Tom Brady is ‘very sad at the moment,’ Gisele left & he’s caring for the kids

Last week, Page Six reported that Tom Brady and Gisele Bundchen had some kind of epic argument and it was so bad that she left their Florida compound. Apparently, she’s in Costa Rica, either at their vacation home or staying in a hotel. Interestingly, the reports are that Gisele left alone, meaning she left their kids with Tom. Tom returned to the Tampa Bay Buccaneers camp last week and he looked like a different person – he’s lost weight and he looked tired and like he’d spent the whole summer arguing with Gisele. Gisele reportedly was not happy with Tom’s sudden decision to un-retire and play one more year. She’s been wanting him to focus on their family for years, and that’s what they’ve been fighting about. This big fight also apparently happened just after Tom missed eleven days of preseason training for unspecified reasons. So… there is trouble in the Bunchen-Brady household, I think we can say that definitively. Perhaps Gisele has found the solution: make Tom do all of the daily child-rearing for a while to see what she’s been dealing with.

Tom Brady is very “sad” over his huge spat with wife Gisele Bündchen but insiders say he is focusing on being “super dad” to his children.

Page Six exclusively revealed the model has left their family compound in Tampa, Fla., for Costa Rica following a series of heated arguments over Brady’s shock decision to un-retire from the NFL. He has remained behind for team training.

Sources say Brady, 45, is taking care of his and Bündchen’s children, Benjamin, 14, and Vivian, 9, plus Jack, his 15-year-old son with ex Bridget Moynahan.

A source told us of Brady, “He’s very sad at the moment. Friends know they’ve had a serious disagreement this time. It seems that Gisele gets mad and says things like she’s leaving him, but in the past, they’ve always made up. But maybe this time it is more serious. He’s with the kids, and is just trying to be super dad.”

On his Instagram account Monday, Brady — who married Bundchen in 2009 — posted a video of himself taking Benjamin and Vivian to their first day of school.

The Buccaneers quarterback missed 11 days of training in August and when quizzed about his disappearance, he hinted at marital problems. He said: “It’s all personal … everyone’s got different situations they’re dealing with. We all have really unique challenges to our life. I’m 45 years old, man. There’s a lot of s–t going on.”

Brady has been looking downcast at training camp, according to sources.

[From Page Six]

Good! I hope he is sad. I hope he starts to understand how Gisele’s career has taken a backseat for years while she does the bulk of child-rearing and keeps up with their children’s schedules. I’m not saying Tom is a bad father, but he’s clearly an absent father when football season starts. Gisele has every right to be sick of it, especially when he’s making these major decisions without checking in with her. As I said last week, on this, I’m Team Gisele. I like her solution too, which is: make him deal with all of the back to school stuff, the school runs, the pickups, the extracurriculars. Give him a good look at what Gisele has been doing for years while he f–ks around with a football.

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  1. Kebbie says:

    Good for her. She’s back in Florida now though. She took the kids to a water park in Miami according to Page Six.

    In the week or less that he had to take care of the kids by himself (with a huge support staff I’m sure) there were like two separate People articles about how hands on he was for taking the younger kids to school and for flying out to watch his older son’s football game 🙄

    Where is he training? In Tampa? If she’s in Miami and he’s in Tampa, she’s probably still pissed. As she has every right to be.

    • DouchesOfCambridge says:

      Im totally team Gisele if she wants to show him the sh*t she goes through and what she sacrifices so he can live his football dream. But looking at him, I think he might have a health problem and that’s why Gisele is so radical. He sounded so tired. Lost so much weight. Tom is going to backout of the season. They probably have help for the children, why would he miss all those days? Because he couldn’t go anyway. This is an ultimatum for Tom. I hope he chooses his family.

