Welp, I was halfway expecting this, even if I also had hope that Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez would spend the summer working on their marriage. Over the past week, there’s been a lot of talk about the Beverly Hills mansion they bought after house-hunting for the better part of two years. Reportedly, Ben moved out of the mansion a couple of months ago and he’s currently renting a house in Brentwood, close to Jen Garner’s home. There’s been talk that J.Lo and Ben are putting the Beverly Hills mansion on the market, and that the sale of that home indicates that the marriage cannot be saved. TMZ is now saying that outright: the house is being put on the market and divorce is “imminent.”
Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck are clearly heading down the path of divorce, because TMZ has learned they are quietly trying to sell the home they bought after they married.
Multiple sources with direct knowledge tell TMZ, J Lo and Ben are using realtor Santiago Arana from The Agency to sell the home they bought a little over a year ago to this day. TMZ broke the story, the then-newlyweds snagged the enormous Beverly Hills mansion for just over $60 million.
They were on the hunt for the home for nearly 2 years, looking at more than 80 properties before settling on the mansion.
As we reported, their marriage is in deep trouble. Ben has already moved out of the house and moved into a rental in Brentwood. Our sources say J Lo is already looking for a new house.
We’re told Arana has been showing the house for around 2 weeks, which aligns with the clear signs of trouble between Ben and Jen. So far, no buyers.
We’re told they’re asking “around $65 million” for the house. With a broker’s commission and a new tax on super-expensive properties, along with significant money they plunked down in improvements, this would mean they would take a loss of millions of dollars.
There’s a side-story happening along with the divorce rumors and real estate drama: speculation over J.Lo’s finances in particular, with some gossip that she’s broke-ass or close to it. I doubt it – while I think she’s taken some financial losses in the past year – and self-financing This Is Me… Now: A Love Story was a huge mistake – I also think she’s okay financially. She’s hustled for decades, she has a lot of revenue streams. If she sells this Beverly Hills home at a loss, I doubt it’s a huge thing. But I do question why it suddenly feels so urgent for Ben and Jen to sell this house, because I actually do believe that they’re trying to work on their sh-t. Was this some kind of ultimatum from Ben? “We can try to work it out but we have to sell this crazy money-pit mansion?” Sigh… I’m really not ready for them to divorce, you guys.
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- Westwood, CA – Actress, singer and dancer Jennifer Lopez (J.Lo, Jennifer Lynn Lopez-Affleck) wearing an Antonio Grimaldi dress and Shiphra jewelry and husband/American actor and filmmaker Ben Affleck arrive at the World Premiere Of Amazon Studios’ And Skydance Media’s ‘Air’ held at the Regency Village Theatre in Westwood, Los Angeles, California, United States. Pictured: Jennifer Lopez, J.Lo, Ben Affleck BACKGRID USA 27 MARCH 2023 BYLINE MUST READ: Xavier Collin/Image Press Agency / BACKGRID USA: +1 310 798 9111 / usasales@backgrid.com UK: +44 208 344 2007 / uksales@backgrid.com *UK Clients – Pictures Containing Children Please Pixelate Face Prior To Publication*
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- Celebrities at the Los Angeles premiere of ‘This Is Me… Now: A Love Story’ Featuring: Jennifer Lopez, Ben Affleck Where: Los Angeles, California, United States When: 13 Feb 2024 Credit: Ryan Hartford/INSTARimages.com
I believe that Jennifer has made bank over the years but her monthly payments for this, that and the other things must be through the roof! Perhaps, in the clear light of day they both decided that they didn’t need such a large and very expensive house.
I don’t believe he ever wanted that home. It’s soulless. It’s like a hotel. It has all small windows in the front. And the guy who bought in many years ago put in a parking lot in front of it and then put a 5,000-square-foot guesthouse directly across from the front of the home. That’s what the home looks into, another huge structure. He tried to update it from the Parisian style the home was created in and it looks like a massive hotel on the bottom parts shown on the original listing. The building doesn’t really have any windows on the side of it at all. The back view is beautiful with large windows. It is set up with four massive suites. I mean, the primary is so huge that it could be its own little home, which the size of it, to me, sounded bizarre.
They had put down money on two or three homes and kept bailing. I think one was too far away maybe from his kids (IDK), and the next one they got out of because a better one came up in the same area that Ben loves. I thought that home was beautiful. And then they bailed on that one. The money they must have lost on backing out of those deals. I think it was J-Lo that wasn’t happy with the last one. So this is the one they ended up with: enough parking for her huge entourage and staff, but awful, in my mind, to feel like a home for a family. I remember thinking to myself that Ben is going to hate this home. I think he did.
