As we were reminded during this past awards season, Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling have a policy of not walking on red carpets together. Part of Ryan’s pre-Oscars news cycle was the whole “will they/won’t they” red carpet speculation. At the end of the day, Eva and their daughters supported Ryan from behind the scenes when they all attended the final dress rehearsal. Eva even posted pictures from backstage in Ryan’s dressing room to prove that even though she wasn’t front and center, she was still standing by her man.
A source spoke to People to further explain why Eva wasn’t on the red carpet or in any pictures with Ryan at all this awards season. According to the source, Eva is over that whole scene and “still sees it as a job.”
“It truly seems they are surviving Hollywood as a couple, because of the way they‘ve handled being famous. They try their best to stay out of the spotlight,” a source tells PEOPLE of Gosling and Mendes, 50.
“For them, the most important job is their girls. Everything else comes second,” the source of the pair, who share daughters Esmeralda, 9, and Amada, 7. “Of course Eva is proud and excited for Ryan. She still sees it as a job though.”
“It seems like a healthy way of living. They’re amazing as a couple and very happy together,” the source adds. “There’s so much love.”
Another source close to Mendes adds that the actress is “not into” all that red carpets entail after years in the spotlight. “She’s moved past that part of her life for now — the glam and the red carpet and the photographers,” says the source. “It’s just not important to her. She knows that it’s part of Ryan’s job but it’s not part of hers at the moment. She’s content doing her thing with her family.”
I mean, yes, it is a job. Promoting your work and getting people out there to want to spend money to see your movie is part of the job. I’m sure after the glamor of it all wears off, it’s tedious. I agree that it’s not Eva’s job to walk the red carpet with Ryan. I think where people may differ is on the definition of what it means to support your spouse who has to do this for work.
I totally and completely respect Ryan and Eva’s decision to not walk red carpets together. Am I bummed that we don’t get new Eva red carpet fashion moments? Hell yes! But, they got a lot of crap early into their relationship and clearly, that was enough for them. They’re not hiding that they’re a couple, as Eva has been posting a lot about how proud she is of Ryan. We see a lot of thirsty celebrity couples and it’s generally not a recipe for long term success. If Eva and Ryan looked at their family life and actively chose to live a lifestyle that would overall give their kids the best chance of having two parents in a strong, healthy relationship, then that is absolutely admirable and wonderful. And if they ever decide to indulge us, then that would be awesome too.
If keeping that boundary is what helps keep their relationship going, then I think they need to keep doing what works best for them. As far as we know, Ryan doesn’t have an issue and she clearly supports him in other ways. I’m rooting for them to make it for the long haul so whatever they need to do to make that a reality is what needs to happen. I respect them for keeping their relationship to themselves and protecting their kids from the media glare.
I’m always taken aback by how beautiful she is. Her husband is okay looking compared to her.
I have a friend who worked in VIP services with AirFrance and has seen a bunch of celebrities. She said a lot of them were just meh irl but that Eva truly was one of the most gorgeous people she had ever seen (and was super nice too).
Same. My goodness she is gorgeous. I have never seen anyone that looks like her either. Very unique features that are just stunning.
She’s always reminded me of Raquel Welch with a little Sophia Loren thrown in, just an absolute stunner.
@smcollins That is exactly it!
Funny – I feel the exact opposite. Gosling is gorgeous and Eva is meh. Obviously a million times more attractive than me but I never thought she was a raving beauty
+1. Same here.
Mendes is a really good actor. She’s great in comedy, in The Other Guys she was hysterically funny. That granny scene, for example.
She was hilarious in that film
I think once you open that door you can’t close it. A lot of celebs have that rule with their kids like how we never see pictures of Matt Damon’s children. This is going even further but it’s a personal decision and that’s their’s and I respect that.
With all the Me Too stuff that came out its plausible that Eva experienced some things she may not want to revisit.
She hasn’t been back for work or a red carpet and I don’t believe she can’t get a job.
She doesn’t want to be in that environment and I can think.of a million reasons why.
@Sarah
Same. I remember just how long she’s been in the industry (including being a video girl) and I can only imagine.
She probably doesn’t see these people (or this industry) as anything she wants to be apart of anymore.
Are they there for each other and supporting each other in the way that each partner needs? If the answer is yes, then how other people thinks that that support should look doesn’t matter. People can’t extrapolate what they would want to see or how other celebrity relationships or non celebrity relationships look as a rationale to what they should be doing.
