One of my biggest opinions about Bridgerton is that Jonathan Bailey, a gay man, was probably the show’s best (heterosexual) romantic lead. Bailey’s on-screen chemistry with Simone Ashley was off-the-charts and it was clear that the two actors completely adored each other and trusted each other, which made it even hotter. Bailey never hid his sexuality while promoting Bridgerton, but I appreciated the fact that no one made a big deal about it. Anyway, Bailey is currently in Fellow Travelers, a historical romance-thriller miniseries. He and Matt Bomer are the leads and it is HOT. These are photos of Bomer and Bailey at the recent LA screening of Maestro, where Bailey showed up to support Bomer. Bailey chatted with the Evening Standard recently about life, love and everything else. Some highlights:
Doing an expensive miniseries with two gay leads & two gay actors: “Totally, and you can see it on the screen; the respect. In the early 90s, you needed a straight superstar like Tom Hanks [in Philadelphia, also written by Nyswaner] to bring a queer story and commission it. Cut to thirty years later, and it’s the story itself that is the commissionable thing.”
A gay actor playing gay characters: “I still 100 per cent stand by the fact that I think all actors should be able to do everything. But to have gay actors chronicling the oppression and the trauma of it, I think it only adds to the experience. It’s exciting that people welcome it.”
An awful story about being threatened & harassed in DC: He’d been to Washington DC, he tells me, at an annual event for the LGBTQ+ organisation The Human Rights Campaign. “It was an incredible experience. I met President Biden. I was there with Shonda Rhimes, she was being given an award, Matt Bomer was given another one; I was introducing him. My first political gala. I had the most amazing night; had a drink; couldn’t sleep; buzzing. I woke up the next morning, it was like a montage. Sunshine, I was like, this is brilliant. I went into a coffee shop, and I was wearing a Human Rights Campaign cap from the night before. And the young lady who I was ordering from recognised me from Bridgerton, we were just chatting. And a man arrived behind me and he said, ‘Are you famous?’ And I said something like, ‘I’m really famous for ordering coffee,’ which is actually quite an annoying thing to say. And then he got my cap, and he pulled it off my head and he threw it across the room and he said, ‘get out of this f***ing coffee shop, you queer.” The room went still, Bailey remembers. But he walked over, picked up his hat, and put it back on his head. “If you don’t take that cap off, I’m gonna f***ing shoot you,” it came again. “Where I’m from, people like me kill people like you.”
What happened next: “No one knew what to do, apart from one girl, she was amazing. Angela, she came up, and she got her phone out and she said, ‘I’m recording this message, I think you are welcome in this country. And what you’re saying, I think, is appalling.’ That happened sort of five minutes in, and he left.” The man was from Pennsylvania (yes, Bailey did ask), and what Bailey took from the experience, he says, is that “potentially, there is a kid who – that’s his father. That’s his uncle. That’s his teacher.” He pauses. “My life was threatened. My body believed it; my brain didn’t and it took me a while to really catch up with it. But I’ve got friends and security. There are so many people that don’t. They are surrounded by that every day, and the torment of what that must be like, the amount of fear that was generated… If that’s what children are surrounded by, they’re not going to be able to grow in any way.”
It’s not just an American story: “And of course, that’s not just an American story. It’s international. And it’s terrifying, that [here in the UK] we’re not looking after queer people, in terms of allowing them into the country. Because that is the reality; people’s lives are literally at risk. People are still living in the closet. Or they’ve had a moment where they’re watching and they realise, that was their father’s story, or their mother’s story; or it’s people who have been affected by this, but for the first time are understanding the trauma. People are so shocked that this is such recent history, but the majority of people in the world are living under that sort of belief system. And people on Instagram message from areas in the world where just getting through the day without being outed is survival.”
He is in a relationship but it’s off-limits: There’s “a lovely man”, but that’s all he’ll say. “It’s not secret, but it’s private. Having a private life is, for me, completely critical. I don’t know if I would be able to be as confident to speak out on other things if I felt that my whole life was up for grabs.”
That story about being harassed and threatened in a DC coffee shop is wild and infuriating. The fact that just the night before, he’d been part of an amazing HRC event at the White House, and then 12 hours later, that happened… good lord. But old-school homophobia is back in a big way from what I’ve seen in recent years. The gateway for the reentry was transphobia and weaponized fear of “grooming,” and now it’s just plain old homophobia, same as it ever was. It’s disgusting that so many people are still so hateful, bigoted, close-minded. Anyway, Jonathan Bailey seems like a gem, I really love him.
Photos courtesy of Avalon Red.