I love real estate talk – thanks for posting this!
These sorts of comments — that, of course, Ben hated this home — overlook that he is not only a grown man but a powerful one, at that. What stopped him from objecting to this home and not buying it if he hated it? The narrative reinforces the idea that Jennifer just bossed him around, and he was a passive little man who couldn’t stand up to her. I don’t think that’s the case, but it definitely fits what this team/supporters would want the public to believe.
@TNA, Ben never said he hated it. I said after seeing photos when they bought it I thought he would end up hating it. My opinion. That has nothing to do with the marriage failing. It’s why I think he doesn’t want to buy the house in the divorce. It looks like J-Lo doesn’t want it either. They paid cash for it. Someone said they did go back and take a mortgage on the home after. So another poster may be right that there were money issues.
For two years they looked at homes, lots of homes, and I guess either both agreed they didn’t like them and on others one of them wasn’t on the same page. It became a joke how they would put an offer in on a house, get accepted, and then bail. They must have been in a time crunch by the time they bought this home, because right before that they had had offers accepted on two homes and then bailed each time. I think it’s one of those regret, rush purchases. I still think it is the type of home that Ben would not have liked at all, but they never found one that fit both of their needs in the right location.
I agree. When news broke out that they were in marriage trouble in late May, according to his sources, part of the reason was finance. And I had read in Gossip Cop when they were still house hunting, that he really didn’t want to shell that kind of money. He wasn’t as rich as JLo. But it seemed that she insisted on it. And I like what one observer on Fauxmoi on Reddit wrote: Affleck was a pushover to the extent that he wasn’t, a la news broke out that he wanted to divorce her in this May.
I think there might be money issues.
If she is working on her marriage she will have to get rid of Benny Medina. I think that might be very expensive since she owns businesses with him and the album /tour/vegas money is nonexistent.
She just sold the NY apartment, now she is selling this… I think a lot of different things are happening now. The daily mail story that was on Saturday was crazy about how Benny Medina really has been her support and Ben Affleck is a lot of work. I think her whole world is spinning. I hope this marriage works out for her.
According to report some 10 years ago, Benny Medina was also one of their problem in Bennifer 1.0. Medina was stealing money from JLo, and Affleck got her to get rid of him. But when Bennifer 1.0 went implosion, JLo went back to Medina and they have been thick as thief ever since.
Rich people don’t have mortgage payments. They pay for the houses outright and then take out loans against the property with more favorable interest rates. Then they invest that money in places where it makes $$$$ that pays the new loan + generates more money.
If this is true, it’s sad and unfortunate.
I think Ben is DONE. Time for JLo to take up with Kevin Costner. Ego match made in heaven (or hell) but at least they could relate to each other.
Weirdly, I like this
Me too! Perfectly said.
Do I want to see a lot more of Kevin Costner? H3LL no. I think he’s with Jewel (singer).
Jewel should dump him before he gives her the Christine treatment.
I thought Costner and Jewel were seeing each other?
I feel sorry for the kids, as they have to navigate this drama and try to maintain relationships. I blame Ben because he obviously love bombed her and lost interest. I think she wanted to believe everything would be different this time.
My thoughts are that Ben was using J.Lo to revive his stale career. Once he got out of it what he wanted, he couldn’t handle her personality.
I also think he was either thinking of his career or wanted the chase.
I do think she loved the idea of him for years. According to a post of LSA, he did something so she kicked him out. Doubt we will ever find the truth, but watch his PR plant stories to make her sound horrible.
Also, some keep bringing up Diddy. Ben dated Goop, and was one of HW’s boys. He knew, so his fans can drop this saintly attitude.
What did she do for his career?
@flakk
This was just a rumor, saw on lsa, snd reddit. But, he was allegedly broke or on his way to be broke, can’t remember. Also, he needed good PR. JLo is age appropriate, mom, has a career, and they once dated, and were everywhere. I am speculating based on what I read. Bottom line: he had nothing to lose. I don’t know them, but alimony, gambling, rehabs are costly. We learned from Depp’s case how these stars spend. On the other hand, Lopez was known to be stingy. So, i do not think she has monetary issues.
She revived his media presence if nothing else.
