Ashley Graham handled Hugh Grants grumpiness on the Oscars red carpet like a champ. I know a lot of people said she didn’t understand his reference, but she was just doing her job and trying to keep it breezy. I think she navigates her celebrity niche quite well, with some minor hiccups. Ashley and her husband of 12 years, filmmaker Justin Ervin, have three children together: a three-year-old son, Isaac and twin boys Malachi and Roman, 14 months. On a podcast called Milk Drunk by Bobbie, Ashley gave some quotes about family planning that are getting headlines.
Ashley Graham revealed her husband, Justin Ervin, had an “easy” vasectomy.
“We’re in full vasectomy mode. He’s shooting blanks now,” the model, who shares three kids with Ervin, said on Wednesday’s episode of “Milk Drunk: The Podcast.”
Graham, 35, explained that the procedure is “so easy” for men and that her husband was up and about shorty after getting snipped.
“It’s like the easiest thing. Justin went shopping with me right after,” Graham joked.
Graham explained that Ervin, 32, wasn’t stuck in bed afterwards, but that “he iced it.”
She also expressed how happy she is not to have to be on birth control after Ervin got the routine operation.
“I don’t have to be on a pill,” Graham said, adding, “Thank god.”
The Sports Illustrated cover girl talked about her husband’s fertility situation after joking that she needed to “have one more,” before confirming that they would definitely not be welcoming any more children together.
I first read about this on Yahoo, where they pointed out that Jessie James Decker said her husband refused to get a vasectomy because he claimed it would take “his manhood away from him.” Throw that whole man out! I once dated a guy who told a very colorful story on one of our first dates about how painful and awful his vasectomy was. I should have seen that for the giant red flag it was. He was divorced with two kids meaning his ex wife had gone through childbirth twice. Maybe the doctor didn’t use anesthesia correctly and I don’t mean to dismiss his experience, but why would you tell that story except to convince me that you sacrificed so much and we should go bareback? It’s possible that Graham’s husband was downplaying his vasectomy to try and make her feel better. Either way, he sounds like an awesome partner and person.
I don’t get the objection to a vasectomy. Women spend their adult lives dealing with birth control and its various side-effects, often 20+ years. Men have one thing to do, which is usually pretty straight-forward. That said, my brother-in-law did have some complications that were tough to deal with for about a year, but even with that he made clear that it was the right thing to do for the family (they have 3 kids and the 3rd was not planned/expected but of course much loved).
Gosh they are a gorgeous couple. It’s blows my mind that vasectomies aren’t more common place. The one guy I know from work who’s had one (I don’t even have one male friend whose had it done!) said it was way less bad than various dental or ingrown toenail minor procedures.
After we got pregnant with our twins (our 3rd and 4th kids) my husband and I had an agreement that if I gave birth vaginally he would get a vasectomy and if I had a C-section, I would get my tubes tied during it. I’m grateful that he was totally willing to do that without any fuss. I did end up having a C-section, but he still says he would have gone ahead with it no problem.
One thing to know about getting a tubal litigation — if you want to do that while having a c-section and you are in a Catholic hospital, you may have to ask for permission from the hospital board. My friend (who is not Catholic) had to go through that procedure just because her town’s big hospital happened to be Catholic. She said it was infuriating and humiliating. About 1 in 6 hospitals are Catholic I believe. Yet another thing we really, really need to be aware of and fighting aginst.
Did your tubes being tied hurt? Could you tell after the C? I sure could. It was so weird.
It didn’t hurt having them done, as it was done in five minutes while I was still open from the C-section. It’s been a year and a half and I haven’t noticed any pain or any difference really.
My ex was sore for about a day but then fine after that.
Funny story, when my dad had his they found out that only one of his testicles was actually hooked up properly. There was no vas deferens on the other side. The doc was surprised that my parents hadn’t had trouble conceiving.
I’m glad her husband had an easy experience. Mine sure didn’t! Easier than childbirth for sure, but he was still pretty traumatized. Our friend had a great experience, though, and it turned out his urologist gave him a prescription for valium beforehand. My husband went in with only the local and nearly passed out. Definitely get the valium!
My husband had one. He was a bit sore for the first day but then fine. Went right back to work and normal life. The procedure was super fast and easy, he drove himself there and then home.
