Hayley Atwell says she never dated Tom Cruise, she thought of him like an ‘uncle’

For years, there were rumors about Tom Cruise and Hayley Atwell. Rumors that they were dating, rumors that they spent a lot of time together filming Mission: Impossible: Dead Reckoning Part One, rumors that they broke up after things went south. While I believed that Hayley and Tom could be doing a showmance for movie-promotion and just general professional reasons, I never believed that they were actually dating or having a real romance. Well, as Hayley promoted this MI movie, she’s talking about those rumors and more. She also confirmed to the Independent that she is engaged… to Ned Wolfgang Kelly, a songwriter/composer. She wore her engagement ring during the interview. Some highlights:

The truth about the Tom Cruise rumors: The truth, Atwell tells me, is that she looked on Cruise and Mission’s director, Chris McQuarrie (or “McQ”), as “sort of two uncles”. And who doesn’t love seeking advice from their uncle about the fact that the world thinks you’re courting? “I would be like, ‘Ooh, there’s some weird rumours, and it feels base, it feels a little dirty, it feels grubby, it’s not what I’m about,’” she explains. “Why are things being assumed or projected onto me about my relationship with my work colleague and boss?” Atwell found it “upsetting” because “it’s involving people in my actual life, my personal life, who have to be on the receiving end of that. It becomes invasive.”

Tom’s reaction to the romance rumors: But Cruise, who Atwell says “carries his fame like a loose garment”, knew exactly what to say. “When I’ve talked to him about it, he’d be like” – here she turns to me intensely and looks directly into my eyes – “‘You know exactly who you are. You know what you’re about. And that is the only thing that matters. It doesn’t matter what people think of you, if you are in integrity with yourself, if you know what your value system is.”

What she really thinks of Tom Cruise: “I truly feel you could meet him and go” – here she affects a voice of dry cynicism – “‘He’s nice; he’s charming; he’s charismatic; he knows how to make people feel good about themselves. So that’s just a tactic for total manipulation, because he’s probably just an egocentric.’” She rolls her eyes. “Or whatever bulls*** people want to make up about people. But over time, you’re just watching him, going: he really works hard, he really cares, he’s really interested in people and wants to engage with them, and he believes in the power of cinema as much as he did when he was five years old.” Going into the franchise, she says, he made her feel “safe”.

[From The Independent]

Yeah… so that’s it. I believe her, I guess. I believe that they didn’t have a romance or showmance, but even despite her protests now, I do think she probably sort of enjoyed the buzz. I mean, there was gossip about Tom and Hayley for years and neither of them addressed it before now. Now, I also think it’s funny that she called Tom something akin to an “uncle.” Granted, age-wise, that is what he would be – she’s 41, he’s 61. But Hayley calling him an uncle just highlights the age difference. Anyway, I think Tom has basically given up on romance or whatever – these days, he’s just all about the work, all about the grind.

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  1. Pinkosaurus says:

    Thank goodness! I really like her as an actress and as Agent Carter, and I definitely side-eyed her for being able to overlook all the Scientology abuses in order to date Tom. I didn’t realize it wasn’t a confirmed relationship, although I agree that it probably was not a real relationship and more of a movie set showmance. I’m glad she corrected the record.

    • Ameerah M says:

      If she’s calling him basically her Uncle I highly doubt it was an on-set showmance either lol.

  2. Ooh burn. He is like an uncle. She said uncle not even a brother but an uncle.

    • J says:

      I don’t see it as a burn. Many women aren’t into age gaps, and that is how she sees him. It’s like me looking at college age guys and seeing them as babies. I don’t see any romantic appeal in them as a middle aged person myself, even tho I see they are objectively beautiful. No shade to them I just feel nothing and find no appeal.

    • BlueNailsBetty says:

      😂. I read the headline and literally said, out loud, OUCH. You know Tom’s ego took a hit.

    • BothSidesNow says:

      Yes @ Susan Collins, it was a burn and it was clearly how she viewed him in her mind, which is clearly acceptable.

      As for Cruise and his personal relationships, it will be down to who David chooses for Cruise as he is fully committed in having Miscavige have full control over his personal life choices. Imagine being 61 and you have given your life’s control over an egomaniac, egotistical, narcissistic, and misogynistic pig. Though they are two birds of a feather.