There are just rumors, but it is not impossible. Yet, maybe he wanted to be with her. Maybe he’s just a tortured soul, I don’t know him.
@Mila. Thanks. I thought I’d missed something in all the fracas. If they do separate/divorce it will be one of rare instances where ‘incompatibility’ is the most honest reason.
Incompatibility is always the reason, really.
Affleck and JLo are on two completely different career trajectory. Anyone think that JLo could revive his career is dilusional. Let’s set aside her music and other side hustles and look at their movie careers, she’s been in mostly mediocre projects even after their reunion which was also part of his sore points according to Daily Mail’s sources (that she was unpicky), but he’s been more selective lately (his two panned movies Deep Water and Hypnotic were all projects he hooked up with at least before the pandemic), and he has his own company now with real finance backing, and not just some regular shingles. This is the real deal. It says a lot about his industrial connections and credence, that she doesn’t really have. He will either be okay or not okay, but that is mostly outside of her influence or control. His career woes post 2016/17 were largely because of his industrial foes doing. When a movie star is fighting against a studio or studios, he seldom wins. Even Tom Cruise was humbled post 2006/7 for a few years, and Affleck wasn’t Cruise.
I agree he love bombed her and she believed it could work. He felt bad for what happened in the past and wanted to make things right. Impossible love between these two rich famous good looking narcissist me me me people. Jlo taking time to find a new home for her family this summer. I have a feeling this time, she will NOT be starting a new relationship so fast unlike aaaaall the other times in her life.
She can multi-task. Don’t sell her short.
Co-sign the love bombing. I was surprised that he wanted an age appropriate partner, but I always suspected that his relationship with Ana De Armas ended partly because she wanted children and he absolutely is not doing that again. So JLo is ideal Super hot, not looking for kids. And she was humiliated by ARod’s shenanigans, so she was ready to be love bombed. It also explains the deranged over the topness of all the weddings, dresses, honeymoons. But nothing can explain the Greatest Love Story oeuvre. That’s just a cry for help.
But she didn’t get an over-the-top wedding in real life, and I thought at the time that she was probably interested in getting married as soon as he would, before he changed his mind. Didn’t they elope, which is certainly not her style? It’s sort of moving, in a way- that all of the last year, and the insane movies and albums seemed to be her way of showing him love because he was unresponsive in real life.
Does there need to be anyone to “blame”? Sometimes in relationships there is one person who does something that is obviously wrong and hurtful, but most of the time things break up because people want different things with their lives. I think they realized they love each other, but their lifestyles are just completely different. It wouldn’t work long-term because he wants more privacy and she wants to combine her personal and professional life. I don’t think either one is to blame, that’s just the way it is. No one has to be the bad guy when relationships fall apart.
I agree regarding no-fault divorce. Some couples cut their losses, divide their assets, and move on. They’ve both been down this road before so I doubt they have any shared financial interests other than real estate. The kids are old enough to decide if they want to remain friends when and if the blended family label ends. If this was Adele, we’d have one helluva an album to look forward to.
Ben was still working with Ridley Scott, Georges Clooney etc he didn’t need jlo to “revive” his career. Even if his personal life was a mess, he was still respected in Hollywood with a lot of pull, he’s in those inner circles jlo has never been accepted into. His production company is producing her 2 upcoming films for a reason
@Midnightsun ITA, idk why people think he was looking for media attention. Do people not recall Ana de Armas? Do they not recall him hiding from paps while dating that SNL person, Lindsay whatever her name? Ben has never liked the attention; he and Jen Garner were actively involved in changing norms (maybe laws?) around the publication of photos of celebrity children. He’s always been a pap draw and he’s never wanted it.
They are both at fault. They are adults who made their choices.
Did they sign a pre-nup, do we know? I haven’t read anything about that side of things, though I did read she is worth vastly more than him.
So I hope she gets hers, & doesn’t have to pay out any more than she has.
I also hope he doesn’t marry or date again because he’s a walking red flag. Wishful thinking of course.
As for Jen2, a new project is in the works I’m sure. She sure has a lot of energy, I’m tired by 4pm lol
I’m not sure where I read this, and i don’t know in which language, but I saw something that came from her side. She and he are both very career focused (ie, she’s not the only workaholic). He reached out to her. She put up with his smoking and dietary habits, when she’s more health conscious and normally hates smoking around her—especially as a singer. She’s supposedly the one who suggested couples therapy, though someone (his source? Hers?) suspects him of going through the motions. And supposedly her ex, the centaur-admiring A-Rod, is very happy with her relationship in trouble/ ending.
