuse. Maybe she didn’t want a nanny and wanted her mother there. Maybe Zayn never threatened their child but felt free to threaten her. Zayn outed himself as an abuser, Gigi didn’t need to leverage anything. As someone below noted, prosecutors have the power to file assault charges whether the victim wants it or not and they wanted to here. No way did this come out of nowhere.

      • Sudie says:

        First of all, does anyone really think Malik was sitting at home physically taking care of the baby? There was probably a nanny there as well and perhaps she witnessed something that just didn’t set right with her regarding his behavior and she called Gigi? As a grandmother, I will tell you, if I received a call from my daughter or the nanny (no my dtr never had a nanny) I would break speed records to get there fast and would probably barge in as well. How do we know, the household (Gigi’s house, not Zayn’s house) may have all been told to watch things carefully while Gigi’s was gone. I’m sure no one expected it to escalate as it did. But, a baby must always be protected first and foremost. There will be a lot of speculation (same as I did) and we may never know the circumstances but bottom line, ZM would not have pled to one of the charges if there wasn’t some truth to the charges. And whether he was physically abusive is not known but where there’s smoke there’s usually a fire.

  15. Becks1 says:

    First – as with so many of these stories, I have no clue who he is. I vaguely know who Gigi is – she’s a big model, right?

    So that said, this sounds ugly, like he showed up at the PA house and wanted the child or was pissed that the MIL was there and that Gigi wasn’t standing up for him? IDK.

    It sounds like the verbal argument was on both sides, but obviously physically assaulting someone is a whole different level and is inexcusable.

    • Nic919 says:

      He was in one direction with Harry Styles. So that explains the rabid fan base trying to justify his abusive criminal behaviour by blaming Yolanda for “interfering”.

      But there is no excuse. None.

  16. Sierra says:

    Now it makes sense that Gigi recently started following Angelina Jolie on Instagram and liking her posts.

    I think this was just the tip of the iceberg and Zain abused her before as well.

  17. Sofia says:

    As I said in the other post, I don’t doubt that Yolanda is annoying and hard to deal with it but violence is never the answer. Yolanda’s behaviour and attitude is on her but the way Zayn reacted is completely on him no matter how right he was or how wrong Yolanda was.

    • Lizzie says:

      I liked Yolanda on RHOBH, she was very loving to her family. Nothing in the article whatsoever says Yolanda had an attitude.

      • katie says:

        Didn’t she accuse Ken of hitting her on RHOBH? And say that her daughter can have one bite of cake and an almond? And didn’t she also say she was afraid Gigi was a lesbian for playing sports? She was pretty awful on RHOBH.

  18. Sue says:

    Yikes If they were all there, then I assume the little daughter was present? How scary for her even if she won’t remember it.
    Dude, get counseling and be better for your daughter.

  19. Beth says:

    So what was the quote about “considering pressing charges” if she and Gigi already had? And as for him….hooo boy. I take back my comment on the other article about not believing Yolanda. He’s obviously got some major issues to address.

    • Cakes says:

      I suspect that Yolanda went to TMZ at the time this happened (late September/ early October) and told them what happened, that she was considering pressing charges but to not report it right away. Then yesterday or whatever gave them the go-ahead.

      Also, Zayn’s statement says that he vehemently denies striking her. “I didn’t strike her, I just shoved her”. Ugh.

      • ME says:

        Shoving is just as bad…yikes ! I remember Zayn and Jake Paul getting into some sort of altercation last year. I remember Gigi going on twitter and calling Jake “ugly” and saying Zayn was a “respectful king”. I think Gigi and Zayn had a good relationship until recently. Something happened.

      • Maria says:

        A common aspect of domestic abuse is abusers forcing their partners to defend them and hype them up on social media.

  20. Jayna says:

    Honestly, I couldn’t stand to have Yolanda as a mother-in-law. I don’t like her. And I think it was crazy to buy a place out in Pennsylvania, close to your mother-in-law if she doesn’t know her boundaries, with a new baby. My niece has an extremely invasive mother-in-law, who has great sides, but who will be a pill to deal with the rest of her married life, someone overbearing She just had a baby and has her own anxiety already about dealing with her mother-in-law, who lives ten minutes away, regarding the baby.

    Having said that, Zayn seems to have had mental health issues for quite a while, extreme anxiety (why he quit the band in the middle of a tour) and anger issues. He needs to get help and stay in therapy. And I mean stay in therapy, not go for a couple of months. He and Gigi will have to co-parent for the next 18 years if they stay split up. Getting to the point that he actually became violent, pushing Yolanda into a dresser, shows he is getting worse in dealing with issues and conflict, not better. Still, I can’t stand Yolanda.

    • Maria says:

      This is unacceptable whether she is overbearing or not.

    • minx says:

      It’s not about Yolanda. It’s that he’s violent and I’d be surprised if this was the first time.

    • Dugberg says:

      zayn chose to stay with gigi and have a child with her and buy a house nearby knowing how overbearing yolanda is. zayn should not have made a lifelong commitment to gigi if he didn’t like her relationship with her mother.

