Duchess Meghan spoke about the ‘cruel’ social media hate during her pregnancies

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On Friday, International Women’s Day, the Duchess of Sussex was part of a panel discussion at the South by Southwest festival in Austin, Texas. The panel was “Breaking Barriers, Shaping Narratives: How Women Lead On and Off the Screen,” and Meghan was joined by Katie Couric, Brooke Shields and author Nancy Wang Yuen. Prince Harry sat in the audience with Meghan’s good friend Marcus Anderson. Meghan’s skirt and blouse are from Giuliva Heritage – I’m kind of meh on this look? The shirt would have looked better with a black or grey pencil skirt. There are a lot of quotes from the panel discussion and I’m not going to cover everything, but here are some assorted quotes:

On the social media & media toxicity directed at her: “Yes, social media is an environment that I think has a lot of that. You know I think, it’s really interesting as I can reflect on it, I keep my distance from it right now just for my own well-being, but the bulk of the bullying and abuse that I was experiencing on social media and online was when I was pregnant with Archie and Lili, and with a newborn with each of them. You just think about that, and to really wrap your head around why people would be so hateful. It’s not catty, it’s cruel. And why you would do that, certainly, when you’re pregnant, with a newborn, we all know as moms, it’s such a tender and sacred time. I think you know, you could either succumb to it, nearly succumb to how painful that it is, and maybe in some regards, because I was pregnant, that mammalian instinct just kicked in, you do everything you can to protect your child, and as a result, protect yourself too.”

On how much hate is coming from women online: Meghan said there’s a lot of work to be done to keep people safe online, but she finds it “disturbing” how “much of the hate is women completely spewing it to other women. I cannot make sense of that, because I understand that there are certain platforms, today is a really good example, this is being streamed on one of those platforms, and it’s also fantastic because people are going to have access to hear all of this brilliance and all of this insight, and at the same time, it’s a platform that has quite a bit of hate and rhetoric and incentives people to create pages where they can churn out very, very inciting comments and conspiracy theories that can have a tremendously negative effect on someone’s mental health, on their physical safety.”

Harry is a huge support: “I’m fortunate in that, among the privileges I have in my life, I have an incredible partner. My husband is such a hands-on dad and such a supporter of me and my family. That I don’t take for granted. That is a real blessing. But a lot of people don’t have that same level of support. So I think for us, it’s about putting safeguards in so women and moms especially cannot feel like they’re even more vulnerable when they go online.”

[From People Magazine]

She’s right, it was especially upsetting to realize, in real time, that Meghan was being targeted with so much hatred and cruelty specifically because she was pregnant. The attacks on her ramped up around her pregnancies and it was completely insane to watch.

After the panel discussion, Meghan and Harry visited la Barbecue, a famous BBQ joint in Austin. Meghan’s people let the restaurant know ahead of time, and so the Sussexes got a tour of the pit and then they had the best BBQ of their lives. They chatted with everyone, including kitchen staff, and took lots of photos. Meghan also told people their kids love the new Disney movie, Wish. After their time in Austin, they traveled to Uvalde to meet some of the families of #UvaldeStrong.

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  1. SAS says:

    She’s stunning as ever but I think this is the saddest beige of all her sad beige looks!

    Absolutely love their commitment. Online trolling and Uvalde have been consistent causes over the last couple of years.

    • FancyPants says:

      Maybe she wanted to keep the focus on the serious topic? Because yikes this is some ugly ill-fitting clothing.

      • StillDouchesOfCambridge says:

        Meg has great style, sad boring beige outfit is so the media can focus on the topics and causes. Even the earrings are sad. Guys, please knock me out: I googled horsilla’s earring the other day.

    • seaflower says:

      She is such an engaging speaker that I didn’t really look at the outfit. Maybe palazzo pants would have been better than the skirt.

    • ana says:

      i know. i was like this isn’t even beige…it’s sad greige…which is even worse than beige bc it at least beige is a warm tone and looks lovely on her. this…is sack pajamas. if she has a stylist (which i don’t thinks he does based on this), they did her wrong.

      • Polly says:

        The only thing that bothers me about her sad beiges is that she made a point about how she always wore neutrals while in the UK until they decided to leave and then she wore COLORS. Which is true but where did all the colors go???

      • ana says:

        AGREED. bring colors back please!! you can highlight worthy causes well AND look great. not mutually exclusive!

    • Jais says:

      Lol at its the saddest beige of all the sad beiges. It really is a true sad beige/greige. I couldn’t tell when watching that it was pin-striped but overall I was good with it. I actually kind of liked that it was a long skirt, which was unique. The top looked good as she sat and talked and as ever she glowed.