I read those too. She wasn’t too impressed by Jen Garner visiting him either. But according to Garner’s sources, she would visit her ex-husband how often she liked, since the health of her chidren’s father ranked way above JLo’s feelings, and Garner wasn’t too enthusiastic about JLo coddling him about his bad habits like smoking in front of children either.
And A-Rod was gleeing about JLo’s marriage woes right now.
In both pictures at the top she looks all loved up to him and he is skewing his eyes to the side and looking elsewhere.
Yeah, I thought that was pretty telling. Obviously, most of the time any display of affection when famous people are at an event and standing in front of a wall of cameras is performative, so I wouldn’t criticize him for not “feeling it” in that moment – but the man knows these photos will be distributed everywhere. And he’s a good actor, he could certainly pretend to gaze lovingly into her eyes and all the rest of it. He just doesn’t care enough to fake it, maybe even feels resentful at the idea of having to put on a show of emotion for the cameras. But that’s the game. Nobody forced him to be a big movie star. Nobody’s forcing him to attend these events (I’m sure sometimes he’s contractually obligated to, but it’s his choice to enter into such a contract.) The least he could do would be to smile at his wife and give her his full attention during a brief kiss. This just reads as contempt – maybe for the publicity machine, maybe for her, maybe both. Regardless: what a jerk.
The relationship may have worked if they’d not married. Maintained separate homes and lives and just dated. At a certain point in life, what’s the benefit of getting married and upending your entire routine/ style of living.
I thought the same. There was no need for them to get married.
If he cheated 5 days before the first wedding, which never happened, I can see her loved up brain thinking it was a good idea to get married. Or, he wanted to marry and love bombed her. I see marriage as a contract, but most people still think it is a special bond. Oh, well, love is dead.
🤣. JLo not get married?!? That’s a good one! 😂
I’m not ready for them to split up either. Get your acts together, you two! Go to therapy and marriage counseling and Jen needs to be in Al-Anon. (Coz I’m such an expert on what they need to do…)
According to separate Daily Mail reporting about the paparazzi photos, both of them showed their wedding rings last Friday before the home listing went online, and considering that both of them are media and paparazzi savvy, I think both of them were at leasting sending the message to the outside before the listing that they might intend to give their marriage another chance. But who knows.
I swear to God I hate that thing he does while he’s kissing her. He looks away like he’s distracted or wants to see what else is out there, or like he’s much too aware of the cameras and he’s trying to look cool. Either way, it looks intentionally inattentive as though he saw some celebrity pose like that and was impressed, so now he’s decided that’s his go-to pose.
He does it every time with her. It’s a diss, imo. An intentional diss. Like, “Imma show the world that I don’t give a f0ck about you.”
Meanwhile, Jennifer Garner is thinking, ‘God damn it! It was so nice to have someone else take care of him for a while.”
When they married in 2022, my thought was ‘I give it 2 years.’
And here we are.
Ben is her 4th husband. She’s also had some fairly long term relationships (that Casper guy and ARod). Either it’s incredibly challenging being married to her or she just chooses terrible husbands/partners. I don’t know why she’d want to get married at this point. Just date or have a long term partner. It’s worked well for lots of high profile people.
Elizabeth Taylor was only halfway through her marital leaps of faith at 4. JLo still has adventures ahead of her.
“marital leaps of faith”
I’m dead!. For the record Elizabeth was only 27 when she wed husband number four. JLo, you got some marrying to do!
Completely agree! She is someone who is in love with love. But I do see her eventually putting the kabosh on marriage. But she’ll never give up on love. Never!
And I would never count her out career wise. She works hard. She’s a hustler. She’ll be ok. More than ok.
A close family friend is in wealth management, and while he is mum on specific clients, he will only say that wealth can be tied up in paper, investments, properties, etc and it’s not uncommon to have wealthy clients who are cash poor. Without a steady stream of cash flowing in, liquidation of a cash draining property can be a short term fix.
Doesn’t she usually have someone waiting in the wings to begin anew as her current relationship ends?
Well her tour got cancelled so there’s no back up dancer readily available
She didn’t lose money on those 2 horrible projects. The “happy ending” was that Amazon bought them and she got her money back.
For an undisclosed amount. She may not have recouped all of the $20 million.