- Matt Bomer, Jonathan Bailey attends Netflixs “Maestro” Los Angeles photo call at the Academy Museum of Motion Pictures on December 12, 2023 in Los Angeles, California,Image: 829088455, License: Rights-managed, Restrictions: , Model Release: no, Pictured: Matt Bomer, Jonathan Bailey, Credit line: – / JPI Studios / Avalon
- LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA, USA – DECEMBER 12: English actor Jonathan Bailey arrives at the Los Angeles Special Screening Of Netflix’s ‘Maestro’ held at the Academy Museum of Motion Pictures on December 12, 2023 in Los Angeles, California, United States.,Image: 829135823, License: Rights-managed, Restrictions: , Model Release: no, Pictured: Jonathan Bailey, Credit line: Xavier Collin / Image Press Agency / Avalon
- Jonathan Bailey beim Special Screening des Netflix Films Maestro im Academy Museum of Motion Pictures. Los Angles, 12.12.2023 *** Jonathan Bailey at the special screening of the Netflix film Maestro at the Academy Museum of Motion Pictures Los Angles, 12 12 2023 Foto:xD.xStarbuckx/xFuturexImagex maestro_3315,Image: 829211864, License: Rights-managed, Restrictions: imago is entitled to issue a simple usage license at the time of provision. Personality and trademark rights as well as copyright laws regarding art-works shown must be observed. Commercial use at your own risk., Model Release: no, Credit line: IMAGO/Dave Starbuck / Avalon
- LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA – DECEMBER 12: Jonathan Bailey attends Netflix’s “Maestro” Los Angeles photo call at the Academy Museum of Motion Pictures on December 12, 2023 in Los Angeles, California.,Image: 829327974, License: Rights-managed, Restrictions: , Model Release: no, Pictured: Jonathan Bailey, Credit line: Jeffrey Mayer / Avalon
- LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA – DECEMBER 12: (L-R) Matt Bomer and Jonathan Bailey attend Netflix’s “Maestro” Los Angeles photo call at the Academy Museum of Motion Pictures on December 12, 2023 in Los Angeles, California.,Image: 829328025, License: Rights-managed, Restrictions: , Model Release: no, Pictured: Matt Bomer, Jonathan Bailey, Credit line: Jeffrey Mayer / Avalon
- LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA – DECEMBER 12: (L-R) Matt Bomer and Jonathan Bailey attend Netflix’s “Maestro” Los Angeles photo call at the Academy Museum of Motion Pictures on December 12, 2023 in Los Angeles, California.,Image: 829328031, License: Rights-managed, Restrictions: , Model Release: no, Pictured: Matt Bomer, Jonathan Bailey, Credit line: Jeffrey Mayer / Avalon
He reminds me of Anthony Perkins.
What an awful, awful thing to have happened to him. I’m glad that someone stood up for him in the moment.
In general, I love Bailey and he is SO good as Anthony Bridgerton. The scene where Violet tells him Kate is awake just gets me every time. The emotions on his face are just so powerful.
The coffee shop story is awful. The touristy parts of DC can be really bad. Visitors are on edge about being in the “scary city,” and they can get very belligerent about it. Even in Boston, this random tourist lady started loudly talking to her friend about how dirty the city is and how could anyone stand to live here. The right wing media fills their heads with being brave truth tellers and some of them act out the fantasy.
On actor’s playing anything: I think the ego needed to be a successful actor means you have to have this level of confidence in your abilities. It’s why the rest of the industry, directors, producers, casting people, need to be the ones making the decisions about who is appropriate for a role.
Same with San Francisco, especially online. People have such an irrational hatred of San Francisco and insist that people are pooping everywhere.
To be fair, I live in SF and have definitely seen some pooping. But it is not at all the dystopian hellhole portrayed by the right wing media! And it’s starting to recover post-pandemic which is awesome. It’s a beautiful city.
But I have definitely seen some very public pooping.
Same. I’ve lived in Manhattan for 25 years. Originally from Long Island. The Murdoch-owned media sources would have you think it’s a post apocalyptic hellscape. It’s not. There’s more visible homelessness, more shop lifting, and more high-profile acts of violence from a a few mentally ill people than before the pandemic – but that’s true everywhere. Someone spewing any kind of bigotry, and having the audacity to put their hands on a person!, would be quickly met with lots of jeering and cell phone videos here. This is the Tr*mp effect: people think it’s ok to hate and ok to be violent and belligerent with people they want to other. We all have to stand up and tell them they’re in the wrong.
I’m also in Manhattan and your point is so true. Even my friends who live here who read those sources seem to have it festering in their brain, despite seeing reality themselves. It’s very strange.
I don’t usually care about snubs but I can’t believe he wasn’t nominated for a GG. I really think he gave the performance of the year in Fellow Travellers
The horrible DC story should be the headline. The acting any role was just one off handed remark.
Wait- Is he dating Matt Bomer? That’s the Maestro premier, and I love the way he’s looking at Matt. I love that idea, they’d make such a beautiful pair.
Matt Bomer is married last I heard, so I think unlikely.
@Sarita, Bomer is married with three kids 🙂
Haven’t been to DC in 10 years, but I found it to be the friendliest city I ever visited. Lived in a Northern VA suburb, went there many times on public transit with teenagers. So sorry that happened to him. But things have changed, and it isn’t just DC where this violent ugliness is, it’s all over our country. That lady was smart to record on her phone.
@ppp: I think he might not be “actively” pursuing these acting awards. He was excellent in Bridgerton & Fellow Travelers. He so deserved to be nominated for Bridgerton Season 2.
His acting style is more toward “natural” & “low-key”; unless his character demands an out out personality or situations.
I’m glad he got an Olivier. That’s highly treasured prize for theater actors.
He’s such an amazing actor, and I love the respect he puts on his work, too. It’s so easy for many actors to diminish romance as a genre (see Kate Hudson’s comments about how difficult it can be to get male actors on board to do one), but Jonathan not only puts his whole self into it, he seems to show great respect for it, too, which is probably what has made him so compelling in Bridgerton. He’s by far the best actor on that show.
Also, he was in my top 3 for best dressed on Golden Globes night. I saw a post of him on Twitter that had like, 7 million views!