In Touch: Jennifer Lopez & Ben Affleck are ‘headed for a divorce’ & Ben’s not to blame

Jennifer Lopez has been stepping out solo a lot lately. For weeks, she’s been photographed without her husband in New York and LA. I’ve sort of quietly noted all of the photos and just thought “well, Jennifer and Ben Affleck have different things going on, they’re not joined at the hip.” It doesn’t really help that J.Lo is in a weird place professionally at the moment. Jennifer’s “This Is Me… Now” projects were flops and her attempt to organize a tour around the album flopped too, although there is some kind of “greatest hits” tour coming. There’s a lot of hate for J.Lo on TikTok too and… I don’t know, the vibe is off somewhere. I’m not sure the weird vibes are coming from her marriage, but In Touch Weekly is claiming that Ben and Jen are on the rocks and headed for divorce.

Ben Affleck has hit a breaking point with Jennifer Lopez and has “moved out” of the home they share, a source exclusively tells In Touch.

“The writing is on the wall – it’s over,” the insider dishes. “They’re headed for a divorce – and for once, [Ben’s] not to blame!”

Fans have noticed that Ben and Jennifer have been spending increasing amounts of time apart in recent weeks. The actor did not attend the Met Gala with his wife on May 6, despite her important position as co-chair of the event. Ben’s official excuse for missing the Met Gala was that he was busy filming The Accountant 2, but In Touch’s source says he “decided to call it quits” on his marriage to the A-list singer.

“He’s focusing on his work and his kids now,” the insider adds. “Ben already moved out and they’ll likely have to sell the dream house they spent two years searching for. They’ll never stop loving each other, but she can’t control him, and he can’t change her. There’s no way it could have lasted.”

Unfortunately, compromising ended up being harder than the couple thought. “They waited almost two decades to get back together, but in the end, they just couldn’t make it work,” the insider explains. “They both said they’d matured and learned from their mistakes, but some of the bigger issues that tore them apart the first time remained the same.”

[From In Touch Weekly]

Lord, I hope this isn’t true. They waited so long, they’re in such a different place in their lives than the first go-around, I want to believe that this is just about two people with busy schedules. The thing about real estate is weird too, because Jennifer has been looking at other houses, but I think that’s just her thing? She likes real estate, she likes looking at houses, she and Ben couldn’t decide on a new house for two years. Like… if Bennifer splits again, I will be so sad. These two Leos are perfect for each other.

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  1. Pinkosaurus says:

    Apparently it’s a slow news week. In Touch is a particularly low tier tabloid and there is no way they have a reliable source. They probably had this article queued up for months to fill empty space when they need it. Next, the “romantic reconciliation“ article about how they’ve decided to try again and how Ben/Jen is desperate to save their marriage. Yawn.

    Making movies takes a huge amount of work and I’m sure Ben is just involved with a project and will be seen again at Jen’s gigs in a few months.

    • Libra says:

      Exactly. It will be a sad day when I believe anything In Touch has to say.

    • Kitten says:

      Agreed. Plus I kinda feel like these two are gonna stick it out no matter what. I feel like they’re both sort of stubborn and have something to prove.

    • Mustang Sally says:

      I’m undecided. I agree they are stubborn (and seem like they’d stay in this relationship to prove others wrong). However, People has an article, front & center on their website, that Ben & Jen have not been photographed together for 47 days. A lot of other gossips sites are following suit.

  2. Arizona says:

    I will be bummed if they can’t make it work this time, but the vibe has definitely been weird.

    • AuntRara says:

      She seems like a person who doesn’t respect boundaries/privacy. And those things seem really important to him.

  3. Agnes says:

    Leos are exhausting. I can’t imagine two of them in the same house. Who’s going to clap?

    • Luke says:

      As a fellow Leo I find this wickedly funny. 😊

    • Lolo86lf says:

      Astrology fascinates me, I am a Capricorn and I have no idea what zodiac signs I should be looking for.