I’m sure Ben went through greater pains than her to put up the $ for the mansion. If marriage is on the rocks, he might be interested on getting rid of it and taking his money back asap. There’s been a real state bubble waiting to happen for some time now.
Jennifer might be looking at a significant hiatus in her career out of the h4te and bad publicity she’s gotten recently. Or just bc she’s choosing to work on herself and on her role within a family.
If she’s looking at a professionally inactive period or the cancelling of her prospects, she’ll need substantial cash to hold up.
Frankly… I think the further route for her is cashing in nostalgia. She doesn’t seem to ‘get’ the current times, and as isolatedly from the real world as she’s lived for more than half of her life, I don’t think she’ll ever catch up. Guest starring in prestige shows. A classy memoir. Vegas residency in a year or two. Some fashion-related venture.
I hope she navigates succesfully what must be really bad times for her.
Your comment seems very ageist. Jennifer has had a top film on Netflix for two weeks, so why should she settle for cashing in on nostalgia or making guest appearances on prestige shows? There’s no evidence that a woman who has had numerous hit projects over the past five years alone has fallen behind the times. If she weren’t relevant, we wouldn’t be interested in discussing her personal life. She’s not the only big act with a failed music tour either. The Black Keys also canceled their tour recently. And despite the ridicule Jen has faced for This Is Me…Now, the film was mostly positively reviewed. It has a 75 percent score on Rotten Tomatoes. Do you think Ben Affleck is behind the times? The amount of ageism and sexism applied to J.Lo is really something.
I’m not saying she’s not relevant, and my opinion has nothing to do with age but about her mindset as she projects it. I’d say the same about Katy Perry who’s 10, 15 yrs younger than her.
JLo works a lot, but she hasn’t had a music hit in 10 yrs. Her last movies, like the one she did with Maluma, haven’t been well received. This last one by all accounts s*cks. Rotten Tomatoes might have scored her musical movie high, but most ppl find the whole project cringe-inducing.
So either she’s being given mediocre projects, either she’s picking mediocre projects. It all goes back to the idea her professional prime is past and she doesn’t seem to have a clue.
As per Ben, he’s an addict who’s confessed his constant struggles to keep sober. He’s lucky to still have a career as a leading man, and I think that’s all he can expect.
The fact that I think Jen could keep cashing in her past career indicates that I hold her in high regard as a pop culture icon.
Hollywood is ageist. At 80, if he’s still working, will be playing “hot” silver fox secret agents married(on-screen) to one of the next generation of nepo babies- like Apple Martin’s future daughter. I think, for JLo, she will probably head more towards the Cher trajectory if she can regain her loyal fandom- Vegas nostalgia and occasional parts. I’d be surprised if she can keep making movies like that brain-dead sci-fi one on Netflix. And she’s not Julianne Moore, who can work with interesting directors and writers who write parts for her.
I just want to say (as a fan of this couple — not really of either individually, *just* of this pairing!) that if you watch any video of them on the red carpet, Affleck looks up while he’s kissing her once or twice *deliberately* to let the cameras get the shot, because it’s his way of making a joke about that pic from the 90s where he’s doing it. It’s always a callback, a reference. There are many pics of him affectionately kissing her on public, but the red carpet look-up is a joke about a meme.
I really really hope that they sold the house because they realized it’s hideous (that’s how it looked in the documentary — of which even I could only watch 1/4). I also do wonder if Affleck said it’s him or Benny Medina. I do think J.Lo should jettison her current management after this latest round of bad career press. I don’t even think it has to be a big deal — I realize there’s a TON of emotion there when you’ve worked with people for 30+ years, but literally anyone in this situation, hyperfamous, multi-millionaire, would get rid of any management that had any part in setting them up for this kind of career “disaster”* — and yes that’s even if the manager was only doing what the star wanted and told them to do. It’s like a coach who gets fired from a team that was expected to win the NBA Finals and loses in the first round. It’s not necessarily the coach’s fault per se but he was the coach at the time so he carries the blame. (Though, if Affleck wants Medina gone, then Affleck must think Medina *did* make serious mistakes with J.Lo’s career and finances.)
*I also don’t think it’s really a “disaster” per se, just a bad look for her work-wise. She’ll always be able to get work.
The last thing JLo should ever do is get rid of the team that got her where she is. She’s a mediocre talent but that team is fiercely loyal to her. I don’t know much about Ben Affleck but that man screams Avoidant Attachment. He will discard every partner. JLo might be an anxious attacher now BECAUSE of Ben and what he did 20 years ago. He’s not doing a comic call back in every photo, he thinks it’s cool, he’s signalling he’s got one foot out the door.