  21. Watson says:

    I have to say that some of the comments regarding Gigi being an “insta model” and Yolanda being a reality star is disconcerting. Just because they aren’t drs are lawyers doesn’t mean that they should be discredited just because their professions are unorthodox. People of all walks of life can be abused and mistreated and everyone deserves a fair shake at life.

    • Delphine says:

      She’s not an insta-model at all. She’s repped by a great agency and is a legit runway and print model. But your point is absolutely valid, women of all walks of life end up in abusive relationships.

    • Kebbie says:

      It feels misogynistic to me. Like their complaints about his behavior and actual *physical assault* are less valid because they’re not A-listers or professionals with more “respectable” 9 to 5s. It’s so gross. He assaulted Yolanda. End of.

      • Winter Day says:

        @Kebbie, I couldn’t agree more. The comments that I am reading, especially from women, are misogynistic and gross. Bottom line, Zayn should have kept his hands to himself then he wouldn’t be in this situation. Regards of how you feel about Yolanda, she is not the one who got physical.

      • MrsBump says:

        This is a whole new level of f**ckery, where we need to compare and contrast the legitimacy and level of fame of someone before we decide whether we believe them or not. And this is coming from women who probably consider themselves feminist too.

    • Otaku fairy says:

      All of this. So much behavior toward women gets excused just because what they do for a living isn’t what’s considered to be deep, hard, and humble work.

    • Willow says:

      So true. And there are no ‘former boy band member’ remarks about him…’C-list singer’, ‘Idol show contestant’…so little shade for the abuser. I suspect there are a LOT of new people commenting on this site today.

    • Jenn says:

      @Watson – Yes! Even if Gigi Hadid really did benefit from nepotism, she wouldn’t *continue* to work unless she were actually good on the runway. And guess what! Even if she had *no job at all*, she still wouldn’t deserve abuse. (“Not working,” by the way, doesn’t mean you’re less valuable as a human, despite whatever you’ve heard about reality stars. Disabled people — who often measure their personal worth by their own individual value to society — have to constantly work on understanding that “productivity != worth” all the time.) On top of it all, GH saying she *is* suffering abuse isn’t “attention-seeking.” Why would she seek any more attention than the attention she already has??

      Yolanda, I do have complicated feelings about — not because I know who she is, but because I know about her Lyme Disease. I also have chronic/autoimmune/postviral illness (it was first diagnosed as hEDS, has since been diagnosed as RA, and right now the neurologist/PCP/ER doctor all believe it is MS), and there’s definitely a connection between emotional trauma and physical illness. But there are just some people you wish wouldn’t talk about that stuff at all: Lena Dunham, say, or Jameela Jamil. Ugh, you wish self-appointed spokespeople, who just feel “ultra bpd” in the way that they word things, would have more chill, less cringe — even though, when your OWN doctors ignore you, your voice starts to assume a higher pitch and an alien urgency. HMM. Do I have internalized “cool-girl” misogyny? Do I… do I mistrust certain accounts of chronic illness, the same way some people mistrust accounts of domestic violence and abuse?? (Rhetorical question; answer at your peril.)

      Anyway, I feel for ZM in that I feel for his c-ptsd, but I do not personally believe the Hadids overstated their accounts of his behavior. Ultimately this whole situation is very, very sad, with no winners.

  22. FHMom says:

    I read somewhere else that Zayn was angry because Yolanda leaked a picture of the baby. He and Gigi had decided no photos. Did anybody else hear anything about that?

    • Soni says:

      That’s just something that Zayn stans made up, with no basis in reality whatsoever. The only pictures of that kid’s face are recent paparazzi pictures, which were taken after this incidient.

    • Silver Charm says:

      It is a false conspiracy generated by fans with no evidence. The photos out there are pap shots. Yolanda didn’t take them. Yolanda did IG a photo that apparently had a photo of the baby in a frame in the background but she quickly deleted when she realized the mistake.

      This is a fan generated smear that’s been debunked and needs to stop.

    • wow says:

      his stans made that up. get some better critical reading skills

    • MCV says:

      People saying this are crazy Zayn stans from the One Direction days. A paparazzi took phtos of Khai, some websites purchased them but blurred the baby’s face someone got the photos from the original source and posted them on twitter without covering her face but somehow they’re blaming Yolando for that wich makes no sense.

    • clarabelle says:

      What I read was that he was angry from the get-go that Yolanda leaked the info that Gigi was pregnant (early on) when supposedly the couple had agreed that they would not announce until baby was born.

    • Dugberg says:

      it was gigi who accidentally shared her face earlier this year (it was a selfie of gigi holding her so it was not a pap photo). she tweeted a photo and deleted it immediately but of course people saved the photo.

    • minx says:

      Could we please stop with the leaked photo story? It’s been debunked. It’s another way of excusing abuse, that Zayn blamed it on Yolanda and went off. And it didn’t even happen.

  23. SexyK says:

    If he signed the papers, why was it leaked to the public? Hopefully they can coparent peacefully.