      • Blithe says:

        Sextrology (Starsky & Cox) and Linda Goodman’s Love Signs are good classics for reading about compatibility. Sextrology is available through the Internet Archive — if you want to check it out.

      • seraphina says:

        I will say, Goodman’s book is really good. Leo here and had a partner who is a Sag. And she was spot on about everything.

      • Dandelion2 says:

        A virgo!

    • seaflower says:

      I’m a Leo with a cancer moon, and I find a lot of Leo’s exhausting

      • TybeeLucille says:

        I am a Taurus but all my relative, two sisters, Dad, Uncle, Grandfather all Leos and it was exhausting. If you end up with a narc leo?? Run!!

    • Nic says:

      👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Brilliant Agnes – thank you, I’m going to laugh about that for days! I do love Fire signs though.

      • Agnes says:

        Well, you can be amazing and exhausting at the same time 🙂 So. much. drama. But they sure do shine.

    • CL says:

      My SO is a Leo, and Agnes is spot on.
      Madonna and Sean Penn are both Leos, and couldn’t stay together.
      I watched the behind the scenes documentary for “This Is Me Now”, and Jenny From the Block seems needy and exhausting.

      • LooneyTunes says:

        She certainly did. And I’m sure she’s suffering from narcissistic injury that her projects were panned. She needed to have listened to Jane Fonda. No need to create multiple high budget projects about your great love when you’ve been together less than 5 years. It was a “so there!” project to all the “haters”. She needs to grow up.

    • Kelsey says:

      As a fellow Leo I am screaming because HAHAHAHAHA FACTS.

      I love my fellow Leo brethren and sisters and vibe so well with them, but romantic wise I WOULD NEVAHHHHHH.

    • Get Real says:

      Is that you mom

    • Meghan says:

      My 7 year old sun is a Leo and yes, he is exhausting. He talks sooooooo much and has so much energy! He is so fun though and tells the best stories and says so many funny things. But I am an Aries so his teenage years are going to be interesting!

    • TRex says:

      bwaahahahaha Agnes. written like someone with experience

    • Nachos says:

      There are evolved Leos and then there are Leo’s like Jen, who are bottomless pits for the energy of other people. So needy. It doesn’t just manifest as a need for attention and praise; it manifests as a need to be celebrated as a leader or authority figure, in that they love telling people what to do (hence Jen telling Ben to look happier and more motivated). Total lack of awareness and inability to respect boundaries. I don’t mind Leos who are self-confident but the unevolved ones run the gamut ranging from chuckle at their mildly irritating antics to infuriating.

      He’s a Cancer Rising and she’s a Libra Rising (Libra + Leo = Narcissistic PD). They’re cardinal signs that square each other so I don’t know how that plays out for them. They share the same Sun and Moon signs.

      Not a fan of these two but my key takeaway from all this is Ben must have been feeling very vulnerable after the Batman flop and being dumped by Ana de Aramas to have gotten back together with her. These HW-circus people find it hard to work out what’s real and what’s not.

    • Jacqueline Thurman says:

      Virtually ally.boyfreinfs have been Leo’s and they are high maintenance!!! I hope it works out. Ben should lighten up s little!!

  4. Lolo86lf says:

    I hope this story is not true. Both Ben and Jennifer are nice decent people and I hope they can work out their differences. But in case they get divorced, they should never marry again, especially Jennifer. How many times can you try something that you are not built for? Getting married and divorce over and over again is devastating in so many levels. In the United States conservative Christian groups use high rate of divorce as ammo to knock down liberal people.

    • Barbara says:

      I don’t think I’d ever call Ben nice or decent. He seems to be an okay dad now but he’s treated the women in his life terribly between his addictions and cheating.

      • Pajala says:

        Not just Ben. The people I know who have had interactions with JLo say she treats the ‘servants’ (anyone ‘below’ her) like dirt.

      • Marie says:

        I heard that J Lo is rude and dismissive to service people and a total narcissist. It still is sad if true, as I think they do love each other but can’t live with each other.

    • Marmiestar52 says:

      Wow there, we are not going to put limits on women because conservatives use women’s freedoms as ammo.