      • Just Jade says:

        Meghan is still healing from salty island horrific experience. I have great admiration for her for surviving that horrible place.

      • Jais says:

        I actually liked what she wore. It was unique and imo she looked lovely. But a lot of times, she gets accused of sad beige when it’s not really sad beige. But this time, it really did read as a beige color. Which she still glowed in. And I agree, the experience that she survived was brutal. It’s really good to see her on stage speaking up for the things that are important to her.

      • Bachy says:

        I like her look as well: elegant. Sets off her skin tones beautifully.

    • Bumblebee says:

      Some of the comments about her clothes on this thread…you guys paid NO attention to anything she said. It is possible to critique without being mean. Example, don’t use like ugly and sad.

      • Margaret A. Shannon says:

        Exactly! We contribute to the problem when we focus our valuable time and attention on superficial matters.

      • Jaded says:

        I rarely comment on what people are wearing, frankly I couldn’t care less. However I’ll make an exception this time — Meghan often dresses in a way that doesn’t shout out “look at meeee!” when the event isn’t appropriate to that. When she’s called upon to glam out she does it well, but this wasn’t the venue to do that. She wants people to listen to what she’s saying (a very traumatic topic for her) and not focus on her clothing. She’s wearing something bland, comfortable, and won’t outshine the other panelists — it’s obviously important to her that she’s seen as being *relatable* in order to get her message across.

      • Jan90067 says:

        Bumblebee, we are women: we can multitask! 😊

        You can take in her clothing choices (agreeing or disagreeing with them), *AND* listen to her words, as well as the wisdom of the other speakers. It’s not a “one or the other” situation.

      • Hmm says:

        You may want to go over to the threads involving Kate…

    • Chaine says:

      I didn’t like her styling for this event at all. I know she goes for kind of oversized tailoring but between the top and the skirt together, it is too much. her tiny frame is absolutely swimming in this. the fabric does not look luxurious, just cheap. reminds me of the one that was used for all hotel bedspreads about ten years ago.

      • tamsin says:

        As with a number of Meghan’s wardrobe, they look beautiful in motion. I thought so of this outfit. Just seeing Meghan sitting down and speaking not so much. The fabric is silk, I believe, so it would have a luxurious hand.

      • aftershocks says:

        I’m with those who this time were not overly anticipating, ‘What’s Meghan gonna wear?’ Thus, I didn’t focus on what she was wearing. I was simply eager to hear what Meghan and the other panelists would have to say. They all blew it out the ball park. The SXSW conference was overall a great event and the Meghan discussion with Errin Haines and co-panelists, offers important food for contemplation and for beneficial action.

        As @Jais mentions, though, I too actually like this ‘off-white,’ or ‘grayish-white,’ or ‘bone-white’ look on Meg. We all know just how much Meg loves monochrome, so this complementary color palette is typical Meg-style. At first, I thought she was wearing palazzo or wide-legged pants. Then, I realized she was in a tapered maxi skirt. It is a silk fabric, thus Meg must have felt luxurious wearing it. She absolutely flowed and glowed as she walked in. I don’t read it as ‘cheap, hotel bedsheets,’ but to each their own perception.

        I really can’t see Meg wearing a pencil skirt to this event. What she chose is business casual, and it perfectly compliments the styles worn by the other ladies on the panel. As @Jaded said, this appears to be another occasion where Meg did not want to be the focal point. She is always going to stand out anyway, so like the evening awards event in L.A. where Meg wore a beige gown, she once again purposely chose a muted palette in Austin, to tone down emphasis on herself. Meghan looks so comfortable, healthy, happy, blessed, and living her best life.

    • Cessily says:

      I would buy that skirt if I could afford it, I love long maxi skirts and I love the style of this one.

      • StarWonderful says:

        Absolutely! I love the flowy skirt and shirt! The color and outfit stood out from the mostly business attire worn by the other panelists.

  2. Jas says:

    She’s just so good at this stuff. She’s thoughtful, engaged, and so keen to make a difference. Visiting Uvalde, for example, long after the media attention has died away shows how committed they are to using their celebrity to support people.
    She’s also good at casually elegant rich lady dressing. I don’t necessarily like all her outfits, but she has her style and always looks like herself.

    • Brassy Rebel says:

      The media should still be covering Uvalde actually. The report the former mayor commissioned just came out I think the day before. It was a total whitewash of law enforcement. Basically, it said, nothing to see here, move along.

      • BlueNailsBetty says:

        The media is covering Uvalde, to a certain extent. Last week, a report was released about the shooting. The media covered it.

