Do we care enough to make fun of Ivy Getty’s excessive, out-of-touch wedding?

This has been a story all week and I’m not 100% sure why. Ivy Love Getty, a 26-year-old heiress (yes, that Getty) got married in San Francisco over the weekend. She married photographer Tobias Alexander Engel, a photographer. The wedding and reception probably set Ivy and her family back millions of dollars and it’s one of the larger “society weddings” we’ve seen since the pandemic began. But why are people being so negative about it? Is it because Speaker Nancy Pelosi officiated? Is it because even for a society wedding, it was excessive? Is it because she gave exclusive photos and behind-the-scenes extras to Vogue? Is it because people just love to hate on heiresses? I don’t know.

Ivy thinks her wedding was a miracle: She told Vogue, “It’s just like everything I could have dreamed of and more… So it’s wild when something so magical comes true because you’ve thought about it but didn’t actually think it would. Miracles happen.”

The celebration: The festivities kicked off Thursday night with a 1960s-inspired bash at the Palace of Fine Arts in San Francisco, which was reimagined as a nightclub for the occasion, according to Vogue. All guests were required to show their vaccination cards at the door before enjoying a night with plenty of entertainment, including a DJ set by Mark Ronson and a performance by Earth Wind & Fire, per the outlet. To top things off, the bride even rocked three different vintage looks throughout the course of the evening.

The pre-wedding picnic: On Friday afternoon, guests enjoyed a pre-wedding picnic — complete with IV drips for anybody in need — and the wedding day festivities kicked off with a pajama party, Vogue reported.

The bride wore Galliano: When it came time to walk down the aisle, the bride wear a custom John Galliano dress made of glass shards — and all of her bridesmaids wore gowns by the designer as well. The custom veil the bride wore on her day also featuring walnuts that represented her grandmother who “grew up on a walnut farm” and guitars to honor her father. “Ivy looked incredible in all those mirror shards that tinkled as she walked up the step,” Hamish Bowles, guest and contributing editor for Vogue, told the outlet. Bowles also told the outlet that California Gov. Gavin Newsom, a friend of the family, was in attendance.

The reception at the Getty mansion: “When my beloved grandmother passed away, I knew I wanted to have the wedding in my house to honor her,” Getty told Vogue. “My grandmother interior designed each room of the house which allows me to feel as if she is there with me. I would be able to look around the room and see something that reminds me of her.”

[From People]

Imagine being an attractive 26-year-old millionaire heiress and thinking it’s a “miracle” to find someone to marry. My God. I mean, so maybe I do get why people are hating on this woman and her wedding. It’s excessive and out-of-touch and maybe Speaker Pelosi should have opted out, same as Gov. Newsom. But whatever, rich people gonna rich people. Her dress was ugly too.

Photos courtesy of Vogue, Ivy’s Instagram.

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  1. lunchcoma says:

    All the pushback I’ve seen has been aimed at Nancy Pelosi for officiating. She…maybe could have made a different choice, assuming that Ivy isn’t her goddaughter or something.

    The wedding itself is a lot but also no worse than that Kitty Spencer one. Though I’m also guessing that Ivy is fine with the pushback. I didn’t know there was such a person until yesterday, and now I do, which is probably her plan.

    • Sofia says:

      I think she officiated because the Gettys have had a big hand in California politics – including in the career of Gavin Newsom.

      I agree that it’s not any worse than Kitty’s wedding. Both were very over the top “society weddings” where the bride wore dresses designed by terrible people and famous/famous adjacent people attended.

      • OriginalLeigh says:

        Exactly. It’s doubtful that Gavin Newsome would even be Governor without the sponsorship of the Getty family. Gordon Getty has basically been his surrogate godfather. And I’m sure that they have also been large donors to Nancy. I don’t think opting out was an option for either of them.

  2. Bookie says:

    Is that Anya Taylor-Joy as one of the bridesmaids?

  3. milliemollie says:

    People are sick of billionaires. They should not exist.

    • TeamMeg says:

      Exactly. These “Let them eat cakers” need to go. An argument can be made for using one’s wealth and privilege to advance important causes and work to improve the world. But there’s no excuse for obscene excess when so many people on the planet are struggling and dying. None.

    • TigerMcQueen says:

      My office first opinion was they might be a billionaire, but it shows you that almost all the money in the world can’t buy taste or class

      • Von Barron says:

        So my whole thing is that she was uh, much different looking just a few years ago. She’s not all that striking, yet is a “model”. I’m saying she’s been purchased a life. She’s very much a lesser Getty, her dad ODd a year ago and her mom was never really around. She’s kind of like an extra spare Getty….. which is mean and all but this wedding was hideous and she has zero accomplishments or charitable causes or….nada. At least Rosetta or Sabine and the other Gettys or Getty wives anyway have something going on.

  4. Aud says:

    Yes it’s super excessive and over the top and very ugly.

