Sam Claflin: ‘I try so hard to make other people happy that I don’t know who I am’

In my opinion, Sam Claflin suffers from James Marsden Syndrome. That’s where an actor is perfectly handsome, in a Disney-prince sort of way, and perfectly talented across the board, but he doesn’t get a lot of respect for his range or the quality of his work. That lack of respect comes from the fact that the guy is so handsome and because he makes it look easy. Just my take! Plus, I also think Sam is kind of unmemorable in many roles, but that’s perhaps because of the project and not him. In any case, Sam was recently profiled by GQ Hype to talk about Daisy Jones and the Six, where he plays the lead, Billy Dunne. Some highlights from GQ:

His struggle-years: “I think I was on the ‘upcoming hot under-30-year-olds list’ for like ten years and I was like, ‘I’m still not coming.’ A lot of guys recognise me because their girlfriends have forced them to watch something I’m in.”

He didn’t know anything about the ‘70s or music: “Having to sit in a recording studio listening to yourself over and over again was a horrifying experience. I think there’s a line in the series where [someone says that] to be a musician you have to have an ego. I wouldn’t say that’s me. I was one of the last they [auditioned] and the way I saw it was they’d seen everyone else and just had to make do.”

He regrets working on some projects: “There’ve been a few jobs I’ve agreed to and later had second thoughts, but I’d given my word. I don’t want to be perceived as someone who is difficult.”

He doesn’t want to play bad guys anymore: “I went through a stage of desperately vying for an Oscar but doing things that were really not me. Physically, emotionally transforming myself. [The Nightingale] was too far the other way. I think that was the turning point in my life. I don’t think I could do that again.”

He can cry at any time because he’s gone through a divorce: “These emotions are still quite raw for me. I can just take from that and put myself in this situation because I lived through it.”

Before his divorce, he didn’t know himself: “One of the reasons I became an actor is that I always want people to like me. I think it’s only recently dawned on me that I try so hard to make other people happy that I don’t know who I am. I’m from Norfolk but I’ve just adopted an accent that no one can really put a flag on. It’s an amalgamation of other people’s accents. Over time I’d sort of lost, I don’t know… What makes me happy?”

His divorce from Laura Haddock: “It’s a horrendous thing to go through. Every break-up is difficult, and obviously having kids makes it even more. During Covid I really f–king struggled with the kids and, mentally, where my life was. Working through that, I’ve started getting to a point where I’m not afraid of saying no anymore.”

He met his new girlfriend on Raya: Recently, Claflin’s girlfriend, whom he met on the dating app Raya, teased him for working out to those generic, algorithmic chill playlists that Spotify tries to feed you. “Do people really listen to those?” I ask. Claflin sighs. “I do.”

[From British GQ]

There’s something Tom Hiddleston-esque about him, now that I’ve read this profile. Something needy, something slightly awkward and vulnerable. He’s not “the cool guy” – he’s uncool, he had a tough divorce and it sounds like he has problems being alone, being by himself with his own thoughts rattling around. I’m not saying any of that in a bad way – I suspect a lot of men are like this, and a lot of actors are like this too. He’s only 36 years old – he seems a lot older, right?

The photos are HOT, actually.

Photos courtesy of GQ Hype.

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  1. Lola says:

    He can make me happy any day!

    ETA: I know that’s not the point by the way.

    • Well Wisher says:

      I get your point, he sounds human …..
      He seems lovely; I hope he learn that “NO” is a complete sentence.

  2. HeyKay says:

    Good Looking, Talented.
    I first saw him in Peaky Blinders as Oswald Moseley. He held the screen in every scene, not easy against Cillian Murphy who was tremendous as Tommy Shelby.

    IMO most actors become actors to avoid being themselves.
    Method acting encourages it to an unhealthy degree.

    So many PR firms push “the coming man” on many handsome young actors from UK.
    US, “next big thing” it is the system.
    True breakout actors, previously selected as “the coming man” makes me think of the wonderful Alan Rickman. Rickman was successful in theater, his first movie role was Hans Gruber in Die Hard. Huge success and he never looked back.