  2. girl_ninja says:

    Wowwwww. I actually really respect Gisele for doing this. He is entirely too wrapped up in what he wants and his legacy that he only feeds HIS needs. I know that he’s the youngest and only male of three older sisters. They grew up Catholic and I assume very, very traditional. And even though his father seems to be so deeply in love with his wife, I’m sure she took on the burden of that household and raising those kids. Tom probably thinks this is how it should be and just thinks he can do whatever he wants. Too bad buddy! Your wife is not your nanny!

    Yes. We know they are wealthy and can employ a gaggle of nannies but why! Why have kids if you are not going to raise them? I hope he learns his lesson cause he was lucky to get Gisele in the first place. He met her after Leo’s dating age limit so she had to go. He better get his act together for their kids too.

    • Mindy_DeLaCalle says:

      And that’s cause they are pretty self sufficient at those ages. It’s more fun to hang out with them and learn their personalities. Their oldest are about to go to college and NOW is the time to be involved. My sister took a step back from some of my niece’s extracurricular dance activities to be more involved in my nephew’s life as he just turned 15 and she only has a few more years of him in the house. He needs her guidance as he prepares to be an ‘adult’ now more than ever.

    • ElleV says:

      tbh i always thought leo regarded her as the one that got away – my recollection is that gisele dumped him and i think it would be FASCINATING and deliciously messy if they circled back to each other

  3. Noki says:

    Boo Hoo

  4. Maddy says:

    Never thought I’d say this, but Team Gisele™ all the way!

    You can’t just go back on an agreement like that when you’re married.

    • Liz Version 700k says:

      100% agree! This is a big giant deal to alter a marital agreement unilaterally like this. And his kids are just a few years away from adulthood. The boys will be off to school in a couple of years. They need a present father. It isn’t like he is away because he has to be, he was retired and he has no need to be away to earn a living. Good for her for letting him have a turn at being the present parent after 15 years of her taking a back seat to his ambitions.

    • Josephine says:

      I missed that there was an agreement? A marriage is a complicated thing, and their marriage is particularly complicated with two big careers and kids and a stepchild for her. I’m team happy kids. We have no way of knowing what’s going on, and I really loathe the “team” thing unless someone is abusive or cheating and it’s obvious. I assume they knew the complications and sacrifices when they married.

      • Nikki says:

        She said he’d suffered concussions. I think she’s completely justified to be angry he’s risking his health every day he continues with football.

  5. whatever says:

    Their daughter is a mini-Gisele. She is just so gorgeous. And I love so much how happy and relaxed she looks. I love that, despite their tremendous wealth, she’s wearing clothes that look like they could have come out of my kids’ closet. Their kids really do have a very “normal” vibe to them.

    • Nikki says:

      I totally agree. So many children of celebrities dress like mini-influencers. They seem like normal kids!

  6. Colby says:

    If I were her I would be **pissed**

    Tom has won a bunch of Super Bowls, was the head of one of the greatest teams of all time, and won a Super Bowl without Coach Bill in Tampa. He is one of not the GOAT quarterbacks. He has proved that several times over. He has made more money than anyone will spend on a lifetime

    So, what is the need to un-retire? Ego. Straight ego. If my husband sacrificed my family for ego, right when I thought we would finally have time to *be* a family….? No sir.

    • Deering24 says:

      ITA. Successful people often forget that knowing when to call it a day is part of being a true success. They get so hooked on the accolades/money that they just can’t give them up.

    • Meghan says:

      Idk if it is so much the money or if it is just literally the only thing he knows how to do. I am fully team Gisele if he agreed to retire then just dropped the bomb that he was going to play again and she would just have to deal with it. But I also look at my grandfather, who had no hobbies outside of his work and all he does is sit around the house all day watching TV since he retired 10+ years ago. Working was all he knew and now he just drives my grandmother crazy.