    But omg that dog! Love

    • AmB says:

      Just SO over the top, like: How nice, the children had a little dress-up party!

      I’m not sure “out of touch” even expresses the distance properly. It’s like the worst of the 1980s, or … what planet are these people from? Here on Earth we do things differently …

  5. Eve says:

    No. I didn’t even know she existed.

    What kills me is that I’m flat out broke and this person gets to spend what could set me up for life on a single event.


    • Sally says:

      Yep, for more than one lifetime too. I actually do like the aesthetic of it all and think she looks very pretty in the dress, plus the Getty oil money does good things in shape of the Getty foundation and I respect the former patriarch and his approaches to philanthropy, but yeah. It’s a senseless display of power and wealth, when so many people struggle. But hey, congrats to this teenaged boy looking dude, he won’t have to struggle ever again.

      • DeltaJuliet says:

        If he married a Getty he is likely rich as well.

      • Sally says:

        @deltajuliet yeah I’ve just looked him up, apparently he’s the son of “famous Austrian business man Peter Engel”. I’m Austrian, but I’ve never heard of that dude before. Eh. My hopes for a poor photographer works for Getty and sleeps his ways up to enormous riches backgroundstory remain unfulfilled.

      • Eve says:


        Ok, I may have expressed myself poorly. It’s NOT that I want “to be set up for life” nor that I want her money.

        It’s the injustice of it all because I don’t need much. All I need to live, if not a happy life, at least a more comfortable one, is a little bit of money to leave my country and live elsewhere, preferably central (or Northern) Europe.

        I’ve been to Germany twice and those were the only times I felt like myself. Where I felt at peace, not a misfit in the slightest. I remember clearly when I arrived there the first time: no sense of strangeness whatsoever. Just a very nice feeling of “coming back home”.

        So…I’d like to have enough money to leave Brazil NEVER to return. This place is killing me slowly. But the economy is in shambles. The lack of government is that of epic proportions and my depression has never been stronger.

        I’m leaving this thread. It’s pushing all my depressive disorder’s buttons.


    • bettyrose says:

      Trickle down, guys. Think of all the staff hired for this event, and the businesses supported. (I’m just reading the party line here. I don’t really believe a service economy promotes equity).

      • Cee says:

        I’m sure most vendors are connected to her social and familial circle.

      • WithTheAmerican says:

        I guess in some way their wealth helps Others, but not nearly enough and so what if it does. We shouldn’t have these huge disparities in wealth. Totally agree with you.

      • Deering24 says:

        There would be more trickle-down if folks like this were fairly taxed.

      • BothSidesNow says:

        Until the wealthiest families/individuals start paying their FAIR share of taxes, instead of having middle and lower income families support governments and having to pay a MUCH larger percentage of their incomes, measly compared to their incomes, I have NO interest in trying to justify her wedding which cost millions of dollars. Which benefited a few, if any, small businesses, she can F off.

        And no more state/city tax breaks for these business owners, Bezos, who lie to that their warehouse facility will bring millions in new well paying jobs, none of which are long term. Time we STOP begging billionaire to build buy paying THEM to open a warehouse/corporate office, etc. The ONLY winners are the OWNERS!!

  6. BayTampaBay says:

    “The bride wore Galliano” is all I needed to know to lose 100% interest.

    • Miranda says:

      And didn’t Kitty Spencer wear D&G? Apparently super problematic designers are like, THE thing at high society weddings.

      (Though at least Kitty’s dresses were admittedly gorgeous. Ivy’s cream (ceremony?) dress is awful, I made better “dresses” with old sheets and safety pins when i was like, 7. I don’t hate the glass dress, but her frame is too small for something so heavy.)

      • Sof says:

        Kitty’s wedding was an ad for D&G! Those same dresses were shown at their big event a few weeks later, nothing custom.

    • agnes says:

      It’s a choice.
      A very bad choice.
      A very tone-deaf choice.

    • Huh says:

      Well, at least now we finally know who buys the sheer wedding dresses…

  7. Div says:

    I..don’t get the pushback. As you said, rich people gonna be rich and while it might be out of touch…there doesn’t seem anything more egregious about this case than other society weddings. And I actually think this isn’t more over the top than most society weddings that are featured in Vogue.

    • Christine says:

      Agreed. And if I want to defend Harry and Meghan’s bathrooms like it’s my job, I can’t hate on this person I’ve never heard of before today.

    • Monica says:

      I think capitalism is great, but not the way it’s currently practiced in the US. I have no problem with millionaires except that they don’t pay enough taxes and sometimes, none.

      Billionaires should not exist. Not that I want them to die, but they should never have had the opportunity to get that g-d— rich.