    • OriginalLeigh says:

      @LOLO – Conservatives in the U.S. also have high divorce rates. For example, Trump has been married three times.

      • Ciotog says:

        In fact the divorce rate is higher in red states. Massachusetts has the lowest.

      • Kitten says:

        Mass has the lowest divorce rate because literally no one can afford to around here. *LOL SOB*

      • Andrea says:

        I just heard Mass has the highest polyamorous community in the US, may explain the lower divorce rates.

      • Delilah says:

        Trump is CINO—conservative in name only. In my experience, conservatives oftentimes go against their so-called values when those values operate against self interest, hence divorce, “pro-choice”, etc. The school policy to expel preggers teens @ my Catholic highschool was overturned when the dean’s daughter got preggers. I applauded her for giving up her baby for adoption and the overall way she handled it. All of a sudden hallways became chock full of baby bumps lol.

    • lisa says:

      we talking about the same guy? he groped an interviewer on tv and cheated at a bachelor party and schtupped his kids’ nanny

    • Korra says:

      Conservatives are always looking for a reason to weaponize an issue, so it doesn’t matter. Also, conservatives get divorced at similar rates, if not higher rates than liberals. Per the most recent data set, the top 5 states with the highest rates of divorce were red states.

    • Mel says:

      If you don’t know them personally, you can’t say if they’re nice or decent people. The internet says Ben is okay and a good tipper, she gets people fired for looking at her. I do not know either of them but watching their individual antics and shenanigans over the years, I always thought their “reunion” was a bad idea. I don’t think they’re compatible at all.

  5. Elo says:

    I don’t believe this at all.
    The vibe is weird, but I think it’s due to Jennifer’s projects not taking off.
    Ben not attending the MET Gala didn’t strike me as weird, it doesn’t seem like his scene.

    • ShazBot says:

      And the fact that Matt and Luciana went, I feel like they wouldn’t go to support her if there was a divorce underway?

      • Irene says:

        Matt’s other BFF, Chris Hemsworth, was also co-chair of the Met Gala so I can see Matt and his wife going more so to show support for Chris.

      • ShazBot says:

        Ohhhh good point! So maybe not a sign after all

    • Dutch says:

      No doubt he’s No. 1 on the call sheet on the movie he’s filming and probably in just about every scene. It doesn’t seem practical or good for the project to lose two production days for your star to jet across the country to to go a gala. He was at the Brady roast the night before in LA but didn’t hang around. He went out, did his bit and immediately left backstage.

  6. Wagiman says:

    Noooooo! I’m sadly invested in both. I hope it’s not true. I am mostly invested in jlo, she worked harder than everyone, had loads of trash talk about her for years, treated Ike garbage. I know a person who was a dancer for her for years and not easy but not horrible. Anyway, this makes me sad if true.

    • FYI says:

      Curious … why invested in her? She arranges pap photos of them, even on their honeymoon, when he plainly hates being stalked in that way. A big, multi-media tour de force about their relationship? He hates that sh1t.
      He’s no victim, don’t get me wrong. The cheating, etc. But I don’t understand being invested in people like this.

  7. StillDouchesOfCambridge says:

    I hope it’s not true but if it is, these 2 leos were never gonna make it! Benny boy is an accomplished pro at what he does, of course jen too and both probably are so hard headed and entitled little divas unable to compromise at this point in their lives. At 50+ with kids and a full life behind, locked-in habits and full of money on both sides? They couldn’t make it the 1st time, probably wont happen again even if there’s real love for one another. If it’s not true, it’s only a matter of time! Im not invested in this one.

    • Agreed Stilldouchessofcambridge-I think they love each other but are so set in there own ways.Maybe this in touch story isn’t true but to me Jen and Ben ,well…their highs are super high and their lows are super low,always the extreme idk if these two can make it when times are just real,basic and normal.(Not that their celebrity lives are ever normal)

  8. Chaine says:

    Not sure I believe this—I saw the “house hunting” pix but assumed she was just scouting locations for a new video or something. That being said, Ben always has that “just not into her” vibe when we see them together….