    • ML says:

      This! Thank you Meghan for remembering Uvalde and bringing awareness to it again! Especially in an election year. I love that she and Harry are focusing a light on how people treat each other and supporting people who need it!
      You always feel more hurt by people who you expected better from—I can see why Meghan felt more hurt by women attacking her online. You grow up with a lot of toxic guys who are out in the open—the online hate campaign feels like backstabbing. Because it is. I’m glad she was given a platform here; Meghan is an excellent speaker.

      • Jas says:

        Yes, exactly. Misogyny from women hits harder because you hope from solidarity and support from your peers. It’s brave of her to step up and talk about it because it’s still ongoing and her speech has probably prompted a new wave of harassment. I’m glad she’s offline and not seeing it.

      • Aigroeg says:

        She is always so kind. She chose loose clothes so Kate can copy and feel comfortable as she heals.

  3. Amy Bee says:

    I loved everything about this weekend. It was very touching that Harry and Meghan visited Uvalde.

    • Christine says:

      Me too, this weekend has been full of feel-good Sussex moments.

      • It was a great to see them so happy. So very glad they got away from salt isle. They are able to do the things they think are important and help where they can. The sure do live service is universal.

    • Barb Mill says:

      The previously partnered with KABOOM to create a new park and play space for the community.
      Besides this event they visited The Archewell Foundation’s San Antonio Welcome Project. It’s a wonderful project you can read about on their website https://archewell.org/news/welcome-project-in-texas/

    • sid says:

      Same here Amy. The panel, the restaurant visit, catching up with the Uvalde families, etc. It was all lovely. So glad to see Meghan and Harry in their element, getting to do the work they want to do and do it their way.

  4. equality says:

    How much hate is “women completely spewing it to other women”. Here’s looking at you Whoopi Goldberg, Bethenny Frankel, Sharon Osbourne and daughter.

    • Just Jade says:

      Don’t forget the carnival of so call journalists women from salt island. Right after Meghan talked about the abuse that she experienced at the hands of many women those Karen rats from that island double down on their abuse.

  5. Dee(2) says:

    Glad to see they are still partnering with Kaboom, and that they are still actively involved in the community. Social media and it’s downsides are really big to them and feels like a natural offshoot of Harry’s issues with traditional media. I wonder if they are working on something in the background on that philanthropically or politically here in the U.S. And I guess different strokes for different folks because I really liked her outfit the first time I saw it. Very clean very classic, and suits Meghan perfectly. I mean she’s not our dress up doll. I don’t think I’ve ever given a thought to my coworker or neighbors and if I like everything that they wear, is weird we do it with celebrities. Myself included.

  6. Nic919 says:

    Just as she spoke of social media monetizing hate, the derangers went particularly cruel by going after one of the family members of the uvalde tragedy after he posted photos of Meghan and Harry visiting them.
    Many of them the usual top Kate deranger accounts too.

    • LivingDesert says:

      I came across some of that and my jaw fell to the floor. So much hatred, toxicity, lies and just evilness… I have never seen anything like that before (I do keep away intentionally from all corners of the Internet where stuff like that happens).
      And yes, I could not swear to it, but the majority seemed to be women. 🙁

      • ChattyCath says:

        The hate and trolling used to upset me on her behalf. Why mention Harry and Meghan while they’re praising Catkin ? Now I realise that the claims they make are so idiotic I feel like laughing. Someone is behind all these hate accounts. I could wring their collective necks

  7. Lynwall says:

    Personally I feel the hate and trolling were palace sponsored because they wanted a miscarriage.
    They were hoping she would leave, and it would become more complicated if there was a baby.
    Of course they never thought that Harry would leave with her, baby or no baby.
    When you don’t really know your family member…
    Loved everything over the last few days ..this look is classic Meghan.

    • Tessa says:

      The derangers did not want the marriage. I recall some wanted her to be pregnant before the wedding so the baby could not get titles. Her in laws did nothing to stop the media from the get go.

    • jemmy says:

      @Lynwall – miscarriage, break up and destruction of the marriage with Meghan either being chased away, harmed / unalived, being made completely redundant that no organisation in the UK or US would have want to have anything to do with her.

      I hope Willnot gets all he wished for Meghan.

      I hope he sees the evil of his ways and change. There is redemption for everyone.

      If he doesn’t change, his lies and jealously will be his undoing.

  8. sevenblue says:

    She always gets hate, but she is right that it was at its worst when she was pregnant. The attacks were coming especially from “the palace sources”. I truly believe, they were trying to give her as much stress as possible when she was at her most vulnerable time. Even if she is not reading that sh-t, no doubt she is aware of her increased threat levels. Like she said, it is usually (imo, white) women who are joining in it with glee. The scariest thing, I don’t know if it is ever gonna stop maybe until BM / BRF gets another woman to target. It is all just very sad. If I were her, I don’t know if I would ever leave my house.