      • Katherine says:

        Yeah, it’s ok to have a lot of money, but not more than several hundred millions (at least as of this sum’s today’s value). The rest should be distributed to wellness programs to prevent hunger, homelessness, diseases, help with education, water crisis, climate change, disasters, etc. Nobody should be able to sleep well if they have all the excess in the world while some other people are struggling so much and their struggle can be solved with just money.

  8. minx says:

    I liked hearing about it because it was in beautiful San Francisco, and Nancy Pelosi officiated, and Gavin Newsom was there, and probably lots of gay guests, and lots of celebrities, and lots of Getty money spent…in other words, things that drive red staters wild.

    • Cleo D says:

      The SF Gettys are responsible for Gavin’s political career -he was a school friend of their sons. This makes a lifelong connection to Nancy P.

    • L4frimaire says:

      Newsom and the Getty’s go way back, they basically sponsored him. They have business and personal connections. This looks exactly like the type of wedding a wealthy 20 something heiress would have. Pure fantasy land. You get to star in your own production, with set pieces and costumes.

      • Yup, Me says:

        Agreed. The general vibe of her photos is that she wanted to have a wedding, she found a guy to fill in the blank space on her invites and she enjoyed the hell out of planning a party for herself and letting him attend, too. Paris’ wedding will have a similar vibe.

  9. Bettyrose says:

    I’m not up on my Getty geography but on the late 90s Gavin open a restaurant in SF with one of the Getty kids. He’s in deep with that family. I don’t know his connection with Ivy but it’s more than a socialite thing. These are his actual friends. He’s taken a lot of flack for being at the wedding but even I can give him
    a pass on this one.

    • bettyrose says:

      ETA: I googled the Getty family tree. Gordon Getty is Newsom’s Plumpjack Group business partner, and Ivy is Gordon’s niece.

      • alexc says:

        Ivy is Gordon’s granddaughter. Her father John was Gordon’s son and died of a drug overdose last year. She was raised by Anne and Gordon Getty from birth as her mother was never in the picture.

      • bettyrose says:

        There’s two Gordon’s. Ivy’s father’s older brother is also Gordon. (Again, this is all from Wikipedia. I’m not a scholar of the Gettys).

    • Anne Call says:

      Plump jacks in the marina. They also had a plump jacks hotel in Tahoe at Squaw Valley we used to stay in when my kids were young and we’d going skiing once a winter.

      When we first moved to Bay Area I read Herb Caen gossip column everyday and the Getty’s were pretty much the king and queen of SF. Newsom and the Getty son he partnered with actually had a falling out years ago and I don’t know if they’ve ever reconciled. Oh god, used to also read about Kimberley Guilfoyle when she was much saner.

      • GRACE says:

        OMG, memories! Ex-San Franciscan here…Herb Caen..long ago memory! And Plumpjacks, etc….I had forgotten all the intertwined relationships of society in the city! And Kimberly Guilfoyle..hoo boy….

  10. Kiera says:

    The dog has a better dress.

    • Léna says:

      hahaha harsh but true

    • MY3CENTS says:

      The dog looks beautiful.

    • bettyrose says:

      That dog’s dress is on point. Neither of my dogs would tolerate being put in a dress, though, so this is either the world’s goodest puppers or she’s seething with resentment and revenge will be sweet.

    • WithTheAmerican says:


    • Giddy says:

      That doggy dress looked like it was copied from an old master’s painting, and I approve. And I like the butterfly flower girls also. My granddaughters have been flower girls in the past and loved their dresses, but those butterfly ones would have thrilled them!

  11. Maria says:

    Does anyone remember the Mystery Science Theater 3000 episode with The Touch of Satan? Where they had a walnut ranch? Why is that immediately what I thought of with the walnut farm veil? LOL

    • GuestWho says:

      One of the best all time MST3Ks!!

    • Jan90067 says:

      I thought of the Dick Van Dyke episode, “It May Look Like a Walnut” a play on “Invasion of the Body Snatchers” lol.

      WandaVision also did shout out to this episode. In a flashback, Wanda’s favorite box set is the massive complete series collection of The Dick Van Dyke Show … and favorite episode, Season 2 Episode 21 “It May Look Like A Walnut”.

      Gotta say, it’s one of my absolutely fav DVD episodes, too!

  12. local russian hill says:

    it’s a beautiful place to have a reception. i’ve been there for parties. and the family donates a lot to the arts and charity so while the event may have cost a lot, they also spend a lot contributing to society.

    • bettyrose says:

      Yup, Russian Hill is pretty close to all those amenities. You probably know them well. SF native myself, but not at all part of the society set. Still, I grew up fully enjoying the arts scene in SF and I don’t have an issue with the very socialites who fund it using it for their own enjoyment. The Palace of Fine Arts is a stunning location. We went there all the time when I was a kid (the Exploratorium used to be located there before it was moved to the Embarcadero). One of the best things about SF is that art and culture is available to all. I have no issue with the Gettys (though I’m totally down with mocking the excess here).