  24. MellyMel says:

    Well that’s sad and unfortunate. Though, I think Gigi was in Paris when this took place, so maybe he was yelling at her over the phone? Either way, I hope this can be resolved and they can all move forward in a peaceful way.

  25. Soni says:

    FYI Gigi wasn’t there, she was in Paris for Fashion Week. he screamed at her through the phone and she immediately flew back from Paris.

  26. Steph says:

    Ummmm….. what has happened since this incident?
    The previous article on here claims something happened last week. But this says a month to the day ago.
    I feel like he did something again or threatened them to make them take to court now.
    I’m also confused at the harassment charge involving Gigi. How does a single argument constitute as harassment?
    Yeah, this whole thing is messy. I hope all parties get the help they need for the sake of Khai.

    • Silver Charm says:

      Bc if he’s charged with domestic violence or a certain level of felony the US will revoke his immigration and/or deny his renewal whenever that is.

  27. FrodoOrOdo says:

    So if this is all wrapped up, signed and sealed a whole month ago, how did this get out and why now?

    I really feel awful for Gigi and Khai and I hope Gigi has a support system outside of her mother.

  28. MCV says:

    I hope he is out of Gigi’s life for good this time around. I don’t know why she decided it was a good idea to have a baby with a man you’ve broken up multiple times and only after two months of being together again…

    • Amanda says:

      Exactly. So foolish.

    • Willow says:

      How is his behavior her fault? What does having a baby have to do with a man pushing a woman?

      • Jenn says:

        Willow – the first clue that my NPD (narcissist to the point of pathology) partner of 6 years didn’t have my best intentions at heart, was when he first shoved me out of his way when I’d been doing absolutely nothing but existing — during our first few months of dating, he shoved me gently but palpably. As time went on, his shoves became worse, until he was shoving me repeatedly against a wall every time I tried to stand up. Like, every time I tried to stand he pushed me down, so that my head kept slamming into the wall behind me. And when I talked to my best friend about this, she said, “I believe some people just don’t make very good combinations. They can be really great people, but together they’re just toxic. So… what did you do? To make him treat you like that?”

        I’m not sure that I believe ZM is NPD, but I am quite sure he’s been abusive of GH. From this account, though, I don’t know what “kind” of abusive he is — just traumatized, or a complete a-hole. (I assume he’s the first type, since usually people who ID with being “third-culture” do so seeking a genuine partner, rather than predatorily seeking someone to metaphorically eat. But the shoving… I dunno. I could be wrong… all over again. Considering I didn’t understand the red flags the first time around either.)

      • Sandii says:

        @Jenn you seem like a genuinely nice person who tries to see the best in everyone. But you also project a lot of your own circumstances on these people. On/off relationships over so many years are normally a sign that something is wrong on a deep level. Zayn had multiple incidents were physical force was used. This guy clearly is not good news for any woman. Nobody can “heal” him or “safe” him. He needs to be aware that his behaviour is not ok and try to fix himself but he is not entitled to getting a pass for (made up, non confirmed) probable trauma.

        Btw I highly recommend the Instagram account realmanbabies, they share a lot about red flags and what women put up with, to make a relationship work….

  29. Coco says:

    Huh. So Gigi was in Paris and Yolanda came by the house (I’m going off the updated TMZ wording). Was the baby home with Zayn? Totally speculating here but if the baby was with Zayn and he has a history of using, maybe Gigi asked her mom to stop by after a concerning phone call or incident? Did the security guard come with Yolanda? I’m assuming so if Zayn screamed at the security guard to leave? Why would Yolanda show up with one unless there was worry of violent or abusive behavior? This story is wild and concerning and I hope everyone involved gets the help and protection they need, whatever happened.

  30. mariahlee says:

    Their relationship always seemed a bit toxic and unhealthy. And I remember thinking that the baby was a band aid (and that he trapped her tbh). She seemed so happy when they last split and then boom — knocked up. Hopefully this is the last straw.

  31. Coco1 says:

    I’m surprised by all the victim blaming in this post. “They must done something to set him off” ,“her mom pushed his buttons” “ Her mom a bit**) not to mention all the people making it about Yolanda and not Zayn.

  32. Case says:

    This is really sad to hear. I’d hoped for the sake of their baby that he’d grow up and be a good partner to Gigi, but this is significantly worse than it initially seemed.

    Though I will say I agree with the other poster who said simply getting in an argument with Gigi seems like a stretch for her saying he harassed her? Not that partners should ever yell at each other, but I mean…it’s not uncommon? IDK. Regardless, wishing her and the baby peace and I hope they’re in a safe situation.

  33. NOAbuse says:

    Everyone on here in any way putting this back on Gigi and her mom should be ashamed. This is exactly the shit that keeps abused women in abusive relationships. When I read his statement yesterday my spine tingled. It reads like the crap my abusive ex-husband would say. I’ve been pissed plenty of times in my life but never assaulted anyone. Millions of people have babies every year and don’t assault their partners. This is a Zayn problem. Period.