  9. Jais says:

    The discussion was really good and I really enjoyed hearing all the women. Nancy specifically called out her old bosses in academia and Katie called out Dan Rather. I’ve always maintained that Meghan can share what she wants but man there was a moment where I really wanted her to start naming names too😂. Like starting an anecdote with, “well, when my former bosses at KP did xyz… or when Edward Young said this…or Jason Knauf did this…” I get why she doesn’t but there was a moment where I was like Meghan deserves to name names too!

    • Kingston says:

      I don’t agree wth u, @Jais. I don’t think M should or will ever mention anyone from Shithole Isle. They’re all holding their breath, begging her to acknowledge them and she hasn’t. The most recent and only direct reference to them in 4yrs was at the time of the Clownation when chucky revealed tht she had written to him & the shidtmedia was trying to make it appear tht it was a recent comms.

      So M’s team clapped bk & shut tht down with a quickness by saying she’s “going abt her life in the present, not thinking abt letters written 2 yrs ago on matters tht had occurred 4yrs ago.” Buuuurrrrrrrnnnnnn.

      Shidthole Isle & those in its population that are garbage people love to say tht M is always ghosting people. Now they’ve been ghosted by her for 4yrs now and they’ve been screaming & crying & begging & throwing up about it

      • Jais says:

        You’re right in that it would make the perpetrators of abuse way too happy to be named. It was more my gut reaction of personally wanting them called out. And for Meghan fairly to be able to call someone out without it becoming a huge thing. But in truth, she called out YouTube, which was great.

      • one of the marys says:

        What I respect about her approach is she keeps their names out of her mouth, she has essentially ghosted them, they are her husband’s family. But she has not been silenced. When appropriate she talks about her experience, the effect on her mental health, the online bullying. We all know who and where and when she’s referencing. It’s a fine balance and I applaud her for it

  10. s808 says:

    I remember being scared and stressed on M’s behalf, especially during her pregnancy with Archie. It was just wall-to-wall harassment and it was NON STOP. I’m glad she’s in a place where she can talk about it now but those were really scary times. Also, I LOVE that she visited Uvalde! Folks move on quick but what happened there was horrific and I’ll never forget the police being freaking useless as children were slaughtered. Good on her and Harry for being back awareness, especially since we’ll be heading to the polls again soon.

    • Anna says:

      I had a 1yo when Meg was pregnant and all I could think about is that those fuckers stole this pregnancy from them. H&M we’re so happy and waiting for a first baby and BRF made their life hell. They should be over the moon and receiving congratulations from their family and to realize the sinister atmosphere and aim of what is going on… I’m not sure if I would stay on Megs place.

    • Schrodinger's Kate says:

      @S808 I also remember intensely that time when Meghan was under siege with so much hate from all sides. I remember thinking if it were me, I would consider unaliving myself just to get away from it all. Which shocked me, because I’m a very resilient person and that’s not my normal response to trauma. But I just felt such shock and despair every time I went to
      catch up on what this vibrant young woman was doing and saw relentless “hate energy”.

      So my jaw dropped when I watched the Oprah interview and saw that Meghan indeed had the same reaction to that negative energy being concentrated at her. I had thought she was shielding herself from it. She was so engaged with her public during her work with her patronages and so giving with her dazzling smile. I thought her resilience was less eroded than it actually was. And she is an incredibly strong and resilient woman. But that just speaks to how intense and extreme the hatred against her was, that it could affect such a strong confident woman thus.

      I think she’s needed a lot of healing bolstered by her children and Harry and her work success, as well as her continuing meetings and discussions with women who inspired her, in order to once again speak so eloquently on this subject. It’s
      probably very painful to revisit.

      As for her outfit, I think the color is what Apple calls “Starlight” for their similarly colored phones and computers. I have a Starlight iPhone and wouldn’t mind this outfit to match it, except I’m even shorter than Meghan and could never pull this look off.

      So rather than sad anything I’ll think of it as starlight. I quite love this look for her. It’s soft and flowing. I don’t think every outfit needs to be heavily structured and tight fitting to look elegant.

      It’s so good to see her out and about continuing to do meaningful work.

      • Debbie says:

        That’s a good name for the color as, you’re right, there’s nothing “sad” about it. The other woman Meghan is speaking to in the photo above, I don’t know if she’s the moderator, but she’s dressed in all pink, obviously a garment she feels comfortable with, and won’t have to worry about what is showing when one wears a skirt, so they clearly dressed for their own comfort and to look professional.

    • Debbie says:

      I was apprehensive about the way she was treated during the first pregnancy too. I remember that she was so committed to working during that time, and getting her work done before going on maternity leave. Then, for some reason shortly before she was due to give birth, they sent her on a short tour to an Arab country (don’t recall the name just now), and she had to take a plane to it. I just recall thinking that there was no way they would expect, or ask, Kate to fly round-trip or one-way when she was heavily pregnant because they would not want to risk a miscarriage — with her.