      • MaryContrary says:

        Another former SFer chiming in-Ivy’s late grandmother Ann Getty was a pretty beloved City character. What I miss is what a write up that Herb Caen would have done on this whole scene!

      • bettyrose says:

        Herb Caen! That’s a memory! Even as a teen I read his column regularly because you never knew when you’d see a mention of someone you know. It really happened!

    • Keira says:

      FWIW the ceremony was held at SF City Hall w carpets laid down on the loud stone floors, and the reception was held at the Getty mansion on Russian Hill.

  13. Case says:

    I mean, I feel like this is a normal heiress wedding. It looks beautiful and it’s not too excessive considering her wealth. I never understood criticisms of wealthy people having big weddings — that’s something even normal people often spend a lot on, so why is it weird for the rich and famous to want a fancy wedding? It doesn’t mean they’re not otherwise putting their money to good use, idk.

    Anya Taylor-Joy looks beautiful, as always.

    • Tessa says:

      Because she called it “a miracle”. I’d side-eye normal people too if they called their wedding a miracle. And putting together a unique and beautiful wedding on a limited budget is a heck of a lot harder than on her budget, but still NOT a miracle. Or else God took a break from curing cancer to make sure appetizers are of the perfect temperature?

  14. MellyMel says:

    Saw a post yesterday on how the Gettys are connected to the Newsom and Pelosi families, so I’m not surprised they were there. They’re all close with long histories. Also Ana Taylor-Joy is the bride’s best friend. So yeah, I can see why it’s getting attention.

  15. TIFFANY says:

    This is a whole lot of extra for a starter wedding.

    Here is hoping she takes it down a notch for the next one.

    • GR says:

      @Tiffany – you summed it up perfectly!

    • Léna says:

      A starter wedding! Haha. Amazing comment

    • bettyrose says:


    • FilmTurtle says:

      I was gonna post a comment like “I’ll save my congratulations for the annulment” or whatever, but Tiffany did it better.

      Otherwise, meh. The Richie Riches have been on pins and needles waiting for when it seemed “appropriate” in the COVID era to pretentiously burn money. There are more important things to leak oil over right now.

    • The Recluse says:

      Here’s hoping the marriage last long enough to justify the expense. (Too much of a realist from broken homes, I guess.)

  16. Jillian says:

    The dog is very cute. I like the colors. I…will just exit here, then

  17. Kristen says:

    I love her wedding dress and veil – it’s really different, and so pretty.

  18. Emma says:

    No masks, all packed together. Do these people live in a magical world where the pandemic never happened? And isn’t still going on and getting worse? I don’t even care they threw a ridiculous over-the-top bash, or that we are pretending the Gettys didn’t make their money from oil and climate change, but wtf not even basic precautions? Hopefully this won’t be another wedding where three people die.

    • BeanieBean says:

      In some photos of the wedding ceremony itself, we do see most people in the audience (would that be the right term?) wearing masks; but agreed, not enough consistent mask wearing throughout.

      • bros says:

        why would they need to be wearing masks at this wedding when everyone showed their vaccine cards. stop with the silliness. the vaccines work and there’s not a reason to be wearing masks at weddings if you are vaccinated. I just went to a 100% vaxxed wedding in nyc and the staff werent wearing masks either and guess what, everyone was FINE.

      • EBS says:

        Ha. We are very very vaccinated in the UK and delta is still spreading like wildfire. Vaccines prevent serious illness and death, not transmission. Wear your masks, folks.

    • MY3CENTS says:

      But on a positive note her dress is all about social distancing. Who would want to hug someone wearing these big glass shards?

    • Soni says:

      People literally do not care anymore. It’s been almost two years. NO ONE CARES. all these people at this wedding are vaccinated or rich enough to get treatment. Why should they care? Covid will be around forever. We need to deal with it.

      • EBS says:

        Yes, on the one hand you’re right, it will be around forever and we do need to deal with it. But on the other hand, I don’t expect that all the staff at that wedding will have had their boosters, for a start. People need to wear their masks and get their boosters, not necessarily for themselves, but for the people around them.

  19. TiredMomof2 says:

    I remember eating at that restaurant! I think it was called Plump Jack.

    • Lionel says:

      Balboa! That’s the restaurant. It’s across the street from the Plumpjack wine store, which Gavin also co-owns, I believe with the Gettys. (Either that or they substantially invested early on to get him started.) There’s a Plumpjack restaurant at the Squaw Valley (recently renamed Palisades) ski resort though.

    • bettyrose says:

      Yep, Plumpjack, which Gavin opened with Gordon Getty (Ivy’s uncle, per Wikipedia) and Summer Thompkins (the Esprit heiress). It’s the most San Francisco high society thing ever.