    • g says:

      Thank you! The comments have been eye opening. Blaming everyone, even the baby’s existence (“why did she have a baby with him?”) but the abuser.
      Glad you are safe now.

      • ElleE says:

        There are so many long-time commenters here that I will never see the same way after this thread. So f-ing disappointing after all of the misogynistic sh!t we have poured over on this site. @minx, @nic1919, @Jaded we are all still good! So many others, just making up facts, “I bet what happened was…” It is like an alternate universe.

      • minx says:

        ElleE, thanks. It’s upsetting to read some of these comments.

    • Lizzie says:

      Agree. Yolanda could have been breaking bread for all we know.

    • Jenn says:

      Hmm. I remember I told my favorite high-school teacher friend (many years after high school) I was in serious trouble because of my boyfriend, and she replied “well, you’re obviously getting something out of this relationship — what is it?” and my jaw fell open. I needed support, not judgement! But many years later, I finally left that boyfriend. It was the toughest thing I’d ever done up until then, and I was only able to do it because I was ready to die. When someone forces you to become financially dependent on them, finally leaving means having nothing to your name. (Later on I’d stick with a close friend for 6+ years, through obvious DV, just to help her escape the situation down the road. Because I wished I’d had a friend like that, too, obvs.)

      In retrospect — in therapy — the question my best teacher friend had asked me, had become the *main* question. It was no longer a victim-blaming question; it was now key to understanding the seemingly random patterns of abuse in my life. I do agree that “shame” keeps people trapped where they are! Shaming is useful when it’s done on an interpersonal scale — when the community is attempting to eliminate, or “cancel,” a behavior that is dangerous to the whole group — but shame is much less effective when people experience it on a personal level. Shame, individually, is toxic. It’s paralyzing. It stops people from healing or growing.

      So, on the topic of “victim-blaming,” yes, I think it is impossible to educate someone who is in the midst of abuse and emotional chaos — don’t try. Leave her alone. But please don’t call these observations “victim-blaming” when they’re likely the keys to eventually healing from abuse.

  34. Barbie1 says:

    He is a piece of sh*t. I hope he gets cancelled for this. Gigi made a huge mistake allowing him into her life. People blaming the victims instead of the abuser are pathetic.

  35. Lyds says:

    I’m so glad that she’s getting away from him. As we have seen multiple times, these things, if not treated, only escalate. I remember the scene from Maid where Danielle said something along the lines of “did you think he choked me on our first date”? It was really hallowing and sad. And I’m so sorry but my mind couldn’t help but wander to the tragedy of poor Gabby Petito, who bears more than a striking resemblance to Gigi. A relationship’s past often predicts relationship future…which can deteriorate to something much worse. Godspeed, Gigi, Yolanda, and Khai, on your new lives away from toxicity and abuse.

  36. Mimi says:

    Yell? Fine. Touch someone? Absolutely not. I hope she doesn’t get back with him.

  37. Rapunzel says:

    Read article more thoroughly, and Gigi was at PFW and had to come back, leaving her job, and it’s pay, behind? So this dude not only laid his hands on her mom but cost her her paper? Yikes.

    And those wondering why ZM got charged with harassment against GiGi, I’m assuming he didn’t just call her once. I suspect he and Yolanda were arguing and he was harassing GiGi with angry phone calls trying to get her to back him in the argument. She was probably in the middle of work at PFW, told him that, and he kept bugging her.

    • Steph says:

      I’m one wondering about the harassment charges by Gigi. This piece on TMZ is clearly coming from the Hadid’s. While your point makes sense, why wouldn’t they tell that part too?

    • GRUEY says:

      Ok erased some of this because I re-read and harassment was included in the original charges. All I will say is that the fact that he plead fast probably means the facts were bad and the evidence was going to be strong—testimony from Yolanda and probably the security guard. My guess is that there is stuff not in the record that was probably in the original indictment. That’s also how pleas can work.
      I’ve seen dv cases that aren’t “as bad” as the charges make it seem (think grabbing a cell phone out of someone’s hand and charging it as a robbery—usually a felony). But this doesn’t strike me that way at all.

      Also, some people here need to go back to pre-k and learn that it’s ok to feel mad but it’s not ok to hurt someone. Seriously. How much does someone have to say to you to get you to physically attack them?? If you actually stop and think about what you are saying with these “provoked” excuses, you’ll realize they’re ludicrous.

    • Jenn says:

      Sorry, my cat typed on the keyboard and I was like “nooo” and I didn’t mean to double-post (yet again — so sorry)

    • Jenn says:

      Rapunzel – Yep. I still remember how my NPD boyfriend treated me. No one could come over! “I bought all of this, so it’s mine!” When I’d leave the house, he didn’t want to come — he just wanted me to stay home, and he’d punish me for leaving. When I did have folks over, he’d moan and complain. One day, midwinter, he told me “You don’t turn on the heat! When I’m not home, you don’t turn on the heat! It’s not like you can pay for it anyway… … …bitch,” and after internalizing this for several weeks, I left, because I decided I actually wanted to turn on the heat when I felt cold.