      • tamsin says:

        It was Morocco and it was a commercial flight, too. It was late, if I recall. The Cambridges would have had a private plane, I’m sure.

  11. Tessa says:

    I like her outfit. She looks great.

    • Did you see the way that skirt moved when she was walking???

      I thought her outfit was super chic but also meant to not draw attention from the importance of her words.

      I mean, yeah GLO gives you an award from Ms. Magazine you go gold!

      A talk about women in media, maybe is not the place to be wearing something distracting as other women relate how their appearance was scrutinized for the crime of reading the news without a dick.

      • Jasper says:

        I do agree with you. I thought her outfit was chic and understated. In these panel discussions she never seeks to draw focus with her clothing choices, but no matter what she wears the elegance shines through.

      • Jais says:

        Agree about the flow of the skirt as she walked. And it was an unexpected and unique choice. Not sure why but it gave me Katharine Hepburn vibes.

    • Amy Bee says:

      @Tessa: I agree.

    • paintybox says:

      Meghan could wear a flour sack and I’d still think she looks good! But it seems like she was dressed to downplay focus on her looks. Probably so as not to detract attention from the topics and the other panelists? I like that she isn’t always interested in looking like a showpiece.

  12. aquarius64 says:

    It was a good panel discussion and yes the women, famous and not famous, are coming out fueled by jealousy of Meghan’s beauty, poise and accomplishments and having a position and title which these harpies think she doesn’t deserve. I think Meghan didn’t drop names is because Harry is fighting these clowns in court in the UK and she doesn’t want to say anything to jeopardize the cases. I read Harry and Meghan picked up some brisket and wings at La Barbeque (I love some good ‘que) and it’s women-owned. The visit to the Uvalde victims was wonderful; keeping in touch with the families all these years. Sad the trolls went after the victims; a sick determination hoping for people to distance themselves from the Sussexes.

  13. Lady Digby says:

    Her own half sister feeding conspiracy theories with Yankee Wally ? I now it is not online but our GMB regularly platforming the estranged Markles to repeatedly slam Meghan, encouraging stalking when a relative has justifiable gone no contact.

  14. Harla A Brazen Hussy says:

    After hearing Meghan speak, i took a good, hard look at my own online behavior and I wasn’t quite thrilled with what I saw. Moving forward, I will be making an effort to no longer make negative, cruel comments about any woman, Windsor women included. While I believe that everyone one is accountable for their actions and words and still need to be called out when appropriate, I don’t think spewing negative commentary just for the sake of it is the right thing to do. I want to be able to look at myself in the mirror and know that I did what I could to be part of the solution and not part of the problem. I feel that this will be a fine line to walk at times, people can’t stop doing things that lend themselves to jokes, ridiculousness and it’ll probably be hard to not want to put out there whatever thought is going through my head at the time but, I’m going to do my best!

    • Dee(2) says:

      @Harla I wholeheartedly agree. While I rarely comment on the Kate stories about her clothes because it’s boring at this point, I also realized I shouldn’t care what Meghan wears either. She’s so much more than her clothes and whether I like it or not, I should probably be focusing on the content of the event. Same with the other Windsor’s I will continue to call out their laziness and bigotry but I’ll be careful not to be pulled into commentary on looks or clothing.

    • Kingston says:

      I went thru this very same personal reflection of my online behavior and I sooooo agree wth u.

      So my promise to myself is to not even clapbk at trolls on twitter (which is my only SM vehicle.) Especially if the troll has less than 1K followers & is therefore obviously looking for engagement to build its followership so they can monetize it.

      Rather, I promise myself to post only comments tht build, not tear down; & to always repost/promote similar posts from others.

    • Lauren says:

      My guideline has always been, and continues to be, if you wouldn’t say it to the person’s face don’t say it online.

    • Wryly amused says:

      Can I make a suggestion? Yes, be polite. But don’t stop being critical where you think it is warranted. Being polite is not the same as being nice. Standing up in the world for good sometimes requires a sharp word. Use all your words…. just politely and without spreading hate.

    • BlueNailsBetty says:

      I think calling out bad behavior is fine as long as the call out isn’t abusive in itself. What really bothers me, even on this site, is the huge amount of comments about people’s bodies and genetics (ie. Kate’s long torso). It needs to stop.

      Bad behavior is a choice and should be analyzed. Heck, fashion choices can be analyzed. Genetics should be left alone. And if someone wants to modify their body, I understand why people may comment on that (especially if the celeb is denying what we can plainly see) but criticizing basic genetic features? Knock it off.