    • Ameerah M says:

      I acted for 10 years and I would say this is not the case. Most actors become actors because they love telling stories. I fell in love with acting because I loved scripts and I loved being able to say the words. And I enjoyed doing deep dives into what makes other tick. That’s not to say that there aren’t people who go into acting for that reason, but most working actors never get to a point where they are acting as a full time career. You have to actually LOVE acting as an art form. It’s what carries you through when the work isn’t there.
      PS – I studied Method acting. It wasn’t my cup of tea but I was actually pretty good at it. What a lot of famous actors call “method” is just them being ridiculous.

      What I will say is that Hollywood in particular breeds insecurity. And it lends itself to people “pretending” to be something they are not to even get into the door. But Hollywood is a very particular beast and isn’t what the majority of working actors (TV and theater) are a part of.

    • Deering24 says:

      HeyKay, one of my fav NYC memories was seeing Rickman in Les Liaisons Dangereuses on Broadway. Smokin’ _hot_–and he deserved to be a big star. Went too soon…:(

  3. Normades says:

    I love what James Marsden said recently that he was on a steady 2% upwards trajectory. Hollywood is often kind to male hotties in their 40s who put in the work, example Pedro Pascal (no salt to PP I love him). Their day will come.

    • Normades says:

      And I love the revisited look at the Notebook. Marsden’s character was rich, handsome but in the end not a bad guy. Ally was kind of horrible.

  4. HeyKay says:

    I love Michael Caine.
    IIRC, he was offended by someone saying they disliked actors because they were “always acting.”
    Caine replied “I most certainly am not always acting. I get paid tremendous amounts of money to act. I certainly will not do it for free.” 👍

  5. Pinkosaurus says:

    He looked vaguely familiar so I had to read the item to figure out who he is. Oh yeah, that guy! So I agree his handsome face and effortless appearing talent are not helping with recognition, but hopefully that leads to a long and fulfilling career for him

    James Marsden is so good in everything but his comedic timing is particularly perfect.

    • Deering24 says:

      Claflin has a _lot_ of competition in the “Hot Brit Actor” department. He hasn’t had a role to make him stand out from the pack (I often confuse him with the Outlander guy, I’m sorry to say.) He might be better off going for a Billy Crudup/Ethan Hawke kind of career instead of shooting for superstardom–and finding satisfaction in roles he groks with. One could do a lot worse than be a handsome character actor. 😉

  6. HeyKay says:

    James Marsden! He should be a Superstar by now.
    Gorgeous man who is aging wonderfully.
    I’ve seen him in so many good performances. 👍
    First, Prince Charming in Enchanted. Loved him in HOP! Kids insisted on watching Sonic, and James was funny as the “Donut Lord” I now yell Donut Lord whenever I see him. I bought Hairspray just to see him. Netflix had some movie in which he turned out to be a real villain, murderer, crime lord, blackmailer. Can’t recall the title.
    I’d love to see him in WestWorld but no cable for me. He does comedy very well + can sing!

    James Marsden should be getting franchise leads and big money!
    I vote get rid of Chris Pratt, replace him with Marsden.

    I do agree that HW/films are a section of acting in which the politics seem to hold more power vs. acting talent.

  7. Lucía says:

    He was the Finnick Odair of my dreams. This was a good read! I appreaciate his honesty. I’m sure he’ll get his due one day.

  8. AC says:

    I actually read this article a few weeks ago too. I was actually surprised that he’s divorced as I remembered when he just got married-I guess time flies.(he’s also currently dating one of Leo’s ex – as of when this article came out). With the exception of Hunger Games and Snow White and the Huntsman, I don’t know of other movies he’s in. There was (and still is)an influx of British and Australian actors invading Hollywood esp after Hugh Laurie made it big with House , I think it was just a lot of competition to get the high profile roles . Even Rob and Nicholas were competing with each other on the Batman role. (With US iconic comic superheroes, it’s rumored that this time an American actor is front runner to play Clark Kent/Superman and possibly Nicholas to play Lex Luther, we’ll see).
    100% agree with James Marsden above. I love him too😊.
    Btw.. agree with Kaiser, Sam looks older than his age . But Maybe it’s the stress of his divorce.

  9. Melody Calder says:

    As much as I love him as Finnick….. he is the absolute BEST in Love, Rosie. Hands down my favorite romantic comedy

    • O’Angie says:

      Yes! Finally some love for Love, Rosie! This movie is so underrated and he is so good in it!