      Also I didn’t realize that he had ACTUALLY retired. I thought it was just a rumor and he didn’t shut it down, then suddenly he was “back.” (Which doesn’t negate whatever he and Gisele had decided, I just never knew the retirement was a real thing a la Brett Favre)

  7. Mindy_DeLaCalle says:

    It’s nice to know that even people with ALL the means in the world to hire staff to outsource their parenting, Giselle as a mother still wants their father to be involved in their day to day lives. Is that weird to say? Like, I feel less alone as a SAHM who is trying to launch her own marketing business (part time) and my hubs is a medical director at the local hospital here. We argue all the time about his lack of involvement and his lack of INTEREST in our 14 month old son. He’s changing everyday and your excitement at the things he does when you’re off (he’s been doing for the past week) doesn’t mean I have to also be excited. BECAUSE he’s been climbing on things FOR DAYS.


    • SarahCS says:

      From conversations with a lot of friends you are very much not alone in what you describe. It’s partly why through many heated debates with my b/f over the years I have tried to explain that my views and experiences of parenthood would be very different to his own and that just puts me in a different place. He’s a decent guy but has no idea what motherhood typically involves vs. fatherhood.

      Good luck with your business.

      • Cynner says:

        I’m wondering if poor Tom is lost without football. If so, get counseling and get ready for the future, but family should always come first! To ignore your wife and kids so that you can stave off your fears is cowardly and sad. There is life after football—a vast majority of us are proof of that.

      • Deering24 says:

        Cynner—I suspect that’s the case. One of the things I admire most about Serena and Venus is that they made it plain from the start they had lives and talents outside of tennis, no matter how great their on-court accomplishments. No one stays on top forever, and it’s not smart to get hooked on that.

  8. Lens says:

    Boy at least in these pictures her daughter looks just like her mom. I agree with Gisele all the way. When a partner makes a promise that you asked of him probably for years and then reneges on that promise it’s basically saying my football career takes precedence over my marriage. And you say okay fine. Bye. That’s Gisele and that would be me.

  9. MY3CENTS says:

    I’m normally not that fond of her, but she gets my respect on this.

  10. lanne says:

    Good grief. If he keeps it up, he won’t recognize his own kids in 5 years. Who knows what kind of damage he’s already sustained. And good on her for leaving him to do the child rearing on his own. I’ve seen so many women, especially during covid, buckle from the strain of child rearing with little help from spouses who live in the same house. Dads aren’t babysitters. They’re parents and they need to act like it.

    • Robyn says:

      I don’t think he recognizes them anyway. I remember an article recently where he was talking about how when he had retired he had all this time to spend with his kids and didn’t know what to do. Like bud, you’re a multimillionaire with teenagers, surely you can think of SOME WAY to entertain them?? The incompetence was astounding.

    • Liz Version 700k says:

      That is exactly right. I think the health issues are real and no joke. If my husband was choosing to go back to something that could take him mentally away from my kids I would be upset too. Hershel Walker comes to mind. That man is not OK. No woman in her right mind wants her husband to risk that after 14 years. He isn’t 25 anymore he has had a lot of hits.

  11. jferber says:

    I’m Team Giselle on this, too. What a big baby he is, only considering his own needs, feeling totally entitled to a great life in which he doesn’t have to lift a finger and playing a boy’s game until 45 like he has no other responsibilities elsewhere. Make your family a priority, Tom. Do your share. Thank God for the life you lead since our country’s values are crap and pay you enormous money for doing what you do.

  12. A says:

    I think it’s more than just wanting Tom Brady to take on an equal share of the parenting duties. It’s pretty clear that Gisele Bundchen also wants a husband who is in good health, and in possession of his faculties so that he can see his kids grow up. If she had thought that he’d be retired by now, only to have him continuously choosing to go back to a sport that is objectively quite dangerous to his health and well-being, I’d be really freaking mad about it too. It’s too bad that none of this can be spoken about openly, so the press has to paint it like it’s an issue of balancing one’s work and career, but it is so clearly much much more than that. I wonder if the 11 days he took off were for some health related reason (not Botox like others have suggested), and at the end of it, Gisele was hoping that this would sincerely be it for Tom Brady, but he decided to go back for one more year or something.