  15. tamsin says:

    I admire how Harry and Meghan go about their work, and their personal commitment. I was lovely to read about the events in Uvalde and their visit to Project Welcome in San Antonio. They had a very busy and productive week-end. Harry played the supportive spouse all week-end as Meghan did last month at Invictus.

    And part of the fun in following Meghan is to see what’s she’s wearing. I thought she looked wonderful, but I personally don’t like outfit she wore to SXSW. It was very neutral, and actually stood out among the bright colours worn by three of the other women (Brooke was dressed in a dark colour). The skirt was a bit of a surprise, because most of us would have expected wide-legged trousers or a shorter skirt. However, Meghan often surprises, and the evening length skirt was unexpected, I think, for most of us.

  16. Roo says:

    I wish healing and peace for her, and I think the colors she wears often are part of that calming and healing process for Meghan. She always looks beautiful and elegant.

  17. Nerd says:

    I loved what she wore and the unexpectedness of it. She dresses for herself and exudes confidence while looking gorgeous. It was a beautiful combination of feminine and masculine and looked great on her, especially as she walked. This has been an amazing few days of seeing them do what they do best. They are so personable and really connect with people and it is truly amazing to see. She spoke from the heart and that resonates with so many people who just want authenticity and real emotions. All of the women on the panel were great. Harry and her friend Marcus being there to support her on the front row was sweet and I’m happy that she has that support. I love how they bring focus to issues and places that they connect with like the barbecue restaurant, the work for Afghan women in San Antonio and the families and community in Uvalde. They shine a light where it needs to be seen because they know that their presence does that. We need to see all people fairly and with compassion and their actions always reflect that. All of the photos and videos of these past couple of days have been wonderful to see. The connecting with the families and the community in Uvalde has been especially important and great to see. People grieving are being seen by Harry and Meghan and that helps for the world to see that what happened to them wasn’t right and that we need to do better for our children, parents, communities and humanity as a whole. Derangers attacking these people is only a clearer reflection of what is wrong in this society regarding platforms that allow these victims to be abused. This has been a great few days and I’m happy that Harry and Meghan were able to end their week in Texas with the Uvalde families and community. The happy birthday video was my favorite. It brought a huge never ending smile to my face for all of them.

    • aftershocks says:

      Guys, it is Markus with a ‘k’ not a ‘c.’ Uncommon perhaps, but Anderson’s first name has always has been spelled with a ‘k.’

  18. Normades says:

    Uvalde was the ultimate rebuttal to the asinine argument that “good guys” with guns would stop the bad ones. Shame on the Uvalde police force and the Texas GOP. Completely unacceptable and tragic. I’m so glad M&H continue to support the families

    • BlueNailsBetty says:

      What is especially bad about the response at Uvalde is that both the school and all of the law enforcement agencies had training for this kind of attack and yet they failed on so many levels.

      It is beyond appalling at how bad the response was and every decision maker who failed should be brought up on criminal charges.

  19. Original penguin says:

    Meghan’s hits are on my Pinterest inspiration board. This won’t be joining them on there . However when she opens her mouth and speaks you forget what she’s wearing. And I really found what she had to stay interesting and important as I’m sure you all did. I just don’t think the outfit gelled with what everyone else was wearing, which is why people don’t really like it- it think it struck me as rich Californian chic, not for me but perfect for her set.

    • aftershocks says:

      You can only speak for yourself @Original Penguin regarding why you dislike Meghan’s SXSW outfit. I am one of those who like what she’s wearing and I think the style perfectly fits with what the other ladies wore. For me, though, I wasn’t overly anticipating what Meghan was going to wear on this occasion. I was more interested in hearing what she would have to say. And Meghan, as usual, did not disappoint me. 👏🏽

  20. Meghan says:

    First off, Harry has been to Memphis and while I personally do not like the Rendezvous’ dry rub, I’m gonna says he’s had better BBQ than Austin can offer, here in Memphis.

    Second, Wish was such a fun movie and I hated that it came out during the strike and didn’t get a lot of hype because it has such fun callbacks to past Disney movies, my kid was singing and dancing in the aisle, I was snort laughing and crying at Chris Pine being the villian.

    • mary Pester says:

      I sometimes think that on occasions like this, Megan downplays the colour that she is wearing, in the hope that people will comment and think about what she is actually saying and what she is hopeing to achieve. What she went through in the UK should NEVER be allowed to happen, it doesn’t just shame the trolls, it shamed the whole country. Trolls still exist and Facebook still let’s them!! As do 99.9 %of social media sites. Until people start leaving them they will continue to allow it, because they worship at the alter of greed.
      Megan and Harry in Uvalde brought tears to my eyes, and as I sat watching them, what Megan said about women attacking women came back to me, it’s not just about women attacking women, it’s about women allowing it, look at the amount of senior females in the media. Look at just how much power the Palace has over the press, then you will realise just how ashamed I feel writing this, because while our gentle Megan was going through this, the one person who could have stopped it from day one was a female and she was THE QUEEN!!!