      Does all of this describe ZM? I seriously don’t know. My cat is literally, literally sitting on my head right now. I do recognize his behaviors, in that they reflect what I experienced with my late mom and ex bf, but outside of that I really do not know.

  38. Chelsea says:

    Well this answers the question from the other post about what Zayn meant in his statement when he said he’d agreed not to “contest” the issue but he tried to make it seem like Gigi wasn’t there and that they were still together, even referring to her as his “partner” so I’m really thrown by this. I, like you, thought this would be a he said she said thing, but this is very clearly not that.

    I see his fans on Twitter trying to explain this away saying it was only verbal, but not only is he on probation he is also ordered to stay away from the two people, Yolanda and the guard, he’s accused of physically assaulting and it looks like he lied about Gigi not being a part of it. I definitely feel like they were already broken up and it’s a huge flag that he tried to make it seem like they were still together and she wasnt involved when it looks like she pressed charges against him as well. I know he’s had some mental health issues in the past which I’m sympathetic to but nothing excuses this kind of behavior. I hope for his daughter’s sake that he works through whatever is going on with him and that Gigi doesn’t take him back.

    • GRUEY says:

      That statement honestly pinged my abuser radar. It was so vague and self serving. Labeling family violence a private family matter. Literally what judges and cops used to do to excuse DV. And many still do tbh.

  39. OliveOil says:

    If Gigi was in Paris and Zayn was screaming at her over the phone, she may have phoned her mom Yolanda to go check on him and the baby, hence why she showed up at the house. Yolanda probably felt it wasn’t safe for the baby to be there and she wanted to take Khai somewhere else, and Zayn flipped out . I’m sure Gigi was thinking about leaving for a while, but as with most abusive relationships, you keep hoping things will change. This must have been the final straw, and it’s tough with a baby, but it’s Zayn who destroyed their family. Praying for Gigi and Khai.

  40. JRenee says:

    This is terrible. I hope she stays away..

  41. cynic says:

    Sorry guys, don’t agree with most people’s assessment here. Yolanda Hadid is a manipulative, racist, homophobic, busy body who got between Gigi and Zayn. She was also pushing him to do some crazy New Age treatments that prolly left him more anxious. I really doubt much of a physical interaction happened.

    • Dizza says:

      Wow…just wow

    • minx says:

      Are you serious?! You’re blaming his abuse on some unfounded theory about New Age treatments? Yikes.

    • Fortuona says:

      So how is she racist or a homophobe ?

      • cynic says:

        Sorry guys…I am deep in the weeds when it comes to Yolanda. You can readily find her problematic behavior on google or youtube. He probably just shoved her because she was invading his space or doing something threatening to him. You know, women lie all the time…especially white women.

      • Jules says:

        @cynic- and you sound really intelligent dropping shit like this- “You know, women lie all the time…especially white women.”
        Actually sounds like something Zayn would say.

      • Emma says:

        What is the matter with you? “Women lie all the time”; “I really doubt much of a physical interaction happened” — he took a plea deal which (with his money and lawyers) means it did happen. Saying “women lie all the time” is upholding rape culture, Donald Trump, Brett Kavanaugh, Bill Cosby, Matt Gaetz… in fact, MEN LIE ALL THE TIME.

        I have a graduate certificate in Women’s Studies. The research shows that women VERY rarely lie about sexual assault and men VERY often get off scot-free.

        I’m also a survivor of my boyfriend raping me. I never pressed charges because I was in an abusive relationship, I was ashamed, and I knew I had no evidence. Men raping and brutally assaulting women happens ALL THE TIME. They understand what they can get away with. They understand the system.

        My own dad unknowingly explained this to me by bragging about how you can treat daughters however you want while sons push back and are harder to manipulate.

        It is beyond naive to think otherwise unfortunately.

      • Otaku fairy says:

        Cynic, let’s not Nicki Minaj this situation just because he’s cute (and let it never be said that men don’t benefit from beauty privilege when they do bad things, on top of everything else).

      • katie says:

        On RHOBH she accused Lisa V husband of hitting her, and then they played the footage, and he put a hand on her arm gently. She also said she worried Gigi was a lesbian because she played sports. She told Spanish speaking home workers to speak English.

        Zayn also seems very ill; they both need help, and I’m sad Gigi is in the middle of this; Zayn and her mom have no respect for her or her comfort it seems.

      • Jaded says:

        @Cynic — I’m surprised your comment about women, esp. white women, lying all the time was allowed. As if YouTube is the right place to go to get accurate information. You are way outta line with this crap.

    • Lizzie says:

      Well, make up whatever you want. But nothing you said is true.

  42. GgRosey says:

    I have been the victim of domestic abuse & am so glad she pressed charges.

  43. tealily says:

    I don’t follow any of these people at all, so I have no preconceived “side” here, but this is bad behavior full stop. I feel so bad for Gigi and the baby. What a bad position to be in.

