A few months ago, Lori Harvey and Michael B. Jordan broke up. At the end of the day, it seemed like he was ready to move in together and propose and Lori… wasn’t. I think she dumped him. She’s 25 years old, beautiful and focused on her career. So that’s where we are now. This week, Lori chatted with Teyana Taylor for Bumble’s Luv2SeeIt YouTube series. They talked about love, self-worth, relationships and dating philosophies. Lori sounds like an absolute badass. I love her.

“I almost got married very young,” Lori Harvey revealed. “I felt like I hadn’t really experienced anything. I didn’t really know myself, I didn’t really know what I liked, what I didn’t like. I just feel like I hadn’t really experienced life.” She said she eventually came to a point where she wanted to “date on my terms.” She added, “However I want to move, whatever I want to do, I’m going to do it. And if it’s no longer serving me, I’m going to move on.”

Earlier in the episode, Harvey said that change is “the beautiful part of growth,” noting that she doesn’t want the same things at 25 that she wanted at 21. “Two different mindsets. Like, I don’t even know her anymore. She’s not here anymore. This is who we’re dealing with today.”

“You can’t live your life based on what other people are going to think, how other people feel, because at the end of the day it’s your life — so what’s going to make you happy?” Harvey asked. She also said she wouldn’t change her past because she “learned so much in the process” of her personal experiences.

When Taylor asked what makes her feel powerful in a relationship, Harvey replied, “My values, standards and my requirements. There are some superficial requirements, and you can cut down on those … but don’t compromise on core values and beliefs.”

Harvey also said she takes more control now, saying she is in a space where she’s not doing anything that will “compromise my peace and happiness. Don’t give your power away to anybody. That I feel is the key to being truly happy in or out of a relationship.”

Harvey shared another piece of advice, saying, “I feel like if a situation’s no longer serving you, there’s nothing wrong with leaving that situation.”

[From People]

People are mad at her for… dating like a man, basically. They’re mad because she knows her worth and she won’t give her time and effort to people or situations unworthy of her time. For what it’s worth, I think she really loved Michael B. Jordan. I think they were very happy together. But she didn’t want to marry him and she didn’t want to “give up” her life, thus the situation was no longer serving her.

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