      • Anne Call says:

        Yeah, the restaurant was Balboa Cafe, kind of a second generation fern bar vibe (think Henry Africa). Loved the Plumpjack hotel at Tahoe. Wonder if people will continue to call it squaw valley or change to Palisades…

      • lahooe says:

        He named Plump Jack after his wee-wee

  20. WithTheAmerican says:

    I don’t care. She looks gorgeous in the other gown (the shards don’t get it for me) and Nancy just passed huge bill for people who aren’t rich. Of course she has powerful friends, she’s third in line to the presidency. They’re all vaxxed. I wouldn’t go, but I wasn’t asked hahaha.

    My beef is with people who are rich who serve in Congress or WH and only serve their own interests and those of the elites.

  21. Sinéad says:

    I love the wedding dress and the headpiece it’s so different, and I hate saying that coz she sounds like a complete assh@le. I read the vogue piece and she said “After attending the Unicef Ball, we went to Capri for three days” ugh. Just ugh!

    • BeanieBean says:

      Ha! Interesting. I just read Kevin Kwan’s Sex and Vanity, which started with an over-the-top wedding in Capri. The rich are gonna rich, indeed.

  22. Hillbo Baggins says:

    Um…I love it. The mirror dress, the photos cascading down that staircase, how completely out of touch with reality it is…it’s amazing. These people live in a completely different world. It looks like a movie out of old Hollywood.

  23. death by bacon says:

    That dog is like bow down peasants. Behold my dress and cry bitter broke tears.

  24. girl_ninja says:

    It’s interesting to see the contrast of wedding styles between Malala and Ivy. The bright and grand display vs the lovely and simple ceremony.

  25. teecee says:

    I guess I’m glad that all the wedding vendors who must have been struggling during the pandemic got a big payday? (At least I hope they did.) I’m as “eat the rich” as the next person, but these kinds of people are usually the ones who employ working artists in various capacities, so I’m glad they’re spending money on something like this instead of another penthouse which will be empty most of the year.

  26. Amy Bee says:

    Rich people need to pay more taxes.

  27. BeanieBean says:

    I didn’t even notice her in the first photo, I was taking in the glorious room. Wowzers! Love all the photos. Is she a descendant of Talitha’s? She seems to be going for that look. OK, now I’ll read the article. Answer to the question in the title, sure, why not? She posted this stuff, she’s going to want comments.
    OK, now I’ve read the article. I think the ‘miracle’ she refers to is pulling off a wedding of this size & type during a pandemic, not that she found someone to marry at all. I also find it odd that she’s quoted as saying she’s getting married in her grandmother’s house, as she clearly got married in the museum. Still, I enjoyed the photos, I think it was all quite lovely. Love the little butterfly girls. Love the ring bearer dog. I think her gowns are beautiful, although I’m not sure I’d’ve wanted to wear ‘shards’ of mirror glass.

    • Miranda says:

      I don’t think she’s descended from Talitha (I believe her son has only one daughter, also named Talitha), but she does have that look!

    • Lionel says:

      @Beaniebean, no they really got married at SF City Hall! It’s a beautiful building that has the look of a museum, I’ve attended loads of weddings there. (Although not this one, ha!) The reception was at the Palace of Fine Arts which is mostly just a structure that is pretty to look at from the outside, it was built for an Expo in the early 20th century. It has a big space that used to house a children’s museum but is now mostly empty, I’m sure with enough money it could be transformed into a kickass reception space. The photo of Ivy in the ornate room I *think* is in the Getty mansion, her grandparents’ actual home. It might as well be a museum! But none of these 3 spaces should be confused with the Getty Museums which are both in LA. (And which are both spectacular in different ways and both worth a visit if you get the chance!)

      • Lionel says:

        Oh, correction, it’s one of the pre-parties that was at the Palace of FA. So I guess the wedding was at City Hall and the reception was at the elder Getty’s house. Agree that quote from her is confusing!

      • BeanieBean says:

        Thanks, Lionel! It was confusing! And it’s been awhile since I’ve been to SF. Also, I’ve had the great good luck to visit both the original Getty and the ‘new’ Getty museums. Wowzers! So many luxurious interiors!

  28. Lurker25 says:

    1. IV drips
    2. Thirteen (13) bridesmaids
    3. So much filler, on everyone (except groom?)
    4. Pelosi officiating – tell me why billionaire tax was cut from BBB again?
    5. No 24 yo wedding should be anyplace other than in a parents/friend’s backyard, in a restaurant, or local HS/YMCA/Rotary club gym/auditorium/Hall.

    • WithTheAmerican says:

      They didn’t take the billionaire tax out, they swapped it for a minimum corporate tax and a wealth tax. The billionaire tax was complicated, so they changed the structure.

      The wealth tax taxes their assets, whereas billionaire tax taxed income.

      But Pelosi would not be the person behind getting rid of a billionaire tax at any rate. That would be Republican demands in order to sign on or the 2 a$$clowns posing as Democrats in the senate.