  44. HelloThere! says:

    Oh good now Gigi can get back with Tyler C. because he is a gentleman and would NEVER!!! Ugh, this makes me sad for their daughter. I’m glad Gigi and her mom pressed charges. I’m sure there were LOTS of times they didn’t report the incidents…

  45. Ari says:

    I find it curious that we’re only finding out about all this 1 month after it happened. My conspiracy theory is that Gigi was considering reconciling with Zayn and Yolanda released this to stop her.

  46. TheOriginalMia says:

    I’m curious why there’s no restraining order for Gigi. Makes me think she really wasn’t at the house when Yolanda showed up and everything went down. I hope they all heal from this and work to co-parent their daughter.

    ETA: @Ari, I bet Yolanda did leak this stuff hence Zayn’s comment that things were supposed to be private.

    • Happy Camper says:

      The court documents are public. I’m sure Zayn would prefer to be able to control this narrative, but that’s not how criminal court records work and everyone would have found out anyway without Yolanda doing anything.

  47. Robyn says:

    Good GRIEF the victim blaming! There’s no perfect victim, ever. Equivocating on Yolanda reeks of “she was asking for it” and it’s a HUGE reason why this shit continues and DV victims don’t feel safe coming forward.

    Stop it.

  48. DuchessL says:

    Happy they pressed charges and disnt tey to cover this for their reputation or to protect someone’s career. I’m glad that era is over. Press charges. No judgment

  49. Cee says:

    Violence, be it physical, verbal or emotional/psychological, is never justified (unless someone attacks you first then do defend yourself). If someone hurts you and/or is a danger to you, your family and y our small child, then I am all for pressing charges and holding that person accountable.

    If my boyfriend ever became abusive to my mother I would absolutely be done with him. How he treats people around him is a reflection of how he treats me.

  50. Karelli says:

    The fact that This tread is 50% people making excuses and 50% people telling them that there is no excuse is so disappointing.

  51. Sof says:

    So many new commenters repeating the victim blaming discourse Zayn’s fans were using last night…
    If it’s true that both her mother and partner were abusive people, then I hope Gigi goes to therapy to learn how to stand up for herself and not fall into the same pattern again.

  52. Happy Camper says:

    Victims of assault don’t decide whether or not to “press charges” – criminal charges are filed by prosecutors. Victims can choose not to cooperate, but that doesn’t cause charges to be dropped.
    Just wanted to clarify that because the phrasing can confuse people.
    Also, this is now beyond charges. Zayn now has a criminal conviction.

  53. Willow says:

    Everyone on here, blaming Yolanda or Gigi for this, please educate yourself about DV. For your own safety and the people you love. If someone famous, beautiful, rich, can be abused, anyone can. Make your own informed decision about what happened. Don’t just rely on half-truths and opinions from the internet.

  54. Pilar says:

    This article wrongly states that Zayn entered the home when it was Yolanda that barged into his house. Also Gigi wasn’t there and the harassment charges was against Yolanda and the security guard not Gigi apparently.

    That said this guy clearly needs anger management classes he seriously needs to sort his issues for the sake of his daughter.
    I feel bad for Gigi being caught between a controlling mother and a boyfriend with anger issues.

  55. BeepBeep says:

    I wonder if the rumour that the fight was triggered by Yolanda selling a pic of Zayn and Gigi’s daughter’s face is true. Gigi and Zayn have been careful not to show their daughter’s face on social media.

    • Dugberg says:

      gigi accidentally leaked her face back in march when she posted a selfie of them

    • Lizzie says:

      Attempt 1,000 at victim blaming.

      • Lorelei says:

        @Lizzie, why do you automatically think @BeepBeep’s comment was victim-blaming? I didn’t get that from it at all.

        It seems like people are just trying to figure out what might have been the catalyst here — obviously he is 100% in the wrong, he *never* should have touched her or anyone else no matter what and I’m glad he’s paying the price for what he did — but it shouldn’t be off limits to discuss whatever might have led up to it, imo.

      • Maria says:

        It is victim-blaming. Examining “the circumstances that led up to it” is trying to find justification for his behavior.
        Not to mention, it’s untrue.

      • HeatherC says:

        Absolutely is victim blaming “*She* leaked a photo so of course I struck her” is what that is coming off as. “She started it. If she didn’t leak that picture, I wouldn’t have hit her. She drove me to it”

        *I know the leaked photo issue is BS, but it keeps being brought up as an example

  56. Sofia says:

    Coming back and seeing the comments defend Zayn is honestly so disappointing and is borderline making me angry. I know Yolanda is terrible but violence is never the answer. Plus did you read what he said to her? That could count as verbal abuse.

    Whatever you think of Yolanda, her beliefs, her parenting etc etc doesn’t mean she deserves to be hit. And just because she’s lied in the past, doesn’t mean she’s lying now. Especially as Zayn has pleaded guilty.