  3. K8erade says:

    Scientology aside, this is my head canon for this story, whether it’s rooted in reality or not: Tom’s been pursuing Hayley for awhile and she keeps gently letting him down. It ends with him thinking he still has a chance and her name still getting out there and that’s what this is about. The “uncle” comment will probably get it to stop though. I can’t see Tom liking that at all.

    I think Tom’s enough of a narcissist that most women don’t meet his standards and he’ll hold out for the “perfect woman.” The hope for that is that he never finds her and no woman is ever subjected to his BS again.

    • Ameerah M says:

      I definitely feel like he would have loved a romance with her. And I also think it was his PR dropping rumors about them.

  4. Grant says:

    She was fabulous in the new Mission Impossible movie. What was not fabulous was the ham-fisted fridging that was also in the film.

  5. HeyKay says:

    She has every right to put a stop to those rumors. And good for her for doing it.
    Yes, part of TC PR is he is always romancing his co stars.
    Really no need for that BS.
    None of us care about who TC is or is not romancing.

    I miss the days of stars like Newman, Redford, Hoffman, Hackman all talented actors.
    But their names were enough to drive the box office.

    Btw, if TC ever decides to disavow CoS that will be a clear sign of the end of the world. Nut job.

  6. Jessamine says:

    We all have that *one* weird uncle …

    • BothSidesNow says:

      That we must invite because they are “family” even though they make everyone’s skin crawl and are waiting for him to create a scene.

  7. OnThisDay says:

    Well, I just appreciate the fact that this is a blockbuster film with co-leads in their 60s and 40s.
    I also doubt either one of them was interested in being romantically involved. Cruise seems to get his kicks from ridiculous stunt work.

    • SadieMae says:

      Tom Cruise is creepy but I do give him credit for not insisting that his film love interests be played by 18-year-olds. Obviously there’s still a significant age gap here but a lot of male action stars of a “certain age” would insist on a much younger co-star so they could project a more stereotypical youthful, virile image. I also loved that Jennifer Connelly, then about 50 years old, played his love interest in “Maverick.” (And it gave the love story there a lot more oomph, IMHO – the characters seemed more like real people with real life experience that they were bringing to a mature relationship.)

      I also very much appreciate that Hayley Atwell is not a stick insect. There again, a lot of those types of films won’t cast a leading lady who isn’t extremely skinny. Even if her character is supposed to be doing action stunts, getting in fights, etc., the actress will be so skinny that she obviously doesn’t have any muscle mass. It is really sad. So I’m glad not to see it here.

  8. Chaine says:

    Ooooo cold. Waiting for one of Leo’s rumored flames to drop that line!

  9. Isadora says:

    Not everyone has the same “fun” experience working with Tom

    https://www.harpersbazaar.com/celebrity/latest/a33247187/thandie-newton-tom-cruise-mission-impossible-2/

    But yeah Tom is an example of a creepy,charming but controlling uncle.

    • Ameerah M says:

      Did you read the interview? She doesn’t actually say anything terrible about him in it lol. She actually compliments him. I’m not a TC fan but this interview doesn’t paint him as anything other than what we know about the guy already lol

    • BothSidesNow says:

      Great article!!! And who gifts Scientology crap for the members on set?? Is he that cheap and so deep into Scientology that he deems those who are not involved with his cult that he finds it his mission to peddle their crap??

      @ Ameerah M, no she doesn’t outright make claims that he was/is an awful costar but he did seem condescending towards Newton regarding the scene on the balcony.

      When have we ever heard of the other costar dictating how THEY wanted the other actor to play the scene? It wasn’t Cruises place to dictate how she delivered her lines and Thandie was doing her best with what she had. Cue to Cruise calling her next day, Thandie expecting an apology but she was met with his demands to reshoot the balcony scene.

  10. Ace says:

    I loved Hayley and I never thought there was truth in the rumours, but she absolutely played along by not joking about them on social media which would have fit in perfectly with her presence there.

    And okay, you could argue that that type of thing is part of the movie PR cycle or whatever but this is Tom Cruise. This fucking guy has people working for him that are practically Scientology slaves, so I’m disappointed that she didn’t dispute them and generally grossed out by her talking him up.

  11. butterflystella says:

    Akin to being put in the “friend zone” LOL (can’t stand Tom btw)

  12. LovelyRita says:

    Also, I’m not at all sure Thandie’s refreshing candor about what went down with Tom didn’t hurt her career. If nothing else, Hayley is playing it safe and who can blame her?

  13. Cathalea says:

    This will trigger a photo op 🤭