In the documentary, she references her parents and particularly her father’s lack of availability, contributing to her feelings of not getting enough attention/love. That, and her middle child status, mean she was likely inclined toward anxious attachment long before she met Ben.
@yup,me Yeah, unfortunately parents have a godlike power over little children so it’s very easy to not be good enough, even when a parent isn’t abusive. (I didn’t want the documentary, that’s just a general statement.) The good news is that attachment styles can be healed, but that requires people knowing about them and doing the work, ideally within a safe and loving relationship. I can’t see Smirkface McGee taking responsibility for himself anytime soon, but if his marriage to JLo goes sideways I hope she works on healing some stuff before jumping into another relationship.
She had issues way before Ben and was no saint in how she discarded a few. She had already been married twice before getting with Ben the first time. She dumped the first husband and moved on to P Diddy. She dumped her second husband to be with Ben. So she has done her own using of men and discarding, like husband one and husband two. She married a man she wasn’t in love with, who had to rush his divorce to marry Jennifer. She married him just to save face after Ben. That is in a way using somebody. That was her third marriage.
There is no way she should get rid of Medina and Elaine. They are a loyal team, and she requires that dedication and time with her. They aren’t to be blamed for J-Lo charging full steam ahead with a four-pronged approach (album/musical movie/documentary/tour based on album/movie) to show her grand love for Ben.
There is no way in h3ll that Ben Affleck is doing a callback to a painful 90s photo on every red carpet. C’mon. He hates getting his photo taken; he’s not doing inside jokes for the paps. He’s looking away because he’s a jerk.
Impressive spackle though!
Nooooo! Everything has been coming up Millennial this year. They can’t take Bennifer 2.0 away from us! 🙁
I hate to say it, but I feel the Hollywood script for this one has already been written. Fast forward to a year in the future when he finds a 20 year old idealistic and energetic enough to “save him” after a long, acrimonious divorce where the openly ambitious woman takes most of the blame.
I hate this outcome as much as anyone but. . . I think we all knew these people were problematic long before the got married and are not interested in healing and growing. JLo’s movie shocked the heck out of me. Neither of them seem to know how to view themselves from a rational perspective.
Neither his first marriage nor her previous three had acrimonious endings. JLo is a professional in every aspect of her life so I don’t see this union ending in a pool of mess. From the comments it’s obvious that a team him and team her has been established but I remain neutral and don’t see the point in speculating on their future lives.
There will be articles blaming one or the other depending on the publication, because they both have issues. Ben is leaking things because he’s been the bad guy in the ending of his marriage with Jen Garner and he bailed only days before his 2004 wedding to J-Lo. It’s happening all over again. Rumors he’s relapsed, etc., etc. He doesn’t want to be the punching bag for the marriage ending.
Jennifer is leaking things because she’s been on this unending 2024 rollout of the greatest love story never told that the public reacted with a resounding thud to for the most part. Included in that rollout were her interviews everywhere talking about this great love, all the while this marriage is actually a marriage in crisis. She will be looked at as inauthentic and monetizing this marriage for her projects at the cost of the marriage, etc. etc. Her own words in the documentary will be used against her. She is on her fourth marriage and doesn’t want to be the punching bag for this marriage ending. So she wants her side out there.
In the case of this couple, there is no true bad guy. But this has been a reunion of two famous people that has played out very publicly on purpose, at times very performatively. So they will have to ride it out and come to an agreement to be united on how they end it officially with the divorce. Ultimately, they will. No matter the pain and anger on both sides, they both do love each other and also have a lot of respect for each other and their careers. Neither one is going to try to do a crash and burn on the other. The public will slowly get used to the separate homes, hearing leaks of taking time but working on the marriage, and then the announcement regarding their conscious uncoupling, but that they will continue to work on projects they have together, yada, yada. Ben’s company is producing the movie she’s doing this fall.
They never should have married. Some of the same problems they had 20 years ago are still the same problems now. JLo is desperate for constant public approbation. That worked early on in both iterations of Bennifer but Ben grew tired of it. Maybe he hoped she’d cut back on the no-holes-barred revelations of their reunited lurve, but she adores that kind of attention and frankly uses it as way to boost her visibility. It’s almost like she’s living in some Harlequin romance fairyland instead of creating a private, normal kind of relationship that doesn’t have to be broadcast all over the media to be relevant.