    • Sofia says:

      Sorry correction, he didn’t plead guilty but he plead “no contest” (which if google is right, he’s neither admitting nor disputing the charges) but he’s got almost a year of probation and can’t go near Yolanda and a bodyguard

  57. Leah says:

    What amazed me was the amount of people on Twitter actually defending him this morning. He hit her mom, end of convo, cancelled. A man who hits one woman usually goes on to hit another. I don’t care if she annoyed him or looked at him sideways, you don’t put your hands on other people.

  58. Mimi says:

    Well apparently he was taking care of the baby and she came over uninvited to his house. And also apparently Yolanda is inserting herself in their relationship. Which is the vibe I get from her mind yo business. Ur daughter is an adult with her own child and can handle her own relationship

    • Arpeggi says:

      Still not a reason to use violence. Assault is never the solution

    • Maria says:

      Why do people keep trying to lean on the argument “she came into his house”? It was THEIR house and Gigi gave her mother permission to be there.

  59. jferber says:

    Domestic violence is not about “anger;” it is about control. Control of the other person. So I really don’t know what an “anger management” class looks like. I heard that at “domestic violence programs,” the men in these programs give advice on where to hit a woman without leaving marks. Shit. If you’re a bank robber, you go to jail. You don’t get assigned to “greed” classes. You don’t attend “bank robber” classes with fellow felons. You go to jail. I have no idea why violent crime by men against women is treated in this namby-pamby, utterly useless and wrong-headed way. Put the men in f-cking jail, okay? THAT is a deterrent.

    • HannahB says:

      This comment, 100%.

    • Jenn says:

      Yep. I mentioned (dunno if it posted) that I did ask my partner of, eventually, 6 years, to get into “anger management,” and it really only helped him to weaponize, to justify his behavior with clinical language. It made him much, much worse to live with, made him better at abusing others.

      I have nothing at all to say about ZM, because I refuse to compare someone I don’t know to the person I once dated, but: I really believe a lot of folks, including maladjusted people AND people who wished they controlled other people, COULD (could!!) be helped by DBT or something like it.

  60. Erika Holzhausen says:

    This may seam irrelevant, but Gigi was in Paris during this time. He called her on the phone when this was going down.

  61. jferber says:

    Mimi, really? Just wow.

  62. K says:

    Gigi was in Paris. He called her and yelled at her to take his side with Yolanda.

  63. PlainJane says:

    She won’t. She’s smart that way. She has her baby to protect.

  64. Jenn says:

    Obviously the person for whom I feel worst is Bella Hadid, but… I could imagine her mom having certain narcissistic traits — I mean, it’s what I imagine of *any* Real Housewife, maybe unfairly — so I could see her being the grandmother-in-law from Hades. It sounds like Malik blew up because Gigi sneaked her mom into (edit: her mom sneaked into???) “his” house after he’d said no way. Uggghhhh.

    Bella has probably been trying to keep the peace between two total narcissists, which is miserable. But I also recognize Malik’s lament of “why won’t you stand up for me?” and I do think a lot of people probably break up over that. (The book ‘Toxic In-Laws’ is great at appreciating the aggrieved’s POV while also making suggestions as to how to speak to people who have different communication styles. A close-knit family has its own inscrutable culture; it can be so tough.)

    P.S. The fact that Bella wants Zayn to get into anger management makes *me* think she’s not serious about this split — just because I requested the same of an ex. I remember he went, and it made him worse (!), because it armed him with new language to justify his abusive behavior. Hopefully that isn’t the case with ZM, but I’d still recommend another course. I know I constantly post here about DBT, but… for people who have problems articulating their feelings out loud (which is in this case an understatement), I really believe in DBT.

    • Southern Fried says:

      It’s Gigi not Bella. Malik’s plea agreement resulted in his required anger management and domestic violence courses. Note he didn’t plea not guilty. Nice try blaming the MIL. Note he’s had violent public blow ups previously.

  65. A. Key says:

    I’m just amazed people think he must have been high or drunk (or both) and triggered somehow. I see you’ve (luckily) never met your average British bloke exiting a football match. Most of the ones I’ve ever met were loud, violent, used found language and behaved appallingly. Toxic masculinity to put it mildly. And they weren’t even drunk yet but on the way to get drunk. And proud of their disgusting behavior. I don’t know what it is with the culture, especially with young men in Britain, but I had a horrible experience. And he looks immediately like one of those typical blokes. So not surprised at all.

    • ME says:

      Yeah because the men that leave NFL games, NBA games, or NHL games in America are so sweet and well-mannered. This has NOTHING to do with him being British.

  66. Isa says:

    If Yolanda barged into a house that wasn’t hers why not call the cops and have her removed for trespassing? Or if she was instructed to be there by the owner, why not leave? It’s his child. No matter yolanda’s behavior there were always other options rather than hitting her.

  67. eliza james says:

    Congrats to Gigi for making a baby with an abuser….which she fully knew. Disgraceful.

    • Robyn says:

      This victim blaming comment is disgraceful.

    • minx says:

      Yeah, it’s all her fault 😱😱😱

    • Jaded says:

      Stop. Abusers are VERY good at keeping their abusive tendencies under wraps until they’re fully in a relationship. He also seems to have developed substance abuse problems which is likely a trigger for his violent behaviour.