    • Size Does Matter says:

      Yes please can we talk about the IV drops for all. Like Oprah’s give-away-cars episode but with a bunch of entitled drunks. “An IV for you! And an IV for you! Another IV for you!”

    • ElleV says:

      why should 24-year-olds have weddings that are any different from anyone else? i can get behind scoffing at the excess of a society wedding – but i’d bring the same shade regardless of the age of the bride. it’s not like being a few years older would suddenly make this cool?

      also, as much as this probably cost stupid money, am I the only one disappointed there weren’t MORE bizarre touches like the IVs? seems like she spent stupid money for a fancy version of your usual lavish upper-middle-class wedding?

  29. GrnieWnie says:

    oh, I love her dresses. I love when anyone shows an ounce of creativity with a wedding. I think I must have spent 15 years attending beige weddings with brides in white A-line dresses. Snore.

    • Lemon says:

      I like the dress! It’s weird but “pretty” kind of weird. I liked her reception dress too.

      Yeah the go to dresses have been the same forever. I never thought I would miss Diana ruffles, but I do (her hee).

  30. Ash says:

    I don’t really mind if it’s out of touch – I’d want something like this too if I were a billionaire. Her dress and the whole aesthetic is gorgeous and I’m a bit envious.

  31. Cassie says:

    Oh man, I liked Ivy’s Halloween costumes far more than her wedding outfits/dresses. I’m sure her wedding garb was crazy expensive, but they all somehow looked cheap 😭

  32. Chicago says:

    I got married in that City Hall! That didn’t last though, ha!

  33. Soni says:

    People are being OTT about this. Of course Pelosi was there, these people are SF royalty and that’s where she’s from. Like….so? Who cares?

  34. Amrit says:

    If she wanted mirror work so badly, she should’ve went with an indian designer – at least the end result would’ve been beautiful!

  35. MarcelMarcel says:

    I personally love both her dresses, they’re whimsical and beautifully cut. Also Anya Taylor Joy looks radiant in cool tones.
    I prefer rich people to be extravagant & frivolous instead of squirrelly, duplicitous & space obsessed like Elon Musk etc…
    But I do totally get why displays of wealth are off putting, especially at the moment.

  36. lucy2 says:

    A 26 year old billionaire heiress calling her wedding a miracle…really? Come on.

    I don’t care for the dress, and the whole thing seems over the top, but rich gonna rich. I wouldn’t do it, but I didn’t grow up a Getty.

    • NCWoman says:

      I imagine the miracle comment had something to do with her father dying last year in the sad way that Gettys often do. He was a drug addict and developed heart problems if I remember correctly.

  37. salmonpuff says:

    I’ve always found over-the-top weddings to be obscene and narcissistic, but the write up was hilarious — IV drips, Galliano saying he doesn’t usually do bridesmaid dresses, but he was just “so charmed” by Ivy and her friends that he decided to this time (eyeroll…I’m sure money wasn’t an influence at all!), the ring described as Princess Diana-esque, the “miracle” day. My god, it was all so Great Gatsby.

    That said, a lot of artisans and event planners/caterers probably needed the work. But can you imagine being friends with this couple and having to give up several days and nights to fete them endlessly? Gross.

    Also, the Gettys are a very philanthropic family, but like all rich philanthropists, they have their own priorities for that philanthropy, which may not be the best for their community or society in general. Why are we letting a few rich families decide what causes are worthy? It’s super paternalistic and leaves so, so many people behind.

    • Sofia says:

      “But can you imagine being friends with this couple and having to give up several days and nights to fete them endlessly? Gross.”

      Honestly, looking at the photos of people who attended, most look like fellow socialites/people who don’t work 9-5 jobs so it’s not like they sacrificed much in terms of their time. They were probably happy to party for 3 days straight and mingle with other people.

    • Dee says:

      Why are we letting a few rich families decide what causes are worthy? It’s super paternalistic and leaves so, so many people behind.

      I mean I agree in general that we should amplify all causes, and plenty worthy causes are ignored for what is trendy but also, its their money? I’d be pretty irritated if someone told me what charities I could choose to support with my own money. It pisses me off to no end the hand the Koch’s and the Adelsons have/had in our politics, but since the Supreme Court decided Citizens United was no big deal, it is what it is. Vote for people that want to change those institutions.

  38. Jamie says:

    Yes, this is OTT but would you expect anything less for an heiress? It’s her day, let her be. It doesn’t affect you.

  39. Natters says:

    She’s in love, she can afford to have her dream wedding. Heiresses must think finding true love IS a miracle because they always need to wonder if it’s them or their fortune that attracts their mate. I wish them a happy life.

    • Kviby says:

      That’s a very good explanation of the seemingly odd thing she said. They are an extremely beautiful couple. Nice to see a beautiful woman not marrying -down, looks wise

  40. Lightpurple says:

    This has been the story all week because right-wing extremists like Ben Shapiro, who would have absolutely no problem with this is a Republican officiated, decided to make their minions be upset over Pelosi attending an event with rich people, never mind that Shapiro himself attends such events with his oil friends all the time.