Red carpets are probably a completely negotiated, monetized process so either she has to take on a whole set of tasks and contracts to do a carpet with him or she avoids it. It’s not prom (though studios would like us to think it is).
Especially for someone like Eva, who is both a star in her own right and married to one of the biggest stars in Hollywood, doing a red carpet would be a huge and highly scrutinized affair. I understand why she sits it all out.
I completely respect that decision. Celebs don’t see red carpets the way regular folks do. To them it is work. And it also invites attention that you may not want. Eva and Ryan have always been super private and if that is what works for their family and their kids then they should absolutely do that. A red carpet isn’t all important in the grand scheme of things. And once you invite attention you really can’t un-ring that bell.
I respect Eva’s decision not to do red carpets. It doesn’t mean that her support for Ryan is diminished.
Of course it’s a job: a woman on the red carpet is under a major microscope: her hair, makeup, nails, skin, weight, fashion all under minute study. It’s one thing to do all that for your own projects, but to do all that for her husband when she isn’t directly involved? Not every woman is into fashion. She’s been there and done that. If it doesn’t add anything to her life, why do it? And with her daughters the ages they are, they don’t have to see their mom put under that miscroscope and judged in the ways that they are likely beginning to judge themselves.
As someone who loves fashion and would love to dress up, I say go Eva! Do things your own way. She doesn’t owe the public anything, and she need not take on the role of “helpmeet” if she doesn’t want to. She also doesn’t risk “stealing the show” and being talked about more than her husband (because she is such a knock-out, even though I don’t think her husband would mind that the way other men would). She’s been there and done that. And I’m glad a woman as conventionally beautiful as she is realizes that her main objective is not to be on show for the public, but to live her life as she damn well pleases.
He did his job fantastically at the Oscars and got out. I think Eva truly understands how Ryan ticks and gives him his freedom to be himself while keeping a happy home for their family. She doesn’t need to walk down any red carpet.
I didn’t see Warren Beatty at the Oscars. I don’t remember any big to-do over him not being with Annette Bening. OK i get he is 86 and probably did not want to sit through a 3 hour award show.
Eva can do anything she wants; the world is her oyster.
Is this post implying that either or both of them are 50?! Jfc. I wish! I honestly thought both were either my age (40) or a few years younger!
I think Gosling is a few years younger than her, but she’s definitely 50 or older, which caused her to be attacked relentlessly. I completely understand her choice not to walk red carpets and to be a stay-at-home mum.
She’s always been so gorgeous and, in my opinion, a decent actress.
It’s totally a job and I love when people draw boundaries for their work/life balance. Work is work, even if it involves dressing up and being around famous people. I can imagine being in a celebrity couple can quickly become “doing twice the work” if you aren’t careful!
I don’t remember the start of their relationship or that they were given a hard time. Was it about the age gap mentioned above?
I think she used to do the pap stroll a lot and people gave her a hard time about it, although it’s been so long that my memory is a little fuzzy
She also received hate for being Latina and from Rachel McAdams fans. People accused her of being an attention seeker.
Good for her. You see people applaud this approach in male celebrities (i.e., people who admire Cillian Murphy for loving acting but hating Hollywood/press circuits/red carpet events) but Eva does get criticism for the same thing. Except it’s even less of her job now, so power to her for not giving into the Hollywood fodder!
I hate these sort of articles using unnamed sources. This is lazy and unprofessional because nothing about this article has state, government or national security secrets, not even business secrets at stake. Celebs do this to maintain an excuse and buffer from the tabloids but it’s lazy and unnecessary. Just put it in an IG post or don’t have a “source” say it at all.
Other than that, I wish her and Ryan and their family well and I hope they continue to have success. With named sources.
Maybe she felt that since this would be their first red carpet together, people would focus on that instead of him and the rest of the cast. She probably wanted him to have his night to shine and be all about the work.
There´s something so weird about them. She became a SAHM when she met him and her only claim to fame now is that she´s with him. I don´t think he´s the feminist icon he claims to be. He likes them at home making babies and staying in the kitchen.
I don’t see what’s weird about this. She had their kids in her early 40s. She’d worked plenty before that and probably saw the writing on the wall re: being an older Latina actress in Hollywood, and decided her energies and passions centered on family from that point. I don’t think anyone can conclude that she doesn’t act anymore because Ryan must be against her continuing her Hollywood career.