  9. TQ says:

    Even though I’m skeptical they’ll last long term, for some reason this seems like a reach? He definitely doesn’t do every red carpet with her, and is filming currently. Isn’t he also giving her space to do her self-promotion thing? It hasn’t actually been that long since they’ve been on a red carpet together. And there are others who go much longer without that type of publicity. Who knows, though.

  10. JoanCallamezzo says:

    They shouldn’t have jumped into marriage, it won’t last. This is her fourth marriage which have a success rate of 25% if that. I’m sorry for the unnecessary turbulence on the 5 kids.

    • molly says:

      And that success rate is for regular people with regular, balanced lives!

      Add in two very out of touch celebrities, jet-set jobs, an unending need for attention, millions of dollars, billions of eyeballs, addiction and a long history of self-sabotage, and you have far less than a 25% chance of things working out. It’s a bummer, but this marriage, with these people, never ever stood a chance.

    • StillDouchesOfCambridge says:

      Her success rate is more like 0% before ben
      So if the trend continues… it’s not a fun outlook

  11. Eleonor says:

    First of all.
    I am rooting for these two, and I hope they can make it.
    About J.LO : I have the feeling like she is trying to prove herself . She has married an A-list, and while in her mind she is a superstar, and I really like her, the truth is: she isn’t. She put a stunt like she was Taylor Swift or Bey or Madonna, it didn’t work, everyone could see that, except her.
    She should do more acting work and put aside the music.

    • TikiChica says:

      She was a superstar once. I remember her being the first person (woman?) who had a number 1 album and number 1 film she was starring in at the same time. But this was years ago. I wish someone should have advised her better… although, would she have listened?

  12. Kate says:

    The major red flag is that he spent mother’s day with Garner instead of jlo.

    • TybeeLucille says:

      I think Jen G is a safe place for him. Did he not go to her the first time his relationship w/JLo crashed and burned?

  13. Kokiri says:

    It’s no surprise I believe this, as I’ve said al along this marriage was a disaster in the making for Jen2.
    Whatever she’s searching for, she’s not going to find it with him.
    She love bombs herself, which is unfortunate she still doesn’t see her worth.
    He’s not worth any of this. & the fact it’s pointed out it’s not his fault: it’s definitely him & the tone of the article, blaming her, is proof enough for me.
    He’s a known cheater. He treated Jen1 terribly. Jen2 should just cut her losses, including the 20m, & get out.

    • MaisieMom says:

      I don’t know if this story if true or not. It wouldn’t surprise me either way. That said, just because Ben made (big) mistakes in his past marriage doesn’t mean that it’s all “his fault” if it doesn’t work out this time. It’s probably just a matter of incompatibility, and being set in their ways at this stage of life.

    • ohwell says:

      Ben is the cheater, addict, harasser but still, poor Ben that J-lo is make HIS life miserable!


  14. Becca1405 says:

    Do I think they’re going to last forever? No.

    Do I think they’re about to break up now? Also no.

    They’re both still in the honeymoon phase. I can see why the downturn in her career might cause some problems but no way are they going to break up so soon.

    • lucy2 says:

      I feel the same way.
      Even if they do eventually struggle in the marriage, I could see both of them fighting to hang on as long as possible.

  15. Lens says:

    They are perfect for each other? Well, they broke up the first time for a reason. Jlo was papped every day she was in New York for over a month and she didn’t come home on weekends even to see her kids (they came to NY for spring break briefly) I thought it was odd. Then Ben’s unhinged rant at the roast for Brady’s which he attended instead of the Met. He seemed angry, on a substance or both. Jlo was asked during a junket last week how Ben supports her when she’s doing the action work. Dumb misogynistic question but her answer was very muted “I do my own work” you know before she would have gone on gushing about how he’s so supportive and wonderful. Something’ seems up but we’ll find out for sure if he’s at the premiere right?