    • Cleo D says:

      After last week, they have a bone to pick with Nancy P!

      And fully half the country thinks government is the problem. That means rich people are the solution. At least CA politicians give the occasional shout out to democracy- you know, the rest of us.

    • WithTheAmerican says:

      When Trump gets busted stealing from rubes again and again, Ben Shapiro defends him and they all cheer the alleged inherent worth of rich people.

      God forbid a democrat have money or be near it. That really upsets the right. Even though their base live off of money from Ca and NYC.

    • Veronica S. says:

      The amount of money in American politics is absolutely a problem, and optics do matter, but Republican can get back to me about it when they stop benefitting from the Citizens United ruling.

  41. MissMarirose says:

    Eat the rich

  42. Hj says:

    This is such a bad look for Nancy Pelosi, in my opinion. Especially with what’s been going on with the budget. With the loss of life, loss of jobs, hyperinflation, and inability of government to even give us paid family leave. An elected official officiating this tacky waste of money is super problematic. Especially for a democrat.

    • NCWoman says:

      Maybe it’s time to stop worrying about the bad looks for Democrats who actually try to help normal people and to start worrying about the fascists who even Liz Cheney says are trying to destroy our country.

  43. Lionel says:

    I’ve lived in SF for a LONG time, long enough to have made several friends who are sort of Getty-adjacent, although I don’t run in those circles myself. As opposed to other local socialites (cough cough Danielle Steele and the Traina/Wilsey clans) the Gettys are considered mostly nice people who generally mean well, despite being hilariously, maddeningly, eye-rollingly out of touch! That said, I don’t know much about Ivy in particular, she was a kid during most of my time here.

    I love her glass shard dress and I love that she got married in it. I’d absolutely wear it if I could 1) pull it off (I couldn’t) and 2) afford it! (I couldn’t!) I’m not going to begrudge a 20-something bazillionairess (bazillionheiress?) the dress of her dreams.

    And anyone criticizing Nancy Pelosi for officiating a rich person’s wedding can stuff it. The Pelosis are loaded in their own right and are well-connected to the Gettys. Even if they weren’t, you’re allowed to be a Democrat and still have wealthy friends. I’d go so far as to say a Democrat without wealthy friends isn’t going to amass much power on the national or world stage. Any Republican criticizing her knows this, and any Democrat criticizing her is just exemplifying the way this party eats itself from within.

  44. Veronica S. says:

    Considering Getty was a notorious miser who let his grandson be traumatized to the point of addiction (and eventual potential suicide/overdose) because he dragged his feet paying a ransom to rescue him from the Italian mafia and once complained about his fifth wife spending too much money on their sick son’s medical bills, I think this one I can actually give a pass. It’s satisfying to think of him turning in his grave over this display of ostentatious wealth.

  45. deezee says:

    Love the photos and it looks like a gorgeous wedding. And I don’t think it is OTT. If I were a filthy rich heiress, I would want same or better.

    My only issue is the amount of people close together during a pandemic which is not over.

  46. Diamond Rottweiler says:

    I clicked through the massive number of pics on Vogue and she isn’t looking at her groom in 99% of them. He looks like a hapless prop. Her “MEEEEEEEE!”energy is truly unnerving, even for a 20 something heiress.

    • MaryContrary says:

      He was barely mentioned in the Vogue write up. More of a wedding prop than an integral part of the event.

    • AmB says:

      Also, he looks way too young to be doing this, like, did he have to get permission to participate (like a sophomore at senior prom)? Is he old enough to drink legally?

      I’m not saying it’s gonna end in tears, but I’m also not betting it’s gonna outlast the first quarter of the 2000s.

  47. MelOn says:

    Nope. I don’t care. Look, it looks like a large airy venue, there weren’t a ton of people there and if everyone is vaccinated , whatever. They have more than enough money to have a safe event.

  48. Tris says:

    I like the carpet a lot. Otherwise, meh.

  49. Erin says:

    these photos gave me one thought – eat the rich

  50. Mcali says:

    I enjoyed the photos.

  51. FF says:

    Yikes! The dog really did get the best dress. What a cutie!

  52. Jess says:

    It takes multiple generations to create and ***maintain*** wealth to this level. It shouldn’t be thought of as shameful or negative. Multiple personalities of varied ages, working collaboratively and longitudinally is an achievement in itself in this era of dysfunctional people. The Getty’s have had their family drama and imperfect childhoods but each generation must have had at least some self-aware people who grew out of childhood woes and “got it together “. That she refers to finding love with her partner as a miracle, to me at least, speaks too appreciation. Many poor and rich people alike never find their person.