      • Saucy&Sassy says:

        Mary Pester, the shame is QE2’s and not yours.

      • Beverley says:

        Thank you, Mary Pester. The Queen never lifted a finger to protect Meghan and unborn Archie. It was a deliberate CHOICE.

      • aftershocks says:

        The Queen was in her 90s, reduced in power, facing illness, and stuck in old ways of thinking regarding how the royal institution operates. The Queen demonstrated her love for Harry and her respect for Meghan as best she could. I’m sure QE-II also understood she was not long for this realm, and that her power was effectively being usurped. She knew it in 2017 when she didn’t put up a fight against the overthrow of her trusted, long time private secretary, Sir Christopher Geidt. It is to the institution’s detriment that strategic, sure-handed Geidt was pushed out and replaced by arrogant, disastrous Edward Young from Chuck’s camp. 😒

  21. Ann says:

    Sad beige is still stupid. I like the skirt if it was tight it wouldn’t move when she walked. It was flowy. Not look at me but cute. They were awful during her pregnancies. I wonder why.

    • Jaded says:

      This was not a “look at me” event. Do you not have anything positive to say about the content of her talk?

      • equality says:

        I think she is saying that calling it “sad beige” is stupid, not that Meghan’s clothes were.

    • Thanks @Ann,

      It was refreshing to read your takeaway from women in media seminar where the first woman to ever chair the nightly news in the US literally shared a personal 5 minute story about how she was dismissed by every single source because, “meh – her clothes were wrong”

      And all you can bring to the discourse is “Megan beige bad”

  22. smee says:

    I do not care for her silk outfit for the conference, not bc it’s “sad beige” which looks great on her skintone, it’s the fit of the pants, too big, and the shiniy-ness in general. I do love the event and how she’s consistently killing it. Her casual BBQ outfit is fantastic.

  23. mary Pester says:

    @SMEE It was a skirt

    • LivingDesert says:

      And a beautiful skirt at that. The way it moved with her every step – perfection.

  24. JG says:

    They actually spent Friday night in San Antonio. Dinner at Ladino and stayed at Hotel Emma checking out Saturday morning. Pretty much no one is reporting around that. SA is sort of “on the way” to Uvalde from Austin.

    • Polo says:

      And thank goodness for that. Ive noticed the last few places they’ve visited no one’s been able to pin point where they’ve stayed. Considering how they were/have been stalked..it’s nice that they can go places and not be harassed by the media.
      No other celebrity except Taylor SwIft and the president has gotten the kind of treatment Harry and Meghan have.
      I’m glad they can be allowed to breathe without right wing media watching their every footstep and psychoanalyzing each movement .
      They can do that with Will and Kate now.

  25. HeatherC says:

    What I most like about Meghan is that when she speaks, even casually, she has substance. Almost every event she’s had where she has spoken has given me something to think about. Not a lot of people have that gift (I certainly don’t! lol).

    That being said, let’s all remember we’re on a gossip site. Not liking what she’s wearing at the moment doesn’t mean we’re all a bunch of haters or trolls. I can criticize her clothing without criticizing her work or her character. I find her more casual looks are better (to me) than some of her work looks. I’m not a fan of sad griege on anyone. Some of the tailoring on her work looks starts to veer from “Flowy” to “sloppy.”

    Any disappointment I feel about the clothes is insignificant compared to the quality of what she is saying at any given time.

    But I can still comment on it if I feel like it.

    • L4Frimaire says:

      Agree. Great visit and causes but that greige silk is my least favorite Meghan look. Wish she’d wear more dresses and more patterns/colors.

    • Dee(2) says:

      I don’t find it bothersome when people comment on individual outfits that they don’t like that she wears, That’s pretty normal to me. It’s weird to me when people go on and on about her and the “sad beige”, ( which is the dumbest crap I’ve heard honestly) or loose clothing, because then it veers into style. Style isn’t about only what other’s like, but what you think you look good in, and more importantly what you are comfortable in. Like, she wears neutral colors a lot because she likes them, that’s her style. Being upset that she won’t wear more colors or a style of dress, or certain pattern more is weird to me. It’s like being mad that Diane Keaton won’t wear ball gowns at award shows. It’s not her style, at some point you just have to get over it.

  26. Libra says:

    Can we discuss food? Waffles and chicken and now barbecue and all the other local places. Wow. She is teaching Harry about good food.