  16. Snuffles says:

    Is no one going to bring up how JLo is caught up in this Diddy mess? Maybe Ben is learning new, unpleasant things about her past.

    • Alla says:

      Yeah, let’s blame the woman for men’s wrongdoings.

      • Snuffles says:

        It’s not about what WE think about. It’s about what BEN thinks about it. Diddy has a history of forcing his girlfriends into doing “freak offs”. That might be too much for Ben.

    • BB says:

      Didn’t he assault a MUA? Didn’t he support his brother? Didn’t he lie about some shameful ancestry?

      • lisa says:

        yes he’s awful, Im not sure why people ship them. but I do think he is the kind of person to be a hypocrite and hold something against her.

  17. Amberil says:

    People are rooting so hard for them to fail it makes me want to see them succeed. They don’t hurt or bother anyone I dont get the vitriol? Hopefully everything is okay, Ben is filming and Jlo has been working nonstop for months now, when they are papped together people say they are courting the media and public attention and when they are not they are getting divorced ?

  18. NikkiK says:

    They’ve always been in odd couple to me. And I don’t understand women (or anyone really) who sons the block with someone who a) treated them like crap and b) really hasn’t significantly changed.

    These two aged but didn’t change one bit – so chances are they aren’t going to last. InTouch isn’t the only one with stories along these lines……perhaps smoke and fire and all that jazz.

    RE: Ben. He pretty much always looks miserable. Not the fault of his partners but a sign that he’s obviously got some issues that make it harder to sustain a long term healthy relationship. For what it’s worth, the only time he seemed happy the last few years in pap pictures was when he was with Ana de Armas. Go figure.

    • Alla says:

      You say, not to blame the partner but he was happier with so and so. That is, indeed putting blame on the other in this case, the woman. No women is responsible for the well being of others. Men should not be protects but partners. That should be clear by now. He was the one who went after her when she broke up with Alex. Not the other way around. And when he was with Ana, nobody was that interested in him or how he looked. He wasn’t often photographed as he is now so the comparison doesn’t add up. To me he looked the same with Ana but people didn’t care too much.

    • Tiffany :) says:

      “These two aged but didn’t change one bit”

      So well said.

  19. Alla says:

    Can anyone explain why there is this hate for JLO on TikTok? I don’t understand it. Yes she’s cheesy and childish about her lovelife but is it enough to hate her?

    • Marietta2381 says:

      There are a million reasons- mainly she is an awful person. Google works wonders. There are a million stories of the way she treats people… Mariah Carey doesn’t know her for a very good reason too lol. If someone shows you who they are time and time again, maybe you should believe it.

      • Alla says:

        Ok, thank you. Im not very invested in her so i had no idea where this comes from. To me she seems to be like the typical pretty people who were very beautiful and always at the Center of attention and cannot accept the fact that they age and people don’t care anymore as they used to. Like, she needs constant attention and selfaffirmation. I don’t know her personally so i cannot judge her character but what i do know is that many people don’t like women who act like successful men 😉 she probably doesn’t smile enough.

        I found this.

  20. BB says:

    I believe this, except the “this has nothing to do with Ben” part. LOL. That man is obviously incapable of being a supportive partner. I really don’t get why JLo got into this again. Proof that neither of them has evolved one bit.

  21. Freddy says:

    Miss Cleo telling me my future over the phone in the 80s was more reliable than ‘In Touch’.

  22. Rnot says:

    She’s having a classic midlife crisis and trying for a do-over on everything she hasn’t gotten past. It won’t work. I think they’ll announce a split before the end of the year.

  23. Flamingo says:

    I really thought she looked miserable at the Met Gala. She was a co-Chair it’s a big honor. And the fact Ben wasn’t there was a big red flag to me.

    Do I think they are going to split, no, do i think they are having a rough patch probably. If he fell off the wagon. Now she is going to have to deal with him the same way Jennifer Garner did, and I can only imagine how emotionally draining that is.

    I will always believe they are the loves of each other’s lives (besides their children) but living together is another thing.