    • Nic919 says:

      Wealth like this is maintained by controlling politicians and having the laws changed to their benefit. The later generations don’t actually work at maintaining the wealth because there have been trusts created that are tax free and so as the generations go on, they have less to offer because none of them ever have to work for a living.

      Plus this fortune was created through oil, which is ultimately killing the earth. So maybe let’s not praise people who managed to be lucky in the birth lottery like the BRF.

  53. PoppedBubble says:

    I don’t get what the gripes are about. I read her “miracles happen,” as a tongue in cheek. Like, “Such and such actually came through for me! Miracles do happen.” Who knows. I laughed at the IVs – such rich people stuff. Yes it was over the top and yes, it was probably “me, me, me.” But it looked like fun. Not fun that I would want to participate in, but fun that I would have loved to observe in a people watching way. Yes, yes, yes. Eat the rich. Too much money. I agree. I have also known couples who totally could not afford it have 14 bridesmaids, country club, $8k dresses, who lasted less than three years. Stupid all around.

  54. Sue says:

    I mean who hasn’t been to a picnic complete with IV drips for the drunks?

  55. coolspray says:

    The bride seems incredibly immature based on her comments.

    Having said that, loved her reception dress (so so on the ceremony dress; I have a feeling it was chosen on the assumption it would look photograph well) and that looks like a helluva fun party.

  56. Watcher says:

    My mama always said “Money don’t buy taste” and here’s the proof.

  57. what's inside says:

    For a first wedding, she definitely went and lived her fantasy. Now for the next several followup marriages, she will be able to refer back to the pictures and avoid the mistakes.

    • Sue says:

      I used to be a wedding coordinator at a venue. The best advice I received after getting torn a new one by the worst Bridezilla i had ever experienced was: “Look at it this way: she won’t plan her second wedding here.”

  58. Ann says:

    I don’t like the glass shard dress but the other one is lovely.

    As for Pelosi, she wasn’t the one who wanted the billionaire’s tax cut from the bill, was she? I think that was a compromise with some other recalcitrant Dem lawmaker(s). Pelosi is very rich but she’s also very Progressive. Maybe she should have thought twice before officiating, but whatever.

    I think it’s gross for people to have so much money when so many are working hard and barely getting by, or falling behind. But if they’re going to have the money, might as well spend it on a fantasy wedding.

    The groom looks super young. I’m not sure this will last.

  59. Ange says:

    My goodness that cake is a work of art.

  60. The Recluse says:

    Interesting dress. I wouldn’t be surprised if it ended up in the collection at the Met. It would be just the sort of thing they would collect. They collected the famous Oscar Night dress made out of gold American Express cards from the lady who did the costumes for Priscilla, Queen of the Jungle.

    • Lightpurple says:

      The Gettys have their own art museums. It likely will land in a museum collection but likely one within the foundation

  61. Jillyybean says:

    I think Anya Taylor Joy was one of her bridesmaids

  62. ZeeEnnui says:

    Ugly bridesmaid dresses…the obscenely rich are just like us!

    I’m not bothered by this. Nothing about this wedding is any different than any other young heiresses starter wedding. Is Ivey Getty a bit cringe? No doubt, but she’s 26 and I don’t care what your tax bracket is, saying dumb shit is par for the course.

    For everyone wailing about Nancy Pelosi on Twitter. She’s allowed to go to a wedding and officiate. She is a badass IMO. Even if the bill is not our ideal, we need to remember that Democrats only have the most razor-thin of majorities — which means voting like our lives depend on it in every single election — and Pelosi got the votes to advance the bill. The Senate is what we need to watch next. Sure big money and politics are way too cozy but this is a San Franciso wedding and Pelosi (and Newsom) have connections to the family. Pelosi isn’t blowing off a vote to go to this shindig. There are a lot of issues in the world (primarily Republicans trying to destroy this country) and a society wedding is not one of them.

  63. Delphine says:

    Ok but that house is divine. Like it makes my heart skip.

  64. TheBayTea says:

    I love the whole over the top vibe. And I love both dresses. They feel very Art Deco SF-ish to me.

    Would I spend that much on a wedding? No. Would I attend if I was invited? Oh hell yes. Sounds like a hell of a party.

  65. Katherine says:

    Sorry, no, can’t get over the fact of how callous doing this is when people are struggling in poverty across the world.

  66. Erin says:

    I was throughly Entertained by all of the write ups about this wedding, looking at the 50 million pictures and then coming on here and reading all the comments ( The SF tea is great 🐸 🍵 ). I mean undeservingly rich people were the first celebrities (royals anyone) I’m here for the show.

  67. Bread and Circuses says:

    Her dress was not ugly; it was just deeply weird. I kinda love it, but at the same time, it wasn’t completely flattering on her.

    No opinions otherwise, since I didn’t know these people existed until I clicked on this article.

  68. Kitty says:

    She’s so ordinary. No wonder she put her bridesmaids in frumpy, shiny sacks.