Kevin Costner ‘sees himself as having all the class and integrity’ in his divorce

Kevin Costner and Christine Baumgartner’s messy divorce is the kind of scandalous situation which would be well-suited for a People Magazine cover story. The thing is, I kind of believe that People Mag passed on it because they didn’t want to be dictated to by Costner’s people. Us Weekly does not have similar qualms – their cover story this week is completely Costner’s side of things, taken directly from his team. Costner wants us to know that he’s making an effort to lower the temperature around the divorce (he is not) and that he’s doing really well as his war-time lawyers are taking Christine to the woodshed. Some highlights from Us Weekly’s cover story:

He’s ready to pump the brakes on the drama. “Kevin and his lawyers have made a concerted effort to lower the temperature and stop the tide of bad publicity,” explains the source. “He doesn’t want this to be a drawn-out [divorce.] Kevin feels betrayed by Christine, but he wants to take the high ground,. Kevin doesn’t want to waste more time fighting with Christine.”

Christine is divorcing him because he worked too much: “Their marriage seemed solid and like they were in it for the long term, but the time apart clearly took a toll,” says a second source. “Christine just couldn’t cope.”

He’s giving her the silent treatment: The first source says Costner — whose 1994 divorce from his first wife, Cindy Silva, reportedly resulted in an $80 million settlement — is now taking a step back and “letting his lawyers figure it all out” while he and Baumgartner keep their distance. “They are only speaking through intermediaries,” notes the source. “Kevin would rather use the silent treatment than deal with Christine directly anymore.”

Kevin is convinced that he’s classy: “Kevin sees himself as having all the class and integrity in this situation,” says the first source, insisting that “Christine will get a fair deal.” Costner — who owns another property in Santa Barbara and a 160-acre ranch in Colorado, along with a multimillion-dollar art collection — has a “what’s mine is mine” attitude regarding the division of assets, says the source. Adds a third source: “Kevin doesn’t hate Christine, but he does want a clean break. Of course, there are resentments and animosity, but that comes with the territory, and he’s trying not to make it personal.”

He will outplay Christine: While the first source notes there are some concerns that Baumgartner still has ammo “she can throw at Kevin,” the actor feels confident things will work out in his favor. “Kevin is a chess player,” says the source, “and he will outplay Christine.”

His children: As he recovers from the split, Costner’s been leaning on friends and his daughter Lily, 37, from his marriage to Silva. (They also share Annie, 39, and Joe, 35; and Costner shares Liam, 27, with ex Bridget Rooney.) “Lily is the ‘Kevin whisperer’ in the family and the one who keeps him calm and sane,” explains the first source. The second source says Costner’s younger kids with Baumgartner are handling the split “surprisingly well,” adding, “They’re sad, but they’re being very levelheaded and mature about it all.”

Kevin has been through hell, you guys: “Kevin’s been to hell and back, but the feeling you get from people in his circle is that he’s finally coming out the other side,” says the second source. “He’s throwing himself into his work and surrounding himself with people he can trust. Divorce sucks, but he’s toughing it out. Kevin has a lot of confidence in his attorneys, and he’s staying busy with his career and continues to have a very special relationship with his kids. He firmly believes that brighter times are ahead.”

[From Us Weekly]

“The time apart clearly took a toll. Christine just couldn’t cope.” Yiikes. Maybe she couldn’t cope with being financially abused, ignored and treated like a replaceable staffer? Maybe she was alone for so long, basically already a single mother, and she thought “wow, this is fine.” Anyway, I believe this is actually Costner’s perspective – he’s convinced that his behavior is classy and that he’s showing maturity by refusing to speak to Christine and he’s the victim here. Nothing like the bruised ego of a man whose wife charged a forensic accountant to his credit card.

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  1. Eurydice says:

    Lol – “he’s throwing himself into his work” – and how is this different from what he was doing before?

    • AlpineWitch says:

      Exactly! 🤣

    • Kate says:

      My exact thought.

      Also barfed a little at “he’s a chess player and will outplay her”. So mature, so classy.