    • Eurydice says:

      Yes, I think this is more likely. A woman who has been at the top of her field, who is rich and famous, doesn’t “put her career on hold” unless she wants to. She doesn’t become a hands-on mother unless she wants to. And it totally makes sense that she would be concerned about her husband’s health because she’s said that openly in the past. At the same time, the Bucs wouldn’t have signed Tom for another season if he were unhealthy. We’ll find out sooner or later.

    • lucy2 says:

      I thought about that too, he managed to retire without major injuries (that I know of) and she was probably relieved, and then he dove right back in. And recovering from injury at 46 is very different than 26, not to mention all the neurological stuff that can happen.

      Good for her for standing up for herself regarding the family too. She’s likely been doing almost all the parenting.

  13. SarahCS says:

    Ah good old everyday sexism. They’re saying that Giselle is a ‘mom’ but Tom is ‘super dad’ for doing the same work. Well, trying to be, according to the source who these days I always assume is someone’s publicist.

  14. phlyfiremama says:

    I really really wish that we could stop glorifying father’s who DO THEIR OWN PART in raising children as something “special” or ground breaking in some way. You aren’t “babysitting” your own children when you (the actual FATHER) is left alone with them.

    • Summer says:

      And come on, he’s not looking after those kids anyway—the nanny is. Chef is making the food. He’s maybe doing more than he would if Gisele were there, but he’s hardly performing the duties of a typical dad anyway.

  15. Qtpi says:

    Yeah she’s pissed and I’m totally on her side. I’m sure when she got with him she figured he would be done by 40. Most, if not all, QBs are done by then. And then he kept going and going.. and then he retired only to unretire! I can’t even imagine.

    I have a cousin that played in the NFL and it was incredibly hard watching him. You want to enjoy a good play but you literally hold your breath before every snap. When they are tackled you watch for them to get back up right away. And that was just for a cousin. Can’t imagine watching a son or husband all these years. There is no way he won’t be severely affected with CTE after playing all these years.

  16. Eva Vane says:

    You mean the man who publicly questioned the paternity of son is not a nice person.

    • Liz Version 700k says:

      Yikes I forgot about that. Jeez US

    • Julia K says:

      Any guy, not only athletes, should be positive about paternity before having your name on the birth certificate and determining child support, especially when you have BROKEN UP with that person and she later announces a pregnancy. Believe this must have been legal advice, as it was for a person known to our family.

    • Nikki says:

      I don’t see anything wrong with that. And he’s been a very caring and involved father, and they’ve seemed to work out their coparenting well.

  17. Eva Vane says:

    I’m so tired of all these people being shock their partners are horrible people.
    Tom was a huge a$$hat and still is.
    Do they think things will change?
    Most celebs should Google their beloved before getting in too deep.

  18. Izzy says:

    Super Dad?!?! It’s called raising your kids. You had ‘em, you get to help raise ‘em. The bar is SO LOW, he gets a cookie because he has to be a parent to his own kids for a few days. No wonder Gisele bolted, she deserved a break.

    • Malificent says:

      Exactly — why does he deserve a pat on the back for just doing what he’s supposed to.

    • Mindy_DeLaCalle says:

      UGH, the term super dad kept annoying me too. He’s just a dad. Doing what mothers do EVERY damn day.

  19. Lulu says:

    I’m not sure this is a move to be glorified or emulated on Giselle’s part. Yes, it shouldn’t be all on her to take care of their family but just up and bailing on her children out of the blue might be very confusing and hurtful for those kids. They don’t need to be involved in their parent’s disagreements. Maybe she is still involved with their childcare but just no longer living in the same home – I have no idea what their actual arrangement is… either way, this could be a scary/anxious time for them so I’m not gonna blindly applaud whatever is going on here. Just my two cents.

    • Sue says:

      I was just coming on here to say that their kids are very cute and that’s my something nice. And then I read your comment and have to agree 100%. I hated when my parents fought but neither of them ever left (except maybe to take a walk to cool off – not leave the country).