      • eliza james says:

        Apparently there is a history of behavior that she knew about and experienced which is why they were so on and off. In no way is she responsible for his reprehensible behavior, nor is her mother. But to assume that she was completely manipulated into having a child with him because he was a covert abuser or that somehow using substances turned him into a completely different person overnight is not only implausible but assumes she’s an idiot. Yes, my comment was flippant so that needs correction. However, I believe that when someone decides to bring a child into the world, there has to be more care and concern for the child. I don’t think she’s an idiot which is why I would hope for more from her. At the end of the day, the most important person is the child who at the tender age of one, already has a fractured family.

      • Jaded says:

        @eliza james — I did not say anything about her being manipulated into having a child with him, and you are only assuming she was well aware of his behaviour. We don’t know that. And I have been in an abusive relationship where, for the first year or so, he was completely normal and deeply loving. Then bit by bit the gaslighting, philandering and mental/emotional abuse started. By year 2 we’d broken up and gotten back together a few times, but I finally gave up and ended it for good. That is where Gigi seems to be right now.

    • HeatherC says:

      Do you think he struck Yolanda right away when he was introduced to her? Do you think on their very first date he yelled at Gigi? The breakups and reunions are almost a flaming red flag to me. He may have started with some controlling behavior, some isolating, they broke up, he promised her oh baby I’ve changed, I’ve really worked on myself and I love you so much. Then they had a baby. He may never have lain hands on Gigi, and hopefully now he never will have a chance to.

      As far as babies go, I had my son with an abusive ex. The pregnancy was not planned. At all. But at least I got my son out of the relationship so it wasn’t a total regret.

  68. Mina_Esq says:

    I’m grossed out by both the people blaming Yolanda and the ones that are happy about the charges because it will help keep Zayn away from his child. Nobody wins in a domestic violence situation. Of course it’s not Yolanda’s fault – no one deserves to be assaulted, no matter how annoying they are. Conversely, of course it’s not a happy day when a child gets to grow up without her dad, no matter how big of a scumbag we all think he is. It’s not “better” for anyone. He needs counselling, and this family needs to heal and learn to coexist in peace. That child needs both of them.

    • Maria says:

      No child needs an abusive parent around. He needs to be kept away until he can prove he’s not a danger.

    • HeatherC says:

      My son was much better off without my abusive ex than if he had to be around my abuser. I fully believe that the only reason my son was not abused by the ex was because I left his father and quickly got a restraining order against him before my son knew any better. So no, if Zayn can or won’t change, he should haveno part in the baby’s life. It’ll be better for her, especially as a daughter, to know her worth and that no one deserves to be abused, even if the word love is thrown around.

    • A.Key says:

      Thing is, abusers never change. There is no going back from this.

  69. Serena says:

    He’s an abuser and an a-hole, I hope she doesn’t go back to him.

    • Hooboy says:

      I have read that he is angry she published his child’s face and also read that she brought six people to the house for an intervention about his anxiety issues, barging into his house. I don’t think anyone involved her is innocent and I’m really sure Yolanda knows how to push everyone’s buttons.

      • minx says:

        And yet, only one person has been charged and pled guilty. Just one, no one else.

      • Jaded says:

        He’s got more than anxiety issues. He’s an angry, narcissistic jerk with substance abuse issues. Screaming profanities and shoving your girlfriend’s mother into a dresser isn’t how you express your desire to not have your baby’s photo shared on IG.

        Oh, and please cite where you’re getting your information — I’ve read nothing about her bringing 6 people to the house to do an intervention.

  70. Sid says:

    The way some people are bending over backwards to try and excuse this is guy is something else. He has a whole history of this sort of behavior, getting into actual street brawls, and somehow Yolanda and Gigi are the problem?

  71. BountyHunter says:

    Yeah, he’s a loose cannon for sure. I find Gigi so much more down to earth and approachable seeming, not to mention more naturally beautiful than Bella.
    I’m thinking she already knew he had these tendencies and the capability to snap like that but was hoping it wouldn’t manifest.

    I’m sure they have the security and assets to make sure it doesn’t happen again, but what happens when he wants to see his daughter or Gigi has a moment of weakness and decides to see him again?

  72. Birdie says:

    That is sad for the baby. I hope they find à peacefull solution. Also, I think Yolanda AND Zayn have issues. Gigi must be so torn 🙁

    • Maria says:

      And yet Yolanda wasn’t the one shoving people into dressers.
      People need to stop with the false equivalence.

      • Fortuona says:

        And apparenly Zayn followers are also saying the Haddid’s want a paternity test !!

        Oh and he was fired from RCA which was also Yolanda’s fault

  73. Maria says:

    For people who wonder why she had a baby with him – getting someone pregnant is also something abusers do to tie their victims to them.
    That’s absolutely a possibility here.

  74. Di says:

    He took a quick plea deal- which means HE DID IT! So confused as to why people trying to justify it and explain it away?