People can’t genuinely be surprised by this. He’s riddled with issues and she’s a narcissistic diva. Two supremely selfish people aren’t finding everlasting, mutually supportive domestic bliss? Say it ain’t so!
My feeling is that they’re working it out still. The house is on the market, but they’re both wearing their rings still. That is an understanding. I bet part of his agreeing to work on the marriage is to sell this hotelesque monstrosity of a home.
Agree with this. I think he has put conditions on her — he has her over a barrel because she wants the marriage more than he does. His conditions are:
keep our lives private
sell this monstrous house
stop calling the paps
shut up about my smoking
She ends up taking the blame, but he KNEW EXACTLY WHO SHE WAS when he married her.
She has a HUGE entourage though.
Also, I don’t get how she can be so nasty to service staff. I believe the endless stories because there’s been so many of them over so long but my point is, isn’t she afraid they’ll spit into her drinks and food?
I think he was genuinely in love with her but private about it despite looking a certain way on their red-carpets but now he’s the one firmly wanting to divorce whilst she wants to try.
They’re not announcing it straight away even though it’s settled between them privately, because they don’t want to look flippant about marriage.
I’m just gonna say — as someone who loves and has been with my SO for 15 years now, starting in our mid-40s, SEPARATE HOUSES.
These two are Big Personalities. There’s a lot of kids in the mix. They each have big careers.
Separate houses, overnight dates, lots of time for the careers/kids. Come on JLo/Ben! Model for America that there are a lot of ways to have a happy ending!
I (semi) joked yesterday that if I get married again, he has to have his own house. I don’t care if it’s next door or across town, just not with me lol
We often joke a lot about the crazy takings on lifestyle from Goop (who was also one of Affleck’s exes), but some of her words and advice did stick, like the conscious uncoupling, or that she and her current husband didn’t move in together even a couple of years after they had got married. And it seems that worked well.
I heard her tour was setting the stage for a possible residency in LV and questioned if she understands how difficult that would be on her partner’s sobriety 😏 I hate to say it because it seems like blaming her but that with her film and his media shyness they just seem in very different places. Sad because I think they love each other.
I do believe he love bombed her and then he was quickly bored. Sounds like a narcissist, which I’ve thought since I read this interview with Jennifer Garner after her divorce from Ben:
https://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/jennifer-garner-ben-affleck-love-life-divorce/story?id=37227922.
“He’s the most brilliant person in any room, the most charismatic, the most generous. He’s just a complicated guy. I always say, ‘When his sun shines on you, you feel it.’ But when the sun is shining elsewhere, it’s cold. He can cast quite a shadow.”
Other than Ben giving some interview when he said JLo eats what she wants and looks 20 years old, he’s never given the impression he even likes her. He looks perpetually bored or upset and disheveled. But I believe he believes he’s brilliant and complex and probably JLo doesn’t have the artistic integrity, intellect, or education to interest him for long but I think he far overestimates his own value in those areas.
That’s not true. Ben has said a lot of great things about J-Lo. It’s clear that he really admires her and all that she has accomplished. I think he feels she is more talented as an actress than the movies she does. If anything, he believes in her talent and wants more for her. Ben has done more red carpets with J-Lo in two years than he ever did for Jennifer Garner in ten years. To say he was quickly bored with Jennifer Lopez isn’t true IMO. I don’t think the relationship lost steam that fast.
JLo thinks that being single would make her look desperate. When in fact it’s INABILITY to be single that makes her look SO SO desperate. Women who CANNOT be without a man, look SO much lamer and weaker than women who make it clear that they can be PERFECTLY happy and fulfilled without one. Look and Angelina Jolie. Have you EVER heard anyone say “Oh Angelina has been single forever. She must not be ABLE to get a man.” NO! Because she lives a very full life and clearly doesn’t NEED a man to be happy. JLo should take a page out of her book.
Not to MENTION, what kind of example is she setting for her kids??? Who are being taught that you are NOTHING without a romantic partner??? It seems like her kids’ needs ALWAYS take a back seat to her own.
Ben & JL met Sunday night at the mansion they are trying to sell from 5-9 according to reports. Ben left at 9. That same day (I believe), Finn & Emme went the movies together. Ben picked up Finn & JL picked up Emme. This does not seem like a couple that are giving their marriage another try but it does seem like a couple that are prioritizing their children…