Men who think it takes their manhood away are ridiculous. My husband was nervous, but only about something going wrong.
@Aud I have a question: my husband is all in for getting a vasectomy but his urologist said that he has to stay in bed for 3 days afterwards or else there’s a risk that it won’t take (like the tubes will reconnect or something?). That’s been our sticking point because finding three days with a one and three year old and work schedules is a nightmare. Did your husband have to spend three days in bed or is that maybe an over-exaggeration?
Umm, maybe your husband should get a second opinion. My partner had a vasectomy: it was an office procedure at our family practice office (they had a specialist who came in every Friday just to do vasectomies).
My partner was sore for about 1 day, but iced his groin and wanted to have sex the next day, so I’m guessing it wasn’t really that bad. Lol.
Anyway, I’ve never heard the bit about needing bedrest for 3 days, so I think the urologist is either really old school or just extremely cautious.
Omg – that’s hilarious. Women don’t even get to stay in bed for three days after giving birth. Men.
@TwinFalls that was my reaction exactly. Three days??? Sounds lovely, SMDH.
Exactly my husband’s experience. A day watching March Madness sitting with a bag of frozen peas. Easy peasy 🙂
She is right! A vasectomy might not be described as comfortable but it is a pretty simple procedure compared to having your tubes tied for example. My ex had one and almost wanted to have sex straight after he got home that’s how chill he was about it. No comparison at all to all the complications us women go through with birth control…when I got an IUD inserted I fainted from the pain and I normally have a quite high pain tolerance…I just got out of an emergency C section 6 weeks ago where I refused any pain meds other than Tylenol afterwards (not gonna lie, it was disgustingly painful but my husband was a great support system) I think vasectomies should be normalised and talked about so more men get it and women can finally start sharing the burden of birth control.
I wasn’t going to comment, but then realized with the current Republican drive to eradicate birth control and the right to an abortion (and basic human rights), we should be talking about vasectomies. Ashley Graham and Justin Ervin are doing an excellent job of using their personal life for public good.
He sounds like a good guy and partner.
On the subject of vasectomies, I wonder what y’all think of this. My son’s friend doesn’t ever want kids. Neither does his fiancé. He went to ask for a vasectomy and the doctor said he wouldn’t do one because this guy was only 27 at the time. The doctor said that was too young to rule out children and he might change his mind.
I thought that was unreasonable.
That happens to women (even women who’ve had children already!) who request surgical sterilization all the time. I’d advise him to look for another doctor. That’s one area where “equality” is harming everyone. Neither women nor men should have their family planning decisions second-guessed.
It is unreasonable and patronizing. He should go to another doctor, one that actually listens to their patients. And per my note above, make sure the procedure will not be done in a Catholic hospital.
I asked to get my tubes tied at 25. I already had one kid, didn’t want anymore. The doctor literally told me he wouldn’t do it because I was going to change my mind, “All women do” and besides “What if your husband wants more kids?”. I was livid. I walked out of there told the front desk they would be getting a phone call to transfer my records to a new doctor. Within a week this doctor had a heart attack (he was in is 50’s) and retired. I considered it great karma.
I’m sure there are many similar stories but I’ve had more than one female friend get pushback on medically necessary procedures they’ve requested if it might interfere with a possible future pregnancy. It’s maddening.
I had a similar experience. I had 3 girls at 21. Asked my doctor to tie my tubes. He refused saying I was too young and I may want to try for a boy later. I didn’t. I ended up having a hysterectomy at 35. My husband had to have spousal permission to have his vasectomy.
Every time we see couples our age with small kids we high five each other and express how grateful we are to be “double fixed.”
This happened to me. I had to go to another doctor who was more understanding. Apparently some men and women below the age of 35 change their minds and doctors would rather not get caught in the backlash. So your friend’s decision is being blocked because a few other men or women regretted theirs. The fact that a vast majority are happy getting their tubes tied is beside the point. Good luck to your friends!
Oh for gods sake, I donated a kidney to my dad, they removed a rib to get it out, I had an 8 inch incision with 40+ staples and I went shopping with my Mom when I left the hospital.
Men need to get off it and stop being such whiny babies 🙄
I’ve loved her and her family for a long time. I have yet to see Hugh Grant being a douche to Ashley, but I’m sure I’ll see it eventually. My God, this entire family is frigging gorgeous!