Jennifer Lopez: ‘Ben wants me to understand my worth and know my value’

Over the past six months or so, there have been fewer photos of Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck together. They still get pap’d every so often, but it’s nothing like the first flush of the Bennifer Revival. While this seems normal to me, especially during the SAG-AFTRA strike, various tabloids have been trying to make “Bennifer in trouble” into a thing for much of this year. My take is that Ben and J.Lo are flawed grown-ups who sometimes fight but they love each other fiercely. I think it’s a sign of maturity that they don’t feel it’s necessary to perform their love for an audience all the time. Anyway, I’m including some pics of Bennifer on October 29th (she’s wearing a white coat over a lime dress), when they went to a party in Beverly Hills. My guess is that they were just pissy about being pap’d. I’m also including some older photos too.

In any case, Jennifer gave an interview over the summer to Vogue. Vogue just published it recently, in concert with the launch of J.Lo Beauty’s latest product, Beso Balm. Incidentally, this is how so many celebrities are getting around the strike’s promotion rules – they’re just giving interviews about their side-gigs. Some highlights from this Vogue piece:

Beso Balm: Beso Balm is her “dream balm:” buttery, plumping, and glossy, with the scent of “flan de vainilla, which smells like I’m back in my mom’s kitchen.” And yes, the name translates to “kiss,” of course, because Lopez says the results are “kissable, PDA-ready lips.”

Ben used JLo Glow serum: [Ben] hasn’t totally reinvented his skincare routine since they reunited, but Jennifer said “I do put That JLo Glow Serum on him!”

How Ben helped her understand her worth: “I’m finally at the point in my life where I love every part of myself unapologetically. Every part of me, my body, my voice, my choices, even like my mistakes. All of it made me who I am and got me to where I am today. Ben wants me to understand my worth and know my value. I feel even more relaxed and comfortable, which makes me feel even more beautiful than I have ever felt with someone else.”

She loves a ‘90s trend: “I’m really into the ‘90s throwback liner and gloss,” she says, basically referencing beauty looks of her own from the era. “My modern twist is using a lip liner that’s only slightly darker than my lip shade, instead of a dark brown. Line the lips, shade the corners to get some dimension, then top with the balm for a natural sexy look.”

[From Vogue]

While I complain all the time about the youths trying to revive ‘90s and early ‘00s style, I am actually here for any and all ‘90s makeup revivals. I’m so tired of the 30-item makeup systems and the modern belief that every woman needs to be drag-queen-level makeup. Bring back simple, understated ‘90s makeup. As for what she says about Ben and feeling beautiful and all of that… she really means that. She adores him and this is probably the most relaxed and comfortable she’s ever been with a man. I love that for her.

Photos courtesy of Backgrid.

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  1. Well I think that Jen has always known her worth and value but if she wants to give Ben the credit then ok.

    • Huckle says:

      Maybe in her career but not in her prior personal relationships with men.

      • outoftheshadows says:

        I see both of your points here–JLo wouldn’t have made it in the industry without self-confidence, but I do think he wants her to feel good about herself and in her other relationships, there were two peacocks. I can’t imagine the ego issues with dating A-Rod (gross.) Ben is happy to let her shine and be the high-maintenance one, it seems, and that really is hard to find in a man, especially in Hollywood, I would imagine.

        Anyway, I’m here for her being treated well, with love and consideration. I don’t know why I’m invested in seeing them both happy, but I think they are better together than they are apart. I hope they stay happy, and that their relationship continues to thrive.

  2. Chaine says:

    At this point I think that unmedicated sober Ben is just a creature of deep social anxiety and agoraphobia, which is probably partly what led him to his addictions in the first place. So, I don’t put any stock into their relationship being in trouble based on his pained expressions in these pix from the middle of Hollywood events or paparazzi scrums. OTOH the proliferation of snapshots of him laughing and smiling with Jennifer Garner lately hint that maybe he is more comfortable and at ease with her than with Jen 1.0. J-Lo has always seemed kind of high maintenance, and I’m not saying she is not allowed to have standards, but maybe that is getting to him, too. I want them to succeed but maybe to have a lasting relationship, they need to let him step back from the spotlight that is obviously so unpleasant for him at this stage and just be his schlubby self lounging at home with some iced Dunks watching football or something.

    • Twin Falls says:

      It’s weird. I can’t tell if the tabloids just really want to push the narrative that he’s only relaxed with JG or if Ben is doing it to sabotage his current marriage because Ben and JG have always gone to kid stuff together but the see how happy Ben is seems to be new.

  3. A says:

    I root for them always. Ben is doing well health wise, seemed so dark for so long

  4. MinnieMouse says:

    My understanding is that, regardless of whether or not you like the attention, it is fundamentally unpleasant to be papped at night. You’re walking into a strobe light and can’t see anything. Plus the LA paps are known to be a rather nasty bunch who like to shout awful things at their targets to try and get a good reaction.

  5. blue says:

    “Ben wants me to understand my worth and know my value.” This remark sounds both egotistical & immature to me.
    JL is either well into or approaching middle-age, depending on where you measure it & has probably managed her insecurities for a while.

    • BQM says:

      She could mean he wants her to in terms of being supportive and non threatened by her confidence in ways other partners weren’t.

    • Jess says:

      Why would you assume that? J-Lo is well-known for having low self-esteem and has talked about it many, many times. She’s also been in several allegedly abusive relationships. It might seem crazy to you that it’s taken her until now to understand her worth and value, but I don’t think she’s lying. She’s always come across to me as desperate for her man’s approval and validation.

    • Anonymous says:

      Really? To me it sounds neither immature nor egotistical. Not that I was paying a lot of attention at the time, but during their first relationship, I remember thinking that the very racist press attention that Bennifer received was quite toxic, and I imagine that it had an impact on how their relationship played out. My unsupported-by-data take was that over and above the stressors of having a public relationship, and whatever interpersonal issues they might have had, Ben couldn’t handle the racial issues— which were a new thing for him. To hear Jennifer, a woman of color, say publicly that her husband wants her to understand her worth and to know her value is both beautiful and powerful.

    • Blithe says:

      Hmm. My first response disappeared. Second try: because I think this is an important point to put out there. I remember the press during “Bennifer 1” being quite toxic and racist. My unsupported-by-actual-data take at the time was that Ben was ill-equipped to cope with the racism that he had never had to deal with before. That, of course, was in addition to other issues impacting their relationship.

      Decades of growth later, it is both beautiful and powerful to hear this woman of color publicly proclaim that her husband Ben wants her to understand her worth and to know her value.

      So, No. Not, in my view, either “egotistical” or “immature”.