  20. bitsycs says:

    I suspect this is also about his health. Football is no joke and I would not want the risk of injury anymore. He did it, he won in Tampa, he proved he didn’t need Bill, etc. MOVE ON and protect your life, head, and whatever you have left.

    As a 15y SAHM I also respect the dipping out and being like “ok you do this.” We moved for my husband’s job early in our marriage and decided we’d have kids and I’d SAH instead of working. He’s a super involved dad, truly a great dad and even then I don’t think he quite got alllll of what goes on in our house until Covid and his working from home became indefinite. Sometimes I think about working now (though in a lot of ways our lives are so much busier with kid obligations), but it would also be a huge mental adjustment for us both and I do fear that I’d just work and still do everything I do now out of habit. I don’t mind doing it now because I consider it my job especially since the kids are in school all day and it is pretty equitable imo (as the kids got older and gone during the day and my husband’s job got more demanding, I took on more of our household stuff). But anyway, good for her.

  21. ThatsNotOkay says:

    He’s not being “super dad,” he’s just finally being “a” dad. A regular old dad who is finally doing his fair share of child rearing. GTFOH with that nonsense.

  22. Queen Meghan’s Hand says:

    I get the feeling Giselle is done-done. She’s back in the States and still not home! Brady is 45 years-old and just now learning “you can’t have it all.” Good Luck to a single Tom Brady.

  23. TIFFANY says:

    When Dwayne Wade announced he was retiring, he gave a interview and the reporter asked what is the 1st thing he is going to do afterwards and he said go to therapy. He said he spent 3/4 of his life playing basketball and needed to see how to adjust to life outside of it.

    Tom needs that. He is too wrapped up in ego and whatever snake oil treatments he is trying to sell and now it really is effecting his family life.

    I wonder the reason he has not done therapy is because a therapist will not he impressed with him and tell him his issues.

    • Mindy_DeLaCalle says:

      THIIISSS, Tom needs therapy if he doesn’t know how to adjust to life off the field. Hell, there’s a bunch of correspondent jobs that are just waiting for him. He doesn’t have to ‘quit’ football at together.

  24. Jaded says:

    He clearly derives much more satisfaction from football than he does his own children. That’s really sad…and I’m sure once the playing season is over he’s too busy with other football-related stuff to be much of a hands-on dad. She was right to bolt. He’s gotta smarten up or she’ll be gone for good with the kids.

  25. CarolMengel says:

    Why is she being applauded so much for raising her own children? Isn’t what she’s going through what every other NFL wife goes through every football season? I never heard Philip Rivers’ wife complaining that she was left to take care of their kids, and they had like 11! It’s called being a sports spouse.

    • whatWHAT? says:

      Is Philip Rivers as successful and well known as Tom Brady? obv no, since I had to google him to see who he is.

      Is Philip Rivers’ wife the highest paid and one of the most successful supermodels of all time? one who put her career on hold, during her best years when she could continue to rake in the $$$? no, she’s Rivers’ “high school sweetheart”, who likely never even considered having a job since her husband is/was her meal ticket. of COURSE she’s going to be a full time mom. it was likely understood as soon as he got drafted that she’d be a SAHM. Giselle Bundchen was already one of the most successful models EVER before she got with Tom.

      and did her husband, after having won multiple championships, finally retire to be present in family life only to then UN-retire 40 days later?

      oh, my bad, he’s never even been to the SuperBowl. and apparently pulled a Brett Favre at the end of his career.

      it’s not the same at all.

  26. Linny says:

    No matter who is Right or who is Wrong in this Spat, just taking off alone and abandoning your children is pretty serious, Not saying they are getting a Divorce but if they were her actions would not be looked upon favorably in Family Court. Btw, Tom looks really Aged in that photo, I think his time is up and has been but Giselle needs to come back home to her kids, especially with school starting because School administrations notice things like that!