      • DK says:

        Yeah, word of advice to KC: If you have to tell the world via a cover feature in a national magazine that you’re the one with class and integrity, while at the same time insisting that you’re a chess player who will outplay the mother of your children…you’re not acting with class or integrity.

        In fact, if you have to tell people you have class and integrity, you probably don’t, full stop.

      • Lorelei says:

        @DK, MTE. Vile way to talk about the mother of your children. Keep it classy, Kevin. JFC

      • Agreatreckoning says:

        Yep. Throwback Thursday. Keeping it classy Kevin Costner style.

  2. ⁷Tree says:

    I see him as someone who shouldn’t have remarried. He told her how it is. She agreed. But it was obvious she wanted to be apart of his life. He knew he couldn’t give her that. The way she is handling this divorce, I feel she wants him to care.

    • Mel says:

      This!! He wasn’t interested in doing that kind of share again. This is someone who should never be married again because he’s STILL carrying his divorce with him. Be the girlfriend, get the jewelry, the trips and the connections but have your own home and your own stuff. This is someone who you should have no expectations of aside from being a good time.

  3. ThatsNotOkay says:

    It’s just so embarrassing. This puff PR piece is certainly not taking the high road. Whoa is this uber rich, uber egotistical guy. Come on. The less said, the better. Attempting to play this out in the court of public opinion will only backfire. Just let the lawyers do their work and move on.

    • caitlinsmom says:

      Classy? Really? This is the guy who evicted his wife and kids from their home, even though he has plenty of homes. Make your kids homeless- yes, super classy Kevin.

      Team Christine.

      • Lorelei says:

        Yeah, I think Christine has made some missteps since the divorce was initiated, but I’m still 100% Team Christine because this asshole is so pompous I couldn’t even get through the entire article.

      • @caitlinsmom
        Exactly – Classy my behind – and I weigh 103lbs (haven’t since 1993)…

  4. Bee (not THAT Bee) says:

    He seems like a dirtbag. He’s giving the silent treatment (which is abusive) and bragging about it. He’s bragging about how much he’s working. And he’s determined to “outplay “ his wife and mother of his children. Sounds healthy and logical! 🙃

  5. Oh does he? He has no class and is a narcissistic schmuck nothing more. Class my a**. A slithering snake has more class.

  6. Brassy Rebel says:

    Total narcissist. And this doesn’t help the kids. At all.

  7. Skyblue says:

    I guess the part that gets me is the old adage of you can’t take it with you. Why he feels he can’t part with some of his wealth is beyond me. He’s 68 years old, not at deaths door by any means but definitely ambling towards the end. But on the other hand, she sold her soul to the devil with that prenup.

    • Turtledove says:

      It really is astounding when you think of it. I just googled and his net worth is said to be 400 million. Not sure how accurate that is… but once you get past 100 million does it matter? Even if he lived to be 110, he will never come close to spending all that money.

    • Lens says:

      Agree @skyblue but why did she? She wanted marriage and kids after a 3-4 year relationship. He had four already and didn’t need or want to remarry. He said okay I will if you agree to these (harsh yes -get out of the house in 30 days!) Terms. She said yes I still want marriage so I will agree. I don’t know how she’s gonna get it changed now. The time was when her first kid was born so she knew they would always have a home with her as well as their dad.

      • Mel says:

        I get it but everyone is acting like she was duped somehow but she wasn’t. She knowingly and deliberately signed a contract that was NOT in her best interests. The time for her to have said something was before she signed, negotiate for what YOU know as your worth, not what someone else tells you. I feel bad for her but I mostly think, that she walked into this believing that she would be different. People with that kind of money do NOT WANT TO GIVE it away without a fight, that’s how the rich stay rich. Hopefully, they’ll be able to come to an amicable conclusion for the sake of their kids.

  8. girl_ninja says:

    “They are only speaking through intermediaries,” notes the source. “Kevin would rather use the silent treatment than deal with Christine directly anymore.”

    THIS is what he thought would be in his favor? This loser is all ego and no heart.

    • Kitten says:

      Right. As if getting iced out is somehow more mature and kinder than communication. Dude is an ass.