    • Meredith says:

      Zendaya’s partner also did not attend the met gala and nobody is interpreting that as a sign that Z & Tom are on the rocks!

      • Flamingo says:

        @Meredith because Tom had an injury he got playing golf. And Zendaya doesn’t wear men on her sleeve like an accessory. She stands on her own. Unlike Jennifer who always needs a man.

        Did you miss Jennifer Lopez 20 million dollar music video dedicated to her obsession about her love life?

      • Kebbie says:

        But we know Jennifer loves showing off their relationship and having him by her side. She made an entire documentary and album about their love. Zendaya gives off the impression she doesn’t need or care if Tom is with her on a red carpet. I think it’s safe to assume Jennifer would have wanted Ben there.

        I’m not saying they’re broken up, I have no idea, but I think that’s why people see it as a sign with Jennifer’s relationship but not Zendaya’s.

      • Aurora says:

        Zendaya and Tom were dating for months (or yrs) before ppl knew and went crazy about it. They are not married, they seem to have their individual things going on and wisely decided not to suffocate each other or brand themselves as an overexposed it couple.
        These two have been milking their reconnection all the time, got married with a lot of publicity and made the point to turn most red carpets of last two years into a vehicle to showcase their romance.
        I’d just expect B&J relationship to have evolved into a less publicited and codependent, more authentic experience.

  24. Cheshire Sass says:

    Remember when In Touch Weekly would make 5 billion reports that Jennifer Aniston was pregnant? – That rag is no different from the News of the world rag report my grandmother use to buy – It was mostly about aliens taking over / weird monkey people and hollyweird gossip etc. My feelings on Ben and Jen – He still has an addict’s personality, and she is a voracious pile of need – both exhausting – In the long run it may not work, every marriage is 50/50. However, placing any bets according to In Touch is just dumb

    • Flamingo says:

      I dunno, TMZ has Ben coming and going from a house that he does not live with Jennifer in CA.

      Where there is smoke….

    • CatMum says:

      You probably mean the Weekly World News, which turned out to have been written by a group of science fiction writers! I used to read it too because it was usually really funny.

  25. Pajala says:

    I believe that this time In Touch is correct. All signs indicate a split. I think her vanity projects are part of the relationship’s demise. I think Ben is embarrassed and too arrogant to tolerate that mess.

  26. Kirsten says:

    I can’t believe they made it to the wedding let alone this far, so I would 100% believe this story.

  27. Snuffles says:

    This isn’t a new issue. These stories go back to her early days.

    I know Ben ain’t no angel either and he has a ton of issues himself. But I never thought they were perfect for each other. They were a hot couple back in the day but their approaches to life don’t mesh. She wants everything out in the open and he wants his privacy. Her using his private correspondence to her in her documentary and sharing it with her team to turn into creative fodder was wildly violating. He told her he didn’t like it and she did it anyway.

    I thought that was the beginning of the end. So these divorce stories don’t surprise me at all.

    • Pajala says:

      I totally agree about the violation of Ben’s privacy. I’m guessing that he found the exposure humiliating.

  28. KeiraPug says:

    IDK, isn’t he an alcoholic? Seems like being her plus 1 at the Met would be problematic, and a situation to avoid (also likely the reason he dipped out on the Brady roast after his bit).

    • Kebbie says:

      He still goes to award shows and casinos, I doubt the met gala would be any more tempting

  29. ohwell says:

    The vibes have been constant negativity for Jennifer since she reunited with Ben. She should have never remarried him. HE is the negative suck, however misogynists will blame her for his miserable, sad face mood.

  30. ChaiLatte says:

    Jlo doesn’t know how to be by herself. She is severely codependent and is in need of constant validation. It’s not healthy at all. I honestly don’t wish ill on their marriage, but they should have waited to see if they were even compatible after 20 years apart instead of trying to recapture the magic of their first go-round.