    • Liz Version 700k says:

      She didn’t abandon her children she left them with their other parent. I’m pretty sure a chart of who has had more parenting days would be something in the neighborhood of 50,000 to 17 in her favor.

    • Mindy_DeLaCalle says:

      Why do you think she left them in the middle of the night? I’m sure they have family or a nanny around that is their constant more than their father that is with them. I’m almost a hundred percent positive she talked to them and they knew what was happening and where she was going and they had several different ways to reach her. The only one kept out of the loop was Tom.

    • Jaded says:

      She didn’t abandon her children. The kids have Bridget Moynahan, grandparents, nannies, etc. to look after them. Her marriage is in crisis because for Tom, football comes before EVERYTHING — wife, kids, and being present for them. Giselle clearly needed some alone time to process the marital discord that has been happening since he retired then immediately un-retired. For the first time since they married, she thought she’d actually be able to have a proper marriage, a husband and father who was *there* for his wife and kids, but clearly he wasn’t listening. He needed a short, sharp shock about the reality of him leaving the upbringing of HIS children solely to her. It doesn’t matter that they’re insanely rich and have tons of help, she strikes me as a very family oriented person who knows that their kids are being ignored for the most part by their own father.

      • Oye says:

        Well well eventhough she seems right on this, after retirnment they usually can get in in crisis mode like what are they if they are not in sport? Sooooo
        Better let him play than having him in crisis mode lol
        He can focus on being who he is without football and more family time and what is god purpose for humanity endevors..?

        She should let him play it would eventually end lol…and then he want to coach and then more involvment in sport and she just get used to it.
        She is US version of a wag except she is successful in her own as much as he if not more….or couple theraphy.

      • Jaded says:

        @Oye — “What are they if they’re not in sport?” “She should let him play it would eventually end lol”?

        He’s 45 years old. He’s clearly not an active participant in parenting. Football means more to him than his family. He’s 45 and facing the potential of brain damage as he ages. Chronic traumatic encephalopathy (CTE) is a progressive brain condition that’s caused by repeated blows to the head and repeated concussions. It’s particularly associated with contact sports like boxing or football. Symptoms generally start later in life, around age 60. These signs and symptoms include memory and thinking problems that are likely to progress to dementia. THAT is what is wrong with his insistence on continuing to play a dangerous, damaging sport. Where does that leave his wife and kids?

    • VIV says:

      If she took the kids with her she probably would have been accused of kidnapping them or some nonsense. She was even suspected to be at one of her homes. Having the rich persons equivalent of a solo or girls weekend isn’t child abandonment.

  27. StacfromCO says:

    I’ve read more than I care to admit about this. I don’t think she did this to get him to appreciate all she does because I’m sure she has help too. Based on her interviews, I think she did it to just make him pay attention to his kids. To just spend time with them and not ignore them or forget about them. It seems like they are out of sight and out of mind very easy with him. All she seems to want is for him to be present with his family. That’s what I read between the lines. The headline to Mom shame her for leaving him alone with them is such an ick move.

  28. why says:

    nothing super about it
    he (finally?) is a dad because he has no choice instead of leaving the bulk of parenting to The Mom like always
    good for gisele tbh

  29. ML says:

    Just finished reading both the article and comments. 1. I find myself on Gisele’s team, too. 2. When marriages hit bumpy spots or break down where a parent moves out and there are kids involved, this is NOT abandonment unless the parent also deserts their children. Gisele has NOT deserted her kids. Some posters seem to believe that Gisele should have stayed with her kids during this period, which reads incredibly misogynistic to me, since if the roles were switched and Tom the football dude left home due to marital issues, I don’t believe many people would be spouting off on him. 3. If things are so toxic that Gisele has (temporarily or permanently) moved out, this is much better for her and her kids.

  30. Deeanna says:

    I think he is ill. Perhaps showing signs of the brain disorder or else something like prostate cancer.
    His wife wants him out of sports and he agreed at first then suddenly changed his mind. If it is something really bad maybe he wants to complete the contract so his family will have the money?