      • B says:

        I wonder if he was so bad that Wasser told him to STFU and not breathe a single word to Christine.
        Also, I wonder if Wasser set up this magazine cover?

  9. Juxtapoze says:

    Narcissists are always the hero or victim in their stories. They can never take accountability for behaviors or decisions that may make them look bad.

    • Twin Falls says:

      Always and often both at the same time.

    • Kate says:

      Right. It was Christine who “couldn’t cope” with the time apart. Zero accountability or self-reflection made as to how he decided to prioritize his time (away from his family). Really not sure who this piece is going to garner favor with, it’s not like men his age are buying US Weekly magazines and I don’t think too many women are going to have a hard time reading between the lines of this bs.

      • Eurydice says:

        And how is it better that he could cope with the time apart? That means he didn’t miss her in his life.

  10. Lucy says:

    I’m sure he does feel like he’s handling everything great, because he thinks he handles everything great. And his younger kids are taking it well because they’re used to him not being there and not being engaged anyway.

    • Whyforthelove says:

      Precisely. He has absolutely no ability to self reflect, so of course it’s all going great

  11. Kitten says:

    The comments here really nail it: he’s an arrogant person who’s spent most of his life sheltered from criticism. Anyone who’s actually endured the silent treatment knows how painful that can be but this guy thinks he’s taking the high ground smdh.

  12. ariel says:

    He’s on the verge of ruining field of dreams for me- and its always been one of my favorites.
    But, what an a**hat.

  13. Gewels says:

    Christine filed for divorce – not Kevin. I’m sure he does feel betrayed. However, I think with time he’ll talk to her again – he has minor children with her after all.
    Also he kicked her out – not his children from what I ‘ve read.
    Tbh I totally dont blame him for sticking to the prenup. It’s what they are for – he has a lot of money and many kids. She will get something, but not that much. Whoever advised her to file was wrong.

    • Kate says:

      Yeah, he only kicked out their mom – that’s not so bad right? The parent who takes care of them, who knows everything about their schedules, school, interests, friends, fears. The parent who up until now has been omnipresent in their lives, making them feel protected and loved and secure. That’s a perfectly reasonable thing to do and can’t have any kind of negative consequence or impact on minor children right?

  14. Kirsten says:

    I am once again baffled as to how he sees any of this as making him look even decent, let alone classy. “What’s mine is mine,”??? “He would rather use the silent treatment,”??? Yikes.

    • SarahCS says:

      The “what’s mine is mine” I find truly horrifying. This woman bore and raised three children while you went out and did your thing. Both are work and it’s fair that she isn’t compensated for hers???

      I’m sure in his circle/bubble that flies but attitudes have shifted in the wider world.

      • Kirsten says:

        Right? I can see why she’d want a divorce if he can’t see what she’s done as a valuable contribution to their household, and only literal dollars would make things shared between them.

  15. Kittenmom says:

    This guy is a douche

  16. ML says:

    The probable reason why People didn’t publish this is that it really puts Kevin in a horrible light, right?
    I wonder who the 3 sources were for US Magazine. It sounds like Kevin’s one of them. Long absences, silent treatment, a need to keep everything and competitiveness…great partner s/. His daughter, Lily, is a “Kevin whisperer?”—that sounds interesting.

  17. Rnot says:

    Deluded man is deluded.

  18. jferber says:

    He’s delusional and an asshat. His good opinion of himself is SO not warranted, but big-headed bell end that he is, he’ll never know that. Probably a lot of yes-men douche-bros around him agreeing with him all the time.

  19. Ladiabla says:

    He’s always been really arrogant, I think. His earlier heroic roles are not even close to the real him. I remember there was a poster on Celebitchy, I think she went by Magnoliarose, who seemed to really have the goods on him. She never went into detail, but she always alluded to what he sh** he was.

  20. Beana says:

    So, to sum up: a guy who thinks he’s classy but…doesn’t want to speak to the mother of his children, doesn’t give a crap about her standard of living while caring for his kids, and requires his older daughter to emotionally regulate him.