  31. Carolnr says:

    At all the interviews she has done recently, she has not gushed over Ben( like she has in the past). Someone I believe asked her if Ben helped her train & she was very quick to say that that she works alone & she did not look very cheerful ( like she normally does) I think something is going on with them. She is going to be going on her tour soon so she will be gone for 3 months ( I believe). I don’t think distance is the answer…

    • ThinkingTheSame says:

      Her reply to that question was a big red flag to me. I understand wanting to dodge Ben questions and not make her work about him, but in the past she would have said something like. “Of course he is supportive!”

      I hope they are able to work through whatever they are going through.

    • Jayna says:

      I saw that interview. I want to say I loved her outfit. The pale blue was stunning on her. At least, I think it was pale blue. And, yes, she was very muted in the way she responded to the question about Ben working out with her. It was noticeable. Ever the professional, but not the usual Jennifer. And on the GMA interview that was done the same day as the Met Gala I don’t think Ben was mentioned at all, which, like you say, is unusual.

  32. Andrea says:

    For me, I can’t imagine going back to ANY ex boyfriend, even if they change, had matured, were more stable now etc. There were reasons we broke up and I am not sure I could trust or love them in the same way again. I knew this was only a matter of time. I am just a bit surprised it happened THIS fast.

  33. Saucy&Sassy says:

    The way I look at it is the marriage will work or it won’t. Time will tell.

  34. Fig says:

    The major red flag was when she showed off his love letters even though he didn’t want her to. Yes, compromise is a huge part of any relationship but Ben has always been cagey about his privacy ever since they dated the first time around. It just seemed disrespectful, she could have talked ABOUT them instead of just showing them to a bunch of randos to help inspire new songs.

    Ben’s not perfect and JLo’s not perfect but sometimes you have to revisit the one who got away to realize…there was a reason it didn’t work out

    • Jayna says:

      Ben can be thirsty as we’ve all seen, but J-Lo takes it to another level. I really like both of them. I never saw them getting married after watching their performative roll-out, but I was wrong. Then I watched their honeymoon in the heat of summer taking the kids to Paris where they would be papped nonstop. Clearly, that was J-Lo’s idea, but Ben did it. He has praised her ability to stay in the business all these years and stated his admiration. So it looked like he wanted to be a power couple again, loved her, and was willing to compromise.

      I did watch her musical and enjoyed it. He came on board a bit to help her out. He was in her companion documentary a little bit to support her. You saw their tenderness towards each other and that in many ways they are good for each other. He seemed more stable since they got together. I thought giving her a book of his love letters/emails to her was very romantic. For her to show that to her stable of “co-songwriters” was bizarre.

      But it never ends. J-Lo is always pushing forward and she wants someone to be by her side for it all. She had that in Caspar. Of course he was on her payroll. She had that in A-Rod. He was her biggest hypeman and was by her side all the time and truly supportive and enjoyed it. They were so alike. They had kids that loved each other. Her son loved A-Rod. The problem is he was a cheating dog.

      Ben will never be by her side for everything, which is understandable. He has his own career, and is never going to enjoy going to every big event J-Lo is a part of. I don’t think they are divorcing, but the cracks are showing, and they aren’t under the same roof right now. She is probably pushing that he accompanies her on her tour, and I don’t see that happening. He started up his big venture, Artists Equity, and has his children. He will fly in to see her, but Ben on tour with her for a month even? Nah.

      I do think they love each other. He is an alcoholic, while seemingly sober right now, seems to be on medication, and probably takes it one day at a time. I admire J-Lo’s drive, but her need for their relationship to be this fairytale all the time is weird. I am just perplexed. They are in their 50s now. Both have their demons. It does feel like that musical/documentary was the beginning of their problems.

      • WellSaid says:

        This is well said and I agree. There are definitely issues on both their end. Neither can Seem to stay in a long term relationship.

        Jen Garner has said in the past that When Ben’s sun shines on you, you can really feel it, but when he turns away it’s cold. I’m sure JLo is probably experiencing the same thing. I’m Sure she is really regretting that movie/doc right now. Too sad.

  35. Mollie says:

    Everybody is picking up on this story. I think it’s true. I was pulling for them. ☹️