    • Jais says:

      While I can’t see it happening, imagine a traveling food show. Meghan and Harry taste America. They travel and Meghan introduces Harry to food across the US. How I would watch it!!!

      • Libra says:

        This is a great idea! I would watch this. An upscale Diners and Dives?

      • Lauren says:

        As someone who watches YouTube videos of people trying various American foods for the first time I would watch the hell out of that show.

  27. QuiteContrary says:

    Meghan always has such a nuanced and compelling take on issues, and she certainly did here.
    I was glad she raised the issue of women being terrible to other women online because that is painful. It feels like a uniquely awful betrayal.

    And kudos to H&M for going to Uvalde. The video of Meghan presenting the birthday cake to the family’s mom was so great. I’m sure the birthday was difficult for the grieving mom but H&M turned it into a happy occasion.

    • AC says:

      I saw HM photos supporting the Uvalde families. The families seem very appreciative and posted pics on SM. It was just overall positive. Of course the disgusting Derangers all made it to be negative so I’m glad people who normally don’t pay attention to the BRF gossip told the derangers to F$&@ck off.
      I swear sometimes we need a restraining order from the harassment of these people in the UK- which looks to be the 2nd most miserable country in the world-I’m not surprised with how some of their citizens are acting.

  28. Chelsea says:

    I love the way they and their team schedule their trips. In 2 days in Texas they were able to showcase the study with the Gerna Davis Institute at SXSW, visit with Archewell’s San Antonio Welcome Project, and attend a community event unveiling a new playground that they worked with KABOOM! and the Uvalde community for families in Uvalde while also having a couple private visits with La Barbeque and the Martinez family.

    I really appreciate how Meghan has kept her word and continues to check in on that family and it brought me so much joy to see her, Harry, and Claudia’s family serenade her and surround her with love on her birthday. (For those who forgot: Claudia’s sister died protecting the lives of her students and her husband, who was overcome by grief, died of a heart attack 2 days later.) What Claudia has done taking in her sisters children while also grieving for her sister and brother in law is not an easy thing by any means and I have so much respect for her and wish her and her family the absolute best.

  29. Cassie says:

    What an eventful few days they have had and what a wonderful couple they are .
    She speaks so beautifully and Harry is so proud of her ,their love is so strong .
    If only people were told the truth of all the special things they are doing in their life to help others .
    They are loved in USA and I loved the way she floated across the stage in her gorgeous outfit .

  30. L4Frimaire says:

    This was a really good trip. I was very skeptical at first of the panel but it was a good discussion, Errin Haines is a fantastic moderator and it went really well. Did not like Meghan’s greige outfit but it was fine and nondescript. It was really nice of them to visit the Uvalde family and keep in touch with them. The families were appreciative and still dealing with the aftermath of this tragedy. Nice to see Archewell in action.

  31. ABB says:

    For all the brave things she’s done (and they are numerous) NOTHING is as brave as eating Texas bbq while wearing essentially white on white. 😮

    • BeanieBean says:

      😃. I think I saw photos somewhere where she had changed into jeans & a jean shirt for BBQ. That would have been quite the challenge, wearing this flowing outfit!

  32. Eleonor says:

    I’d love to hear her and Angelina Jolie talking together.
    An interview for her new podcast?
    Thus the haters could go crazy even for the beige part (side-eye).

  33. Neely says:

    I thought she was vegan/vegetarian?

    • HeatherC says:

      Yet Harry proposed over a roast chicken.

      This has been debunked for a while now. She once mentioned she liked to try to eat vegan and clean during the week, especially when filming but on weekends would not. People glommed onto that and ran with it, putting words in her mouth she didn’t say to prove her a “liar” or something.

  34. Maxine Branch says:

    Meghan is a beautiful woman and her complexion and glow allows her to wear most colors well. I loved how the skirt moved when she walked, the flow was amazing. Agree with many here, the toning down of the color choice on her part I believe was to keep the focus on what she said vs what she wore. In addition, she is very articulate and smart and the more she speaks the more you realize she is very intelligent. I also loved how they chose to revisit the Uvalde families who as the families mentioned they have remained in contact with since the tragedy.

  35. Little Red says:

    I watched the panel discussion last night and Meghan held her own. All the women had very interesting things to contribute to the discussion.

    I was not a fan of her outfit but she didn’t look bad in it. Not that she looks bad in much of anything ever.

  36. Jill says:

    I don’t mind her outfit. she looks comfortable and elegant. It’s not something I could pull off but she has a knack for elevating everything she wears.

    As a Texan, I have to say, the return visit to Uvalde warmed me and nearly brought me to tears. I appreciate that they both checked in with survivors. I don’t want this to be forgotten and I don’t want them to be forgotten.